Previously on Parental Guidance.
Oi! We need to go to the video ref.
Four new parenting styles came into focus
and confronted the worst parts of the internet.
Girls get tarnished to being explicit and for being sexual.
That's like total double standard.
Then the influencer parents were voted best of the night.
We thought everyone would hate us.
Tonight, the battle for Australia's best parenting style continues.
Welcome to our madhouse.
We put our stage parents...
Don't forget, neither of us ate carbs.
..under the spotlight.
If you want to be a Hollywood actor and be all buff,
you need to watch what you eat.
We all have amazing bodies
regardless of how they might look on the outside.
And when the unthinkable happens...
(ALARM)
The kids are home alone and there's a fire.
Wow. What would your child do?
(COUGHS) Oh, crap.
This really tests life and death skills.
Oh, my God.
(ALARM) Emergency!
# Your love is like a symphony #
Justin, is it OK to have a favourite child?
Oh, no. No, it's not.
We're supposed to love them all just the same.
Yeah, that's what I say, too.
But you can rank them, right?
(LAUGHTER)
Parents, hello.
Welcome to the Eurovision of Parenting...
(LAUGHTER)
..where we find out which style is pitch-perfect.
And whether any of you will have an off-key moment.
Last time we put you through some mind-bending challenges.
But now, we need to see more from you focused parents
because tonight is decision night.
We're going to find out who will be joining Kat,
our honest parent, in the final challenge.
And panel parents, it is up to you to decide.
Last time you picked Jonathan and Kat, our influencer parents,
as the best parenting styles so far.
Will they be able to stay on top of the podium tonight?
OK.
Our first challenge tonight tackles a very relatable issue.
So in this challenge, we gave the parents the night off
and put the kids in charge of dinner.
So it's up to the kids to get a meal on the table for the whole family.
Let's see what you all had to eat.
This challenge will test what life skills
these parents have passed on to their kids.
Are the children comfortable in the kitchen whipping up a meal
or is takeaway the name of the game?
Do they go healthy or is it going to be junk food for the win?
(CHIME)
Oh, I just got a message.
Parents, you're getting the night off.
It's up to the kids to sort out dinner
for the family while you relax.
Winning.
Winner, winner chicken dinner.
In this challenge, we're testing whether these kids
know how to provide a meal for their family.
It will also reveal the true family dynamics.
I'm excited that you don't have to cook.
What are you thinking?
Pasta.
As spiritual parents, meal times are very important in our house.
It's a very core part of our household.
Get everything that we need.
I was very confident they can do it.
Push it down, turn on this way.
If you need anything, just let us know.
Can I cut off Bob?
Yeah, I'll teach you how to cut.
You just need to cut smaller pieces, like that.
OK.
Krishna was guiding Mridula.
As spiritual parents, these are very important;
kindness, caring and looking out for each other.
Am I mixing it correctly? Yeah.
It might be good, it might be bad.
Mridula is a very fussy eater.
Done. Can we try now?
Yes. Yep.
OK, that's enough, I think.
But today we saw her exploring a new type of food because
of the fact that she was involved in the cooking.
How does it taste?
It's yummy.
I could make this every day. Yeah.
If you enjoy making it, I'll enjoy eating it.
That was sweet.
You are going to do something for us.
We would like you to make us dinner,
but I'd like it to be more than one course.
In this stage of parenting style,
I like to push my kids to see what they can do.
What's the first thing that we make?
I'd definitely trust our kids to cook for us.
Do you want to help me a bit? Sure.
What vegetables do you reckon?
Umm...
Spinach? Yeah.
Don't forget, neither of us eat carbs.
I'm cooking.
I think Xion,
his number one food is rice.
So there was a big chunk of rice.
(LAUGHS)
Holy crap.
We think it's important without shaming them.
Make them aware.
If you want to be a Hollywood actor and be all buff and hot,
then you need to watch what you eat.
Thanks. I loved the little bits on the side.
Enjoy your food.
I won't be eating the rice.
I hope it's not poisonous.
Mommy, you took it all apart.
Because I have to save room for the main course.
Steak and vegetables.
Thank you very much. Thank you.
Well done, Alaska.
Now, Mridula is normally a bit of a fussy eater,
but she ate all of that.
Is there something to take away from that?
Yeah, I think the more you empower them and do less,
it allows them to grow and reach out for their potential.
You are so present.
It's commendable.
You are living in exactly that moment and everyone embraces
it in their own little way, but together it's brilliant.
We spend a lot of time eating in our lives,
so the whole process of eating,
preparing, becomes a spiritual activity.
I always say to my kids that this food which has reached
our table had touched 100 hands before it's come to us.
Can I move in with you?
(LAUGHTER)
OK, what about our stage parents, Sarah and Shane?
I really liked how they gave each child a course to do
so you're pushing them to their limit.
