1 00:00:06,965 --> 00:00:10,045 [children chattering, laughing] 2 00:00:14,889 --> 00:00:18,849 [cheerful music] 3 00:00:18,893 --> 00:00:25,783 * * 4 00:00:26,651 --> 00:00:28,241 - Hello! 5 00:00:28,278 --> 00:00:31,158 Hey, children. How's it going? 6 00:00:31,197 --> 00:00:33,867 I understand maybe it's somebody's birthday. 7 00:00:33,908 --> 00:00:37,198 Now, when I say happiness to you guys, what comes to mind? 8 00:00:37,245 --> 00:00:38,905 I've been all over planet Earth 9 00:00:38,955 --> 00:00:41,495 searching for the secrets to happiness. 10 00:00:41,541 --> 00:00:42,831 Here's some-- - Guinea pigs. 11 00:00:42,876 --> 00:00:45,046 - Here's--guinea pigs? What else makes you happy? 12 00:00:45,086 --> 00:00:46,876 What makes you happy? 13 00:00:46,921 --> 00:00:50,551 - Also guinea pigs. - Also guinea pigs, OK. 14 00:00:50,592 --> 00:00:52,932 I'm getting a theme going here. What else? 15 00:00:52,969 --> 00:00:55,969 But maybe it's much simpler than I'm making it out to be. 16 00:00:56,014 --> 00:00:58,184 For inspiration, I've turned 17 00:00:58,224 --> 00:01:00,774 to a particularly unfiltered bunch. 18 00:01:00,810 --> 00:01:02,560 Ice cream and robots? 19 00:01:02,604 --> 00:01:03,984 OK, what else? 20 00:01:04,022 --> 00:01:07,032 - Like, something--like, something like a bird caucus. 21 00:01:07,067 --> 00:01:08,647 - Like a bird caucus? 22 00:01:08,693 --> 00:01:10,283 - Yeah! 23 00:01:10,320 --> 00:01:13,110 - I think a bird caucus sounds really interesting. 24 00:01:13,156 --> 00:01:14,656 I'm not sure what that is. - [laughing] 25 00:01:14,699 --> 00:01:16,989 - I always say that! 26 00:01:17,035 --> 00:01:18,365 - [laughs] 27 00:01:18,411 --> 00:01:20,831 - Oh, that made you happy! 28 00:01:20,872 --> 00:01:24,172 Oh, my God, this is gonna be the greatest party ever. 29 00:01:24,209 --> 00:01:26,209 Go! 30 00:01:26,252 --> 00:01:28,092 Bird caucus? 31 00:01:28,129 --> 00:01:29,549 Bird caucus. 32 00:01:29,589 --> 00:01:30,919 Yeah. 33 00:01:30,965 --> 00:01:32,925 Eureka! 34 00:01:32,967 --> 00:01:35,217 Bird caucus. 35 00:01:35,261 --> 00:01:36,891 [Nicky Blitz' "Blast Off"] 36 00:01:36,930 --> 00:01:39,100 - * Getting too close, better pull on back * 37 00:01:39,140 --> 00:01:40,730 - What if I travel the world, 38 00:01:40,767 --> 00:01:43,307 exploring what makes some places happier than others? 39 00:01:43,353 --> 00:01:45,523 - * Need a one-two... * 40 00:01:45,563 --> 00:01:47,483 - I'm looking at the ways that where we are... 41 00:01:47,524 --> 00:01:49,154 - * Yeah, I'm a-comin', I'm a-comin' * 42 00:01:49,192 --> 00:01:50,442 - Affect who we are. 43 00:01:50,485 --> 00:01:51,605 - * Whoo, I'm a-comin' * 44 00:01:51,653 --> 00:01:54,363 * I'm a-comin', yeah... * 45 00:01:54,406 --> 00:01:56,566 - It's been said that the search for happiness 46 00:01:56,616 --> 00:01:59,536 is the chief source of unhappiness. 47 00:01:59,577 --> 00:02:01,287 - * I'm a-comin', I'm a-comin'... * 48 00:02:01,329 --> 00:02:02,909 - Well, that's OK. 49 00:02:02,956 --> 00:02:07,126 I'm already unhappy, so I've got nothing to lose. 50 00:02:07,168 --> 00:02:08,998 - * Let's go * 51 00:02:09,045 --> 00:02:11,255 * Let's all blast off * 52 00:02:21,057 --> 00:02:24,017 [soft music] 53 00:02:24,060 --> 00:02:28,520 * * 54 00:02:28,565 --> 00:02:31,735 - And just like that, I'm home. 55 00:02:34,112 --> 00:02:36,952 Now that I'm back, I'm shocked at how easily 56 00:02:36,990 --> 00:02:39,160 I've fallen into my same habits... 57 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:40,540 [sighs] 58 00:02:40,577 --> 00:02:43,657 My exact same routines. 59 00:02:43,705 --> 00:02:48,665 But this time, I'm brandishing a world's worth 60 00:02:48,710 --> 00:02:51,130 of happiness insight, and I'm eager 61 00:02:51,171 --> 00:02:54,381 to see how it all translates to life as I knew it. 62 00:02:56,217 --> 00:02:59,137 [upbeat jazz music] 63 00:02:59,179 --> 00:03:04,059 * * 64 00:03:04,100 --> 00:03:05,230 Excuse me. Coming through. 65 00:03:05,268 --> 00:03:07,558 Thanks. Hey, hey. 66 00:03:07,604 --> 00:03:09,194 OK. 67 00:03:09,230 --> 00:03:11,820 * * 68 00:03:11,858 --> 00:03:15,028 I moved to LA from New York in 1999. 69 00:03:15,070 --> 00:03:18,410 My wife, Holiday, and I packed up a Chevy cargo van 70 00:03:18,448 --> 00:03:21,578 in pursuit of the Hollywood dream-- 71 00:03:21,618 --> 00:03:24,038 a dilapidated apartment in Koreatown 72 00:03:24,079 --> 00:03:26,459 that smelled like cat piss. 73 00:03:26,498 --> 00:03:29,628 [horns honking] 74 00:03:31,878 --> 00:03:34,258 [upbeat music] 75 00:03:34,297 --> 00:03:35,877 - It's really stressful living in a city 76 00:03:35,924 --> 00:03:38,344 where it's kind of overpopulated and there's, 77 00:03:38,385 --> 00:03:40,215 like, noise pollution all the time. 78 00:03:40,261 --> 00:03:44,721 - People move here, generally, with a lot of expectation. 