- ♪♪ MTV ♪♪
- I'm Tami Roman.
I have been cheated on before.
You [bleep] my man when I was married to him.
I even wrote a book about it.
And I've made it my mission to help suspicious lovers
catch their cheating partners in the act.
- You know what's been going on ever since--
- You're disrespectful as [bleep].
- What is this? - What the [bleep]?
- Oh!
- Together with my relationship expert...
- She just slept with him last night.
Is that the kind of guy that you wanna be with?
- And stealthy investigation team...
- What do we have here? She's busted now.
- We won't stop until we find the truth.
Are you sure you wanna see this footage?
Once our investigation is complete,
the suspicious lover can team up
with the partner's other lover...
- I think we have a person in common.
- Or take down both of them in an undercover ambush.
- That's what the [bleep] we're doing, Katy?
- We're not together.
- So I'm not taking care of your kids at the crib?
- Cheaters, beware.
- Why do you have cameras? - Consider them my team.
- You put her in a position to act like it.
- Do you want him?
- Both of you are the victim of deception.
- Do you see him taking his [bleep] pic?
- He's taking what?
- Tami!
Tami!
- Nobody should think they're better than anybody else
because y'all all [bleep] been played.
And that's just the truth.
This is "Caught in the Act: Unfaithful."
[upbeat pop music]
- ♪♪ I see it right now ♪♪
♪♪ What it do? ♪♪
♪♪ Ooh ♪♪
♪♪ Foresight heavy breathing ♪♪
♪♪ You just know you're perfect for no reason ♪♪
♪♪ Hair brown with the red autumn season ♪♪
♪♪ Yeah, baby, keep it coming ♪♪
- Hello, Alexis.
How are you? - I'm good.
Thank you so much. - Oh, good.
You're a hugger. - Yes.
- That's good.
That lets me know that you're not nervous.
Or are you? - Just a little bit.
- I'm not going to bite.
[laughter]
And I absolutely want to hear all about you,
but I want you to take me back first.
Before we dig into the relationship,
tell me about you.
- My name is Alexis.
I am 28 years old.
Right now, I am currently
a customer service representative.
And then I also do music on the side.
- OK.
- I grew up in a two-parent household.
So both of my parents are still together.
- Oh, I love that.
- So I want to be together with someone for a lifetime.
I want the marriage, the kids.
I want all of that. - You want all of that.
- I want all of that, as long as I have that person
that's meant for me. - Hmm.
OK. Understood.
So before the relationship
that you're here to talk to me about,
you've had other relationships. - Yeah.
- Did those people meet that criteria?
- [sighs]
Yes and no.
I met this guy, and he was like, well, dang, who is that?
- Right, right, right.
- She's pretty.
And so then I was like, hey, I'm Alexis.
So from that point, we were just inseparable
until, you know, I felt like he was possibly cheating on me.
- OK.
- So when I called him out on it,
he wanted to deny it, of course.
- Of course he did.
- Mm-hmm. Of course he did.
- Of course he did.
What did you say to him?
- Well, you know, I confronted him straight up.
I was just kind of like, OK, so who else
have you been dealing with?
He was like, you the only one.
Still denied it. - Still lied.
- Mm-hmm. Still lying.
- Damn.
- That was definitely traumatizing for me.
- No, absolutely.
It almost would make me be hesitant in forging
new relationships because it's like,
how are you able to decipher the next relationship?
I mean, like, I would have had to do a lot of healing
from that experience.
Did you do that? - I did.
It's been--well, it was a couple of years
before I met my current person right now.
So it was-- - Whose name is?
- Ben. - Ben.
OK.
Now, what does Ben do for a living?
- So he promotes on the side. He's a promoter.
- Oh, OK. OK.
- And then he also has, you know, a regular job too.
He works at a mechanic shop.
- What was it about Ben?
- Ben was just different.
Like when I first met Ben, I was at an event.
I was trying to get my music played,
and he ended up playing my music.
I looked at Ben like, ooh, he got my stuff played.
I'm like, OK.
So I'm like, hmm.
I can't let this man leave without getting
his information. - Really?
- And usually I'm not the person to do that.
- Yeah. OK.