That's a good example of them sort of raising
the standard for their kids.
I loved how confident your kids were.
I think you could see that they loved it, too.
Their enthusiasm was so evident. Yeah.
Yeah, they do.
I guess for me, it was just a little bit concerning
that you made a comment about if you wanted to be in the public eye
and in the media that you had to look a certain way
because it's definitely not something
that I believe to be true.
I said, if he wants to be in a Hollywood movie and be big and buff,
then he needs to work towards that.
It's a personal goal that he's expressed.
Where do you think that belief system
for him has come from, though?
Yeah, well, they're in the entertainment industry,
so he's being in musicals,
all the dancers and everything have all got amazing bodies.
He's been around it a lot, yeah.
We all have amazing bodies regardless of
how they might look on the outside.
It's not nice to comment on people's bodies.
All bodies are amazing but to have those messages,
that starts to play with their
self-image and their self-confidence.
It doesn't sit well with me at all.
Look, to be honest, I didn't have any issue with what happened there.
I think they're in an industry where it may come up
and that's in the forefront of their kid's mind.
Alright, we have two more parenting styles to see.
Let's take a look.
We just got an exciting one for Mummy and Daddy.
It's up to the kids to sort out
dinner for the family while we relax.
I can't cook.
I'm going to leave Matty in charge because he's the oldest.
As team parents, our children have roles in the family.
Yeah.
We put a lot of responsibility on Matthew.
He's like the captain of the side.
So why don't we all have a group discussion about
what we want to order to be delivered to us?
Ten hundred per cent easier.
I would have loved for them to cook up a dish for us,
but it doesn't surprise me that they've done take away.
It's easier.
So what kind of food do you reckon we should have?
Pasta. No.
I feel like tacos. No.
You want burritos?
Ella, do you want chicken. No.
She's going to have a look.
That's beef that you have in the spaghetti.
Yes, I want that one.
Yep. Do you want that?
So we'll get chicken and we'll get beef because Ella wants to beef.
Yeah. Yeah.
And we are done.
I think as team parents, you know,
our parenting style is educating our children to work together.
Yeah, to look out for each other. Yeah.
Not leave one man behind. Yeah.
Guys, you've all done a good job.
Thank you for giving us a night off. Welcome, Mom.
So, do we have to cook dinner tonight?
You have to provide dinner for us. Well, let's go to Maccas.
(LAUGHTER)
As influencer parents, we think giving your kids a longer
leash and a bit more freedom
isn't always a bad thing.
What Deja, what do you think? Sushi.
You're not going to cook us anything.
Mm.
They're not cooking.
Not if there's another option.
Can't wait to see what you bring back.
Please make sure it's, like, not too naughty, but delicious.
OK, I'll get you a green leaf salad.
With influencer-style parenting,
we are really open with our kids about how we eat
and why we eat that way
because we used to live a very unhealthy lifestyle
and that impacted our life in a very negative way.
We should get like Dad a Coke.
Not a Coke, no sugar.
We were both smokers and we were both heavy drinkers and, you know,
did all the things that wild young people did.
Do you know what you to get? Yeah.
I think the way we teach our kids is by sharing our past
so that they can kind of learn from our mistakes.
So we got you guys a scallop, the salmon and avocado,
and chicken and avo.
Good job, guys. Thanks.
OK, panel, your thoughts.
Leanne and Mark.
Matthew, he rounded them up and he took on
what they liked and what they didn't.
He really listened.
And it was very evident that he cared and he was wonderful.
Yeah.
Having six kids, everyone's got a voice to be heard.
And even though it could be the little lunatic
three-year-old who wears sunglasses at night,
they've all got to be heard and they all got a contribution to be made.
Kat and Jonathan, you talk about your wild past.
Yeah, we were party animals. Yeah.
Once you've lived that past, you've got two options to your child.
It's hide it, right?
Or be open about it.
When we talk about drugs and alcohol,
I've said if you try drugs, they're going to feel good.
People don't do drugs because they feel bad.
But, this is what it can do to your body.
This is what it can do to your relationships.
This is what it can do to your job.
But I think you've got to be really careful with the wording around
'Drugs will make you feel good.'
Maybe say drugs will give you euphoria.
This is what that is and this is how it impacts you.
But does a 13, 14, or 16-year-old know what that is?
No, but that's where the conversation
would then go this is what this is.
There's a dangerous wording around drugs will make you feel good
because then that's what they remember.
For the long term, it's completely destructive
to your well-being and your life.
And that's the reality of the situation.
All parents want their kids to make safe,
healthy decisions around what goes into their bodies.
The important thing when discussing choices around drugs
or alcohol or unhealthy food is to be open and non-judgmental.
We want to empower our kids to make their own decisions
and arm them with the knowledge to make healthy ones.
Coming up, we lift the curtain...
River is Jai in Home and Away.
