- ♪♪ MTV ♪♪
- I'm Tami Roman.
I have been cheated on before.
You [bleep] my man when I was married to him.
I even wrote a book about it.
And I've made it my mission to help suspicious lovers
catch their cheating partners in the act.
- You know what's been going on ever since--
- You're disrespectful as [bleep].
- What is this?
- Oh!
- Together with my relationship expert...
- She just slept with him last night.
Is that the kind of guy that you wanna be with?
- And stealthy investigation team...
- What do we have here? She's busted now.
- We won't stop until we find the truth.
Are you sure you wanna see this footage?
Once our investigation is complete,
the suspicious lover can team up
with the partner's other lover...
- I think we have a person in common.
- Or take down both of them in an undercover ambush.
- That's what the [bleep] we're doing, Katy?
- We're not together.
- So I'm not taking care of your kids at the crib?
- Cheaters, beware.
- Why do you have cameras? - Consider them my team.
- You put her in a position to act like it.
- Do you want him?
- Both of you are the victim of deception.
- Do you see him taking his [bleep] pic?
- He's taking what?
- Tami!
Tami!
- Nobody should think they're better than anybody else
because y'all all [bleep] been played.
And that's just the truth.
This is "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
- ♪♪ Get moving, let's go ♪♪
♪♪ Walk like you ♪♪
♪♪ You know we're cruising ♪♪
♪♪ Oh, whoa ♪♪
- Hi there, RJ. - Hello, Tami.
- How are you? - Good. How are you?
- It's such a pleasure to meet you.
- Yes. - Have a seat.
- Yes. - Let's get comfortable.
So before we get started, I want to hear about you.
- OK. - Tell me about RJ.
- I'm 32 years old. - Mm-hmm.
- Born and raised in Delaware County, Pennsylvania.
- Big town? Small town?
- Kind of small town. - OK, tell me more.
- So I went to high school,
which is where I met my now fiancée, Marisa.
- All the way from high school, RJ?
- Yes.
- That's who you're here to talk to me about?
- Mm-hmm.
- Tell me how y'all managed to do that.
- So I was a year older than her.
- OK.
- And there were some subjects in school
that she would struggle with, so I used to--
- And you like, I can tutor. - Yes.
- [laughs] I love it.
- As soon as I met her, she was the most
beautiful girl I've ever met.
She has long, dark hair.
- See? There it is.
- A little bit shorter. - Mm-hmm.
- Beautiful body.
- I could be your dream girl, then, if that's the criteria.
Nah. [laughs]
Continue.
- So as we grew closer and closer,
we started dating. - OK.
- I decided, instead of going away for school,
I started working full-time in my family's metal foundry
where we make pump parts for the Navy.
- Y'all rich?
- Nah. - OK, I was just checking.
[laughs]
- But Marisa, when she decided to go away to school,
she went several hours away from home.
- So you make a decision.
I'm going to stay here and keep feeding this relationship
because I know it's going to be fruitful.
- Yes.
- But she gets out of school and says, peace out, RJ.
- Yeah. - How did that make you feel?
- I was a little taken back, a little hurt.
But being so in love with her at the time,
I didn't want to hold her back from her dreams.
- So did you guys break up?
- We figured that a long-distance relationship
would be too distracting.
So we decided to split up.
I was completely heartbroken.
- So during the time that you guys were broken up,
did you date anyone else? - I did not.
- You felt she was going to come back, RJ?
- Very hopeful.
- OK, do you know if she dated?
- I'm not sure.
Fast forward a little bit,
she contacted me after she graduated.
- OK.
- As soon as we saw each other, the spark...
- Just like it had never... - Took off.
- Ended. - Yes.
We ended up buying a house together.
- Y'all got a house? - Yes.
- OK. Oh, my goodness.
- Adopted two dogs.
- OK, so she comes back.
Pick up right where you left off.
- Yes. - OK, so why are you here?
- So I'm here because we've been engaged
for four years now.
- Really? - Yes.
