Previously on Love in Paradise...
I made a huge mistake keeping the truth from Gabby.
He basically said he's seen some other women in the past year.
I'm trying to kinda hold back on the conflict.
That's the problem with you. You can't be holding back.
She deserves a partner that's going to be someone that she can rely on
and I definitely hope that it's somebody else
that she can really share her life with.
You were outright trying to control my actions.
Maybe you are acting like this because you don't feel good with me.
Before I came to Colombia, my plan was to propose to Carlos,
but I can't propose until I'm sure this relationship has a future.
He feels like he's the man of the house
and he wants to know who's coming. Of course I'm the man of the house.
He is paying rent, so if he wants to bring somebody back, he can.
This is your fault.
I go get your chair for ya.
My mum is in town to meet Aryanna and Odin
and Karen for the first time.
My parents divorced when I was ten years old
and my mum moved to the US.
We still have a special bond,
but talking on the phone to my mum on video chat
is not like actually seeing her in person.
And right now, I'm over the moon that she's here so I could hug her.
Yes, sir. So how does it feel
to be back in Jamaica, my mother?
Grateful.
Aryanna's mum arrive in Jamaica today too.
Tonight, we're all getting together for dinner.
So is everything OK with you and Aryanna?
Well, we've been having some good days,
but I don't know what she's telling her mum.
So, you know, I don't know what to expect.
I would like to see Sherlon getting married at some point in his life
and settled down, raise his child.
I would love to see Sherlon and Aryanna together.
It's my wish, but it's up to them.
I see 'em coming there, Mummy.
I wonder if the baby is sleeping.
Hello. Hi.
You need help there or you got it?
Earlier today, I filled my mum in that Sherlon
has been sleeping around for the last year
and she was not pleased to hear that.
Hello. Hello, nice to meet you.
I'm Karen. Very nice to meet you. I'm Joan.
Joan, very nice to meet you. This is Aryanna.
I know. It's so good to see you in person.
So I am very anxious as to how this dinner is gonna go.
Oh, my God, and the little man over there.
Oh, my God, he's so, so super cute.
Mr Sherlon, seeing your son for the first time.
Has it been pretty emotional for you?
Can I tell you, like, my love for him
has only gotten stronger seeing him.
Is everything OK with you and this guy here?
I would say, if it's OK, it's just OK.
I think things could always be better, right?
Definitely. But I think we're working on it.
Working on it? It what? We are working on us, Mum.
We are working on us. OK.
Like, he came her so quick, like, it happened fast.
It happened fast.
I get what you're saying.
But the choices you two made doesn't give you that opportunity
like a normal couple would. That's right.
You know both have a responsibility
that's a big deal. I agree.
Because I don't think you really understand
just how difficult this is for her on her own.
I know Miss Karen is not my biggest fan,
but I wasn't expecting her to come in this hot,
especially in front of my mum.
There are times I come home from work and she is in the shower crying
because she's had a rough day with Odin.
She doesn't have anybody she can turn to.
I call her every day, or I try to call her every day.
Sometimes two times a day. But you never ask about me.
You talk about you and you talk about Odin.
You never ask about me.
So you don't open up, you don't say nothing to him?
If I try to bring, like, certain things up to him,
it's just like and he doesn't like it,
it's just like then I won't hear from him for, three or four days.
Yeah, I have seen that happen.
All right, I tell her all the time that I appreciate her,
but sometimes me, I don't like to hear the...
sad stuff and I will pull her up, because it makes me feel guilty.
But is that fair?
Hearing how Sherlon is not doing the right thing
by supporting her emotionally...
I'm shocked.
I didn't grow him up that way.
Sherlon, I'm gonna say my two cents.
Get yourself together.
Yes, you will call for your baby and talk to him or whatever,
but you got to talk to her too.
Yes, Mummy.
Aryanna, it don't matter what it is,
say how you truly feel and what you truly want...
It's just, like, when I first met you,
like, you we just so nice and loving and caring to me.
And I really looked at you
like, "OK, this is somebody I could really be with."
And then literally as soon as I was pregnant, you changed completely.
You misled me in a lot of ways.
You literally got what you wanted from me, you have a son,
where I'm there doing all the hard work by myself.
And it's like my feelings go out the window.
