1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:03,000 ALLISON: Previously... Go! 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:04,040 (CHILD SQUEALS) 3 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:06,640 ..in the search for Australia's best parenting style... 4 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:08,680 BOY: Yucky! 5 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:13,160 ..our first four focus parents came under fire. 6 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:16,760 Kids at a beach by themself at that age makes me physically ill. 7 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,520 Yeah, there's always lifesavers. That's not OK. 8 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:23,760 And outback parenting was voted best of the night. 9 00:00:23,800 --> 00:00:25,480 (APPLAUSE) Thanks, guys. 10 00:00:27,280 --> 00:00:28,400 Tonight... 11 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:30,160 WOMAN: You've got this, babes. 12 00:00:30,200 --> 00:00:31,480 ..our focus parents... 13 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:33,360 SAMMY: Good boy. (LAUGHS) 14 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:34,640 ..leap into action... 15 00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:36,800 I don't want to do this. (SCREAMS) 16 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:40,160 ..face up to every parent's worst fear... 17 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:45,520 You're in a crowd, you turn around and your child is gone. 18 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:46,880 We've lost you. 19 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:47,960 LARISSA: Where is she? 20 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:49,240 I'm actually starting to get worried. 21 00:00:49,280 --> 00:00:52,160 I don't think it's responsible. 22 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:53,960 ..and put a bullseye... 23 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:55,920 Isn't she a stupid baby? 24 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:57,000 ..on bullying. 25 00:00:57,040 --> 00:00:58,720 Hey, give me my hat back. 26 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:01,000 If my kid smacked someone in the face, 27 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:04,120 I'd be, like, "Mate, high-five. Good job. Stick up for yourself." 28 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:06,960 A lot of young boys die from being king-hit in the face. 29 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:09,040 If you run away, good chance you're GONNA get king-hit. 30 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:12,440 Then our panel decides... 31 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:14,800 I can't stand whingeing kids. (IMITATES WHINGEING) 32 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:18,320 The way they are with violence and their children 33 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:19,520 is something that's problematic. 34 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:20,800 Yep. 35 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:25,120 ..which of the first four parenting styles will make the final? 36 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,160 # Am I ready? # Girl, there ain't a doubt 37 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:35,680 # Am I ready... # 38 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:38,120 Justin, tell me, as a dad, not as a parenting expert, 39 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:41,200 does it get any easier? 40 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:42,840 Define 'easier'. 41 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,200 More sleep, less tantrums. 42 00:01:45,240 --> 00:01:48,600 Ali, you're the one that chose breakfast television. 43 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:50,160 (BOTH LAUGH) That's true. 44 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:52,760 Hi, parents. 45 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,680 It's so good to have you here. 46 00:01:56,720 --> 00:01:58,080 So nice to see you. 47 00:01:58,120 --> 00:02:00,520 # Am I ready? # 48 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,680 Welcome to the 'Game of Thrones' of parenting. 49 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:05,120 (LAUGHTER) 50 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:10,280 We've taken 12 sets of parents with 12 different parenting styles 51 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:12,320 and sent them over the wall 52 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:17,000 to battle the toughest parenting challenges ever. 53 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:20,720 Last time, we started to understand 54 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:24,840 our gentle, honest, lighthouse and outback parents. 55 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:29,600 Tency and David, our outback parents, you were the frontrunners. 56 00:02:29,640 --> 00:02:32,120 Let's see how you go today. 57 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:35,720 Any of you can be going through to the final. 58 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:37,160 And panel parents, 59 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:41,200 it's up to you to decide which way you think works best 60 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,520 because later on you're going to vote for the focus parents 61 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:49,040 you want to face the Final Family Challenge. 62 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:51,040 OK. 63 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:54,880 Parents, this challenge might be really triggering 64 00:02:54,920 --> 00:02:59,640 but it's a really important conversation to have. 65 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,720 It involves bullying in the playground. 66 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:04,840 (EXHALES) 67 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:10,080 Seven out of ten kids will experience bullying at some stage 68 00:03:10,120 --> 00:03:15,200 and we as parents typically don't know how to fix it. 69 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:19,400 In this challenge, 70 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:23,360 we had a nanny take one of your children to a playground 71 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:27,080 where they were befriended by two child actors. 72 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:30,760 While they were playing, one child began taunting the other. 73 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:38,440 85% of bullying instances, there are bystanders present. 74 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:42,880 What that means is that we can make a difference by teaching our kids 75 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:44,360 what they can actually do 76 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:47,800 when they see it in a way that keeps them safe. 77 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:51,400 This challenge will test how the children behave 78 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:54,640 when confronted with a bullying-style situation. 79 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,800 Have they been taught to avoid the conflict 80 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:03,120 or have they been taught to step up, intervene and do what's right? 81 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:07,000 Focus parents, you haven't seen this before. 82 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,560 Just remember that we're looking at these incidences 83 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:11,880 from the bystander point of view too. 84 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:13,880 Your kids involved aren't being bullied. 85 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:20,720 We want to see if these children have been taught how to intervene... 86 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:22,040 Whee! 87 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:23,440 ..and not be a bystander. 88 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:31,240 Oh... 89 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:36,040 As gentle parents, we just try to teach our kids, you know, 90 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:38,520 you treat others with kindness and how you would like to be treated. 91 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:45,160 GIRL: Come on, let's go ask him if he wants to play. 92 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:47,880 Hello. What's your name? 93 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:49,120 Levi. 94 00:04:49,160 --> 00:04:51,720 Do you want to go on the swings? Yeah. 95 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:53,880 MARCUS: Having experienced bullying as a child, 96 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:57,600 I really want to equip my kids with the ability to handle bullying. 97 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:01,320 GIRL: Hey, that's not fair. 98 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:02,640 GIRL: Yes, it is. I just got on. 99 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:04,680 Get off now. 100 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:06,560 No, you can just go on a different swing. 101 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,400 You're a stupid baby with your overalls. 102 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:13,080 You do nothing right. 103 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:15,880 Levi, isn't she a stupid baby? 104 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:17,960 LEVI: Mmm... She does dumb things at school. 105 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:19,800 She can't even do a cartwheel. 106 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:26,680 Can you? 107 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:28,840 (LAUGHTER) 108 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:30,800 I can do a cartwheel. 109 00:05:30,840 --> 00:05:32,000 You're so mean. 110 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:33,920 Hey, give my hat back! 111 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:35,600 Come on, Levi. 112 00:05:35,640 --> 00:05:36,840 Levi, run. Go. 113 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:38,120 OK. 114 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:43,720 Thank you. 115 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:46,040 Thank you. 116 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:53,680 WOMAN: Oh, Levi nailed it. 117 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:55,880 Oh, I feel like I could cry. 118 00:05:55,920 --> 00:05:57,600 (LAUGHS) He nailed it. 119 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:00,640 BILLY: Oh, boy. 120 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:03,320 Go to the top and never come down. 121 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,880 Ah, this is a great view up here. 122 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:09,160 As an honest parent, I cannot stand bullying. 123 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:12,440 How old are you? Ten. 124 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:14,600 I'm nine. GIRL: And I'm eight. 125 00:06:14,640 --> 00:06:16,680 I guess I'm the oldest. 126 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:19,280 I've said to my children, when it comes to bullying, 127 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:23,400 don't let anybody feel a pain that you would not want to feel yourself. 128 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:27,880 Hey, that's not fair! Yes, it is. I just went on. 129 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:30,000 I want a go! You don't need to. 130 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:32,320 I just got on. Well, it's my turn! 131 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:35,480 No, I just got on. It can't be your turn. 132 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:41,440 Isn't she a baby? 133 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,720 Not really. She's eight years old. 134 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:47,280 (IMITATES EXPLOSION) 135 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:52,160 Just let me have a go! No. 136 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:56,120 Hey, can I have my hat back? No. 137 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:57,400 Billy. 138 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:01,720 I'm good. I'm just gonna, like... 139 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:12,280 What a legend. 140 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:22,560 As lighthouse parents, it's all about arming your children 141 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,160 with the tools to make good decisions in life 142 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:27,120 when we're not able to be there. 143 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:28,280 Hi. Hi. 144 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:30,880 My name's Lucy. My name's Pepper. 145 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:34,000 Pepper has been bullied in the past and so she knows how it feels, 146 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:35,040 so I'm 100% confident 147 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:37,600 that if she did ever see another kid being bullied, 148 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:39,040 that she would definitely speak up. 149 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:41,120 Do you want to go on the swing? Sure. 150 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:45,920 (LAUGHS) I got it first. You're just gonna have to go on the baby swing. 151 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:49,080 No! Give it! No, I was here first! 152 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:50,640 No! Give me your hat. Stop it! 153 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:52,200 Come and get it. Hey, give it back! 154 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:54,600 Come and get it. Guys, guys, don't fight. 