And then after our relationship picked back up,
she started to visit some of her friends from college.
- Mm. - It's several hours away.
At first, she was gone for a few days.
Then it was up to a week.
And she started becoming very, like, distant.
- When she would come back from the vacation?
- Yes, because we used to plan our wedding.
And then those conversations kind of died out.
- Hmm.
- And then after a while of her going down there,
she would come home with designer clothes,
designer bags--
- Stuff that she didn't leave with.
- Yes, stuff she didn't leave with.
She was very quick to tell me
that she became a brand ambassador.
- Yes, that's a real thing. - Yes.
Then one day, I came home from work.
And there was a brand-new luxury car in the driveway.
- A luxury car?
- Yes.
- What kind of car, RJ?
- It was a brand-new Audi.
- [whispering] How'd she get the Audi?
- So she said that she was at the mall.
- Uh-huh. - And there was one of those
"enter here to win a free car."
And she won it.
- Did you believe that?
- It's just very hard for me
to wrap my head around that one.
- [sighs]
Then what?
- There was less intimacy in our relationship.
- Mm. Was it a lot to begin with?
- In the beginning, yes. - Hmm.
Do you think that she could be cheating?
- Yeah, I guess the possibility is there.
- How would that make you feel?
[somber music]
- To break my trust like that, it would be devastating.
- Because you really do see
spending the rest of your days with her.
- Yeah.
- I'm going to come sit next to you, child,
because I feel like we got to get close and talk.
So let's really talk about it.
Where do you think she's getting these clothes from?
- So with her telling me she's a brand ambassador, I just--
- Because you know you don't believe that.
- Yeah, I don't believe that.
- So now where you think she getting them from?
- My biggest fear would be there's someone else out there
buying this for her.
- Tell me more about these trips that she takes.
It's always with the college friends, allegedly?
- Yes. - Mm-hmm.
Do you know the people that she be hanging out with?
- I do not.
- Are you confronting her with this information?
- I don't because, with her being,
like, my dream girl and, you know,
we've been together for almost, like, 14 years,
I don't want to jeopardize things
by making her, you know, uncomfortable.
- Listen, you want me to find out the truth for you,
that's what I'm going to do.
The way that this works is,
I will get my investigative team out there
to do some surveillance.
- OK.
- When I get it, I'll call you back into the office.
And we'll look at it together.
Now, my hope is that Marisa has entered every sweepstakes
in the country because, if I go with my mind,
she hoeing, or she got a sugar daddy.
Not that I want to catch her.
All I'm trying to do is give you the truth.
- Yeah.
- Now, in the interim, you be your same self
so that she doesn't catch on. - OK.
- And then I will call you back in the minute
I get some information for you.
OK, then let's do this thing.
We in business together.
- ♪♪ Heard you nasty ♪♪
♪♪ Heard you classy, hey, hey ♪♪
♪♪ That's fantastic ♪♪
- Day one, starting at RJ and Marisa's.
We'll see what's up.
We're going to sit on it and see what she does today.
And we wait.
[dramatic music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Oh, she just came out.
All right, that is Marisa.
And that's RJ and Marisa's dogs that they share together.
She has a travel bag or some kind of bag
she put in the trunk.
Don't know where she's going.
So it's on, Marisa.
[upbeat hip-hop music]
- ♪♪ I say I walk in ♪♪
♪♪ I make it look easy ♪♪
♪♪ You know where I'm from ♪♪
♪♪ 'Cause you know my city need me ♪♪
- We've been driving for quite a while.
It looks like I'm going to spend
most of the day in the car.
- ♪♪ Got me shining ♪♪
♪♪ Had to put the gold on the face for the diamonds ♪♪
♪♪ The color got the clarity exposed for the climbing ♪♪
♪♪ Hey, I just made my dreams ♪♪
♪♪ Make a profit ♪♪
- Oh, she's pull--[bleep]. She's pulling in here.
[tense music]
OK, so she just pulled into someone's house.
This could be her friend's house.
