- I'm tami Roman. I have been cheated on before.
You (bleep) My man when I was married to him.
I even wrote a book about it.
Now I'm on a mission to help suspicious lovers
catch their cheating partners in the act.
- Bitch been lying to me the whole (bleep) Time.
- Oh, we kissing!
(Tami) I'm teaming up with
relationship expert Kevin carr.
- Everybody's in the dark and don't know what's going on.
That's master manipulation.
(Tami) And private investigator
brianne Joseph.
(Brianne) If someone is being
unfaithful, I'll get you the receipts.
Got it, got it.
- Are you prepared to see the footage?
Once our investigation is complete,
the suspicious lover can team up
with the partner's other lover.
- We have a jackass in common.
(Tami) Or take down both of them
in an undercover ambush.
- What the (bleep) You got going on right here?
- What is you doing? - Whoa!
- You brought this... Into my place of business!
How dare you?! What is this?
(Tami) In the end, the suspicious
lover might decide to move forward...
(Woman sighing)
or move on from their cheating partner for good.
- I'm over with it.
(Tami) One confrontation
could change everything.
- Whoo! - I'm done!
- We gonna get these answers today.
- I'm giving you the answers.
- Cheaters beware.
Everybody put their (bleep) On pause!
♪♪♪♪
This is "caught in the act: Unfaithful."
♪♪ You are seeing a black queen out here doing the rap thing ♪♪ ♪♪ my foot on the pedal I'm winning it's settled ♪♪
♪♪ my Honda be all in the fast Lane ♪♪
(Tami) Today I'm meeting with gierra.
- Nice meeting you, tami Roman. - Nice to meet you.
(Tami) She thinks her partner shay
may be a cheater, so she contacted me.
So I know that you wanted to meet with me
because you feel like your partner
shay, may be unfaithful.
And what I do around here is I get to the truth.
But before I do I need to know about this relationship.
- So we've been dating four about 4-1/2 years now.
And we met in Cincinnati which is my hometown.
And she's originally from Toledo.
♪♪♪♪
We started dating. Everything was just like
rainbows and butterflies. And then we decided
to move to Atlanta.
- What attracted you to shay?
- She has a different like, swag about her.
The way she looks. The way she dresses.
(Tami) So she has charisma.
- Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. - A flair to her?
- And you were drawn in.
- Reeled in like a little fish.
- Really? Okay, okay.
Now are you lesbian or bisexual? How do you identify?
- I have never dated women before.
- Shay done reeled you in like that?
- Yeah. - Mmm...
- I've dated men before, and they would just,
you know, do the bare minimum.
What can you do for me outside of that?
And that's where shay came in.
You know, on our first date,
she was just like you can have whatever you want.
Wining and dining me.
- Oh, really? Okay. - Yes.
- So you have carte blanche with shay.
Anything you want, shay provides and gets for you
without any hesitation. - Yeah.
And she also catered to me on an emotional level.
- Because you're both women, right?
So she understands you
at a level that a man could not. - Yeah.
- So 4-1/2 years, and you cut off all men
to be with shay. - I did.
- Shay is special then. - Very, very special.
- So you guys pack up, move to Atlanta.
Was there a reason for that move?
- Yes, so she's a club promoter and, like, host.
We came her to pursue her career.
- Hmm. - So...
I left my family, I left friends.
And I put my hard-earned money
into shay's business to support her
- so you're very, very supportive.
I can appreciate that. - Yes.
- So it's 4-1/2 years.
You guys have been together the whole time.
What gives you the inclination
that shay might be doing something?
- I used to always go with her to a club.
Like she always made it known that I was just that one,
like, I'm with her, and she just stopped, like, inviting me.
I have to say something, like, "oh, you headed out?"
And she'll be, like, yeah, I was booked for such and such.
And I'm like...
"Why aren't you inviting me?"
- Ahh...
♪♪♪♪
Do you think there's somebody in particular
that she could be cheating with?
- You just never know who it could be.
So I can't say, okay, it's this person, like by name.
She's hosting like different clubs
so there's a different wave of women.
- So she's getting more popular in...
- Very, yeah. - Okay.
- And I have noticed that lately
she's receiving weird calls.
You're coming in at 3:00 or 4:00 a. M.
