1 00:00:05,213 --> 00:00:08,216 ARYANNA: Previously on Love In Paradise... 2 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:10,927 Frankie wanted to marry Abby, 3 00:00:11,011 --> 00:00:14,264 and he wanted to bring Abby back to the United States. 4 00:00:14,347 --> 00:00:16,016 SPEAKING IN FOREIGN LANGUAGE 5 00:00:31,740 --> 00:00:35,368 This is my first time being in an environment like this with Carlos. 6 00:00:35,452 --> 00:00:40,040 And I feel like he is trying to stifle me, or stop me. 7 00:00:45,420 --> 00:00:47,422 I think I'm going to get married, 8 00:00:47,505 --> 00:00:50,258 I just wanna make sure that this is the right move. 9 00:00:50,342 --> 00:00:53,386 I consult with my spiritual mentor, Baba, 10 00:00:53,470 --> 00:00:55,847 before I make any major life decisions. 11 00:00:55,930 --> 00:00:59,351 The thing that it does recommend is that you keep away from peanuts. 12 00:00:59,434 --> 00:01:01,269 Peanuts? Yeah. OK. 13 00:01:01,936 --> 00:01:05,440 Have you been seeing other people? I have. 14 00:01:05,523 --> 00:01:07,942 I am the mother of your kid now. 15 00:01:08,026 --> 00:01:10,445 You owe me that respect to try 16 00:01:10,528 --> 00:01:12,906 and give him two parents that love each other. 17 00:01:13,573 --> 00:01:15,825 I am tied to you for life. 18 00:01:22,916 --> 00:01:25,543 UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING 19 00:01:39,015 --> 00:01:40,850 You ready? 20 00:01:44,229 --> 00:01:46,773 This is my fifth day in the Dominican Republic 21 00:01:46,856 --> 00:01:48,608 with my fiancé Yohan. 22 00:01:48,692 --> 00:01:51,403 And things have been very challenging so far. 23 00:01:51,486 --> 00:01:54,406 Is this yours? No. 24 00:01:55,156 --> 00:01:57,409 We're supposed to get married in four days 25 00:01:57,492 --> 00:02:00,453 and last night I found out he hadn't told his best friends. 26 00:02:01,621 --> 00:02:04,916 That makes me feel like I'm not an important person in his life. 27 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:08,712 So, I was already angry when I woke up this morning, 28 00:02:08,795 --> 00:02:11,214 but now I'm livid. 29 00:02:12,549 --> 00:02:14,384 I really could kill you. 30 00:02:20,765 --> 00:02:24,394 Because Yohan ate $200 worth of peanuts. 31 00:02:26,312 --> 00:02:28,815 I don't really know how that's possible. 32 00:02:28,898 --> 00:02:33,611 I didn't know they could even fit $200 worth of peanuts in a mini bar. 33 00:02:33,695 --> 00:02:35,488 We're leaving the hotel today 34 00:02:35,572 --> 00:02:38,283 and we're going to spend a few days with Yohan's family. 35 00:02:38,366 --> 00:02:40,535 When I went to checkout of the hotel, 36 00:02:40,618 --> 00:02:43,705 they handed me a $200 charge for the mini bar. 37 00:02:43,788 --> 00:02:46,583 Because Yohan couldn't stop eating the peanuts. 38 00:02:48,126 --> 00:02:51,046 SPEAKING IN FOREIGN LANGUAGE 39 00:02:59,220 --> 00:03:02,724 He doesn't have $200 to pay, I have to pay for the peanuts. 40 00:03:39,177 --> 00:03:42,180 "I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, 41 00:03:42,263 --> 00:03:44,599 "I will fear no evil, for thou art with me. 42 00:03:44,683 --> 00:03:46,935 "Thy rod and thy staff they comfort me." 43 00:03:49,729 --> 00:03:52,190 And I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. 44 00:04:43,867 --> 00:04:45,827 We're in the car for five minutes 45 00:04:45,910 --> 00:04:48,955 and Yohan starts eating the last of the hotel peanuts. 46 00:05:02,218 --> 00:05:04,929 Before I left New York I met with my mentor Baba 47 00:05:05,013 --> 00:05:08,600 and he gave me a list of things to do, and things I shouldn't do 48 00:05:08,683 --> 00:05:11,186 in order to make sure that my marriage was successful. 49 00:05:11,895 --> 00:05:14,481 One of the things he told me not to do was eat peanuts. 50 00:05:21,363 --> 00:05:23,406 No. 51 00:06:03,613 --> 00:06:05,281 No. 52 00:06:51,453 --> 00:06:53,204 No. 53 00:07:26,780 --> 00:07:30,992 As if it's not enough that we have to deal with trust issues, finances, 54 00:07:31,076 --> 00:07:34,788 fertility issues, we also have to deal with $200 peanuts 55 00:07:34,871 --> 00:07:36,706 and witches who eat babies. 56 00:07:36,790 --> 00:07:39,334 It's times like this when I think, 57 00:07:39,417 --> 00:07:41,628 what the hell am I doing with this man? 58 00:07:45,674 --> 00:07:48,760 UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING 59 00:08:03,316 --> 00:08:06,569 CARLOS: Phew! It's really not that hot. 60 00:08:06,653 --> 00:08:11,157 A few days ago, I introduced my friends to Valentine 61 00:08:11,241 --> 00:08:17,664 and he learned that I was insecure about my sexuality for a long time. 62 00:08:17,747 --> 00:08:21,126 But I know Valentine doesn't want to feel like he has to hide 63 00:08:21,209 --> 00:08:23,003 who he is to be with me. 64 00:08:26,965 --> 00:08:28,633 I'm so happy today. 