155 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:55,760 Don't fight. It's not nice. 156 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:58,280 Come on. Come on. 157 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:01,040 Give it back. OK. 158 00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:02,520 OK, OK, OK. 159 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:04,040 Here, pass black. 160 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:05,480 Pass back. 161 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:07,680 Do 21 Is It or something like that. Thank you. 162 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:12,640 It's not nice to fight. I've already had enough experience. 163 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:19,840 KAT: Yeah! 164 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:22,560 SAMMY: I'm so proud. 165 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:24,680 She's such a cool kid. 166 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:26,680 She's beyond her years, man. 167 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:29,600 I didn't think that that would get me. 168 00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:34,600 We work really hard to raise these kids to be exactly like that 169 00:08:34,640 --> 00:08:36,680 and to know that it's working... 170 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:38,440 You know, we have a family motto to say, 171 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:41,040 "Today I'm going to be smart and kind and brave and strong." 172 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:43,080 Bravery is standing up for your beliefs 173 00:08:43,120 --> 00:08:45,080 and standing up to bullies, essentially. 174 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:46,960 That's what that derives from. 175 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:49,880 How about Kat's daughter Billy? 176 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:51,120 It was great seeing Billy. 177 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:53,640 She just went, "Nup, I don't want to be a part of it." 178 00:08:53,680 --> 00:08:55,680 It was very cool to see. Yeah. 179 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:57,880 I felt very happy with that. 180 00:08:57,920 --> 00:08:59,320 Larissa and Marcus. 181 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:02,920 I love that Levi actually put the bully in his own place. Yeah. 182 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:04,480 Like, he said, "Can you do it?" 183 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:07,640 He just showed us how you parent 184 00:09:07,680 --> 00:09:10,160 in the way that he managed that situation. 185 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:11,920 I think it's a stereotype of gentle parenting, 186 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:16,440 that, like, the kids are meek and mild and a doormat, perhaps. 187 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:19,160 But it's not. It's about equipping them. 188 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:22,040 So, to see, like... That's exactly what I would've wanted him to do. 189 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:23,720 Yep. 190 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:26,720 JUSTIN: There's a lot of things that we can do to help our kids 191 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:28,000 when it comes to bullying. 192 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:31,520 One of my favourite lines is to empower your kids 193 00:09:31,560 --> 00:09:34,200 to look at the other person and say, "What makes you think that's OK?" 194 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:37,080 Yeah. Yeah. I love that. 195 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:43,440 Ultimately, we need to teach our kids to grow from being a bystander 196 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:47,200 to an upstander by taking just a few steps. 197 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:49,000 Tell the bully to stop, 198 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:52,160 involve other bystanders to help direct the bully away 199 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:55,080 and help the victim extricate themselves 200 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:58,040 and finally, report the behaviour to a safe adult. 201 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:01,720 ALLISON: OK. We still have one more to see. 202 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:06,640 Whee! Whee! 203 00:10:11,560 --> 00:10:13,400 Bullying really scares me. 204 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:15,080 What's your name? Wyatt. 205 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:18,560 As outback parents, we've always told them, 206 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:21,920 if it comes to it and they're putting their hands on you 207 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:24,400 and the teachers aren't doing anything 208 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:26,560 then you're allowed to retaliate. 209 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:30,400 A good smack in the face is gonna pull them up pretty quick. (LAUGHS) 210 00:10:32,600 --> 00:10:34,280 GIRL: Craig, move. BOY: No. 211 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:36,000 I don't want to play anymore. Craig, move. 212 00:10:36,040 --> 00:10:38,720 I don't want to play anymore. How about you? 213 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:42,760 You're being so stupid. Why do you always have to be such a baby? 214 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:44,360 I'm not. Move. 215 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:48,360 Hey, give me my hat back. 216 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:50,520 Nope. Wyatt, catch. 217 00:10:52,560 --> 00:10:53,680 (SQUEALS) 218 00:10:56,880 --> 00:10:57,880 Thanks, Wyatt. 219 00:10:57,920 --> 00:10:59,640 (TENCY LAUGHS) 220 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:08,760 AMY: You could see that he was uncomfortable with the situation 221 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:11,000 and it was an uneasy place for him to be 222 00:11:11,040 --> 00:11:13,520 and he just wanted to give it back - I loved that. 223 00:11:13,560 --> 00:11:15,280 Yeah, he was, like, "I'm staying out of it." 224 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:16,760 (LAUGHTER) 225 00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:19,400 I do think we have to mention the fact that you did say 226 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:20,920 that you've told your children 227 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:22,560 to punch other kids in the face, though. 228 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:25,760 I have, I have and I'm not ashamed of that. 229 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:27,320 I would do the same. 230 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:30,720 I think that can be defence, though. If another kid is there... 231 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:35,480 And they're attacking you, you can't get away, that keeps happening, 232 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:36,760 punch them in the face. 233 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:38,480 (EXCLAIMS) 234 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:40,640 Punch the kid in the face? 235 00:11:40,680 --> 00:11:43,360 Yeah, that's like a last resort. 236 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:47,240 If they've taken all the steps that is required 237 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:48,960 and there has been nothing done... 238 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:50,240 My kid comes home and says 239 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:52,440 "I smacked someone in the face, I got suspended," 240 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:56,640 I'd be, like, "Mate, high-five. Good job. Stick up for yourself." 241 00:11:59,880 --> 00:12:03,160 I find this interesting 'cause I really want to say no violence 242 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:06,240 but then if, like, my son or my daughter was getting hit, 243 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:07,280 then, well, yeah. 244 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:11,280 DAVID: The stark reality of this is 245 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:13,800 schoolkids don't just sit there and verbally abuse each other. 246 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:16,600 Once someone picks a target in a school, 247 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:19,800 bullying escalates very quickly from verbal to physical. 248 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:21,280 And once that happens, 249 00:12:21,320 --> 00:12:24,920 your child is now in the firing line of being hurt. Yep. 250 00:12:24,960 --> 00:12:26,920 There's also a lot of young boys that die 251 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:28,120 from being king-hit in the face. 252 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:30,480 If you run away, good chance you're GONNA get king-hit. 253 00:12:30,520 --> 00:12:34,360 If you stand up and face it and you stand up to that problem 254 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:36,720 and you punch them back in the face while you're getting hit, 255 00:12:36,760 --> 00:12:38,760 you've got a lot less chance of being hurt 256 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:40,320 than what you do sitting there copping it, 257 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:42,440 getting kicked in the ribs and stomped on on the ground. 258 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:44,680 If they're getting smacked in the face, smack them back. 259 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:51,360 SAMMY: We teach our kids that violence is never on the table. 260 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:53,480 It's very black and white, in our opinion. 261 00:12:53,520 --> 00:12:57,440 I believe if a child is bullying you 262 00:12:57,480 --> 00:13:02,240 and you've gone to all the outlets possible and it has not stopped, 263 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:04,320 give them a dose of their own medicine. 264 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:07,800 When bullying becomes physical, 265 00:13:07,840 --> 00:13:10,200 things can start to get really scary. 266 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:13,600 But rather than telling our kids to hit back, 267 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:17,400 we can tell them to do only what they need to do 268 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:19,800 to block the attack and run. 269 00:13:19,840 --> 00:13:20,880 ALLISON: Coming up... 270 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:22,440 That's mine! 271 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:25,880 ..we put gentle parenting under the microscope. 272 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:28,840 That is not expressing your emotions. That's being a brat. 273 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:30,840 And what would you do... 274 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:32,360 Is Jude with you? JASON: (ON PHONE) No. 275 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:33,840 We've lost him. 276 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:36,080 ..if your child went missing? 277 00:13:37,160 --> 00:13:38,600 KAT: Hey, baby! 278 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:40,200 Then, at the end of the night... 279 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:41,640 JUSTIN: Time to vote. 280 00:13:41,680 --> 00:13:44,800 ..which parenting style will be voted through to the final? 281 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:54,480 # End of the day I do it better... # 282 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:01,880 ALLISON: We're here to find Australia's best parenting style. 283 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:03,360 And there's more challenges to come. 284 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:07,360 Before that, why don't we take a deeper look 285 00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:10,880 into Larissa and Marcus's gentle parenting? 286 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:14,520 Gentle parenting is based on compassion and kindness, 287 00:14:14,560 --> 00:14:17,200 with no yelling and no punishments. 288 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:21,520 Children are empowered and treated with total patience. 289 00:14:21,560 --> 00:14:25,440 The aim is to raise kids who are empathic, calm 290 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:27,800 and who have self-control. 291 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:35,200 LARISSA: Right, who wants to do Play-Doh or play a game? 292 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:36,640 Play-Doh. Play-Doh? 293 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:38,120 Play-Doh! Play-Doh? 294 00:14:38,160 --> 00:14:40,120 Gentle parenting makes our life easier 295 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,000 because we're not trying to control our kids. 296 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:44,000 Do you want purple Play-Doh or kinetic sand? 297 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:46,600 Kinetic sand. 298 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:50,280 We guide things, so we are technically in charge 299 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:52,000 but we're really about moving things 300 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:54,120 in the direction that we want them to turn out. 301 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:56,920 And so, the kids can have a say in what happens. 302 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:58,880 Do you want me to roll some more for you? 303 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:01,840 I roll. I like to roll, man. 304 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:02,880 Alright. 305 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:06,400 I grew up in a family where you had to listen to your parents 306 00:15:06,440 --> 00:15:08,200 and do exactly what they said 307 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:11,600 and so there wasn't much room for personal development or growth. 