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Previously on Parental Guidance...

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(SCREAMS)

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..our first focused parents

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leapt into action to find Australia's
best parenting style.

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Hi, my girl.

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But hot button issues...

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If you're getting attacked and
I can smack someone in the face,

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I'll be like, mate high five.

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..saw temperatures rise.

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A lot of young boys die from
being king hit in the face.

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With all this sort of bullying
happening, if you run away,

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good chance you're going to get
king hit.

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Then our panel
picked their favourite.

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Kat. And our first to go through
to the final.

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I'm very rarely speechless.

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Tonight, four new parenting styles...

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Our parenting style is influencer.

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Team parents.
Spiritually.

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Stage parents.

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..are on a collision course,

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Stop!
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..as they explore parenting...

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Tell me, where does
the babies come from?

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They come from the belly.

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Are you blocking
your ears right now?

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..in the digital age.

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Our rules around technology
are basically non-existent.

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I'm curious what age you
gave your kids an account.

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Maybe nine.

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She's up to
500,000 followers now.

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Hey Justin,
what's the one thing you wish

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you'd known before becoming
a parent?

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Oh, so many.

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That going to the bathroom
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was going to be a thing of the past,
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What about you?

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That a full night's sleep
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the equivalent of winning
the lottery.

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No, actually there is
a lot to love about parenting.

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Yeah, there is.

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School drop-off's
my favourite part.

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You're terrible.

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Parents! Kajal, Deepak,
nice to see you.

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Sarah and Shane.

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Hi.

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We've got Jonathan and Kat
with us as well, Mark and Leanne.

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Hey.
Focus parents, welcome.

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Panel parents, welcome back.

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It's so good to have you here.

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Welcome to
The Avengers of parenting.

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Focus parents, you voted
as part of the panel last time,

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now you're in the hot seat.

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I'm excited.

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I just want to see the challenges.

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You want to find out whether your
kids did better

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than everyone else's.
A hundred percent!

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Panel parents, some of you
were in the spotlight

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last time, now we need
you to be taking notes.

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Once we've seen our focus parents
go through their challenges,

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you'll be voting for one set of
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from the spotlight to be joining Kat,

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our honest parent, to go through
to the final challenge.

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OK, let's get to know our focus
parents.

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Sarah, Shane, what's your parenting
style?

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We are stage parents.

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We encourage our children's
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creativity and independence.

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Show me your best dramatic face.

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I'm a drama teacher.

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And I run a theatre company.

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Spread out into a semi-circle.

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We're going to make a dance.

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Stage parenting is mostly fun.

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When it comes to performing,
I think a lot of parents

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think their kid is better
than what they are.

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Ok, my turn.

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I'm probably the other way around.

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I'm more critical of my
children and of course,

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they've had a lot more
training than the average child

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because I pick on
everything they do.

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Nice.

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Talent alone is useless
if you don't practise it.

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You know, a bike gets rusty if you
don't ride it, it's that simple.

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Let's go to Deepak and Kajal,
tell us about your parenting style.

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We are spiritual parents.

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We believe that our children
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and we look towards

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Lord Krishna, or God, to guide us
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parenting and everything else we do.

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ALL: Cheese!

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Spiritual parenting means parenting

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to the needs of the child
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on the intellectual level
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This is the heart of our house.

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This is the spiritual room and you
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our personal God.

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In regards to parenting style,
Lord Krishna says treat me

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as you treat your child or treat
your child as you would treat me.

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(CHANTING)

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It's not just us raising kids,
the kids are raising us spiritually.

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OK, let's go to Jonathan and Kat.

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We are influencer parents.

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We lead by example
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to really connect
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Three, two, one.

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So I am a social media
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Hey guys, let's make a summer salad.

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We take an influencer approach
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Nice.

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Both our children have
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You ready?
I'm ready.

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If you've been on TikTok, if you've
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some really successful people
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the future is only going to move
more in that direction.

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Oh yeah, that was so good.

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Screenshot it?
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I have heard people tell me
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to get them off Instagram,
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Teaching my kids what to look out
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and keeping them safe is important.

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OK, let's go to Mark and Leanne.

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Mark and I are team parents.

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We love working together
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raising our little tribe, and we've
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Three, two, one!
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We have six children
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like our little own footy team.

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Oh. Was that a knock on?
No. Get him!

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I'm a coach in rugby league so our
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and that's how we parent.

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Play on. Touch back there,
back there.

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We raise our children like we do
on the sporting field, rugby league.

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We bring them all together,
we're the leaders and they follow.

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Hang on, we need to go to
the video ref.

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We believe respect,
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they are all the fundamentals
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Yep.
Yes!

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Great, focus parents,
you're in the hot seat.

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We have four contrasting parenting
styles we're going to learn

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about tonight, so let's get
into the first challenge.

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It's not fair.

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How do you avoid hearing it
when only one child can have a turn?

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We sent your family to
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only one child the opportunity
to feed a cute animal.

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In this challenge, we're looking
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disappointment when only
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Yes, it's unfair.

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What are we going to do about it?

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Does the family support one another
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Oh, I got a text.

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It's feeding time at the zoo.
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Who will it be?

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This challenge will
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manage emotions in an unfair
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Who's held a koala before?

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Me. Me.
I don't know if I have.

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It must be time
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No, no, me!

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Well, you've already done it.

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But I haven't fed one.

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River's a bit disappointed

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because he's very excited
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I wish I could go in there.

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Give me that koala.

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Can I get off you?

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I don't mind.
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But stay close because...
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River...

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Calm down.

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As stage parents,
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that the kids create is just that,
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100% it comes from wanting to
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We're all attention seekers,
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things like that with a bit
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They want us to eat, they don't
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Go down to that stick
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I've never seen
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f we can't diffuse it by comedy,
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Good job.

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You have to be able to deal
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getting some attention, not you.

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That's not the problem.

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What is then?

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I just like the koalas.

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We all do.

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As soon as I get stern, that's it.

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It's usually pretty instantaneous.

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It works on me too.

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There's some very hungry
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So guys, who do you think,
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Do you want to feed?

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Who should feed?

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I think Krishna.

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You're OK for it?
Yeah, OK.

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Are you OK for Krishna to do it?
Yeah.

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Alright, so it's you.
Let's do it.

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Yeah.
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As spiritual parents, selflessness
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integral part of our quality
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So who wants to come in
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I'll go. Alright, do you want
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OK, Mum.

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Alright, come on in then.

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This nature
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that we are always there to serve

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and making others happy is actually
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What does it feel like?
Soft.

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I wanna go inside.

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I think Mridula had
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but it did not translate into
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While she didn't get a chance,

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she also enjoyed watching
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Well, let's talk
about Deepak and Kaajel

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and how you handled this experience.

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Looking at your spirituality
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to instill your child's
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She felt disappointed
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it transitioned into happiness
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The only thing I was saying
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and if they do something which
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we just ask the same question.

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Was that kind?

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Do you think we can improve on that?

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Let's go to Sarah and Shane.

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One thing I really liked
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an effort to make the sideline fun.

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Obviously, River's quite young
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the sideline fun for him
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I find if he's laughing,
then life is much better for me.

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Shane, you used distraction
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a point where Sarah,
you laid down the law.

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I would never lay down
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but if it continues on, then there
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You can have
a firm mum tone, right?

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Like, we've all got a firm mum tone
but it felt just a bit too nasty.

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It wasn't that at all.

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As soon as they hit like six
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I think it's time that they should
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I definitely had
an issue with the language

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that was being used
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I think shaming their children
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emotions was really upsetting
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Coming up,
a parenting style showdown...

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You need to stop.

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We would have approached
that really, really differently.

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..brings our parents
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Now hold on. Just because you didn't
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does not give you the right

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to sit there
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It's not OK.

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Then later, explicit
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He's a boy. When I hear the way
this conversation is going,

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I become a little concerned.

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It's like total double standards.

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And our panel decides which style
is their favorite of the night.

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The parents with the best
parental guidance tonight are...

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We've just seen
two of our families manage

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emotions in an unfair situation.

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Let's take a look at two
more parenting styles.

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Do you want to hold a koala?

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Yeah. I think we let Tisha
have a go this time.

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Well, are you going to get sad
if your sister holds a koala?

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No.
You're going to let her hold one?

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Yeah.

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Alright.

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With influencer parenting,
our approach

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to disappointment is just being open

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and honest and letting the kids
know that

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life isn't always going to be fair.

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Because of my social media
profile growing so quickly,

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there's so many people that
recognise our family

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out and about, so being mindful
of how we treat other people,

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how we act in public and setting
an example to our kids,

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it's very, very important.

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Hey, guys. So who's the one person
that's holding today?

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Tisha.
Oh, my goodness.

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Look at how sharp
those claws are.

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Aww, she's cute.

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Wow.

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Would you want to have held it?

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Yeah.

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Because it was so cute and fluffy
and Deja really wanted to touch it,

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the disappointment did set in.

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It is so soft.
I wish you could feel it.

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I'm so jealous.

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I want one for my own now.

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You want a koala as a pet?

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Yeah.
Not possible.

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Are we all excited?
Yes.

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What do we want to see
at the zoo?

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Bobby, what are you looking
forward to seeing at the zoo?

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With the team parenting style
and managing unfairness,

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I think we talk through it.

295
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Look, at the end of the day
every now and then

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there's going to be some unfairness
that does unfold.

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Brooklyn, you're feeling
the penguins.

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Yay! We have six kids.

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We've raised them to be competitive.

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Nobody gets along with each
other 100% of the time.

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They all love each other as
much as they hate each other.

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Who's going to be feeding
the penguins today?

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Alright, so we'll need
Brooklyn in with one parent.

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Do you want me to hold Bailey?

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Mum's been selected.
OK, I'll do this one.

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Yeah, come to Dad,
come to Dad, please.

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Because she's going to scream
or they might...

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Mum!

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Matt, can you help, please?
She doesn't want me to carry her.

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She's going to scream.
OK, I will carry both.

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So come this way, guys.

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Oh, look at them.

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They look so cute.

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(CHILD SCREAMS)

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Don't scream, don't scream.

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Bobbi and Bailey
were so disappointed

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that they couldn't feed
the penguins.

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They were very upset.
They were very upset.

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Look, here we go.
I want to feed the penguins.

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You're too young to feed
the penguins

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because they'll bite your fingers
off.

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You have to stop crying.

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With the team parenting style
and managing tantrums,

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we've got to negotiate
that on a daily basis.

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You have to stop crying.

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OK, I'm gonna take you back to
the car then.

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No!

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Then you need to stop.

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Do you not understand that?

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That's enough now.

331
00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:21,080
You need to relax.
You need to calm down, OK?

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00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:23,560
Alright, thank you.

333
00:16:24,160 --> 00:16:27,800
OK, now that you're calm,
now we can talk, yes?

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00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:30,400
You are too young to feed
the penguins.

335
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You need to be patient
and you need to behave.

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Good listening, now let's go
back and watch the penguins.

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Let's go back and watch the
penguins.

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I tell you what, it's more unfair
when they've got six kids

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and you've got two
with a big age gap.

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Let's open it to the panel.

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What are our thoughts watching that?

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00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:56,280
You were just nailing it,
like one up here, one down here.