- So I was like, I made sure I got his information.
And then from that point, you know, Ben was calling
and texting me every day, all day.
So it was nice.
- So he's very attentive. - He is.
- Yeah, OK. - He's very attentive.
Even though I have my problems sometimes, he's like, OK,
what's wrong? How can we work it out?
What's the solution?
- Oh, I love that.
How long y'all been together now?
- So we've been together about 2 1/2 years.
- Have you and Ben talked about marriage?
- We have.
- What are those conversations like?
- So Ben actually has this plan, like, this timeline.
When we were talking about maybe like two years ago,
he was like, oh, I have a timeline of, like,
three or four years that I want to have a kid,
be married, all this type of stuff.
- OK. Y'all live together?
- No, we don't.
- You don't live together. No kids.
- I actually was pregnant by Ben.
But I decided to have an abortion.
- Wow.
So that had to be a lot to deal with.
OK, so you guys were pregnant,
and then you both decided it wasn't the right time
and that you would have-- you would terminate.
- I didn't tell Ben initially.
So he didn't find out until like later on because I felt
like personally, it wasn't a time--like you said,
it wasn't a time for both of us to go through that.
But he was mad and he was salty that I didn't tell him.
But he also respected my decision as well.
- Well, at the end of the day, it's your body, right?
It's--you're a woman.
That's what we fought for-- the right to be able
to do that, right?
So when does he find out?
- He finds out later on.
I would probably say, like, maybe a couple
of months after it happened.
Yeah, it was bad.
- Did he deserve that?
- No, but at the time when I did find out that I was,
it was a lot of red flags.
- So what's wrong?
- So our dates, texting, communication
has definitely died down. - OK.
- We used to text and talk all day, every day.
Now I'll be lucky to probably even get
a text every couple of days.
- So was that the only red flag?
- No, it's been other red flags too.
- Oh, OK.
- There was a time where he told me,
OK, you know, come over.
I came over.
Calling his phone.
He's not picking up. - OK.
- I go to the door. - OK.
- I tried to open the door-- locked.
He was not answering my text message, my calls, nothing.
So at this point, I'm going crazy.
I'm like, OK, well, why would you tell me to come over here?
- Why would you call me over here?
- And then your lights is on.
I know you're not gone.
And then, you know, when I stopped for a second,
I heard some type of laughter or something.
And I'm like, what is going on?
- You then what?
Get in your car and go home and decide you're going
to talk about it the next day?
- Eventually, I did go home. - You left.
- Because I was just like, OK, like
there's no purpose of waiting.
- Girl, I would have still been there to this day.
We wouldn't even be able to make this show.
I would still have been outside being [bleep] like,
mm-hmm, still here waiting.
OK.
I got to wait till the next morning
to see what's going to happen.
Either he going to come out, she going to come--
somebody is coming out.
And I'm going to be there when they do.
- Right. - But you decided
that wasn't the road you wanted to take.
- I didn't want to.
And that's, of course, that's me.
That's on me.
The main, main big red flag to me with Ben
is that I pulled up to his little event.
You know, Ben don't have a problem with me coming
to his events. - OK.
- Saw him. He was sitting next to a girl.
- OK. - His arm all over her.
- Oh, well, that's different because you
said sitting next to her. OK.
But he had his arm around her.
- A little too close.
And I was like, OK, you're being a little too flirtatious.
What's going on?
So, you know, I called-- I went up to him.
I said, OK, what is this? Who is she?
Oh, that's just my friend. It ain't nothing.
OK. You sure?
Because you had your arm around her.
You were a little too close. - OK.
OK. OK.
So you really didn't get any clarity
in that moment either? - No.
- Mm. - So I don't know.
In my mind, I still don't--
I don't trust it.
I feel like it's something more.
- Do you know this girl's name?
- No. - OK.
And people should be afforded the benefit of the doubt
when there's no evidentiary proof.
- Right.
- Me, listening to your story,
I feel like there's a lot of proof.
So there has to be some other reason that's
making you stay with Ben.
- I just don't think I'm ready to give up just yet.
- Hmm. OK.
- I just need--
I need to have my proof.
So that's what brings me here.