And you're receiving calls. Who's calling you?
- Who's calling at 3:00 a. M., shay?
- Why do you feel the need to step out of the room
to talk on the phone? You know, usually,
you're in my bed with me. - Right.
- Talking on the phone.
Now you're starting to be sneaky.
- Okay. - And now she reminds me
of the men from my past.
- Mmm...
Do you wanna take this relationship to the next level?
- I do, I want to be married.
I want a family with shay. - Really?
- I want kids, and I want for us to build a future together.
But there's just something in my gut that's like,
holding me back. - Okay, well,
we gonna try to get some answers for you,
we definitely are. I'm gonna get
my private investigator to surveil shay for
the next couple of days and see if we can find out
what's going on, if anything, right,
'cause there may be nothing.
But in the event that we do find something,
then I will call you back and we will show you
what we found. - Okay.
- Do you give me permission to share your story with my team?
- I do. - Now in the meantime,
don't let her know that you're going through this process.
- Okay. - Alright?
- Alright. - Alright, I'm trusting you now.
- Thank you so much for coming in...
- Thank for you having me. - And i'ma do
my best to help you. - Okay.
- Alright. - Thank you.
♪♪♪♪
(Tami) I'm turning to my private investigator
brianne Joseph and her team
to track shay's movements and interactions.
She'll follow shay for the next few days
to learn if she's an unfailing partner
or if she's been unfaithful.
(Brianne) I'm following shay right now, first day on her.
Shay is a club promoter, which means she's out there
socializing and she's possibly working unusual hours.
Okay, looks like she's parking.
♪♪♪♪
Let's see where she's heading.
I'm gonna get a little closer
and figure out what she's up to.
While I follow shay, my team is secretly spreading out
to capture video of what she says and does.
(Shay) How you doing, baby?
Can I get three shots of casamigos?
Yes, indeed.
Y'all need to be at my club event tomorrow night.
(Overlapping chatter)
We gonna get some food next time, alright?
Alright, gotta go.
(Brianne) Hmm, I think shay just club promoting.
♪♪♪♪
Okay, it's day two,
and I'm continuing to follow shay.
Looks like she's parking.
♪♪♪♪
I just followed shay to the msr lounge.
I've attached a hidden camera button to my blazer
so that I can discreetly record her interactions inside.
(Shay) Where the afterparty at, y'all?
- (Woman) Your house. - My house? A'ight.
As long as you bring some of them hoes, then I'm with it.
(Brianne) Hmm, business or pleasure?
What kind of connections is she really making?
- Lemme get a little love here.
Just make sure whatever you're drinkin' you put it on me.
(Brianne) Well, shay is definitely outgoing.
♪♪♪♪
I'm continuing my surveillance on shay.
She was interacting with a few ladies on a few different
occasions, but there's really nothing incriminating to report.
I'm just going to continue to follow her
to learn if she's doing something
outside of the boundaries of her relationship.
♪♪♪♪
So I followed shay to the mall.
Now I'm gonna see exactly where we're going.
Who is that she's with?
They're definitely holding hands.
Oh, yeah.
I can't bring my team into the store.
So it's just me and my cell phone.
Well, this is interesting.
- (Grunts) Don't do that. Don't push it on...
(Brianne) I may be on to something here.
- You want me to come in there?
(Indistinct)
♪♪♪♪
- ♪♪ you're under my spell like voodoo ♪♪
(Tami) Hello there, brother.
I've received the results of our investigation from brianne
and introduced our relationship expert,
Kevin carr, to gierra.
- How are you doing? - I'm good, how are you?
(Tami) Now it's time to share with her
what we've learned.
As I told you, brianne, my private investigator
was going to surveil shay.
- Okay. - Today she did
send some stuff over.
Now, if you agree to watch this evidence,
there's no turning back
and your entire relationship could change forever.
Do you agree to see the footage?
- I agree. - Okay.
Here we go.
♪♪♪♪
- (Bleep) Her.
- This (bleep) Is real.
- I'm talking to you because you were in the video
and you asked about "the little situation."
And, (bleep), this is a situation.
- My name is tami Roman.
- You go to (bleep) A TV show?
(Tami) Welcome back to "caught in the act,"
the show where we catch cheaters in the act.
