- ♪ MTV ♪
- I'm Tami Roman.
I have been cheated on before.
You [bleep] my man when I was married to him.
I even wrote a book about it.
And I've made it my mission
to help suspicious lovers catch their cheating partners
in the act. Hold up.
- Hey, you brought this to my place of business?
How dare you? What is this?
- [bleep] - Oh!
Together with my relationship coaches...
- You've got to tell about the insecurities that you have.
That's how y'all work through it.
- This is a situation where you have to say,
"I'm gonna step up and do what's right."
- And a stealthy investigation team...
- They think they slick. Well, we slicker.
- We won't stop until we find the truth.
Cheaters beware.
- I'm [bleep] torn. I love them both.
- You gotta fundamentally say, "I'm gonna be different."
- Who the [bleep] do you think you are?
- Why the [bleep] y'all got cameras in my crib?
What the [bleep] is wrong with you?
- Tami! Tami!
- Nobody should think they're better
than anybody else 'cause y'all all [bleep] been played.
And that's just the truth.
This is "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
- ♪ That's what it feels like to be iconic ♪
[upbeat pop music]
♪ Iconic ♪
♪ That's what it feels, that's what if feels ♪
♪ ♪
♪ Iconic ♪
- Hello, there.
How are you? - I'm doing great.
How are you? - I'm doing well.
- Nice to meet you. - Thank you.
Pleasure to meet you as well. - Yes, ma'am.
Oh.
- Thank you so much for coming in.
- Thanks for having me. - Get comfortable.
- OK. - You're looking real perched.
- Thank you. [laughs]
- You know. Yes, get comfortable.
Tell me a little bit about you.
- I am a professional dancer, choreographer.
- Nice. - I have a dance school.
I train, like, kids ages two all the way up
to adults, actually. - What type of dance?
- We do, like, ballet, hip-hop...
- Oh, nice. - Modern jazz.
Yeah. - I can't keep, uh, the beat.
- You can't keep a beat? - Mm-mm.
- But I can teach you, though, for sure.
- I was like, I would probably need some classes to really--
- I can help you, dear. - I could two-step.
- Look, you help me, I'll help you.
- Yes, OK. - Even exchange.
- Quid pro-- - Let's do that.
- We gonna barter today. - Let's do that.
- You got any kids?
- I got a couple. - You got a couple?
- Yeah. They're grown, so...
[laughter] - Oh.
- That's why-- - Mine are grown.
Mine is grown, too.
- I don't like nobody knowing my age now, so...
- Oh, girl, if you don't want to tell me your age,
you do not have to tell me your age.
But tell me about this relationship of yours.
- Ted is an amazing man.
First of all, let me tell you that.
Like, he's always been there for me since day one.
Initially, he started out as one of my clients.
So I taught Ted dance classes.
Believe it or not, back then, Ted looked
like Patrick Swayze, Kurt Russell.
I mean, he was hot.
- Yeah. - [laughs]
- All right. Patrick Swayze's attractive.
- Yes. - Just a little swirl action.
- But he was a great-looking guy.
It's hot in here.
[laughs] - Get comfortable.
I told you.
We're gonna be talking for a minute...
- Look, it's cold outside.
- 'Cause I want to get all the tea.
- I'm attracted to older guys because Ted showed me
something that most men in my past relationships
never gave me. - Now, how much older is Ted?
- 16, to be exact.
I feel more secure with an older man.
- Because there's some old pimps out there too.
- [laughs]
- And so how did the relationship
evolve from him taking classes to you guys being involved?
- In, like, a year and a half, you know,
we developed a good friendship.
Ted came in as my business partner.
And everything. - So he actually invested...
- He invested. - Financially?
- Financially. Yes, he did.
And it was amazing,
and I actually fell in love with Ted.
Because I believe that if a man is gonna
support your dream and your vision,
that's who you need to be with. - Mm-hmm.
So how long have you guys actually been together?