♪♪ ♪♪
Nothing to write home about, that's for sure.
So I'm going to call it a night.
I'm really far out.
So I'm going to get a hotel close to this place
and hit this place early in the morning tomorrow.
♪♪ ♪♪
Day two. Not much happened on day one.
She spent the night here. She spent the night.
Now I'm back early, going to see
what time she gets up and gets out,
and document that and follow her.
Garage just opened.
Who the hell's this?
So a white Beamer just came out of the house she's at.
But my concern is Marisa.
[gasps] Here she is.
[dramatic music]
OK she's backing out.
And we're off.
♪♪ ♪♪
So she's at a med spa.
[camera shutter clicks]
Probably going to get a little nip and tuck, a little Botox.
I'll just document when she comes out,
what time she went in.
[tense music]
♪♪ ♪♪
OK, she just came out.
Oh, she's with-- looks like a doctor.
OK, he's opening up her door.
That was nice.
Nice doctor.
Here we go.
♪♪ ♪♪
All right, not sure where she's going.
There's some jewelry store.
She went into this jewelry store.
I'm going to go in with my necklace camera.
This is one of my favorites.
This has audio, video.
It's right at breastfeeding height.
It's frigging perfect.
[laughs] OK, going in.
- Well, she brought some pieces of jewelry to be cleaned.
But she had two rings.
And we're off.
[tense music]
♪♪ ♪♪
OK, so we're back at this house.
She just got out of her car.
She's going into the house.
♪♪ ♪♪
That's the same car from this morning.
Who...
[gasps] Oh, my God.
That's the freaking doctor from the med spa.
[dramatic music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Thank you for coming back in today, RJ.
- Thank you for having me.
- I'd like to introduce you to Coach Ken.
- Hello, how are you? - Coach Ken, I'm RJ.
- Good to meet you. - Nice to meet you.
- Have a seat on the other side.
- Absolutely.
- I know that I told you the last time we got together
that I was going to have my investigation team
do a little surveillance.
- OK.
- And Coach Ken is here
because he's our resident relationship expert
who helps people process some of the emotions
because everybody wants the truth
until they see the truth.
- A little nervous about what I may see today.
But I'm prepared for it.
- Then let's do so.
This was day one of our surveillance.
We noticed that Marisa comes out with the dogs
and a big, black carry bag.
It looks like she's prepared to hit the road.
Is that that Audi that she won?
- Yes. - Nice.
She won it in a sweepstakes.
We start following her.
She drove a long time.
Then she ended up at this house.
Do you know whose house this is?
- No, I've never seen that house before.
And for her to just walk in like that--
- Mm-hmm.
And then she stayed all night.
But you don't know that house? - No.
- So let's move on to our second day.
The next morning, the garage door goes up.
That car comes out.
Do you know that car?
- No, I've never seen it before.
- OK.
There's Marisa.
So we tail her.
She ends up at this location.
And it's actually a med spa,
health and wellness center.
- OK. She's very health-conscious.
- Mm-hmm.
And then she comes out with this gentleman.
Do you know who that is?
- No.
It looks like he'd just be one of the doctors there.
But for him to help her all the way out--
- Yeah, yeah, because my doctor,
any--when I get my Botox,
they have never, ever walked me to the car
and gave me a kiss and a hug.
- That was-- yeah, that was a little much.
- I wish they would walk me to the car.
Prove they appreciate my 2 grand.
So Marisa leaves the med spa
and then ends up at this location.
This is a jewelry store. - OK.
- We were able to go inside. - Mm-hmm.
- So she got two rings cleaned.
- Yeah, two of them.
- So we continued to follow her
once she left the jewelry store.
And she ended up back at this house.
This car returns.
She comes out with the dog.
And there's the doctor from the med spa.
- From the--yeah.
- So that's his house.
- And she's been staying there.
- Yeah.
- Want to know who that is.
[dramatic music]
- This was our third day of surveillance.
