1 00:00:18,059 --> 00:00:20,145 within how the family was changing. 2 00:00:20,228 --> 00:00:24,399 -I have to kind of explain this 'cause… -Oh, I got chills. 3 00:00:24,482 --> 00:00:26,943 If someone is in the middle of, like, a breakup, 4 00:00:27,027 --> 00:00:29,195 -or a custody battle… -Ooh. 5 00:00:29,279 --> 00:00:32,282 …and then this person dies. This is what they're giving me. 6 00:00:32,365 --> 00:00:33,825 Who would that be for? 7 00:00:37,370 --> 00:00:38,413 It's okay. 8 00:00:38,913 --> 00:00:41,499 -That would be my dad. -Your dad. 9 00:01:07,233 --> 00:01:09,402 Um, how old was he when he passed? 10 00:01:11,613 --> 00:01:13,948 -He was in his thirties. -Yeah, 34. 11 00:01:14,032 --> 00:01:18,745 Yeah. So I feel like he's important today to talk about. 12 00:01:19,245 --> 00:01:20,872 It's gonna be a big one. 13 00:01:27,879 --> 00:01:31,216 He had a girlfriend at the time and was getting ready to leave her. 14 00:01:31,758 --> 00:01:33,343 He was here one day and gone the next. 15 00:01:33,426 --> 00:01:36,054 One thing our dad never did was pick us up from school. 16 00:01:36,137 --> 00:01:38,973 -Yeah. -The day before he passed away, he did. 17 00:01:39,057 --> 00:01:42,644 He told us that he was going away for a while, but he was coming back. 18 00:01:42,727 --> 00:01:44,395 Then the next day, he was killed. 19 00:01:44,479 --> 00:01:45,313 Yeah. 20 00:01:47,315 --> 00:01:49,275 When I lost my dad, I was young, 21 00:01:49,359 --> 00:01:52,695 and so I felt like I lost that male figure that I needed. 22 00:01:52,779 --> 00:01:54,739 I still don't know how to shave. 23 00:01:54,823 --> 00:01:58,827 And small things like that, shaving and having to learn how to drive. 24 00:01:58,910 --> 00:02:00,912 I taught myself how to drive. 25 00:02:00,995 --> 00:02:03,414 Having my dad around would have been different 26 00:02:03,498 --> 00:02:06,209 because I would've had that father figure I'd longed for. 27 00:02:07,001 --> 00:02:09,003 All right, I'm gonna keep going. 28 00:02:09,838 --> 00:02:11,464 Dad. Dad. Dad. 29 00:02:12,257 --> 00:02:15,510 With Dad, are there any questions that you guys have about him, 30 00:02:15,593 --> 00:02:16,761 about how he passed? 31 00:02:16,845 --> 00:02:19,514 Anything unresolved that I might be able to help with? 32 00:02:19,597 --> 00:02:22,392 One of my biggest questions that I wanted to ask him. 33 00:02:22,475 --> 00:02:24,644 It's probably been like, four years now. 34 00:02:24,727 --> 00:02:27,397 -Um, I came out to my mom. -Nice. 35 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:28,982 -Um, and my family. -Yeah. 36 00:02:29,065 --> 00:02:33,528 And I've always questioned because obviously it's been something 37 00:02:33,611 --> 00:02:36,156 -I've dealt with my whole entire life. -Yeah. 38 00:02:36,239 --> 00:02:39,993 There was a comment that I felt like he made when I was six years old. 39 00:02:40,076 --> 00:02:44,247 My dad, uh, whether it was caught me doing something, 40 00:02:44,330 --> 00:02:45,790 or I said something. 41 00:02:45,874 --> 00:02:47,876 But I remember him saying specifically 42 00:02:47,959 --> 00:02:51,337 that he knows that I'm gonna grow up and live a different life. 43 00:02:51,421 --> 00:02:54,174 -But he better not see me doing it again. -Yeah. Yeah. 44 00:02:54,257 --> 00:02:56,384 And I want to know how he felt about… 45 00:02:56,467 --> 00:02:57,594 -Sure. -…that now. 46 00:02:57,677 --> 00:02:58,636 Sure, sure. 47 00:03:00,388 --> 00:03:03,766 Being a Black gay man raised in a small town in Alabama, 48 00:03:03,850 --> 00:03:05,101 that still carries shame. 49 00:03:05,185 --> 00:03:07,896 I felt like I wasn't as confident of a person, 50 00:03:07,979 --> 00:03:11,524 as far as sharing my authentic self, and who I was. 51 00:03:11,608 --> 00:03:14,944 So when I was 23 years old, I came out to my family, 52 00:03:15,028 --> 00:03:17,447 and I always wondered what he thought about it. 53 00:03:17,530 --> 00:03:18,907 If he was okay with it. 54 00:03:19,490 --> 00:03:21,743 It's not something he's super comfortable with. 55 00:03:21,826 --> 00:03:24,996 Not knowing, you always have that part in the back of your head, 56 00:03:25,079 --> 00:03:26,164 like, "What if?" 57 00:03:26,247 --> 00:03:27,540 Um, okay. 58 00:03:31,002 --> 00:03:33,838 Give me one sec. Looks like he's switching gears. 59 00:03:33,922 --> 00:03:35,715 Okay. Gotcha. 60 00:03:36,257 --> 00:03:39,636 He's having me now go into his passing, which feels a little tough. 61 00:03:39,719 --> 00:03:44,098 The interesting thing is, um, for him, it feels like it was a blink of an eye. 62 00:03:44,182 --> 00:03:47,143 Um, and it's really interesting. Blink of an eye. 63 00:03:47,227 --> 00:03:49,270 I don't know why, but he keeps bringing it up. 64 00:03:49,354 --> 00:03:50,647 "I'm here, and I'm gone." 65 00:03:50,730 --> 00:03:53,191 Typically, sometimes people get diagnosed with cancer, 66 00:03:53,274 --> 00:03:54,984 they have a long thing. Not that. 67 00:03:55,068 --> 00:03:56,611 This feels very fast. 68 00:03:56,694 --> 00:03:59,614 The way it's hitting me, where it's like a blink of an eye. 69 00:03:59,697 --> 00:04:03,159 One day, I'm here. One day, I'm gone. So the way this came through 70 00:04:03,243 --> 00:04:07,247 was I felt almost, like, whiplash is the only way to describe it. 71 00:04:07,330 --> 00:04:10,750 I felt like there's some external force that comes in on my body, 72 00:04:11,334 --> 00:04:13,211 and then it stops at my body. 73 00:04:13,294 --> 00:04:17,465 But it sends a whole, like, reverberation through my body. 74 00:04:17,548 --> 00:04:20,093 It's such a weird thing to describe, and I hope I'm not… 75 00:04:21,469 --> 00:04:23,179 -I think I get it. -It's… 76 00:04:23,263 --> 00:04:27,767 I mean, uh, how my dad passed away was in a car accident. 77 00:04:27,850 --> 00:04:30,520 -Gotcha. -And he always wore his seat belt. 78 00:04:30,603 --> 00:04:32,230 This part behind him. 79 00:04:32,313 --> 00:04:34,065 -Yes. -And, um… 80 00:04:34,148 --> 00:04:38,152 It was a head-on collision, and so his chest went into the dashboard. 81 00:04:38,236 --> 00:04:41,739 -Yeah. I'm sorry. -And crushed his lungs. 82 00:04:41,823 --> 00:04:43,700 And that's how he lost his life. 83 00:04:43,783 --> 00:04:46,119 -Because of how he wore his seat belt. -Makes sense. 84 00:04:46,202 --> 00:04:47,870 In the crash, crushing his chest. 85 00:04:47,954 --> 00:04:50,915 Oh, I'm so sorry, guys. you guys have to go through that. 86 00:04:50,999 --> 00:04:52,417 A very sudden though, 87 00:04:52,500 --> 00:04:56,087 and I wanna let you know. He doesn't acknowledge pain, suffering. 88 00:04:59,966 --> 00:05:03,886 The thing that comes through with this, he's showing me a lot. I'll keep going. 89 00:05:04,387 --> 00:05:07,765 There's this weird thing about you not being able to grieve right away. 90 00:05:07,849 --> 00:05:09,600 -No. -It's almost like you couldn't. 91 00:05:09,684 --> 00:05:11,894 You had to be strong for everybody else. 92 00:05:11,978 --> 00:05:13,980 -That seems like a big thing. -That's it. 93 00:05:14,063 --> 00:05:17,066 -He's honoring that, which is important. -That's sweet. 