79 00:03:44,766 --> 00:03:46,516 - I think all of us, as transplants, 80 00:03:46,559 --> 00:03:48,349 we come here to find our happy. 81 00:03:48,395 --> 00:03:51,305 And we quickly learn that it is a hustle. 82 00:03:51,356 --> 00:03:54,896 - In LA, paradise comes with its own unique pressures. 83 00:03:54,943 --> 00:03:57,073 When every day is 75 and sunny, 84 00:03:57,112 --> 00:04:00,622 life screams at you, "Be happy, damn it!" 85 00:04:00,657 --> 00:04:03,537 High five, high five. 86 00:04:03,576 --> 00:04:06,746 Yet the Los Angeles 2020 Commission report 87 00:04:06,788 --> 00:04:10,998 estimated that 40% of Angelenos are miserable. 88 00:04:11,042 --> 00:04:13,632 - It can sometimes be a little bit depressing 89 00:04:13,670 --> 00:04:16,380 to find out that it's not exactly how 90 00:04:16,423 --> 00:04:18,053 it's portrayed in the movies. 91 00:04:18,091 --> 00:04:21,851 - Life will knock you down no matter where you live, 92 00:04:21,886 --> 00:04:23,386 but especially here. 93 00:04:23,430 --> 00:04:26,060 * * 94 00:04:26,099 --> 00:04:28,809 - Oh, I'm turning too much. 95 00:04:30,895 --> 00:04:34,265 But thanks to my travels, I'm seeing LA's untapped potential 96 00:04:34,315 --> 00:04:35,935 for the first time. 97 00:04:35,984 --> 00:04:39,074 I'm also seeing my own untapped potential. 98 00:04:39,112 --> 00:04:43,532 So how can I find happiness in my own backyard? 99 00:04:45,535 --> 00:04:47,285 - Hey, look. Rainn's pretending to barbecue. 100 00:04:47,328 --> 00:04:49,248 [laughter] 101 00:04:49,289 --> 00:04:50,419 - Are you barbecuing? 102 00:04:50,457 --> 00:04:52,207 - I am, for you. 103 00:04:52,250 --> 00:04:54,130 Hey. How's it going? 104 00:04:54,169 --> 00:04:56,249 - Do you know how to use it? - Barely, barely. 105 00:04:56,296 --> 00:04:59,376 * * 106 00:04:59,424 --> 00:05:02,094 Meet Justin Baldoni and Jamey Heath. 107 00:05:02,135 --> 00:05:03,925 You might recognize Justin from his role 108 00:05:03,970 --> 00:05:06,890 as Rafael on the series "Jane the Virgin." 109 00:05:06,931 --> 00:05:10,101 And Jamey is a well-known music and film producer. 110 00:05:10,143 --> 00:05:13,443 Together, they cohost the "Man Enough" podcast. 111 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:16,190 - We have a very special guest today, 112 00:05:16,232 --> 00:05:18,992 my dear friend, Mr. Rainn Wilson. 113 00:05:19,027 --> 00:05:20,947 - And as two of my closest friends, 114 00:05:20,987 --> 00:05:23,657 they know me better than most anyone. 115 00:05:23,698 --> 00:05:24,948 - When did you get back? 116 00:05:24,991 --> 00:05:27,581 - I got back three days ago from Thailand. 117 00:05:27,619 --> 00:05:28,949 - It's definitely not ready to flip. 118 00:05:28,995 --> 00:05:30,405 - I know, I know. 119 00:05:30,455 --> 00:05:31,955 - Honestly, let Justin do it. It's not ready to flip. 120 00:05:31,998 --> 00:05:33,578 - You're so controlling. - No, but you're flipping. 121 00:05:33,625 --> 00:05:34,955 - Really, you want to take it? - Yeah, please. 122 00:05:35,001 --> 00:05:36,251 - OK, go ahead, go ahead. - Let me do it. 123 00:05:36,294 --> 00:05:39,214 I mean, if we want it to be edible, you know. 124 00:05:39,255 --> 00:05:40,465 - [laughs] 125 00:05:40,507 --> 00:05:42,007 - Did you find some happiness there? 126 00:05:42,050 --> 00:05:44,470 - Honestly, this was the most incredible trip of my life. 127 00:05:44,511 --> 00:05:46,221 - Notice how he asked us to meet here in LA. 128 00:05:46,262 --> 00:05:48,812 - Real friends would have said, meet us in Thailand. 129 00:05:48,848 --> 00:05:50,228 - You didn't get the invitation? 130 00:05:50,266 --> 00:05:52,056 I invited you to bathe elephants with me in Thailand. 131 00:05:52,102 --> 00:05:53,772 - Absolutely not. - You didn't get that? 132 00:05:53,812 --> 00:05:56,902 I didn't want to take my shirt off next to you. 133 00:05:56,940 --> 00:05:58,690 These look done. 134 00:05:58,733 --> 00:06:01,153 That is perfectly done. 135 00:06:01,194 --> 00:06:02,904 - Yours would have not looked anything like that. 136 00:06:02,946 --> 00:06:05,866 - I made an excellent choice handing over the spatula. 137 00:06:05,907 --> 00:06:08,697 - No, that wasn't your choice. That was actually my idea. 138 00:06:10,745 --> 00:06:12,705 - Has Holiday noticed a change? 