There they are, still together,
still at his house, both cars in the driveway,
playing with the dogs.
- What are they doing?
Those are, like-- those are our dogs.
- Right.
- Man, my fiancée's out there
acting like we used to with another man.
♪♪ ♪♪
That's my fiancée right there.
Can we pause this for a second?
Please, I just need a minute.
Because, I mean, she looks like she's in love with that man.
- I'm not going to lie to you.
She does look like she's in love with that man.
Is she the only person you've ever loved?
- Yeah, since high school.
In total, besides when we split up for college,
we've been together for almost, like, 14 years.
- Wow.
- Because, see, that's what I think,
is that you've been with her for 14 years.
- 14 years. - Mm-hmm.
- She hasn't been with you for 14 years.
- Yeah.
- Let me play you this last little piece of this video.
- [exhales]
- So they ended up at a little chapel.
- She having a wedding with him?
- She said he was the man of her dreams.
[somber music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- I don't even know what I just heard right there.
- I understand she's the woman of your dreams.
But are you the man of her dreams?
- It doesn't seem like it now.
- No, because she definitively said
that he was the man of her dreams.
- Because you've been with her all of these time--
all of this time, right?
She knows that.
And what I see here is, she's absolving herself
of emotional responsibility because, look,
I'm still with you.
And I'm with this person.
Now, I want you to understand this,
that, baby, because we've been together so long
is the reason why I can't break it off.
Even though I know I'm hurting him,
but me saying it, actually seeing it,
actually having to confront that pain,
a lot of people will leave from it.
That's why she isn't saying anything about it.
This is--this is not new.
- No, but when was she going to say something?
Because if he didn't come to see me,
what, was she going to send a invite to the wedding?
- Only when we get to the point when I got to say it,
it's coming out. You know it.
That's what people do many times.
It's at the very end when I'm forced--
when I'm forced to take accountability for my actions.
And that's what I see here.
- I'm sorry.
Can I just have a second? - You sure can.
You can have as many seconds as you want.
- I'm not feeling well right now.
- As long as you come back here and say
that she on some bull[bleep].
♪♪ ♪♪
[dramatic music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Go help him, Ken, because, you know,
when white people get on one knee,
I don't know what's going to happen.
[somber music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Listen, I always tell people, cry until you stop.
You will get over this.
And there is someone out there for you.
It may not be-- it may not be Marisa.
But at some point, you're going to have to say, you know what?
I got to love me more than I love her.
And I need you to get your ass up.
And we're going to go talk to Tami.
And we're going to figure this out.
Let's go.
- Oh, Jesus.
[exhales]
- He's back, Tami.
- OK.
- I'm sorry.
- I know you had to get that out, RJ.
- She's my everything. You know?
- Is she still your everything?
- We have the house together. We have the dogs.
Our families are close friends.
I just have to figure out what I'm going to tell everyone now.
- You ought to tell them the truth.
- Yeah. - Marisa's a ho.
Because that's really the bottom line.
- It's all lies at this point.
It's, you know--all the trips she was taking,
the clothes, the bags, the car,
it's just all--
just all lies.
- I can offer you two ways to handle this.
The first one is the doctor.
But I can make it so that you can have
a conversation with him,
ask him any questions you want to ask.
Then the two of you team up
and go and have a conversation with Marisa.
Or I can put my surveillance guys back out there,
wait for the two of them to be together,
and then you can go catch them in the act
and confront them while they're together.
That's called a takedown.
- I do want to talk to him and figure out, you know,
what he knows and, you know, if he even knows about me.
- I think that's best.
OK, so I know that you said
that she travels several hours away.
So what I'm thinking is that that's what we got to do.
We know she out there.
So we got to get together and get on out there
so that you can have the conversation.
We're going to come get you tomorrow
and head to Marisa and the good doctor.
- ♪♪ This is major ♪♪
- ♪♪ Major ♪♪
[hip-hop music]
- ♪♪ This is major ♪♪
- Thank you, RJ, for meeting back up with us.
