[man] Previously on Love in Paradise...
-Okay, and now we squeeze. -Oh, oh, oh.
Oh, I think I broke it.
It was an epic fail.
Do you think it's really love?
I think I am trying to make this relationship work
because I'm getting older.
You do know if you keep spending time with
the wrong person, the right person won't come.
[Alex]I think I might be trying to fit Adriano
in this plan that I have.
When in reality, maybe he's not that guy for me.
[speaking in other language]
[Shawn] I know this is what has to happen.
I either need to get on board or let go of both
Alliya and Douglas.
I know that you're still doing the donation stuff.
It hurts that something that I love so much
as sperm donation is hurting Ani.
Completely just giving up donating forever
would just be very difficult.
All right, now you're making me cry.
I want to marry you, but with the financial concerns,
it brings up the prenup.
You don't trust me.
So you don't feel secure about me, or what the [bleep] do you say?
Everybody does.
[bleep] you.
[upbeat music playing]
[Adriano speaking]
Oh, look at these tomatoes. They're so red.
Today, Adriano is taking me to meet his mom
and her partner for the first time.
It smells good in here.
Ooh, that looks good.
His mom is going to teach me how to
make his favorite pasta dish.
So we're shopping for ingredients and other things
we need for dinner.
[speaking in Italian]
[Alex] Since I got to Italy last week,
we've been arguing about threesomes, religion.
But the one thing we can agree on
is the importance of family.
So hopefully, you know, by meeting his mom and her partner,
maybe something will change.
[Alex speaking]
I am very nervous to meet Adriano's mom
because Adriano is a mama's boy.
And I know how important she is to him.
I'm excited.
[all speaking Italian]
Thank you.
Hey, Aldo. Nice meeting you.
Yes, I'm so excited.
[speaking Italian]
[automated voice] Are you ready to cook with me?
Yes, what do you want me to start with?
- [automated voice]The oil and the onion. -Okay.
That looks so good.
Okay.
Oh, wow.
That is really good.
Oh, I will.
And they say that the first time, I have to help you.
-Okay. -Deal?
-As a team? -I got you.
[all laughing]
I wanted to talk to you about Adriano.
So, you guys are Catholic, but he believes in nothing.
And so that is a concern of mine.
I'm a practicing Christian.
That is a part of me. That is what keeps me sane.
And honestly, if you want a loving wife,
you should want the faith that's always instilled in me.
Sometimes we do get into these debates.
And I don't want it to become a problem in the future.
Adriano's mom is Catholic, and he told me before
that he used to go to church with her all the time.
I'm bringing up religion because I'm trying to connect
with his mom to see why Adriano doesn't want to go
to church anymore.
Even if he doesn't believe in anything,
it doesn't change what he feels for you.
Being a believer in what God says how to love is kind of
a road map of how to love properly.
I just want to trust him enough to support me
in my journey as a Christian.
You should accept me for who I am.
I do accept you for who you are.
[upbeat music playing]
I know that I will never leave you,
but I don't know that you'll never leave me.
And, like, what I'm getting at is the prenup.
Have you ever heard of it?
[bleep] you.
I've agreed to come check out this wedding venue,
but my financial situation doesn't support me paying
for a wedding right now.
And it's frustrating because Madelein doesn't seem to understand
how insecure I feel about the situation.
So I had to bring up the prenup to,
you know, feel better about everything.
It's not like I have a ton of money right now.
I literally just have my only asset, which is the apartment.
And if things between me and Madelein don't work out,
I can't afford to lose that.
I love you.
This is nothing.
I want you to come to your senses and understand
what's going on and that it's not a big deal.
You don't understand what a prenup is.
It's everything before the marriage.
Once you get married, you share everything after that.
-No problem. -I know.
Okay, then what's the problem?
Oftentimes, I do feel that it is her way or the highway,
and there's not as much compromise
as I would like to see.
And look, I'm a pleaser, and I want her to be happy.
But I need to be happy as well.
Whether she signs the prenup or not,
I think the dynamic in the relationship does need to change.
She's calling me.
Hello?
We've never talked about this before, Madelein.
I've been scared as [bleep] to have this conversation with you because of this.
Really, like, it makes me feel like I'm being taken advantage of
or that money is into play with this.
-It shouldn't matter. -Oh, you think that?
I don't want to.
And I had hoped that this conversation
would go a lot differently.
Okay.
Where are you?
Okay, I'm going to come talk to you.
[sniffles]
Come here.
No, I don't want to stay with you anymore.
No.
No!
Oh, no!
I'm here to get a STD test.
Ani wasn't happy about me donating through sex
to a woman in Australia.
What Ani doesn't know is that there's other women
I donated naturally to recently,
one in Norway and one in the UK.
I'm getting a STD test so Ani shouldn't be worried about
the other woman I'm having sex with to get pregnant.
[upbeat music playing]
[speaking Portuguese]
[Alliya] My mother lives in a small city about two hours from Rio.
She lives with my stepfather
and my 14-year-old half-brother.
This is totally a big deal because she doesn't know
that Shawn exists.