- ♪♪ Yo, lately I've been looking for a way out, woo ♪♪
♪♪ yeahhhh ♪♪
(Tami) Suspicious lover gierra believes her girlfriend
of four years, shay, has gone astray
and is stepping out on her.
You agree to see the footage?
- I agree.
- We're about to show gierra
the results of our investigation.
Very friendly and outgoing.
She said you can go home with me,
you got my number, right?
- She says I only give out my social media.
Someone has their number.
- Lemme get a little love here.
Lemme get a little love.
A little love.
(Indistinct chatter)
- So did you know any of those people in the club?
- I do not. - So when you said to me
that shay doesn't invite you out to events and things
that she's hosting, maybe that's why.
If it had just been this,
then I would've said, well, she is a promoter.
Part of that job is engaging...
- Playing a part. - Interacting, playing a role,
making people feel comfortable
so that they support your events.
But then we got this.
(Shay) Let's see what you got going on.
(Indistinct)
- Do you know this woman?
- Yeah, I think that's gonna be nice.
- I don't.
- Are you excited about Miami?
- Oh, so they're going on vacation.
- Mmm. Mmm.
Mmm. Mmm.
- I just (bleep) Can't.
- When you gonna leave your situation?
- That is nice. Speak to my girls.
I did not speak to my girls today.
How y'all doing, girls?
- (Bleep) Her.
She could have stayed her (bleep) Ass in Toledo.
- Tell me everything you need paid for
and I'll pay for it.
Very reminiscent of what you said...
- I did.
- Your relationship started out as.
- I have no words.
- This (bleep) Is real.
Shay literally went out shopping with this woman,
and this is what we captured.
You really need to process what's going on here.
- I'm not doing this (bleep).
- ♪♪ When it all falls ♪♪
- This isn't a trio.
It's me and you, you and me,
and that's it, team of us.
When we talked the first time, I told you I invested so much.
I invested my time and money.
I risked literally everything to be down here with her.
I left everything, packed up.
Oh, you're ready to go?
Let's go, let's do this because I believe in you.
It's a loss. It's a loss for me.
So now I don't know what I'm going to do.
- Clearly she has a pattern because you said when
you met her, she kind of behaved in that manner, right?
- She did. - So one of the things
that does for her, it gives her a position of leverage.
It automatically puts you in a light, like, I'm good.
This person will take care of me.
So you can become blind to certain things
that they may be doing.
- She's living a double life.
- Her catering to you, what that does for her
it allows her to gaslight you.
What I mean is that when a person gaslights you,
they make you question your own reality.
And so when you're asking her, "why you stepping outside?
Why are you coming in?" "Oh, it's nothing.
You overreacting." You see what I'm saying?
- Yeah. - What you're seeing now
is aspects of her personality
that hasn't come to the surface yet.
But she's in a new city,
she's in a new scenery, she got new business.
And so what that does is allow space
for more of her true self to come out.
- I've always talked to her.
There's going to be temptation, there's going to be everything.
You literally went for the ass and titties.
♪♪♪♪
- We don't know what
shay's reasoning for doing this is.
We don't know if this woman is valuable to her
or is it just stuff she says, right?
And I think the only way to get clarity on that is to have
the conversation with the other woman.
How long has this been going on?
Where did you guys meet?
What do you think your relationship is?
- Okay. - And then, okay, well, girl,
we either gotta go to shay together
or now that I know who you are,
i'ma wait till you and shay together
and then i'ma come bust y'all both.
You can either take down the relationship of shay
and this other woman, or you can team up with her
and both of you can confront shay.
- I want to do that.
Let's do it.
- Okay, you agree to team up.
So the next step is getting my private investigator brianne
back on the case to find this woman.
And then we'll go and have
the conversation with her together.
All three of us will go. - Let's do it.
♪♪♪♪
I just got word from my private investigator brianne
that she found the location
of shay's mysterious lover leaving a hair salon.
Hey, hey. - Hey.
- We've alerted gierra that we're on the way.
- (Kevin) Hey, how are you? - I'm good, how are you?
- I'm good. - How are you?
- I am doing well. How are you doing?
- I'm angry.
I'm ready to meet this bitch.
- When you talk to this young lady today,
just go straight at it with the direct questions.