94 00:05:17,150 --> 00:05:19,902 Yeah. I'm gonna keep going 'cause he has a lot to say. 95 00:05:24,157 --> 00:05:27,869 It's interesting 'cause you're not the only family member that is gay. 96 00:05:27,952 --> 00:05:29,829 -Good to keep in mind. -You're right. 97 00:05:29,912 --> 00:05:33,791 He's having me highlight this. He's acknowledging more than one. 98 00:05:34,834 --> 00:05:37,462 Um, gives me the feeling of thumbs up with that. 99 00:05:37,545 --> 00:05:40,381 But yeah. Very positive 'cause you're not alone there. 100 00:05:42,592 --> 00:05:45,345 But he wants to commend you on how you handled things also. 101 00:05:45,428 --> 00:05:48,264 Proud of you for how you've been able to navigate afterwards. 102 00:05:48,348 --> 00:05:50,933 He kept acknowledging this feeling of like, 103 00:05:51,017 --> 00:05:52,769 it was an honor to have you as a son. 104 00:05:52,852 --> 00:05:55,313 You need to know that, that it was an honor to him 105 00:05:55,396 --> 00:05:57,523 in a really beautiful way. So… 106 00:05:58,024 --> 00:06:01,444 After this reading, now that my father came through, 107 00:06:01,527 --> 00:06:03,696 and he told me he was proud of me, 108 00:06:03,780 --> 00:06:06,616 I feel like I could be authentic myself. 109 00:06:06,699 --> 00:06:09,202 You know, Black gay rainbows everywhere. 110 00:06:09,285 --> 00:06:11,245 Without any care in the world. 111 00:06:11,329 --> 00:06:13,581 -All right. Bye. Thank you. -Bye. 112 00:06:16,542 --> 00:06:19,420 I'm very happy that I came. I would do it again. 113 00:06:19,921 --> 00:06:23,508 I wish I could have a mini Tyler in my pocket and pull him out any time. 114 00:06:24,801 --> 00:06:25,802 Right. 115 00:06:27,470 --> 00:06:31,349 -How did it go? -It was great. It was really healing. And… 116 00:06:31,432 --> 00:06:33,434 -Yeah. -The men are so cute around here! 117 00:06:33,518 --> 00:06:36,521 And, uh… It was just nuts. 118 00:06:36,604 --> 00:06:37,563 It was nuts. 119 00:06:37,647 --> 00:06:38,606 That's awesome. 120 00:06:38,689 --> 00:06:42,068 Yeah. It's stuff like that that's, like, so healing. 121 00:06:42,151 --> 00:06:44,153 -Yeah. -For people to hear. 122 00:07:10,972 --> 00:07:13,057 -I visioned some ducks this morning. -Really? 123 00:07:13,141 --> 00:07:14,475 Yeah, it was like, "Okay." 124 00:07:14,559 --> 00:07:16,561 -How funny. -Little duckies. 125 00:07:16,644 --> 00:07:17,937 So how are you feeling? 126 00:07:18,438 --> 00:07:21,357 I'm hanging in there. I had a rough night. I had a panic attack. 127 00:07:21,441 --> 00:07:23,943 It was more intuitive feelings. 128 00:07:24,026 --> 00:07:27,113 -Like someone's life was robbed from them. -Tell me. 129 00:07:27,947 --> 00:07:30,825 That's a very unique feeling, with something being robbed. 130 00:07:30,908 --> 00:07:33,119 How long did the panic attack last? 131 00:07:33,202 --> 00:07:35,830 About three hours. It came through very strongly. 132 00:07:35,913 --> 00:07:36,873 Wow. 133 00:07:38,875 --> 00:07:42,128 When I have a panic attack, it feels like I can't breathe. 134 00:07:42,211 --> 00:07:45,298 I feel anxious. Like the world's collapsing around me. 135 00:07:45,381 --> 00:07:48,342 It usually indicates to me that there's a serious loss 136 00:07:48,426 --> 00:07:50,094 I'm about to kind of delve into. 137 00:07:50,178 --> 00:07:53,890 -Okay, I'm gonna scribble. -Okay. There you go. And I'll be quiet. 138 00:07:53,973 --> 00:07:56,642 Well, that'll be rare. 139 00:07:57,226 --> 00:07:59,103 -Rare? Did you say that? -Rare. Yep. 140 00:07:59,187 --> 00:08:00,062 Smarty. 141 00:08:01,898 --> 00:08:02,940 I'm just kidding. 142 00:08:03,024 --> 00:08:05,276 You just scribble, and I won't talk. 143 00:08:10,615 --> 00:08:12,200 Look at this tiny little house. 144 00:08:12,283 --> 00:08:13,993 -I can't look at anything. -Sorry. 145 00:08:14,076 --> 00:08:15,786 -I'm concentrating. -Okay. 146 00:08:15,870 --> 00:08:18,206 -I'm not gonna talk anymore, so… Sorry. -Okay. 147 00:08:21,542 --> 00:08:26,130 Oh, this goes straight. But we… Oh, they have to stop too. Okay. 148 00:08:42,855 --> 00:08:44,232 What's going on today? 149 00:08:44,732 --> 00:08:47,068 This reading is for someone really close to me. 150 00:08:47,151 --> 00:08:48,986 -Great. Fabulous. -Who is a big fan. 151 00:08:49,070 --> 00:08:52,990 And so, have to let you know, the person who we're doing a reading for 152 00:08:53,074 --> 00:08:55,368 is, um… has no idea that you're here. 153 00:08:55,451 --> 00:08:57,578 -Wow. Oh my goodness. -So it's a surprise. 154 00:08:57,662 --> 00:09:00,665 -Quite a surprise. Exciting. -It's quite a surprise. Big fan. 155 00:09:00,748 --> 00:09:03,459 -It'll be really good. -Oh, hello. 156 00:09:07,171 --> 00:09:08,923 -Aw. -Oh. 157 00:09:09,006 --> 00:09:09,966 Precious! 158 00:09:10,049 --> 00:09:10,925 Surprise. 159 00:09:11,008 --> 00:09:12,718 -Can I give you a hug? -Is it okay? 160 00:09:12,802 --> 00:09:14,220 Yes, of course. 161 00:09:14,303 --> 00:09:15,638 Ooh! 162 00:09:17,348 --> 00:09:18,599 I'm Tyler. 163 00:09:18,683 --> 00:09:19,517 I know. 164 00:09:20,977 --> 00:09:22,770 You're the only reason I'm okay. 165 00:09:22,853 --> 00:09:25,940 Oh, sweetheart. Oh my goodness. 166 00:09:27,149 --> 00:09:29,860 When Justine and I met, we were at a conference. 167 00:09:29,944 --> 00:09:31,028 A music conference. 168 00:09:31,112 --> 00:09:34,073 And I saw her, and I was like, "Oh my gosh!" 169 00:09:34,156 --> 00:09:36,284 I felt a feeling I'd never felt before. 170 00:09:36,367 --> 00:09:39,287 Like, I felt like I had known this person forever. 171 00:09:39,370 --> 00:09:41,622 I knew the moment we met 172 00:09:41,706 --> 00:09:44,000 that we're going to be connected for the rest of our lives. 173 00:09:44,083 --> 00:09:47,753 We talked about, you know, future, and I looked at rings, but I was like, 174 00:09:47,837 --> 00:09:50,631 "Okay, that's…" kinda doing some fishing a little bit. 175 00:09:50,715 --> 00:09:53,968 Then I think after everything happened, I just kind of, 176 00:09:54,051 --> 00:09:56,804 said, "Yeah, I can't go there right now." 177 00:09:56,887 --> 00:10:01,017 And, and, uh, just kind of put it aside. 178 00:10:01,100 --> 00:10:02,977 I had no clue where I was even going. 179 00:10:03,060 --> 00:10:06,314 I saw him, I was like, "I'm gonna read him." But it's for you. 180 00:10:06,397 --> 00:10:07,773 -I'm sorry. -It's okay. 181 00:10:07,857 --> 00:10:11,068 -This is a big surprise. -I feel you. It's all good. 182 00:10:11,152 --> 00:10:13,487 We'll get comfortable, and we'll figure it out. 183 00:10:13,571 --> 00:10:17,533 Here. These are couple of things for you. To give to… for the reading. 184 00:10:17,617 --> 00:10:19,076 I'm excited to do this today. 