- You really believe y'all should be together?
- Yep.
- You feel like he's the person for you?
- Yep. I'm willing to fight for it.
Yeah. I love Ben so much where it's--
- Why?
- I mean because it's like, he's attentive.
He listens to me.
Like, it's just everything makes
me love and appreciate him.
And it's like, I haven't had that before.
It's hard to let that go when you know that you
have something that good.
- All right.
So you want my help, then I'm going to give it to you.
And the way it works is I get my investigation team out there
to start doing surveillance
on the loving, kind, attentive Ben.
So what I need from you is you to give me
all of the places that Ben frequents.
Because you guys don't live together, right?
- Right. - You share a car?
- No.
- OK, so that means I can't put my cameras anywhere.
So I need to know where he's at,
so that I then can have my people get out there
and see what's going on.
In the interim, you act completely normal
so that if something is going on, we're able to catch it.
- Right. - OK?
- I will. - OK.
- I sure will.
- Thank you so much for coming.
- ♪♪ Uh, pop out, hop out in another one ♪♪
♪♪ Make a move bang, bang like a running gun ♪♪
♪♪ I'll get the money fast like Ramadan ♪♪
♪♪ Turn up the bass and the drums go for the dunk ♪♪
♪♪ Welcome to the big leagues ♪♪
- It's day one of our investigation.
Pulling up on my man's location or his house.
Damn, he got cameras around his house.
That mean I can't keep doing drive by.
He got cameras on the front and the side.
All right.
All we're going to do right now,
we're going to sit, relax and get comfortable.
[pensive music]
♪♪ ♪♪
Door just popped open.
[camera beeps]
Cool.
That's my man right there.
Let's see where he getting ready to go.
Let's see what kind of adventure
Ben is going to take us on.
[hip-hop music]
♪♪ ♪♪
Been following him back
in another residential neighborhood.
He is pulling into a house.
[tense music]
♪♪ ♪♪
Where are we at?
Who's here?
Who the hell is this?
[tense music]
- He is pulling into a house.
♪♪ ♪♪
Where are we at?
Who's here?
OK. [bleep].
Who the hell is this?
Four-door black sedan.
Unknown female.
All right.
I guess we're just going to chill out and see
how long he going to be here.
[hip-hop music]
♪♪ ♪♪
Oh.
Don't know who this chick was, but he was in there
long enough to get in some trouble.
I'm going to see where he takes us this time.
♪♪ ♪♪
Oh, he at work.
Yeah, he working here. OK.
[camera beeps]
So we done followed Ben from a mystery house
to where he's working at, at a club.
So I'm going to take the camera hat.
The camera is right there.
So we're going to walk in here and see what he got going on.
[indistinct chatter]
[hip-hop music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- [sighs, groans]
It is loud in there.
I guess he's doing what he's supposed
to be doing as a promoter.
You know, he mingling around on a couple of tables.
Talking to a couple of people.
He gave a little bit of attention to one bottle girl.
Really didn't see anything
like out of the way flirtatious,
so I'm going to wait for him to bounce
out of here, see where he go.
You know, we'll see what else he do
for the rest of the night.
♪♪ ♪♪
Is that him right there? No.
Yeah, that is him. He out.
And there he go.
[tense music]
He about to leave.
I need to get prepared.
♪♪ ♪♪
A little after 2:00 in the morning.
I might go ahead and just camp out wherever he touch down at.
So we're back at buddy house.
And it's a little past 3:00 a.m.
Look like we're going to camp out tonight.
[hip-hop music]
♪♪ ♪♪
[alarm buzzes]
[yawns] Ooh.
Thank God that joker ain't go nowhere.
I'm up. I doubt if he's up.
His car is still parked in the same position
that it was from last night.
There's no other cars here.
He didn't have anybody in the car when he got home.
So that tells me that he's in there by himself.
So, you know, we're going to see what he does today.
[hip-hop music]
♪♪ ♪♪
Oh, [bleep].
Hold on, playboy.
[camera beeps]
There go Mr. Emcee.
Let me get that good PID of his face.
Yeah, that's you.
All right.
Let's see what we're going to do.