How long have you been together?
Has it been a sexual relationship?
Have you guys talked about marriage?
Do you want kids?
- Okay.
- We're almost there.
Do not forget what you're here to do to,
and that's to get the answers to your questions.
- I have everything lined up.
(Tami) Our Van is outfitted with a monitor
so when gierra confronts the woman,
we'll be able to see and hear everything.
I think that's the other woman.
Stop the Van.
We'll be standing by as gierra attempts
to get the answers she's looking for.
- Hi. - Hi.
What the (bleep) Are all these cameras?
-I saw a video with you and shay
and y'all are like in a relationship?
-Shay who?
- You know exactly who you were with.
You a hoe, basically.
(Overlapping shouting) - That's my (bleep), bro!
It's a business partner! - I'm your (bleep)...
- Okay, I need everybody to pipe the (bleep) Down!
(Tami) Welcome back to "caught in the act,"
the show where we catch cheaters in the act.
(Gierra) I'm angry.
I'm ready to meet this bitch.
(Tami) After learning her longtime girlfriend,
shay, has been secretly seeing someone on the side,
suspicious lover gierra is confronting the other woman.
- Hi. - Hi.
-What the (bleep) Are all these cameras?
-I saw a video with you and shay
and y'all were, like, in a relationship.
- Shay who? - Not shay who?
-You need to take it up with that person, not I.
- No, i'ma take it up with you, (bleep),
'cause you were in the (bleep) Video.
- Uh-uh, (indistinct)... - That's something
you should talk to her about, not me.
- No, I'm talking to you because you were in the video
and you asked about "the little situation,"
and, (bleep), this is the situation.
- The situation that she's about to leave you?
- Oh... - Leave me? Leave me?
- Man, she ain't asking none of the questions I told her.
- Right, right, it's about that time, tami, let's go.
- She is, it's not something fun...
(Overlapping arguing)
- What's your name, sweetie? - Lex.
- Lex, my name is tami Roman.
- Hi. - And you are now on
"caught in the act".
Gierra came to us because she wanted to get clarity
on her relationship with shay.
- So why come to me, not go to shay?
- Because we surveilled shay
and lo and behold, we saw you and shay
interacting out on a date.
Gierra was unaware that shay was involved with you.
So that's why we're here,
to get answers to those questions.
- But we're not about to do the whole (bleep) (Bleep) (Bleep)
You're a ho, (bleep), I'm not doing that.
- You are the ho. - That's not what shay thinks.
- How long have you and shay been together?
- For... over a year now.
- A year? - Yeah, so,
let's move over here so we can sit down.
You go in front.
Okay, so they've been together for a year
unbeknownst to you.
Did you know about gierra?
- At first no, I didn't find out until I was too...
Like I was already having feelings for her.
- Why do you feel that shay is leaving gierra?
- 'Cause that's all she says.
Like, she has a whole different apartment besides from them.
- She has a whole nother apartment?
- Yes. It's a condo, like a loft.
- Did you know that?
- I didn't know that.
- I come here probably once a month.
You live somewhere else?
- I have homes in Ohio and in Florida.
- Oh, so you're from Ohio?
- Yes, I'm from Toledo.
- Shay from there, too.
So did you guys meet in Toledo?
- I was in Toledo and we'd seen each other at the bar,
and that's like, the first time we hooked up.
- So you visit to be a side (bleep)?
- No, she's moving me here to be her main (bleep).
- Okay, when is she leaving the situation?
- Well, can you guys have that...
Can you make sure you have that conversation with
shay before we get to dinner tonight?
Because we have reservations.
- Ha, she won't be seeing you, baby girl.
- Are you married? Do you have a ring?
Has she proposed? Like, I'm confused.
- It doesn't matter because you're still the side (bleep).
And at the end of the day, you're just a (bleep)
Plastic Barbie and she enjoys your ass and titties, that's it.
- Lemme talk to you. - I'm sick of this (bleep).
- Listen, you focused on the wrong things
because you letting shay off the hook here.
Every time you accuse her something,
you lose your ability to get an answer
that you want from her. - Mm-hmm.
- Remember what we talked about, the bigger fish here
is we trying to figure out what's been going on in total,
and she has given us some insight to that.