- ♪♪ This is major ♪♪
- How are you feeling today?
- A little anxious about meeting this other man.
- Well, my investigation team found out
that his name is Cody.
- OK. - OK?
So that's who we're actually going to meet.
Now, of course, we know it's a couple of hours away.
So it is going to be a long drive getting there.
- Yeah.
I want to know if he even knows about me,
you know, or if he's being, you know,
played just as much as I am.
- What are your thoughts on her?
- I'm just completely taken back.
The first thing I want to ask her is, why?
Why is she leading me on?
Why is she betraying me like this, you know?
- OK, then what? And so--
- I will let her know that it's completely unacceptable
what she's been doing.
- And if she doesn't see the value in you
and she thinks that there's something else better
out there for her, let's be clear,
there's nothing wrong with that, right?
What she did wrong was,
she took you along for the ride.
You understand what I'm saying?
- Yes.
- So--
- We got a long ways to go.
- I brought you some water. - Please.
- Here you go.
I got some snacks over here too.
- Thank you.
- Let me see what snacks you got.
- Bam! - Amen.
I'm doing this for you because you so sweet.
- Thank you. - You good?
- And you really are a nice gentleman.
- Thank you.
- And that's the only reason why I'm sitting in this van,
driving for hours with only Funyuns.
- [laughs]
[hip-hop music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Normally, I take my wig off for long rides like this.
But I don't know y'all like that.
♪♪ ♪♪
Now, listen, we are finally here
at Cody's health and wellness center.
It's the conversation that you got to have with Cody
and just keep it real.
You've got to find out as much information from this man
as you can.
- You ready? - Yes.
- Let's do it.
- Thank you.
[tense music]
[muttering]
Hello. - Hi, how are you?
- Good. I'm here to see Cody.
- Who are you? - RJ.
- I don't think so, y'all. Dr. Cody?
- Cameras? - Cameras.
- OK. Hello. - Hey, Cody.
- Hi.
- I'm RJ.
- Nice to meet you. This is not...
- Tough up, RJ, Just get to point.
- Come on.
Come on, RJ. [bleep] step up.
- Are you on the schedule?
Who are you?
- I am Marisa's fiancé of the last four years.
- Marisa? - Yes.
- My Marisa?
- Oh, [bleep]. - Yes.
- Oh, [bleep].
[tense music]
- Well, who are you?
- I am Marisa's fiancé of the last four years.
- My Marisa?
- Oh, [bleep]. - Yes.
- Oh, [bleep]. Got him.
- Not "my Marisa," child.
- My Marisa.
- Your Marisa?
- Ooh, she trying to call the cops, child.
Let's get on this side because she's trying to call the cops.
- How long have you known her for?
- We've been back together for the last--
a little over a year.
- Back together?
- Hello.
- Hi, everybody.
Let me introduce myself.
My name is Tami Roman.
And you are actually on a show called "Caught in the Act."
RJ came to see me about his relationship with Marisa
because he thought there was some infidelity.
We put her under surveillance to find out
she was engaging in activity with you.
So he wanted to be able to come here
and have a conversation with you to just get some answers.
- I don't plan on being on this show
about whatever this is.
- Heard. Received.
Neither one of you really know what's going on.
And I know you may not like the method,
but I feel like it's going to give you some answers too.
If we could just sit for 5, 10 minutes,
then we'll be out of your hair.
- We can sit down and, I guess, talk.
- OK, 5 minutes. Let's move over here.
♪♪ ♪♪
OK, so, listen, Cody, we drove a long way to get here, right?
Because Marisa has him thinking
she's going to visit college friends.
And it wasn't until we did the surveillance
that we saw she was coming to see you.
- I just want to get some clarity in all of this.
- So that he can either move on or, you know,
just have a better understanding,
at the very least.
- And you guys know for sure this is the same Marisa?
- I would know my high school sweetheart.
- That would mean... - For four years.
- That she's engaged to both of you.
- So how long have you and Marisa
been involved with each other?