..on stage parenting.
He gets stopped on the street a lot.
Sometimes I force him to get photos with people
because I don't want to be rude.
If he said I don't want to take a photo.
Would you respect his autonomy?
I think it's kind of rude.
Get a grip on big fears.
I was petrified.
No way, I'm not doing that.
Mummy.
And later, who will be voted our next finalists?
Time for the moment of truth.
# #
Before we move on to our next challenge, focused parents,
we're getting to know each of your parenting styles in detail.
Let's get to know a little more about Mark and Leanne
and their team parenting style.
Team parenting means parenting like the coach of a football team.
Everyone is expected to work together
and everyone has a role to play.
There are high expectations, but no player is going to be left behind.
Let's get to training, tell them Bob.
Correct, correct. Training time!
Let's go. Let's go.
Our team parenting motto is One In...
All in. ..All In.
Alright, are we ready to go training?
ALL: Yes. Alright.
Let's go.
I hope youse gonna have a go today, yeah.
ALL: Yes. I always do, trust me.
You're going to take Bobby to Oztag? Yep.
After Oztag, you're going to take Bayley to swimming lessons,
and then I'm going to come back and pick youse up.
Yeah, OK. We're happy.
Yep. All ears, coach. All ears.
Our weekly routine is very, very, very busy.
They all do so many different sports.
There's no downtime in this household.
You go train hard. Have fun.
Come on, Bobs.
Love you Bobsalogs.
Rugby leagues is in our blood.
I'm the son of the late great Arthur Beetson.
He's the first Aboriginal captain of any sporting team in Australia.
One of what's known as a rugby league immortal.
He was a coach.
He coached me so had a massive impact
on the way we do things, most definitely.
Part of our team parenting, we believe in repetition,
respect, discipline.
They're all the fundamentals that make our team what we are.
Sit down, get a plate of food.
With the indigenous heritage, our kids do have a sense of belonging.
We're having a feast.
Very supportive with family.
Everything works easier if you do it together, right?
So my best part of the day was
having this experience with my children.
The whole day has been the best part for me.
Watching you guys do well.
I like how we're bringing our team together.
Yeah, we're building for the finals. Yes.
Number one - minor premiers!
That's our family.
I loved that you said
everything works better when you do it together.
Does. It's easier.
Because I think we find that too.
People can still have their own opinions,
but you can find a way to do it together.
And I think that's more fun as well to do it like that.
Yeah, I think it's interesting for us.
We always say like "Quickly, quickly,
like jump in the car, quickly, quickly."
Like, we find when there's so much on,
the kids behaviour starts to change.
And that's like too much for them.
Yeah, our kids thrive off it.
If we're not doing anything, they're kind of...
Yeah, they start to bounce off the walls really.
Yeah.
I really like them.
They just, everything they do is fun.
And it shows up when they're with their children
and there's that connection.
And I think it's great.
I feel like there like a bus coming through.
Like there's so much noise and organised chaos.
It's interesting to see how they manage the kids' individual needs.
Alright.
This next challenge is one no parent in Australia can afford to ignore.
The nightmare scenario.
The kids are home alone and there's a fire.
We talk about giving our kids life skills,
but this really tests life and death skills.
Whew!
On average, more Australians die in house fires each year
than in floods, storms, and bushfires combined.
Have these parents made sure their children
are prepared for this worst case scenario?
Billy, can you go and help your sister with those cookies?
Oh, yeah. Open it.
To test the children's independence,
first we need to send the parents out on a quick errand.
Daysh. Yeah.
We're just going to go next door.
You're going to be right on your own?
Yep. Cool.
Bye. Bye.
Then we set off a non-toxic but very realistic smoke bomb,
and a dummy fire alarm.
We want to know, have our focus parents taught their children
to evacuate and call for help in an emergency.
Oh, my God.
(ALARM)
I don't think I've had a conversation with Deja
about what to do if there's a fire.
What the hell.
With the influencer style,
I think she's capable of making the right decision.
(ALARM CONTINUES)
Oh, that actually smells like smoke.
Hello, love. Hi.
What can I do for you? Can I come in, please?
Mm-hm. Can I come in, please?
You certainly can. What's the problem?
My parents weren't home and there was smoke and a fire alarm went off.
Oh, my gosh.
(APPLAUSE)
Billy, Ella, Brooklyn, can you guys just stay here
for about five, ten minutes? Yep.
We're going to take Bobby and Bailey, and we'll be back.
Five minutes.
In our team parenting style, we're the coaches.
And if we ever leave the house,
the oldest child will be the assistant coach,
leaving certain people in charge.
It sort of falls in a bit of a hierarchy.
Whoever's the oldest in this house, you listen to.
I saw you. I didn't take any.
(ALARM)
Stay here, I'm going to check it.
Stay here.