308 00:15:11,640 --> 00:15:15,400 How about you... That's mine! That's mine! 309 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:17,160 So, whilst other people might be thinking, 310 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:18,920 "Oh, why aren't they acting in this certain way..." 311 00:15:18,960 --> 00:15:21,320 You relax and let's draw straws again... 312 00:15:21,360 --> 00:15:24,440 Yeah, I need them! It's just mine! 313 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:27,000 No! No! 314 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:29,800 ..our expectation is always, well, they're just being kids. 315 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:32,480 (LAUGHS) There he is! (WHINES) 316 00:15:32,520 --> 00:15:34,080 Uh-uh. 317 00:15:34,120 --> 00:15:36,640 We don't throw things at people or try to hurt them. 318 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:40,800 Hey, Levi, do you like... 319 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:41,960 Levi... 320 00:15:42,000 --> 00:15:44,160 We try not to raise our voice and yell, 321 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:47,120 we try and model just good conversation. 322 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:49,960 It's OK to feel angry in our family, isn't it? 323 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:53,600 But it's not OK to hurt people or... No! 324 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:56,120 (DOOR SLAMS) (CALLS OUT) 325 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:59,800 Right, Levi, you know the rule. If you slam this door... 326 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:03,760 That's not the way it's meant to be done. 327 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:05,480 (MOUTHS WORD) 328 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,560 I think a good childhood 329 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:11,160 is one where you are free to explore who you are and how you feel 330 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:14,680 and feel supported within that, so they do get freedom... 331 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:15,720 Mmm. 332 00:16:15,760 --> 00:16:17,720 ..but they also know they have love, no matter what. 333 00:16:17,760 --> 00:16:20,040 Can I have some more water? Yeah, sure. 334 00:16:20,080 --> 00:16:21,600 There we go. Look at that. 335 00:16:23,080 --> 00:16:25,080 The gentle parenting, I think it's impressive 336 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:27,160 the way that you never join their circus. (LAUGHS) 337 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:29,600 Being able to maintain that calm was amazing. 338 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:33,640 Is it part of your style to always stay calm 339 00:16:33,680 --> 00:16:36,440 and never kind of show them how you're actually feeling? 340 00:16:36,480 --> 00:16:38,760 Oh, no, they know how we feel. MARCUS: Yeah. 341 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:41,640 SARAH: OK, because I think it's important for your kids 342 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:45,880 to actually see that you have emotions and feelings as well. 343 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:47,960 If they're showing you how angry they are, 344 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:49,880 they want to get a reaction out of you. 345 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:52,280 It's like being on stage and the audience just going like that 346 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:53,640 and no-one clapping you. 347 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:55,720 I spend a lot of time and I'll tell them, like, 348 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:56,960 "I'm feeling really angry right now. 349 00:16:57,000 --> 00:16:58,880 "I'm gonna go to my bedroom for a few minutes 350 00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:00,760 "and I'll be back out when I feel calm." 351 00:17:02,840 --> 00:17:06,320 As a foster parent, we've fostered over 30 children... 352 00:17:06,360 --> 00:17:07,680 Mmm. 353 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:09,320 ..and it's completely our whole thing. 354 00:17:09,360 --> 00:17:13,160 Like, these kids come in and they test to see how far they can go. 355 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:14,720 Who's in control? 356 00:17:14,760 --> 00:17:17,600 "Are you really gonna, like, put me in my place 357 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:19,920 "or am I gonna take over and be in control here?" 358 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:25,880 I understand the intention behind being gentle, 359 00:17:25,920 --> 00:17:29,360 but I wonder whether it would be hard for them to function 360 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:34,480 in different environments when they're so nurtured at home. 361 00:17:34,520 --> 00:17:39,760 So, they wouldn't be like that at a friend's house. 362 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:42,440 They're not like that at school or church or places like that. 363 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:43,760 Well, I think I know why. 364 00:17:45,360 --> 00:17:48,840 Because the people that are looking after your kids outside of the home 365 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:52,360 are much more authoritative than you, so they know their place. 366 00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:55,520 I think kids will always... absolutely they'll test boundaries. 367 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:57,760 We would rather our kids test them with us. 368 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:03,080 Gentle parenting is definitely not for me 369 00:18:03,120 --> 00:18:05,600 and I don't think it's for you either. No, it's not for me. 370 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:08,960 This would not last in your house. This is not a thing. 371 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:11,320 We would not implement this at any point in time. 372 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:15,240 I did initially think that the gentle parenting style 373 00:18:15,280 --> 00:18:16,880 would be extremely fluffy 374 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:21,000 but I'm actually seeing a really strong woman in Larissa. 375 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:23,600 If she's got the time and the patience to do that 376 00:18:23,640 --> 00:18:26,040 and it's working for them, kudos to her. 377 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:30,880 Our next challenge is about that heart-in-the-mouth moment. 378 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:38,760 You're in a crowd, you turn around and your child is gone. 379 00:18:40,920 --> 00:18:47,280 What have you, as parents, told your children to do if they're lost? 380 00:18:48,360 --> 00:18:52,760 This challenge will reveal if these parents have prepared their children 381 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:55,640 to cope with becoming separated in a crowd. 382 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:59,080 We're looking for families to have a solid plan 383 00:18:59,120 --> 00:19:01,160 that they've communicated to their child. 384 00:19:04,120 --> 00:19:05,920 In this challenge, we asked our parents 385 00:19:05,960 --> 00:19:09,000 to visit a crowded location with their children, 386 00:19:09,040 --> 00:19:14,280 then we created a diversion so one child became separated. 387 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:15,320 Buddy. 388 00:19:15,360 --> 00:19:17,760 The parents were unaware this was happening. 389 00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:24,440 KAT: I'm gonna introduce you to the fine art of window-shopping. 390 00:19:24,480 --> 00:19:27,040 In your mind, you can have whatever you want 391 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:30,520 but in actual fact, you can have nothing. 392 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:32,760 (LAUGHTER) 393 00:19:32,800 --> 00:19:36,920 I'm a single mum. I am raising ten-year-old twins. 394 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:39,960 As an honest parent, I have said to the children, 395 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:43,480 "If you ever cannot see me, you need to stay exactly where you are. 396 00:19:43,520 --> 00:19:45,080 "I will find you." 397 00:19:45,120 --> 00:19:48,520 Where's Billy? I don't know. 398 00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:50,960 Alright. Let's just have a little look. 399 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:58,280 Just look for her on that side. 400 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:00,880 Just keep me in your sight, though, alright? 401 00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:02,920 Keep looking around, Jesse. 402 00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:04,880 I've got you in my sights, don't worry about that. 403 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:06,560 Mum, she's probably crying. 404 00:20:06,600 --> 00:20:07,920 Aw! 405 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:10,600 Don't panic, Jesse. 406 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:14,120 At this kind of point in time, neither of us can panic. 407 00:20:14,160 --> 00:20:15,440 We need to stay extremely calm. 408 00:20:17,160 --> 00:20:18,720 And her phone's not on. 409 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:20,080 OK. 410 00:20:20,120 --> 00:20:21,120 It isn't? No. 411 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:22,200 That's alright. Don't panic. 412 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:24,280 So, just leave it with me for a second. 413 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:27,680 KAT: Jesse's, you know, pretty addicted to his sister. 414 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,280 He's always been extremely protective of her. 415 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:34,560 He also, due to having autism and he's also got ADHD, 416 00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:37,800 he really, really, really feels things. 417 00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,880 I know that he's gonna panic, so I can't panic. 418 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:42,840 Mum, what if we actually go home without her? 419 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:45,400 No-one's going home without anyone. Yes, we probably will. 420 00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:47,320 We will not leave this spot until we find her. 421 00:20:47,360 --> 00:20:49,120 So we just keep walking, keep looking. 422 00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:50,760 She knows that we're coming to get her. 423 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:52,440 Oh... 424 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:53,560 It's alright, love. 425 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,400 I'm really not worried about her just yet. 426 00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:00,440 Give me five more minutes and then I will be. 427 00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:05,120 Found her. Found her. Found her. 428 00:21:05,160 --> 00:21:08,680 Billy! 429 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:14,680 Hey, baby! 430 00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:16,920 I love you. 431 00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:18,440 Honestly... (KISSES) 432 00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,120 (LAUGHTER) 433 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:21,520 Can I have a hug? 434 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,360 (EXHALES) Oh, you've listened! 435 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:26,800 I nearly cried. 436 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:28,040 I know you nearly cried. 437 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,640 I could see that you're trying to reassure two people. 438 00:21:37,680 --> 00:21:41,480 You were worried about finding Billy but you're reassuring yourself. 439 00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:44,320 That's two tasks at the same time and you did so well. 440 00:21:44,360 --> 00:21:45,800 You were so reassuring. 441 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,040 You were calm, you led by example 442 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:52,480 and his empathy for her in that situation was outstanding. 443 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:55,280 'Cause you stayed calm, that's kept him calm. 444 00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:57,800 If you'd flipped out, then he would've flipped out. 445 00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:59,040 Oh, absolutely. Yeah. 446 00:22:00,360 --> 00:22:03,000 Sometimes Kat comes across as really funny 447 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:05,520 and not taking things too seriously 448 00:22:05,560 --> 00:22:08,520 but this, she really showed that she's got a really nurturing side 449 00:22:08,560 --> 00:22:10,160 and that shone through, 450 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:12,320 that she balances that really well with the humour. 451 00:22:12,360 --> 00:22:18,080 Alright. Time to see how our other parents did in the same challenge. 452 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,400 Me go to the toilet. 453 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:25,960 OK. We've got to find one. 454 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:31,000 Going to a shopping centre with kids is always a ton of...fun? 455 00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:34,520 Don't do that. No. No. 456 00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:37,160 Oh, god. Oh! 457 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:39,080 We're outnumbered. 458 00:22:39,120 --> 00:22:40,760 There's four children, there's two parents. 