- Off and on, honestly for, like,
17 years, believe it or not. - Wow.
- Yes, because Ted moved to Louisiana,
like, in 2012.
- So this is a long-distance relationship?
- It's a long-distance relationship.
It is.
However, we see each other every weekend.
- Got it. - So it's like we're not--
- So he flies back to spend time with you?
- Yes. - OK.
- Absolutely. - All right.
So what are the qualities about Ted that you like,
that made you fall in love with him?
- Anything that I wanted and needed,
he's invested in it. He gave me money.
He paid for my bills, my rent. He invested in my school.
Like, what more can you ask for?
Ted is, like, the full package.
- Well, I haven't heard anything
about the full package.
All I've heard are about his pocket and his finances.
[ominous music]
- No, no, no, no. Ted is wonderful.
Like, he's a-- a great father figure
to my kids. - OK.
- Like, he's known them since they were little.
- Mm-hmm.
- Like, he's always been there in the picture.
He's met my family, my mom.
I can actually see myself being with him,
like, long-term, marrying him.
- So then why are you here?
- [sighs]
Honestly, lately, I feel a distance
between him and I. - Really?
- I know--like, sometimes he comes out here,
he say he want to stay at a hotel
just to have some space to kind of do
what he need to do or whatever--
take care of business.
- If typically, when he comes in town, he's with you,
and then all of a sudden that behavior has changed...
- Exactly. - That is kind of a red flag.
- And where's the sex at? He's stopped.
- Mm.
- Ted and I have the most amazing sex ever.
- He's got it going? - All around. Yes.
It's just, recently, Ted just, like, stopped
taking me places, stopped, you know, paying my bills
like he normally would. - Mm-hmm.
- Ted is a big support system to me.
My life is, you know, dependent upon him financially.
So, like, what is he doing? - Mm-hmm.
Is the biggest change for you the fact
that he's just not being there from a financial aspect?
- No. In every way.
♪ ♪
[sighs]
- The reason I'm having this conversation with you
is because, when I was 23 years old,
I met a man who played professional basketball,
and he said to me... - Mm-hmm.
- "I do not want you to work."
I said, "OK, you don't want me to work?
I ain't gonna work."
And typically, when the man is the key breadwinner,
we're the person who suffers in that dynamic.
When you come into a relationship,
you cannot always depend that the person
is really gonna give you they full one.
And you got to be able to take care of yourself.
- Right. - That's all I'm saying.
- [sighs] - Are you OK?
[soft dramatic music]
- 'Cause I know people probably think, like,
it's a sugar daddy situation.
It's-- it's not like that at all.
Like, we actually have a friendship.
We actually love each other. We actually support each other.
Like, it's not me just taking money from him
or wanting him for his money. No.
Ted was the first man that ever showed me,
like, real love. - OK.
I'm gonna help you... - Thank you.
- Try to get to the bottom of things
because it really could all be in your head.
- I really would like to believe that.
- Mm-hmm.
- Let's just get to the bottom of it.
- We shall. We shall.
- All right. Thank you so much.
- Thank you so much for coming in.
- It was so nice to meet you. - Don't forget.
Don't say anything. - I won't.
I appreciate you.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- So we're on the way right now to Sky's house
to see if her boyfriend Ted is home.
The goal for today is to sit on the house
and see if he makes any moves.
[ambient electronic music]
♪ ♪
OK, we got action.
There he is right there.
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So he turned into a shopping center.
So we just need to hang back.
[soft dramatic music]
It looks like he's going to a luxury boutique.
He gonna go get some luxury booty right now.
This is my camera brooch.
This little brooch has a camera,
and it also has audio, where I can hear
and see everything inside.
♪ ♪
[sighs]
Oh, OK, hold on. There he is right now.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
So he spent $3,200 on two luxury handbags.
He said that these bags were for his two sisters.
I love my sister, but I'll be damned
if I spend $3,200 on her ass.