185 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:21,787 -Thank you so much for everything. -Of course. Yes. 186 00:10:23,331 --> 00:10:24,749 -Thank you. -Absolutely. 187 00:10:24,832 --> 00:10:26,792 -See you later. Bye. -See you in a bit. 188 00:10:26,876 --> 00:10:27,918 Lovely to meet you. 189 00:10:28,002 --> 00:10:30,671 Today we'll kind of go through this. I'll scribble. 190 00:10:30,755 --> 00:10:32,548 -I see you have some objects. -Yes. 191 00:10:32,632 --> 00:10:34,133 Those will come in handy. 192 00:10:34,216 --> 00:10:35,509 I'll hold on to them. 193 00:10:35,593 --> 00:10:37,219 Then I'll see what I receive. 194 00:10:37,303 --> 00:10:39,180 We'll go from there. All right? 195 00:10:39,263 --> 00:10:41,390 -Well, at this point you can-- -Okay. 196 00:10:41,474 --> 00:10:42,642 Take those out. 197 00:10:42,725 --> 00:10:45,061 Lets me kind of get a sense. Thank you. 198 00:10:45,144 --> 00:10:46,270 Aw. 199 00:10:47,146 --> 00:10:48,230 Okay. 200 00:10:53,319 --> 00:10:54,945 Who is this? 201 00:10:56,864 --> 00:11:00,493 Last night, I was getting the sense of a younger presence who had passed. 202 00:11:00,576 --> 00:11:05,164 Prematurely. The younger male that I feel I would need to highlight. 203 00:11:05,247 --> 00:11:07,041 -Does that make sense? -Yes. 204 00:11:07,124 --> 00:11:08,042 Okay. 205 00:11:08,125 --> 00:11:12,171 When this passing happened to him, there was a lot to look forward to. 206 00:11:12,254 --> 00:11:14,131 There were exciting things coming up, 207 00:11:14,215 --> 00:11:16,509 maybe even in the coming weeks or months. 208 00:11:16,592 --> 00:11:17,968 But he wants you to know 209 00:11:18,052 --> 00:11:21,013 that he feels like he passed at a high point in his life. 210 00:11:21,097 --> 00:11:23,391 In the way this kind of comes across… 211 00:11:26,936 --> 00:11:30,022 This person feels full of life, full of life, full of life. 212 00:11:30,106 --> 00:11:32,525 Like, I keep getting this feeling of, 213 00:11:32,608 --> 00:11:35,861 my smile's lighting up as I'm smiling and thinking about him. 214 00:11:35,945 --> 00:11:38,948 He's showing me… Weird! Uh… 215 00:11:42,243 --> 00:11:45,121 He's being silly. Let's see. He's trying to make me laugh. 216 00:11:45,204 --> 00:11:46,038 Funny! 217 00:11:46,122 --> 00:11:48,290 Let me see try to see what this is. 218 00:11:48,374 --> 00:11:49,458 He just does this… 219 00:11:51,127 --> 00:11:52,169 How funny! 220 00:11:53,170 --> 00:11:55,548 I don't know if he had a little dance he would do. 221 00:11:55,631 --> 00:11:56,507 -Or like a-- -Yes. 222 00:11:56,590 --> 00:12:00,219 The only way I can describe it is like a… 223 00:12:00,302 --> 00:12:03,097 It's very hard to convey, but he's having me 224 00:12:03,180 --> 00:12:04,014 do a jig. 225 00:12:04,682 --> 00:12:07,226 I think. I'm a horrible dancer, so I can't do this. 226 00:12:07,309 --> 00:12:09,687 But he's funny when he's coming across. 227 00:12:09,770 --> 00:12:12,773 -And do you know about that? -Yes. Yes, yes. 228 00:12:12,857 --> 00:12:14,650 He's cracking me up. 229 00:12:14,734 --> 00:12:16,360 Okay, sync that. 230 00:12:16,444 --> 00:12:17,695 Aw! 231 00:12:18,279 --> 00:12:21,240 I'm seeing doves, like, releasing doves, which is strange. 232 00:12:21,323 --> 00:12:22,616 -We did it here. -No way. 233 00:12:22,700 --> 00:12:26,036 Okay, 'cause I'm seeing all these doves flying away. 234 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:28,581 A lot of excitement in the way this comes through. 235 00:12:28,664 --> 00:12:29,540 Yep. 236 00:12:30,583 --> 00:12:33,169 Okay. He's showing me… 237 00:12:33,252 --> 00:12:36,172 Yeah, like "Number One Mom." It's just sweet. 238 00:12:36,255 --> 00:12:39,008 You know, things kids make in second grade, first grade? 239 00:12:39,091 --> 00:12:42,094 He's showing me this "Number One Mom." It's really funny. 240 00:12:42,178 --> 00:12:45,639 -That's so sweet. -So, this was your son? 241 00:12:47,266 --> 00:12:49,268 What was his name? How old was he and-- 242 00:12:49,351 --> 00:12:53,189 I'd love to tell you. His name is Damani Elijah Chadly. 243 00:12:53,773 --> 00:12:55,316 And he was 17. 244 00:12:58,027 --> 00:12:59,028 He's my only son. 245 00:13:02,156 --> 00:13:06,494 I was a pretty young mom by today's standards. 246 00:13:06,577 --> 00:13:09,497 I was only a sophomore in college. 247 00:13:11,081 --> 00:13:14,835 He's putting everything on you and saying you had to do everything. 248 00:13:16,337 --> 00:13:19,006 You know, uh, which is kinda interesting. 249 00:13:19,673 --> 00:13:22,051 -Were you not with his dad? -Single mom. 250 00:13:22,134 --> 00:13:23,385 Gotcha. Okay. 251 00:13:24,845 --> 00:13:27,723 I mean, me and this little boy, we just did everything. 252 00:13:27,807 --> 00:13:32,394 We went everywhere with such passion and joy. 253 00:13:32,478 --> 00:13:34,897 Singing, dancing, laughing. 254 00:13:34,980 --> 00:13:36,440 Always laughing. 255 00:13:37,107 --> 00:13:39,860 It was short, but we lived a lot of life together. 256 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:44,949 He's referencing three people. 257 00:13:45,533 --> 00:13:49,411 I'm trying to figure this out. It's in relation to before he passed. 258 00:13:49,912 --> 00:13:52,498 He was one of the three, or there were three. 259 00:13:53,207 --> 00:13:54,375 -Do you-- -Can I answer? 260 00:13:54,458 --> 00:13:56,210 -Please do. -He's one of the three. 261 00:13:56,293 --> 00:13:58,629 Okay, gotcha. In the way this comes through, 262 00:13:58,712 --> 00:14:02,508 there's an acknowledgment of a decision that somebody made last minute. 263 00:14:02,591 --> 00:14:06,387 This was a decision that they're holding guilt around, for some reason. 264 00:14:10,015 --> 00:14:12,935 It was his decision to leave that evening. 265 00:14:13,018 --> 00:14:15,479 He shouldn't have. It was a school night. 266 00:14:15,563 --> 00:14:18,941 -I'm so sorry. -So, he knows he shouldn't have. 267 00:14:19,441 --> 00:14:23,070 Yeah, just feels tragic and… 268 00:14:26,824 --> 00:14:28,367 It's the weirdest thing. 269 00:14:35,416 --> 00:14:38,961 Click., click. I keep hearing this "click, click" thing. 270 00:14:39,044 --> 00:14:40,462 It keeps coming through. 271 00:14:42,172 --> 00:14:43,799 Click, click. Click, click. 272 00:14:44,425 --> 00:14:47,344 Click. I'm trying to figure out what this "click" thing is, 273 00:14:47,428 --> 00:14:51,599 'cause there's emphasis on, like, a seatbelt and trying to get out of a car, 274 00:14:51,682 --> 00:14:55,227 but then I'm trying to figure out what this is, 275 00:14:55,311 --> 00:14:56,353 where it's like, 276 00:14:57,021 --> 00:14:59,189 I feel like I had my seat belt on, 277 00:14:59,273 --> 00:15:03,152 but then I feel like I go to unclick it, and then something kinda happens. 278 00:15:03,235 --> 00:15:04,612 It's the weirdest thing. 279 00:15:05,112 --> 00:15:07,698 I don't mean to have to get into the details. 