[suspenseful music]
♪♪ ♪♪
Where we going? What are you doing, buddy boy?
Where are we going?
I'm just going to make a quick U-turn.
And then I'm going to go down the street and park.
He going to church?
We at church.
[camera beeps]
Let me see.
What you doing?
Oh, [bleep].
Who the hell is this girl?
Oh.
Aw, [bleep].
[upbeat pop music]
- ♪♪ Walk into the room like, yo ♪♪
♪♪ So fresh from my head to my toes ♪♪
♪♪ Feel the energy and the glow ♪♪
♪♪ Got everybody looking like, whoa ♪♪
♪♪ Whoa ♪♪
- Hi, Alexis.
- Hi.
- Good seeing you again.
This is Coach Ken. - Hello, how are you?
- How are you?
- Have a seat over there for me.
Thank you for coming in.
- Of course. Yes.
- As promised, I told you that my investigation team
would do some surveillance.
They have completed that.
And now we're all going to watch it together.
- OK. - OK.
How are you feeling?
- [sighs] I really--
I just really, really hope that there's not anything, Tami.
I really--ooh, I don't know.
I'm nervous. I'm nervous.
- Well, in the event that there's something
you see that you do not like, that is
the reason Coach Ken is here.
He is our relationship expert.
And sometimes people's reactions to what they see
are a little off character for them.
And he helps them process their emotions.
- OK.
- So I have to ask you, before we get started,
because you do have the right to say you don't
want to see what we found. - Right.
No, I want to see it.
- You sure? - Mm-hmm.
I'm positive. I need to see it.
- OK.
Let's get to the truth then.
This was our first day of surveillance.
We picked Ben up at his home.
So we followed Ben, and he ended up at this lounge.
- Yeah.
That's a little too friendly.
Mm-mm. I don't like it.
- I mean, she didn't really seem to be interested.
- OK, good. Good.
- He was good. - He was good.
He was good. I'll give that to him.
He was good.
- That's Ben.
- OK. OK.
Still want to continue?
- Mm-hmm. - OK.
Next day of surveillance, of course,
we are camped out front.
So he starts his day, and we are right there with him.
- OK.
- That boy ended up at church.
[laughter]
- But who is that?
- Well, that's where it changes.
He meets her outside of the church.
Do you know who that is?
- Who is that?
I need to see her face.
- Amen, Pastor.
They shake hands.
- Not y'all acting like a damn couple.
- Mm-hmm.
- I don't like that. Mm-mm.
It's the fact that he's holding her hand.
- Yeah, they're holding hands.
Does he go to church with you?
- No.
And I've asked him to.
- So we continue to follow Ben.
This establishment is actually a restaurant.
- OK. - So we were able to go in
and get a piece of the conversation.
- Hold on.
That's that bitch-- yo, that's the bitch that
he said that that was his friend.
The one from the club.
That's her.
This man got me [bleep] up.
[tense music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Did she just say get married?
- Having what? A kid?
- That sounds like it. - Oh, no.
I'm sorry.
I can't.
I need a second. I need a second.
I cannot watch this.
No, no, no, no.
[dramatic music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- Having what? A kid?
- That sounds like it. - Oh, no.
I'm sorry.
I can't.
I need a second. I need a second.
I cannot watch this.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
♪♪ ♪♪
Ooh!
- Alexis.
[somber music]
what's going on?
- The fact that he said a marriage and a kid,
that's freaking crazy.
- Well, did you process the fact
that she was already pregnant?
- I can't believe this man, man.
Like you've been [bleep] lying to me.
- Well, at least come and let me get you some tissues.
♪♪ ♪♪
Do you want to hear the rest of the conversation?
- I think you should. - Go ahead.
Go ahead. Play it.
- And you comforting her.
Like, are you [bleep] serious?
- Ain't no [bleep] happy place.
[tense music]
- You want to see the last clip?
- Go ahead and play it. [indistinct]
- So we tracked them to this bowling alley.
So it looks like now they're having a date day.
- I don't remember the last time we done
been on the damn date.
But he's taking her out.
- And we thought they were leaving.
- Did he just say the [bleep] bathroom?
- Yeah, he did.
- Tami, did he just say that they going to the bathroom?