It looks like he is pulling into somebody's driveway.
I'm gonna turn around.
Oh.
[tense music]
Oh, my goodness. You got to be [bleep] me.
Honestly, I don't think that's his sister.
[dramatic music]
♪ ♪
Oh, [bleep]. There they go right there.
♪ ♪
So it looks like they're heading into this park.
♪ ♪
I'm gonna go ahead and see if I can get close.
So I'm gonna put something else on,
and I'm finna bring my gadgets out for this.
Today is a pretty cool day,
so why not have a cup of coffee?
Well, really, it has a hidden camera right here,
which is actually my audio and visual
for seeing what they're doing.
Let's go ahead and go down there.
♪ ♪
So it looks like they're walking and holding hands.
Oh, my goodness.
[tense music]
♪ ♪
He dropped her off at her house,
and he just pulled in to the valet at the hotel.
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He must have a room here.
I'm gonna sit here as long as it takes
to get that information.
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Oh, [bleep]. That's him right there.
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You know what? I don't want to drive.
[car beeps]
[energetic electronic music]
♪ ♪
What the hell he need all that cash for?
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So it looks like he had a big wad of money,
and there's no telling what he's finna go spend it on.
So we're gonna sit here, and we gonna stay
on this hotel all night.
[ambient electronic music]
♪ ♪
- It's day three of following Ted.
He didn't come out the hotel all day.
I broke off surveillance for an hour to get cleaned up,
but I'm back in it,
and we really hope to find some good evidence tonight.
[soft dramatic music]
♪ ♪
So there he is.
He look like he has flowers and everything.
All right, he's on the move, and so are we.
♪ ♪
So Ted has pulled over and parked.
All right, so there we go.
He all dressed up real nice.
And, oh, my gosh, it's the same girl from earlier.
Ted has walked into this restaurant,
so I'm gonna be using my purse camera.
♪ ♪
He might just be her sugar daddy.
This is wild.
Why would he do Sky like this?
So I think we have more than enough evidence.
[upbeat pop music]
- ♪ You knew the vibe first ♪
♪ You were my guy first ♪
♪ I could hurt you if I wanted to ♪
♪ But I'd rather die first ♪
♪ You're living good, huh? ♪
♪ So who care if I hurt? ♪
♪ She want to invest ♪
- Hi. - Hi.
- You look fabulous.
- How are you? You look so beautiful.
- Oh, my gosh. So great to see you again.
- Yeah, same here.
I want to introduce you to Ken Canion.
- Hi, Ken. - How are you?
How are you? - I'm wonderful.
How are you? - Great.
Glad to meet you. - Good to see you.
- Have a seat on the other side, sweetie.
- Oh, sure. - He is a relationship expert.
- How are you feeling?
- Nervous. [laughs]
- You're nervous? You came to the right place.
- Yeah, 'cause I--
Yeah, I'm just anxious to know, like, if he's really out there
doing something he has no business doing,
or is he faithful to me? - So are you ready?
- I'm ready. - OK.
This is our first day of surveillance.
And there is Ted.
We continued to follow him.
He ended up at this location.
[tense music]
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- Ted doesn't have any sisters.
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And furthermore, I only received
one handbag from Ted.
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Where did the second one go?
- Now, this is the house
that he went into after he was shopping.
He comes out with this young lady.
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Do you know who that is? - Hell no.
- OK. - Are you serious?
- They went on a nice little stroll,
as we followed them to the park.
Do you see what's going on?
- Oh, wha--
♪ ♪
Who is this bitch?
- It was a lot of PDA.
♪ ♪
- I don't even want to see this.
- No, you need to sit down and watch this.
- No. - Then I'ma pause it.
- [sighs]
[sniffles]
Wow.
I am so stupid.
[soft dramatic music]
I'm so stupid.
- I would disagree.
- You're a woman in love.
And you've just found out some information
that wasn't pleasing.