We have not spoken to our children about
what to do if there's a fire in the home.
We have given the children, they've got near the telephone,
the 000 number to call for help if something happens.
But we've actually never.
We've never ever had that conversation
about what happens if fire's in the house.
Yeah. (ALARM CONTINUES)
There's something that smells like it's on fire.
Just chill.
Oh, crap.
Oh, bleugh.
There's smoke coming from upstairs in our bedroom...
Girls, stop!
Go! No, go sit down.
Dad, a fire alarm just went off.
We went upstairs and it's all smoking.
Oh, hey, girls. Girls, sit down.
Alright, bye.
Girls, we need to go outside.
No, girls, go outside.
Oh.
That's the Bill!
It was great to see that team thing really shine in the way that they
listened to their brother and the instructions that he was giving.
One thing that really shone through for me,
your son didn't understand what was happening or what to do,
and the first thing he did wasn't go,
"Oh no, I'm going to be in the shitter."
And I think it was I'm going to call up mum and dad
and see what I have to do next.
That's excellent. Yeah.
Yeah, he rang up and he said, there's a fire.
I'm proud.
I was thinking, I got to check my insurance.
Can we just talk about how we all thought Deja
dealt with that challenge at home on her own.
So much I think to unpack with the way
that she dealt with that situation,
not just the getting out of the house, being calm,
being rational, the fact that she knows her neighbour.
And she was so respectful.
"Do you mind if I come in?"
I was like, "Get in there, girl."
(LAUGHTER)
Next, how will our final parenting styles
deal with this smoky situation?
(COUGHS)
Wait for them to come back. Oh, my God.
As the panel fires up.
I think your son put too much of a brave face on.
I think he did what anybody his age would do,
go and see if there's a fire.
Any fire, get out of the house.
We're halfway through a critical life and death challenge,
testing how your kids react in a house fire situation.
We're looking to see if they evacuate immediately and call for help.
House fires can be deadly.
And our children need to know three things.
First, listen to the fire alarm.
Second, evacuate safely from wherever
they are in the house or apartment.
And third, call for help.
Time to see how our other parents did in the same challenge.
Daddy and I have to go next door and get something.
OK. Go, go, go.
Don't eat anything.
I'll just sit here.
I've never wondered how our kids would go
in an emergency, actually, really.
As stage parents, our children,
they've had to be in many different positions
where they're on their own or having to think for themselves.
(ALARM) What's happening?
Hold on, River.
An emergency to us might be
forgetting the lines a number of times,
blowing more than one show with the same line or something.
We're not fire martial parents.
We're stage parents.
(ALARM CONTINUES)
(COUGHS)
I saw where it came from.
Where is Daddy and Mommy?
It's not a fire.
Good.
Our room is filling with smoke. (COUGHS)
Just wait for them to come back.
(COUGHS)
Mridula and Krishna, we'll be back, OK.
In terms of being spiritual
in an Indian household where we cook a lot,
we use full kitchens and also we relight this lamp
for Krishna every morning and every evening.
See you soon.
(FIRE ALARM BEEPING)
I believe our children are aware of what steps to take
in a fire emergency.
What's that sound?
A small fire, they can open all the windows
and blinds and everything, call for help.
We should call the parents.
You have to.
(ALARM CONTINUES)
Smoke!
Smoke emergency!
Smoke upstairs!
Smoke!
We can turn it off. Come.
You get a towel and turn it off.
So you take all the air.
I was surprised that Krishna was quite slow,
because he's the elder one.
Probably needed to direct Mridula a lot more.
Do you feel like in this situation that you aren't
assertive enough towards your children.
It's beautiful how they educate you, but there are times like this
there's only one solution to a problem and that's to get out.
Absolutely.
There's always scope for that.
And obviously I'm learning here to teach them the right way.
I'm pretty sure any fire you're not meant to
open up the windows because it increases -
It lets oxygen in. Is that right?
It's called flashover.
Yeah, I understood after.
Any fire, Get out of the house. Yeah, 100%. Get out.
It just made me think too,
Xion also chose not to leave when he saw the smoke.
I think maybe your son sort of put too much of a brave face on,
and there wasn't enough urgency there.
Well, I think he did what anybody at his age would do.
What I would have done is go and see if there's a fire.
The last thing I want my daughter to do is, if you smell smoke,
just go and investigate where that's coming from.
That's just not going to be part of that conversation.
Just get out of the house because I can't replace you.
I think we can all agree that that challenge wasn't
comfortable watching at different points,
but it is a really important conversation.
OK, a reminder to our panel parents to keep taking notes
because we're going to be asking you
to vote for the parenting style that you think works best.
Which Focus Family will be the second through
to the final family challenge?
There was no knowledge behind fires for their spiritual family at all.
There was smoke.
He wanted to go and investigate.
He wanted to have a look what was going on.