All right, ladies. Ladies, ladies, ladies.
This conversation is making my head hurt.
How come every time we bring up something difficult like this
you say your head hurts or you don't wanna continue?
All right, no. Talk about it.
Let us talk about what's on your mind. Just keep it real.
You gotta do the right thing. I'm serious.
Even my own mother is against me on this one.
So, I cannot beat around the bush no more.
I have to be honest and tell her the truth.
Go ahead, sir.
It's kimono night. I know. Girl's night.
Cheers! Cos we're fabulous.
My friend Ashton has been living with us for a week now
and although Daniel's not happy, I love it.
Do you wanna do a body shot. Oh, come on.
No, no, no, no, no. Come on, now.
After being at work all day and having to come home to just Daniel,
he's usually miserable,
so I do like having Ashton here, so I can laugh and just let loose.
Wanna see me do a handstand? I can do a handstand.
I can do, no, not a handstand, a headstand.
I would do, but my scrotum would fall out.
I knew all this was gonna happen.
Nope.
We need a pool.
Yeah, we can swim around and be drinking in the pool.
In the pool... Cos right now, I wish we was--
Heated pool.
I want to say something,
but the last time I say something about the house.
I just want my wife to consider my feelings.
How about we make a little cat parade?
Yeah! Cat parade.
Kitty!
Calvin!
Cat parade! Come here.
Pappy! Pappy...
Come here. Meow, meow!
This situation make me miss my life in Costa Rica,
so I call my brother, David, because he is my best friend.
I always want to bring my brother here to United State.
For that, I need a Green Card and I don't even have my work permit yet,
so it's...
Meow! Meow!
I love Amber.
Yours. You did not shut the treat bag and it feel out the cupboard.
I don't wanna.
Let me have fun, please?
We used to have fun in Costa Rica. What changed?
I don't know who I am anymore. I don't know my identity.
I don't know where I'm headed. Like, I feel lost.
For two seconds, I'm allowed to forget, Daniel.
Forget this hot mess. This is a hot mess.
Do you know how hard this is? You're not working full-time.
You're not the driver for everything. You're not the mother.
You're not the teacher, translator. You're not the secretary.
You're not making sure we lose all of our money.
No, no one told me this.
No one told me this!
Nobody told me this, Daniel!
Nobody told me this, so give me a fucking break!
Gimme a break! Please, gimme a break!
2 00:14:50.120 -- 00:14:54.440 align:middle line:90% position:50% Last night was the most horrible night of my entire life.
I finally tell Gaby my plans to marry Frankie and go to the US.
She was so hurt.
She get her own hotel room and now she don't want to talk with me.
Hi. Hey, sister.
How are you? I'm good. How about yourself?
How about yourself? Oh, I don't know.
Rodney asked to meet up today
because he has some more questions for me.
And I want to make sure that he understand
that I never meant to mislead anyone.
So, what happened last night after we left?
It seemed like you guys wasn't in a good spot.
Gaby say that I lied to her.
See, I feel bad because I thought
when you guys realised he wasn't coming,
I thought that y'all had communicated.
So I'd like to apologise for bringing it up last...
No, no, no, don't apologise. It was my fault.
She feel like I am gonna leave her here in Mexico
and I go only searching for my own love with Frankie.
And I explained that the first plan was that Frankie cames
and proposed to me and get married in United States
and after that, I'm gonna search the way to bring Gaby with me,
but she doesn't understand so clearly.
My understanding was Frankie was exclusively with you.
Even when he went to go buy the ring,
he was only focused about you and him.
He never mentioned to me about bringing Gaby back.
When we talk for the first time about the marriage,
he say that he will search the way to bring Gaby with me.
There's now way you can bring two girls back to the United States.
No. There's no way.
It's impossible to bring two women back to the United States.
I'm not sure if Abby knew that
or if she was trying to mislead Frankie.
I'm still unclear about that.
But I felt like there was some secrets there
and that makes me sceptical about Frankie's relationship with Abby.
Cos I'm like, if she's not honest with this person
that she's been with for ten years,
what makes you think she's gonna be honest with you?
So, one of the concerns that I had was,
were you taking advantage of the opportunity
to try to come to the United States? Was it a financial gain?
