- ♪ MTV ♪
- I'm Tami Roman.
I have been cheated on before.
You [bleep] my man when I was married to him.
I even wrote a book about it.
And I've made it my mission to help
suspicious lovers catch their cheating partners in the act.
Hold up.
- Man, you brought this to my place of business?
How dare you. What is this?
- What the [bleep]... - Ooh!
Together with my relationship coaches--
- You've gotta tell her about the insecurities
that you have.
That's how y'all work through it.
- This is a situation where you have to say I'm gonna
step up and do what's right.
- --and stealthy investigation team--
- They think they slick.
Well, we slicker.
- --we won't stop until we find the truth.
Cheaters, beware.
- I'm [bleep] torn. I love them both.
- You gotta fundamentally say I'm gonna be different.
- Who the [bleep] do you think you are?
- Why the [bleep] do y'all got cameras in my crib?
What the [bleep] is wrong with you?
- Damn it! Damn it!
- Nobody should think they're better than anybody else,
because y'all all [bleep] been played.
And that's just the truth.
This is "Caught in the Act Unfaithful."
- ♪ Everybody preach ♪
♪ Yeah, yeah ♪
♪ Whole world, shake it up with some good energy ♪
♪ Shake it up ♪
♪ Shake it up, yeah ♪
- Hello there, Redd. - Hey.
- How are you? - Good.
How you doing?
- I'm oh--oop, wait.
- What?
- I know you.
- I don't know, maybe.
- No, I know your face.
- Where you know me from?
- Have you been on TV?
- Mm-hmm, I have.
- Got it. - Yeah.
- OK, got it, got it, got it, got it,
got it, got it, got it.
So this is going to be interesting--
- Very.
- --because I feel like I'm familiar with you,
but I'm sure there's some stuff that you're gonna
tell me that I don't know.
- Yeah.
- So tell me about Redd and where Redd comes from.
- My childhood was just rough.
And I overcame that.
- You had both parents in the household?
- Yeah, up until I was 10.
- OK, and how was that, with both parents?
- It was fun.
It was bad.
It was fun, you know?
- And then, at 10, your mom and dad said, this ain't working?
- Yeah, yeah, but that's why you got the streets, though.
You got [bleep] on the streets though and [bleep] together...
- You feel like you learned from the streets?
- Yeah, you gonna most definitely
learn from the streets.
- What you feel the streets taught you?
- How to fight, how to stay in trouble, how to go to jail.
I went to jail a lot of times.
My first time going to jail was right before
I graduated high school.
The second time was in college, and that's
'cause I was getting money.
And the third time was because I was getting more money.
And then, the fourth time was violation of probation.
- Of getting the money's times?
- Yeah, mm-hmm.
And then, yeah, that's where I met Lil Bit at, in jail.
- She walked in and you were like, "Ahhh!"
- I just was like, "Ahh."
Yeah, when I seen her, like, I really, like, brightened up.
Like, I really like, damn, is she the one?
Is this what the [bleep] love at first sight feel like?
Like-- - Mm.
She walks in, you're like, I want her.
- Yeah.
- How do you--how do you make that happen?
- I just wrote a note and just was like, I like you.
Just talked to each other every day from there.
I ain't never felt like this about nobody
I ever was involved with.
- OK.
- I was like, damn.
Like, she got potential.
- What was it about her that made her different?
- She was little.
I just like little people.
That's, like, a turn-on, like, just little people in general.
Like, you know how you got some people, they be like, yeah,
I like hips, I like breasts.
I like little people because they so little.
- [laughs]
- So yeah, she fine, right?
- OK.
- And, you know, it was just one of those I knew.
So I was like, you about to get out in a couple of days.
I'm getting out the same day but just
later on in the day because she came in January 2014.
We got out the end of January--
January 27, 2014.
She went home for a couple of months.
She came back with me April.
- And she moved in? - Yep.
- And y'all been together ever since?
- Ever since.
Nine years, we've been together.
And I proposed to her, I think, year seven.
Because of that girl, I'm trying to change.
- What are you trying to change and why
are you trying to change it?
- Like, my attitude, my ways.
- Your attitude and your ways?
- Yeah, it could come off very nasty.
- Do you think she loves you because you're you,
or is it because you're on TV?