We found out shay got a whole nother apartment
we didn't know about, so that's what we said.
Don't get so tied up in your emotions
when you can't really see what's going on.
- Would you be willing to allow us
to come to that dinner with shea?
- I'm not about to meet in a public setting
gettin... keep getting called a ho, a bitch,
a side... I'm not doing, I'm not about to argue...
- I think the conversation now needs to be with shea.
- Right? - In the end,
everybody will have clarity. - That's fine.
- All right? Thank you so much.
- You're welcome. Thank you.
- I heard her say they were going to dinner, so I asked her
if we could come to that dinner, and she said yes.
- I'm angry. You have to understand
as the other woman where I'm coming from.
Sometimes I don't even know that she's going to the place
that she says, I just have to to take her word for it
because that's what I'm used to.
You literally catered to me, and babied me and moded me
to believe that this is who you are
and you're not that person anymore.
- I do think we need to have the conversation with shay.
I think you owe it to yourself.
And I think she, at the very least, owes you some answers
and explanations for her behavior.
And I'm sorry about all of this.
♪♪♪♪
(Tami) After learning the time and place of cheater shay's
dinner with lover Lex, we're finally on our way.
Gierra is about to catch her longtime partner
in the act of cheating.
(Gierra) I'm very nervous.
My emotions are all over the place.
I had to take a while to process what I saw.
I've invested too much.
So where's my money going?
What are you doing with the money?
And if she's going on shopping sprees
and you have another place,
then my biggest issue is I'm funding this (bleep).
At what point did you think that it was okay
to just take my money and run off?
- So that's a question.
- Oh, I'm definitely gonna ask.
- Okay, because Lex was in on allowing us to come,
brianne has set up cameras throughout the entire place.
- Okay. - Okay?
- So this is what's going on in the restaurant right now.
- (Laughs) Sit down. - Do I gotta sit down?
Can't I just jump up on it...
- Later for sure.
Don't forget about Friday. - What's Friday?
- The flight to Miami. What you looking back for?
(Indistinct chatter)
- I think that we have seen and heard enough.
- More than enough. - More than enough.
So I'm gonna have you go on in.
Alright. - Alright?
♪♪♪♪
- Ooh, you smell so good. - Do I? Marc Jacobs.
- Mmm.
Can I just grind on you a little bit?
I just wanna rub on ya a little bit, what?
- What the (bleep) You got going on right here?
- Why did you say to this woman that you were leaving her?
- I never told her that. I (bleep) You,
I made love to you, it's a difference.
(Tami) Welcome back to "caught in the act."
Suspicious lover gierra
has caught her partner shay, in the act of cheating at
a restaurant with her longtime lover Lex.
Is gierra about to get the full story
or will shay be shady?
- What the (bleep) You got going on right here?
Who the (bleep) Is that bitch?
- I don't know.
- Now you don't know who the bitch is?
You were just all up on her (bleep).
- Why the (bleep) Are those cameras here?
I'm goin'... - I'm waitin'.
- Gone, bro. - I need answers...
(Overlapping shouting)
Now you got me (bleep) Up!
(Kevin) I think it's time we get in here.
(Gierra) I don't give a (bleep), man,
answer the question, it's (bleep) Out there now.
You might as well tell me why.
(Overlapping shouting)
What is she? - Business partner.
A business partner. - I'm your
(bleep) Business partner! - Hey, hey, hey...
- You don't get no 'nother one.
- Hey, hey, shay...
- Y'all about to... Y'all about to...
Man, look, bro...
- My name is tami Roman,
and you are on "caught in the act".
So what happened was gierra came to us because she was unsure
about taking her relationship with you to the next level.
- You go to a (bleep) TV show?
Instead of asking me personally?
(Overlapping shouting)
- A private investigator?
Now look at all this messy-ass (bleep) Going on.
(Overlapping shouting)
- since she all twerkin' her...
- She ain't my (bleep), bro!
- It's a business partner!
- I'm your (bleep) Business partner...
- okay, I need everybody to pipe the (bleep) Down!
(Shouting stops)
- You gonna stress me out, tami, I'm telling you that...
- You brought this stress on yourself...
- Oh, hell no, tami. - Sit right here.
- I ain't bring (Bleep) On myself.