280 00:15:07,781 --> 00:15:12,369 But was he in the actual car of the vehicle when he was… 281 00:15:12,453 --> 00:15:14,496 -He was in the passenger seat. -…killed? Okay. 282 00:15:14,580 --> 00:15:16,582 Maybe he's saying he wanted to get away. 283 00:15:16,665 --> 00:15:18,918 It feels like, I'm trying to, like, 284 00:15:19,418 --> 00:15:20,836 unclick this. 285 00:15:21,337 --> 00:15:23,839 Then I feel like something happens. So it… 286 00:15:24,673 --> 00:15:27,635 There's this acknowledgment of that, for blindsided by this. 287 00:15:27,718 --> 00:15:29,637 With that, he shows me no pain. 288 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:32,932 I don't feel any pain when this comes across. 289 00:15:33,015 --> 00:15:34,475 If it's not too painful, 290 00:15:34,558 --> 00:15:37,686 do you have an idea of what led up to the passing? 291 00:15:38,395 --> 00:15:42,149 -It's so hard to talk about that part. -Yeah. 292 00:15:42,816 --> 00:15:46,987 What happened to my son is that he was a senior in high school, 293 00:15:47,571 --> 00:15:50,783 musician, doing his best. 294 00:15:50,866 --> 00:15:53,243 My son was 295 00:15:53,911 --> 00:15:55,329 with a friend. 296 00:15:56,914 --> 00:15:59,750 And was doing what teenagers do 297 00:15:59,833 --> 00:16:02,419 and went out one night when he wasn't supposed to. 298 00:16:05,381 --> 00:16:06,882 And he didn't come home. 299 00:16:11,011 --> 00:16:12,096 He was murdered. 300 00:16:14,181 --> 00:16:15,432 In a car. 301 00:16:16,141 --> 00:16:18,268 And he was supposed to be coming home. 302 00:16:21,230 --> 00:16:25,234 The police think that these two boys went to meet someone else, 303 00:16:26,068 --> 00:16:30,072 and that there was some interaction between them 304 00:16:30,155 --> 00:16:33,826 that led this person to 305 00:16:34,660 --> 00:16:37,287 shoot my son and his friend. 306 00:16:45,713 --> 00:16:48,507 I just wish I could hug him. He had the best hugs. 307 00:16:48,590 --> 00:16:49,425 Yeah. 308 00:16:49,508 --> 00:16:52,803 All you wanna do is keep your kids safe. 309 00:16:52,886 --> 00:16:56,974 There's nothing worse than not being able to do that. 310 00:16:57,725 --> 00:16:59,309 Yeah, understandable. 311 00:17:01,603 --> 00:17:04,273 Yeah. Thank you for being so open. 312 00:17:05,983 --> 00:17:07,026 I can't imagine. 313 00:17:11,864 --> 00:17:15,451 He just keeps trying to hug you. It's sweet. I love that. 314 00:17:15,534 --> 00:17:16,368 Aw. 315 00:17:16,869 --> 00:17:19,747 -You can see him try to hug me? -He's showing me a visual. 316 00:17:19,830 --> 00:17:21,874 It's just so interesting from behind. 317 00:17:21,957 --> 00:17:24,043 I feel like he wanted to hug you from behind. 318 00:17:24,126 --> 00:17:25,335 It's so sweet. 319 00:17:25,419 --> 00:17:26,754 So, so sweet. 320 00:17:28,088 --> 00:17:29,965 -I love you. I love you. -Aw. 321 00:17:30,632 --> 00:17:33,218 I'm glad it happened today. It makes my heart happy. 322 00:17:33,302 --> 00:17:34,553 Me too. 323 00:17:35,095 --> 00:17:39,433 It was funny. I often will get impressions long before I even show up. 324 00:17:39,516 --> 00:17:40,642 I woke up. 325 00:17:40,726 --> 00:17:42,186 I had a vision of ducks. 326 00:17:42,936 --> 00:17:45,355 -Does that make any sense? -Oh yes. 327 00:17:45,439 --> 00:17:48,358 It's the funniest thing. I woke up, I was like, "Duckies!" 328 00:17:52,071 --> 00:17:54,031 That's incredible. Um… 329 00:17:54,114 --> 00:17:57,576 So when he was just about, just over one, 330 00:17:57,659 --> 00:17:59,912 we lived right down here, right by the water, 331 00:17:59,995 --> 00:18:04,708 and two ducks were in our condo complex, swimming around all the time. 332 00:18:04,792 --> 00:18:07,836 We'd always point them out, which is why the bench is here. 333 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:09,254 This is dedicated to him? 334 00:18:09,338 --> 00:18:11,590 -Oh, you didn't even know that. -No. 335 00:18:11,673 --> 00:18:14,760 -I wasn't sure. I love that. -It's dedicated to him. 336 00:18:14,843 --> 00:18:17,096 This is also kinda left field. 337 00:18:17,763 --> 00:18:20,140 There's gonna be a situation where there's a tree. 338 00:18:20,224 --> 00:18:22,643 I'm like seeing that he's like, "Plant the tree." 339 00:18:23,727 --> 00:18:26,271 -"Plant the darn tree. Gotta do the tree." -Okay. 340 00:18:26,355 --> 00:18:28,482 He's like, "You gotta do the full thing." 341 00:18:28,565 --> 00:18:30,526 So, this is something you've discussed? 342 00:18:30,609 --> 00:18:32,820 They plant trees here in people's honor too. 343 00:18:32,903 --> 00:18:36,406 And I thought, "We can't have two. That's selfish." Oh! 344 00:18:36,490 --> 00:18:38,951 -You gotta plant the tree. -Oh my God. 345 00:18:39,034 --> 00:18:41,620 All the little things that act as reminders, right? 346 00:18:41,703 --> 00:18:43,831 And that's important. So, um… 347 00:18:43,914 --> 00:18:46,667 -You are just incredible. -Oh. It's a privilege. 348 00:18:46,750 --> 00:18:48,418 I'm glad he came through for you. 349 00:18:48,502 --> 00:18:52,089 Yes. In all honesty, I was feeling him this morning and last night. 350 00:18:52,172 --> 00:18:58,137 It was just, like, overwhelmed with how… horrible it was that it happened, 351 00:18:58,220 --> 00:19:00,973 but simultaneously, I could feel that strength from you. 352 00:19:01,056 --> 00:19:03,225 -And I really-- -Means so much. 353 00:19:03,725 --> 00:19:05,936 I hope that you leave this experience today 354 00:19:06,019 --> 00:19:08,480 reminded that he never is gonna leave your side. 355 00:19:08,564 --> 00:19:10,774 -Okay. -So thank you for this. 356 00:19:10,858 --> 00:19:13,068 -Thank you. -I'm gonna give you a big hug. 357 00:19:13,735 --> 00:19:16,113 I'm so overwhelmed with emotion. 358 00:19:16,196 --> 00:19:20,117 You don't think you're ever going to have a conversation with your child again. 359 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,244 Communicating with Tyler felt like 360 00:19:22,327 --> 00:19:25,122 I was having a conversation with my boy. 361 00:19:25,831 --> 00:19:29,501 Felt like he was right there, and I don't know how else to explain it. 362 00:19:30,002 --> 00:19:31,587 You just feel lighter. 363 00:19:31,670 --> 00:19:33,964 You feel like smiling a little more. 364 00:19:35,883 --> 00:19:38,927 Connecting with my son through Tyler 365 00:19:39,011 --> 00:19:40,179 lifts everything. 366 00:19:41,889 --> 00:19:44,266 Thank you so much. I can't believe you did this. 367 00:19:44,349 --> 00:19:45,642 I love you. 368 00:19:45,726 --> 00:19:47,644 Thank you so much! 369 00:19:49,354 --> 00:19:51,356 My heart is, like, skipping. 370 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:53,775 I know. Mine has been all day like that. 371 00:19:53,859 --> 00:19:56,862 He was dancing for Tyler the way he dances. 372 00:19:56,945 --> 00:20:00,199 -The little shuffle he does? -Tyler was trying to dance like him. 373 00:20:00,282 --> 00:20:03,243 -Oh, that's awesome. -Tyler said, "I cannot dance." 374 00:20:04,578 --> 00:20:07,623 But I said, "That's what he did to make everybody laugh." 