But you're not stupid because you love someone.
- I want to show you the next one.
- Mm-hmm.
[tense music]
- I know you said that sometimes he'll come in town...
- Stupid. - And he'll stay at a hotel.
On that evening, we followed him to the ATM.
♪ ♪
- What the [bleep]?
- Why he went to get cash, we didn't know.
This was the next day.
You see him exit the hotel. He has roses.
He has a bag.
He goes to this particular restaurant
to where he meets this same young lady.
♪ ♪
- "New chapter?" Are you serious?
- [sighs] - So there's the blue purse.
And there's the ATM cash. - All of this?
- You know...
- So she's a college student.
Same age as my daughter probably.
- Oh, so they in love, too, huh?
- He said, "The man is supposed to provide
and take care of his woman." - That's me.
♪ ♪
- Once they leave the restaurant,
they end up back at that hotel.
♪ ♪
And then we catch her coming out in the a.m.
♪ ♪
- Damn, that's [bleep] up.
That is so [bleep] up.
- You said, "She's a college student,
probably the same age as my daughter."
- As my daughter, yes.
- But she's probably also the same age
you were when you first met him.
♪ ♪
- Yeah, I was that young. - Mm-hmm.
- So, what, does he think I'm too old now?
I've been with him 17 years.
- After reviewing the footage, what's obvious
is Ted has a need to be needed.
He gets validation from giving money
and taking care of women who are younger.
- [sighs]
- Now, when you look at studies of why men do that,
it gives them a sense of youth.
To date a younger woman makes him feel
the vitality of being young again.
If youth is the thing that he needs,
you can't rewind the clock 17 years.
♪ ♪
- [sighs] So now what?
- So we have two options, the first one being
we can set it up where you can have a conversation with her,
and then you both can go to Ted together
in what we call a team up.
Or we continue surveillance
until the two of them are together,
and then you can approach both of them
in an undercover ambush, if you will,
that we call a takedown.
- I don't-- I don't want to talk to her.
I want the takedown, so let's do it.
- I'm sorry that it had to go this way.
- ♪ Maybe you're too polite ♪
- [sighs]
- ♪ Keeping the truth inside ♪ - [sighs]
Thank you. - I'll call you. OK?
- Mm-hmm. - OK.
- [sighs]
[upbeat pop music]
- ♪ Take a pic cause I'm candid ♪
♪ Imitators had to brandish ♪
♪ I don't think they understand it ♪
♪ We on a whole different planet ♪
♪ I cannot lie ♪
♪ I've gotten used to the high life ♪
♪ Yeah, taking side come them dollar signs, yeah ♪
[upbeat hip-hop music]
- Thanks.
♪ ♪
I finally heard from the investigation team.
- OK.
- And so they have spotted Ted and this young woman
out at a car dealership.
I wonder if he's gonna buy a car.
- Right.
- But that is why we're headed to pick up Sky...
- OK.
- So that she can finally have the conversation
that she wants to have. - And confirmation.
- This is true.
- I'm just curious about his thoughts,
how he sees himself. - Mm-hmm.
- He identifies himself through younger women.
- Yeah.
- These ladies make him feel
more young, a sense of virility
because he obviously sees himself as a provider.
- Yes. - And I think, for him,
in doing that, he gets a need met.
I'm 100% sure.
- But from a male perspective, what do you think that need is?
- Affirmation and validation.
The number one need of human beings
is the need for significance.
I think he's getting significance from them.
- Got it. OK, so we're here.
- Hello. - Hi.
- How are you? - Nervous.
- OK. - Anxious, nervous.
I have all kinds of mixed emotions right now.
- Mm-hmm.
So my investigation team spotted Ted
out with the other young lady.
They're at a car lot.
- At a car lot? - Mm-hmm.
- Wow.
- My investigation team, they have decoys,
cameras set up.
Everybody's in position so that we'll be able
to see what's going on as they are looking
at these vehicles. - Mm-hmm.