65 00:08:37,475 --> 00:08:39,978 Yeah, I'm looking forward to it, like, honestly. 66 00:08:40,770 --> 00:08:44,482 I'm trying to come out of my shell for him, 67 00:08:44,566 --> 00:08:48,028 but Barranquilla is a conservative city, 68 00:08:48,111 --> 00:08:52,532 and homosexuality is not accepted completely. 69 00:08:53,116 --> 00:08:56,077 So, today, we are going to Santa Marta, 70 00:08:56,161 --> 00:08:58,121 this is a city on the Caribbean. 71 00:08:58,204 --> 00:09:01,124 I mean, you will see that's a real paradise, 72 00:09:01,207 --> 00:09:04,002 I love it, I'm actually, I used to live there for a while. 73 00:09:13,928 --> 00:09:17,140 I picked Santa Marta because this is a progressive city 74 00:09:17,223 --> 00:09:19,726 and they welcome all kind of people, 75 00:09:19,809 --> 00:09:24,522 which is the opposite from the small fishing village that I grew up with. 76 00:09:34,616 --> 00:09:36,284 Yeah. 77 00:09:38,536 --> 00:09:40,622 There was no better education than that. 78 00:09:40,705 --> 00:09:42,957 This is in Santa Marta? That was in Santa Marta. 79 00:09:43,041 --> 00:09:46,044 Wow! Did you come from Santa Marta to Barranquilla 80 00:09:46,127 --> 00:09:50,340 or you went someplace else first? I go to Santa Marta first. 81 00:09:50,423 --> 00:09:52,550 No, no. Yes, you went to Santa Marta. 82 00:09:52,634 --> 00:09:54,552 Uh-huh. When you left Santa Marta, 83 00:09:54,636 --> 00:09:56,596 did you come back to Barranquilla or did you go someplace else? 84 00:09:56,680 --> 00:10:00,433 I didn't come back to Barranquilla because I didn't live here before. 85 00:10:00,517 --> 00:10:02,811 Oh, OK. Remember? 86 00:10:05,271 --> 00:10:06,981 Maybe. 87 00:10:07,065 --> 00:10:09,234 It seems like you don't know anything about me. 88 00:10:10,151 --> 00:10:13,530 Oh, Lord, here we go, the sky is falling again. 89 00:10:16,783 --> 00:10:18,910 I say one thing, Carlos doesn't like... 90 00:10:22,038 --> 00:10:26,584 Sometimes you wanna get your point across without feeling like, 91 00:10:26,668 --> 00:10:32,716 you have to police every word that comes out, it gets so frustrating. 92 00:10:37,721 --> 00:10:40,348 Like, disconnect your phone, let me connect my Bluetooth. 93 00:10:42,934 --> 00:10:45,020 Carlos. 94 00:10:45,103 --> 00:10:47,105 Can you play a song for me? 95 00:10:56,239 --> 00:11:00,243 Stop doing that, please, please that's irritating. 96 00:11:02,537 --> 00:11:05,248 I don't wanna talk at all. 97 00:11:05,331 --> 00:11:08,043 I didn't wanna hear, I didn't wanna hear a whistle either. 98 00:11:08,126 --> 00:11:11,546 I didn't want to hear the loud whistle, it was irritating me. 99 00:11:11,629 --> 00:11:14,049 Don't talk then, don't look at me then. 100 00:11:14,132 --> 00:11:16,843 I wish I could, but you are right next to me. 101 00:11:16,926 --> 00:11:20,180 Well, in less than 20 minutes, 30 minutes you can get out. 102 00:11:20,263 --> 00:11:22,974 No, you can get out. I am gonna get out. 103 00:11:31,775 --> 00:11:35,445 Carlos and I have been together for five days, non-stop 104 00:11:35,528 --> 00:11:37,947 and I'm starting to feel suffocated. 105 00:11:38,656 --> 00:11:40,700 We both have alpha type personalities. 106 00:11:40,784 --> 00:11:44,788 And we definitely like to get our own way 107 00:11:44,871 --> 00:11:47,040 and can be pretty stubborn at times. 108 00:11:47,999 --> 00:11:50,960 Oh, my God, look at this place. 109 00:11:52,462 --> 00:11:55,215 I experienced some of that over the phone before this trip, 110 00:11:55,298 --> 00:11:57,884 but I thought things would be easier in person. 111 00:12:00,136 --> 00:12:04,140 I'm gonna take a shower, real pressure in the water. 112 00:12:09,270 --> 00:12:12,399 Those are the little things in America that we take for granted, 113 00:12:12,482 --> 00:12:14,567 that when you go... when I come outside of America, 114 00:12:14,651 --> 00:12:16,319 I miss, and I notice. 115 00:12:16,403 --> 00:12:18,071 It doesn't make any sense. 116 00:12:22,367 --> 00:12:25,787 I'm making comparisons and I may prefer certain things, 117 00:12:25,870 --> 00:12:27,956 but it's not an insult or anything about your place. 118 00:12:28,039 --> 00:12:30,000 Or anything about your culture or your country. 119 00:12:30,083 --> 00:12:33,420 You know this is like tense. The conversation we're having. 120 00:12:33,503 --> 00:12:35,922 I might be a little tense, but it's real. 121 00:12:36,006 --> 00:12:39,300 I know, but it's not what you're saying, it's the way you're saying. 122 00:12:43,388 --> 00:12:46,433 I don't want every time I say something to offend you. 123 00:12:46,516 --> 00:12:48,560 I know you feel sensitive, but... 124 00:12:48,643 --> 00:12:51,021 I don't because... I don't. 125 00:12:51,104 --> 00:12:53,565 I guess I'm feeling like I'm losing my independence. 126 00:12:55,066 --> 00:12:58,319 I don't wanna have to feel like I've to be prepared to defend myself 127 00:12:58,403 --> 00:13:00,155 or explain myself every five seconds. 