Fire alarms were going off.
I don't think there had even been education of
when this beeps, get out of the house.
I was really impressed with the team kids.
So the one that had left in charge really took care of his sisters.
And I think they recognised the seriousness in his voice
and of the situation.
Alright, before we look at our final challenge,
there's one more focused family we need to put under the microscope.
Let's learn a little bit more about Sarah and Shane, our stage parents.
Stage parenting aims to create confident,
expressive kids ready to take on anything
with an emphasis on honing stagecraft.
It can be creative, fun, and free flowing,
but with high expectations around performance.
Welcome to our madhouse.
("EVIL" LAUGH))
As stage parents, creating happiness in the home is pretty easy.
Just make light of life.
Make life a musical.
We're going to make a dance.
Because we are teachers of the craft,
our kids are pretty much experts already.
Xion, when he was four or five...
Yeah, these are really cool.
..I just knew that he was going to be extremely successful.
# My friend. #
Now, see if you can sing the harmony of that.
Alaska performed with Andrea Soprano when she was seven.
OK, we're going to do something for an audition.
River is probably best known for his role of Jai in Home and Away.
He absolutely loves it.
If your line was, "Can we go now?"
How would you say it? Can we go now?
He gets stopped on the street a lot, which he does not like.
But if there's any rule that we have,
it's being respectful to other people.
They need to be polite and say hi to people.
And sometimes I force him to get photos with people
because I don't want to be rude.
# #
When it comes to performing, we know there's
plenty of crazy stage parents out there.
I deal with them every day.
But our stage parenting style, they've had a lot more training
than the average child because I pick on everything they do.
Talent alone is useless if you don't practice it.
You know, a bike gets rusty if you don't ride it.
It's that simple.
If our children end up famous Hollywood actors,
they need to buy us a house, a Range Rover with white leather interior.
They can keep the rest of it,
but as long as they remember that we started them off.
I loved how confident your kids were.
Like when they were performing, they just threw
themselves into it with no hesitation.
I did have one question, though.
You said that you would force him to take photos
on the street with people.
If he said, "I don't want to take a photo."
Would you still force that?
I wouldn't say force.
It's probably was a bit of a throwaway line.
But I encourage him to do it because sometimes
he just like straight out goes no to people like that.
And I think it's kind of rude.
What if he was to say no, but politely?
Would you respect his autonomy in that or would you still say,
"No, this is part of your job, you need to do it?"
We talked to him about it.
I'll say, "You know what, you probably made that person's day."
And then it makes him feel good.
There's obviously some sacrifices you make
for them to follow that passion, too.
Yeah.
I make sure that my kids get the opportunities.
And if that means I have to start my own theatre company
so they can rehearse and perform and get experience, then I did that.
What if they wanted to become a nurse or a teacher?
Do you feel like you'd put that same passion into that though,
then you would, because these are your interests.
I don't care what they do, as long as they're happy.
We're not the type of stage parents that want our kids
to be famous or push them in that direction at all.
They love it. That's what they want to do.
So the stage parents, I'm struggling to connect with them
sort of on any level.
I can't relate a lot to how they parent.
I feel like they put their kids in the spotlight a lot.
It's just not something that we could do, that's for sure.
With the stage parents, one of the really positive things
about the life of our kids lead,
is they are exposed to a lot of different things.
They have this rich life that's full of experiences.
Oh, my God.
In tonight's final challenge, our focus families...
Oh, no, no, no, no.
..face their fears.
I don't love snakes.
Could the outcome change the vote?
You're going to be OK. No way. I'm not doing that.
We have one more challenge to see before you make the big decision
on which of these four parenting styles will go through to the final.
In this challenge, we sent your family to a wildlife park
where they were given a snake-handling experience.
We wanna see how you help your children do something
outside their comfort zone.
As our kids grow and develop,
fears are gonna regularly present themselves.
If a child can overcome a fear,
that builds character and resilience,
and they can walk away feeling 10 feet tall.
But if that fear takes root, it can hold them back for a lifetime.
Avoidance reinforces anxiety.
# #
Come on down. Look at this guy.
(CHIME) I love his head gear.
I got another message.
Would your kids hold a snake?
Show us how you help them overcome their fears
with a snake handling experience.
Oh, you're looking forward to it. Yeah, I like snakes.
That means you've gotta go near a snake, mum.
Can you go in? I'm not going in.
(LAUGHTER)
This challenge isn't really about the snake,
it's about how the parents help their child confront a fear.
This is a supervised situation with a reptile
used to being handled by children.
So please don't try this at home.
Oh my God. Oh, my God.
I'm gonna cry.
I thought Tisha would be OK,
but yeah, I was genuinely worried about Deja,
'cause she is not a fan of any type of creature.
What if I get you guys to give him a pat first?
Oh my God.
You're OK.