139 00:06:12,747 --> 00:06:14,707 When you came back, did she say you were happier? 140 00:06:14,749 --> 00:06:16,209 - Uh, it's been three days. 141 00:06:16,251 --> 00:06:18,381 Give me a break. 142 00:06:18,420 --> 00:06:20,130 No, no change yet. 143 00:06:20,171 --> 00:06:22,721 But the journey is not yet complete. 144 00:06:22,757 --> 00:06:26,797 - So you go down to Thailand, Iceland, 145 00:06:26,845 --> 00:06:28,715 places that have a lot of culture, 146 00:06:28,763 --> 00:06:30,393 or at least culture compared to here. 147 00:06:30,432 --> 00:06:31,982 Now you're back here in LA. 148 00:06:32,017 --> 00:06:35,187 - In a cultureless void of Los Angeles. 149 00:06:35,228 --> 00:06:36,518 - Like, what do you do? 150 00:06:36,563 --> 00:06:37,813 How do you go, like, bathe an elephant 151 00:06:37,856 --> 00:06:39,476 or do an Icelandic thing in water-- 152 00:06:39,524 --> 00:06:41,154 like, what do you do here in LA? 153 00:06:41,192 --> 00:06:42,152 - I don't know. 154 00:06:42,193 --> 00:06:43,283 We haven't figured that out yet. 155 00:06:43,319 --> 00:06:44,449 - Go to the zoo? 156 00:06:44,487 --> 00:06:45,907 - More importantly for you guys, 157 00:06:45,947 --> 00:06:47,527 Jamey, you've lived here for how long? 158 00:06:47,574 --> 00:06:48,784 - My life. 159 00:06:48,825 --> 00:06:50,535 - And you've been here 20 years at least. 160 00:06:50,577 --> 00:06:52,247 - I was born here. So yeah, most of my life. 161 00:06:52,287 --> 00:06:57,037 - So in the most materialistic, status-obsessed place 162 00:06:57,083 --> 00:06:59,173 in the country, one of the unhappiest places 163 00:06:59,210 --> 00:07:00,630 in the United States-- 164 00:07:00,670 --> 00:07:04,760 even though there is a pretty high standard of living-- 165 00:07:04,799 --> 00:07:07,259 what's your take on LA and finding happiness in LA? 166 00:07:07,302 --> 00:07:12,352 - I think LA sells you on the American dream, right? 167 00:07:12,390 --> 00:07:16,270 This idea of, if you just do this or accomplish this, 168 00:07:16,311 --> 00:07:18,151 then you will be happy. 169 00:07:18,188 --> 00:07:19,558 - Mm-hmm. - Right? 170 00:07:19,606 --> 00:07:23,026 If you get enough followers on Instagram or TikTok, 171 00:07:23,068 --> 00:07:25,398 or if enough people watch this show-- 172 00:07:25,445 --> 00:07:28,445 only to find that the more you get, 173 00:07:28,490 --> 00:07:29,780 the less happy you are 174 00:07:29,824 --> 00:07:31,584 and the farther you are from it. 175 00:07:31,618 --> 00:07:33,288 - I think you do experience happiness, 176 00:07:33,328 --> 00:07:35,868 but you obviously admit that you struggle with it. 177 00:07:35,914 --> 00:07:36,924 - Mm-hmm. 178 00:07:36,956 --> 00:07:38,456 - And I'm surprised, because it's all 179 00:07:38,500 --> 00:07:39,920 right there in front of you. 180 00:07:39,959 --> 00:07:41,089 It's right here. 181 00:07:41,127 --> 00:07:42,457 - All the ingredients are there. 182 00:07:42,504 --> 00:07:44,554 - But isn't that one of the hardest parts about it, 183 00:07:44,589 --> 00:07:46,259 is that you know it's right there-- 184 00:07:46,299 --> 00:07:47,629 - Yeah. 185 00:07:47,676 --> 00:07:50,216 - And it feels like it's just out of reach. 186 00:07:50,261 --> 00:07:51,551 - It's funny you say that. 187 00:07:51,596 --> 00:07:53,676 Because every place I went, I was kind of like, 188 00:07:53,723 --> 00:07:55,233 I could be happy here. 189 00:07:55,266 --> 00:07:57,936 - Which, when you're traveling the world, 190 00:07:57,977 --> 00:08:00,687 you're also going to some places that don't have 191 00:08:00,730 --> 00:08:04,980 the same level of intersection of capitalism, 192 00:08:05,026 --> 00:08:08,316 and materialism, and status, and all of these things. 193 00:08:08,363 --> 00:08:10,323 So the question is, like, how do you take what you 194 00:08:10,365 --> 00:08:13,445 learned traveling the world-- 195 00:08:13,493 --> 00:08:17,463 - Mm-hmm. - And go apply it to this? 196 00:08:17,497 --> 00:08:19,167 * * 197 00:08:19,207 --> 00:08:22,287 - This is why it's important to invite friends over 198 00:08:22,335 --> 00:08:24,085 to cook meals for you-- 199 00:08:24,129 --> 00:08:25,919 perspective. 200 00:08:25,964 --> 00:08:28,934 I've only ever experienced one version of Los Angeles, 201 00:08:28,967 --> 00:08:31,217 the version where fame and fortune are said 202 00:08:31,261 --> 00:08:34,141 to be the very height of what any of us can achieve. 203 00:08:34,180 --> 00:08:37,140 But I want an altogether different LA experience. 