128 00:13:00,238 --> 00:13:04,701 Just the way you talk, it's like condescending it's... Stop it. 129 00:13:04,784 --> 00:13:07,120 I am a grown ass man, 130 00:13:07,203 --> 00:13:10,623 I did pretty well for myself in this life, yo, fall back. 131 00:13:11,916 --> 00:13:14,753 I can't believe that we could handle a relationship 132 00:13:14,836 --> 00:13:16,755 better over the phone than in person. 133 00:13:19,007 --> 00:13:23,678 I understand it's not easy to share this space with somebody else. 134 00:13:25,055 --> 00:13:27,557 But sometimes I feel like you are in a position 135 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:30,894 that you think that everybody is attacking you, 136 00:13:30,977 --> 00:13:32,937 and is not like that, Valentine. 137 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:38,276 I know that. I just need to be able to go through my process. 138 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:40,153 So, if I say, "Leave me alone," leave me alone. 139 00:13:40,236 --> 00:13:44,824 You know, the attitude, the tone you use, you are not listening. 140 00:13:45,867 --> 00:13:50,622 I'm getting frustrated, mad, and getting disappointed. 141 00:13:50,705 --> 00:13:55,168 I planned this trip, so we can know each other better. 142 00:13:55,251 --> 00:13:58,004 And this thing happening right now, 143 00:13:58,088 --> 00:14:01,591 all this fight, all this drama, is a wakeup call to me. 144 00:14:01,675 --> 00:14:05,011 We are trying to build a relationship, 145 00:14:05,095 --> 00:14:07,222 he is acting like 146 00:14:07,305 --> 00:14:11,059 he doesn't want to, you know, figure things out. 147 00:14:12,602 --> 00:14:14,270 Leave me alone. 148 00:14:24,406 --> 00:14:24,666 2 00:13:49.400 -- 00:13:51.560 align:start line:90% position:30% UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING 149 00:14:45,719 --> 00:14:50,015 Come here, papi chulo. Oh, my God, you want to sleep baby chulo. 150 00:14:50,098 --> 00:14:51,850 Sleepy, sleepy boy. 151 00:14:54,227 --> 00:14:56,563 I've been in Jamaica for a few days now, 152 00:14:56,646 --> 00:15:00,275 and things between Sherlon and I have not been going well at all. 153 00:15:01,109 --> 00:15:04,654 The other day he admitted to sleeping with other women. 154 00:15:07,741 --> 00:15:11,494 Papi chulo. What's up with you, papi chulo? 155 00:15:13,455 --> 00:15:15,999 I made it clear that I was not OK with that, 156 00:15:16,082 --> 00:15:20,128 and he said that he would make more of an effort to work harder 157 00:15:20,211 --> 00:15:22,630 on our relationship for the rest of this trip. 158 00:15:26,259 --> 00:15:30,013 It fell in the sand, and I didn't have time to clean it off. 159 00:15:32,849 --> 00:15:35,685 Then, just this morning, his phone's blowing up 160 00:15:35,769 --> 00:15:38,938 and I see him getting photos from another girl. 161 00:15:39,022 --> 00:15:41,900 And I'm just like, seriously dude? 162 00:15:45,862 --> 00:15:47,614 What? 163 00:15:50,784 --> 00:15:54,329 OK, Shinika baby on your phone and then... No, no, no, no, no. 164 00:15:54,412 --> 00:15:56,664 And then getting a whole bunch of photos. Nah, nah. 165 00:16:04,339 --> 00:16:06,925 You've been playing the fuck out of me that's for sure. 166 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:12,013 Oh, you saw one fucking photo in my phone. I get that... 167 00:16:12,097 --> 00:16:15,225 And then your phone was fucking buzzing going off all night long. 168 00:16:15,308 --> 00:16:18,687 Hey, hey, listen. Hello, thank you. 169 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:23,733 I thought that we were, you know, together 170 00:16:23,817 --> 00:16:25,944 and in a relationship still. 171 00:16:26,027 --> 00:16:28,863 He never told me I wasn't his girlfriend or anything like that. 172 00:16:28,947 --> 00:16:31,741 At one time I was his girlfriend and he never told me I wasn't. 173 00:16:31,825 --> 00:16:34,369 So, I came down here, you know, thinking, you know, yes, 174 00:16:34,452 --> 00:16:36,413 this was a relationship that needed work, 175 00:16:36,496 --> 00:16:38,998 but I didn't think it was an open relationship. 176 00:16:39,082 --> 00:16:43,837 And so it's just like, again, I'm here looking like a fool. 177 00:16:56,808 --> 00:16:59,185 That's what you saw. Got it. 178 00:16:59,978 --> 00:17:02,939 But who's Shanika baby? That's... 179 00:17:10,363 --> 00:17:13,992 I admitted to Aryanna that I have friends with benefits, 180 00:17:14,075 --> 00:17:17,245 but I'm not committed to any of them. 181 00:17:19,122 --> 00:17:20,790 I know she doesn't get it, but... 182 00:17:26,129 --> 00:17:29,799 Every relationship I've been in, right, 183 00:17:29,883 --> 00:17:33,053 I've never had to, like, commit to somebody like, say, 184 00:17:33,136 --> 00:17:39,309 "Oh, yes, you're the only one," never in my life, never in my life. 185 00:17:39,392 --> 00:17:42,354 So, like, I haven't seen you in a fucking year, 186 00:17:42,437 --> 00:17:44,856 a whole year I haven't seen you. 187 00:17:45,940 --> 00:17:49,110 In the past, we used to jump on each other, right, 188 00:17:49,194 --> 00:17:52,864 but you notice there's a difference, yes? 189 00:17:52,947 --> 00:17:55,950 You're like, now you're hooking up with girls that like aren't, 190 00:17:56,034 --> 00:17:57,911 compared to me and I come down here 191 00:17:57,994 --> 00:17:59,954 and you act like you aren't attracted to me. 192 00:18:00,038 --> 00:18:04,167 What is it that lost like attraction or spark there was between us? 193 00:18:05,085 --> 00:18:06,836 I don't know, honestly. 