I'm not a big fan of snakes,
but the influencer style of parenting it's all about, you know,
putting on a brave face yourself and showing your kids
how to to act in certain situations.
If we're not stressed and we're calm,
then that gives them permission to be calm as well.
Did you guys wanna have the feel too?
What does he feel like? He feels like a snake.
(LAUGHTER)
Like a snake.
My biggest tip for getting kids to face their fears
would be baby steps
and just listening to how they're feeling
instead of like just throwing them in the deep end.
Maybe start at the shallow end and work your way up.
Are you OK? Yeah.
Gonna be OK when you hold it, alright?
See how your sister's just, like, standing there?
Yeah.
And not really moving, and I think the first initial
placement of the snake might freak you out,
but I think you might get used to it,
and I'm gonna be right next to you, OK?
OK.
(SUSPENSEFUL MUSIC PLAYS)
Are you ready to hold him?
Yeah.
(SUSPENSEFUL MUSIC CONTINUES)
If you only wanna hold it for a few seconds,
you just need to tap out and tell me you're done, OK?
Just let me know, OK? You'll be OK, I believe in you.
Oh my God, that feels so weird.
You're gonna move this hand up here where mine is.
Bring this one up here.
That's it.
If he comes around to have a look, he's not gonna hurt you.
You're doing so well, bub.
I'm so proud of you.
(UPLIFTING MUSIC PLAYS)
It's so cute. Here comes the snake.
Gimme, gimme, gimme!
As Stage parents, our children have had to deal with a lot of fear.
This here is Winston, and Winston is a spotted python.
When it comes to auditioning, doing things
out of their comfort zone, they're very confident,
and I don't think there's much that they're actually scared of.
Now, is anyone scared of snakes?
No. No?
I love them.
But also, there are certain skills involved that require you to kind of
push down your outward reactions to things and deal with the situation.
We're gonna do some pats.
It doesn't mean we don't address feelings later if we need to,
but they are used to overcoming that hurdle.
Here you go.
He'll find you like a tree.
Do you want me to take a photo of you with it, River?
Yeah.
(THEY GIGGLE)
So cute.
Winston is all yours.
Wow.
So pretty.
Big smile.
Perfect. Good job!
The snake. Oh!
(THEY GASP)
Hey, guys, this is Tina.
She's one of our woma pythons.
Did you guys wanna have a pat? No. No.
No.
As spiritual parents, we believe that having a spiritual mindset
gives us the courage to face our fears.
Mridula, you wanna try? Yep, here.
No, no, no. I'll just grab it back.
Mridula is a more conservative type.
If it's furry and fluffy, it's fine.
If it's slimy and slithery, keep it away.
Try holding it by yourself. No.
Come on, try. I'm scared of the face.
If you want, we'll hold the face.
Yeah, look, here, we're holding the face for you.
Me and your brother hold the face. Yep, now you can hold it.
Oh! Wow!
Oh, my gosh, it's spiky when it moves its scales.
Is it?
Life is all about, as spiritual parents,
just taking a few uncomfortable steps
and expanding your circle of comfort.
(LAUGHTER)
I can't believe how calm you guys were.
I think, as spiritual parents, I'll put it to past life encounters.
(LAUGHTER)
I think the Stage parents kind of shined there,
because you have trained them to be out of their comfort zone.
They're not scared of anything.
But we're not scared of anything either.
And I think it always goes back to,
"Monkey see, monkey do." Your kids mimic you.
Yep. And we're confident.
You can just see that confidence, and they're just...
They seem really resilient.
And can I say, Jonathan and Kat, you must be so proud of Deja.
I think we could all see how scared she was.
You could see that in her eyes.
And to overcome that is no small feat.
You give them such clear, concise direction.
If you want to, you just say yes or no.
Yeah, just keeping, like, the lines of communication open always.
Yeah, you give them such empowerment to speak
to you about how they're feeling.
It's really clear that they are
really open with you because of that.
Yeah.
Coming up... I was petrified.
I didn't wanna be anywhere near the snake.
Is it game over...
Mummy. Can mum come and help?
..for our Team mum? Overcome your fear, mum.
No, I don't really want to. You're OK.
You've got to be the adult.
And which of tonight's focus parents will make the final?
(DRAMATIC MUSIC)
# #
We're seeing how our first three families went when the kids
were asked to confront their fears and handle a snake.
Time to see how Mark and Leanne, our Team parents,
did in the same challenge.
# #
Here we go. Oh, yeah, that's a snake.
With the Team parenting style,
hopefully all the kids will be up for the challenge.
Yeah. Once they see one child hold it,
then all of a sudden, I reckon
you'll see all the rest of them trying to fight
each other to get to hold the snake. Yeah.
That's - you're gonna hold that.
All of our kids are goers.
They'll give anything a try.
Would you like it round the neck? Go on, Baylee.