459 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:43,800 You're always pulled in sort of ten different directions whenever we go. 460 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:46,920 So we've told the kids that if they do ever get lost 461 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:49,840 to stay where they are and we'll come and find them. 462 00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:52,320 You need to go to the toilet. Do you want me to go? 463 00:22:52,360 --> 00:22:54,920 It's just there. Lottie, we're going to the toilet. 464 00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:57,520 Where's Jude? We're missing a child. 465 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:01,800 Is that Jude? 466 00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:04,360 No, that's not Jude, is it? I thought that was him. 467 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:07,800 Is Jude with you? JASON: (ON PHONE) No. 468 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,520 OK. So we've lost him. 469 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,560 No, we've just got to find Jude. We've lost Jude. 470 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:17,880 So when I realised that Jude was missing, 471 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:22,000 I went into full mum mode. 472 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:25,920 I made sure the kids that were with me were safe. 473 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,240 Pepper, I've gotta go find Jude. 474 00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:30,160 Can you stay with Lottie, please? PEPPER: Lottie. 475 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:35,400 I don't know where he would've gone, is the thing. 476 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:36,760 I'll find him. 477 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:38,400 He's probably at the park here somewhere. 478 00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:43,160 Jude... 479 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:44,320 Oh, god. My god. 480 00:23:44,360 --> 00:23:46,120 Where were you? 481 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:47,560 Are you OK? 482 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:49,000 I need to do a poo. 483 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:50,960 (LAUGHTER) 484 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:52,360 Hey. Where are you? 485 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:54,560 I have him. He's upstairs here. I got him. 486 00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:55,880 Oh, yeah, I can see you. 487 00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:57,120 Now, we've got to go back 488 00:23:57,160 --> 00:23:59,720 'cause Pepper's looking after Lottie at the playground. 489 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:01,560 Pepper's a really responsible big sister, 490 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,680 so I knew that she would definitely do a good job 491 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:04,800 in helping look after Lottie. 492 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:06,640 Thank you for helping with Lottie. Was she alright? 493 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,880 Yeah, she was alright. I just lost her a few times. 494 00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:10,120 You lost Lottie a few times? 495 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:12,320 She was just running away a couple of times... Yeah. 496 00:24:12,360 --> 00:24:14,040 ..and I eventually found her in the playground. 497 00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:16,160 You lost Lottie, we lost Jude. Oh, wow. 498 00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:17,920 But we all found each other in the end. 499 00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,280 (LAUGHS) 500 00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:26,040 I haven't been here for ages. 501 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:28,320 What is this place? 502 00:24:28,360 --> 00:24:31,120 We don't often go to busy shopping centres. 503 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,720 Stick together, boys. We don't want to lose you. 504 00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:37,200 Oh, Dad, look, there's Xboxes! 505 00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,440 We have spoken to the kids about getting lost 506 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,000 but not really in the city. 507 00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:42,840 We need to go find Vance. 508 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:44,360 Come up. 509 00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:47,800 Don't know where Vance is. We need to go and find them. 510 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:52,200 When we realised Vance could be lost, we tried not to freak out. 511 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:55,240 Where was the last place we saw him? 512 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:56,800 Panicking really gets us nowhere. 513 00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:58,760 Have you seen a little kid 514 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:00,680 that looks sort of like us but a bit smaller? 515 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:03,320 Has he got a name? Do you want us to call him over the... 516 00:25:03,360 --> 00:25:05,640 Vance. Vance? And he's wearing a black cowboy hat. 517 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:11,600 There he is. 518 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:13,240 What are you doing, mate? 519 00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:15,120 Where were you? 520 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:17,600 I went to EB Games because that's where you were. 521 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:19,960 If you couldn't find us, what would you do, mate? 522 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:23,960 I'd probably try and find security or something. 523 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:26,160 Yeah. Come on. Let's go. 524 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,200 I think he was a lot more calm than I was. 525 00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:31,960 (LAUGHS) He found YOU. 526 00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:33,320 Yeah. 527 00:25:33,360 --> 00:25:35,520 But he was pretty good about asking what would you do... 528 00:25:35,560 --> 00:25:37,400 and he's, like, "I'd find a security guard." 529 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,160 Yeah. He's, like, "Sweet." 530 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:42,680 And I'm getting my kids in cowboy hats 'cause he was easy to see, eh? 531 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:44,120 (LAUGHTER) 532 00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,720 Sammy and Jason, can we talk about how cool as a cucumber Jude was? 533 00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:49,600 Oh... (LAUGHS) 534 00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:52,280 That was just like just another day. Yeah. 535 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:53,760 (LAUGHTER) 536 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:59,360 I think, like, your parenting style really lit up there, to be honest, 537 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:02,080 because everyone stayed calm... (LAUGHS) 538 00:26:02,120 --> 00:26:04,560 Your son for wasn't fazed much by it all. 539 00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:07,000 It was really enlightening to see, I suppose. 540 00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:08,800 Thank you. Thank you. 541 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,160 JUSTIN: Panel parents, just a reminder, 542 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,000 grab those notepads, take some notes. 543 00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:16,520 The things that you write down will help you in your decision-making 544 00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:20,200 when it's time to send one of our focus parent groups 545 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:21,760 through to the final. 546 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,560 With the lighthouse family, they all work as a team. 547 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:29,600 They all support each other, help each other when it needs to be done. 548 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:33,960 The lighthouse parents, I don't think it's responsible. 549 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:38,920 They left their ten-year-old daughter with the youngest one. 550 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,960 Yeah, I think "Eeee!" for me. 551 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:43,360 Next... 552 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:44,560 Where's Seanna? 553 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:46,520 ..when another child goes missing... 554 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:47,960 Where is she? 555 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:49,480 I'm actually starting to get worried. 556 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:51,240 ..resilience is tested. 557 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,240 It's not something that we hide 558 00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:55,320 because I don't think it should be hidden. 559 00:26:55,360 --> 00:26:56,720 And later... 560 00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:58,360 Finger off the trigger until you're ready, mate. 561 00:26:58,400 --> 00:26:59,640 ..shots are fired... 562 00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,680 It is a dangerous lifestyle if you can't listen. 563 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:03,880 She's gonna tip. 564 00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:05,600 And we won't hesitate to give the boys a smack. 565 00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:09,120 ..as the outback parents strike a nerve. 566 00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:11,080 What's a good smack? 567 00:27:11,120 --> 00:27:12,720 DAVID: One that you can hear and feel. 568 00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:16,800 Their kids seem well-behaved because they're just scared shitless. 569 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:26,440 # I only want good vibes round me tonight 570 00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:28,280 # No negativity in my life 571 00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:31,160 # Just good vibes round me tonight... # 572 00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:34,080 ALLISON: We're in the middle of the 'lost in a crowd' challenge 573 00:27:34,120 --> 00:27:37,280 to see what your family's strategies are 574 00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:39,760 when your child becomes separated from you. 575 00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:41,240 We still have one more to see. 576 00:27:43,120 --> 00:27:45,720 I want to buy some Beanie Boos from that shop. 577 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,320 You want to buy some Beanie Boos from that shop? 578 00:27:48,360 --> 00:27:50,280 We do a lot of things together as a family. 579 00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:51,760 There are four kids, 580 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,520 so I will do things like use a carrier for the younger ones. 581 00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:56,960 I am frequently head-counting. 582 00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:58,320 MARCUS: Alright, have we got everyone? 583 00:27:58,360 --> 00:28:03,040 CHILD: One, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine...ten. 584 00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:04,880 CHILD: Where's Seanna? 585 00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:08,280 I know she's gone that way. 586 00:28:10,360 --> 00:28:11,960 One of the goals with gentle parenting 587 00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:13,280 is to build resilient kids. 588 00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,120 If they are to get separated from us, 589 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,760 hopefully they are resilient enough to remember they should stay calm. 590 00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,240 Oh, hey, Amos. We need to go grab Seanna. 591 00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:25,200 When I realised Seanna isn't with us, 592 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:27,800 I snapped straight into "Let's go get her." 593 00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:29,800 Let's go find Seanna. 594 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:33,440 Maybe she got distracted and didn't follow us. 595 00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:35,400 Yeah. That's OK. We can find her. 596 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:42,480 (CRIES) 597 00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:44,200 Where is she? 598 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:45,720 I'm actually starting to get worried. 599 00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,160 The children know the first person you look for 600 00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:54,120 is a mum with young children and failing that, an older woman. 601 00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:57,240 WOMAN: Are you looking for your mum? Yeah. 602 00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:00,960 Do you remember where we last saw her? 603 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:02,880 At the bulls. At the bulls? 604 00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:03,920 At the bulls. 605 00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,160 And do you remember what Seanna was wearing? 606 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,840 A love heart dress. A love heart dress. That's right. 607 00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:13,120 Oh, over here. I can see her. Can you see her? 608 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:18,000 I spot Seanna across the mall and she is talking to two older women. 