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We're going for a walk.

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We'll leave here if we
need to and it worked.

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We would have
approached that really,

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really differently but I'm curious
because you said things like,

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"Stop crying, calm down.
You need to behave."

348
00:17:12,800 --> 00:17:13,800
Yeah.

349
00:17:13,840 --> 00:17:17,080
I guess I'm curious why
crying isn't behaving.

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For me, if my kid cried
over something

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that I thought wasn't something
reasonable enough

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to listen to that tantrum
and the next time

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I did it and they cried
again the same way,

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the first time they did that,
because I haven't

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00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:32,640
corrected that action
with them or discussed

356
00:17:32,680 --> 00:17:36,240
why they've done that they're going
to have the same reaction next time.

357
00:17:36,280 --> 00:17:38,520
In my household,
that's not acceptable.

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00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:42,680
I think what you're saying
is when they're crying,

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it's a moment for you to
comfort them and be with them

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and it's not necessarily
about the behaviour.

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It's about comforting them
in the moment and maybe there's

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another chance after that to
speak about the behaviour.

363
00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:55,320
Again though, if every time
they want comfort then,

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are they going to cry to you?

365
00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:59,400
Are they going to react that
way so you give them a cuddle?

366
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They're three.

367
00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:02,960
But if they're three,
is that a bad thing?

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That's unacceptable.

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00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:05,320
Yeah.

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00:18:05,360 --> 00:18:08,000
Just because you didn't get
what you want, does not give you

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the right to sit there
and make everyone else feel bad.

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00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:14,560
I guess my point here is why
is crying unacceptable?

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So if our children fall over
and they cry, straight up,

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cuddle them, hug them,
"Oh, baby, baby."

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00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:21,400
But if you're going
to cry because you're not

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going to get a lollipop,
not in this household.

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00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:27,480
If you're going to cry
over your sibling getting

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to do something,
that's not OK either.

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You've got to be
happy for that sibling,

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be happy that Brooklyn
was feeding that penguin.

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If you're not feeling happy,
then being told to

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be happy is essentially being told
to lie.

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00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:41,120
I'm just going to
kind of bring this back

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a step because it's the same sort
of behaviour,

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they're reacting poorly
to a situation for that attention.

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00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:51,000
So if every time that same situation
happened, you got smacked,

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00:18:51,040 --> 00:18:53,720
would you rectify that or would you
sit there and let them work

388
00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:57,360
their anger out by smacking you
and then rectify that afterwards?

389
00:18:57,400 --> 00:18:58,960
Well, it's the same thing to me.

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00:18:59,000 --> 00:19:01,240
Is there not a place to
let out that feeling

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and then move on and feel happy
for it?

392
00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:05,880
Why is crying a bad behaviour?

393
00:19:05,920 --> 00:19:08,000
Why is screaming a bad behaviour?

394
00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:10,120
Why is getting yelled at by
your kids are bad behaviour?

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00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:12,400
Do you see how this can keep
escalating?

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00:19:12,440 --> 00:19:14,160
I think if it keeps happening,

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you then need to actually start to
explore

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why it's happening

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00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:19,400
because if they're
seeking a comfort through that,

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00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:22,600
well, maybe they're not getting
comforted in other ways.

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00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:26,400
We're all responsible for how
we control those emotions.

402
00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:27,440
At the end of the day,
if you're going to cry

403
00:19:27,480 --> 00:19:28,720
every time something goes wrong,

404
00:19:28,760 --> 00:19:30,120
you sort of just,
you're going to be sitting

405
00:19:30,160 --> 00:19:32,440
in the corner crying a lot, really.

406
00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:34,440
In our household, there's got
to be an understanding

407
00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:36,160
that not everybody gets what they
want

408
00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:40,000
and crying is not going to solve
the situation.

409
00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:42,080
But I guess for me,
I think crying

410
00:19:42,120 --> 00:19:44,280
is the expression of that
disappointment.

411
00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:45,760
But how long are you going
to let them cry for?

412
00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:49,480
An hour, two hours,
we don't have time for that.

413
00:19:49,520 --> 00:19:51,880
Respecting your kid also means
respecting their emotions.

414
00:19:51,920 --> 00:19:55,880
So not ignoring it at all
but also not shutting it down.

415
00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:57,560
How long do you let them cry for?

416
00:19:57,600 --> 00:20:01,800
Well, it usually would
only take 4 or 5 minutes.

417
00:20:01,840 --> 00:20:04,440
They're looking for attention,
it's not OK.

418
00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:08,800
Mark and Leanne,
let's just stop for a sec.

419
00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:10,200
There are some important things

420
00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:12,480
that are worth really talking
about here.

421
00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:14,440
Would you be up for a chat outside?

422
00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,000
The room is getting too heated.

423
00:20:17,040 --> 00:20:20,320
I need to get Mark and Leanne
out and into a place

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00:20:20,360 --> 00:20:23,520
where they can listen and learn
something important.

425
00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:34,280
Mark and Leanne,
the room's getting too heated.

426
00:20:34,320 --> 00:20:36,720
Let's just stop for a sec.

427
00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:38,720
Would you be up for a chat outside?

428
00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:45,920
Grab a seat.

429
00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:48,280
I would love to talk to you
about what just happened.

430
00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:50,200
You have to stop crying.

431
00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:54,640
I'm going to take you
back to the car then. No!

432
00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:57,160
Then you need to stop.

433
00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:00,480
There are a couple of ways
that we might be able to work with

434
00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:02,840
our kids when they're having
these big emotions that could be

435
00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:06,040
more effective and help your
family to function better.

436
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:09,280
But I want to spin the conversation
to you for a moment, Leanne.

437
00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:12,560
Yep. Imagine that you're having
a bit of a moment emotionally

438
00:21:13,120 --> 00:21:17,000
and Mark looks at you
and says, "Leanne, stop it.

439
00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:19,160
"Be quiet, that's enough.

440
00:21:19,200 --> 00:21:21,240
You need to settle down."

441
00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:22,800
Would you look at him and smile
and say,

442
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:25,120
"Good point, honey,
I am overreacting."

443
00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:27,800
Oh, no, not at all.
No, no, no.

444
00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:30,160
My Maltese arms would
be flying everywhere.

445
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,200
I think my hair would
be going this way

446
00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:34,440
from the amount of breeze
would be coming from her voice.

447
00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:35,680
Yeah, yeah.

448
00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,880
When we're talking with our partner
or with our kids

449
00:21:38,920 --> 00:21:42,400
and they're having a big emotion,
other than giving them space,

450
00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:44,480
one of the most powerful things
that we can do

451
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:48,040
is just to say what we see.

452
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:51,040
There's a phrase that psychologists
have been using for decades called,

453
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,680
'If you can name it,
you can tame it.'

454
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:58,520
So imagine that Bailey is
having this fit and you said,

455
00:21:58,560 --> 00:21:59,760
"Oh, sweetheart, Bailey,

456
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:01,600
"you're so upset because
you're not getting to feed

457
00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:06,000
the penguins" and then you
don't say another word.

458
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:07,960
How might she respond then?

459
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:13,440
She might start to probably
slow down a bit

460
00:22:13,480 --> 00:22:15,840
because she knows that I know
she's upset and the reasons why.

461
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:19,840
Yeah, would she be like, "Oh, I'm
upset and Dad knows exactly why."

462
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:25,720
Yeah. We call this process
emotion coaching.

463
00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:28,240
When our children are
having these big moments,

464
00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:31,040
they either need some form of
validation

465
00:22:31,080 --> 00:22:33,200
or they need some space, or both.

466
00:22:33,840 --> 00:22:37,200
No one wants to be told to calm down.

467
00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:41,200
If someone needs to calm down
so that a conversation can be had,

468
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:45,600
by naming the emotion, the child
will feel understood and secure

469
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,920
and then they can begin to tame
that emotion on their own.

470
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:50,320
Thanks, guys.

471
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,560
Good chat?
Great chat.

472
00:22:57,200 --> 00:23:02,760
Life is unfair, that's the reality,
but parents have an obligation

473
00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:06,000
to teach their children
socially acceptable behaviours.

474
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:10,040
If a child is losing the plot,
then the parent has an obligation

475
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:13,560
to teach that child that while those
emotions might be acceptable,

476
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:16,360
there's a way that we're expected
to behave in public

477
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:17,720
or at Grandma's house

478
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:19,440
or down at the park
or whatever it might be.

479
00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:21,160
The more emotional somebody is,

480
00:23:21,200 --> 00:23:23,440
the harder it is to actually
communicate with them.

481
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:26,600
We need to help them to
regulate their emotions

482
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,880
so that we can have
a problem-solving conversation.

483
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:35,240
The greatest human need is not to
be loved, but to be understood.

484
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:40,960
OK, we've just had our
first glimpse into our

485
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:43,880
new focus parents, so I think
it's time

486
00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:46,080
to look a little deeper at Jonathan

487
00:23:46,120 --> 00:23:49,120
and Kat's parenting style,
our influencers.

488
00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:53,520
Influencer parenting
works on two levels.

489
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:55,800
It's about using social
media and technology

490
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:57,840
as opportunities for connection

491
00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:00,400
but it's also about
influencing kids through

492
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,720
role modeling rather than direction.

493
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:06,360
Hi, I'm Jonathan.
I'm Kat.

494
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:07,520
Welcome to our home.

495
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:11,160
Come on in. We take an influencer
approach to parenting.

496
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:14,520
Hey guys, we're going to
make a simple summer salad.

497
00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:18,320
I'm on Instagram, Facebook,
Snapchat, and TikTok.

498
00:24:18,360 --> 00:24:21,240
I love adding rocket.

499
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:25,080
The content I like to create is
just sharing my everyday life.

500
00:24:25,120 --> 00:24:27,640
And that's it, you pop it
in your fridge.

501
00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:30,440
The importance
of social media is massive.

502
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:31,560
Do I know you from TikTok?

503
00:24:31,600 --> 00:24:33,240
Yeah.

504
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:34,560
I actually watch all your videos.

505
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:35,960
Oh, that's awesome.

506
00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:37,240
I love that.

507
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:41,040
We teach our kids how to use
social media appropriately,

508
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,760
what the pitfalls are but also
what the opportunities are

509
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:47,600
and how to really use that
tool to their advantage.

510
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:54,040
Having a digital profile and having
a digital awareness about

511
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:58,520
how to interact on those platforms
is massively advantageous.

512
00:24:58,560 --> 00:25:02,240
Every profession in every
facet of life can really

513
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,520
benefit from knowing how
to use it effectively

514
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,480
and not to mention
the monetary gain

515
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:09,440
that can be had with things
like that.

516
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:15,160
Both our children have
social media accounts.

517
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:17,280
What should we do next, guys?

518
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:22,320
I use Tik Tok, Instagram
and Snapchat and on Instagram

519
00:25:22,360 --> 00:25:27,080
I have 3000 followers
and same on TikTok.

520
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,920
We were both raised by
very strict parents

521
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,440
and we decided to raise our kids
the complete opposite.

522
00:25:34,480 --> 00:25:35,840
Where are you going?

523
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:37,440
Korean barbecue.

524
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,200
Jealous!