- We really reconnected or whatever
year and a half or so ago.
- OK, so--
- How long have you known her for?
- You know, what, maybe a decade or so.
- Now let me ask you this, Cody.
Did you buy her that Audi?
- I mean... this is a whole nother story.
- My question--
- Because I feel like I'm being vilified here.
- No, no.
- I'm like, what the heck's going on here?
- That's why-- that's why we're here.
She's been lying to him.
They don't have a date.
He had to watch you guys at the chapel.
They're losing intimacy.
You guys are intimate. You know?
And then his dogs, which he considers his fur babies,
you're around them too.
So for him, everything that he envisioned his life
to be with Marisa has been a façade.
- Well...
- That's what he's dealing with.
- How do you think I'm feeling right now?
It doesn't feel very truthful in my life
all of a sudden, either.
- And that's what we're trying to get to
because we're sure you're feeling some things as well.
- Mm-hmm. - That's all.
He's trying to ask the questions.
And then we figure out how the two of you
can then get answers from Marisa.
Maybe there's a world where you would allow us
to put the cameras up
so that we could see everything.
Then maybe you could invite Marisa down here
for a spa treatment.
You know, "your treat" type of thing.
And then, when she gets here,
then maybe you and RJ could have the conversation with her.
- You're basically planning on me doing to her
what you guys just did to me.
- Would you be willing to do that?
- Um...
[dramatic music]
- Maybe there's a world
where you would allow us to put the cameras up
and confront you with them.
Would you be willing to do that?
- I guess we're going to do it.
It doesn't sound like there's many options.
- All right. Thank you, Cody.
- Thank you.
♪♪ ♪♪
- There we go. There she is.
- There she is.
- There she goes, going on inside.
- Oh, he followed through.
He followed through with the plan.
- Disgusting.
- RJ. - Hmm?
- It's time. Let's go.
Remember, "I have a right." - OK.
♪♪ ♪♪
Marisa, what the [bleep] is going on?
Who is this?
- Ooh, he cursing!
- Well, this is Cody. - Who is he?
- Yeah, who am I?
- Probably nothing anymore.
- Oh, shoot!
- There's a lot that needs to be explained here.
- The lies are done.
You need to be honest.
- I need to walk out of here.
- Uh-oh, here we go.
- There you go. - Let me get out of here.
- Hello, Marisa.
My name is Tami Roman.
And you're on a show called "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful"
because RJ came to me to get help
to find out about your relationship.
- [crying] I'm sorry.
It was a mistake.
- Big mistake. - We have a lot to talk about.
I'm sorry.
- Let's talk about it, then.
See, RJ came to us because he thought
there was some infidelity in your relationship.
And so we put you under surveillance.
And then we saw you having a good old time with Cody.
- Let's not have this done right in front.
- No, we're going to. - This is my place of business.
Anyways, why don't we just figure this out?
You guys--but we don't need to do this out here.
But you guys can go. So--
- Let me go--hey, Doc.
- Let's have a conversation, you two.
- Let me ask you something. - So explain it to RJ.
What's really going on?
- How did you meet Cody?
- I met him when I went away to college.
- Mm-hmm.
- And then, like, we just recently rekindled
that interest that we had.
- Did you see what I saw?
- Yeah. - She broke down and was like--
- Oh, this wasn't going to be really anything, anyway.
- Right. - I'm an honest guy.
I don't deserve this kind of stuff.
- And you don't - This is ridiculous.
- You did not.
I'm really sorry that it kind of went this way.
- Yeah.
- Let me explain to you. This man loves you.
- I know. And I like him too.
I want to marry RJ.
- But why are you planning a wedding with Cody, then?
- You have a key to his house. You take the dogs there.
- He's been treating me, like, really well.
- Those are our dogs. - Mm.
- He just--it's just-- there's just--
like, no money is an object to him.
Like, he does anything.
- So is it the material aspects?
Because let me tell you something about things.
They go away.
- I love you more than him.
- You love me more?