609 00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,280 And I think, "She's done what we said." 610 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:22,200 I can see her. 611 00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:24,560 Hi, my girl! 612 00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,360 Oh, Seanna! (LAUGHS) 613 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:31,800 Family is everything to us. 614 00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:33,560 Would you like to sit and have a cuddle? 615 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:37,320 So we had a really difficult start to our family. 616 00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,600 Our first child, Ariella, died just before she was born. 617 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,280 And it was unexpected, it was unexplained 618 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:48,520 and it's pretty much impacted everything. 619 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:50,560 Mmm. 620 00:29:52,160 --> 00:29:55,160 Having experienced the death of a child, you know, we might say, 621 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:56,760 "I can't imagine my life without you," 622 00:29:56,800 --> 00:30:01,360 but actually we can and it's a pretty horrid place, so... 623 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:04,400 I love you. Let's head home. 624 00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:16,400 KAT: I think that's a really good testament to you guys. 625 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,680 I think it just shows there's an inner strength in both of you 626 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,320 and you guys are great. 627 00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,400 She's still part of our family, even though she's not here. 628 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:28,480 Our kids know about her. 629 00:30:28,520 --> 00:30:29,960 It's not something that we hide 630 00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:31,640 because I don't think it should be hidden. 631 00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:35,400 Has that influenced your parenting style? 632 00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:38,800 So, in terms of being patient with our kids, 633 00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:42,000 you all know what it's like to wake up to a crying baby overnight 634 00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:44,040 and it's so easy to just feel frustrated, 635 00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:45,680 like, "I just want to sleep." 636 00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:47,920 But I spent a year waking up at night crying 637 00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:49,440 because my baby wasn't with me. 638 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:53,720 And so, when Levi was born and he would wake up at night crying, 639 00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:56,960 I just thought, "Thank goodness you are here. 640 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:01,280 "I'm glad it's you crying and not me." 641 00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,480 Like, it's hard to get frustrated at the kids 642 00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:05,840 because they'll drive me nuts 643 00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,320 and I just think, "At least you're here to drive me nuts." 644 00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,040 It's so much better than the alternative. 645 00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:15,200 We got to see the deeper side of the gentle parenting. 646 00:31:15,240 --> 00:31:17,760 You know, we could understand the context they had 647 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:19,680 for them to use the gentle parenting style, 648 00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:21,520 which makes us see the gentle parenting style 649 00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:22,680 in a different light. 650 00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:25,800 AMY: The way you took control of that situation, 651 00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:28,600 direct, clear and they were, like, attention. 652 00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,120 Yeah. It was lovely. 653 00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:31,800 There are boundaries and there are rules 654 00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:33,880 and they know when they need to listen. 655 00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:36,960 When there is a situation that needs them, they step up. 656 00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:42,360 JUSTIN: What I recommend that parents do in these situations 657 00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,280 if you find that child that matters to you... (LAUGHS) 658 00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:48,280 ..and you write your phone number on their arm. 659 00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:51,720 Tell your child to stop moving as soon as they realise they're lost 660 00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:55,400 and wait where they are and find a safe adult, 661 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:57,440 usually a shopkeeper or a mum with kids 662 00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:00,080 or an older woman and ask for help. 663 00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:02,960 Before we get to our next challenge, 664 00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:06,400 we're going to get to know last night's favourite a little better - 665 00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:09,880 Tency and David, the outback family. 666 00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:13,440 Outback parenting is all about respect and freedom, 667 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:17,520 but with that freedom comes strict expectations and behaviour. 668 00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:24,840 TENCY: Raising kids on the farm is the best way to grow up. 669 00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:26,520 So, who's driving? Me. 670 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:28,200 CLANCY: Wyatt. Have you got your two-way? 671 00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,000 DAVID: Make sure youse check the temperature while you're driving, 672 00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,320 please, and if it gets hot, pull up and turn it off. 673 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:34,360 Rightio. 674 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:35,920 They become independent. 675 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:37,120 Bye-bye. Bye-bye. 676 00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:38,240 See you. Clancy, come on. 677 00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:39,640 (LAUGHS) 678 00:32:39,680 --> 00:32:42,200 They've been able to ride motorbikes 679 00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:45,040 and ride horses since a very young age, three or four years old. 680 00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,200 Seatbelts, everybody. 681 00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:48,760 (ENGINE STARTS) 682 00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:50,760 You ready? Set... Go. 683 00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:54,560 They've been driving a car for a year and a half now. 684 00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:58,120 You'll have to go on the road when the big gap's there. 685 00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,480 No. Are you just gonna drive through it? 686 00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:05,120 Obviously, every parent wants to keep their kid as safe as possible 687 00:33:05,160 --> 00:33:07,720 but they do need to explore as well. 688 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,760 VANCE: She's gonna tip. No, it's not. 689 00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:11,800 It's gonna tip. 690 00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:13,400 (EXCLAIMS) 691 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:16,920 CLANCY: I thought you said that it needs four-wheel drive. 692 00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:19,000 (LAUGHTER) 693 00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:22,280 The risks the kids could face day to day here are plentiful, really. 694 00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:24,360 Finger off the trigger until you're ready, mate. 695 00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:27,640 (GUNSHOT) 696 00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:28,920 Good work, buddy. 697 00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:30,920 There's snakes, for instance, everywhere out here, 698 00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:32,680 500-kilo animals running around. 699 00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:34,000 Don't have their wits about them, 700 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:35,440 they can get trampled pretty quickly. 701 00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:37,280 Alright, Wyatt, are you ready? Yeah. 702 00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:41,120 It is a dangerous lifestyle if you can't listen. 703 00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:42,440 They could die. 704 00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,760 We'll go for a little trot and then we'll go for a canter, hey? 705 00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:50,400 Ready? Try to keep in a line, boys. 706 00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:52,400 Some people don't like smacking. 707 00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:59,040 But if we have to, then we won't hesitate to give the boys a smack. 708 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:04,520 Right. Steady up. Steady. Steady. 709 00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:08,040 Our smack is a hell of a lot better 710 00:34:08,080 --> 00:34:10,920 than that horse running clean over the top of you 711 00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:14,880 or a cow kicking you in the head or things like that. 712 00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:17,200 I got kicked in the head when I was a kid. (LAUGHS) 713 00:34:17,240 --> 00:34:20,520 Didn't listen to Mum and Dad, did I? (LAUGHTER) 714 00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:26,720 KAT: You've nailed it. I thought that was just amazing. 715 00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:31,400 There's a lot of healthy structure and there's a process to everything. 716 00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:37,320 Also, you've let us know how many potential dangers there are, 717 00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:39,720 so if one of you have an accident, 718 00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:42,080 someone needs to drive the car, right? 719 00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:43,400 So it's very practical. 720 00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:46,320 Is that legal? 721 00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:49,000 On our property, yeah. 722 00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,320 Look, I mean, we wouldn't teach kids to drive that age around our place, 723 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:53,440 I've gotta be honest. 724 00:34:57,680 --> 00:35:00,440 Let's talk now about shooting guns. 725 00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:03,000 I mean, I think it's confronting for people who live in the city 726 00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:04,800 to even think of a kid and a gun. 727 00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:09,560 We don't have a necessity for our children to be using guns. 728 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:12,680 A big thing for us as well around gun safety 729 00:35:12,720 --> 00:35:15,680 is the areas that we are in, everyone has guns. 730 00:35:15,720 --> 00:35:17,960 So if my kids go visit one of their friends 731 00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:20,080 and their friends aren't safe with guns 732 00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:22,560 and they bring a gun out of the cupboard or something like that, 733 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,680 I want my kids to know what those are capable of 734 00:35:24,720 --> 00:35:26,600 and walk away from the situation and call someone. 735 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:29,520 With the smacking, how often would that be? 736 00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,640 I would say every three months. 737 00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:36,440 Is it just a smack? Yeah, it's always a good smack... 738 00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,720 Just a good smack. What's a good smack? 739 00:35:40,720 --> 00:35:43,520 One that you can hear and feel. Yeah. 740 00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:48,240 Your lifestyle is so completely opposite to mine 741 00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:50,960 and the environment and the challenges that you have, 742 00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:55,840 so I find it really tricky to say I wouldn't smack in that situation. 743 00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:57,480 Yeah. 744 00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:00,120 At the same time, we would not smack... 745 00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:01,280 MARCUS: Mmm. ..in that situation. 746 00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,800 MELODY: It doesn't matter where we are, 747 00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:06,320 there's dangerous situations that happen with children 748 00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:11,320 but I think finding other tools to deal with that situation 749 00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:15,360 might be something that you guys could think about. 750 00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,080 It's only a smack. 