525
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:41,760
We don't want to be telling
our kids what to do.

526
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,040
We don't want to be preaching
to them

527
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,760
or yelling at them,
because we're fun.

528
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:48,800
Alright, ready, set, go.

529
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:50,600
When I was a kid,
I did everything I could to

530
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:52,440
not communicate with my parents.

531
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:54,000
Work it, work it.

532
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:56,560
So what I get out of creating
content with my girls

533
00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:58,480
is spending time with my kids

534
00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:00,480
and it's having that
more of an influential role

535
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:02,720
in your kids' upbringing.

536
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,400
Oh, my gosh, yes.
Tag me. Tag me.

537
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:12,680
I loved how you said
that it's important to

538
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:16,800
set an example on how you hold
yourself

539
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:20,640
in a digital platform and it is
a part of the world that we live in.

540
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:25,680
We don't have a TV or our kids
don't get much tech at all.

541
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:28,600
I'm curious what age maybe
like you gave your kids

542
00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:31,520
an account or what
you felt was appropriate.

543
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:35,360
Deja is 11 so she's been on
social media

544
00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:37,240
for a couple of years.

545
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:39,960
So yeah, maybe 9, 10.

546
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:44,440
Do you monitor what she posts
and what comes into the account?

547
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:48,320
Yeah. So when she, like, asked us
about getting an account,

548
00:26:48,360 --> 00:26:50,680
we would monitor all her messages,

549
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,080
like, we would have access to
everything

550
00:26:53,120 --> 00:26:55,600
and we still do on some
different platforms

551
00:26:55,640 --> 00:27:01,120
and they're not just sitting there
watching, they're creating stuff.

552
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:02,680
Is that intentional
that they're not like

553
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,640
zoning out or how do you sort of know

554
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,320
how much creating and how much
mindless scrolling

555
00:27:07,360 --> 00:27:09,360
they might be doing?

556
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:11,280
I think it's more because
of the way that we use it,

557
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:12,560
they sort of model that.

558
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:13,960
So we're not just mindless
scrolling,

559
00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:15,280
we're creating content ourselves

560
00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,360
and we're interacting with family
and friends a lot as well.

561
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:21,960
But do you want to do everything
in your life for the likes?

562
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:26,720
Like is everything potential
material for Instagram and TikTok?

563
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:28,360
Is it always in the back of your
mind?

564
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:29,920
It's because it's my job,

565
00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:34,600
so it feels like I have to
be showing people my life.

566
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:37,280
I think it's a real worry to get
wound up in the numbers of it.

567
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:41,400
Like he's got 10,000
or 100 million or...

568
00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,960
But are the likes are important
when you guys monetise it

569
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,520
so I imagine the likes
are very important to you.

570
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,480
Do the kids monetise
their platforms as well?

571
00:27:50,520 --> 00:27:55,840
Tisha's just started because she's
up to 500,000 followers now.

572
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,880
I guess what I'm probably
struggling with a little bit

573
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,960
is children are learning
to get validation

574
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,480
from complete strangers
and we really try to teach

575
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,160
our kids that it's not
physical appearance,

576
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:09,120
it's emotional intelligence
and it's being kind

577
00:28:09,160 --> 00:28:11,520
and it's having strength in life

578
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,200
and that's sort of
the driving force behind things,

579
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,480
not people's opinion of you.

580
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:18,640
What it is, it's how
we lay the foundation

581
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:20,800
and letting them know that they are
more than

582
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:24,480
their Instagram profile
or their TikTok profile.

583
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,200
In reality, they are going to
have a TikTok profile and they

584
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:29,680
are going to have an Instagram
profile and you can't like,

585
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:33,320
as much as you think you can
control that, you can't.

586
00:28:33,360 --> 00:28:35,000
No, they're not going to.

587
00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,160
Being able to educate our
children on how to use

588
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:42,280
social media is so important
because a lot of parents

589
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,280
that are taking social media
off their kids

590
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,760
are doing it because they
don't know how it works.

591
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:49,960
To be on social media at nine.

592
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,360
That really was really
a bit of a concern for me.

593
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:54,280
It's definitely something I would

594
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,240
not want to happen with our
children.

595
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,600
When kids are
accessing social media,

596
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:02,240
they need to have
the social skills and capacity

597
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,400
to use it safely and healthily.

598
00:29:04,440 --> 00:29:06,160
We all know some adults
who can't do that

599
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:07,520
so expecting young kids to do that,

600
00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:09,320
it's going to be a bit of a trick.

601
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,880
Your kids will find a way
to be on social media,

602
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:15,160
it's better to be open
about it and to monitor.

603
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,800
Therefore as parents we've
got to be actively involved,

604
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:20,000
having conversations,

605
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:23,480
guiding their social media use
and knowing what's going on.

606
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,800
Coming up, an X-rated topic...

607
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:29,600
Look, at the end of the day,
boys are curious.

608
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:31,880
So do you think deleting
the browser history is lying?

609
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:33,200
..heats up the room.

610
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:36,160
That was really uncomfortable
that it's OK for your sons

611
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,720
to objectify someone else's
daughter?

612
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:40,040
And later...

613
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:43,240
Are you ready to find out
what they're thinking so far?

614
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:47,200
..our panel votes for their
favourite parents of the night.

615
00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:00,120
In the search for
the best parenting style,

616
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:02,920
we need to see more from you,
focus parents.

617
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:07,680
Panel parents, grab those journals,
we need you to be taking notes.

618
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:10,280
Once we see all the challenges,
you're going to vote for the focus

619
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:14,320
parents you'd like to see face
the final family challenge.

620
00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:18,160
How kids navigate the internet safely

621
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:21,480
is one of parenting's
greatest issues.

622
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:25,680
We gave you a laptop for your
kids to research online.

623
00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,880
The laptop was pre-programmed to make

624
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:32,280
a pop-up appear to ask your kids
whether

625
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,560
they were over 18 or not

626
00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:39,120
and whether they wanted to access
adult content.

627
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:46,480
Do they click yes
or do they click no?

628
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:50,920
The biggest concern for most
families

629
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:52,640
is keeping their kids safe online.

630
00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:55,160
In this challenge,
we're looking to see what our

631
00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,920
parents have taught their
kids about explicit content

632
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:01,560
and whether
or not an online temptation

633
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:03,720
is going to be too much to resist.

634
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:07,320
Now, just to assure everybody,
no one actually

635
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,880
saw anything they shouldn't have.

636
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:14,040
Let's see if your kids know
how to be safe online.

637
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:25,360
Do your kids know how to research
in the technology age?

638
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:30,120
Ask your child to use a laptop
to find out all about Uranus.

639
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:31,560
How big is Uranus?

640
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:34,560
What gases are found in Uranus?

641
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:38,240
Why can't people live in Uranus?

642
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,800
This challenge will examine
what our focus parents

643
00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:45,120
have taught their kids
about being tech-savvy.

644
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:48,800
Facts about Uranus.

645
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:51,560
I work in IT industry,
I try to use that

646
00:31:51,600 --> 00:31:54,200
to an advantage with our kids.

647
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:58,640
Uranus was discovered in 1781.

648
00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:01,400
I've had conversations with the
children

649
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:03,680
on how they should be using it.

650
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:08,400
Uranus has the third...

651
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:26,360
KAJAL: Mridula.
Coming.

652
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:30,320
Make sure you spell it properly.

653
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:34,840
Some quite spicy things could
have come up on the internet.

654
00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:37,800
We'll leave this one up to you,
Deja.

655
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:39,120
Yeah, let's go.

656
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:45,000
So our influencer parenting approach
to the internet is to teach

657
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:49,200
our kids to make sure they're
looking at age-appropriate stuff.

658
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:51,120
Yeah, good luck.

659
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:55,160
And to let us know if anything does
come up

660
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,520
that they shouldn't be looking at.

661
00:32:57,560 --> 00:33:01,200
Why can't people live on...

662
00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:05,160
Our rules around technology
are basically non-existent

663
00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:08,280
and that's because we trust our
kids.

664
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:10,760
We trust them because
they've shown us

665
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,200
to be completely capable
and responsible.

666
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,840
You can't restrict your kids
from using the internet.

667
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:53,360
I think our role as parents
is to educate them

668
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:56,120
on how to use it and how to use it
safely.

669
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:06,160
I think you guys did an amazing job,
both families, very well done.

670
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:08,480
I like the way Jonathan
and Kat, you approached it

671
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:12,600
with trusting your children so much.

672
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,160
We tend to do the same thing.

673
00:34:14,200 --> 00:34:18,560
We just have an open door policy
that her bedroom door is open.

674
00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:21,920
And you guys have no rules
around this, do you?

675
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:26,680
No, because we've educated them
so if anything was

676
00:34:26,720 --> 00:34:29,720
to pop up or if they
were unsure of anything,

677
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:32,880
I know they would come to us
and tell us.

678
00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:35,160
What if something does pop up?

679
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:37,880
Like, if there is an image
that comes up on screen,

680
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:40,520
so like a pornographic image
or whatnot.

681
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,640
How do you, I guess once
it's there, it's there,

682
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,360
you can't then remove it from,

683
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:47,360
it's ingrained into their memory
then.

684
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:49,440
I know that my daughter would come
to me.

685
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,640
But she's already seen it.

686
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:55,960
Whether she sees it on
my computer or at school

687
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,000
or at her friend's place,
on the phone,

688
00:34:58,040 --> 00:34:59,880
she's going to see that.

689
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:02,720
So Jonathan
just to what you're saying,

690
00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:04,680
are you saying it is then a necessary
evil

691
00:35:04,720 --> 00:35:07,360
that you are just going to see stuff
when you are online?

692
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:09,600
I think you're going to...
Yeah, definitely.

693
00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:11,680
You are going to see stuff
and things are going to

694
00:35:11,720 --> 00:35:14,160
pop up and it may not be you,

695
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:17,800
it may be your friend or maybe
some in some other situation.

696
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,040
I think it's more about
educating the child on what to do

697
00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:24,080
when that happens and how
to handle the situation

698
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:26,880
when it arises, rather than
shielding them completely

699
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:28,920
from it because I don't
think that's possible.

700
00:35:28,960 --> 00:35:31,440
Just like we found
Playboy magazines

701
00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:33,360
in our parents' room
when we were younger.

702
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:35,800
I found one under my bed recently.

703
00:35:38,320 --> 00:35:40,480
Mark, is this your Playboy?
"No, it's not."

704
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:41,920
Oh.

705
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:45,320
Let's move on
and have a look at our other

706
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,280
two families who have teenage boys.

707
00:35:49,240 --> 00:35:54,160
If the kids did say yes,
the browser simply shut down.

708
00:35:54,200 --> 00:35:55,760
Oh good.

709
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:00,800
Studies show that teenagers are
far more likely than younger

710
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:05,000
children to actively seek out
explicit content.

711
00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:07,800
I'm expecting some 'yes' clicks here.

712
00:36:08,720 --> 00:36:10,800
Hey, hey, hey.

713
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:12,160
What? What? What?

714
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:15,480
We have something special
for one of you to do.

715
00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:19,240
We've picked the child that
loves planets the most.

716
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:22,000
I did make a solar system
in Year Five, so.