204 00:08:37,183 --> 00:08:39,273 I mean, there must be some happy people 205 00:08:39,310 --> 00:08:41,230 living here, right? 206 00:08:41,271 --> 00:08:42,901 So let's find them. 207 00:08:42,939 --> 00:08:44,359 Thanks for coming over. 208 00:08:44,399 --> 00:08:48,859 Justin, thank you for cooking us lunch today. 209 00:08:48,903 --> 00:08:51,203 - Thanks for having me over to cook you lunch. 210 00:08:51,239 --> 00:08:53,199 - Could I have some teriyaki chicken for dinner? 211 00:08:53,241 --> 00:08:54,491 - [laughs] 212 00:08:54,534 --> 00:08:57,584 [birds chirping] 213 00:09:00,874 --> 00:09:03,754 [upbeat music] 214 00:09:03,793 --> 00:09:08,473 * * 215 00:09:08,506 --> 00:09:09,626 - Hola. - Hola. 216 00:09:09,674 --> 00:09:11,554 - Tres tacos, por favor. 217 00:09:11,593 --> 00:09:14,303 Chatting with Justin and Jamey makes me wonder 218 00:09:14,346 --> 00:09:17,306 how I can apply everything I learned on the road 219 00:09:17,349 --> 00:09:19,309 to life back home. 220 00:09:19,351 --> 00:09:21,771 This journey's been about stepping outside 221 00:09:21,811 --> 00:09:24,311 my comfort zone, yet there's so much 222 00:09:24,356 --> 00:09:27,146 I don't know about my own hometown. 223 00:09:27,192 --> 00:09:29,442 It's like we're all too busy sitting in line 224 00:09:29,486 --> 00:09:32,316 at In-N-Out Burger to learn even the basic history 225 00:09:32,364 --> 00:09:34,874 of this place. 226 00:09:34,908 --> 00:09:38,328 Los Angeles was founded by the Spanish in 1781, 227 00:09:38,370 --> 00:09:40,750 who claimed it from its original inhabitants, 228 00:09:40,789 --> 00:09:44,329 the Chumash and Tongva peoples. 229 00:09:44,376 --> 00:09:48,166 In 1821, Mexico achieved independence from Spain, 230 00:09:48,213 --> 00:09:52,013 and soon after, America waged its war with Mexico, 231 00:09:52,050 --> 00:09:54,760 taking California as its own. 232 00:09:54,803 --> 00:09:57,723 There were gold rushers, oil barons, 233 00:09:57,764 --> 00:10:01,184 20,000 Chinese immigrants building a railway, 234 00:10:01,226 --> 00:10:03,396 and the birth of a movie industry. 235 00:10:03,436 --> 00:10:06,896 * * 236 00:10:06,940 --> 00:10:09,610 Today, nearly 10 million people live here, 237 00:10:09,651 --> 00:10:12,781 but this is a remarkably disconnected place. 238 00:10:12,821 --> 00:10:15,701 Yet I learned on my travels that even in a place 239 00:10:15,740 --> 00:10:17,200 as troubled as Bulgaria, 240 00:10:17,242 --> 00:10:19,542 there was happiness to be found. 241 00:10:19,577 --> 00:10:22,207 * * 242 00:10:22,247 --> 00:10:24,077 So I'm heading to Covina to meet 243 00:10:24,124 --> 00:10:27,044 a woman responsible for more hyperenergetic joy 244 00:10:27,085 --> 00:10:29,665 than anyone in Southern California. 245 00:10:29,713 --> 00:10:31,763 Hello, hello. 246 00:10:31,798 --> 00:10:34,338 Oh, my gosh, fantastic. 247 00:10:34,384 --> 00:10:36,554 Hopefully, she'll have insight into what I've 248 00:10:36,594 --> 00:10:37,724 missed out on around here. 249 00:10:37,762 --> 00:10:41,312 [gasps] Oh, my gosh. 250 00:10:41,349 --> 00:10:43,269 A chicky-chick. 251 00:10:43,309 --> 00:10:45,729 Oh, my gosh. 252 00:10:45,770 --> 00:10:47,940 This is amazing. 253 00:10:47,981 --> 00:10:50,031 Shrooms. Hello? 254 00:10:50,066 --> 00:10:52,236 [knocks] Yesenia? 255 00:10:52,277 --> 00:10:54,987 - Hello, yes! - Hi, how are you? 256 00:10:55,030 --> 00:10:56,450 - Welcome. - Rainn. 257 00:10:56,489 --> 00:10:57,909 So nice to meet you. 258 00:10:57,949 --> 00:10:59,989 - What's up, Rainn? - What's happening here? 259 00:11:00,035 --> 00:11:03,035 - Oh, so that's actually gonna be a piece. 260 00:11:03,079 --> 00:11:05,419 It's like an alter ego of me. 261 00:11:05,457 --> 00:11:07,077 - You're gonna make that up to look like you? 262 00:11:07,125 --> 00:11:08,375 - Yeah. - But is it a piñata? 263 00:11:08,418 --> 00:11:10,088 Are people gonna be beating on it? 264 00:11:10,128 --> 00:11:11,918 - You know, eventually. 265 00:11:11,963 --> 00:11:13,213 Eventually. 266 00:11:13,256 --> 00:11:16,006 You know, nothing lasts forever. 267 00:11:16,051 --> 00:11:18,431 - The owner of this papier-mached wonderland 268 00:11:18,470 --> 00:11:20,560 is Yesenia Prieto. 269 00:11:20,597 --> 00:11:23,217 She's a third-generation piñata maker 270 00:11:23,266 --> 00:11:25,726 from South Central who can create pretty much anything 271 00:11:25,769 --> 00:11:29,439 you've ever dreamed of smashing in a blind rage. 272 00:11:29,481 --> 00:11:35,111 But first and foremost, she's an artisan of joy. 273 00:11:35,153 --> 00:11:37,453 Great. What, um--what do we do? 274 00:11:37,489 --> 00:11:41,119 - We're gonna be making our little burrito piñata. 