751 00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:22,920 You can try many, many things 752 00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,480 but you waste your time spending all the time 753 00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,240 doing these many, many things and you turn around 754 00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:30,080 and your kid's being trampled by a cow, it's too late. 755 00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:37,960 I wonder with the outback parents whether their kids seem well-behaved 756 00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:39,760 because they're just scared shitless. 757 00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:46,160 KIM: The outback family, we love the driving of the boys, 758 00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:48,520 they're learning life skills at an early age. 759 00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:53,800 We like the fact that they had very strict kind of boundaries 760 00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:55,160 and the kids knew what they were 761 00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,480 and so, the children were always kind of well-behaved 762 00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:00,560 and knew what to do. 763 00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,520 All of us face situations with our children 764 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:06,600 where their lives could be at risk. 765 00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:09,480 We all drive our children in cars, we all live near roads, 766 00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:14,040 so we all need our children to learn to listen and be safe. 767 00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:17,400 Physically removing a child from a dangerous situation 768 00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:21,080 is far more effective than smacking if we want to correct behaviour. 769 00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:26,240 Next... KAT: Oh, my god! 770 00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:28,640 ..what's the difference between a good push... 771 00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:31,640 You need to take one big step off and fly all the way to the ground. 772 00:37:31,680 --> 00:37:33,520 Who else flies? Superman? 773 00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:35,440 ..and pushing too hard? 774 00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:37,880 I will not do that. DAVID: Yeah, you will. 775 00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:39,800 I don't want to do it. 776 00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:41,480 You've got to finish this. I don't. 777 00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:44,040 You've gotta do it now. No. Yep. It'll hurt. 778 00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:54,280 # I know there's no way back Only one way to go... # 779 00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:56,920 Panel parents, for the last two nights, 780 00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,440 you've been watching how these parents have chosen 781 00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:00,840 to raise their children. 782 00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:02,120 Soon, you'll need to vote 783 00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:05,280 for whose parenting style has taught you the most. 784 00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:09,200 They'll be the first set of parents going through to the final. 785 00:38:09,240 --> 00:38:12,480 Let's have a look at our last challenge. 786 00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:17,600 As a parent, we all want to see our children scale to great heights, 787 00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:22,440 so in this challenge, we asked you to help your children 788 00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:28,920 to climb to the top of a 10m platform before taking a huge leap of faith. 789 00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:30,520 Oh! 790 00:38:30,560 --> 00:38:34,640 A fear of heights is extremely common for kids and adults. 791 00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:38,840 This challenge is about how parents encourage and show support 792 00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,840 when their kids' stress levels are sky-high. 793 00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:48,360 (DING!) Got a message. 794 00:38:55,720 --> 00:38:57,480 Uh... 795 00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:01,200 Oh, my god! 796 00:39:01,240 --> 00:39:03,320 (LAUGHTER) 797 00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:08,120 This challenge is not testing whether the child is able to jump. 798 00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,280 We're looking at what techniques parents use 799 00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,920 to help their children face their fear. 800 00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:18,240 Can you see that platform up the top with the little rope there too? 801 00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:20,760 CHILD: Oh, yeah. Levi gets to jump off that. 802 00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:23,960 LEVI: Do I have to? 803 00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:25,880 I reckon you can do it. What do you think? 804 00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,560 As a gentle parent, I'm not gonna force him 805 00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:30,000 and say "You have to do this." 806 00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:35,440 Are you ready? I'm not gonna do it. 807 00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:36,920 You're not gonna do it? 808 00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:38,640 I'm only gonna do something else. 809 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,800 Do you want to do something else? Yeah? 810 00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:44,080 I'm just gonna listen to what Levi says 811 00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:46,120 and if he says something that I think 812 00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:49,280 he's maybe looking at it a bit too narrowly, 813 00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:52,600 I'm just gonna gently broaden that and perhaps make a few suggestions. 814 00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:56,240 What do you think you'll have to help you feel safe? 815 00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:58,840 I think you're probably gonna have a harness... 816 00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:01,000 I know. ..and be buckled in. 817 00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:02,360 MAN: Excited to do the jump today? 818 00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,040 Yes? Maybe? 819 00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:08,040 We're gonna put you in a harness... Told you. 820 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:09,800 So it'll go around your legs, around your arm. 821 00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,880 You need to take one big step off a fly all the way to the ground. 822 00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:14,720 You could fly. I can? 823 00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:16,160 Who else flies? OK? 824 00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:19,000 Superman. No. Only I'll be able to fly. 825 00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:20,560 Only you can fly. That is pretty special. 826 00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,920 I've never flown like this before. Are you ready? 827 00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:24,960 Shall we go get your harness on? Yeah? 828 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:26,280 Alright. 829 00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:27,600 Ready to go? Yeah. 830 00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:28,760 Yeah? Awesome. 831 00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:33,040 I don't plan on applying any pressure to Levi 832 00:40:33,080 --> 00:40:34,760 because it's really his choice 833 00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:37,840 and my question is whether he feels comfortable with it. 834 00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,000 If he doesn't, he just won't do it. 835 00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:41,960 Right. 836 00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:45,560 Head on through for me. Blue cord. Blue, blue. Yep. Good work. 837 00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:47,480 OK. Take a couple of steps towards the edge. 838 00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:51,240 CHILD: Here he comes. Here he comes. 839 00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:53,560 Such good encouragement. Wow. 840 00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:55,880 Here we go. You ready? One... Two... 841 00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,320 LARISSA: You've got this, babes. 842 00:40:58,320 --> 00:41:00,680 Three. Big step. Big step. Big step. Big step. 843 00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:03,880 Yes! 844 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:05,680 Hey, Levi, you did it! 845 00:41:05,720 --> 00:41:07,880 Well done, Levi! That was fun. 846 00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:09,800 Great. High-five. 847 00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:11,560 So proud of you, bud. Good job, buddy. 848 00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:14,400 (APPLAUSE) 849 00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:19,280 CLANCY: I will not do that. DAVID: Yeah, you will. 850 00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:21,080 No, I won't. TENCY: It's safe. 851 00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:22,520 It's high! 852 00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:24,400 Clancy is the youngest of the family, obviously. 853 00:41:24,440 --> 00:41:27,440 I thought he might feel a little bit scared. 854 00:41:27,480 --> 00:41:30,040 You got this. But it's high. 855 00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:31,920 Yeah. Yeah, that's what makes it fun. 856 00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:34,160 Yeah. You'll love it. 857 00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:35,240 As outback parents, 858 00:41:35,280 --> 00:41:39,120 we do expect the boys to have a go at new experiences. 859 00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,240 Are you right? 860 00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:43,040 Sometimes they don't want to do things. 861 00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:46,600 We will push for them to get past that. 862 00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:48,320 You've got all the safety gear. 863 00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:51,880 They wouldn't be doing it if it's 'hurty'. 864 00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:53,600 Then YOU do it. 865 00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,920 I'll give you $20. 866 00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:57,560 (LAUGHTER) 867 00:41:57,600 --> 00:42:01,200 If it's not too scary, then they probably have to do it. (LAUGHS) 868 00:42:04,480 --> 00:42:07,040 Daddy, that's too high. No. 869 00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:09,440 Oi, look at me. Don't even look down. 870 00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:11,360 When you're going down, look up at me. Yeah? 871 00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:12,400 Look straight ahead, OK? 872 00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:15,200 You look at me and Daddy's gonna be up here watching you go down. 873 00:42:15,240 --> 00:42:18,840 You just keep staring at Dad. Hey, look at me. Look at me. 874 00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:24,120 My strategy was to keep applying just a little bit more pressure 875 00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:25,840 as we were going on with every conversation. 876 00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:30,040 Buddy, if you don't try this... Look at me. 877 00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:33,120 ..you're gonna regret not doing it, OK? 878 00:42:33,160 --> 00:42:34,960 I never want to do it. 879 00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:36,880 There's lots of things in life that are scary, 880 00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:38,560 but you can't run away from them, mate. 881 00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:40,520 What are you scared of? 882 00:42:40,560 --> 00:42:42,720 It's up high. 883 00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:44,080 You're scared of the height? 884 00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:48,440 But that's why we're doing this, so you get over a fear. 885 00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:53,440 Everything's OK. I don't want to do it. 886 00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:55,120 You've got to, mate. You've got to. 887 00:42:55,160 --> 00:42:57,800 You've got to finish it. You've got to finish this. 888 00:42:57,840 --> 00:42:59,960 No, I don't. Yep. Yep. 889 00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:01,960 Come on, we're gonna do it now. No. 890 00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:03,280 Yep. It'll hurt. 891 00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:06,960 No more. (CRIES) I don't want to! 892 00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:09,760 Deep breath. 893 00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:11,480 I don't want to! 894 00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:13,160 Hey. Hey, hey. 895 00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:14,560 I don't want to do it. 896 00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:16,200 You're not gonna get hurt, darling. 