- Nah, she just love me for me, because, I mean, it's me.
I ain't have no money from the show.
You get what I'm saying?
Like, I thought that show was gonna change my life.
It didn't change nothing for me.
It just got me a lot of followers.
Money, none.
- Got you.
- So it ain't like she was with me for any money.
It got real rough.
Like, it was to the point, like, where
Lil Bit was working two jobs--
- Mm.
- --taking care of me.
- OK.
- And yeah, like, we been doing YouTube
for the past four years.
And it just really went everywhere.
Like, we just started getting hella followers.
We are back with another banger video, guys.
You already know. Fire!
Flames!
Explosion!
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- And leave those comments down below.
- So when are you guys getting married?
It's been nine years.
- Supposedly next year.
[mumbles]
- And you really want to do it?
- Absolutely.
- OK.
So why are you here?
- She starting to do [bleep]
she ain't never used to do before.
- Like what?
- She get phone calls that she step out of the room
and have when she on the phone with this certain individual.
- So you have someone that you think she is cheating with?
- Yes.
- Who's that?
- Oh, her name is Yannie.
- Yannie? - Mm-hmm.
- Is that a friend of you guys?
- Yeah.
This is year two of us knowing each other.
- OK.
So if you found out that Lil Bit was
having a relationship with somebody else,
would you still marry her?
- No.
I don't think I could.
- So do you really want me to find out
for you if I'm able to?
Because there really could be nothing going on.
- Yes, go ahead, find out.
- OK.
- Because we wanna know, right?
- It's--yeah.
I think you'd be sad, though.
I think you'd be sad.
- Oh, I'm most definitely gonna be sad.
I'm gonna be hurt.
Come on, man.
This nine years.
- I think you have a real good way of keeping up
enough hard exterior--
- Yeah.
- --that you don't show all of your emotions.
- I don't.
This is exactly why I need you.
I play about a lot of things, but I don't play
about my happiness, OK?
Let's just pray.
- Yeah, that nothing's going on.
So the way it works for me is I have my investigation teams
go out there and start doing surveillance on Lil Bit
to see if there's anything going on, right?
- Right.
- In the event they find something,
then I'll call you back into the office,
and we'll discuss it, all right?
But I think what will help me is if you would give
my investigation team permission to put
cameras in the house so that we could
kind of see what's going on.
- Mm-hmm.
Well, yeah, you can do that.
- OK, and then in the interim, I just need you to be normal.
Don't let her know that we've had a conversation in any way
so that she can continue to be normal
if there's anything going on.
- Mm-hmm, keep doing what she doing.
- Yeah, OK.
So keep peacocking.
- Oh, I am.
- Let me get on up out of here.
- OK, thank you for helping me. - You're welcome.
[upbeat music]
- ♪ And you love to say I'm crazy ♪
♪ Suspicious and insecure ♪
♪ But I'll show you crazy when you walk through the door ♪
- Day one!
I'm sitting out in front of their house right now.
Redd left about an hour ago.
I'm here a couple of hours already,
but I'm just gonna hang out and see what Lil Bit does.
No movement yet.
Here she comes.
And she's off.
Looks like she pulled over somewhere.
Where the heck are we?
I'm gonna pull over now so I don't get frigging pinched.
Oh, who's that?
All right, they went inside.
I don't know who that person was, but I'm gonna sit here.
I'm gonna check this address and let me see if I can get
a name of this property.
Oh, man, she just got out.
I didn't see her.
She just left the house.
♪ ♪
Damn. Damn, I lost her.
I'm screwed.
♪ ♪
[tense music]
♪ ♪
- Lost her yesterday, but I'm back
at her house this morning.
Hopefully, today, she'll get out of the house
so we could get my tech guys in there setting up cameras.
That's my hope.
Been here a couple of hours now.
Still no movement, but anything could happen.
Oh, she's just leaving the house right now.
This is great.
OK, she's getting in her car.
OK, OK, here she goes.
I'm gonna track how long it takes us to get there
because that's gonna help because the distance there
will be the distance back.
That's extra time for my guys to put up the cameras.
Oh, it looks like she's pulling up to some kind
of gaming arcade place.
Oh, who's that?
OK, I need you to go into that house.
Get in there and get out ASAP.