Then what the [bleep] is that on your hand?
Where's my ring? - It's a ring that I got.
This one's yours.
- How does a person get engaged to two people?
He's still thinking you're getting married to him.
- I mean, I'm not married yet. - Right.
- So, like, I'm not doing anything illegal.
- Let me talk to you for a second.
Hang tight, RJ.
I just want to understand what is going through your mind
that you really thought that this was OK.
Why get engaged to both of them?
- With RJ, it's just a given because,
like, my grandfather had approved of him
before he passed away.
Our families are so well connected.
And, like, it's just, like, meant to be.
And with Cody, it was sort of, like,
all of just, like, the financial, you know, wealth.
I didn't have--like, I don't have to worry about anything.
I don't have to work if I don't want.
I think it's, like, a deep-rooted fear
of financial instability.
- I don't want to negate that.
I just want you to be able to process
and see the other side,
that what has to be important are the people
who hold you up when the things are there
and when the things are not. - Yeah.
- And that's what RJ was willing to do for you.
- I'm starting to realize that.
Is he still here? - He is.
You want to talk to him?
- I just don't want him to, like, leave
because this is, like, a pretty big issue.
- He's not going to leave.
He can't leave without saying goodbye to me.
OK? So come on. Let's go back in.
- Hey, how are you feeling?
- I'm feeling a lot right now.
- You know, Doc didn't know anything about it.
He's just as in the dark.
And he's actually a good guy, just like you.
And you saw how she instantly turned her back on him.
I mean, what does that say to you, though?
- I mean, she could have just as easily done it to me.
- Well, she actually did do it to you.
But she did it in secret. - Yeah.
- She's never said anything about you.
- The best for us would be for you to just leave us alone.
- If that's what you want to do, buddy, congratulations.
You won her. She's all--she's all yours.
I guess she's always been yours.
Whatever makes you happy, my friend.
Enjoy your life.
So...
- We had a great conversation.
How did yours go?
- We did.
- Well, to that, I would say this.
You're dealing with someone who knows that RJ loves her.
But then RJ can't provide in a way currently
that makes her feel safe,
where, with Cody,
she was able to have some sort of safe space.
- You know, I do want to say I'm really sorry.
This is, like, a big mistake on my part.
- Big mistake. That's-- - I didn't mean to do this.
I didn't mean to cause any problems.
This is a big issue that I'm dealing with,
and I need to go to therapy for.
- Listen, let me be honest.
I've coached thousands of people.
And what happens to people is, they always--
and I'm not saying you're not genuine.
But they always run to, "I need therapy."
But we didn't need therapy a hour before.
- I obviously don't want to lose RJ.
And I don't know if I'll ever be able
to gain your trust back.
But I really hope that I can.
That means the world to me.
And you've just treated me so well.
And you take care of me. And you're always there for me.
And I just don't want you
to not be able to trust me anymore.
- Why are you laughing, Cody?
- The fake tears with the situation.
I mean--
- Do you think she's putting on a show right now?
- A big load of hogwash, but, anyway,
you know, when were you going to stop the ruse?
At the wedding? Before the wedding?
- I don't know. - You don't know?
Never thought about that?
Never thought--oh, gosh.
- You're handling this quite well.
Let me just say that. Did it matter to you?
- Of course it did.
I wanted-- I wanted a relationship.
I mean, I wouldn't have been in one if I didn't.
I wanted something real.
But I think, you know, when you find something like this out,
you're like, well, obviously, it was none of those things.
- We had a great, like, relationship intimately.
And I'm not dismissing that.
- So it was money?
Or was it intimate? Or what was it?
- I think it was both. - Why did you cheat?
- We were losing, like, that intimate connection.
Like, you can't marry somebody if, like,
you don't enjoy having, like, sex with that person.
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- Why did you cheat?
- We were losing, like, that intimate connection.
Like, you can't marry somebody if, like,
you don't enjoy having, like, sex with that person.
[dramatic music]
- Wow.