375 00:20:07,706 --> 00:20:12,544 And you should have seen Tyler smile. It was like I was smiling at Damani. 376 00:20:12,628 --> 00:20:16,131 Because his smile was so big, and he said he felt his big smile. 377 00:20:18,675 --> 00:20:22,763 This is all I wanted, and I don't know how you did it. 378 00:20:22,846 --> 00:20:24,056 I don't know how you did it. 379 00:20:24,139 --> 00:20:28,185 I feel comforted knowing that Tyler sees him as happy. 380 00:20:28,268 --> 00:20:30,729 -Yeah. -He seems to be happy. 381 00:20:33,732 --> 00:20:37,152 I didn't want our relationship to be defined and built on tragedy. 382 00:20:37,236 --> 00:20:40,864 What I want for our relationship is to be built on healing and peace. 383 00:20:40,948 --> 00:20:44,159 I want for us to build a life together. 384 00:20:44,243 --> 00:20:47,496 One that's, that we can… always be there for each other. 385 00:20:47,579 --> 00:20:49,706 And I'll always be there for you. 386 00:20:50,290 --> 00:20:52,042 Oh my goodness. 387 00:20:54,753 --> 00:20:58,423 From the moment I met you, I knew you were the woman for me. 388 00:20:58,507 --> 00:21:00,217 I had no doubts in my mind. 389 00:21:00,300 --> 00:21:03,428 Every day I wake up, and I just want to be with you. 390 00:21:03,512 --> 00:21:06,890 -Will you marry me, Justine? -Yes. Yes. 391 00:21:08,934 --> 00:21:11,228 Oh my goodness. 392 00:21:12,229 --> 00:21:14,273 Oh my goodness, Tom. 393 00:21:15,399 --> 00:21:17,150 I cannot believe this. 394 00:21:18,902 --> 00:21:20,279 I love you so much. 395 00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:33,292 What a day! 396 00:21:34,251 --> 00:21:35,419 I love it. 397 00:21:43,343 --> 00:21:45,137 I don't know if people believe 398 00:21:45,220 --> 00:21:49,308 that you just really jump in bed and stay there until the next day. 399 00:21:49,391 --> 00:21:51,310 I'm very boring outside of my job. 400 00:21:51,393 --> 00:21:54,104 I know, but it takes a lot out of you doing the reading. 401 00:21:55,147 --> 00:21:59,609 It does. I spend a lot of time very stationary, just under the covers. 402 00:21:59,693 --> 00:22:00,694 Yeah. 403 00:22:01,862 --> 00:22:04,990 When you were taking a shower, I was in here cleaning in your room. 404 00:22:05,073 --> 00:22:06,783 I heard you talking to someone. 405 00:22:06,867 --> 00:22:07,993 Having a conversation? 406 00:22:08,076 --> 00:22:10,537 Yeah. In the shower, with yourself. 407 00:22:10,620 --> 00:22:12,539 -It wasn't with myself, but… -Really? 408 00:22:12,622 --> 00:22:16,084 -Yeah, yeah. It's when I let things go. -Yeah. 409 00:22:16,168 --> 00:22:21,048 -I have to clear myself of head stuff. -I know. 410 00:22:21,131 --> 00:22:25,052 I have to really get into a certain state of consciousness 411 00:22:25,135 --> 00:22:27,012 in order to do my job effectively. 412 00:22:27,095 --> 00:22:31,016 That requires me to… detach from everything else 413 00:22:31,099 --> 00:22:33,268 and attach to it, 414 00:22:33,352 --> 00:22:34,686 whatever "it" is. 415 00:22:34,770 --> 00:22:38,565 It doesn't seem to want me to know, but that's a different story. 416 00:22:39,483 --> 00:22:41,068 Well, whatever it is, 417 00:22:41,151 --> 00:22:44,279 I guess they picked the right person to give you this gift. 418 00:22:44,363 --> 00:22:48,075 Well, I am thankful to have the abilities, you know. 419 00:22:48,158 --> 00:22:50,410 I wouldn't be able to do it on my own. 420 00:22:50,494 --> 00:22:51,995 And I know that, 421 00:22:52,079 --> 00:22:55,123 but it feels a bit like jumping out of a plane, 422 00:22:55,207 --> 00:22:58,960 and just trusting that the parachute's going to open. 'Cause they'd always-- 423 00:22:59,044 --> 00:23:00,045 Oh my God. 424 00:23:00,128 --> 00:23:02,381 They've always been my parachute, so to speak. 425 00:23:02,464 --> 00:23:05,384 I mean, they… them. 426 00:23:07,260 --> 00:23:09,096 That's a shitty feeling. 427 00:23:10,430 --> 00:23:14,893 Well, I mean, it's a way to frame it. I think it's exhilarating and fun. 428 00:23:14,976 --> 00:23:16,937 -It all comes at a price. -I know. 429 00:23:17,020 --> 00:23:19,481 It's just part of it, part of the job. 430 00:23:19,564 --> 00:23:22,943 I know it takes its toll on you, and I'm so sorry. 431 00:23:23,026 --> 00:23:24,986 I can see it in your little face now. 432 00:23:25,070 --> 00:23:26,613 -I can-- -I'm really fine. 433 00:23:26,696 --> 00:23:28,365 -Okay. -I'm really good. 434 00:23:28,448 --> 00:23:30,700 It's… this is nothing new to me. 435 00:23:30,784 --> 00:23:32,411 This ain't my first rodeo. 436 00:23:43,964 --> 00:23:48,593 -Aw. This is Tom and Justine. -I should have glasses. Let me see. 437 00:23:48,677 --> 00:23:50,137 I didn't get to meet them. 438 00:23:50,220 --> 00:23:52,806 -Him I said "hi" to, but that was it. -Let's watch. 439 00:23:53,849 --> 00:23:55,851 -Hi, Tyler! - Hi, Tyler! 440 00:23:55,934 --> 00:23:57,352 I'm still decompressing. 441 00:23:57,436 --> 00:24:01,398 My mind is blown that I met you and had the most extraordinary reading. 442 00:24:01,481 --> 00:24:04,526 -I'm grateful. One exciting piece of news. -Big news! 443 00:24:04,609 --> 00:24:06,862 -After the reading, this happened. 444 00:24:06,945 --> 00:24:08,196 Oh my God. 445 00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,699 …because of you. We are so grateful. 446 00:24:10,782 --> 00:24:15,412 And big hug to your mom. Just wanted to give you both a big hug. 447 00:24:15,495 --> 00:24:16,413 Oh. 448 00:24:16,496 --> 00:24:18,039 Thank you so much. Bye! 449 00:24:18,123 --> 00:24:20,041 I would've loved to have met her. 450 00:24:20,125 --> 00:24:22,419 -That is so sweet. 451 00:24:22,502 --> 00:24:26,673 -That is so awesome. Oh my gosh. -I'm gonna, like, full on Kim K ugly cry. 452 00:24:26,756 --> 00:24:28,425 -That is so sweet. -Wow. 453 00:24:40,854 --> 00:24:43,398 -I really love New Orleans. -Me too. 454 00:24:43,482 --> 00:24:47,986 -It has a whole newfound meaning to me. -Yeah. 455 00:24:48,069 --> 00:24:49,321 I'm here in New Orleans. 456 00:24:49,404 --> 00:24:52,908 I'm really hoping I can get any clarification on my family history. 457 00:24:53,783 --> 00:24:56,119 I feel I look tired today 'cause I am. 458 00:24:56,912 --> 00:24:59,122 -You've been through a lot this week. -Yeah. 459 00:24:59,206 --> 00:25:04,503 It's been a lot of emotional stress every single day so… 460 00:25:05,587 --> 00:25:09,257 I've hit a wall with the research that my Aunt Mary has done and Clint. 461 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:14,930 We haven't gotten solid answers as much as we've gotten clarification on timelines. 462 00:25:15,430 --> 00:25:17,265 It's extremely frustrating. 463 00:25:17,349 --> 00:25:20,393 Especially considering my situation is very unique. 464 00:25:20,477 --> 00:25:22,938 My ability is very unique. It's tough for mediums. 465 00:25:23,021 --> 00:25:26,942 We're expected to have the answers, but I don't. I need help. 466 00:25:27,025 --> 00:25:28,693 Lovely to meet you. I'm Tyler. 