So they're in there.
So now I'm going to take my coffee cup camera.
And it's inconspicuous.
No one's gonna think anything.
It's a freaking coffee cup, right?
I got to go inside and see who this woman is.
[suspenseful music]
♪ ♪
- Oh, wow, it was a good--good day.
Hey, hey, you guys got to get out of the house now.
She's coming back.
Just hurry, hurry.
OK, thanks, bye.
OK, now they're gonna leave and we're gonna follow them.
They have one more camera to put up.
They want five minutes.
We don't have five minutes.
[suspenseful music]
♪ ♪
OK, I parked close enough so I could get the feed.
So here we have--all right, they got it in the family room,
good, kitchen.
It looks like--oh, she's in a house robe and slippers.
I'm gonna wrap this up and call it a day.
I don't think she's going anywhere.
I think we're good for today.
[upbeat music]
♪ ♪
OK, we're at Redd's house.
It's day three.
No one is home.
So maybe she's at that house
I followed her to the other day.
Call it a hunch.
I just got a weird feeling.
As you can see, I'm not seeing Lil Bit's car.
I'm just gonna just sit and wait a little bit.
[suspenseful music]
♪ ♪
And there they are.
Looks like they're getting into a rideshare.
This is a friggin' strip club.
I'm at a strip club again.
I'm at the strip clubs more than the strippers
are at the strip club.
So in the game room, I went, like, you know, my hair
like this, but I'm at a strip club.
So I'm gonna put a wig on for this,
and I'm going to use glasses.
They just have good video on it.
It's gonna be loud in there.
So I'm really looking for video.
I'm going.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Get stacks, all stacks, bro, cash ♪
- ♪ Cash ♪ - ♪ Don't like it, double up ♪
♪ Run in back ♪ - ♪ Run it back ♪
- ♪ Get stacks on stacks... ♪
[hip-hop music playing]
♪ Out of pocket, getting money, get my jeans ♪
- ♪ Calling the shots ♪
♪ Party all night, you know we ain't gonna stop ♪
- Wow, I got some good evidence.
They're totally together, these two.
She got to go home.
I mean, she's drunk, drunk, drunk, drunk, drunk.
So it looks like they're taking separate cars tonight.
And we're off.
All right, here we are guys, Redd and Lil Bit's house.
All right, so we got the cameras inside.
We're gonna go check out and see
what the heck is going on there.
♪ ♪
I think she's going to bed, guys.
She's going to bed.
Good night, Lil Bit.
See you mañana.
♪ ♪
Day four.
I'm in position.
We got the cameras, you know, inside the house.
Redd's car isn't here.
She is out for the day.
And they're inside the house.
And now we're gonna see what the hell goes on.
I'm very excited.
This is my favorite part.
This is it.
- Wow.
- Come on.
Follow me.
It's gonna be great.
♪ ♪
- ♪ Are you a nice guy or a wise guy ♪
♪ You said it don't matter ♪
♪ I'm just your type ♪
♪ I'm saying all the right things ♪
- Coach Ken.
- Hey, hey. Let me take off--
- How you doing?
- Doing fantastic. - You look nice.
- How are you? Thank you.
Likewise. Good to see you.
- Same here.
- All right.
- So Redd and Lil Bit.
- Yeah, yeah, I got the file.
First thing I noticed, I noticed
she had a big personality.
- Yes.
- And how did you deal with that?
- She's just very boisterous, and loud,
and commands the room.
You know, so it's all just kind of all
over the place with her.
Hey, there, Redd.
- Hey.
- Thank you for coming on in.
- Yeah, what you got for me?
- Well, Redd, first off, this is Coach Ken.
He's a relationship expert, and I brought him here today
to help us talk through everything
that we're going to see today.
- OK.
- So I have to ask you, Redd, before I show you this,
I want to make sure that you actually want to see it
because what you see could potentially
change your relationship with Lil Bit going forward forever.
- I'm ready.
- OK.
We trail her to this strip mall type environment
where she's meeting up with--
- Yannie.
- Which is the one you were telling me about
the other day? - Yes.
- OK. - Well, let's keep watching.
Let's see what happens.
- Oh, they actin' real bad.
On my tab?
- Holding hands.
She went to the arcade with Yannie,
but then she came home alone.