- I'm not (bleep) Sitting down, I'm gonna stand up, bro.
(Lex) You just need to tell her everything.
- Shay, you've gotta come sit down
so that we can have this conversation, okay?
So listen, we spoke with Lex earlier today,
and we found out that you guys
have been involved for a year and that you have
another apartment that she comes and visits you at...
- Please don't forget to make sure you tell her
how you've been trying to tell me you love me.
Like, I'm real confused... - Lex, what are you doing?
- What are you doing? - You already (bleep) Know
that who I am, who I'm with and where I'm going.
- Who knows that, 'cause that's not what you be telling me.
- I will give you everything you want,
but you already know I'm going home with the (bleep) Queen
at the end of the day, you know that.
You got your hoes.
- You just said it a week ago that you were leaving her.
- Lex, Lex, come on, was I on patrón?
Was I high?
- Not from the footage I saw.
- What did you see, miss tami?
- I saw you very coherent shopping with Lex.
And she said, when are you gonna leave your little situation?
And you said, I am going to leave it,
I just need a little time. - Know what?
I'm about to walk out because right now
it's three against one.
- It's not three against you.
We're trying to get the answers
that both of these ladies deserve.
And what I'm not gonna allow you to do...
- Don't run now! - What I'm not gonna
allow you to do is deflect,
because I'll take off my (bleep) Shoes
and chase you down the (bleep) Block.
- Baby, you gon' have to chase me.
- We gon' get these answers today.
- I'm giving you the answers!
- Why did you say to this woman
that you were leaving her? - I never told her that.
- We saw it on camera. - I'm not about to leave
the one that I really love... - So why do we have
a meeting on Tuesday to go look
at an apartment to move me here?
- Ain't no relationship, it was never a relationship.
- Okay, so you're staying with her...
- i invest in her, boom,
I took her on a couple of dates, we go on a couple of trips.
That was it. I helped pay for everything that she needs.
That was it. - But do you understand
that that's exactly what you did with gierra
when you first got together? - Hell no it ain't!
I (bleep) You, I made love to you.
It's a difference, period. It ain't the same.
- You've been giving everything you've been claiming you give
to me to this bitch.
- Quit calling me a bitch because I'm not sitting here
calling you a bitch. - We just (bleep)
Then I give her money, that's it...
- You're defending her? - Kevin's gonna go with Lex.
- She stupid as (bleep), man... - Let's get to the bottom...
- You don't know a good thing when you got one, bro.
- Ha, you clearly didn't know that.
- Shay, you say that you love gierra,
and I heard all the "I have sex over there,
and this is who I really love."
What gierra needs to know is why did you feel a need to go
outside of the relationship at all?
- Gierra thinks that I just
(bleep) All the women I get nasty with in the club.
- Well, I have to tell you honestly, she specifically came
because she said I want to take my relationship
to the next level and I just want to be sure.
So all of this is a surprise to her.
- She ain't let me know. - And the thought process that
I didn't do it till she thought I did it
is not the proper way to handle a relationship.
- So it's a lot. - It's a lot a lot.
- What's going through your mind, I mean...
- It's a whole lot of lying, and that's what I don't like
is liars. Like I said when
we all sat down, she could be just saying things...
I've always known that in the back of my head
but I feel like her actions show what she was actually saying,
so that's why I always believed her.
- Tami, how do you expect me to handle that
when somebody always on your back accusing you,
going through your phone, oh, we're calling you
with attitudes and everything...
You (bleep) Up my whole vibe.
- Then you have the conversation or you do what's necessary
to make them feel safe in the relationship.
- I did, that's the problem.
She ain't telling you all that (bleep).
- Do you not understand that I saw video footage of you?
- Of who? With Lex?
- I saw with Lex and I saw with other people...
- No, you ain't seen nothing with nobody else.
- In the club.
- I just felt like we were always building,
like everything that we talked about
or everything that she says that she's gonna do or
that we are gonna do together, like, we've done it.
And I feel like she is very knowledgeable,
especially being older than me, that she could help me.
So I feel like we were just like, building a future.
- I mean, I get that... - And all this right now,
it just kind of (bleep) Everything up.
- I'm tired of arguing. - This isn't gonna get...