897 00:43:16,240 --> 00:43:19,240 (CRIES) 898 00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:23,880 It's OK. Mummy's here. 899 00:43:26,720 --> 00:43:29,200 You just don't want to do it? I don't want to do it. 900 00:43:29,240 --> 00:43:30,840 OK. Come here. 901 00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:31,880 Let's go down. 902 00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:39,560 Tency and David, how does it feel watching that back? 903 00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:41,800 Still as shit as what it did on the day. 904 00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:43,280 Yeah. Yep. 905 00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,160 I think we probably pushed a little bit too much. 906 00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,600 SARAH: It was hard to watch. 907 00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,200 I probably wouldn't have pushed that hard. 908 00:43:50,240 --> 00:43:51,560 It actually did upset me. 909 00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:52,640 Yeah. 910 00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,000 I think when I saw his arms wrapped around the bars 911 00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:56,560 and was white-knuckling them, I was, like, 912 00:43:56,600 --> 00:43:59,680 maybe that was a sign then that we'd reached the limit. 913 00:43:59,720 --> 00:44:03,040 Even though your style of parenting, people can see it is harsh, 914 00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:07,120 he still felt enough confidence to say, "No, I don't want to do it." 915 00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:08,160 Yeah. 916 00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:11,600 If he was scared of you, he would've said, "Dad's gonna be angry. 917 00:44:11,640 --> 00:44:12,720 "I've gotta do this." 918 00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:14,840 But he felt, you know, "I can still say no." 919 00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:16,280 TENCY: Mmm. Yeah. 920 00:44:16,320 --> 00:44:20,360 Let's talk about Larissa and Marcus, our gentle parents. 921 00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,760 You showed a good example of encouraging without the pushing. 922 00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:24,560 His first thing was, "No, not gonna do it." 923 00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:27,160 As soon as he knew the logic... Mmm. 924 00:44:27,200 --> 00:44:28,760 ..he was fine to give it a go. 925 00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:32,200 JUSTIN: Research shows us that exposure therapy, 926 00:44:32,240 --> 00:44:33,880 that is, being afraid of something 927 00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:38,120 and then ever so gently moving towards being able to do it anyway, 928 00:44:38,160 --> 00:44:41,880 can help us to overcome our fears. 929 00:44:41,920 --> 00:44:46,600 Parents need to be discerning, when to push, when to pull back. 930 00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:50,440 As long as you don't go too far too fast, you can work wonders. 931 00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:52,400 Next... 932 00:44:52,440 --> 00:44:53,960 I don't want to do this. 933 00:44:54,000 --> 00:44:55,240 SAMMY: Don't look down. 934 00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:57,720 ..as the final challenge comes to an end... 935 00:44:57,760 --> 00:44:59,880 If you fall down there, would you die? 936 00:44:59,920 --> 00:45:02,120 ..will our panel change their vote? 937 00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:03,320 PEPPER: You can do it, Jude. 938 00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:08,640 Wait, no. Um... 939 00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:10,520 You've got this, man. 940 00:45:20,680 --> 00:45:24,080 Tonight, you'll be voting for the first parenting style 941 00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,480 through to the next round. 942 00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:28,600 We're in the middle of tonight's final challenge 943 00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:31,440 to discover how you show your children support 944 00:45:31,480 --> 00:45:34,200 during moments of extreme stress. 945 00:45:34,240 --> 00:45:35,360 Are we ready? 946 00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:40,160 SAMMY: Do you want to have a go? 947 00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:41,720 I'm happy for you to have a go, 948 00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:44,560 but only if you really believe that you can get to the very top. 949 00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:47,000 Yeah. You're gonna... OK. Good job. 950 00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:48,320 I reckon you can. 951 00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:50,560 Bravery, for us, is one of, you know, 952 00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:52,640 the fundamentals of lighthouse parenting. 953 00:45:52,680 --> 00:45:55,040 It's about pushing themselves past their comfort zone 954 00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:57,800 to take the risks and to enjoy life. 955 00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:02,360 Every step you take, these men are watching you and ready to catch. 956 00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:03,520 Alright? 957 00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:04,880 So, what are you gonna be today? 958 00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:09,040 Good job, Jude. 959 00:46:13,720 --> 00:46:14,960 She's amazing. 960 00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:17,520 Feeling brave? Mmm. 961 00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:20,160 Yeah? Feeling strong? Yeah. 962 00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,120 You can do this. I know you can. 963 00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:27,440 I don't want to force our children to do anything. 964 00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:30,520 I want them to make a decision on their own. 965 00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:34,160 And all we ask them is to try. 966 00:46:34,200 --> 00:46:36,640 Hey, listen, it's your choice. 967 00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:38,600 You get to choose, right? 968 00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:41,000 Right? OK. 969 00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:42,600 You got it? Yeah. 970 00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:44,560 Good job, mate. I'm so proud of you. Good job. 971 00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:47,480 Just give it a go, OK? Yeah. Right. I love you. 972 00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:50,720 Alright. Have fun. 973 00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:52,680 Be brave. 974 00:46:52,720 --> 00:46:54,080 That's it. You got it. 975 00:46:54,120 --> 00:46:56,000 Reach up. Strong legs, strong arms. 976 00:46:56,040 --> 00:46:58,160 PEPPER: You've got this. 977 00:46:58,200 --> 00:46:59,640 Don't look down. 978 00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:01,360 That's it, mate. 979 00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:05,240 You did it! (LAUGHS) Yes! 980 00:47:06,320 --> 00:47:08,120 Are you feeling brave? 981 00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:09,560 Good boy! 982 00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:11,000 You can do it, Jude. 983 00:47:11,040 --> 00:47:12,160 MAN: OK. Go. 984 00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:15,920 Oh! Good boy! 985 00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:19,440 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 986 00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:22,720 KAT: Billy and I will be standing down there. We will not leave you. 987 00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:24,240 We will be encouraging you like... 988 00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,520 Am I supposed to jump from there to there? 989 00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:29,800 Jesse has always had a history of overthinking things. 990 00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,800 He creates and he manifests panic 991 00:47:32,840 --> 00:47:36,560 and I was waiting for Jesse to turn around and say, "I'm not doing it." 992 00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:38,480 I feel like I'm gonna die. You're not gonna die. 993 00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:40,000 (LAUGHTER) 994 00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:41,840 But I think as an honest parent, 995 00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:44,440 you get the opportunity to raise honest children. 996 00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:46,720 Where's the zip line? It'll be all attached. 997 00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:50,080 So I hope that he's not afraid to turn around 998 00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:51,120 right at the last minute, 999 00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,920 knowing that I'm not gonna flip out at him and get angry at him 1000 00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:55,800 if he can't pull it together at the end. 1001 00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:57,760 What do you say? OK. 1002 00:47:57,800 --> 00:47:58,800 OK? 1003 00:47:58,840 --> 00:48:01,400 And this leap of faith was so much more 1004 00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:03,080 than just jumping off an edge for Jesse. 1005 00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:06,200 Wait, how high is this? MAN: This is 21m. 1006 00:48:06,240 --> 00:48:08,000 If you fall down there, would you die? 1007 00:48:08,040 --> 00:48:11,560 I could see that he was really trying to conquer some demons. 1008 00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:13,160 She's nervous. Yep. 1009 00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:14,760 Just gonna walk to the edge, OK? 1010 00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:17,080 You are gonna feel so amazing. 1011 00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:18,920 Right. On the count of three... 1012 00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:21,560 It's just one step, OK? Three... Wait, no. 1013 00:48:21,600 --> 00:48:22,800 Hold on. Both hands. 1014 00:48:22,840 --> 00:48:24,480 Oh, he's nervous. 1015 00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:29,760 Hey, buddy. BILLY: You can do this! 1016 00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:34,920 I don't want to do this. Hey, it's OK, alright? 1017 00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:37,240 I don't want to do this. Jesse, I'm so proud of you. 1018 00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:38,480 You got this, man. 1019 00:48:39,760 --> 00:48:41,080 Both hands on the blue. 1020 00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:42,600 OK, there you go. Alright. No... 1021 00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:53,120 (SQUEALS) 1022 00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:54,720 (EXCLAIMS) 1023 00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:56,360 Yes! 1024 00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:58,680 Yes! Yes! 1025 00:48:58,720 --> 00:49:01,240 (APPLAUSE) 1026 00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:05,680 I love how your honest approach in the fact that he knew he could do it 1027 00:49:05,720 --> 00:49:07,840 or he didn't have to do it... Yeah. 1028 00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:09,640 ..and I really like that, yeah. 1029 00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:12,920 A lot of people would lie and say, "Oh, you know, it's gonna be easy" 1030 00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:15,760 or "It's gonna be whatever" and you were just, like, "Holy crap." 1031 00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:21,320 I knew he would panic and I knew that I had to keep it calm. 1032 00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:23,360 Sammy and Jason? 1033 00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,360 That is the scariest thing ever, that pole. 1034 00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:27,800 Getting up and standing on that thing... 1035 00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:28,880 WOMAN: Yeah. ..it was wobbly. 1036 00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:31,360 That was the hardest part. He just did it. 1037 00:49:31,400 --> 00:49:34,480 Yeah. And he's got a great role model in Pepper. 1038 00:49:34,520 --> 00:49:35,840 AMY: Amazing. 1039 00:49:35,880 --> 00:49:38,320 Even though as much as we try and get him 1040 00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:39,840 to step outside his own boundaries, 1041 00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:43,480 I think without that support network from everyone in the family, 1042 00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:47,040 I don't think he would have as much bravery as he did. 1043 00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:51,560 JUSTIN: Let's just take this moment to remind everyone 1044 00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:55,840 that this wasn't about who jumped and who didn't. 1045 00:49:55,880 --> 00:50:00,040 It's more important for kids to be able to work out their limits 1046 00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:04,680 and then feel confident to state what those limits are. 1047 00:50:04,720 --> 00:50:07,480 That's where the parenting often begins. 1048 00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:13,680 Focus parents, congratulations, you faced all of your challenges. 1049 00:50:13,720 --> 00:50:17,680 Panel, you're going to vote for the focus parents 1050 00:50:17,720 --> 00:50:21,760 you want to go through to the Final Family Challenge. 1051 00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:26,000 Focus parents, you can head outside and take a break. 1052 00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:32,160 I'm really hoping that they'll really see the gentle heart 1053 00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:33,360 that our kids have. 1054 00:50:34,600 --> 00:50:36,880 Even though I might come across as sounding 1055 00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:38,400 a little bit abrupt at times, 1056 00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:40,520 there's some method to what I do. 1057 00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:43,680 Next... 1058 00:50:43,720 --> 00:50:44,720 Alright, panel. 