But their interaction at the arcade,
holding hands and, "Let's get a drink on Redd's tab."
- I don't like that.
- Nobody wants to be viewed as a wallet.
- Yeah, nobody does.
- Let's see our next day.
They ended up--
- Is they at the strip club?
I know that ho. - --at the strip club.
Shot, shot, shots, probably on your tab again.
- What--what are you bothered by?
- Everything.
My tab, for one.
I don't pay for something I'm not a part of.
- Mm-hmm.
- That's my fiancée, like, you know?
When it's like that, it's like, come on, man,
we know what the [bleep] time it is.
We know what's going on.
- Do you want to see the last clip?
- No, but we can.
We here now.
[bleep], we might as well finish it up.
- Well, I don't want to do anything you don't want to do.
- Go ahead, let's play it.
Let's run it.
- This is your house.
- Mm-hmm.
- This bitch is dumb.
- They went into your restroom.
- Uh-uh.
- But, of course, we would not never
put cameras in the restroom.
So then we shut it down because they--
they were in there for a minute.
- So when you say a minute, how long?
What's a minute?
- They was in there.
- For how long, Tami?
- We shut our cameras down after 45 minutes.
- 45 [bleep] minutes?
- Mm-hmm. - Really?
- Mm-hmm.
- 45 minutes?
- Mm-hmm.
I think--I think you know what we heard.
I think you know what they were doing in there.
- OK.
- Can you tell me the emotions you--
that you're feeling?
- I'm really not good with putting my emotions
and feelings out there.
You know what I'm saying?
If this was me four years ago, five years ago,
I wouldn't even be sitting here right now.
- Right.
- Understood.
- I would be dragging both of them [bleep] out the door.
- Understood.
- I'm not trying to be like that.
- My wife always says to me, everybody want to change,
but nobody wants to make change.
- I'm most definitely trying to change.
You know, it's been nine years.
So I don't know what would make a person just do those things.
It makes me upset.
It hurt my feelings.
I'm hurt.
- That's good.
Thank you.
- Hey, how you did that?
See, you is good.
You got a book, too?
[laughter]
- We just gonna work through this.
- You see, I knew you was gonna help me, man.
I knew it.
So what we finna do?
- I can give you two options.
- What?
- The first one would be where you sit down and have
a conversation with Yannie where you can
have a one-on-one with her.
- No, I don't like one-on-ones.
- OK.
Then the other option would be I can get my surveillance
team back out there, see when they
catch them together again.
Once they do, Coach Ken and I will come and get you
and take you to go confront them.
- So then let's do it.
Come on.
- We got to get the team going--
- Well, where they at? - --to find them.
We got to, you know.
- You want me to help, too, so we can speed up the process?
- Yes.
- OK, I be throwing game nights, Tami.
We do game nights all the time.
So I'm gonna just tell them we're gonna do a game night.
- Well, has Yannie been to your game nights in the past?
- Yeah. - OK.
- Because she's a friend.
Well, it's an end-ship now, but she was a friend, you know?
- Mm-hmm, OK. - Well, let's do that.
Set a game night. She can come over.
I can have other friends to come over.
You know, while I'm there, I'm gonna just be like,
I'm gonna slide a little bit.
I'm finna go to the store.
So that way, I can see if this bitch really gonna
disrespect me again in my house.
- Then that's what we'll do.
- Yeah.
- OK, so you'll send me all the information
on when game night is.
- Right.
- And we'll go from there. - Mm-hmm.
- OK?
But do not go back to your house
and have a conversation with Lil Bit
about what you've seen--
- Oh, yeah, no.
- --about this process.
OK, you got to--
- Keep it regular. - Yes.
- Like ain't nothing going on.
- All right.
- Thank y'all so much.
- You're welcome.
[dramatic music]
- 45 [bleep] minutes.
That is crazy.
♪ ♪
[hip-hop music]
- ♪ He fumbled a baddie ♪
♪ He fumbled it badly ♪
♪ I got me a new dude ♪
- Whoo-hoo! Thank you.
- ♪ He fumbled the best ♪
♪ Got pain in his chest ♪
- All right, so the way that Redd explained it to me--
- OK.
- --was that she went home and told Lil Bit
that she wanted to have a game night.