I mean, that was just something, because I was like, it was too soon.
It's a possibility, I know. It was happening too fast.
I never asked him for money,
but he say, "Maybe if you came in here to United States,
we can be together and you can have more opportunity.
And we'll be happy."
So that connection was real. Yeah.
But he broke my heart and he didn't care.
I only went to be with Frankie
because I thought that we were in love.
I was always honest with him.
If anyone was a liar, it's Frankie.
He didn't tell Rodney we are talking about bring Gaby with us
and he makes me believe that it was possible
the three of us we can live together in the US.
Even though he doesn't wanna hurt you guys or come between you two,
he still shoulda explained
"Hey, I don't wanna do this because this, this and that."
I really appreciate your honestly and your love for us.
But for right now...
It's best to be transparent and upfront.
The relationship will be better.
It just works for the best when you're upfront and honest.
I really love Gaby and I don't know what I was thinking
risking everything for a man I only met for five days.
I'm so afraid that I have destroyed everything and might lose her.
Look at this.
I don't wanna have to feel like I have to defend myself
or explain myself every five seconds.
It's condescending. Stop it.
You know, the attitude, the tone you use, you are not listening.
Leave me along.
Luckily, we talked last night and we are in a better place now.
God, that was fun. Thank you for kiss the experience.
He's so sexy and hot and I'm just dying for him.
I wanna come back and do it again one day.
Yep, definitely all of it was good.
I even seen you a little bit more comfortable
with being more intimate out here versus when we were in Barranquilla.
Gimme a kiss. Love you.
I can tell that Carlos is much more open.
His body language, the excitement in his voice,
the energy I feel from him,
let's me know that he feels supers comfortable in Santa Marta.
I hope this newfound openness
expands to other areas in our relationship.
We still have some time left on this trip together and see how it goes.
I hope to figure shit out.
I know you always is looking at my butt
and grabbing my butt and being like, "Well, you got a fat ass."
I'm always looking at your butt and "Ooh, your ass is so perfect."
We are both tops.
I have hope in my soul that you, maybe one day, could be bottom.
"Maybe one day." You so funny.
Since Carlos and I both identify as tops,
we have been enjoying sex without penetration
ever since I arrived in Colombia,
but I know Carlos has been hoping that I will be verse,
which means being open to doing a combination of top and bottom.
But that just ain't me.
As a polyamorous person, my solution is to introduce a third person
into the relationship that identifies as a bottom.
I just have to get Carlos on board with the idea.
Did you ever think you would fall for somebody that was polyamorous
or did you even know what polyamory was before you met me?
Actually, the first time I heard the polyamorous word was with you.
I know we talked about bringing a third person in and I'm ready now.
I need for you to feel more confident
that we could handle something like that.
I know you have the capacity to love different person at the same time
and I think that we need time to understand better each other.
I understand Carlos's hesitation with polyamory
and I agree, considering how much Carlos and I have been fighting
since I arrived.
Maybe we do need more time as couple before we venture out
and consider adding a third person to this relationship.
How about we spend two or three years monogamous
and after three years or so, go from there?
That gives plenty of time.
Perfect to me. All right.
I was hoping that VaLentine will become bottom,
but right now he's really good at other things
and I feel completely satisfied without penetration.
The benefits to wait two or three years
to be polyamorous in this relationship
are that we will have time to know each other more
before including a third person.
Three years, yes? Thank you, yeah.
I do really appreciate that, because I know that is hard for you.
I'm willing to make this compromise for Carlos because I love him.
And I have to trust that Carlos will stick to this agreement
and that we can revisit the idea of polyamory in two to three years.
But if Carlos can't accept polyamory and totally shuts it down altogether
and say he's not willing to do it,
that could be the end of our relationship, I think.
Yeah, I mean, it'll almost be inevitable.
2 00:31:10.200 -- 00:31:13.520 align:middle line:90% position:50% I haven't seen Gaby since our fight last night,
but now she has finally agreed to talk with me.
I only hope that Gaby understands that I love her so much
and my plans with Frankie always included her.
I really did feel equal love for Frankie and Gaby
and I don't regret it.
But I know I should include Gaby
in my conversation with Frankie about our plans
because she was in the plan from the beginning.