1059 00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:46,320 ..it's judgement time. 1060 00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:49,600 Yes, they're patient. There's no way that I could do it. 1061 00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:54,720 The way they are with their children is something that's problematic. 1062 00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:58,520 Which parenting style will be first into the final? 1063 00:51:11,640 --> 00:51:14,760 Panel parents, come on down. 1064 00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:17,120 Tonight's families have left the room, 1065 00:51:17,160 --> 00:51:21,680 so you can talk openly about who you believe has the best parenting style 1066 00:51:21,720 --> 00:51:26,920 and which parents should be awarded a place in the Final Family Challenge. 1067 00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:30,000 Remember, we're looking for the parenting style 1068 00:51:30,040 --> 00:51:32,040 that grows happy, healthy kids, 1069 00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:38,040 prepares them for life and creates strong family bonds. 1070 00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:42,680 We're gonna start with Larissa and Marcus, our gentle parents. 1071 00:51:42,720 --> 00:51:48,040 I admire how Larissa and Marcus parent their children 1072 00:51:48,080 --> 00:51:51,760 but I don't think I could do the same. 1073 00:51:51,800 --> 00:51:53,760 (CHILD WHINES) 1074 00:51:53,800 --> 00:51:56,640 It's really tricky when someone else is in charge, isn't it? 1075 00:51:56,680 --> 00:51:57,680 (WHINES) 1076 00:51:57,720 --> 00:51:59,640 I don't want to. 1077 00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:03,520 Levi, can you come in here with us? I'm too scared. 1078 00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:06,040 I don't know that you are. I am. 1079 00:52:06,080 --> 00:52:08,000 OK. We need to go grab Seanna. 1080 00:52:08,040 --> 00:52:09,880 Do you remember where we last saw her? 1081 00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:11,880 At the bulls. Hi, my girl! 1082 00:52:12,880 --> 00:52:14,360 Oh, Seanna! 1083 00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:16,120 MAN: Big step. 1084 00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:18,800 Hey, Levi, you did it! 1085 00:52:18,840 --> 00:52:20,360 Well done, Levi! 1086 00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:21,480 Fun. 1087 00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:23,640 AMY: I like the fact that the gentle parents 1088 00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:27,480 allow their children to have feelings. 1089 00:52:27,520 --> 00:52:29,400 I think sometimes 1090 00:52:29,440 --> 00:52:32,000 we probably need a little bit of just patience with ours. 1091 00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:34,280 LEANNE: Yes, they're patient, 1092 00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:39,320 but I don't think the children were a reflect of their calmness. 1093 00:52:39,360 --> 00:52:42,640 They let out their emotions... Mmm... 1094 00:52:42,680 --> 00:52:44,440 ..because they're allowed to. 1095 00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:46,360 I can't stand whingeing kids. 1096 00:52:46,400 --> 00:52:48,080 There's no way that I could do it. 1097 00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:52,600 Let's talk now about Tency and David, our outback parents. 1098 00:52:52,640 --> 00:52:54,400 WOMAN: Could you kiss each other? 1099 00:52:55,960 --> 00:52:58,040 (LAUGHTER) BOY: Yucky! 1100 00:52:58,080 --> 00:53:01,440 TENCY: Ready? Try to keep in a line, boys. 1101 00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:03,360 Bullying really scares me. 1102 00:53:03,400 --> 00:53:05,200 GIRL: Stop being stupid. 1103 00:53:05,240 --> 00:53:08,680 A good smack in the face is gonna pull them up pretty quick. 1104 00:53:08,720 --> 00:53:10,240 DAVID: You've gotta finish this. No, I don't. 1105 00:53:10,280 --> 00:53:12,200 No more. (CRIES) 1106 00:53:12,240 --> 00:53:15,040 You're not gonna get hurt, darling. 1107 00:53:16,120 --> 00:53:20,400 I did really, really like how they pushed really, really hard. 1108 00:53:20,440 --> 00:53:24,600 Children sometimes need that extra little push. 1109 00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:28,560 For me, it's a key point in the outback parenting 1110 00:53:28,600 --> 00:53:32,080 that the way they are with violence and their children 1111 00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:34,880 is something that's problematic. 1112 00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:39,680 But I think they're coming from a completely different lifestyle 1113 00:53:39,720 --> 00:53:40,800 to all of us 1114 00:53:40,840 --> 00:53:43,600 and we can't fully understand where they're coming from 1115 00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:44,960 'cause we don't live it. 1116 00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:47,320 They're probably gonna learn something from this. 1117 00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:48,440 When you tell a child 1118 00:53:48,480 --> 00:53:50,880 that they should smack another kid in the face, 1119 00:53:50,920 --> 00:53:53,640 how do you know that they're really hearing the conversation - 1120 00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:56,520 only when you need to defend yourself? 1121 00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:01,720 Let's discuss our honest parent Kat. 1122 00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:04,040 KAT: Your turn this time. 1123 00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:06,040 Might be the only time you get the ball. 1124 00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:07,840 Quick... Oh, god. 1125 00:54:09,320 --> 00:54:11,480 This is quite a unique experience 1126 00:54:11,520 --> 00:54:13,400 and it's hurting my ovaries. (LAUGHS) 1127 00:54:13,440 --> 00:54:15,080 Where's Billy? 1128 00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:17,800 Neither of us can panic. We need to stay extremely calm. 1129 00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,160 We will not leave this spot until we find her. 1130 00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:21,920 Jesse? (LAUGHS) 1131 00:54:21,960 --> 00:54:23,480 Oi! (SCREAMS) 1132 00:54:23,520 --> 00:54:24,600 Stop! 1133 00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:28,080 I think Kat's like a gunslinger from the Wild West. 1134 00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:29,120 It's just, like... (LAUGHS) 1135 00:54:29,160 --> 00:54:32,920 ..all these short, sharp comments just firing away. 1136 00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:36,080 We would know how to behave if we were her kids. 1137 00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:37,760 Yeah. Because she's firm. 1138 00:54:37,800 --> 00:54:38,960 She sticks to it. 1139 00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:41,800 There's no blurred lines. It's brilliant. 1140 00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:43,560 DEEPAK: On the surface, she's very confident. 1141 00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:45,080 Looks like she's not thinking about it. 1142 00:54:45,120 --> 00:54:47,320 But I think she puts a lot of effort mentally 1143 00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,560 to get the best out of her children. 1144 00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:55,600 Alright, panel, what about our lighthouse parents, Sammy and Jason? 1145 00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:58,200 Jase, can you see the kids? 1146 00:54:58,240 --> 00:54:59,600 JASON: They're just going for a swim. 1147 00:54:59,640 --> 00:55:02,840 They're between the flags. It's OK. 1148 00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,840 Is Jude with you? JASON: (ON PHONE) No. 1149 00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:06,440 So we've lost him? 1150 00:55:06,480 --> 00:55:08,280 Pepper, I've gotta go find Jude. 1151 00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:10,400 Can you stay with Lottie, please? PEPPER: Lottie. 1152 00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:12,560 I don't know where he would've gone, is the thing. 1153 00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:14,760 Oh, god. My god. Are you OK? 1154 00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:16,320 I need your help, Pepper. There you go. 1155 00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:18,120 He needs your help. Yeah. 1156 00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:19,880 It's OK. 1157 00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:23,800 PEPPER: You can do it, Jude. 1158 00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:26,800 JASON: Oh... Good boy! 1159 00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:27,920 Good job. 1160 00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:33,320 It's so heart-warming seeing, like, siblings come together like this. 1161 00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:35,480 That's one of the best moments of being a parent 1162 00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:37,480 and they obviously get those snippets often. 1163 00:55:37,520 --> 00:55:40,560 SARAH: Their camaraderie is quite impressive 1164 00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:44,080 but they put responsibility on their children a lot. 1165 00:55:44,120 --> 00:55:45,120 Yeah. 1166 00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:47,360 When Jude went missing, they chose then 1167 00:55:47,400 --> 00:55:50,240 to put Pepper in charge of one of the other kids and then Mum left. 1168 00:55:50,280 --> 00:55:52,200 I was just, like, "Just keep them close." 1169 00:55:52,240 --> 00:55:55,200 Like, I was a bit confused by that. Mmm. 1170 00:55:55,240 --> 00:55:59,600 OK. Thank you for all of your thoughts, everyone. 1171 00:55:59,640 --> 00:56:01,240 Time to vote. 1172 00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:07,520 Outback family's got it right 1173 00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:10,120 because their kids really respect them 1174 00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:12,560 but they've got a nice relationship with them. 1175 00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:13,760 I think it's a good balance. 1176 00:56:16,240 --> 00:56:19,240 I'd be really interested to see more of Kat, the honest parent. 1177 00:56:19,280 --> 00:56:22,600 She used, like, wit and humour and sarcasm 1178 00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:24,560 to, like, have a connection with her kids. 1179 00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:28,960 They have a friendship as well as a family dynamic. 1180 00:56:29,000 --> 00:56:30,960 Yeah, I like gentle parenting. 1181 00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:33,200 That's something that we really resonate with. 1182 00:56:33,240 --> 00:56:36,680 The connection and the time and the patience that they take with them, 1183 00:56:36,720 --> 00:56:39,000 I love the way they parent. 1184 00:56:40,560 --> 00:56:46,560 We have gone back and forward and there is one clear standout for us. 1185 00:56:48,600 --> 00:56:51,280 Focus parents, come on back. 1186 00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:54,320 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1187 00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:56,640 Alright! 1188 00:56:59,960 --> 00:57:03,360 Focus parents, we have asked your peers on the panel 1189 00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:07,000 to vote for which of your styles they think works best. 1190 00:57:07,040 --> 00:57:11,120 Let's find out which of our focus parents 1191 00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:15,280 is going through to the Final Family Challenge. 1192 00:57:16,600 --> 00:57:18,360 (TENSE MUSIC) 1193 00:57:25,280 --> 00:57:29,160 Kat, our honest parent! Yay! (LAUGHS) 1194 00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:32,160 (CHEERING AND APPLAUSE) 1195 00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:36,800 I'm very rarely speechless. 1196 00:57:36,840 --> 00:57:38,680 (LAUGHTER) 1197 00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:40,720 Like, I feel extremely humbled and grateful 1198 00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:46,160 for you recognising the effort that I put in...with just myself. 1199 00:57:46,200 --> 00:57:49,120 It is really tough and, you know, 1200 00:57:49,160 --> 00:57:52,320 I don't claim to have all the answers 1201 00:57:52,360 --> 00:57:54,160 but I've definitely found a way. 1202 00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:56,280 It's a great ride. I love it. 1203 00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:59,760 Well, what a night. 1204 00:57:59,800 --> 00:58:03,800 Next time, we've got a whole new set of parents in the spotlight 1205 00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:07,480 and a whole bunch of new challenges to learn from. 1206 00:58:07,520 --> 00:58:09,160 Whoo! 1207 00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:10,800 We'll see you in the hot seats. 1208 00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:17,680 Do your kids know where babies come from? 1209 00:58:17,720 --> 00:58:19,280 Are you blocking your ears right now? 1210 00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:20,800 VOICEOVER: The birds... 1211 00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:22,560 (LAUGHING) We're about to get some life education. 1212 00:58:22,600 --> 00:58:23,600 ..and the bees. 1213 00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:26,280 They come from the belly. And how do they come out? 1214 00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:28,040 I feel very awkward. 1215 00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:31,560 How to tackle parenting's most awkward chat. 1216 00:58:31,600 --> 00:58:32,880 What's an areola? 1217 00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:35,400 It's like that sauce. Aioli. Aioli! 1218 00:58:35,880 --> 00:58:39,280 And, if you're not... guess who is. 1219 00:58:39,320 --> 00:58:43,160 The internet is the number one sex educator for our children. 1220 00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:47,960 The average age of exposure to explicit content is eleven. 1221 00:58:48,680 --> 00:58:51,000 New Parental Guidance. 1222 00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:57,280 Captioned by Ai-Media ai-media.tv