- OK.
- And that, you know, she'd be out, but when she came home,
she wanted to have a little fun.
So we're gonna pick her up and then
take her back home so that we can catch Lil Bit in the act.
- Who did she invite?
- We won't know until we get there.
- I am hoping Yannie is there so that we can find out
what's her motivation behind it.
I want to get clarity for Redd.
I want to find out what Lil Bit is thinking.
- Yeah.
I don't know why I just feel like there's
more to this story, and I'm not getting all of it.
Oh, there she is, OK.
- OK.
Hello. - Hey, there, Redd.
- Watch. - Hi.
- Are you looking angry?
- You know what's been on my mind, so--
- Have a seat right over there.
- Thank you so much.
- Well, thank you for letting us know
how you set up this game night was very clever.
Do you have any idea on who she may have invited?
- That, I don't know, but I'm pretty sure
Yannie will be there.
She too thirsty.
You know she coming.
- Now, what if she's not there?
- Then we're just gonna have to address
the footage that I seen.
- Yes, a conversation between you and a Lil Bit
could really give you clarity on why she did it,
and then those things could be addressed.
And if you both want to, you guys
can work towards rebuilding.
- OK.
- That's a lot of time.
- If you seen your wife like that
and you're gonna want to sit down and talk to her?
- I would want to talk to her, but--
- The same moment?
- If we keeping it above,
I'm gonna be hostile in the moment.
But after all is said and done, we have to reflect.
We have to say, OK.
- Over [bleep] what?
- Because--hear me out, Redd.
- [bleep] them.
- What if I find out that my wife says--
which it's not right-- but if my wife says,
you--you weren't there for me when I had went through this.
You never wanted to make love to me.
You were always working.
I've got to be able to receive that.
- You right. You right.
You know what? You're right.
You do got to--
we actually do have to do that sometimes in a relationship
because that's what I'm really bad at.
I act like I don't care.
If I cry, I'm gonna cry about that [bleep]
behind closed doors.
Nobody's gonna see it.
And I'm going on by myself.
- But we got to do something different, Redd.
We got to-- - Like what?
- You said, I'm changing.
Explore your feelings.
Explore what you're thinking, why this happened.
Explore all of that.
- Mm-hmm, look at your situation.
Nine years, it could be some underlying moments
that you guys haven't discussed with honesty and transparency,
and you--
- This girl could have chose yoga.
This bitch chose another bitch.
That is dumb.
- I am not saying that it's right.
- I guess I'm just finna hear her out.
- So we are here.
Before we see,
I want you to remember
all the things that you need to address.
So we're gonna let you go in
and have the conversation first.
We'll keep watching on the monitors,
and in the event we need to step in, we will.
So I'm going to turn on these monitors
because you granted us access into your house
so that we can see everything that's going on--
- Yeah, we need to see.
- --before we go inside.
- I know. - I'm gonna turn it on, Redd,
but I want to make sure, because if I turn this on,
there's no going back.
- Turn this monitor on.
[dramatic music]
I know I better not see her [bleep]...
- Is the person in the back, is that her?
- Is that Yannie in the green who keep touching her?
- That might be.
- A whole thot.
She a thot.
- We going in now?
- --you talking about drink mine.
- Do you feel like-- - We probably should, right?
- Let me help you. - Oh, yeah, yeah.
- Let me--hold on, hold on.
- We're gonna be here, and we're gonna stay here.
- OK, OK. - We're gonna stay right--
I got you, I got you. OK.
[suspenseful music]
♪ ♪
- So you started the game night, right?
- Yeah, but still, why you brought cameras?
- Girl, what's up, bruh?
How is your money [bleep], bruh?
Let's get [bleep] shots going.
- I'll take a shot with you.
- No, no, all hoes got to sit on the brown couch.
Please go over there.
- Who a ho?
- So how long this been going on, y'all?
- How you come in here with and cameras [bleep] though?
- Go that way.
Girl, give me my ring, girl.
- What you need my ring for?
- Aren't you a cheater? - Girl, I earned this ring.
I ain't giving back nothing.
- You're making yourself look crazy.
You earned that ring by being a whore with another whore?
- How am I being a whore?
- You need to shut the [bleep] up.
- Let's do it.