275 00:11:41,159 --> 00:11:43,239 - OK, as in burrito, 276 00:11:43,286 --> 00:11:46,116 not like a burrito, but like a mini burro. 277 00:11:46,164 --> 00:11:47,674 - Yes. - Donkey, OK, great. 278 00:11:47,707 --> 00:11:49,207 - A little donkey. 279 00:11:50,543 --> 00:11:52,673 - You know what would be fun? Glass piñatas. 280 00:11:52,712 --> 00:11:54,712 I'm just spitballing here. - No, I like that. 281 00:11:54,756 --> 00:11:55,966 [laughter] 282 00:11:56,007 --> 00:11:58,297 OK, we're gonna turn it upside down. 283 00:11:58,343 --> 00:12:00,893 - I'm gonna add stapling to my resume. 284 00:12:00,929 --> 00:12:03,059 - Yeah, it gets pretty gnarly. 285 00:12:03,098 --> 00:12:05,098 It's not easy work, honestly. 286 00:12:05,141 --> 00:12:08,601 But I'm really happy to see, like, our culture honestly 287 00:12:08,645 --> 00:12:10,855 transcending from-- not just Mexican, 288 00:12:10,897 --> 00:12:12,477 but to every other culture right now. 289 00:12:12,524 --> 00:12:14,654 Because this is such a beautiful gift, you know? 290 00:12:14,693 --> 00:12:18,703 You got two really prominent things that happen. 291 00:12:18,738 --> 00:12:21,408 There's the birthday cake, and then there's the piñata. 292 00:12:21,449 --> 00:12:22,329 - Mm-hmm. 293 00:12:22,367 --> 00:12:24,197 - And in both of these moments, 294 00:12:24,244 --> 00:12:28,294 everyone stops for a second. 295 00:12:28,331 --> 00:12:32,001 And they all, like, focus on, like, 296 00:12:32,043 --> 00:12:35,263 each other, the moment, the love. 297 00:12:35,296 --> 00:12:37,006 It's like you're stopping time. 298 00:12:37,048 --> 00:12:39,548 - It's like a shared joy. - Yes! 299 00:12:39,592 --> 00:12:43,432 * * 300 00:12:43,471 --> 00:12:45,851 - You are a third-generation piñata maker? 301 00:12:45,890 --> 00:12:47,850 - Yeah. My family came from Mexico. 302 00:12:47,892 --> 00:12:49,892 And they were really positive and very, 303 00:12:49,936 --> 00:12:52,646 like, the American dream, and, like, we're gonna make it. 304 00:12:52,689 --> 00:12:56,529 So my great-uncle opened up a party store, and he was like, 305 00:12:56,568 --> 00:12:58,648 "Let's make piñatas, and they're gonna be beautiful." 306 00:12:58,695 --> 00:13:02,115 And then my grandma and my other grandfather 307 00:13:02,157 --> 00:13:04,117 got involved, and then my tia got involved, 308 00:13:04,159 --> 00:13:05,659 and then my cousins got involved. 309 00:13:05,702 --> 00:13:08,832 I did understand that there is value in art, you know? 310 00:13:08,872 --> 00:13:10,292 - Mm-hmm. 311 00:13:10,331 --> 00:13:11,881 - It's like, if people only knew what we could do, 312 00:13:11,916 --> 00:13:13,376 if people could only see. 313 00:13:13,418 --> 00:13:15,958 The mission was to, like, help my family 314 00:13:16,004 --> 00:13:18,424 by reintroducing it as an art form. 315 00:13:18,465 --> 00:13:20,215 - Like, for me, I think piñata-- 316 00:13:20,258 --> 00:13:21,718 forgive me-- but what I think is, 317 00:13:21,760 --> 00:13:24,390 like, go to the party store and get a SpongeBob. 318 00:13:24,429 --> 00:13:27,059 And I hadn't thought of piñatas as an art form 319 00:13:27,098 --> 00:13:29,178 on a whole other kind of level. 320 00:13:29,225 --> 00:13:31,805 - There's been so much blood, sweat, and tears, 321 00:13:31,853 --> 00:13:33,363 you know, in creating these things. 322 00:13:33,396 --> 00:13:36,146 And it has been because, you know, 323 00:13:36,191 --> 00:13:37,571 we want to see the art. 324 00:13:37,609 --> 00:13:38,779 We want to feel proud. 325 00:13:38,818 --> 00:13:40,988 We want to push the caliber, even if it means 326 00:13:41,029 --> 00:13:42,529 that we're not gonna be making the money. 327 00:13:42,572 --> 00:13:45,032 - When I started as an actor, and I went to theater school 328 00:13:45,075 --> 00:13:47,075 in New York, none of us thought we 329 00:13:47,118 --> 00:13:48,238 were gonna make any money. 330 00:13:48,286 --> 00:13:49,906 I mean, I wanted to be able to pay my rent. 331 00:13:49,954 --> 00:13:51,874 We wanted to explode people's minds 332 00:13:51,915 --> 00:13:55,335 and have them see the world in new ways and create new forms. 333 00:13:55,377 --> 00:13:57,127 - That's because you're artists. 334 00:13:57,170 --> 00:13:58,460 - Somewhere in there... - Yes. 335 00:13:58,505 --> 00:14:00,165 - Is an artist... - Yes, you are. 336 00:14:00,215 --> 00:14:02,875 - Struggling to get out. - No, yeah. 337 00:14:02,926 --> 00:14:04,136 OK. 338 00:14:04,177 --> 00:14:06,757 So you got some scissors right next to you. 339 00:14:06,805 --> 00:14:08,135 - OK. 340 00:14:08,181 --> 00:14:09,431 - We're going to make piñata fringe, or-- 341 00:14:09,474 --> 00:14:10,644 - Piñata fringe. 