- I'll be able to show you what's happening
in real time on this monitor.
When you feel like you're ready to go in
and have that conversation, please do so.
Do you want to be with Ted? - Of course.
That's the love of my life, yes.
- Even after all of this?
- The question is does he still want
to be with me after all this?
I don't want to just give up 17 years.
I mean, we've just invested too much time,
and too much money, too much energy,
too much of everything to just let it all go.
- All right. - Mm-hmm.
But we are here. - Mm.
- Are you ready to see what's going on?
- Not really, but yeah.
- Yeah, yeah. Yeah.
This is really beautiful.
- Oh, wow.
- It's not for me. I got one.
Which one do you like, baby?
- I don't know. It's the white one for me.
- You like the white one?
- You want the white one? - Yeah.
- OK, we'll do-- - Is that--?
- We'll do the white one then.
- Yeah, we'll do the white one.
- [laughs] All right.
Yeah.
[laughter]
- I think you need to get on up in there
before he signs the paperwork on this car.
[door rumbles]
- So you got the white...
[door rumbles]
- Everything about it.
- It's like the whole roof is, like, a sunroof.
- Yeah, do all your signing... - Hey!
- What you got to do.
- What the [bleep] are you doing?
- Hey. - Oh, [bleep]. Oh.
- What the [bleep] are you doing here for?
- Who is this girl right here? [bleep]!
- Who is that?
- Who is this [bleep] bitch, Ted?
- Why is there all these cameras here?
I'm confused. - Chill out.
- What you mean chill?
- Who is this girl right here? - Who is that?
- Who is this little bitch, Ted?
- Chill out. - What you mean chill?
[chair scrapes]
- I didn't see that coming.
- You got some explaining to do.
- I'm here with my man. He just bought me a--
- Your [bleep] what? - My man.
- That is not your [bleep] man!
Me and him have been together for 17 [bleep] years.
- Oh, yeah, yeah.
- Then why did he just buy me a car?
- Tell her the truth, Ted. Tell her the [bleep] truth.
- This is my... - Your what?
- Girlfriend. - Girlfriend?
- No, you-- Your [bleep] what?
- So then what am I to you? - Stop!
- Uh, well, uh--
- Let me go in here and see what's going on with this.
- Oh, hell no.
- Settle down now.
Maybe we can work this through.
- Are you sure about that?
You finna buy his ho bitch a car?
- He already did.
- Thank you. - Mm-hmm.
- He just signed it and everything, so...
- You got to be [bleep]--
- Hello, hello, hello.
- What are all these cameras doing here?
I'm confused. - Hi, there, Ted.
- I have--hey. - How are you?
My name is Tami Roman,
and this is Ken Canion. - Mm-hmm.
- You are on a show called
"Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
Sky came to me to find out what was going on
in your relationship with her,
and we put you under surveillance.
- [sighs]
- And we found out that you were
involved with this young lady. What's your name?
- Jelenny. - We saw you buy purses.
We saw you go to the ATM and get cash, the PDAs--
all of that. - Really?
- Yes. Sky has some questions for you.
- [sighs]
- You want to have a conversation about it?
- Yeah, 'cause I'm getting real nervous here.
I've never had nothing like this.
- First time for everything. Sky, you got to...
- This is very, um... - You got to settle on down.
- Dramatic for me.
I wasn't expecting anything like this.
- Like, why is there all these cameras here?
I'm confused.
- So Sky came to me and explained to me
in great detail the history of your relationship,
the 17 years, her children
are like your children,
and is very deeply in love with you.
- Are you in love with her?
[dramatic music]
- Yes, I am.
- I'm confused.
- Well, I've known her for 17 years.
We had a relationship back in Mississippi.
I wound up moving to Louisiana. She moved out here.
You know, I've been coming to see her--
- That's right. Ted...
- Did you know--
- How long have you been talking to this bitch?