- Can you give my ring back? - Who told you that?
I'm not giving you that.
I earned this ring.
You want it?
Come get it.
Why are you here with cameras?
- Well, I'll tell you. - Why are you here?
What's all this [bleep]? - Lil Bit, listen, Lil Bit.
- You gonna give me my ring back or no?
- No, I'm not. Take it.
[indistinct shouting]
- Don't move. No move.
- You said you was gonna ask questions.
- I did ask the questions.
- I mean, you can't get-- I mean, look.
How are we gonna find out anything
if you're going about this way?
- Uh-uh, why are you talking to me and she the cheater?
What?
- Lil Bit.
- You gonna come in here with cameras, bro?
We could have talked about that.
[bleep].
- Your name is Yannie, right?
- Yeah.
- OK, I'm gonna go back inside.
- All right.
- Let her fix herself, OK?
I would like for you to come inside
and give her some privacy so that she can fix herself.
- We talked about what we were gonna do.
We talked about the questions we were gonna ask.
You can't get anywhere.
You can't get anything done by snatching somebody up.
- Here comes Lil Bit.
My name is Tami Roman, and you guys are on a show
called "Caught in the Act Unfaithful."
Redd, there was questions that you wanted to ask--
- I need a shot.
- --her.
- What made you step out with Yannie?
- You. - Me?
What was I not doing for you? - Look at how you act.
Look at how you are. You're loud.
You're aggressive. You're rude.
You're [bleep] mean as [bleep].
When the last time you gave me some [bleep], Lyssa?
- This [bleep] is stupid.
- How long have you and Lil Bit been engaging
in this kind of person?
- Since I met her, since I met her.
- How long ago was that?
- Two years ago.
I mean--
- How you feel about Lil Bit?
How you really feel about her? I know what y'all were doing.
- I don't--I don't really like how she keeping [bleep]
right now, but, I mean, I've been [bleep] with her.
I was feeling her.
- So you do want to have a relationship with her?
- Yeah. I mean, I don't know now
because [bleep] is different.
Bitches snatching off wigs.
I don't know.
Like, I mean, I'm upset.
I'm doing all this [bleep] with a bitch that want to keep
her ring and her bitch.
- Redd, are you are you receiving that she's saying
you're loud, you're rude, you're mean to her,
and then there's no sexual intimacy?
- Yeah, so if she feels like--
but what I'm saying is that makes you
step out on your nine-year relationship?
- Yes. - With another bitch?
- Yes.
- OK, I'm done recording.
Excuse me, sir. - Why are you done?
- I'm done recording.
- Why are you done?
- Look at her, her big-ass green-ass jacket, ho.
- Your bitch [bleep] my [bleep].
- I don't give a [bleep].
- You're not going nowhere.
- Redd, come on back in the house.
- Girl, you mad right now.
- You can't tell me there is no salvaging
or saving this relationship.
- Redd, come on back in your house.
- You mad right now, babe. You ain't going nowhere.
- Let's--let's me and you have a conversation, Lil Bit.
Come on.
- Listen, listen, listen, Redd.
- I don't want to work this out.
- I know. I know, Redd.
I know. - Come here, Yannie.
So let me ask you this.
How long have you and Yannie been doing your thing?
- Sitting on each other laps.
- She's a liar.
She want her bitch.
She want to keep that ring on her finger.
She want to deny it.
- I'm gonna keep this ring on my finger if she here or not.
I done put up with [bleep] for nine years.
- What have you put up with for nine years?
- Attitude, aggression, really not--
she don't let me touch her.
She don't let me do nothing to her.
- That's why you wanted to touch me.
That's why you wanted to touch me.
- Yeah, exactly, that's why I filet mignon.
- You said you changing.
You can't-- you can't change one day.
- No, no, no.
- And then act like the next day,
I'm gonna be back the old person.
- I'm gonna do your method.
We're sitting down, trying to talk about it, hear her out.
- I appreciate you.
- Don't get loud.
I'm gonna do that for you. - That's not even--it's OK--
I appreciate you. - I have respect for you.
I have respect for Miss Tami, OK?
- Fair enough. - All right.
- That's all-- that's all I ask.
- Why do you stay with Redd if she doesn't let you--
- Because I love Redd.
- You love Redd?