194 00:18:09,506 --> 00:18:12,509 Before I leave this trip we have to be on the same page, 195 00:18:12,592 --> 00:18:15,053 it's either we're exclusive and only seeing each other. 196 00:18:15,136 --> 00:18:19,224 Or, you know, we're not together, and this co-parenting situation 197 00:18:19,307 --> 00:18:21,810 is gonna look completely different. 198 00:18:21,893 --> 00:18:26,731 I need you to be honest with me about, you know, your intentions 199 00:18:26,815 --> 00:18:31,820 or else, like, it's literally just a waste of our time. I agree. 200 00:18:31,903 --> 00:18:35,115 If you don't wanna be with me, I don't wanna keep waiting on you. 201 00:18:35,198 --> 00:18:38,159 Like, I'm gonna... It's like, I don't wanna have to move on, 202 00:18:38,243 --> 00:18:43,748 but like, I will because I deserve, like, somebody to be there for me, 203 00:18:43,832 --> 00:18:45,667 and to be there for Odin. 204 00:18:46,501 --> 00:18:51,339 I said, all we got to do is work on this relationship, brah, right? 205 00:18:52,841 --> 00:18:54,676 Working on this relationship means like, 206 00:18:54,759 --> 00:18:57,679 you really have to be more considerate of my feelings. 207 00:18:59,514 --> 00:19:03,435 I want you to like, treat me the way you treated me when we first met. 208 00:19:03,518 --> 00:19:06,855 You know, I wanna, like, have time like, with just me and you, 209 00:19:06,938 --> 00:19:09,441 whether it's like going out on a date, or like... 210 00:19:09,524 --> 00:19:13,236 Yes, but we have a baby to take care of at night, 211 00:19:13,319 --> 00:19:18,241 so when your mum gets here then we gonna have time by ourselves. 212 00:19:19,451 --> 00:19:21,995 My mum is coming to Jamaica to watch Odin 213 00:19:22,078 --> 00:19:26,541 so Sherlon and I can have more alone time to work on our relationship. 214 00:19:26,624 --> 00:19:28,835 But that's not for another few days. 215 00:19:28,918 --> 00:19:32,547 I need things to start changing before that. 216 00:19:33,465 --> 00:19:35,467 The issue from the jump is that 217 00:19:35,550 --> 00:19:38,011 actions are not lining up with the words. 218 00:19:38,094 --> 00:19:40,263 And like, that's what I'm just waiting on. 219 00:19:41,389 --> 00:19:44,642 I understand where Aryanna's coming from, 220 00:19:44,726 --> 00:19:47,604 and I also do want the relationship to work. 221 00:19:47,687 --> 00:19:52,400 But I'm not sure if I am wired that way. 222 00:19:54,819 --> 00:19:56,946 But at the end of the day, 223 00:19:57,030 --> 00:20:01,117 I know Aryanna and Odin needs more stability from me 224 00:20:01,201 --> 00:20:06,790 as a dad and as a partner, so I have to try my best to make changes 225 00:20:06,873 --> 00:20:09,084 and, you know, make them fast. 226 00:20:13,254 --> 00:20:14,923 OK. 227 00:20:21,846 --> 00:20:23,890 UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING 228 00:20:35,193 --> 00:20:37,070 I don't understand what you're saying? 229 00:20:37,153 --> 00:20:40,281 Right. Thank you. You understand, right? 230 00:20:41,783 --> 00:20:43,451 Right. 231 00:20:46,079 --> 00:20:49,124 Right now, I'm really annoyed, I'm really frustrated, 232 00:20:49,207 --> 00:20:52,711 Yohan and I are bickering about money, 233 00:20:52,794 --> 00:20:54,754 and the differences between our faiths. 234 00:20:56,297 --> 00:20:58,133 This is not what our relationship should be like 235 00:20:58,216 --> 00:21:00,635 when we're getting married in just four days. 236 00:21:01,386 --> 00:21:03,596 SPEAKING IN FOREIGN LANGUAGE 237 00:21:05,098 --> 00:21:08,768 I'm trying to let things go because we're on our way to see his family. 238 00:21:15,984 --> 00:21:18,570 As we arrive in Yohan's home town, 239 00:21:18,653 --> 00:21:21,531 I am reminded that 240 00:21:21,614 --> 00:21:24,659 the Dominican Republic is an island paradise for tourists. 241 00:21:24,743 --> 00:21:27,662 But it's not necessarily a paradise for the people who live here. 242 00:21:27,746 --> 00:21:29,664 CHILDREN SCREAMING 243 00:21:30,915 --> 00:21:33,168 The first time I went to Yohan's house, 244 00:21:33,251 --> 00:21:36,421 I expected that he lived in poverty. 