- Yeah. They're going into the bathroom.
- Yo, bro like-- [bangs]
- I think they went to the bathroom.
- In [bleep] public? - Mm-hmm.
In public?
That's [bleep] nasty.
That's nasty as [bleep]. Who the [bleep] does that?
♪♪ ♪♪
- I mean, it's not something that I would do,
but then they-- - Oh, look at--
- They handed-- - Camera.
- Who wants to see this?
I can't even stand this [bleep].
They're so dumb.
- That was it.
- They're so goddamn disgusting.
I'm sorry.
- Now, I know you saw a lot in that footage.
And I know you have to be feeling some type of way
about what you saw.
- It's the fact that this man is having sex
with both of us [bleep] raw.
And then he going to church and praying with her.
You know, [bleep] this female. She done got [bleep] pregnant.
You could have gave me some [bleep].
I don't play like that.
- You still want to be with Ben?
- I don't know. I don't know at this point.
- You know "I don't know" is a yes.
- I just don't think I'm ready to give up just yet.
I need to get both sides of the story.
[sniffles]
- And what makes you say that?
- I think it's just really just like the attention,
the affection, all of that.
- You know what I think?
I've seen this before.
There's a thing called hero worship.
We put people on a pedestal.
We over-inflate their qualities,
characteristics, because we idolize what
they represent in our minds.
They are a protector and all of those things,
that is just as real as being a protector, a provider.
Both of them are equally real.
- How do you want to proceed with this?
Because I can give you two options, OK?
The first one is I can put my surveillance team
back out there, see when they catch her by herself.
Come get you.
You can go have a conversation with her,
and then the two of you can team up and go to Ben together.
Or get the surveillance back out there,
wait to catch the two of them together,
and then come get you
and have you go and blow the spot up.
That's called a takedown.
- [bleep] that bitch.
I'm going to say definitely a takedown.
I need to confront both of their [bleep].
You up in here doing this [bleep] with this?
No, I need to see both of them.
- The next step for me is, as I said,
I'll get my investigation team back out there.
- Right.
- When they catch them together, I will contact you.
Then Ken and I will come and pick you up and take you
to go have that conversation.
- OK.
- But I do want you to go into that conversation
with your big girl panties on.
And if it ends up being that you have to walk away,
I hope that you're able to make that decision for yourself.
Because you shouldn't ever want anything more than the care
and the love and the self-respect
that you have for yourself. - Right.
[hip-hop music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- ♪♪ I'd rather not talk, yeah ♪♪
♪♪ I need a ride back ♪♪
♪♪ Oh, you know we're friends ♪♪
♪♪ Oh, you know it not right ♪♪
♪♪ Meet up at mine ♪♪
♪♪ Check my back for your knife ♪♪
- Thank you, Coach Ken.
- You are welcome.
- The team has informed me that Ben is on another date.
And so we're going to pick up Alexis
to take her to have this conversation.
- Hello, come on in.
- Hi, Alexis. - Hi.
- How are you? - [sighs]
- You look beautiful. - Thank you.
- As I promised, I told you that
once my investigation team caught Ben and Alex together
that we would come pick you up.
So they're on another date.
They are at a skating rink.
And so we're going to take you over there to have
that conversation with them.
What do you want to ask them?
- Well, first, I want to ask her,
how long has this been going on?
I need to know how long.
- Absolutely.
- And then, second of all, for him, why?
What is so special about her?
And why are you dragging me along?
- And does she know about you?
- Right. That too.
- Because it may make a difference in terms of how you
view her if she had no clue.
- If that's what he want,
they can go be happy together. Mm-mm.
- But I don't want to negate that you shed a lot
of tears over this man. - Mm-hmm.
- So there is some love--
- It is.
It's always going to be there.
But at the same time, I need to do what's best for me.
- So we are here.
Now, we sent several decoys into this establishment
so that we'll be able to see what's going on inside.
When you feel like I've seen enough,
I want to go in and have this conversation,
feel free to do so.
And Ken and I will watch everything on the monitor.
And should we feel the need to step in, we'll come right in.
- OK.
So they on their little date.
[tense music]
- Oh, my God.