467 00:25:28,777 --> 00:25:31,112 -Good to meet you. I'm excited! -Good to meet you. 468 00:25:31,196 --> 00:25:32,489 -Thank you so much. -Hi. 469 00:25:32,572 --> 00:25:36,201 I decided to call Pamela Slaton, an investigative genealogist. 470 00:25:36,284 --> 00:25:39,329 She's an expert in DNA analysis and family tracing. 471 00:25:39,412 --> 00:25:42,415 If anyone can track down the missing pieces for us, it's her. 472 00:25:42,499 --> 00:25:46,044 This is obviously a new territory for me, so we really appreciate it. 473 00:25:46,127 --> 00:25:49,464 -To give you a rundown of why we're here. -Yeah. 474 00:25:49,548 --> 00:25:52,717 My mom, three years ago, through a 23andMe test, 475 00:25:52,801 --> 00:25:56,096 discovered that she was taken as a baby. 476 00:25:56,179 --> 00:25:59,224 Her parents were not actually her parents. 477 00:25:59,307 --> 00:26:02,978 -They were lying. -The DNA, you never suspected anything? 478 00:26:03,061 --> 00:26:07,732 -Never suspected anything. Never. -You do this test just like everyone else. 479 00:26:08,233 --> 00:26:10,402 You think, "I'm gonna get my nationalities." 480 00:26:10,485 --> 00:26:11,861 "This is gonna be awesome." 481 00:26:11,945 --> 00:26:14,698 All of a sudden, you get the shock of a lifetime. 482 00:26:14,781 --> 00:26:19,494 -Exactly. I'm sure. -It happens so often, you'd be blown away. 483 00:26:19,578 --> 00:26:23,039 We're in a unique situation. The woman I thought was my grandmother, 484 00:26:23,123 --> 00:26:24,124 Stella was her name, 485 00:26:24,207 --> 00:26:26,334 was convicted of two homicides. 486 00:26:26,418 --> 00:26:30,297 She was involved in a number of people's deaths in one way or another. 487 00:26:30,380 --> 00:26:32,299 She spent over 30 years in prison. 488 00:26:32,382 --> 00:26:34,175 -Can I slow you down a little? -I know. 489 00:26:34,259 --> 00:26:37,345 'Cause you just loaded me up with a lot of information. 490 00:26:37,429 --> 00:26:39,973 -It's a lot. -So, okay. Bio-Grandma. 491 00:26:40,056 --> 00:26:42,767 Did she give your mom over to Stella? 492 00:26:42,851 --> 00:26:45,020 She did, but we don't know why. 493 00:26:45,103 --> 00:26:48,940 So when your aunt, your mom's half-sister, 494 00:26:49,024 --> 00:26:52,611 reaches out to your mom, what does she say happened? 495 00:26:53,361 --> 00:26:55,780 We know that my mom was born in New Orleans. 496 00:26:55,864 --> 00:26:58,617 And my aunt was able to do some research, 497 00:26:58,700 --> 00:27:01,202 and found there was stuff going on at this hospital 498 00:27:01,286 --> 00:27:03,079 around when my mom was born. 499 00:27:03,830 --> 00:27:06,333 Do you think Stella had anything to do with this? 500 00:27:06,416 --> 00:27:08,918 -That's what we're trying to determine. -Additionally? 501 00:27:09,002 --> 00:27:11,046 In my mind, she had to have had help. 502 00:27:11,129 --> 00:27:13,214 My mom's birth certificate was forged. 503 00:27:13,298 --> 00:27:14,924 There were things altered on it. 504 00:27:15,842 --> 00:27:20,096 Typically, a birth certificate is done in the hospital. 505 00:27:20,180 --> 00:27:21,973 You give birth, and they come. 506 00:27:22,057 --> 00:27:25,185 They take the information, and the certificate's created. 507 00:27:25,268 --> 00:27:28,688 What I'd love to see is your mom's original birth certificate, 508 00:27:28,772 --> 00:27:31,024 which I'm guessing is nowhere to be found. 509 00:27:31,107 --> 00:27:32,984 That's been the missing answer. 510 00:27:33,568 --> 00:27:35,695 If the original birth certificate comes back, 511 00:27:35,779 --> 00:27:38,573 and it did have Stella's name on it from the get-go, 512 00:27:38,657 --> 00:27:40,283 it'll reflect the greater truth 513 00:27:40,367 --> 00:27:42,994 that my grandmother was not able to take care of my mom, 514 00:27:43,078 --> 00:27:44,788 that she was in a desperate position. 515 00:27:44,871 --> 00:27:47,248 And that position got taken advantage of by a person. 516 00:27:47,332 --> 00:27:50,752 I have another question, going in a completely different direction. 517 00:27:50,835 --> 00:27:51,878 Who's Bio-Grandpa? 518 00:27:51,961 --> 00:27:56,466 Bio-Grandpa? Uh, it was basically a one-time fling. 519 00:27:56,549 --> 00:27:59,928 Anything that you happen to get about the paternal side would be helpful. 520 00:28:00,011 --> 00:28:02,055 -Do I have your permission to nudge? -Of course. 521 00:28:02,138 --> 00:28:03,431 Yes. Absolutely. 522 00:28:03,515 --> 00:28:04,974 -Yeah? -Absolutely. 523 00:28:05,058 --> 00:28:07,268 Obviously, this is a lot and very convoluted, 524 00:28:07,352 --> 00:28:10,230 and any answers you can provide we'll really appreciate. 525 00:28:10,313 --> 00:28:14,109 I know what it means to want the answers and to want closure, 526 00:28:14,192 --> 00:28:18,738 and to wanna just know where you come from. 527 00:28:18,822 --> 00:28:20,657 We have a habit. 528 00:28:20,740 --> 00:28:22,951 I'm an adoptee, and I totally get it. 529 00:28:23,034 --> 00:28:25,120 Have a habit of pushing down information. 530 00:28:25,203 --> 00:28:27,997 -Pushing down things that are hurtful. -Sure. 531 00:28:28,081 --> 00:28:31,459 And we can kinda just keep a brave front, you know, face. 532 00:28:31,543 --> 00:28:34,129 -And pretend as though it's all okay. -Yeah. 533 00:28:34,212 --> 00:28:37,173 But it really can affect someone deeply. 534 00:28:37,257 --> 00:28:40,218 I guess at this point our question is, what's the next step? 535 00:28:40,301 --> 00:28:43,888 Okay. So first, let's figure out, is Stella really Stella? 536 00:28:43,972 --> 00:28:49,018 Then I also wanna see if there's a way of getting the original birth certificate. 537 00:28:49,102 --> 00:28:52,605 Then I'm gonna go poke and prod a little bit on the paternal family. 538 00:28:52,689 --> 00:28:53,898 That'd be incredible. 539 00:28:53,982 --> 00:28:55,692 I can't guarantee you anything. 540 00:28:55,775 --> 00:28:58,445 I never guarantee my clients success, 541 00:28:58,528 --> 00:29:02,615 but I can guarantee you that I will not give up. 542 00:29:13,585 --> 00:29:16,629 It was the weirdest thing. I was awake around two in the morning. 543 00:29:16,713 --> 00:29:22,343 It was this tall shadow that obstructed the light coming from outside, inside. 544 00:29:22,427 --> 00:29:24,471 -Made it dark for a moment. -You were awake? 545 00:29:24,554 --> 00:29:27,891 I was wide awake. Then I realized I'm 11 stories up. 546 00:29:27,974 --> 00:29:29,517 God, you're giving me the creeps. 547 00:29:29,601 --> 00:29:31,644 Which meant whatever it was was in my room, 548 00:29:31,728 --> 00:29:32,979 walking past the window. 