245 00:21:36,504 --> 00:21:40,008 But I didn't expect his home to be as bare bones as it is. 246 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:46,639 There's two bathrooms, but neither of them have running water. 247 00:21:48,141 --> 00:21:51,186 I'm disappointed that even though we live in the modern world, 248 00:21:51,269 --> 00:21:55,065 there are still people who live in these conditions. 249 00:22:00,195 --> 00:22:01,863 WOMAN: Hola. 250 00:22:04,824 --> 00:22:07,911 Hi. Hi, how are you? 251 00:22:19,464 --> 00:22:21,216 Hi. Hi. 252 00:22:54,290 --> 00:22:58,086 I'm sure that most of Yohan's family has never stayed in a hotel. 253 00:22:58,962 --> 00:23:01,756 I'm sure they see me as this rich American lady 254 00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:04,300 who's wining and dining him. 255 00:23:05,343 --> 00:23:07,220 It makes me nervous that they'll have 256 00:23:07,303 --> 00:23:09,806 these unrealistic expectations of me. 257 00:25:00,041 --> 00:25:01,876 I've lived in New York my entire life 258 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:04,170 and the energy is super-fast paced. 259 00:25:04,254 --> 00:25:07,632 It's a constant grind and I'm so done with that. 260 00:25:07,716 --> 00:25:10,260 I wanna get old with the person I love 261 00:25:10,343 --> 00:25:13,596 and do yoga on the beach, and live my life. 262 00:26:04,064 --> 00:26:06,066 Si. 263 00:26:06,149 --> 00:26:09,694 I definitely worry that Yohan could be with me for the wrong reasons, 264 00:26:09,778 --> 00:26:12,822 especially when I hear how much pressure Yohan's family 265 00:26:12,906 --> 00:26:15,075 is putting on him to move to the United States, 266 00:26:15,158 --> 00:26:19,996 because they know that that's how he's going to help them the most. 267 00:26:44,270 --> 00:26:46,064 OK. 268 00:26:46,773 --> 00:26:49,109 I have compassion for Yohan and his family, 269 00:26:49,192 --> 00:26:54,322 I understand that they want possible to help make their life better. 270 00:26:54,406 --> 00:26:59,285 But I'm not gonna support Yohan coming to New York, making money, 271 00:26:59,369 --> 00:27:01,579 sending all of his money back home 272 00:27:01,663 --> 00:27:03,415 and then I'm left figuring out 273 00:27:03,498 --> 00:27:07,085 how to support the two of us. That's not gonna happen. 274 00:27:12,382 --> 00:27:14,259 Gracias. 275 00:27:15,552 --> 00:27:18,596 I love Yohan with all of my being, 276 00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:22,017 but I wonder sometimes, if I wasn't American, 277 00:27:22,100 --> 00:27:27,188 if he would still want this marriage so deeply and so quickly. 278 00:27:30,608 --> 00:27:30,869 2 00:26:41.400 -- 00:26:44.600 align:middle line:90% position:50% All right, is everyone ready? Yeah. Let's go. Let's go. 279 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:56,051 Frankie cancelled the trip to Mexico, 280 00:27:56,134 --> 00:27:59,471 but his friends, Rodney and Selena, still came. 281 00:28:00,221 --> 00:28:04,726 But I didn't expect that Rodney tell all my secrets to Gaby. 282 00:28:04,809 --> 00:28:10,648 She don't have no idea that I been planning to marry with Frankie 283 00:28:10,732 --> 00:28:13,026 and move to the US. 284 00:28:15,695 --> 00:28:21,910 Now, Gaby knows that I was lying to her, and she get mad, very mad. 285 00:28:22,786 --> 00:28:25,538 It was so wonderful to see you. 286 00:28:25,622 --> 00:28:28,750 But right now we need to say goodbye. 287 00:28:28,833 --> 00:28:32,796 I was planning to bring Gaby to the U.S. 288 00:28:32,879 --> 00:28:35,840 after getting married with Frankie, 289 00:28:35,924 --> 00:28:40,095 so the three of us, we can be happy together. 290 00:28:40,845 --> 00:28:45,266 But I don't have the opportunity yet to tell her all the plan. 291 00:28:45,350 --> 00:28:47,102 Have a good night. 292 00:28:54,609 --> 00:28:57,278 I don't know what is gonna happen. 293 00:28:57,362 --> 00:29:01,032 I'm afraid I'm gonna lose Gaby forever. 294 00:31:00,777 --> 00:31:04,280 I knew that Gaby's upset on the boat. 295 00:31:04,364 --> 00:31:07,617 But I hope that she let me explain 296 00:31:07,701 --> 00:31:11,579 that I still love her and I never want to leave her. 297 00:31:12,539 --> 00:31:16,334 I made a huge mistake keeping the truth from Gaby, 298 00:31:16,418 --> 00:31:19,462 and I don't know if I can fix it. 299 00:32:15,268 --> 00:32:15,529 2 00:30:56.720 -- 00:30:58.800 align:start line:90% position:30% UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING 300 00:32:33,161 --> 00:32:36,790 CARLOS: Valentine and I, we have been together for almost a week 301 00:32:36,873 --> 00:32:39,292 and the reality is setting in. 302 00:32:39,376 --> 00:32:44,130 The fact that we are not having the relationship over the phone, 303 00:32:44,214 --> 00:32:47,801 but in person, that is actually challenging for us, 304 00:32:47,884 --> 00:32:51,429 it makes the situation more tense 305 00:32:51,513 --> 00:32:53,932 and tonight we hit our breaking point. 