This man is so freaking trifling.
- She can't skate that good.
- What is that?
What are they doing?
Oh, yeah. No.
I done seen enough. I'm ready to go.
- Let's roll.
OK.
- Don't forget to ask the questions now.
She's walking real strong. - She's strong.
- She's walking real strong.
[dramatic music]
♪♪ ♪♪
- She's just going up on them.
- Really, [bleep]?
Are you serious [bleep] [bleep]?
- Oh, she's still trying to--
child, let me get on up in here.
- All right, let's go to work. [bleep]
- What's up with these cameras?
Yo, listen. Listen.
- What's all is it? - Oh, lord.
You know you ain't supposed to walk on the damn
roller rink floor with your [bleep].
Let me put these skates on.
- Yo. Hey, man, get the [bleep]--
- [bleep] [bleep]. - Hold on.
- That's why.
- You brought the--
- Because you ain't supposed to walk on the roller skate floor.
- Who the [bleep] is that? [bleep]
- OK. - I didn't get my answer.
- Hey, hey, hey. - Who the [bleep] is that?
- Yo, hey, yo.
- Why the [bleep] did she just try to run up on you?
- Hey, yo. Hey, yo.
- Girl, [bleep] you. - What the [bleep]?
- Girl, [bleep] you. - Alexis.
- Ben.
Hey, Ben.
- Who is this?
- How you doing?
Can I talk to you for a minute, Ben?
- Yo-- - Listen.
So my name is Tami Roman.
- I know exactly who you are. I'm [bleep]--
- And you're on a show called "Caught in the Act."
- Hey, man. Yo. What?
- "Caught in the Act."
That's right. - [bleep]
- Because Alexis came to see me because--
- [bleep] - She thought there was some
infidelity in your relationship.
And we saw you in a relationship with Alex.
[Alex hyperventilating]
Or is this your girl?
- I thought I was. But clearly, I'm not.
OK? - Both of them?
- Yes.
[dramatic music]
[dramatic hip-hop music]
- Alexis came to see me because she thought
there was some infidelity.
And we saw you in a relationship with Alex.
Or is this your girl?
- I thought I was. But clearly I'm not.
OK? - Both of them?
- Yes. - I ain't your property.
- Yo, calm down. Calm down. Let me explain.
Let me explain.
- You got me [bleep] up.
- Can I explain my [bleep]?
That's my peace, and you're my back bone.
That's what it is. She bring me peace.
[bleep] balance me the [bleep] out.
I'm being honest.
What you want me to say?
- Ben, so Alexis has some questions for you.
And Coach Ken is here to help mediate this conversation.
- Does she even know about me?
Do you even know about me?
- I don't think I've seen you once.
- It was at the club.
- And you told me that that was nothing
I needed to worry about!
- Yeah, 'cause he a liar. That's why.
- Will you have a conversation with me?
- Yeah, I'll have a conversation with you.
I'm standing on business. What are we doing?
- Have a seat. Have a seat.
- [sobbing] - Have a seat. I know.
I know you're hurting.
It's OK.
- I'm not trying to fight you.
Can I just have a conversation with you?
- Would you mind that? Would you--
- Can I?
- Child. - Yo, man.
- Hey, man.
Sit down, Ben.
So I can take these damn skates off.
- OK, you know what? [bleep] it. Come on.
- Let's have a conversation.
Tell me why you chose to step
outside of your relationship with Alexis.
- Tami, one woman don't understand my life.
So it's hard because I'm in the clubs.
I get the attention.
OK, so if I can get two women to [bleep] balance out with,
that [bleep] works for me.
And it makes sense for me.
It's not going to make sense for the average woman.
That's the best I can explain that [bleep].
- You feel one woman is not going to understand your life?
- She's not going to understand.
I got my fun time. I got my peace.
I got my strong Black woman over here.
Period.
- But then you got to find the two women that will
be OK with your lifestyle. - Understand.
Absolutely.
- Because Alexis thought she was the only one.
What is the timeline on these relationships?
- That's what I was finna tell you.
The timeline is like Alex, I probably know Alex
for about damn near eight years.
- So you actually cheated on Alex to be with Alexis.
