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TERRY ADAMSON
[VOICEOVER]: Healing--

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I think for me, it's being
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of gratitude and
appreciation and joy,

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being where the physical
pain and the emotional pain

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does not distract me from
the beauty in the world

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and from what I
really enjoy doing.

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This house was very,
very instrumental.

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For me, it was a real
turning of the corner

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because it was
something that I could

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feel really excited about.

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With building a house, it's
kind of like a metaphor for what

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was happening in my life.

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My kids and I were
getting our strength back.

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We were getting our joy back.

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I just feel very
at peace being here.

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I think there's something
incredibly healing,

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really, about the ocean.

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I'm Terry, and we are
in Malibu, California.

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And I have lived in
Malibu about 40 years now.

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And my heart is really here.

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I absolutely love it.

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This property was the
first house I looked at.

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The view is amazing.

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We're about a three-minute
drive from the beach.

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It had everything I
wanted in a neighborhood.

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If you saw the house before--

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it was built in the
early '70s, tract home,

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very low ceilings, pretty dark.

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It wasn't taking
advantage of the views.

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And it was awesome because
I got to make it me.

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Judith is one of my closest
friends in the whole world

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and she's a designer.

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She was incredible.

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And Paul is amazing--
the architect.

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She collects stacks of books and
magazines on homes and designs.

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And she said, just
look through, and

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any time you see a
photo that you like,

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just put a Post-it there.

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It was so interesting
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said, everything you've
gravitated toward is French,

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which--

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I had no idea that's
even what I wanted.

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There was a place in Provence
that my husband and I went

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that we loved so
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this amazing, welcoming place.

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And that's what I'm trying
to capture and recreate.

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This home was really
my grieving project.

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I'd lived in Malibu
at the same home

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for 30 years, where my
husband and I raised our kids.

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I never planned on
moving anywhere.

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But unfortunately, my
husband was killed in a very

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tragic hot air balloon crash.

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He buffered my kids and me
with his body and saved us.

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He was an amazing man-- the
absolute love of my life.

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I was in the
hospital for months.

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It was too hard for
me to live at our home

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that we had without him.

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I really wanted a project
because the grieving was

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so painful, and I
knew the distraction

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would be really healthy for me.

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If you walk in, very open--

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all of this, before the
remodel, it was a flat, very

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chopped-up kind of house.

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Everything got really opened up.

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These old barn wood beams--

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these were taken off
barns in different places

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around the nation.

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I think they give
the home a really

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warm, rustic kind of feel.

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Our goal is all
shared to create

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a beautiful house for Terry.

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And I'm just thankful that
there was the commitment

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to use quality materials.

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It allows you to create
a patina to the house,

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and I just think
that gives it so

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much character from the start.

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JUDITH SCHLEY: We brought in
a bunch of old antique doors

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to the property, and
have them constructed

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to shape when you walk
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a front door.

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It's a heavy door.

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TERRY ADAMSON: This
is the living room.

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This is California
plein air art that

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was passed down
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from my husband's family.

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This is actually paintings
that are Malibu in the 1800s.

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All the couches and chairs are
really comfy just to sit in,

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and very inviting for
people to come and hang out.

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I wanted the kitchen and
the dining room area all one

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big, open area because
I love to socialize,

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and I know when
you go to people's

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places, people kind of
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and hang out.

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You know, it's fun to
drink wine together.

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And my friends will come and
we'll make the appetizers

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and the dinner together.

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Some, like-- we have
such an amazing daughter--

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daughter-in-law-to-be--
godson, friends.

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WOMAN: And dog.

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TERRY ADAMSON: And Molly.

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So one of the very first
things we bought for the house

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that Judith and Paul and I fell
in love with are these tiles.

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They're from France.

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And you can see the splash
of it above the stove.

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And I love them so much.

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The whole kitchen was
designed to go around them.

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These are just unique antiques.

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And we bought as many as they
had left, and that was it.

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And we ended up with
none to spare-- like, we

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used every single tile.

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And we're lucky we
had just enough.

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This big window,
which was something

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that was so important to
me to have in the house--

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I wanted to have a big
unobstructed view of the ocean.

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PAUL WILLINGER: The
back of the house

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was really conceived as a
series of three pavilions.

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So if you look at
the bedroom, there's

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a stone post on each side
and an open version of it,

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where we're sitting now.

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And then you have a
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of it in the dining room,
with the large arched window.

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So I think together,
they create the sense

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of a house of pavilions that
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TERRY ADAMSON [VOICEOVER]:
After the accident,

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I was in the
hospital for months.

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I was in ICU for over six weeks.

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I wasn't expected
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I wasn't expected to live.

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And I really fought to
live because of my kids.

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So that, to me, was just this
incredible, like, oh, my gosh,

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like it's possible.

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I come into the home--

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I do just have this
feeling of sanctuary.

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It's like peace and
a kind of a spa feel.

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And I kind of feel on
vacation in my home.

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I gutted the pool
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My late husband's
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they created a title company.

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And it was Malibu
Pottery and Tiles.

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There aren't titles like
those, really, anywhere.

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They're so special.

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Those are all custom-made,
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of the original Malibu tiles.

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It was important for me to
honor him that way, too.

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So my very favorite part of
the home is the master bedroom.

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In the morning, this
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So I've got the beautiful
pool, and then looking

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out right over on to the ocean.

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Paul ended up being
able to, like,

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square this and push it
out so that we could take

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advantage of the ocean views.

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Its all floor-to-ceiling glass.

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We've got all the soft, muted,
kind of off-white calm colors

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with blue accent.

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And I just-- these are colors
that really made me happy

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and they remind me of
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And yeah, so the room is just--

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is very cozy, and again,
all about the views.

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These are the two guestrooms.

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But each of my kids
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So this is my younger
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Out here, we have a really
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had made, with custom tiles.

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Here's just a little rocking
table and chairs so-- if people

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just want to come out here and
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or hang out or have breakfast.

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It's a whole other
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different than being
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peaceful, with the wind
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and the birds.

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In the beginning of
the grieving process,

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it's hard to think clearly.

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But I feel like this
house was really,

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really a wonderful decision.

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And I completely switched
careers out of law

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into coaching-- life
coaching-- because that's

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where my heart is.

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I knew that I wanted to do
something where I could help

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other people who had gone
through major traumas

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and really difficult
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to help them get through it.

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What ends up happening as
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at least for me and
for my daughters, too--

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where we really are
honoring my husband.

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So the grieving--
it's very bittersweet.

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Beautiful.

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Beautiful.

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TERRY ADAMSON: And we've
got the [inaudible]..

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We'll pass them around.

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WOMAN: Oh, look at
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That is beautiful.

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You know, last week,
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MAN: Oh wow.

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That's right, yeah.

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MAN: From here?

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From here.

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You can see the--

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their, like, spout, whatever.

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And yeah, we called
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Oh, I love that.

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Instead of a wishing
well, a wishing whale.

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Make a wish every
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TERRY ADAMSON [VOICEOVER]:
It's like, he won't be there

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at my daughter's wedding,
but he will be there with us

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spiritually.

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I really believe that.

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Great company.

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Cheers.

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Cheers.

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TERRY ADAMSON: I'm at a point
now where I feel like I'm just

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so grateful and
blessed that I got

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to be with him for
37 years, and we get

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to raise our kids and form--

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help form their personalities.

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And so instead of, like,
feeling sorry for myself

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that I don't get him physically
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I just feel so
blessed for everything

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that we had and built together.

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And I still really love him.

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You've got to feel the
pain and go through it.

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But get through it and see,
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that there is sunshine.

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[music playing]

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[running water]

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[birdsong]