306 00:32:56,976 --> 00:32:58,728 Hey, babe. 307 00:32:59,604 --> 00:33:02,148 How you doing? You OK? 308 00:33:03,483 --> 00:33:08,446 My heart is actually breaking for this situation. 309 00:33:08,530 --> 00:33:11,533 We used to fight all the time over the phone. 310 00:33:11,616 --> 00:33:14,035 But I thought that we will meet in person, 311 00:33:14,119 --> 00:33:17,914 these things, you know, could be a little bit easier. 312 00:33:17,997 --> 00:33:22,127 I don't like to be, like, in a constant fight with him. 313 00:33:22,210 --> 00:33:25,213 I think that if this continue like this, 314 00:33:25,296 --> 00:33:28,299 I don't think we're gonna make it that far. 315 00:33:30,343 --> 00:33:32,929 You wanna talk about what happened or... 316 00:33:36,099 --> 00:33:38,893 I was actually really... 317 00:33:41,438 --> 00:33:45,400 ..surprised in a bad way, 318 00:33:46,026 --> 00:33:50,030 because I never see you acting like that. 319 00:33:52,032 --> 00:33:58,329 I felt like you are not giving me my space when I asked you for it. 320 00:34:00,373 --> 00:34:03,043 You were outright trying to control my action. 321 00:34:04,127 --> 00:34:07,088 So, I felt like now it was time for me to take back my power, 322 00:34:07,172 --> 00:34:09,591 because I felt like you was having too much. 323 00:34:09,674 --> 00:34:12,218 And if my emotions get involved and I'm really that angry 324 00:34:12,302 --> 00:34:16,222 and I'm feeling like I'm not being respected, I'm gonna escalate. 325 00:34:18,183 --> 00:34:22,145 When Carlos does come at me in those very over critical 326 00:34:22,228 --> 00:34:24,105 and controlling ways, 327 00:34:24,189 --> 00:34:27,025 it brings back the emotions that I felt as a child. 328 00:34:28,443 --> 00:34:30,153 I grew up feeling powerless. 329 00:34:30,236 --> 00:34:32,822 I had to put up with my stepfather, he couldn't stand me. 330 00:34:32,906 --> 00:34:35,450 He was always giving me a hard time. 331 00:34:35,533 --> 00:34:38,787 He took many opportunities to degrade me 332 00:34:38,870 --> 00:34:40,955 and make me feel less than... 333 00:34:41,039 --> 00:34:45,502 And he always demanded respect, 334 00:34:45,585 --> 00:34:49,130 but I never received the same level of respect 335 00:34:49,214 --> 00:34:51,466 in any way, shape or form. 336 00:34:51,549 --> 00:34:54,511 As an adult it just translated to, 337 00:34:54,594 --> 00:34:57,764 I will act out to get you away from me. 338 00:34:57,847 --> 00:35:01,559 I never will be in a position where you can control me. 339 00:35:03,144 --> 00:35:05,397 I know you needed the space, 340 00:35:06,064 --> 00:35:11,611 but right now we are face to face, we are not over the phone. 341 00:35:11,695 --> 00:35:16,032 I'm including you in my life as I never did before with anybody else. 342 00:35:17,492 --> 00:35:22,372 But maybe you are acting like this because you don't feel good with me. 343 00:35:26,042 --> 00:35:30,755 And that part of me, understanding why you were feeling because... 344 00:35:34,884 --> 00:35:37,846 Valentine and I we're too similar in many ways. 345 00:35:43,018 --> 00:35:46,479 And it's like if we were in a jungle 346 00:35:46,563 --> 00:35:51,151 and there are two lions fighting for who is the real king. 347 00:35:54,571 --> 00:35:57,365 My intention was never control you. 348 00:35:59,117 --> 00:36:02,954 But I want you to check out what you're doing, 349 00:36:03,038 --> 00:36:05,540 and also work on it 'cos I'm doing it. 350 00:36:06,249 --> 00:36:08,335 I'm doing it because I love you, 351 00:36:08,418 --> 00:36:11,629 I'm doing it because I want this to work out. 352 00:36:15,592 --> 00:36:17,969 And I apologise for my behaviour and the things 353 00:36:18,053 --> 00:36:20,221 that I may have said to hurt your feelings, 354 00:36:20,305 --> 00:36:23,516 but no matter how angry I get at somebody about something, 355 00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:26,644 it comes down to, do I love this person, do I really love them? 356 00:36:28,897 --> 00:36:30,565 Right now, we not getting along 357 00:36:30,648 --> 00:36:36,321 but you're the utmost important things in my life right now. 358 00:36:39,240 --> 00:36:41,409 I love you, you know I love you. I love you, baby. 359 00:36:41,493 --> 00:36:43,161 I know. I love you. 360 00:36:43,244 --> 00:36:45,538 Did I tell you that you look beautiful in red? 361 00:36:45,622 --> 00:36:48,291 Crazy. Thank you, I appreciate it. 362 00:36:51,044 --> 00:36:54,381 After speaking over video chats 363 00:36:54,464 --> 00:36:56,883 these lengthy conversations, hours and hours, 364 00:36:56,966 --> 00:37:01,513 I really did not expect things to be so hard in person with Carlos. 365 00:37:02,681 --> 00:37:06,976 Before I came to Colombia, my plan was to propose to Carlos, 366 00:37:07,060 --> 00:37:11,356 but we are bumping heads and we have a lot to figure out. 367 00:37:11,439 --> 00:37:15,360 OK, my ass is hurting on these rocks, can we get up? 368 00:37:15,443 --> 00:37:17,404 Yeah. All right. 