717
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:24,280
All right, Matt, you're up.

718
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:27,200
If you can tell me what Uranus
looks like, that'd be awesome.

719
00:36:27,240 --> 00:36:31,600
I think we'd like to think that
our kids would behave online.

720
00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:33,640
Good luck.
Find out as much as you can.

721
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:36,840
I will. You know, we've had those
conversations with our children

722
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:38,720
in regards to behaviour
and what's appropriate

723
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:40,120
and what's not appropriate.

724
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:44,840
In regards to our boys,
who share a room

725
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:48,280
looking up dodgy content,
100% they would.

726
00:36:49,720 --> 00:36:52,040
Not being rude here,
but I know it was like as a kid.

727
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:54,640
Apple doesn't fall far
from the tree, no doubt.

728
00:37:16,720 --> 00:37:19,160
In regards to our boys,
who share a room,

729
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:22,600
looking up dodgy content,
100% they would.

730
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:39,840
(CHUCKLES)

731
00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:57,040
Oh, my god.

732
00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:58,840
Deleting his browsing history.

733
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:01,960
Oh, you're done, my boy.
How'd you go?

734
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:03,560
I went good. Yeah?
Yeah.

735
00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:04,720
In my opinion, I went pretty good.

736
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:07,520
My question is do you actually
know more about Uranus now?

737
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:08,560
Yeah, I do.

738
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:09,600
Yes.

739
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,240
How much do you know about Uranus?

740
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:20,920
It has a ring around it.

741
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:25,920
In the stage parenting style,
our children definitely

742
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:27,680
spend a fair bit of time online.

743
00:38:27,720 --> 00:38:31,600
We would like you to do
some research on your own.

744
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:36,600
We want you to expel as much
information as you can from Uranus.

745
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:40,440
Our kids do know how to interact
in the online community.

746
00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:48,160
Online safety is important
to us but we trust our kids.

747
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:49,880
They're tech-savvy enough to be able
to cope

748
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:51,720
with just about any situation.

749
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:04,880
Oh, naughty boy.

750
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:07,000
It is the only planet to
be able...

751
00:39:14,280 --> 00:39:15,440
What!

752
00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:19,520
There's some expectation

753
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,360
that if anything weird pops up
on the screen,

754
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:24,240
they talk to us about it straight
away.

755
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,200
Hey.
How'd you go, champ?

756
00:39:26,240 --> 00:39:28,160
It was pretty good.

757
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:33,080
It rains diamonds,
and it's a really boring planet.

758
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:38,120
Great.

759
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:40,560
When we look
at the data globally

760
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:43,360
when it comes to explicit content,

761
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:46,600
teenage boys are the number
one consumer of this content

762
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:50,600
in the world, boys aged 14 to 17.

763
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:53,800
And I think pretty much
every family sitting at home

764
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,480
with teenage boys
sitting there going,

765
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:59,360
"Uh-huh, I know what our boys
would do too."

766
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:02,720
So do you think deleting
the browser history is lying?

767
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:04,880
Matthew was upfront
and honest with me

768
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,680
that night and at the dinner
table he said,

769
00:40:07,720 --> 00:40:12,160
"Mum, just to let you know,
when I was googling Uranus,

770
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:15,640
"'yes or no' came up about
under 18 and I pressed yes."

771
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:19,160
He has definitely hidden
his history browser before,

772
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:21,000
he did that really quickly.

773
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:23,600
And then I said, "Matt,
why did you do that?"

774
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:25,680
And he said, "I don't know.

775
00:40:25,720 --> 00:40:27,400
I just wanted to see what would
happen."

776
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,520
I like the fact that he
just told you about it.

777
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,560
100%, 100% as soon as he told me,
I'm like "Matt,

778
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:33,800
"now we're going to go on the show

779
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:35,640
and we're going to be criticised
for it."

780
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:40,720
That's not what this is about at
all.

781
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:43,880
I mean, we look at the first two
families and we're looking at

782
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:48,400
11-year-old girls and we're now
talking about teenage boys.

783
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:51,760
Can I ask you, Sarah and Shane,
when Zion came out

784
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:53,640
he didn't mention anything
about what had happened,

785
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:56,360
did he fess up that he had clicked
yes?

786
00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:58,360
No.
Nothing.

787
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:04,560
I mean, I'm actually fine, he's
a boy, we discussed pornography,

788
00:41:04,600 --> 00:41:07,000
all that kind of stuff.
I know that he's seen it.

789
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:09,920
I mean, look, at the end of the day,
boys are curious.

790
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:13,000
They're going through that
sort of stage in their life.

791
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:14,280
So if your daughter was doing it,

792
00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:17,280
do you think she would
have clicked yes or no?

793
00:41:17,880 --> 00:41:20,600
No, she's not that type of person.

794
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,880
Can I ask, do we have different
standards then for girls and boys?

795
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:27,880
Maybe it's just a bit of
a cultural norm that it's OK

796
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:31,280
for boys to do that but we'd be
surprised if the girls did.

797
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,240
Well I think girls
get tarnished for

798
00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:35,760
being explicit and for being sexual.

799
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:36,920
Yeah, for sure.

800
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:40,280
That was really uncomfortable
that it was fine.

801
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:42,360
It's, you know, "This is what
teenage boys do, that's fine,

802
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:44,080
but my girls would
never do that"

803
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:46,440
and that's like total double
standard that it's OK

804
00:41:46,480 --> 00:41:50,160
for your sons to objectify someone
else's daughter.

805
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:53,160
Like that's what it comes down to,
she's someone's daughter.

806
00:41:54,240 --> 00:41:58,000
I think there are plenty of
15-year-old girls that would say,

807
00:41:58,040 --> 00:42:00,840
yes, no problem,
you know, wouldn't even...

808
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:02,080
I would have when I was 15.

809
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:05,240
I would have totally.
You would expect

810
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:08,560
any child at 15 to press yeah,
I'm good.

811
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:11,760
I'm 18, I got this, you know,
I don't think there should be

812
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:15,360
an expectation for a teenager
to go by the rules.

813
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:19,360
When I hear the way this
conversation is going,

814
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,880
I become a little concerned.

815
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:27,320
The pornographic material
of 2022 is vastly different

816
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:31,080
to the pornographic material
of the 1980s, 1990s.

817
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:35,920
The internet has accelerated,
magnified and amplified

818
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:41,040
some of the worst aspects of what
was already a seedy industry.

819
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:44,080
We're dealing with this
at a society-wide level.

820
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:48,600
The average age of exposure
to pornographic material is 11.

821
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:56,880
Research shows that youth who viewed
pornography once a month

822
00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:01,880
or more are at significantly greater
risk of developing depression,

823
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:06,920
anxiety and importantly, unrealistic
ideas about sexual relationships.

824
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:14,320
The research is clear, consumption
of explicit content has a negative

825
00:43:14,360 --> 00:43:19,480
impact on intimacy and healthy,
respectful relationships.

826
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:23,480
As parents, it's critical
that we start having conversations

827
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:26,520
with our kids about this issue
from about the age of nine.

828
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:32,680
Now let's remind
ourselves why we're here.

829
00:43:32,720 --> 00:43:35,320
It's really all about the kids,
right?

830
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:38,200
We ask them all about you
and you just never know

831
00:43:38,240 --> 00:43:40,680
what they're going to say, do you?

832
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:48,800
Encouraging.

833
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:52,800
They are nice and caring for us
and they look after us good.

834
00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:54,360
Crazy.

835
00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:58,280
Weird, very weird.

836
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:05,080
Yes, and all of my friends
love his hair.

837
00:44:07,280 --> 00:44:09,440
He's really fit and buff.

838
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:12,160
He's like Shane the Rock Johnson.

839
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:18,000
Funny, he always tells dad jokes.

840
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:21,680
One time in the middle of the night,
my dad farted very loudly.

841
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:33,400
I like how she can be
really nice sometimes.

842
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:36,640
Because when we're playing footy,

843
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:39,400
she's always there watching us,
screaming.

844
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:40,520
Like "Billy!"

845
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:44,960
I think I want to be like
my mum because she's like

846
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:49,840
an influencer and like,
she's really rich.

847
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:51,600
Oh, my god, Deja!

848
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:56,360
God.

849
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:01,280
My mum. Definitely Mum. Mummy.

850
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:04,640
Dad.
Dad.

851
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:13,160
Just so we all know, I'm the boss
of the family, not Mark.

852
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:15,000
We know, babe, we know.

853
00:45:15,040 --> 00:45:17,800
Not according to the kids, Leanne.

854
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:21,120
Next...

855
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:22,200
Tell me
if I'm going to hit the car.

856
00:45:22,240 --> 00:45:23,960
You might.

857
00:45:24,000 --> 00:45:26,240
It's cruise control chaos.

858
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:27,760
You're going to hit
the car, stop!

859
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:29,760
Oh, my god.
Watch out, Mum! (CLANK)

860
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:32,080
And a communication breakdown.

861
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:33,240
Are we all just going to ignore
the fact

862
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:34,280
that you dropped the F-bomb?

863
00:45:34,320 --> 00:45:36,680
This is a hot button topic,
swearing in front of the kids.

864
00:45:36,720 --> 00:45:38,120
We don't swear.

865
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:39,360
We live in the real world.

866
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:53,000
We're here to find the best
parenting style in Australia.

867
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:55,040
Today, I mean,
we've already learnt so much

868
00:45:55,080 --> 00:45:56,640
I think about each other as parents,

869
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:59,600
but I reckon it is time
to take a deep dive

870
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:03,280
into Deepak and Kajal's spiritual
parenting.

871
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:07,720
Spiritual parenting focuses on
raising kids to have gratitude,

872
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:12,440
a strong moral compass,
and a purpose to serve others.

873
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:15,200
While this type of parenting
is often based in religion,

874
00:46:15,240 --> 00:46:20,520
it is more about the emotional
and internal growth of the children.

875
00:46:20,560 --> 00:46:25,360
ALL: Namaste. Welcome to our
spiritual house.

876
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:27,520
Spiritual parenting
means parenting

877
00:46:27,560 --> 00:46:31,040
to the needs of the child
on the physical level,

878
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:35,280
on the intellectual level,
and also on the spiritual level.

879
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:38,040
(CHANTING IN HINDU)

880
00:46:39,120 --> 00:46:40,240
Coming from a Hindu background,

881
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:43,400
what spirituality means to us
is that we are all spirits.

882
00:46:43,440 --> 00:46:47,240
We start with an invocation
prayer, (SPEAKS IN HINDU).

883
00:46:49,600 --> 00:46:56,400
So our job as parents is to guide
our children in the overall journey.

884
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:59,680
(SINGING IN HINDU)

885
00:47:00,720 --> 00:47:03,440
And so what we teach them
is to be honest,

886
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:05,680
be kind, don't hurt each other.

887
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:09,880
The only routine we say we have,

888
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:12,320
we spend some time of
the day in gratitude,

889
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:15,880
in praying, in chanting,
for the growth of our inner selves.

890
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:18,840
How is it?
Yummy.

891
00:47:18,880 --> 00:47:19,960
Yummy.

892
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:23,280
Living with the parents,
Kamal and my mum, Dharma

893
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:27,160
has its advantages
because we can see that our

894
00:47:27,200 --> 00:47:29,640
children are learning
from their grandparents.