- Uh...
- Long enough for him to give me a whole car.
- I'm not talking to you. I'm talking to Ted.
How long? - About four months.
- Do you love her?
- I probably love her, but I'm not in love with her
like I am you.
- That's just crazy. - All right, my--
- Because in love--
but you be with me damn near all the time.
He's only switching up because of the cameras.
Because before the cameras showed up,
that was not the energy.
Have you been wasting my damn time?
Is that you were trying to tell me?
- As far as I'm concerned, you're a gold-digger.
You only want me for my money. - Gold-digger.
- I never asked you for nothing.
You did that out of love 'cause you love me.
You got those gifts... - I know.
- Because you wanted to give me those gifts.
- I know. I know.
- So don't you dare call me a gold-digger.
- Now, I mean-- - I'm still getting the car.
You signed everything.
- Ted, you said you was gonna buy me a [bleep] car.
- This was our deal. - Ted.
- You know I've been having problems with my car.
I need some explanation!
- I need you to sit the [bleep] down!
- [exhales]
- All y'all arguing about some material [bleep],
and I'm trying to get answers from this man
on why he did what he did to both of you.
Ted, you're now saying,
"I feel like you're a gold-digger."
But if you're the person who's providing
all of that, and she's not asking
for anything, then how is she a gold-digger?
- Exactly.
- And if you felt that way, then why would you stay
in it for four months and jeopardize
your long-term relationship... - Exactly.
- For something that means nothing to you?
How does that seem like the right thing to do?
- It is really not.
- The way that you get involved with people
is through providing gifts to them.
- Yeah, I'm a big giver.
- And so you believe that, if I give money,
then I'm going to get
that affirmation, that validation.
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- Ted, I want to talk to you one-on-one.
- [sighs]
- 'Cause I just feel like I can't get
any real answers with the ladies
going back and forth. - Oh, I understand.
[sighs]
I'm doing totally wrong.
I mean, I shouldn't be stringing along two girls
like that. - You really shouldn't.
But I want to try to understand
where that comes from because I did watch you
under surveillance, and you said, clearly,
"A man takes care of his woman."
And I'm trying to understand,
is that the reason why you think
you need to pay for everything and do all the--
the gifts? - Yeah.
- So now that Ted's gone,
here's the question I have for you.
What did you think this was?
- What did you actually-- what did you really see in Ted?
- Everything. - Like what?
- Like, that's my everything. That's my man.
- Name five things. - I don't need to.
- Five things. - I don't need to.
- Yes, you do.
- You just wanted his money back.
What it really comes down to
is he just wanted someone who looks better.
He upgraded.
I'm younger, prettier, smarter, like--
♪ ♪
- What it really comes down to
is he just wanted someone who looks better.
He upgraded. [chuckles]
[chair scrapes]
[dramatic music]
- Ooh!
- I get that you're upset,
but you are directing your anger at the wrong person.
- I have to ask you this.
When did Sky become not enough?
- I don't think there was really a point.
- Mm-hmm.
- It's just the time when I actually went to go
and get her a gift, Jelenny was there,
and I happened to ask her her opinion on the gift.
- Mm-hmm. - She seemed very interested.
In the moment, I thought she was very attractive,
and I wound up asking her for her number.
And I enjoyed the attention she does give me,
you know, being that she's 23. But--
- That makes you feel youthful again?
- Yeah, yeah.
I see a little bit of Sky in her from back then.
- Mm-hmm.
- How do I know that Sky is even gonna--
you know, once I get to be 60,
and she's only, like, mid-40s--
- Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.
- I mean, you know?
- Was there anything that she did
to make you feel like, well, when she's 40,
she might leave me?
Where does--where is that coming from,
because she says she loves you?
- I don't know.
Maybe my past, past relationships.
- And what's happened?
- I have been married and divorced twice.
Sky doesn't know about it.
I've been-- I never thought I would
ever do anything like this.