[speaking in Portuguese]
I have never talked to her about my love life before
because we haven't always been close.
When I was five years old, my parents broke up
the relationship, and my mother
didn't have money or a place to live,
so she thought the best thing that she could do for me
was to give me to my grandparents.
[speaking Portuguese]
But we started to get close when I was 20 years old.
And we finally find a way to be together and happy.
I have a feeling that because my mom didn't raise me,
she's been so supportive to me now in my gender transition,
to compensate what she didn't do before.
Mm-hmm.
Mmm.
[in English] When I was younger, I felt sad because
I didn't have my mom around me,
and that was very hard to me.
But now I have the mother that I always wanted.
I can't wait to introduce her to Shawn.
I just hope that she sees in him everything that I see.
[upbeat music playing]
Inhale, reaching the arms.
Exhale, bring the palms to your height.
Open the arms by your side.
The last few days with Kyle have just stressed me out.
Yoga helps me to be more calm, more quiet,
more peaceful.
[Merve] Reaching the arms all the way up,
and then bend your right elbow.
Bring the right palm between the shoulder blades,
keeping the shoulders in a borderline now.
[Ani] I want Kyle to stop donating through sex,
but somehow he can't give me, like, a final answer.
So we're, like, stuck in this.
What we are going to do, how we can make it work,
how we can make it better for both of us?
[chanting] Om.
-Namaste. -Namaste.
I've been in Malta for about a week with Ani,
and things are getting a bit more complicated.
I'm here to get a STD test.
I recently came clean to Ani about donating through sex
to a woman in Australia.
But what Ani doesn't know is that there's other women
I donated naturally to recently,
one in Norway and one in the UK.
Okay.
I plan on telling Ani about the other woman
because I want to show some honesty.
Hello.
Good, good.
I may need to drink some water because of my vein.
All right.
I think she may react kind of harshly
when she finds out, so I'm getting an STD test.
I think it's a good buffer.
In a few days, I get the results,
and then I'm just going to tell her.
I did natural donations, but I'm STD-free,
and here's the results.
I am good.
I think she'll react well because she'll see how responsible I am
and there's really nothing to worry about.
And she'll be happy.
[Stef] It was beautiful.
You like it? I ordered good weather for you.
I think there's like 300 sunny days in Malta.
-I guess so. -I think in Germany it's two or something.
[laughs]
My best friend Steph and I have known each other
for over 10 years.
She lives in Germany and she's here
for a few days to meet Kyle.
She knows all about his donations.
And I'm so thankful for having her in here,
because I just need an outsider's opinion.
-So how are you? -Oh, my God.
So we are trying to make it work.
But I'm used to more affection by a man.
And I know that he hasn't been in
a really long, serious relationship.
But if I can't get the affection I need,
I mean, that's not working out.
He never had this practice to speak openly about feelings
or open himself up.
That's not how my boyfriends usually treat me.
Yeah, but it didn't work out. You're not together anymore.
And then obviously he's like a sperm donor, right?
And he just told me a couple of days ago
he had sex with another woman in Australia.
[dramatic music playing]
Aren't you a bit skeptical about that?
-Or how do you feel about that? -Yeah.
So, in fact, he probably not just had sex with one woman, you know?
-Yeah. -I think if you're saying it's one,
then it's maybe three or four, you know?
Well, that's what you don't know.
If Ani has a connection with someone, she's very forgiving.
It might be that she needs a challenge.
If she has a challenge, she puts in lots of effort.
That's her. [laughing]
Yeah.
I mean, everyone has a past.
You had your past with your child and your relationships.
He had his past donating.
But the question is if he's stopping it or not?
My heart obviously wants to keep on doing and going with him,
but my head is just telling me, like, maybe better run.
But you have feelings for him.
[Stef] Her head tells her to run, but her heart
tells her to stay with Kyle and to build a relationship with him.
In my opinion, the heart always wins.
The heart wins, yeah.
At the end of this week, I want to know
if he can completely stop it and to have like
a proper relationship.
-That's what you deserve. -Yeah.
[Luke] Madelein and I got in a huge fight,
and we haven't talked since.
Most of the time, I'm the one doing the compromising,
but this time's different.
If she can't compromise, then we can't move forward.
[soft music playing]
Madelein stayed at her grandma's house last night
because we got in a huge fight after I asked her to sign a prenup.
So, Madelein, uh...
Madelein texted me,
and she's on her way back right now.
Most of the time when we fight like this,
I'm the one doing the compromising, caving,
or giving her what she wants.
But this time's different. It's a non-negotiable.
So if she can't compromise,
then we can't move forward.
Hey, baby.
How are you?
So I hope you had a good time.
I'm just trying to...
-I think it's a... Okay. -No, let me talk.
-It's a glass half... -Let me talk!
This has nothing to do with whether or not I trust you.
This has everything to do with security and clarity
about my future.
Look, I think we're both all in, Madelein.
I know this is a really difficult conversation,
so let's put a pin in it.
We'll talk about it when you're ready to talk about it.
I love you.
So happy to see your pretty face.
I'm so happy to see my princess.
The prenup is a non-negotiable for me.