895
00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:32,200
Let us always be grateful
for all the love

896
00:47:32,240 --> 00:47:35,560
and care that our family
constantly showers on us.

897
00:47:35,600 --> 00:47:38,880
Our children, I believe
are very old souls.

898
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:41,080
As parents, there are times
when we are not the bosses.

899
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:46,280
It's not just us raising kids,
the kids are raising us spiritually.

900
00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:48,760
They teach us every day.

901
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:49,800
Every day.

902
00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:51,640
We all learn from each other.

903
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:52,680
Yes.

904
00:47:52,720 --> 00:47:54,920
So you see the beautiful lesson
we learned from this story?

905
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:58,840
Yes. What should we do?
Always be grateful family.

906
00:47:58,880 --> 00:48:00,720
Yeah, so you understand the lesson?

907
00:48:00,760 --> 00:48:02,200
Yeah.

908
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:09,680
I think nowadays it's really good
to give children another dimension.

909
00:48:09,720 --> 00:48:12,280
It's almost like mindfulness
at school.

910
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:14,960
I mean, it's deeper than that
obviously.

911
00:48:15,640 --> 00:48:18,840
Having a strong sense
of self and being able

912
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:20,920
to be spiritual and have that

913
00:48:20,960 --> 00:48:25,880
to lean on is something that you
need in a hectic, busy, crazy life.

914
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:28,560
As spiritual people, we believe
the whole world is a teacher.

915
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:30,000
Every situation is a teacher.

916
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,880
So it's not confined to
a religious book or religious text

917
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:36,040
or even a congregation on Sundays.

918
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:38,880
Spiritual is something on the inside
only.

919
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:41,360
Externals don't matter,
it's the spirit.

920
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:43,040
It's the intention.

921
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:47,480
And everyone, I believe,
can have a pure intention.

922
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,840
Your parents live
in the house with you.

923
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:52,400
Can I ask people's thoughts on that?

924
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,120
And then if you put
yourself in that situation.

925
00:48:54,160 --> 00:48:57,400
Who'd be happy with their
parents living with them

926
00:48:57,440 --> 00:49:00,200
and how that changes the dynamic?

927
00:49:00,240 --> 00:49:02,480
It wouldn't be healthy for anyone.

928
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:04,560
You know, in that situation,
it's beautiful.

929
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:07,360
In our situation, it's Nightmare
on Elm Street type of stuff.

930
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:08,960
It's terrible.

931
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:14,040
Yeah, I think it's like so valuable
to have generations living together.

932
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:16,680
In Asia, they do that so well.

933
00:49:16,720 --> 00:49:20,120
And I feel like in the West here,
we're kind of missing out on that.

934
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:21,400
Our children are missing out.

935
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:23,800
We're missing out on
the wonderful experiences

936
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:26,680
of living with generations.

937
00:49:26,720 --> 00:49:29,480
And we can see that our kids
have actually grown from

938
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:33,520
this influence of
grandparents in their lives.

939
00:49:33,560 --> 00:49:39,000
It's also, again, it's us letting
go of our complete 100% parenting.

940
00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:41,720
If circumstances allow it,

941
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:43,880
having grandparents involved
in raising your kids

942
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:46,000
can provide great support for you

943
00:49:46,040 --> 00:49:48,960
and a wise perspective
for your children.

944
00:49:49,000 --> 00:49:51,280
Of course, even though it takes
a village to raise a child,

945
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:53,640
you might not want the entire
village living under the one roof.

946
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,680
Alright, who's ready
for another challenge?

947
00:49:58,720 --> 00:50:00,040
Yeah.

948
00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:03,640
Being a parent can sometimes feel
like

949
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:06,320
we're always going backwards, right?

950
00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:11,440
So we gave you the reverse park
challenge.

951
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:15,560
We put you in the driver's seat
to reverse

952
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:19,440
parallel park while the kids
directed you.

953
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:23,600
All the parents have
to do is support their kids

954
00:50:23,640 --> 00:50:27,080
and pay attention
to their directions.

955
00:50:27,600 --> 00:50:29,800
Handing over control to our kids is
really

956
00:50:29,840 --> 00:50:31,400
important to their development.

957
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:36,040
When they feel trusted and heard,
their sense of self-worth increases

958
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:39,480
and their relationship with
their parents improves.

959
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:41,800
(INSTRUMENTAL MUSIC PLAYS)

960
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:48,320
Oh, how much
can you hand over control?

961
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:52,560
Park the car in the designated spot
with your children guiding you in.

962
00:50:52,600 --> 00:50:56,000
No mirrors
or reverse cameras allowed.

963
00:50:56,800 --> 00:50:58,560
In this challenge, we're looking to
see

964
00:50:58,600 --> 00:51:00,720
which parents can relinquish control.

965
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:02,600
Good god.
Oh.

966
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:06,000
And trust their children to
communicate effectively.

967
00:51:06,040 --> 00:51:07,880
Deja, how do you think you'll go?

968
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:17,400
Guess what, River, you're
going to get out and help us.

969
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:19,200
What?

970
00:51:19,240 --> 00:51:21,640
(DRAMATIC VOICE) Two adults
at the mercy of

971
00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:23,600
three inexperienced children.

972
00:51:23,640 --> 00:51:25,120
What could happen?

973
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:28,680
If I can go a little bit further
back, you have to go like this.

974
00:51:28,720 --> 00:51:32,320
And if I need to stop,
you have to go like that, OK?

975
00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:34,480
I think our parenting style
has prepared

976
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:36,240
our children for this challenge
really well

977
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:38,280
because they're used to communicate

978
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:40,880
their ideas clearly and effectively.

979
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:42,760
I need to go forward?
Yeah.

980
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:44,440
That looks like
a forward signal to me.

981
00:51:44,480 --> 00:51:45,920
No, back.

982
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:49,120
Stop.
Stop, stop.

983
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:51,520
Tell me if I'm gonna hit the car.
You might.

984
00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:56,520
(LAUGHTER)
You can't go any further.

985
00:51:56,560 --> 00:51:57,600
Can I go forward now?

986
00:51:57,640 --> 00:51:59,240
Are you going to do
the same for this end?

987
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:01,800
Forward, forward.
Barely any space.

988
00:52:01,840 --> 00:52:03,200
OK.
Park.

989
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:05,680
Well done!
Are you happy with that?

990
00:52:05,720 --> 00:52:07,080
Yeah, sure.

991
00:52:07,120 --> 00:52:10,560
If everything else fails,
you could be a parking attendant.

992
00:52:12,480 --> 00:52:13,480
Mridula.
Yeah.

993
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:17,040
You have to teach us how to
park the car, like tell us.

994
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:20,960
Reverse, reverse left.

995
00:52:21,000 --> 00:52:22,000
She said reverse.

996
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:23,160
OK.

997
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:25,120
As far as spiritual parenting
goes...

998
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:26,160
Keep on going.

999
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:29,120
..we should rely on our kids more,
like when they

1000
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:31,240
have an opinion,
when they have a voice,

1001
00:52:31,280 --> 00:52:33,360
be attentive to their voice.

1002
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:34,480
This way, go left.

1003
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:36,560
She is saying that way...
Left.

1004
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:38,280
No, no, no, no, no, no.

1005
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:39,480
Toward me.
This way is opposite.

1006
00:52:39,520 --> 00:52:40,560
OK.

1007
00:52:40,600 --> 00:52:43,520
I'm a side-seat driver, backseat
driver, in head driver.

1008
00:52:44,040 --> 00:52:47,480
Rely on yourself as well as
Mridula, but rely on yourself more.

1009
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:50,800
Go a little bit back.

1010
00:52:50,840 --> 00:52:51,840
Back, stop.

1011
00:52:51,880 --> 00:52:53,720
Keep going a little bit.
A little bit.

1012
00:52:53,760 --> 00:52:56,640
Stop.
Yeah, reverse.

1013
00:52:56,680 --> 00:52:57,960
You're gonna hit the car. Stop!

1014
00:52:58,000 --> 00:53:00,040
Just straight, just go reverse.
That's it.

1015
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:01,360
You're gonna hit the car.

1016
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:02,760
Go forward.

1017
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:04,080
You're gonna hit the car!

1018
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:05,440
(CLANK)

1019
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:07,200
Hey!

1020
00:53:07,240 --> 00:53:08,360
Need to listen to her.

1021
00:53:08,400 --> 00:53:09,880
Oh, no.

1022
00:53:09,920 --> 00:53:12,480
Due to not listening to Mridula's
instructions of stopping,

1023
00:53:12,520 --> 00:53:15,480
we thought we'd just sneak it
in and no, we hit the car.

1024
00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:16,720
See how close it was.

1025
00:53:16,760 --> 00:53:18,840
Look at that mark you made there.

1026
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:21,320
Oopsy.
Oh, there.

1027
00:53:21,360 --> 00:53:27,040
So after you said "Stop," we,
Mummy, reversed back more, ooh.

1028
00:53:31,680 --> 00:53:33,880
You hit the car!

1029
00:53:33,920 --> 00:53:35,120
Can we hide?

1030
00:53:35,640 --> 00:53:37,000
Could you hear your daughter?

1031
00:53:37,040 --> 00:53:38,280
I could definitely hear her.

1032
00:53:38,320 --> 00:53:41,280
She had incredible
clear communication,

1033
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:42,880
but I think you needed to

1034
00:53:42,920 --> 00:53:46,840
listen to her because she was
giving really great instruction.

1035
00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:48,080
Absolutely.

1036
00:53:48,120 --> 00:53:50,640
And then you were saying, trust her.

1037
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:53,680
But then you were saying
to your wife, but don't.

1038
00:53:53,720 --> 00:53:55,080
Maybe look like there was clarity,

1039
00:53:55,120 --> 00:53:57,080
but I think there was a lot
of blurred line there.

1040
00:53:57,120 --> 00:53:58,640
I think our biggest challenge
was me.

1041
00:53:58,680 --> 00:54:00,000
I think you're right.

1042
00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:05,960
I want to pick up on this for
just a moment as a parenting tip.

1043
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:08,080
As the pressure increases,
we speed up.

1044
00:54:08,120 --> 00:54:09,120
Have you noticed that?

1045
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:12,280
And as the pressure goes up,
our thinking becomes less clear,

1046
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:15,760
we're less able to take in additional
perspectives and be open to

1047
00:54:15,800 --> 00:54:19,280
what somebody else might be saying
'cause we know we're right.

1048
00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:21,480
Our children have perspectives
that are valuable,

1049
00:54:21,520 --> 00:54:23,400
and they can give us excellent
direction

1050
00:54:23,440 --> 00:54:26,160
if we're willing to stop thinking
that we

1051
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:29,000
know it all and overriding
their voices.

1052
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:33,880
Let's talk about how our stage
parents handled that challenge.

1053
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:36,800
I loved it. I thought you gave such
clear instructions

1054
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:38,840
at the start in terms of if they
move,

1055
00:54:38,880 --> 00:54:41,120
show me with your hands
or do this or do that.

1056
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:43,200
But you gave up that control
and he proved

1057
00:54:43,240 --> 00:54:45,520
that you can do that and trust him.