Because I mean, to be honest, I caught my--
my ex cheating on me.
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That's the reason why I keep putting off
or being scared to marry her,
is because of my past with my ex-wife.
- Mm-hmm.
- You know, it's still in my mind.
In the back of my mind, I've--
you know, and it still worries me.
- But has Sky specifically shown you
any similarities which is why you're like,
"OK, maybe I need to hold off?"
- She does wind up being a little bratty at times
and expecting more than what I give or--
- I receive what you're saying
and how sometimes situations can be so traumatic
that we'd like to forget them,
and so in that process, we dismiss it and feel like,
"OK, so we've healed from it."
That's not actually the case.
- Let me assess what I saw.
I saw a person who was benefiting
from a relationship-- that it was convenient.
He was meeting your needs.
We did see where he was helping you to go to school,
pay for your education.
After he gave you the money,
you said, "This is why I love you."
- Exactly, preach. - You said that.
- Preach. - I didn't say that.
- What girl don't want, like, gifts?
That's normal.
That's the normal reaction of mine,
but that's not what held our relationship.
Like, I was in our relationship 1000%.
- How was you into y'all relationship after four months?
[tense music]
- Sky was very clear that there are multiple things
that she loves about you and her relationship with you.
But if you went broke today,
do you think that Sky would stay?
- I'm not 100% sure.
- Is it OK if I bring Sky over?
- Yeah, it's fine.
- Can you please ask Sky to come talk to us?
- Sky, you can go back over here.
[dramatic music]
- [sighs]
♪ ♪
- Hey there, Sky.
- I'm [bleep] mad at you right now.
You've got a lot of explaining to do.
- You got a right to. You've got a right to.
- He's openly acknowledged
that he was wrong in this moment.
So let's try to get to the bottom of it
and allow him to open up about something
that he hasn't shared with you. - OK.
- What were your questions? - Why?
Why did you-- why did you do this?
Just be honest with me, Ted. - [sighs]
I mean, it just happened.
- How did it-- how it just just happen?
- OK. Let me tell you this then.
- Tell me.
- There's something else about my past.
I have been married and divorced twice in my past,
but it was before I even met you.
I still have nightmares about it.
As far as the marriage-- reason why I've been
pushing it off is because-- - As far as the marriage--
- It's because of them.
- So that's why it's taken this long,
because you're saying that you never really healed
from your previous relationships?
- Correct. And then I met you.
And you actually made me feel like a person again.
♪ ♪
- Four months ago, he met someone
that made him feel full of life again.
There was something that was going on
in your dynamic with him that reminded him...
- [sighs]
- Slightly of what he went through
in the other situation,
whether that's lack of attention,
whether that's lack of affection,
and I'm not excusing what you did.
You were dead ass wrong for messing with the little gal.
- No, yeah, I was totally wrong.
I'll admit it. I'm a man.
I'll admit when I'm wrong. - [sighs]
- I just hope and pray that you can forgive me someday.
I know it won't be right away.
- Do you even love this girl? - No.
I'm actually in love with you.
- OK.
- If I had a choice, it would be you.
I do have to ask you, though, if I was completely broke,
would you still feel the same?
♪ ♪
[dramatic music]
- If I was completely broke, would you still feel the same?
Because I mean, you know, my business can always
go under at any time.
- And I'm still here to support you.
I don't care. - Really?
- Yes, I want you to know that, seriously.
- Now that you know that he's got somebody else,
what happens now?
- It's just shocking, to say the least.
Someone he's been with for 17 years--
- Right. - That's a lot of history.
But I feel betrayed, embarrassed.
[tense music]
It's a lot.
♪ ♪
- I'm just wanting to know
if I can actually believe you though.
Can I-- can I believe you again,
is what I'm just wondering?
- I can only do my best to try to get you
to believe me and trust me again.
- Now that you have a little better understanding
of what motivated the behavior,
do you want to move forward with Ted?