369 00:37:18,363 --> 00:37:23,284 So, I can't propose until I'm sure this relationship 370 00:37:23,368 --> 00:37:25,995 between him and I really has a future. 371 00:37:30,166 --> 00:37:30,427 2 00:35:58.320 -- 00:36:00.600 align:start line:90% position:30% UPBEAT MUSIC PLAYING 372 00:37:46,933 --> 00:37:49,477 ARYANNA: Odin and I have been in Jamaica for a week now. 373 00:37:49,561 --> 00:37:55,859 It's been a few days since Sherlon admitted sleeping with other women 374 00:37:55,942 --> 00:37:58,862 while I've been in the U.S. 375 00:37:58,945 --> 00:38:01,489 Hey, whoop, whoop. 376 00:38:01,573 --> 00:38:06,494 It's been heavy on my mind, but I've been hesitant to bring it up again, 377 00:38:06,578 --> 00:38:09,831 because I do not want us fighting in front of Odin. 378 00:38:12,959 --> 00:38:18,381 So, I got the diapies that you wanted. 379 00:38:18,465 --> 00:38:21,468 Yay, look at that O. 380 00:38:21,551 --> 00:38:23,553 How is my boy doing, though? 381 00:38:23,636 --> 00:38:27,057 He seems like, he, like, his stomach hurts or something. 382 00:38:27,140 --> 00:38:28,808 He seems a little off. 383 00:38:28,892 --> 00:38:33,897 Instead of us, like, driving to go get my mum, 384 00:38:33,980 --> 00:38:36,232 I'm just gonna have, like, the taxi pick her up, 385 00:38:36,316 --> 00:38:39,152 because I just don't wanna have him in the car that long today. 386 00:38:39,235 --> 00:38:43,323 I think that's a good idea 'cos I know how he gets. 387 00:38:45,158 --> 00:38:48,286 My mum arrives in Jamaica today and that's a huge relief. 388 00:38:48,370 --> 00:38:51,664 Because I'm looking forward to her watching Odin 389 00:38:51,748 --> 00:38:53,792 so Sherlon and I can have some alone time. 390 00:38:54,584 --> 00:38:57,837 So, I can kind of hang with her for a little bit. 391 00:38:58,505 --> 00:39:03,802 Since your mum is also here... Yeah. I go catch up with her as well. 392 00:39:03,885 --> 00:39:05,762 Right, yeah, definitely. 393 00:39:07,722 --> 00:39:12,060 My mum is also in town today to meet Aryanna and Odin 394 00:39:12,143 --> 00:39:14,437 and Miss Karen for the first time in person. 395 00:39:14,521 --> 00:39:18,983 And given how things has been going between me and Aryanna lately, 396 00:39:19,067 --> 00:39:20,735 it should be interesting. 397 00:39:20,819 --> 00:39:24,239 I'm gonna meet you at the restaurant with my mum. All right? 398 00:39:24,322 --> 00:39:27,992 All right. Bye. 399 00:39:29,536 --> 00:39:32,122 He's crazy. 400 00:39:38,253 --> 00:39:40,755 I finally made it to Jamaica. 401 00:39:40,839 --> 00:39:43,925 I'm here and I can't wait to see everybody. 402 00:39:45,301 --> 00:39:49,723 Hello. I have not heard from Aryanna much at all. 403 00:39:49,806 --> 00:39:51,850 So, I'm really anxious to talk with her 404 00:39:51,933 --> 00:39:56,479 and see whether or not they've had any very serious discussions yet. 405 00:39:56,563 --> 00:40:00,358 If not, then I just may have to start helping those occur. 406 00:40:09,701 --> 00:40:12,996 Ary? We're in here. 407 00:40:13,705 --> 00:40:16,207 Hi, there, little guy. Look who it is. 408 00:40:16,541 --> 00:40:18,543 God, I missed you. 409 00:40:18,626 --> 00:40:23,423 Are you having fun with your daddy? Are you? 410 00:40:23,506 --> 00:40:29,721 Last year, my mum actually came out of retirement to help care for Odin. 411 00:40:29,804 --> 00:40:33,224 I think she realised that if Sherlon didn't step up 412 00:40:33,308 --> 00:40:37,687 a lot of his role would fall on her, and it has. 413 00:40:37,771 --> 00:40:39,898 I'm happy you finally made it, 414 00:40:39,981 --> 00:40:43,902 so that we can have some support and help with Odi. 415 00:40:46,029 --> 00:40:47,781 Having her here, 416 00:40:47,864 --> 00:40:51,368 on one hand is really nice to have her help with Odin, 417 00:40:51,451 --> 00:40:54,329 but on the other hand, it can be kind of stressful 418 00:40:54,412 --> 00:40:58,291 because her patience with Sherlon is already wearing thin. 419 00:40:58,375 --> 00:41:00,835 So, when I fill her in on what's happened, 420 00:41:00,919 --> 00:41:02,921 she is not gonna be happy. 421 00:41:07,133 --> 00:41:10,345 Mum, is he sleeping? Yeah, he is. 422 00:41:12,681 --> 00:41:15,433 I missed the little guy. I know. 423 00:41:15,517 --> 00:41:17,394 So, how's your week been going? 424 00:41:19,229 --> 00:41:20,939 I don't know. Like, it's just... 425 00:41:22,148 --> 00:41:25,819 He did end up giving me those paternity papers that he never sent. 426 00:41:27,529 --> 00:41:30,448 So, what was his reasoning as to why he didn't send them? 427 00:41:30,532 --> 00:41:34,160 He just claims that, like, he works so much and so many long hours 428 00:41:34,244 --> 00:41:38,498 and finding the FedEx would just be like, really hard 429 00:41:38,581 --> 00:41:41,459 and inconvenient, is essentially what he said. 430 00:41:43,211 --> 00:41:45,755 And when someone really cares about you, 431 00:41:45,839 --> 00:41:47,674 nothing is too inconvenient. 