1058
00:54:46,440 --> 00:54:50,040
Alright, we have two more
parenting styles to watch.

1059
00:54:51,120 --> 00:54:54,040
Ella Skye, you're the chosen one.

1060
00:54:56,600 --> 00:54:58,960
OK, so shall we start turning in
now?

1061
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:00,760
Yeah.
OK, start turning.

1062
00:55:00,800 --> 00:55:02,640
Turn the wheel. Which way, Ella?
Which way are we going?

1063
00:55:02,680 --> 00:55:05,080
Left. Left. Right, right.

1064
00:55:05,120 --> 00:55:06,480
No, you're going left, Ella.

1065
00:55:06,520 --> 00:55:08,720
Left. Hang on, now I'm confused.

1066
00:55:08,760 --> 00:55:10,480
No, turn right.

1067
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:11,640
Our kids listen to us.

1068
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:13,120
And we listen to our children.

1069
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:16,080
After about the fifth or sixth time,
they listen well.

1070
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:18,880
You just tell us when to stop, Ella.

1071
00:55:18,920 --> 00:55:20,280
You're fine.

1072
00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:22,320
Someone...
Watch out, Mum!

1073
00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:24,680
No, Matt, seriously.

1074
00:55:24,720 --> 00:55:28,240
(INDISTINCT) children talking
to us at once, organised chaos.

1075
00:55:28,280 --> 00:55:29,680
Matt, this is not...
I'm sorry.

1076
00:55:29,720 --> 00:55:30,840
Hey, stop, stop.

1077
00:55:30,880 --> 00:55:32,920
Stop, stop, stop, stop!
(CLANK)

1078
00:55:33,920 --> 00:55:35,280
Oh, did I hit something?

1079
00:55:39,160 --> 00:55:40,280
OK, stop, stop.

1080
00:55:40,320 --> 00:55:41,720
Yeah, OK, that's...
That's it?

1081
00:55:41,760 --> 00:55:44,120
Ells, you got us in!
We're done.

1082
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:45,840
You did it.
Good job.

1083
00:55:45,880 --> 00:55:47,200
Woo!

1084
00:55:47,240 --> 00:55:49,000
(APPLAUSE)

1085
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:56,880
OK, tell me
when I'm near the curb, OK?

1086
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:59,040
Yep, keep going.

1087
00:56:00,040 --> 00:56:01,040
You can go back more.

1088
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:04,720
I feel like I am good at
handing over control,

1089
00:56:04,760 --> 00:56:08,200
but sometimes I feel like
I can just do it better.

1090
00:56:08,240 --> 00:56:10,160
Just tell me if I'm going to hit
that car.

1091
00:56:10,200 --> 00:56:13,880
OK. You're going to hit it.

1092
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:19,680
We got this, OK.

1093
00:56:21,320 --> 00:56:22,600
Stop!
(BLEEP)

1094
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:28,600
Turn straight now.

1095
00:56:28,640 --> 00:56:29,880
Yeah.

1096
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:31,480
Sweet.
We did it.

1097
00:56:31,520 --> 00:56:32,600
Yes.

1098
00:56:32,640 --> 00:56:34,240
Oh, my gosh.

1099
00:56:34,280 --> 00:56:36,800
Deja, that was super stressful.

1100
00:56:36,840 --> 00:56:39,560
OK, panel, your thoughts.

1101
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:41,800
For the influencers, they have
really

1102
00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:43,880
great communication with each other.

1103
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:47,080
Kind of don't hold back and just say
what it is, which is always good.

1104
00:56:47,120 --> 00:56:48,200
I like that.

1105
00:56:48,240 --> 00:56:51,000
The other the, other family
was a little bit chaotic,

1106
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:54,440
but I'm speaking from
a one-child perspective.

1107
00:56:55,840 --> 00:56:57,640
I think
it's worth highlighting.

1108
00:56:57,680 --> 00:57:00,040
Six children is so intense.

1109
00:57:00,080 --> 00:57:01,480
Yeah, it is.

1110
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:05,960
You know what? I've actually never
ever noticed, but watching that

1111
00:57:06,000 --> 00:57:07,560
like, gave me a headache.

1112
00:57:07,600 --> 00:57:10,080
It was like, wow!

1113
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:13,000
Are we all just going to ignore
the fact that you drop the F-bomb?

1114
00:57:13,040 --> 00:57:14,320
PANEL: Yeah.

1115
00:57:15,720 --> 00:57:18,680
This is a hot-button topic,
swearing in front of the kids.

1116
00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:22,240
Where do Australian parents
really belong on this one?

1117
00:57:22,280 --> 00:57:23,560
What's right and what's
wrong when it comes to

1118
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:24,760
swearing in front of the kids?

1119
00:57:24,800 --> 00:57:26,920
Look, depending on how it's used,

1120
00:57:26,960 --> 00:57:29,720
depending on the choice
of word, I'm OK with it.

1121
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:31,080
If it's sort of set in jest.

1122
00:57:31,120 --> 00:57:34,400
If you've got a relationship,
if they know what's appropriate,

1123
00:57:34,440 --> 00:57:37,120
they're not gonna go at the shops
and suddenly say that.

1124
00:57:37,160 --> 00:57:40,960
We don't swear ourselves and our
kids do know some of those words,

1125
00:57:41,000 --> 00:57:44,440
but they also know we speak
with kindness to other people.

1126
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:46,880
And so I guess it's like using
it towards other people

1127
00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:49,040
that would absolutely be crossing
a line.

1128
00:57:49,080 --> 00:57:50,760
We live in the real world
and you're

1129
00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:52,960
gonna hear swearing wherever you go.

1130
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:56,280
We don't make it a habit
to swear on purpose.

1131
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:57,680
It comes out every now and then.

1132
00:57:57,720 --> 00:57:59,560
But our kids know not to
swear and they don't go around

1133
00:57:59,600 --> 00:58:02,040
swearing in the house,
F this, F that.

1134
00:58:02,080 --> 00:58:05,200
If you shelter kids and, you
know, don't use that language,

1135
00:58:05,240 --> 00:58:09,560
it's kind of a big deal
when they actually do swear.

1136
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:11,840
And I don't swear a lot
when I'm at home,

1137
00:58:11,880 --> 00:58:14,320
like that was a really intense
situation.

1138
00:58:15,720 --> 00:58:18,400
A couple of quick thoughts
from me on the swearing issue,

1139
00:58:18,440 --> 00:58:20,680
because coarse language,

1140
00:58:20,720 --> 00:58:22,960
explicit language is really
a values-based issue,

1141
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:25,800
there's not a lot of science
that I can lean on here.

1142
00:58:25,840 --> 00:58:28,120
It's everywhere.
Our kids are gonna be exposed to it.

1143
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:31,040
There's no way that they can avoid
it.

1144
00:58:31,080 --> 00:58:33,840
But in spite of that,
the critical thing here

1145
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:36,680
is that we teach them to be
considerate because certain

1146
00:58:36,720 --> 00:58:39,280
audiences will not tolerate it
and other audiences

1147
00:58:39,320 --> 00:58:40,440
are completely comfortable with it.

1148
00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:42,760
So context is everything.

1149
00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:45,080
So it really is about teaching
children to think

1150
00:58:45,120 --> 00:58:49,440
beyond themselves and pass on
to your children

1151
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:52,520
the values that you hold dear
when it comes to this kind of thing.

1152
00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:54,720
I have no problem with swearing.

1153
00:58:54,760 --> 00:58:57,160
I have a problem with how you swear.

1154
00:58:57,200 --> 00:59:00,000
The fact that she said it in
such a casual, leisurely,

1155
00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:02,760
appropriate kind of way,
it was all a bit of a laugh.

1156
00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:04,760
There was no one offended
in that space.

1157
00:59:04,800 --> 00:59:07,000
I'm perfectly fine with that.

1158
00:59:07,600 --> 00:59:09,520
In our home, we are very mindful
of what we say

1159
00:59:09,560 --> 00:59:11,040
and it's about swearing.

1160
00:59:11,080 --> 00:59:12,120
Other people are doing it.

1161
00:59:12,160 --> 00:59:14,040
For me, it's just the way
the river flows,

1162
00:59:14,080 --> 00:59:16,360
the stream - that's the norm
nowadays.

1163
00:59:16,400 --> 00:59:19,400
But we don't have to go
along with the norm.

1164
00:59:19,920 --> 00:59:21,360
Still to come...

1165
00:59:21,400 --> 00:59:25,240
Do your kids know
where babies come from?

1166
00:59:25,280 --> 00:59:26,560
One more challenge...

1167
00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:28,160
What's the girl's private part?

1168
00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:30,120
Venus?
No.

1169
00:59:30,160 --> 00:59:32,760
..has our families
fumbling in the dark.

1170
00:59:32,800 --> 00:59:35,280
That's not something
that I want for you guys.

1171
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:37,960
If something
really bad was to happen,

1172
00:59:38,000 --> 00:59:39,960
we want them to be able to
verbalise it.

1173
00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:43,920
And who will be voted
best parenting style tonight?

1174
00:59:53,920 --> 00:59:56,120
We're up to our last
challenge of the night,

1175
00:59:56,160 --> 00:59:59,880
and it's one that every parent
across Australia will have to face.

1176
01:00:00,600 --> 01:00:03,680
The next challenge is you've
got to help your kids answer

1177
01:00:03,720 --> 01:00:08,640
that classic curveball question -
where did I come from?

1178
01:00:10,440 --> 01:00:13,920
So, we want to see
how you've educated your children

1179
01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:18,160
about anatomy
and sexual reproduction.

1180
01:00:20,160 --> 01:00:23,360
Google and the internet
is the number one sex educator

1181
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:25,320
in the world for our children.

1182
01:00:25,360 --> 01:00:27,720
Teaching our kids about
where they came from

1183
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:29,600
might seem like a daunting task,

1184
01:00:29,640 --> 01:00:30,960
but it doesn't have to be.

1185
01:00:31,000 --> 01:00:34,640
We're looking to see if our
parents use proper anatomical terms

1186
01:00:34,680 --> 01:00:37,720
or just a bunch of stork talk.

1187
01:00:37,760 --> 01:00:40,840
Hold on to your perineums. We're
about to get some life education.

1188
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:44,360
(INSTRUMENTAL MUSIC PLAYS)

1189
01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:51,520
Do your kids know
where babies come from?

1190
01:00:51,560 --> 01:00:52,560
Let's find out.

1191
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:57,040
You're going to test your kids
on anatomy and reproduction.

1192
01:00:57,760 --> 01:00:59,040
Oh.

1193
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:01,160
This will be very interesting.

1194
01:01:01,200 --> 01:01:02,480
It's very interesting.

1195
01:01:02,520 --> 01:01:04,520
In this challenge,
we are testing what

1196
01:01:04,560 --> 01:01:06,160
our parents have taught their kids

1197
01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:09,120
about their bodies
and how comfortable they are

1198
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:10,720
talking about it.

1199
01:01:11,360 --> 01:01:16,640
What is the correct name for
a girl's external private parts?

1200
01:01:19,280 --> 01:01:22,520
The reproductory system.

1201
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:24,440
No, no, what is it?
What is it?