- OK, so now we got to it.
- Yeah, right. There we go. - Now we got to it.
- Oh, geez.
- Wow. - That was it.
You do not enjoy being sexually active with RJ.
- At one point, we did.
Like, in the very beginning, we had,
like, a great relationship.
But something just happened.
And we're just best friends now.
- It all died when you went to go start seeing him.
- Maybe sometimes you just have to experiment
to realize what's most important to you.
- And get caught.
- Now we have to get to the point
where decisions are made.
- RJ, you're the only person that I really want to be with.
You know, you're-- you're the father of my dogs.
Like, there's no way that we can, like, separate them.
Like, they need to be together. - Oh, wow.
- You just play this whole big [bleep] game with me, with him.
- Sorry, I didn't mean to.
- You bring home all these clothes,
the bags, the [bleep] car.
- I'm not just a payday for somebody.
- And nobody should be. - Yeah.
- You know, outside of the financial,
everything that you said you wanted in a partner, RJ offers.
- Do you still think you can walk down the aisle
knowing what you know?
- It's going to take a lot to get back to that point.
But I'm willing to fight for it.
- [crying] - The first thing--
you're going to give the car back, all the gifts.
- No, I want the ring. - Everything.
- I want the ring. - [laughs]
- You're not keeping the ring
of the person you cheated on me with.
- It was a gift. - That's [bleep] ridiculous.
- It was a gift. - It doesn't matter.
- I can keep my gifts.
We're not married yet.
He can't say that I give it back.
- Well, buddy...
- [laughs]
So, listen. - You got it.
- So clearly, Cody, I know you're already,
like, deuces on it.
- 100%. - I know that.
Are you going to take the items back?
Or she can have them?
- We'll figure that out.
- OK, we have to get up out of here.
For Marisa, for you, if you're going to continue with RJ,
you really got to be completely clear
on what it is you're trying to have, OK?
- I appreciate your help.
- All right, guys, we're going to head on out.
- If I didn't express that I was sorry enough,
I'm definitely sorry.
I feel really bad.
- I think this whole experience was
a really good test of our love and commitment to each other.
- I'm really glad that you did this
because it is starting to solve the problems
between us that were there.
So this is definitely, like, the first step
in making us a stronger couple.
- You know, you don't let things like this
define your life.
You move on.
Better days are ahead.
My life's going to be great.
It's just going to be different
than what I thought it was going to be.
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[phone rings]
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- Hi, RJ.
- Hi, Tami.
- How are you doing?
- I'm doing well. How are you?
- I'm doing well also.
I see you're in your car.
Where are you headed today?
- I am actually in my job's parking lot.
- Understood.
Don't want to take up too much of your time.
Want you to get back to work.
But I did want to check in with you.
How has everything been?
- Everything's been good.
Currently, Marisa and I are taking, like, a short break
to let things settle.
So we're still seeing each other
a few times a week to walk the dogs.
- So is this a relationship that you still want?
- Yes, it is.
- Is there a reason why?
- So Marisa and I had some very, very long
and deep talks about it.
- Really? - Yes.
She was completely devastated and really regrets
everything that she put me through
and all the, you know, poor decisions she made.
- OK. Did she give the gifts back?
- She did not.
It's just something that she's very resistant to.
So... - Hmm.
Mm. - You know.
- Have you realized anything about yourself
from going through this process?
- So I've learned that my relationship with Marisa
is way stronger than I ever thought it was.
- That's what you feel? OK.
- Yes.
- Well, if that's what you feel learned,
who am I to say that is not the case?
I'm going to let you go because I know
you got to get back to work.
- OK. - All right?
- Absolutely. - Good talking to you.
Bye. - Thank you so much.
- Cheaters, beware.
- We're not together.
- What the [bleep] is you talking about?
- Next time you wanna be unfaithful, think again.
Where you going?
Because I just might...
This is a mess. Come on, Ken. - All right.
- Catch you in the act.
- But I'm not caught in the act!
- We've seen it all.