- Alex is [bleep] fun time.
It ain't no holding it down with her.
But I need that because, again, it balances me out.
It works for me.
- Because you actually saw a life, a future, with Alexis.
- Yeah, I did. Absolutely.
- OK.
- But I feel like Alex was more understanding.
And she brought something to me that Alexis didn't bring to me.
- Don't you feel like you should
have been more respectful?
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- I don't blame you unless you knew about me.
- No. - No.
She didn't know about you.
- I didn't. I asked him about you,
and he said you was just a friend.
So yeah, he lied to both of us.
- We've been together for like five to six years.
- Whoa.
- He told me that he planned on marrying me
when I graduate in two years.
- He told me the same thing.
He said in three years, he wants to be married to me.
Have a family. - What the [bleep]?
[crying]
- We had a miscarriage over Thanksgiving last year.
- Man.
So this man, this man, this man.
Oh, my God, man.
- I trusted him. - I did, too.
But now that I know that you don't know,
now my anger is towards him.
Because that's [bleep] up how he did both of us.
- Why do you feel like Alexis doesn't give you peace?
- First of all, she had an abortion without my knowledge.
You know what I'm saying?
Because end of the day, that's a child that I'll never see.
I didn't agree for that [bleep].
You know what I'm saying?
And I feel like at the end of the day, that [bleep]
made me feel bad as [bleep].
As a man, that made me feel bad as [bleep].
I wasn't there. I didn't know.
- So did that change the dynamic for you?
- Abso-[bleep]-lutely.
Absolutely.
I'm not mad about the abortion.
I'm mad that you didn't tell me about that [bleep].
Because as a man, I wanted to be there for my [bleep] kid.
And that could have started
us having a whole [bleep] family.
We could have got married and this [bleep] over here
probably would never even [bleep] happened
because that little thing right there
that could have made a whole difference
in our [bleep] relationship, the whole dynamic of it.
But you did that trust on your [bleep] own.
And so now this is what [bleep] this [bleep] leads to
because I lost trust in you.
And that's where [bleep] I'm at.
And that's a big [bleep] issue with me as a [bleep] man.
- So if you--just for my own knowledge,
if you had to pick one, who would it be?
- I'm not picking neither one of them.
I'm picking both of them. I got to have both.
- I would like for you to go over and explain
what you just said to me to these women.
- OK, let's do it.
- OK, y'all.
We're trying to have a conversation.
I've spoken to Ben. OK.
And basically, Ben has said you are just the fun time.
- Hey, hold on.
You didn't have to say it like that, Tami.
I ain't say it like that, like that though.
- That's what you said, Ben.
You said this woman is my fun time.
- I want to slap [bleep] out of him.
- And that one over there is my backbone.
- Why didn't you let me go home if you
were going to do me like that?
Worthless man.
- Alex, let me ask you this.
He said the whole party promoting thing,
like you get his lifestyle.
And you know that he's always going to have
other women on the side.
- No, I never ever said that.
I don't deserve this at all.
- I don't think any woman deserves this.
- This the issue. You could be my wife, right?
She can't. OK.
- You literally told her that you wanted to marry her.
- No, I did not.
- She said y'all was going to buy a house together, though.
- Right.
- No, no, no. I'm just asking you--
but Ben, that's what you said. - [bleep].
- I didn't say it. She said that.
- What you want me to do? What you want me to do?
- Be truthful for once.
- I'm being truthful right now!
I'm being truthful. What the [bleep]?
I'm being truthful.
I told you what [bleep] I want.
And, Coach Ken, you're not making it easy.
- I ain't trying to make it easy.
- That's what it is. - Go be with college girl.
- That's what it is. What?
- Go be with college girl.
- That's what you want to call that?
When I just told you I'll make you my wife before her?
- Go to college girl.
- I understand his lifestyle.
I understand that when he gets home at 6:00 a.m.
it's because he was out promoting for clubs on end.
That's what I understand.
I don't understand anything about anybody else
but me being in his life.
- That's legitimately what you thought the relationship was?
- Yes.
- Ben, you got some deep [bleep] in this dynamic.
I mean, you in a promotion game.
Good looking dude.