342 00:14:10,684 --> 00:14:11,854 - Are you left-handed handed or right-handed? 343 00:14:11,893 --> 00:14:13,143 - Right. I hate left-handed people. 344 00:14:13,186 --> 00:14:15,976 - What? Oh, I didn't hear-- 345 00:14:16,022 --> 00:14:18,192 - Oh, no. - [sighs] 346 00:14:18,233 --> 00:14:20,033 She won't be on season two. 347 00:14:20,068 --> 00:14:21,818 Watch. 348 00:14:21,861 --> 00:14:24,111 * * 349 00:14:24,155 --> 00:14:26,365 I really admire what you're doing 350 00:14:26,408 --> 00:14:28,078 because you're finding all this stuff in LA, right? 351 00:14:28,118 --> 00:14:31,248 Community, meaning, purpose, connection. 352 00:14:31,287 --> 00:14:33,917 - Do you feel like you haven't gotten to experience, 353 00:14:33,957 --> 00:14:37,497 like, sincere depth here in LA? 354 00:14:37,544 --> 00:14:40,764 - It's been a struggle to find community and connection. 355 00:14:40,797 --> 00:14:42,797 - You can, like, speak to people, 356 00:14:42,841 --> 00:14:45,551 and people will listen to you, and I think that's a gift. 357 00:14:45,593 --> 00:14:46,933 - Mm. 358 00:14:46,970 --> 00:14:48,010 - Sometimes, it's all grassroots. 359 00:14:48,054 --> 00:14:49,144 If you can't find the community, 360 00:14:49,180 --> 00:14:50,600 then you make the community. 361 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:52,230 - Mm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm. 362 00:14:52,267 --> 00:14:53,847 - So that's kind of what we've been trying to do. 363 00:14:53,893 --> 00:14:55,233 - I love that. 364 00:14:55,270 --> 00:14:56,810 If you can't find a community, make a community. 365 00:14:56,855 --> 00:14:58,225 - Yeah. 366 00:14:58,273 --> 00:15:00,483 - You're a very wise piñata maker. 367 00:15:00,525 --> 00:15:03,395 - [laughs] 368 00:15:03,445 --> 00:15:05,405 - I'm finding that an appreciation 369 00:15:05,447 --> 00:15:09,657 of our own individual gifts is essential to happiness. 370 00:15:09,701 --> 00:15:11,241 - Oh, yes. Ultimate test. 371 00:15:11,286 --> 00:15:12,786 Can you make a circle? 372 00:15:12,829 --> 00:15:14,499 [laughs] 373 00:15:14,539 --> 00:15:16,579 - I think a lot of us are guilty of not 374 00:15:16,624 --> 00:15:19,674 giving ourselves enough credit for our contributions. 375 00:15:19,711 --> 00:15:22,211 I mean, if someone comes home after a crappy day, 376 00:15:22,255 --> 00:15:24,505 throws on "The Office," and Dwight Schrute 377 00:15:24,549 --> 00:15:26,379 makes them laugh for half an hour, 378 00:15:26,426 --> 00:15:28,006 I need to cherish that. 379 00:15:28,053 --> 00:15:30,263 - Oh, my God. - Look what we did. 380 00:15:30,305 --> 00:15:32,595 - He's so cute. 381 00:15:32,640 --> 00:15:35,560 - Using our talents to make other people's lives better, 382 00:15:35,602 --> 00:15:38,902 whether that's through acting, being good with numbers, 383 00:15:38,938 --> 00:15:41,648 being a dependable friend, 384 00:15:41,691 --> 00:15:44,491 or making papier-mache donkeys, 385 00:15:44,527 --> 00:15:46,527 it's all worth celebrating. 386 00:15:46,571 --> 00:15:49,741 - Can I take part of the horse after it's bashed? 387 00:15:49,783 --> 00:15:50,993 I'm playing hospital, 388 00:15:51,034 --> 00:15:52,294 and I really need it for the hospital. 389 00:15:52,327 --> 00:15:53,827 - You can. - Yes! 390 00:15:53,870 --> 00:15:55,830 I'm going to transplant you with that horse. 391 00:15:55,872 --> 00:15:57,582 - You're gonna give me a face transplant? 392 00:15:57,624 --> 00:15:59,794 - [laughs] 393 00:15:59,834 --> 00:16:02,594 - Yay, cupcakes! 394 00:16:05,924 --> 00:16:07,434 - You are? 395 00:16:07,467 --> 00:16:09,007 If it brings you joy, I'm willing to make 396 00:16:09,052 --> 00:16:10,972 that sacrifice--ah! 397 00:16:11,012 --> 00:16:12,432 [children laughing] 398 00:16:12,472 --> 00:16:15,682 Here we go, doing the piñata. 399 00:16:19,896 --> 00:16:21,606 - All right. 400 00:16:21,648 --> 00:16:23,568 You know what's inside of here? 401 00:16:23,608 --> 00:16:25,438 Guinea pigs! 402 00:16:27,696 --> 00:16:29,066 Oh! Yeah! 403 00:16:29,114 --> 00:16:30,244 Yeah! 404 00:16:30,281 --> 00:16:31,781 Ow, that's my knuckles! 