1202
01:01:25,440 --> 01:01:26,680
Can Ella answer that one?

1203
01:01:26,720 --> 01:01:29,000
Ella, what's this
called on your body?

1204
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:32,040
Va, va...?
Vagina.

1205
01:01:32,080 --> 01:01:34,360
Yes, ten points to Ella!

1206
01:01:34,400 --> 01:01:37,080
Officially, we haven't
had those conversations.

1207
01:01:37,120 --> 01:01:40,160
They've probably Googled it all
online, to be honest, themselves.

1208
01:01:41,800 --> 01:01:43,000
Do we all know what this is?

1209
01:01:43,040 --> 01:01:44,200
KIDS: No.

1210
01:01:44,240 --> 01:01:48,680
It looks like that source
areola, aoila? Aioli. Aioli.

1211
01:01:49,360 --> 01:01:51,960
So, babies either come out
of the women's...

1212
01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:53,120
Belly or bum.

1213
01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:54,800
Private?
Yes.

1214
01:01:54,840 --> 01:01:56,440
Vagina?
No.

1215
01:01:56,480 --> 01:01:57,720
That's where we wee from.

1216
01:01:57,760 --> 01:01:59,200
No, no, no, it does
come out of the vagina.

1217
01:02:00,880 --> 01:02:03,320
What's that called where
the babies come out from?

1218
01:02:03,360 --> 01:02:04,560
The vagina!

1219
01:02:04,600 --> 01:02:06,480
Mum, you have the experience,
and it's right there.

1220
01:02:06,520 --> 01:02:08,400
It's right there.
You should know this.

1221
01:02:08,440 --> 01:02:09,600
I'm going to have to learn more.

1222
01:02:09,640 --> 01:02:11,560
She's had six kids,
but now she knows.

1223
01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:18,000
Question one,
what is the correct name

1224
01:02:18,040 --> 01:02:21,160
for a girl's external private parts?

1225
01:02:21,200 --> 01:02:23,040
Vulva?

1226
01:02:23,080 --> 01:02:26,880
Our children are very much
exposed to adult themes.

1227
01:02:26,920 --> 01:02:30,280
The first musical that Zion was in
when he was eight years old,

1228
01:02:30,320 --> 01:02:34,560
he'd just turned eight, was Kinky
Boots, which is about drag queens.

1229
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:38,560
What is removed during
a circumcision?

1230
01:02:38,600 --> 01:02:40,640
Foreskin!
Five skin.

1231
01:02:40,680 --> 01:02:42,320
Foreskin.
Five skin!

1232
01:02:43,680 --> 01:02:48,280
So, in the anatomy quiz, I think
that they navigated it pretty well.

1233
01:02:48,320 --> 01:02:49,840
Wenus.

1234
01:02:51,440 --> 01:02:53,360
That's the elbow.

1235
01:02:53,400 --> 01:02:55,440
I keep my wenus right here.

1236
01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:57,680
Whoa.

1237
01:02:57,720 --> 01:03:00,520
So we want to go through what
you know about the human body.

1238
01:03:00,560 --> 01:03:03,320
OK? It is a bit uncomfortable
and awkward

1239
01:03:03,360 --> 01:03:05,400
speaking about reproductive health.

1240
01:03:05,440 --> 01:03:07,120
OK, tell me, where does
the babies come from?

1241
01:03:07,160 --> 01:03:08,200
Show me.

1242
01:03:08,240 --> 01:03:09,720
They come from the belly.

1243
01:03:09,760 --> 01:03:11,560
And how do they come out?

1244
01:03:14,280 --> 01:03:16,040
I think it was good to
test them out first.

1245
01:03:16,080 --> 01:03:17,960
Yes.
To see what they knew.

1246
01:03:18,000 --> 01:03:19,920
What's the girl's private part?

1247
01:03:20,840 --> 01:03:23,320
Come on Mridula, try.
Start with V.

1248
01:03:23,360 --> 01:03:24,560
Venus.

1249
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:26,200
No.

1250
01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:28,920
That's a good try.

1251
01:03:28,960 --> 01:03:31,400
The female private part is
called a vagina.

1252
01:03:31,440 --> 01:03:33,320
Vagina.
Vagina.

1253
01:03:33,360 --> 01:03:34,440
KIDS: Vagina.

1254
01:03:34,480 --> 01:03:36,680
Yeah. I feel
very awkward with that.

1255
01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:39,720
I was trembling saying the V word.

1256
01:03:42,640 --> 01:03:45,000
Alright, vulva.

1257
01:03:45,040 --> 01:03:46,480
Vulva or Volvo.

1258
01:03:46,520 --> 01:03:48,000
V-O-U-L...

1259
01:03:49,960 --> 01:03:53,280
Not V-O-U,
it's V-U-L-V-A, vulva.

1260
01:03:53,320 --> 01:03:54,320
Yeah.

1261
01:03:54,360 --> 01:03:55,800
It's not a car.

1262
01:03:59,400 --> 01:04:01,920
Areola.

1263
01:04:01,960 --> 01:04:03,280
What's an areola?

1264
01:04:03,320 --> 01:04:05,000
Hindus were the creators
of Kama Sutra,

1265
01:04:05,040 --> 01:04:08,840
it's quite an oxymoron
that we don't discuss it.

1266
01:04:15,920 --> 01:04:19,520
Deepak, are you now
comfortable with the V word?

1267
01:04:19,560 --> 01:04:22,880
Yes. OK, because I just wanna know,

1268
01:04:22,920 --> 01:04:25,840
we could do a bit of
a vagina chant if you want.

1269
01:04:27,280 --> 01:04:29,640
Come on, it's a team-building
exercise.

1270
01:04:29,680 --> 01:04:32,680
PANEL: Vagina.

1271
01:04:36,600 --> 01:04:39,160
Ooh! I tell you what.

1272
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:41,440
I reckon we all got a little
bit of life education.

1273
01:04:41,480 --> 01:04:44,160
Can I ask the panel, thoughts?

1274
01:04:45,040 --> 01:04:48,000
How do you think that what sort
of expectations going forward

1275
01:04:48,040 --> 01:04:50,880
do you teach yourself or do
you say, go read a book?

1276
01:04:50,920 --> 01:04:51,920
Our society is quite split.

1277
01:04:51,960 --> 01:04:55,000
There's a taboo based on
our previous generation

1278
01:04:55,040 --> 01:04:58,400
and what, how we behave on such
topics with our parents.

1279
01:04:58,440 --> 01:05:02,320
Even today, there will be parents
in our sort of community

1280
01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:03,880
who probably point finger
at us saying,

1281
01:05:03,920 --> 01:05:06,120
"How could you talk like
that to your children?"

1282
01:05:06,160 --> 01:05:07,800
There will still be a taboo.

1283
01:05:07,840 --> 01:05:09,680
I expected the school
sort of to do that,

1284
01:05:09,720 --> 01:05:12,000
the job that we sort of need to do.

1285
01:05:12,040 --> 01:05:15,240
It was also wrong. I guess we need
to take responsibility.

1286
01:05:15,280 --> 01:05:17,440
So you guys have a cultural
reason for perhaps

1287
01:05:17,480 --> 01:05:19,680
not being aware of the body parts.

1288
01:05:19,720 --> 01:05:23,200
Leanne and Mark, what's your excuse?

1289
01:05:24,320 --> 01:05:25,520
You know what?

1290
01:05:25,560 --> 01:05:27,520
With the picture where you were
putting

1291
01:05:27,560 --> 01:05:29,560
the their names to it,
my kids knew it all.

1292
01:05:29,600 --> 01:05:33,920
I knew nothing like I was seriously,
I had my phone and I was Googling.

1293
01:05:33,960 --> 01:05:36,400
All I knew was the areola
around your titties.

1294
01:05:36,440 --> 01:05:37,880
But I was...

1295
01:05:37,920 --> 01:05:40,120
They knew more than I did.

1296
01:05:41,240 --> 01:05:43,960
I would say not knowing
after six kids that a baby

1297
01:05:44,000 --> 01:05:46,920
comes out of a vagina,
it would give you a fail.

1298
01:05:47,880 --> 01:05:50,040
Let's talk about
our stage parents.

1299
01:05:50,080 --> 01:05:53,840
We have a special book and it
teaches the kids the anatomy.

1300
01:05:53,880 --> 01:05:57,000
And it says, "Emma has
a vagina and a vulva."

1301
01:05:57,040 --> 01:05:59,160
And so it was all in the book.

1302
01:05:59,200 --> 01:06:02,160
Can I just ask our panel
parents, who's sitting here

1303
01:06:02,200 --> 01:06:04,000
listening to this
and thinking, you know what?

1304
01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:06,960
I need to go home, I need to
have more of a conversation

1305
01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:09,200
with my kids about reproduction.

1306
01:06:09,240 --> 01:06:10,520
I think the sooner the better.

1307
01:06:10,560 --> 01:06:14,280
Like, normalise it, celebrate our
bodies, like our bodies are amazing.

1308
01:06:14,320 --> 01:06:16,240
Like, my kids know when I have
my period.

1309
01:06:16,280 --> 01:06:18,800
Like, this shouldn't be something
that's weird or gross.

1310
01:06:18,840 --> 01:06:20,680
These are our normal,
amazing bodies.

1311
01:06:20,720 --> 01:06:23,200
For us,
it was more about we want them

1312
01:06:23,240 --> 01:06:25,960
to know the correct parts,
the names,

1313
01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:31,120
where they are, because if something
really bad was to happen,

1314
01:06:31,160 --> 01:06:33,240
we want them to be able to
verbalise it.

1315
01:06:33,960 --> 01:06:35,200
Context is everything.

1316
01:06:35,240 --> 01:06:39,520
So sometimes these things are rude,
but most of the time it's not rude,

1317
01:06:39,560 --> 01:06:41,480
especially if we're talking
about it in the way

1318
01:06:41,520 --> 01:06:43,120
that it's supposed
to be talked about.

1319
01:06:43,160 --> 01:06:44,640
And if our kids know that they can
come to us

1320
01:06:44,680 --> 01:06:47,640
to have healthy and safe
conversations,

1321
01:06:47,680 --> 01:06:49,920
they're going to make better
decisions.

1322
01:06:51,200 --> 01:06:54,880
Children as young as four are
ready to start learning some of

1323
01:06:54,920 --> 01:06:58,400
the details about where babies come
from and how their bodies work.

1324
01:06:58,440 --> 01:07:01,400
So start early and have
these conversations often

1325
01:07:01,440 --> 01:07:03,880
so they become a natural part of
life.

1326
01:07:04,560 --> 01:07:05,840
Next...

1327
01:07:05,880 --> 01:07:07,560
That's not something
that I want for you guys.

1328
01:07:07,600 --> 01:07:09,760
The life education continues.

1329
01:07:09,800 --> 01:07:12,120
Basically, just teaching them
about the pill.

1330
01:07:12,160 --> 01:07:13,320
How to be safe.

1331
01:07:13,360 --> 01:07:16,000
Our influencer parents
download.

1332
01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:19,520
They have an opportunity to
choose how their life plays out.

1333
01:07:19,560 --> 01:07:22,280
And Kat never got that choice,
it was forced upon her.