♪ ♪
- Yes, I don't want to lose Ted.
- Mm-hmm.
So that's a decision there.
- I mean, I feel good to know that you love me
and you choose me over this bimbo.
You need to tell her. - Yeah, I do.
- Now.
- You ready to go talk with Jelenny?
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- Let's go.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
- Jelenny...
[sighs] I'm sorry,
but I'ma have to tell you, I'm gonna have to break it off.
I prefer to be with Sky. - So what switched?
- I have all this time invested.
I know you're not a gold-digger.
I shouldn't have said that. OK?
It's just-- - OK. But hold on.
Because I just don't like your demeanor right now.
You acting like you can have your cake and eat it too.
Like, "Oh, it's OK. Oh, I got my girl back."
He's gonna keep doing that same thing to you,
'cause you're just gonna keep getting older and older,
and he's just gonna keep wanting someone
young and younger. - Whatever.
- Honestly... - I'm at fault.
- I think you don't deserve either of us,
if I'm being real. I think you deserve [bleep].
- You're probably exactly right
until I can get my head straight.
They know about my past. You don't.
That's not an excuse for what I did though.
I will admit that. But I've chose her.
- I'm out of here.
I couldn't believe the person I was looking at.
This is not how I expected the day to go.
I feel embarrassed and betrayed
and just hurt, the fact that he would do this to me.
- You got your answer? You got your man?
- Yeah, and we're gonna work towards this, right?
- Yeah.
- Counseling? - Counseling.
I'm gonna--hopefully you'll trust me again.
- My job is done. [laughter]
I'm gonna let y'all work it out.
Buy a car or something.
- I never in a million years
would think Ted would do this to me.
Now I feel like we just really need to go through counseling
and therapy to just kind of, you know, learn to forgive
one another and, you know, move forward.
- What do you think, Tami?
- Well, this one was definitely different for me
only because I did have empathy for Ted.
I'm not excusing his behavior. - OK. Right, right.
- You know, they have the saying,
hurt people hurt people. - Yes.
- The reason you're hurting others
is because you haven't taken the time to heal
from what hurt you in the first place.
- Once again, you got the answers.
- I got the answers. Now we're out. Come on.
- All right.
[upbeat pop music]
- ♪ I've got a whole lot of life to live ♪
♪ I've got a whole lot of love to give ♪
♪ I've got a whole lot of life to live ♪
♪ I've got a whole lotta, whole lotta, whole lotta ♪
- Sky and Ted. Hello, there.
- Why, hello. - Hello.
- How are you?
- I figured based on how everything turned out
that you guys would still be together.
That's why I wanted to do this check-in.
But you're not actually together.
Are you guys still long-distance?
- Currently, we are still long-distance.
Everything is moving along just very smoothly.
You know, we talked it out.
Like, after we left that night,
we talked it out for a very long time--
until, like, 3:00 in the morning.
- Ted, going forward, you know now
to communicate with your partner
rather than stepping outside of the relationship, correct?
- Oh, definitely. Definitely.
Yeah, anything she wants to know,
I'm gonna let her know now.
- Are we still considering marriage?
- Absolutely.
I look forward--I want to get married to Ted so bad.
Like, he just don't understand.
We've talked about this for years.
- I definitely want to.
I just got to get all the ducks in a row.
So definitely looking forward, you know,
to the actual marriage and everything.
- So OK. I did my job.
I feel like I did it well. - Yeah.
- You-- - Yeah, I really--
- I feel like I did it well.
- Yeah, I really appreciate you, Tami.
- Thank you, Tami, so much, thank you.
- All right. - You're welcome so much.
Bye. - OK, bye.
- Cheaters beware.
- You [bleep] kissed her, you idiot.
- Next time you want to be unfaithful,
think again.
Hey, let me tell you one [bleep] thing!
Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord.
Because I just might...
Oh, God, she's running--
Catch you in the act.