(BAYLEE WHINES GENTLY) Good girl.
You're OK, Baylee. You're OK. You're OK.
Mummy. Scary.
Straight away, Baylee was a little bit scared.
She had a lot of reservations, you could tell.
She was pulling back a little bit and she was a little bit frightened,
I think, of the snake. Can mum come and help?
Mummy, she wants you.
I was petrified and I didn't wanna be anywhere near the snake.
No, Baylee it's not gonna bite ya.
Mummy.
But then when I saw Baylee was scared to hold the snake,
I don't wanna pass my fear on to her.
Leanne, this is one of those times where you've gotta be the adult.
I'm getting in there with her.
Here, I'll help, I'll help, I'll help you.
Look, look.
We'll try again. Ready?
I'll do it with her like this.
Look, put it around both of our heads.
Oh, wow that's massive.
Oh so much fun, oh, so much fun.
Oh wow.
That's awesome, Lee.
Good job, mum. Wow.
Hold it, hold it, Baylee, Baylee. Baylee put you're hand there.
Oh wow!
When I was with her,
then she wanted to be a part of that same experience.
Look!
I didn't want her to miss out.
Oh wow.
You're so lucky.
When Leanne put her own fears aside, she led by example.
That's not the first time she's done it in the family.
All her life is about her children and making sacrifices
to make sure that they get every opportunity.
That's awesome.
Our whole family participated.
There was some with hesitation, some with fear,
but they got over that obviously with the help of mum.
I did it with you.
Very much a big success. Yeah.
A very big team effort. Yeah.
Well done mum.
You're very calm.
Oh, well done. Look at what you're doing to us.
You made us cry. You're making us all weepy.
I was chicken so bad.
You were clearly so scared.
And then Baylee needed you and you were like, alright, I'm in.
Mark and Leanne, you have a relationship that you model
the team environment to your children as well.
Like the way that you spoke to your wife and said,
"Now's one of the times that you need to be an adult."
Like you encourage your wife as much as you encourage your children,
and I think it's really evident in the way that they act
with each other that they've watched you and learned from you.
We've gotta constantly support each other.
Yeah.
And like especially with that many kids.
Mark is great like that, though.
Team parents, I just wanna be a part of that family.
I love big families.
But what I really loved
was the fact that mum's just jumped on in there
put it around herself as well
just so they can have a really successful outcome.
Emotions are contagious.
Our children will catch our fears as we communicate them
whether we do it intentionally or not.
As parents, we set the emotional climate in our families,
especially when it comes to fears and anxieties.
If we get upset in times of stress,
then our kids are gonna reflect those emotions.
But if we can stay calm and level-headed under pressure,
our kids learn to regulate their emotions
by watching us regulate ours.
Guess what guys?
We have now seen all of our focus parents challenges.
Thank you so much.
(APPLAUSE)
Panel parents, tonight is decision night.
Kat, our honest parent,
was the first to be voted through to the final challenge.
Now, we're gonna find out who's joining her.
OK, focus parents, could you please step outside?
(APPLAUSE)
Well done, guys. Well done.
When people hear the word influencer,
they automatically have this unfair opinion
of what influencers do,
but influencer parenting works.
Our whole lifestyle is performing.
We are definitely preparing our children for real life
and we think we're pretty freaking awesome.
OK, panel parents, let's gather around.
We've got a lot to talk about.
(DRAMATIC MUSIC PLAYS)
Who was best in show tonight?
Who do you wanna see face the final challenge?
Let's start with Sarah and Shane, our Stage parents.
Weenis.
That's the elbow.
He'll find you like a tree.
Big smile.
Perfect.
Can we go now?
He gets stopped on the street a lot.
I force him to get photos with people.
Don't forget, neither of us eat carbs.
If you wanna be a Hollywood actor and be all buff and hot,
then you need to watch what you eat.
I love their confidence,
but I do wonder how much autonomy those kids have.
And if they agree to go on the job, are they then stuck having to take
photos with people when the stage aspect takes over real life?
To me, that's worrying.
They've chosen a lifestyle and with that lifestyle comes nutrition,
looking good in front of a camera, signing autographs,
signing up for the whole package.
There is space for people with different types of bodies
within the industry they work in
and they could choose to have a healthier approach
to how they deal with that with their kids I think.
100%.
Next.
Let's find out who is going through to the final.
It's the moment of truth.
There are some gaps in their parenting.
I think they're in like a little social media bubble
and that bubble might burst.
As our panel votes for our second finalist.
Tonight is decision night.
Our panel parents need to choose which parenting style works best
and who will go through to the final where it gets even tougher.
Let's talk about Mark and Leanne, our Team parents.
Alright, are we ready to go to training?
KIDS: Yes. Alright.
Let's go.
I'm gonna leave Matty in charge because he's the oldest.
Ella, do you want chicken? No.