405 00:16:31,825 --> 00:16:33,235 Wow! 406 00:16:33,284 --> 00:16:35,454 Oh, man, where did this come from? 407 00:16:35,495 --> 00:16:38,455 Oh, my gosh, it's Barry Bonds over here. 408 00:16:38,498 --> 00:16:42,588 Will someone get that girl on a softball team ASAP? 409 00:16:42,627 --> 00:16:45,667 - I can't wait for the guinea pigs to come out. 410 00:16:45,714 --> 00:16:46,764 - Enough of this! 411 00:16:46,798 --> 00:16:51,088 [yelling] 412 00:16:51,136 --> 00:16:54,636 [children screaming, laughing] 413 00:16:55,765 --> 00:16:57,015 Yesenia was right. 414 00:16:57,058 --> 00:16:58,808 For these tiny partygoers, 415 00:16:58,852 --> 00:17:01,152 the piñata represents endless promise. 416 00:17:01,187 --> 00:17:02,607 - I have a telescope! 417 00:17:02,647 --> 00:17:05,977 - It could contain anything, even guinea pigs. 418 00:17:06,026 --> 00:17:09,066 It's all a matter of how you choose to look at things. 419 00:17:09,112 --> 00:17:10,782 And as I learned in Ghana, 420 00:17:10,822 --> 00:17:13,372 one of the world's most optimistic countries, 421 00:17:13,408 --> 00:17:16,828 positivity is both powerful and contagious. 422 00:17:16,870 --> 00:17:20,670 Lessons from the road revealing themselves at home. 423 00:17:20,707 --> 00:17:24,957 Now, who wanted to attach the horse's head to my face? 424 00:17:25,003 --> 00:17:27,263 - You do not want to be awake while this happens. 425 00:17:27,297 --> 00:17:28,797 Sleep mask. 426 00:17:28,840 --> 00:17:30,470 - I don't want to be awake while this happens? 427 00:17:30,508 --> 00:17:31,968 - Just go to sleep. 428 00:17:32,010 --> 00:17:33,680 - [snores] 429 00:17:35,805 --> 00:17:37,215 - There you go. 430 00:17:37,265 --> 00:17:38,925 - [neighs] 431 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:44,860 - That was a horse's butt on my face? 432 00:17:46,024 --> 00:17:47,194 Thank you. 433 00:17:50,487 --> 00:17:53,197 [upbeat music] 434 00:17:53,239 --> 00:17:55,279 - Uh-huh. 435 00:17:55,325 --> 00:17:57,905 I thought that was Thursday. 436 00:17:57,952 --> 00:17:59,082 Ow. 437 00:17:59,120 --> 00:18:00,830 I'll call you back. 438 00:18:00,872 --> 00:18:03,922 More than any people on Earth, Americans have the inclination 439 00:18:03,958 --> 00:18:07,048 to chase things we expect to bring us happiness, 440 00:18:07,087 --> 00:18:10,837 and then we're confused as hell when they don't. 441 00:18:10,882 --> 00:18:14,092 Perhaps nowhere is this more apparent than in Los Angeles. 442 00:18:14,135 --> 00:18:18,925 And that soul-crushing disappointment 443 00:18:18,973 --> 00:18:22,063 is probably why so many of us are in therapy. 444 00:18:22,102 --> 00:18:24,442 Man, I'm looking forward to this. 445 00:18:24,479 --> 00:18:27,109 - Oh, boy. It's been a long time. 446 00:18:27,148 --> 00:18:28,478 - After weeks on the road, 447 00:18:28,525 --> 00:18:29,975 I'm eager to gauge my progress. 448 00:18:30,026 --> 00:18:32,606 And what better way to reflect on my personal growth 449 00:18:32,654 --> 00:18:34,454 than with a therapy session of my own? 450 00:18:34,489 --> 00:18:36,119 - Oh, yeah. 451 00:18:36,157 --> 00:18:40,867 - But my sessions look a little different than most. 452 00:18:40,912 --> 00:18:42,792 I forgot how pesky you were over there. 453 00:18:42,831 --> 00:18:44,501 - [laughs] 454 00:18:44,541 --> 00:18:46,461 - I can't get a ball past you. I forgot about that. 455 00:18:46,501 --> 00:18:49,251 - I've gotten worse. 456 00:18:49,295 --> 00:18:50,835 - [grunts] 457 00:18:52,173 --> 00:18:54,133 - So you're trying real hard. 458 00:18:54,175 --> 00:18:56,925 - Well, I'm thinking, like, am I feeling a zone? 459 00:18:56,970 --> 00:18:58,180 Am I not feeling my zone? 460 00:18:58,221 --> 00:19:00,271 And I'm trying to hit the ball over the net. 461 00:19:00,306 --> 00:19:02,806 - Does Rainn know how to do nothing? 462 00:19:02,851 --> 00:19:05,191 - I don't know how to do nothing. 463 00:19:05,228 --> 00:19:07,148 - Try less. 464 00:19:07,188 --> 00:19:09,858 - This is Zach Kleinman. 465 00:19:09,899 --> 00:19:11,689 - Go easy. 466 00:19:13,361 --> 00:19:14,861 - [grunts] 467 00:19:16,322 --> 00:19:18,582 - Hit the ball with happiness. 468 00:19:18,616 --> 00:19:21,486 - He's basically like if Yoda wore sneakers... 469 00:19:21,536 --> 00:19:24,156 [upbeat rock music] 470 00:19:24,205 --> 00:19:27,535 And had a fierce aversion to the LA sun. 471 00:19:27,584 --> 00:19:30,134 * * 472 00:19:30,170 --> 00:19:31,340 - Wow. 473 00:19:31,379 --> 00:19:32,629 Can we wipe it? 474 00:19:32,672 --> 00:19:35,342 Can we wipe your nose a little? 