549 00:29:33,062 --> 00:29:38,651 And so I spoke to it and was like, "Hello, uh. Hi. Hope you're all good." 550 00:29:38,735 --> 00:29:39,986 "I need some rest." 551 00:29:40,069 --> 00:29:43,531 And then it just got noticeably freezing cold in the room. 552 00:29:43,615 --> 00:29:46,493 -Not air-conditioner cold. Freezing cold. -No way. 553 00:29:46,576 --> 00:29:48,161 I got full-body chills. I was like, 554 00:29:48,244 --> 00:29:51,080 "Gonna hide under the blanket. Appreciate it if you go away." 555 00:29:51,164 --> 00:29:53,875 -I hid under the blanket. -Oh my God. No way. 556 00:29:53,958 --> 00:29:56,544 It creeped me out. I was like, "We're not doing this now." 557 00:29:56,628 --> 00:29:58,463 "I'm off the clock." 558 00:29:58,963 --> 00:30:01,299 That is so freaky. 559 00:30:04,260 --> 00:30:05,637 Wonderful to meet you. 560 00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:07,138 -Come on in. -Happy to be here. 561 00:30:07,222 --> 00:30:09,808 It's the most gorgeously landscaped house. 562 00:30:09,891 --> 00:30:11,059 Thank you so much. 563 00:30:11,142 --> 00:30:13,520 It's chilly out here. I have to have a blanket. 564 00:30:13,603 --> 00:30:14,938 It is chilly. My goodness. 565 00:30:15,021 --> 00:30:17,357 That's why I brought a jacket just in case. 566 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:19,818 -Unusual for this time of year. -Yeah. 567 00:30:19,901 --> 00:30:21,110 In the South. 568 00:30:21,194 --> 00:30:23,488 Well, thank you for having me today. 569 00:30:23,571 --> 00:30:25,657 I'm excited to see what comes through. 570 00:30:25,740 --> 00:30:27,617 -Do you have an object for me? -I do. 571 00:30:27,700 --> 00:30:29,452 -You can put it on the table. -Okay. 572 00:30:31,287 --> 00:30:33,665 Okay, so I'm just gonna scribble. 573 00:30:35,124 --> 00:30:36,668 So you got that. 574 00:30:38,253 --> 00:30:39,838 Gonna see where we go with this 575 00:30:39,921 --> 00:30:44,467 'cause I have a few people striking me initially as being pretty interesting. 576 00:30:46,594 --> 00:30:47,595 Okay. 577 00:30:48,763 --> 00:30:49,597 Okay. 578 00:30:50,265 --> 00:30:53,184 I'm getting a Leo reference, which means one of two things. 579 00:30:53,268 --> 00:30:54,686 Either somebody's a Leo, 580 00:30:54,769 --> 00:30:56,104 or there's a Leonard. 581 00:30:57,105 --> 00:31:00,692 -Oh my God. -Who's Leonard? 582 00:31:00,775 --> 00:31:02,819 -Does that make sense? -Yes. Are you serious? 583 00:31:02,902 --> 00:31:04,571 -Yeah, yeah, yeah. 584 00:31:04,654 --> 00:31:06,072 That's my grandfather. 585 00:31:06,155 --> 00:31:09,158 He's like, "Don't forget me," in the way this comes across. 586 00:31:09,242 --> 00:31:12,579 -We are not forgetting you. -He's absolutely connected. 587 00:31:12,662 --> 00:31:14,539 But he's important, so… 588 00:31:14,622 --> 00:31:17,292 God, there's a lot here. Okay, I'm gonna keep going. 589 00:31:20,003 --> 00:31:22,213 -Okay. He was cute. -Yeah. 590 00:31:22,297 --> 00:31:23,506 When he comes across. 591 00:31:23,590 --> 00:31:27,218 You know when people start going bald, and then they've really gone bald? 592 00:31:27,302 --> 00:31:31,139 But they still jokingly act like they're combing their hair. 593 00:31:31,222 --> 00:31:32,849 -Like, doing this. -Yes. 594 00:31:33,516 --> 00:31:36,144 He's giving me a joke of, like, "Luscious locks!" 595 00:31:36,227 --> 00:31:38,062 But he's clearly bald. 596 00:31:38,146 --> 00:31:40,481 -Or at least balding very heavily. -Oh my gosh. 597 00:31:40,565 --> 00:31:43,401 He had the comb over, like, the hair comb over. 598 00:31:43,484 --> 00:31:46,195 -"I'm working with what I have." -Yeah. 599 00:31:46,279 --> 00:31:49,616 -He's self-aware of it, and it's funny. -Okay. 600 00:31:49,699 --> 00:31:53,036 So I'm gonna hold onto this, now that I know I've got a connection. 601 00:31:53,953 --> 00:31:56,289 And see if I get anything here. 602 00:31:59,417 --> 00:32:00,376 Okay. 603 00:32:01,836 --> 00:32:03,379 I'm gonna put the object down. 604 00:32:05,882 --> 00:32:08,134 It's a younger individual I have to highlight. 605 00:32:08,217 --> 00:32:10,136 I can tell this would've been a male. 606 00:32:10,219 --> 00:32:12,555 He's giving me this feeling of being a contemporary, 607 00:32:12,639 --> 00:32:17,226 and a contemporary would usually be on our same generational level typically. 608 00:32:17,310 --> 00:32:19,979 -My heart is racing right now. -It's all good. 609 00:32:20,063 --> 00:32:23,316 This guy keeps coming in, and he's showing me glasses. 610 00:32:23,399 --> 00:32:26,861 Like glasses that you would wear. Like, "Huh? Spectacles." 611 00:32:26,945 --> 00:32:29,364 It's just a funny thing that strikes me. 612 00:32:29,447 --> 00:32:32,617 When he comes through, he's not wanting me to get too serious. 613 00:32:32,700 --> 00:32:34,786 He's giving me light-hearted feelings. 614 00:32:34,869 --> 00:32:37,497 He wants that to be the focus and the emphasis today, 615 00:32:37,580 --> 00:32:39,207 not the sadness around how he went. 616 00:32:39,290 --> 00:32:42,418 He strikes me as the type that when he would enter into a room, 617 00:32:42,502 --> 00:32:44,879 I feel like he had an undeniable presence. 618 00:32:44,963 --> 00:32:46,756 It's like, you couldn't ignore him, 619 00:32:46,839 --> 00:32:50,259 but he didn't want to be noticed, if that makes sense. 620 00:32:50,343 --> 00:32:51,552 Well, he was six-three. 621 00:32:51,636 --> 00:32:55,264 -You notice when he walks in. -A tall guy. 622 00:32:55,348 --> 00:32:57,642 Yeah, he's like, "Rather be the wallflower." 623 00:32:57,725 --> 00:32:59,894 -Yeah, exactly. -Yeah, it's cute. 624 00:32:59,978 --> 00:33:01,729 Um, I'm gonna scribble. 625 00:33:02,438 --> 00:33:03,564 Okay. 626 00:33:09,404 --> 00:33:11,614 There is a reference there. 627 00:33:12,115 --> 00:33:13,324 Okay. 628 00:33:13,408 --> 00:33:15,493 When he comes in, it feels like 629 00:33:15,576 --> 00:33:20,206 he… he lived a solid life in the time that he had. 630 00:33:20,289 --> 00:33:23,126 But his life was cut short, in the way this comes across. 631 00:33:23,209 --> 00:33:25,128 This feels very, um, tragic. 632 00:33:25,837 --> 00:33:26,963 Phew. 633 00:33:28,589 --> 00:33:33,011 Okay. Yeah, he is having me bring up kind of the Valentine's Day thing. 634 00:33:33,094 --> 00:33:36,806 I don't know why he's bringing this up, but this was a hard time for somebody. 635 00:33:36,889 --> 00:33:39,100 That's about the time that he had passed. 636 00:33:39,183 --> 00:33:41,269 Gotcha. Yeah, there. 637 00:33:41,978 --> 00:33:42,812 Um… 638 00:33:43,438 --> 00:33:45,523 It feels extremely… 639 00:33:46,858 --> 00:33:48,484 like, "I'm here, and then I'm gone." 640 00:33:48,568 --> 00:33:51,612 Um, I don't feel like there's room for a deterioration. 641 00:33:51,696 --> 00:33:54,741 -Absolutely not. -I feel my heart stop. 642 00:33:54,824 --> 00:33:57,076 And it's all he's giving me about it. 643 00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,203 -Yeah. -There's something weird. 644 00:33:59,287 --> 00:34:01,122 The way it comes across. Feels like, 645 00:34:01,205 --> 00:34:03,666 people, when they heard, they'd be like, "Really?" 646 00:34:03,750 --> 00:34:05,668 "Are we sure? Can we double-check?" 