- Shay, come here, let me tell you something.
- Damn, are we done, bro?
- Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something.
Now, that woman loves you.
You gotta tell her the truth.
- I can't do that, baby.
- Why not? - I can't do that, tami.
- 'Cause if I do that,
there ain't no chance that she gonna get back with me.
- No, listen, let me tell you this.
If you promise that you are going to go forward
in a relationship that is monogamous,
committed, honest, and 100% truthful with her,
she loves you enough that she will take that journey with you.
- You not 100% sure...
- I know what the (bleep) I'm talking about.
I've been doing this a long time.
- You sure? - I'm positive.
- No matter what the situation is
I will definitely hold her accountable
for all of her actions, because this is not it.
This is not attractive.
- I just want you to stand up for yourself.
Whatever you decide to do. Like, I don't...
I don't want you to be in a situation where you're like,
well, I'm waiting to see what she's gonna do.
- Sit down, please.
We're going to come with the whole truth,
nothing but truth, so help us, god.
Go ahead, shay.
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- I expected so much more from you.
- I'm done with this (bleep), bro.
Get me the (bleep) Outta here.
- ♪♪ I'm burnt out, I'm tired ♪♪ ♪♪ sick of phonies, sick of liars ♪♪
♪♪ I'm paranoid, I'm wired ♪♪
♪♪ to the void I put my lighter... ♪♪
(Tami) Welcome back to "caught in the act."
Sit down, please.
We're going to come with the whole truth,
nothing but the truth, so help us, god.
After having my one on one talk with shay, is she finally ready
to send Lex packing and apologize to gierra?
Go ahead, shay.
- I stepped out on you a few times.
And I'm sorry.
Because you are the person that I see
me spending the rest of my life with.
- You literally broke my heart.
I expected so much more from you.
- And I was going to tell you. - When were you?
Your energy shifted a while ago.
So that's why I felt the need...
- You've been accusing me of this (bleep) From day one.
It's a reason why I did it.
If somebody kept sitting up here accusing you of something...
- So now you're taking it back to the beginning?
Because if we go all the way back to the beginning when
she was accusing you... - You got it, tami.
You all got it. Matter of fact, all y'all.
I'm done with this (bleep), bro.
I am, I'm done with this (bleep).
I'm not even about to sit up here and keep arguing.
- Nobody's arguing. - You right.
- I'm sorry, sitting up here having a debate.
- Okay, so before... (Overlapping arguing)
I need to go 'cause this is getting too much.
- It sure the (bleep) Is.
(Overlapping shouting)
I'm not going home with none of y'all.
Y'all just set me up for some dumb ass (bleep).
Get me the (bleep) Outta here.
- Like, she literally just does what she wants to do.
And that's exactly why I came to you.
- I'm going to go out here.
- Y'all (bleep)... Y'all... Y'all doing too much on here.
- Shay, listen to me... - 'Cause y'all stressing me out
right now, baby. - We stepped to the side
and you said, tami, I want to be with her, right?
- Yes, yes, I did.
So then why are you taking this approach right now?
- Why? 'Cause she don't take me serious when I did tell her.
Why you accusing me of everything?
Why every time I go out and I party
and I deal with different people,
meeting different people, taking pictures with people,
you accuse me of (bleep) 'Em?
That's why I stopped taking her ass to the club.
Now y'all can go write that.
- If you don't want to do the work
to repair what has been broken,
I can't do that for you.
Then I'm gonna get in my little sprinter Van,
and I'm gonna leave.
But that's not how I want to leave the situation.
- What we gotta do? - I think you guys should have
a conversation. - About what?
- Gierra. - No, no.
It's not gonna work. She already hyped up.
Y'all done brought her in on a whole (bleep)...
While Lex was there, she's gonna be hyped.
- You've gotta stop thinking about what happened from
your perspective, and think about how she's feeling.
- Man, gierra's not about to calm the (bleep) Down.
I can tell you that now. - She's calm already.
- No, she's not. - She's calm already.
Do you want to be with her? - Yes, I do.
I'm deeply in love with her, that's my baby.
- Then that's what you gotta say.
- That's my baby.
- Okay, so was that it?
Because I'm over the whole situation.
I'm just over it.
- Is there anything else you wanna say to Lex?