That's beef that you have in the spaghetti?
Yes, I want that one.
So we'll get chicken and we'll get beef because Ella wants beef.
I'll do it with her like this.
Look, put it around both of us.
Ah, it's so much fun.
No girls, go, go outside.
Oh!
I wanna be in their family.
It's always joyous.
It's always fun.
They work beautifully together in that team environment,
it's really, it's really special.
I love this concept of being a team.
So everybody has a part to play,
but I can see also that they don't get the chance
to try out other roles which might be beneficial for them.
Let's talk about Jonathon and Kat, our Influencer parents.
Both our children have social media accounts.
What should we do next, guys?
If they don't feel comfortable talking to me face to face,
they can talk to me via text message,
they can even message me on Snapchat.
Our rules around technology are basically non-existent.
You can't restrict your kids from using the internet.
I think our role as parents is to educate them
on how to use it and how to use it safely.
Yeah, they've got a really honest approach.
Yeah, she used her life lessons to educate her children,
which is the best way to educate anybody.
Yeah, they communicate really amazingly with each other.
They went above my expectations, actually.
But from our sort of a lifestyle,
we would never just give the kids an iPad and go,
"Hey, go look at whatever you want on YouTube."
No way.
And I think they're gonna be in a little social media bubble,
and that bubble might burst,
and I am a little bit worried about those kids.
Let's talk about Deepak and Kajal, our Spiritual parents.
KIDS: # Hare Rama, Hare Rama. #
We teach them, to be honest, be kind, don't hurt each other.
Who do you think? We have to choose one person?
Do you want to pick?
Alright. Him.
Yes. Yeah.
They teach us every day. Every day.
We all learn from each other. Yes.
You gonna hit the car. Stop.
No, that's straight. Just go reverse. That's it.
You're gonna hit the car. (BANG)
You didn't listen to her.
OK, tell me, where does the babies come from?
Ooh. Yeah. Show me.
They come from the belly.
Smoke emergency. (ALARM)
Now, come here, come.
We can turn it off. Come.
I wrote down the spiritual family really focus
on intrinsic values from their own culture.
Yeah, and having a strong sense of self
and being able to be spiritual and have that to lean on
is something that you need in a hectic,
busy, crazy life where things happen
that you don't know how to deal with
With Deepak and Kajal, I think they're doing
a really wonderful job overall of parenting.
I think there's some gaps in their parenting that we've seen.
I really felt like when they hit the car,
they didn't let her have a voice. SEVERAL PARENTS: Yes.
And it's all about this equilibrium, right...?
Yes. ..and she really lost her voice.
And I feel like that challenge was specifically listen to the child,
and the child had no voice.
And she was right, you know?
But I feel like they're willing to take that on.
MOST PARENTS: Yeah.
There are going to be lessons learned from this.
And I think that's what we need to focus on
because I think that's where growth is found.
OK, time to vote.
Take your notebooks, head back to your seats,
and write down which parenting style do you think was the most effective.
And who do you want to see move through to the final round?
The spiritual parents have a really nice energy.
Like you can't help but smile and sort of feel at ease around them.
I think stage parenting approach is lovely and I think that it teaches
kids to be confident and because they all do it together,
that's a nice way to come together as well.
Jonathan and Kat integrated the influencing
into experiences with their kids,
which I think is what we really love to see.
Tency and David, we've got our outback votes.
I have a feeling that you've written this gently, gentle parents.
And mine's very abrupt. I'm sure it's honest, Kat.
Team parents, they're fun, they're united, they're strong.
They've got a good family unit.
You don't have to unpack that.
It's very obvious.
OK, let's find out who is going through to the final.
Where we've got bigger and better challenges to come.
Focus parents, Come back in.
(APPLAUSE)
Your peers have talked it through.
Now we're going to find out who's joining Kat in the final challenge.
Focus parents, time for the moment of truth.
Mark and Leanne, our Team parents, are going through to the final.
Thanks, guys. Thank you.
Yay! We got through the final.
It's going to be awesome.
So happy. So happy.
Hopefully, we can win it.
Hey, guys, really well done.
I'm so happy.
You seem really surprised, though. I am.
I think everybody here has brought something to the table, though.
Absolutely.
Next time we've got a brand new set of challenges
and our final set of parents in the hot seat.
Another round of applause for all of our focus parents.
Next time... Yeah, baby.
..our final set of focus parents...
We are the road school parents.
American, just totally American.
We're a slow parenting family.
An unstructured approach to parenting.
(SCREAMS)
..come out swinging.
I'm not listening to you because you're not listening to me.
I am.
There can be detriment to pushing your kids too hard.
With the most shocking challenges yet.
I have a good delivery for your mom.
Do you mind if I just put it inside? It's really heavy?
Um...
At a real life situation, you're gone already.
That guy has snatched you.
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