432 00:41:47,757 --> 00:41:49,551 We'll know. 433 00:41:49,634 --> 00:41:53,138 The other thing is too, you know, he basically said, 434 00:41:53,221 --> 00:41:57,934 he's been seeing some other women in the past year. 435 00:41:58,018 --> 00:42:00,145 He's been seeing a couple other women? 436 00:42:00,228 --> 00:42:04,274 He's like, I guess had sex with like, a couple other women, like... 437 00:42:04,357 --> 00:42:06,109 You're kidding? 438 00:42:06,192 --> 00:42:08,403 And you're just finding out about this now? 439 00:42:08,486 --> 00:42:10,905 Yeah. That's a big deal, Aryanna. 440 00:42:12,365 --> 00:42:14,617 Odin was born ten weeks early, 441 00:42:14,701 --> 00:42:18,496 and it was a lot of medical issues going up and down that whole time. 442 00:42:18,580 --> 00:42:20,457 He was in the hospital for two months. 443 00:42:20,540 --> 00:42:23,835 It's just frustrating that Sherlon's sitting there living his life, 444 00:42:23,918 --> 00:42:25,587 living in his normal 445 00:42:25,670 --> 00:42:29,799 and not even thinking about what Aryanna and Odin are going through. 446 00:42:30,508 --> 00:42:32,344 Have you been talking to him about this? 447 00:42:32,427 --> 00:42:34,637 This is something very serious and important. 448 00:42:34,721 --> 00:42:36,806 I'm trying to kind of hold back on the conflicts 449 00:42:36,890 --> 00:42:39,184 where I haven't been pressing him too hard on it. 450 00:42:39,267 --> 00:42:41,603 But, Ary, that's the problem with you. 451 00:42:41,686 --> 00:42:44,564 You can't be holding back on the conflict. 452 00:42:44,647 --> 00:42:47,776 For the past year, Aryanna has really put Odin first. 453 00:42:47,859 --> 00:42:50,070 But I believe she deserves a partner 454 00:42:50,153 --> 00:42:53,323 that's going to love her and be someone she can rely on. 455 00:42:53,406 --> 00:42:56,368 And I definitely hope that it's somebody else that, 456 00:42:56,451 --> 00:42:58,661 that she can really share her life with. 457 00:42:58,745 --> 00:43:02,332 You have to decide, Aryanna, this is your life. 458 00:43:02,415 --> 00:43:06,419 Is this what you want for yourself? Is this what you want for Odin? 459 00:43:06,503 --> 00:43:08,713 Do you think you deserve that kind of life? 460 00:43:08,797 --> 00:43:12,092 Because guess what, as your mum, I don't think you deserve it. 461 00:43:12,926 --> 00:43:14,594 Right. 462 00:43:16,054 --> 00:43:20,058 When I got pregnant, my self-esteem was so low 463 00:43:20,141 --> 00:43:22,310 because I just gained so much weight. 464 00:43:22,394 --> 00:43:28,024 So, I let Sherlon get away with a lot of things that I shouldn't have. 465 00:43:28,775 --> 00:43:33,738 And my mum is right. I cannot let that continue to happen. 466 00:43:33,822 --> 00:43:35,865 Tonight, I really want you to be open 467 00:43:35,949 --> 00:43:38,243 and I really want you to let him know 468 00:43:38,326 --> 00:43:40,453 how you truly feel about things. 469 00:43:41,162 --> 00:43:44,374 You need to get some answers and you need to stand up for yourself. 470 00:43:45,917 --> 00:43:48,044 Tonight we're having dinner with Sherlon's mum, 471 00:43:48,128 --> 00:43:52,173 and I really hope she will take my side on things. 472 00:43:52,257 --> 00:43:55,176 I plan on telling her everything, 473 00:43:55,260 --> 00:44:00,181 because if I can't convince him to be the man that I need him to be, 474 00:44:00,265 --> 00:44:02,058 maybe his mum can. 475 00:44:02,142 --> 00:44:04,019 You deserve better. 476 00:44:07,230 --> 00:44:10,025 AMBER: Next time on Love In Paradise... 477 00:44:10,650 --> 00:44:13,695 Did you ever think you would fall for somebody that was polyamorous? 478 00:44:14,612 --> 00:44:18,658 I know we talked about bringing a third person in. I'm ready now. 479 00:44:18,742 --> 00:44:20,952 I need for you to feel confident 480 00:44:21,036 --> 00:44:24,914 that we could handle something like that. Erm... 481 00:44:30,211 --> 00:44:33,089 Aryanna, say how you truly feel. 482 00:44:33,173 --> 00:44:36,468 I wouldn't have got into this situation with you 483 00:44:36,551 --> 00:44:39,971 if I had any doubts about what kind of person you were. 484 00:44:40,555 --> 00:44:42,474 You misled me in a lot of ways. 485 00:44:42,557 --> 00:44:45,435 This conversation is making my head hurt. 486 00:44:46,978 --> 00:44:52,859 The plan was that Frankie can get married to me in United States 487 00:44:52,942 --> 00:44:55,987 and after that bring Gaby with me. 488 00:44:56,821 --> 00:45:00,367 I'm not sure if Abby was trying to mislead Frankie. 489 00:45:00,450 --> 00:45:02,202 I felt like it was some secrets there. 490 00:45:02,285 --> 00:45:06,122 He never mentioned to me about bringing Gaby back. 491 00:45:19,427 --> 00:45:22,639 Give me a break, give me a break! Please give me a break!