647 00:34:05,752 --> 00:34:07,587 -Like-- -That was my response. 648 00:34:07,670 --> 00:34:09,714 I was like, "Are you sure?" Like, "What?" 649 00:34:09,797 --> 00:34:11,924 I mean, he was 33. 650 00:34:12,425 --> 00:34:15,303 He does bring up… That's so weird. 651 00:34:15,386 --> 00:34:19,557 I'm trying to determine the passing thing. It's such a specific way someone goes. 652 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:23,102 -Yeah. -And not one that I'm super familiar with. 653 00:34:23,186 --> 00:34:25,188 I was hoping to get some answers with that. 654 00:34:25,271 --> 00:34:27,273 -Can I talk about it? Okay. -Yeah. 655 00:34:27,356 --> 00:34:32,195 Um, so what we know of is, he had been working all day long. 656 00:34:32,278 --> 00:34:36,240 And then he ended up going to a bar to meet his wife to hang out. 657 00:34:36,324 --> 00:34:37,700 He had a couple of drinks. 658 00:34:37,784 --> 00:34:41,120 -Not something that'd cause him to be ill. -Sure. 659 00:34:41,204 --> 00:34:44,082 At all. But he was in the parking lot. 660 00:34:44,165 --> 00:34:46,459 And he literally just passed out. 661 00:34:46,542 --> 00:34:48,878 From what I remember, he fell to his knees. 662 00:34:48,961 --> 00:34:50,421 Then he fell back. 663 00:34:50,505 --> 00:34:52,465 He hit the back of his head. 664 00:34:52,548 --> 00:34:54,967 They said it was because he hit the back of his head 665 00:34:55,051 --> 00:34:56,260 and had a brain bleed. 666 00:34:56,344 --> 00:34:59,639 I'm like, "he couldn't have hit the ground that hard." 667 00:34:59,722 --> 00:35:02,058 That's what I'm thinking. If you're on your knees… 668 00:35:02,141 --> 00:35:03,267 -Yeah. -Yeah. 669 00:35:03,351 --> 00:35:07,438 I'm… that's not what I'm getting as far as what caused him to pass. 670 00:35:07,522 --> 00:35:08,648 So that's the thing. 671 00:35:08,731 --> 00:35:13,111 It reminds me of people who sometimes have pulmonary embolisms, strokes, 672 00:35:13,194 --> 00:35:14,403 or heart attacks. 673 00:35:14,487 --> 00:35:17,532 But he gave me this feeling of a jolt with internally. 674 00:35:17,615 --> 00:35:20,284 -And then I feel my heart stop. -Wow. Okay. 675 00:35:20,368 --> 00:35:22,954 Something had to be going on internally. 676 00:35:23,037 --> 00:35:25,206 Okay. They did an autopsy, of course. 677 00:35:25,289 --> 00:35:27,375 So we know that he had an enlarged heart. 678 00:35:27,458 --> 00:35:30,169 -Okay. -But there was no sign of a heart attack 679 00:35:30,253 --> 00:35:31,879 or anything like that. 680 00:35:31,963 --> 00:35:33,756 -He didn't suffer. -Okay. 681 00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,384 He comes through lighthearted, happy, and jovial. 682 00:35:36,467 --> 00:35:37,802 My interpretation is, 683 00:35:37,885 --> 00:35:41,097 there could have been a brain bleed with the heart problem. 684 00:35:41,180 --> 00:35:43,975 Those two things could have facilitated this, 685 00:35:44,058 --> 00:35:46,602 but heart seems like the answer for me. 686 00:35:46,686 --> 00:35:48,646 -In the way this is coming through. -Okay. 687 00:35:48,729 --> 00:35:51,524 He had a beautiful heart in spirit, but he had a bad organ. 688 00:35:51,607 --> 00:35:53,818 It runs in our family. Heart issues do. 689 00:35:53,901 --> 00:35:55,486 -Makes sense. -Gotcha. 690 00:35:55,570 --> 00:35:58,531 I just want to know who this was to you? What was his name? 691 00:35:58,614 --> 00:36:00,032 My brother, Brian. 692 00:36:01,450 --> 00:36:06,080 Brian was a little quirky, kind of funny. 693 00:36:06,164 --> 00:36:07,999 Very tall. 694 00:36:08,499 --> 00:36:11,377 "String Bean" was kind of a nickname for him. 695 00:36:11,460 --> 00:36:16,424 We actually weren't that close because I was five years younger than him, 696 00:36:16,507 --> 00:36:18,092 but I wanted to be closer to him, 697 00:36:18,176 --> 00:36:21,179 but with the age gap, it just didn't happen, 698 00:36:21,262 --> 00:36:22,722 as much as I wanted it to. 699 00:36:22,805 --> 00:36:25,975 And then he suddenly just passed away. 700 00:36:26,726 --> 00:36:30,396 I didn't really get to bond with him. 701 00:36:30,980 --> 00:36:33,983 And wanting to be close. It was very hard. 702 00:36:37,111 --> 00:36:38,279 All right. 703 00:36:38,362 --> 00:36:40,781 He's bringing up your mom, pretty strongly. 704 00:36:40,865 --> 00:36:43,826 Yeah. He has some stuff for her. 705 00:36:43,910 --> 00:36:46,454 He also refers to Dad, in the way this comes through. 706 00:36:46,537 --> 00:36:47,955 So is Dad living? 707 00:36:48,039 --> 00:36:49,665 -Yes, he is. -In the picture. 708 00:36:49,749 --> 00:36:52,335 -Both of my parents are still alive. -Yeah. 709 00:36:55,630 --> 00:36:56,797 Mm-mm. 710 00:37:00,551 --> 00:37:04,513 Uh, let me look here. Trying to figure out what this is. Um… 711 00:37:06,974 --> 00:37:08,017 Okay. 712 00:37:12,188 --> 00:37:13,648 Um… 713 00:37:13,731 --> 00:37:16,025 Trying to think of how to handle this. 714 00:37:17,693 --> 00:37:21,155 Some of these people on the other side had a hand in 715 00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:22,990 helping your mother 716 00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:25,368 figure something out. 717 00:37:25,868 --> 00:37:27,828 I'm trying to figure out what this is. 718 00:37:27,912 --> 00:37:30,623 -There's some people who've passed. -Okay. 719 00:37:30,706 --> 00:37:32,583 They feel like they led 720 00:37:32,667 --> 00:37:35,878 your mother to come to an understanding of something. 721 00:37:35,962 --> 00:37:38,047 I know it's vague, but I gotta keep going 722 00:37:38,130 --> 00:37:40,299 because it's getting progressively specific. 723 00:37:40,383 --> 00:37:41,509 Let me look. 724 00:37:42,969 --> 00:37:45,596 So many people here, I'm having a hard time managing. 725 00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:47,682 It's your mom. Um… 726 00:37:47,765 --> 00:37:52,270 I kinda wonder with her upbringing, if there isn't something big there. 727 00:37:52,353 --> 00:37:54,146 In the way this comes across. 728 00:37:54,230 --> 00:37:57,525 The weird thing is, it's not just upbringing. 729 00:37:57,608 --> 00:37:59,652 -Oh my gosh. -This is gonna blow my mind. 730 00:37:59,735 --> 00:38:02,822 If this is accurate. We've been following my mom's journey. 731 00:38:02,905 --> 00:38:05,825 -Really? -And there's something kind of similar. 732 00:38:05,908 --> 00:38:09,245 I don't want to say it's exact, but it's similar in the feeling of, 733 00:38:09,328 --> 00:38:12,999 discovery, coming to an awareness, a conclusion. 734 00:38:13,082 --> 00:38:16,877 And I feel like the people on the other side tried to make this happen. 735 00:38:16,961 --> 00:38:19,338 The people on the other side tried to make it happen? 736 00:38:19,422 --> 00:38:23,467 They were pushing events to happen, so that your mom could get this. 737 00:38:23,551 --> 00:38:27,346 -If that makes sense. Does it make sense? -Yes. This is so awesome! 738 00:38:27,430 --> 00:38:28,389 Oh my God.