You got a little swag, and this is what you do.
You take two good women,
and then you emotionally screwed them up.
- You didn't require anything.
You just wanted to have a good time.
You were very understanding of his lifestyle.
You believed everything that he told you.
And so for Ben, he really seems to feel, hey, yo,
I come from this type of lifestyle.
I'm a party promoter.
Women are around me all the time.
And this is the type of scenario
that I want to be a part of.
- I don't understand this.
I will never understand this.
I don't know why there's another woman with my man.
I don't understand that.
- Let's try to see what's going on over here.
You want to come with me?
- They didn't have a choice.
The choice is if you tell them what is going on,
they can decide for themselves if they
want to be a part of that.
- Then if they say, no, then I lose.
I lose out. - OK, then.
So that's on you. Like no.
You can't have [bleep] two women.
No.
- So you're not going to accept that [bleep]?
- No. Why would I accept that?
- What the [bleep] are you talking about?
- This man is still stuck on he's got to have both?
You can't have both.
- We wanted to have a family.
We were talking about a house.
We were talking about a future.
So I was just fun and games to you?
How the [bleep] am I just fun and games to you?
Hello? I'm talking to you.
Say something.
- It seems like we're going around in circles
only because Ben can't determine if he
wants to have one of you.
He wants to have both of you.
And both of y'all are saying that's not
how you about to get down. - No.
- So, Alexis, is this over?
- It's over.
I can't get with all of this.
It's too much.
I did this to get my answers.
I got my answer.
And clearly, you don't love me enough
or value me enough to deal with this.
I'm sorry.
I got to love myself more.
- Mm.
- Alex, you still want to be with Ben?
- Die.
- See, there you go.
Karma going to come around and get your ass.
I'm just going to let you know.
- You came to me because you wanted the truth
about your relationship.
I feel like I gave it to you.
It may not have been nice, but it needed to have been told.
- I wish I would have done it first.
- Ken and I are about to get up out of here.
- You're welcome. - OK.
- I knew it wasn't right. Period.
That's just what it is.
I just made a conscious decision to do it.
I know it was wrong.
I did it the [bleep] anyway because it worked for me.
I still want both, but that [bleep] slim to none right now.
- I'd actually like to thank Tami,
and I'd actually like to thank Alexis as well.
Because something tells me that without either one of them,
I would have gone on for years not knowing this.
I'm 25 and I still have a lot to see and a lot to do.
He's 37.
He's going to be nasty and nobody will want him.
I'm surprised I did.
- You is one goofy [bleep].
The way that I feel, all of that went down
up in there, man. [bleep], Ben.
He wants two females, go be in a poly relationship.
But you cannot have your cake and eat it too.
- ♪♪ I never know how I dig myself in deeper ♪♪
♪♪ I lose control and maybe cross the line ♪♪
- Hi, Alexis.
How are you?
- I'm doing better.
I'm not going to lie, it was hard.
Ben has been trying to be in contact with me.
- Really? - Yes.
I do love him, and I do care about him.
But I think I got the closure that I needed.
So I think it's best for me to probably just move forward.
- But you're a little force to be reckoned with.
You tried to take my security guards out, Alexis.
[laughs]
- When I saw it, I just saw red. So--
- And speaking of red, that's what Alex had on.
Have you kept in communication with her?
- She did reach out to me and we did have a conversation.
- What did y'all talk about?
- So she did apologize to me.
She's going to leave him alone as well.
- Wow. - Yeah.
- So are you happy that you went through this process?
- I am.
I got the closure that I needed.
So, yes.
I'm very grateful for both of you.
- What is next for you, ma'am?
- I'm just going to live my life.
And I'm not going to let this stop
me from finding my true love.
- Because he's out there.
- He is.
He is out there somewhere.
- He is out there.
Thank you for taking time to talk to me.
- Thank you. - All right.
Bye, Alexis.
- Bye.
- Cheaters, beware.
- We're not together.
- What the [bleep] is you talking about?
- Next time you wanna be unfaithful, think again.
Where you going?
Because I just might...
This is a mess. Come on, Ken. - All right.
- Catch you in the act.
- But I'm not caught in the act!
- We've seen it all.
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