You know Redd don't look like this.
- Don't talk about her. Don't talk about her.
Don't talk--Yannie, you know I don't play [bleep].
Don't [bleep]... - I don't have to look
like that, but that's why she [bleep] me.
- Yannie, don't talk about her. - That's why she's [bleep] me.
That's why she's [bleep] me.
- Don't talk about her. Don't let her--
- She's talking about me.
- She just called me all kinds of [bleep].
You ain't say [bleep].
- Coming in.
Tami, we coming in.
- Redd, so that I can understand,
you are a touch me not?
- Yep. - And she knew this.
Correct. - OK.
- From the beginning, she knew this.
- Now, did you know that going into it?
- But I thought at least about nine years,
I could touch something.
- So what do you think is going to happen
in a relationship of nine years--
- Yeah, why I can't touch you?
- I'm a real [bleep]. - You--
- What does that mean? - You a woman.
- It's like you trying to [bleep] your husband
and a [bleep] not gonna let you do it, is it?
- You a woman with a whole vagina.
- Hell, nah.
- What is it about me that I can't touch you?
- I'm not--I'm just not a touchy person.
Like, you're not gonna get the response you probably want.
- So you're saying that there was
no intimacy in your relationship with Redd?
- No, that there was no intimacy where she was
allowed to be the aggressor.
- Like to please me. - Oh.
- Oh, that bitch get pleased.
The problem is you can't sit here and handle me.
If I--if that ain't what I want, that ain't what I want.
- Would you be with me if I couldn't--
if you couldn't touch me?
- No.
- Well, you just said it.
- Yeah, because I'm the [bleep] in the relationship.
I never even knew that that's what caused you to actually
have sex with Yannie and have her
kissing on your neck and stuff.
- OK, I shouldn't have had sex with her.
- Rubbing on your body. - You're right. You're right.
- You know what I'm saying? - You're right about that.
- But you a woman, though.
You grown.
You said yes to a ring
just to have sex with another--
- I was wrong for that, but still, I feel like
I was pushed into it.
- [laughs] - So it's like--
- No, this [bleep] is not [bleep] funny.
- It is funny.
- It's not, Redd. - You know what?
You right. It's not.
OK, Tami, you right, stop.
- And--and--and don't be condescending to me,
because let me tell you something, I'm older than you,
so I recognize your [bleep].
- All right.
- And what you're doing right now
is a disservice to yourself and a disservice to these two
young ladies right here.
You [bleep] said to me, I love this woman.
- I do.
- I don't want to lose her.
- I don't.
- And that comes from somewhere.
- OK, I get where you're going at with that, goddamn.
- Where am I going? - Girl, OK.
- Where am I going?
- All right, so I'm done. I'm done with the shenanigans.
- Where am I going? Where am I going?
Let me explain something to you, Lil Bit.
- This bitch.
- This--and I--and I know you know because you've been
with her for nine years--
this--this person right here that
we're all witnessing right now is her coping mechanism--
- I know. - --when [bleep] gets rough.
- No, we're gonna talk about it.
- She trying to make everybody [bleep] laugh
and avoid what's really going on inside of her.
- And I think she don't like to do that.
- I know this.
So this [bleep] she doing right now
is some [bleep] [bleep].
And if she want to be with you, you gotta be [bleep] real.
♪ ♪
[tense music]
- If she want to be with you, you gotta be [bleep] real.
- OK!
I do want to be with you.
Yes, this [bleep] bother me.
- Tell her why.
- I want to be with you because you changed me.
See what I'm saying?
You make me feel a way I've never felt before.
So it made me like, bitch, this the one.
So at the end of the day, it's like,
this [bleep] just threw me for a little...
It caught me off guard, for real, for real.
I really thought you had more class
than what you experienced and what
you showcasing right now.
But you sitting here kiki-ing, talking about
we finna put this on Redd tab.
Then outside the club, you bitches is kissing.
She all up on you.
You falling on her like, ah.
Then [bleep] Yannie tell you to take off your ring.
Instead of you taking off your ring, you go the [bleep]
in the bathroom and [bleep] this bitch.
And this bitch supposed to be my friend!
- I did come into this as they friend.
I was flirting with her because she is the type of girl
that I'm into.