1334
01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:26,000
Then our panel parents
decide which style

1335
01:07:26,040 --> 01:07:27,680
is their favourite of the night.

1336
01:07:35,720 --> 01:07:37,400
We've just watched three
of our families squirm

1337
01:07:37,440 --> 01:07:39,880
through the birds and the bees chat.

1338
01:07:39,920 --> 01:07:44,160
Time to see how our other focus
parents did in the same challenge.

1339
01:07:44,960 --> 01:07:50,680
We're going to see how much you
know about where babies come from.

1340
01:07:50,720 --> 01:07:52,280
God.

1341
01:07:54,680 --> 01:07:58,880
Open communication
in influencer parenting is just...

1342
01:07:59,360 --> 01:08:00,520
They can come to me about anything.

1343
01:08:00,560 --> 01:08:02,800
They can talk to me
via text message.

1344
01:08:02,840 --> 01:08:05,240
They can even message me
on Snapchat if they don't feel

1345
01:08:05,280 --> 01:08:08,280
comfortable talking
to me face-to-face.

1346
01:08:08,320 --> 01:08:11,160
So whatever works for them, really.

1347
01:08:12,120 --> 01:08:13,680
Do you know where babies come from?

1348
01:08:13,720 --> 01:08:15,080
Yes.
Yeah.

1349
01:08:15,120 --> 01:08:16,800
You do?
Sperm.

1350
01:08:16,840 --> 01:08:17,880
Sperm.

1351
01:08:17,920 --> 01:08:21,720
So what happens with the sperm?

1352
01:08:21,760 --> 01:08:23,520
You told me they race.

1353
01:08:26,000 --> 01:08:29,680
They do race and then
that winner is the baby.

1354
01:08:29,720 --> 01:08:32,040
The baby.
Awesome.

1355
01:08:32,080 --> 01:08:35,960
The reason why I want you guys
to know is because I want you

1356
01:08:36,000 --> 01:08:39,680
to be able to feel
comfortable with your body.

1357
01:08:39,720 --> 01:08:41,760
And even though I was a teen mum,

1358
01:08:41,800 --> 01:08:44,440
that's not something
that I want for you guys.

1359
01:08:45,960 --> 01:08:51,480
I think back to being a 17-year-old
mum and I'm just mind-blown.

1360
01:08:51,520 --> 01:08:54,120
Like I don't know how I did it.

1361
01:08:54,880 --> 01:08:56,920
There was never really an
opportunity for me

1362
01:08:56,960 --> 01:08:58,640
to go talk to my parents

1363
01:08:58,680 --> 01:09:01,000
because they were both super
strict and very religious.

1364
01:09:01,040 --> 01:09:02,760
So it was just like out of the
question,

1365
01:09:02,800 --> 01:09:04,360
like we don't talk about that.

1366
01:09:04,400 --> 01:09:07,880
So that's the best way to
avoid that situation

1367
01:09:07,920 --> 01:09:10,040
is by knowing about your
body and how it works.

1368
01:09:16,200 --> 01:09:17,640
Are you comfortable
sharing with us, Kat,

1369
01:09:17,680 --> 01:09:21,240
like what you've told
the girls about being a teen mum?

1370
01:09:22,160 --> 01:09:24,360
I just don't want them to be one.

1371
01:09:24,400 --> 01:09:28,560
Basically, just teach them about
the pill, how to be safe.

1372
01:09:28,600 --> 01:09:29,920
I don't think I've had that
conversation

1373
01:09:29,960 --> 01:09:32,640
with Deja as such, like in detail,

1374
01:09:32,680 --> 01:09:35,480
but when Tisha kind of hit 15, 16

1375
01:09:35,520 --> 01:09:38,720
just taught her
about how to be safe.

1376
01:09:38,760 --> 01:09:42,400
Just because I wanted them
to have a good life

1377
01:09:42,440 --> 01:09:45,600
and not saying that my life was bad,

1378
01:09:45,640 --> 01:09:50,920
but I didn't want them to be held
back and I wanted them to go to uni,

1379
01:09:50,960 --> 01:09:53,320
get jobs, do all that sort of stuff.

1380
01:09:53,360 --> 01:09:58,240
We sort of just told them that
they have an opportunity to choose

1381
01:09:58,280 --> 01:10:02,120
how their life plays out
and Kat never got that choice.

1382
01:10:02,160 --> 01:10:03,800
It was forced upon her.

1383
01:10:03,840 --> 01:10:10,400
I was with a previous partner
and it was a horrible relationship,

1384
01:10:10,440 --> 01:10:12,160
DV, like the works.

1385
01:10:12,200 --> 01:10:14,000
It was really bad.

1386
01:10:14,600 --> 01:10:16,800
You're actually being the person
that you needed

1387
01:10:16,840 --> 01:10:18,400
when you were younger.

1388
01:10:18,440 --> 01:10:22,240
Yeah. And I just really resonated
with your honest,

1389
01:10:22,280 --> 01:10:24,840
your very forthright approach
with that

1390
01:10:24,880 --> 01:10:27,120
and I feel proud of you
for doing that.

1391
01:10:27,160 --> 01:10:28,560
Thank you.

1392
01:10:29,960 --> 01:10:32,400
Hearing Kat tell her story
about being a teen mum,

1393
01:10:32,440 --> 01:10:34,600
I do know what it's like
to do things alone,

1394
01:10:34,640 --> 01:10:38,720
so I can't imagine as a younger
person being able to do that.

1395
01:10:39,800 --> 01:10:43,120
Well done you for raising
two beautiful girls.

1396
01:10:47,720 --> 01:10:51,200
Parents don't have
these conversations.

1397
01:10:51,240 --> 01:10:52,240
Not nearly enough.

1398
01:10:52,280 --> 01:10:54,600
Research shows that we're not
talking about body parts,

1399
01:10:54,640 --> 01:10:56,640
we're not talking about body safety,

1400
01:10:56,680 --> 01:11:00,480
we're not talking about procreation
or reproduction nearly enough.

1401
01:11:00,520 --> 01:11:02,600
There does need to be a level of
developmental appropriateness

1402
01:11:02,640 --> 01:11:03,640
to this.

1403
01:11:03,680 --> 01:11:05,920
We don't say the same
things to our 16-year-old

1404
01:11:05,960 --> 01:11:07,960
that we say to our six-year-old.

1405
01:11:08,000 --> 01:11:12,400
Equipping our kids with knowledge
is the best way to ensure respect,

1406
01:11:12,440 --> 01:11:15,640
consent and understanding
when it comes to choices

1407
01:11:15,680 --> 01:11:17,600
about their bodies
and reproductive health.

1408
01:11:19,400 --> 01:11:23,040
OK. Panel parents, when it comes to
parenting,

1409
01:11:23,080 --> 01:11:25,800
everyone has something to say.

1410
01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:29,640
We want to see who you think
has done best so far.

1411
01:11:29,680 --> 01:11:31,960
Time to put your votes down on paper.

1412
01:11:36,080 --> 01:11:39,280
I'm surprised I like the influencer
family as much as I do.

1413
01:11:39,320 --> 01:11:41,120
Like, I really appreciate their
approach.

1414
01:11:41,160 --> 01:11:43,800
It seems like they're quite
well thought through

1415
01:11:43,840 --> 01:11:46,960
in terms of the big discussions
that they're having.

1416
01:11:47,000 --> 01:11:49,680
I really love
the spiritual parents.

1417
01:11:49,720 --> 01:11:52,360
What was really important to them
they were doing with their children.

1418
01:11:52,400 --> 01:11:54,480
It wasn't separate to them,
but the children were fully

1419
01:11:54,520 --> 01:11:56,520
included in what was
most important to them.

1420
01:11:56,560 --> 01:11:58,840
Oh, hang on. We think the stage
parenting style

1421
01:11:58,880 --> 01:12:00,600
is really invested in their kids.

1422
01:12:00,640 --> 01:12:02,600
They all have the same interests
and they

1423
01:12:02,640 --> 01:12:04,880
all can do it together as a family.

1424
01:12:04,920 --> 01:12:07,480
It is time to collect your vote.

1425
01:12:08,880 --> 01:12:10,600
I think at this stage,
I'm definitely

1426
01:12:10,640 --> 01:12:12,880
team parenting style
because I really,

1427
01:12:12,920 --> 01:12:16,000
really love to see those children
really, really happy and really,

1428
01:12:16,040 --> 01:12:18,240
really engaged in their family.

1429
01:12:18,280 --> 01:12:20,240
OK. Focus parents,

1430
01:12:20,280 --> 01:12:23,000
the panel parents have cast
their votes.

1431
01:12:23,640 --> 01:12:26,160
Are you ready to find out
what they're thinking so far?

1432
01:12:29,760 --> 01:12:34,000
The parents with the best
parental guidance tonight are...

1433
01:12:36,400 --> 01:12:39,400
..Jonathan and Kat,
our influencer style.

1434
01:12:39,440 --> 01:12:41,560
You took the vote tonight.
(APPLAUSE)

1435
01:12:42,720 --> 01:12:44,000
Well done.

1436
01:12:44,040 --> 01:12:45,400
How are you feeling?

1437
01:12:45,440 --> 01:12:46,480
Oh, surprised?

1438
01:12:46,520 --> 01:12:47,560
Yeah.
Yeah.

1439
01:12:47,600 --> 01:12:49,480
Yeah. We thought
everyone would hate us.

1440
01:12:51,400 --> 01:12:55,040
Social media, people can
have a negative view of it,

1441
01:12:55,080 --> 01:12:58,560
but it was really refreshing
that people actually like us.

1442
01:13:01,320 --> 01:13:04,880
Tomorrow night, we've got
a brand new set of challenges.

1443
01:13:04,920 --> 01:13:07,720
I hope you're ready!
And we'll be voting

1444
01:13:07,760 --> 01:13:10,720
for which of you will make the final.

1445
01:13:12,400 --> 01:13:16,960
VOICEOVER: Four new parenting styles
go under the spotlight.

1446
01:13:17,000 --> 01:13:19,720
Welcome to our mad house.

1447
01:13:19,760 --> 01:13:21,320
Stage parents.
Stage parents.

1448
01:13:21,360 --> 01:13:25,480
If you want to be a Hollywood actor,
you need to watch what you eat.

1449
01:13:25,520 --> 01:13:27,520
Don't forget,
neither of us eat carbs.

1450
01:13:28,120 --> 01:13:29,280
We all have amazing bodies,

1451
01:13:29,320 --> 01:13:30,880
regardless of how they might look on
the outside.

1452
01:13:30,920 --> 01:13:33,200
But how will they all perform...

1453
01:13:33,240 --> 01:13:36,000
ALLY: The kids are home alone,
and there's a fire.

1454
01:13:36,040 --> 01:13:38,600
..facing their toughest test yet?

1455
01:13:38,640 --> 01:13:39,640
It smells like it's on fire.

1456
01:13:40,160 --> 01:13:41,400
The life and death skills...

1457
01:13:41,440 --> 01:13:42,440
Smoke emergency!

1458
01:13:42,480 --> 01:13:45,360
..you need to teach your kids.

1459
01:13:45,400 --> 01:13:46,400
(COUGHING)