- Don't call me. Don't text me.
- You don't call me! I don't care.
That's fine. - We done.
- Lesson learned.
- It wasn't never nothing serious between me and Lex,
so I don't even know why she even said that.
- Okay. Going forward, though,
the work has to be done by you two.
You gotta be able to hear each other,
and more importantly, listen to each other.
Shay says that she loves you with all her heart
and she does want to be in a relationship with you.
Both of you guys have been hurt, but before this moment,
there was love, respect, and trust in the relationship.
- I agree. - But, shay,
this behavior cannot continue.
If this woman puts down her guard and her defenses
and forgives you because of her love for you,
you cannot abuse that again.
You have to make her feel safe,
and she has to make you feel safe,
that's y'all collectively doing the work together.
Are you able to have a brief conversation with her
without yelling? - Yeah.
- Okay, we're gonna step aside.
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- ♪♪ I did it all for you ♪♪
♪♪ and you know it's true, so tell me what I do ♪♪
♪♪♪♪
(Shay) I'm sorry.
I hurt you feelings.
I'm sorry for everything.
I really do love you,
and I appreciate everything you do.
♪♪♪♪
- You still did what you did.
- I felt like you were smothering me.
But it's no excuse for what I did.
And I'm sorry, and I wanna start over.
If you allow me, I will make it into you.
You my queen, you my maw-maw.
- I don't know, I need some time.
- I definitely do not want to be with her anymore.
I hate that shay is lying.
And I definitely regret coming down this road
and going so far and being as open as I was with her.
I'm not a side bitch.
I come second to zero to nobody.
- Man, that thing with Lex.
- She knew what she was getting into,
to some extent, but I still found myself feeling bad for her
because you can tell what may have started as fun,
she developed feelings, and she really thought
that shay was leaving her relationship for her.
- An apology would've been warranted.
But shay, she loves gierra, and she felt like
she wasn't being hear in the relationship, now...
- Yeah. - Even if gierra
made a decision today to walk away from shay,
I want to just instill in them
the proper tools to be able to go forward
and hopefully they can do it in a healthy manner.
- Hopefully so.
(Shay) Gierra got my heart.
Gierra got my mind, my body, and my soul.
That's really my queen.
That's my maw-maw, man.
- I have mixed emotions.
I feel like she is forthcoming about the situation.
She finally decided to take accountability,
so maybe we can see what the future holds.
But I'm glad that I was able to find out the truth.
- ♪♪ Yeah, I wish it wasn't over ♪♪
♪♪ but I knew it was over, can we start over? ♪♪
(Tami) It's been a few months
since I've actually spoken to gierra,
so I'd like to check in and see how things are going.
Hey, gierra.
- Hey, tami. How are you?
- I am doing well.
I know a lot happened the last time we were together,
so I said, let me do a little check in,
enough time has passed.
Let me see how she's handling everything.
So are you still with shay?
Oh, wow...
- Hi, tami!
- Shay done slid in on the call.
- Yes, indeed, this is is my baby.
She ain't going nowhere.
- No more Lex,
nothing else getting in the mix?
- No, ma'am. That's it, that was done.
I'm done, she got the password to my phone.
I take her anywhere she want to go.
- And gierra, what have you been doing to make sure
that shay feels safe in the relationship?
- Learning how to trust her more.
Like, I don't wanna pull the strings so tight on her
that she feels like she's suffocating.
- So you guys definitely still are doing business together.
- Yes, tami, shay has me coming to every event
and is always right by my side.
- Okay, okay.
- But she did tell me I would have to go to counseling
with her, and she want me to make this work.
So I agreed. - I love it.
This is a win-win for everybody.
All right, guys, it's been good talking to you.
I'm happy that all as well.
- Bye, tami, bye! - Bye, y'all!
- Bye!
- Cheaters, beware.
Next time you want to be unfaithful, think again,
because I just might catch you in the act.
- I know you reached out to me because you feel like your lover leanne is being unfaithful.
- Bro, what the (bleep)?
(Knocking)
- You're supposed to be her cousin.
That's what she told me! - Not a cousin!
- You've been sleeping with my man?
- Girl, if anything, you can thank me.
- Sit the (bleep) Down and tell this man the truth.
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