But I'm willing to table this conversation for now
because it seems like we're talking in circles
and really we're spinning wheels and not getting anywhere.
But if Madelein isn't eventually able
to have a mature and adult conversation about this,
we're really going to have a problem.
I know.
Very exciting.
Before coming on this trip, there was a lot of uncertainties.
Hey.
But I've made a decision and have a big, big, big surprise.
[upbeat music playing]
Are you feeling stressed about tonight, or am I the only one?
Because I want to make sure everything goes okay.
I'll see you later.
Bye.
Alliya thinks that tonight is the celebration of
her 25th birthday, which of course it is,
but the reality is that I have a big,
big, big surprise for Alliya tonight.
Hey...
Before coming on this trip, there was a lot of uncertainties for me
about how things would be and can I love Alliya
as much as I love Douglas?
These are all my favorite pictures from all of
our different trips around the world,
so it's nice to be reminded.
But now I am trying to imagine a life
with Alliya only, and I'm feeling that
we can kind of start building the new love story.
So tonight, I'm going to surprise her with a proposal.
And the way I've chosen to do it is going to be,
in a word, epic.
Anitta is the Brazilian's version of Beyonce
and she is Alliya's favorite pop star.
About a year ago, I was working with Anitta,
so I asked Anitta if she would make a video on
my cell phone, and she said yes.
Very exciting.
I cannot wait to see the face
when Alliya sees Anitta in this moment.
Hey.
[laughs]
Oh.
Yeah, very nice.
-[gasps] Jackie! -Hey!
Oh, you look so handsome. You look wonderful.
I love it.
Hey, how are you?
[speaking Portuguese]
Roberto, Cleusa, and Alberto.
My brother, my mom, and my stepfather.
Shawn.
She's very happy to meet you.
Welcome.
[Alliya] She's saying that...
She wants you to make me happy,
and if you are making me happy,
you are making her happy.
[in Portuguese]
Oh. He's saying that, like,
you to go there someday to have lunch together.
-Do you like? -[Shawn] Yes.
My first impressions of Alliya's family is that
they're a lot more open than I thought they would be.
And it was a great way to start the evening.
All right, so now I need you over here.
Cut the music.
Let me do a little birthday speech.
All right.
Um... [clears throat]
Thank you for coming.
[translating in Portuguese]
I know tonight was going to be an important event for Alliya.
So I asked a friend of mine to do some interpreting for me.
Um... So with no more waiting.
[all cheering]
[in English]
[all cheering]
[all clapping and cheering]
-[sobs] -[indistinct]
[Douglas] That ring has been touched by Anitta.
Oh, my God.
[laughs]
[upbeat music playing]
I think in the long picture of life
that this will be one of the most crucial moments of our lives together.
But I don't feel like the smart move is
to just blindly think that this is going to be easy.
I guess on some level we both know that
there's things that need to be discussed,
especially about her transitioning
and how far down this journey we're gonna go.
And so it's just complicated and I'm still trying
to figure out what's gonna happen.
It's just you and me and Anitta from here on.
[both chuckle]
You're giving this pleasure so much power
that you tossed me to the side.
[dramatic music playing]
[Alex] This is not how I thought this night would go.
I thought we was going to have this beautiful Italian dinner.
But then I brought up religion,
and it all went downhill from there.
At this point, I feel like they're all ganging up on me.
And I know we're not going to find a solution,
so I just need to get out of here.
But I really do appreciate you guys for having me here.
Ciao.
I see a lot of myself in you.
My life changed when I decided
to fully put my trust in God.
Six years ago, I was partying all the time,
having threesomes,
only because I felt like
I needed to just for the man to like me.
I hated that feeling.
But when I decided to go to church,
I realized that I don't have to do all those things
to please a man. I am enough.
I know God got me at the end of the day.
If you were to believe
in a religion,
you wouldn't have these problems.
Why do you feel like you need to have threesome to be happy?
'Cause, honey, this here...
It's some real love.
Like, I genuinely care for you.
Look, you're giving this pleasure so much power
that you're willing to toss me to the side.
Because... No.
You broke up with me twice.
Twice, Adriano, over this stuff.
Twice.
Adriano broke my heart.
When he decided to break up with me to have threesomes.
I've tried to move past this, but it really affected
my trust in him.
I am hopeful we still have a future,
but this relationship would never last
if there's no respect and trust involved.
And right now, I'm not seeing either or...
Yes.
But that's the thing, though.
I don't know if you'd be able
to love me properly.
I'm serious.
Because any man who believes in a God
knows how to love properly.
[narrator] Next time on Love in Paradise...
Oh.
I told you, you every day, be careful with my nails.
[laughs]
Do you feel comfortable talking to him about money
or your concerns?
I feel like it's important to just understand why
he would choose donation over relationship.
I did put in effort, but, like, it was hard
to find someone that actually liked me.
These sperm donations make him feel like I'm wanted, you know?
I guess it makes me understand him a little bit more.
We could move to the bed.
Okay.
I'm trying to give this relationship
every opportunity to make it work.
Bye-bye.
I hope I don't regret this.