2 00:35:43.120 -- 00:35:44.760 align:middle line:90% position:50% Go ahead, sir.
I take full ownership of...
misleading you, Aryanna.
Everything that you said, yes, it's true.
I get what I want in terms of sexual stuff.
I get what I want, sometimes I lose interest.
When we just met, it was all fun.
That was it for me and I didn't take it as seriously as Aryanna.
In the beginning, I charmed Aryanna
to think that I wanted a serious relationship and I didn't mean it.
But when she got pregnant, it got complicated.
And I couldn't just run away like I normally do.
...we are tied because of Odin.
I wouldn't have got into this situation with you
if I had any doubts about what kind of person you were.
You presented yourself in a way to me
that it was just kind of like, all a lie.
For a long time now,
I've suspected that Sherlon has misled me from the start.
How do you say you love someone and wanna share a life with them
and then completely shut down once they've had your baby?
But any time we've talked about it, he would change the subject.
The truth stings, but I finally got it out of him.
Well, guess what, you need to stop going around
and messing with people's daughters.
Because this conversation right now, you know what I feel like?
I feel like I want the best for my daughter and I want someone.
Right now, from hearing you, I don't think that you might be the one,
because you are too into how you feel
to open up to anybody else.
And she deserves better than that. That's all there is to it.
She deserves better.
She deserves someone that's going to cherish and love her.
Love her, cherish her and nourish her,
because I would want a man in my life that would take care of me.
To see Aryanna get emotional...
I get emotional too,
because I feel her pain and I feel for her.
Because I would not want anybody to treat me
the way that he is treating Aryanna.
As hard as the conversation will be, if you truly do not feel
that there's any chance of any type of relationship between you two,
then she needs to move on.
And if you really are a good person,
you will realise that and you will give her that opportunity
if that's how you truly feel in your heart.
Don't dance around that one. Yes.
Hold on, can I ask you a question, sir?
Are you scared of being loved?
It's not afraid of being loved, man.
It's about being afraid of making myself vulnerable.
Do you know why? When I was in the tenth grade, right,
I had this little girlfriend from school days,
I just generally love her.
But then her own family member told me that,
"Sherlon, she's cheating on you."
That made my heart cold.
And from that day, I put a wall up around my heart.
I mean, at this point, I'm, like, bro ,you're a 36-year-old man.
That was 20 years ago.
Like, I had my heart broke at 16 too,
but you don't see it, directing the rest of my life.
Like, that is something you should a laid to rest a long time ago.
Everybody's had a bad heartbreak in their life,
but you don't shut down your life forever. That's not healthy.
I just have to fix my trust issues and commitment issues.
I got to work on me.
But do you have a plan to fix yourself?
Cos you can't just say that I'm gonna fix myself.
If I have to see a psychiatrist to fix myself, I will.
If that's what it takes.
Do you think you could have a relationship,
like a serious relationship with Aryanna,
not dancing around anything?
Mum, of course. OK.
Yeah, and we are working on us.
Because, again, I don't want her to keep...
Waiting on you? ...waiting on me,
because it's unfair to her.
If Sherlon does not follow through on his promises
he's making about changing, I will be very disappointed in him,
but I'm also probably not gonna be too surprised.
I just don't think he's right for her. Not at all.
Your mum and I have told you all what we feel like
and it's you two, you've gotta work this out.
I'm more than willing to watch Odin
so you guys can have some time together,
because by the end of this trip, you need to decide what's gonna go on.
Here I have this beautiful girl that wants to be with me
and a son who deserve his father in his life.
It would be selfish of me not to try to make it work,
but it's something I've never done in my life,
so I will just have to try harder
to, like, not fall back...
and go back to my dirty ways.
We say our peace, we can't make you do anything.
So it's up to you. It's up to you.
Choose wisely.
Next time on Love in Paradise.
I've never been to a Venezuelan barbecue.
It just wasn't exactly like a normal American barbecue
with hot dogs and hamburgers.
What is this?
No!
This pretty little face that you have and your fat-ass booty.
This is the first time since Odin was conceived
that Sherlon and I are flirting again.
What have you told her?
I didn't give her so many details.
I'm planning to tell my sister that I'm homosexual.
Oh, my God, she's here.
My heart is beating so fast.