- So you are agreeing you came in this situation
as our friend? - Yes.
- OK. - I did.
- We not friends anymore, but you and her
can still be friends.
- Redd, I want to know, could you see
how she could feel if--
you know, if she wanted to show affection to you?
Because she's shown affection in other ways.
- Right.
- And you would not allow that.
Could you--
- I mean, I could see how it will make her,
you know, feel a way and probably want
to do other things because she can't
do what I'm doing to her.
I understand it.
- I pour so much into her.
I feel like it's not being poured back into me.
So what the [bleep] do I do?
- So, Redd, are you able to receive what she's saying
in instances where it's about her, not intentionally,
but there's a way that you make it
about you to where she still has to be
the caregiver for you?
- This is correct.
- What I want you to understand is if a person is constantly
feeding in, then they give so much
that they eventually are empty inside.
It's not right, what she did.
But if she don't have your shoulder to lean on,
what is she supposed to do?
You really got to understand your partner from a standpoint
of pouring in and not being the only person that
gets something out of this.
- You right.
[soft music]
♪ ♪
[sighs]
I'm hurt by the [bleep] you did
with what the [bleep] you did with Yannie.
But it's like, I feel like over time, we can talk about it.
We could probably come from it because you
doing [bleep] off of another person actions, which is me.
I'm doing [bleep] off of some [bleep]
I'm holding onto from the past that you don't know about
because I don't speak on it.
So it's like, it actually takes away from you.
So really, I'm cheating you but still getting mad that--
- That you're not sharing.
- Yeah.
You get what I'm saying?
So if anything, you know, I want to ride
this thing out with you, man.
Now, I ain't gonna sit here and say
that we finna get married on the day
that we chose because we got some--
some working on things to do.
I ain't finna sit here and cap.
- Lil Bit, you still want to have a relationship with Redd?
- Oh, you still want to be with me?
[laughs]
- What about your interaction with Yannie?
- I feel like my interaction with Yannie was disrespectful.
- OK.
- So I wouldn't want it-- want it to be awkward for her.
But as of right now, I don't think it's comfortable for--
- So you're severing ties with Yannie
to be able to focus on your relationship with Redd?
And Redd, we know you not friends with Yannie.
- Right.
- And you want to continue your relationship with Lil Bit.
Everybody clear?
And I want you to diligently keep working on yourself,
because in this moment, you need to grow the [bleep] up.
- I don't know.
I just feel like I ain't have to be here
for this counseling session.
And these cameras just threw me off.
Like, I'm just ready to go.
- I feel embarrassed.
I was wrong.
She had her wrongs, but at the end of the day,
I was more wrong because I did actually step out.
- I want you do better, be better, Redd.
- OK.
I really found out what the [bleep]
I've always been thinking.
You've been cheating on me.
You could have just told me.
But it's cool.
You know, I take my fault, too, because at the end of the day,
you can drive your woman or your partner
to do things they thought they probably
would never be able to do.
It made me want to reevaluate myself.
But I still don't like what I saw, like, you know?
[upbeat music]
- ♪ Why don't you slide through tonight ♪
[line ringing]
- OK, Redd, I was checking in to speak with you.
I had no idea I would get Lil Bit, too.
[laughter]
So the question, are you guys still together?
- Yeah, we're still together.
- What about the wedding?
- I would love for the wedding to still be on.
- I don't even have my ring.
- She don't have her ring.
- Where your ring at?
- When she clean, she take off her ring.
So I just took advantage and took it.
- Of course she did.
- So is it that you don't want to be married any longer?
- No, I do, I do.
- So then you should give her the ring back because that's
childish and that's immature.
- You right. You right.
I don't have nothing to say on it.
She said the same thing.
- Look at y'all two, this old, toxic, dysfunctional love.
I do think that there's hope for you ladies,
and I want you guys to do the work
because I truly, truly believe that
you guys will be great together.
And specifically you, Redd, there's big things ahead, OK?
- Thank you.
- All right, y'all.
- Bye. See you later.
- Bye.
Cheaters, beware.
- You [bleep] kissed her, you idiot.
- Next time you want to be unfaithful, think again.
Let me tell you one [bleep] thing.
- Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord.
- Because I just might...
Oh, God, she's running.
Catch you in the act.
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