475 00:19:35,383 --> 00:19:38,763 - He combines tennis instruction and talk therapy 476 00:19:38,803 --> 00:19:41,183 to guide people through life's difficulties, 477 00:19:41,222 --> 00:19:43,562 one serve at a time. 478 00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:45,690 I realize that having a spiritual guru 479 00:19:45,727 --> 00:19:47,147 who also teaches me tennis 480 00:19:47,187 --> 00:19:49,857 might scream out-of-touch celebrity, 481 00:19:49,898 --> 00:19:52,358 but hey, live in Los Angeles long enough, 482 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:55,820 and you just sort gravitate to doing some weird shit. 483 00:19:57,072 --> 00:19:58,742 - So what's not sticking? 484 00:19:58,782 --> 00:20:03,582 What's the most distracting piece from your happiness? 485 00:20:03,620 --> 00:20:06,710 - All I know is, like, an entire day will go by, 486 00:20:06,748 --> 00:20:08,668 and I've been in my office, 487 00:20:08,708 --> 00:20:11,748 not appreciating the beauty around me, 488 00:20:11,795 --> 00:20:16,505 stuck in texts, emails, work, deadlines. 489 00:20:16,549 --> 00:20:19,009 And at the end of the day, I feel drained. 490 00:20:19,052 --> 00:20:20,682 - When does it get quiet? 491 00:20:20,720 --> 00:20:22,560 - I do meditation in the morning. 492 00:20:22,597 --> 00:20:25,477 - That's 20 minutes. When does it get quiet? 493 00:20:25,517 --> 00:20:27,387 - Playing tennis helps make it quiet. 494 00:20:27,435 --> 00:20:29,685 It forces you to be in the moment. 495 00:20:29,729 --> 00:20:30,979 It forces you to-- - Right. 496 00:20:31,022 --> 00:20:33,902 But there's no force for those other 24 hours. 497 00:20:33,942 --> 00:20:34,942 - I know. 498 00:20:34,984 --> 00:20:36,614 - Where is that force inside you? 499 00:20:36,653 --> 00:20:39,533 I'd like you to find that force. 500 00:20:39,572 --> 00:20:41,202 Get the hell back there. 501 00:20:41,241 --> 00:20:42,701 - Oh, OK. 502 00:20:42,742 --> 00:20:45,122 [upbeat music] 503 00:20:45,161 --> 00:20:47,081 - Trying too hard. 504 00:20:47,122 --> 00:20:48,872 High expectations. 505 00:20:48,915 --> 00:20:50,495 - [groans] - Where'd you go? 506 00:20:50,542 --> 00:20:52,422 - Shopping list, emails. 507 00:20:52,460 --> 00:20:54,170 - Definitely not this shot. 508 00:20:54,212 --> 00:20:56,462 - Trying to hit the cameraman. 509 00:20:58,842 --> 00:20:59,972 Oh! 510 00:21:00,010 --> 00:21:01,180 - You all right? 511 00:21:01,219 --> 00:21:04,309 * * 512 00:21:04,347 --> 00:21:06,057 That easier? - That felt good. 513 00:21:06,099 --> 00:21:07,769 - As a tennis player, we know we've got 514 00:21:07,809 --> 00:21:10,849 24 seconds to turn it around. 515 00:21:10,895 --> 00:21:13,105 I've got 24 seconds to get over this. 516 00:21:13,148 --> 00:21:14,318 Next point. 517 00:21:14,357 --> 00:21:16,067 - Letting it go and moving on. 518 00:21:16,109 --> 00:21:18,569 - No, dealing with it and moving on. 519 00:21:18,611 --> 00:21:21,071 I'm sure that many other people on your journey 520 00:21:21,114 --> 00:21:23,374 shared something like that with you. 521 00:21:23,408 --> 00:21:24,578 - Mm-hmm. 522 00:21:24,617 --> 00:21:25,907 - But you're somewhat forgetting it 523 00:21:25,952 --> 00:21:27,832 now that there are more distractions. 524 00:21:27,871 --> 00:21:33,381 - Well, and I have 50-some years of bad habits, patterns. 525 00:21:33,418 --> 00:21:34,918 - That they couldn't fix? 526 00:21:34,961 --> 00:21:37,671 - I couldn't get fixed in a couple months. 527 00:21:42,260 --> 00:21:44,390 I guess part of what I'm-- 528 00:21:44,429 --> 00:21:47,889 part of what I've been dealing with the last year or two is, 529 00:21:47,932 --> 00:21:50,642 you know, my father passing away. 530 00:21:50,685 --> 00:21:53,765 He was old, God bless him, but-- 531 00:21:53,813 --> 00:21:56,153 uh, not as old as you. 532 00:21:56,191 --> 00:21:57,481 - No one is. 533 00:21:57,525 --> 00:21:58,985 - I did a lot of grieving. 534 00:21:59,027 --> 00:22:01,947 And then at the same time, am I doing enough grieving? 535 00:22:01,988 --> 00:22:04,028 Is this how you-- I don't know how to grieve. 536 00:22:04,074 --> 00:22:06,244 No one taught me how to grieve. 537 00:22:06,284 --> 00:22:09,454 How long are you supposed to be sad over a dead parent? 538 00:22:09,496 --> 00:22:10,866 Like, I don't know. 539 00:22:10,914 --> 00:22:12,834 Is there more grief in there that's stuck in me? 540 00:22:12,874 --> 00:22:15,004 Sometimes, I feel like there is. 541 00:22:16,503 --> 00:22:17,923 Oh, did you see that? 542 00:22:17,962 --> 00:22:20,632 - You actually had some focus on your grief-- 543 00:22:20,674 --> 00:22:21,844 - Uh-huh. 544 00:22:21,883 --> 00:22:24,643 - For your father, who raised you. 545 00:22:24,678 --> 00:22:27,388 - Yeah. 546 00:22:27,430 --> 00:22:29,640 Oh, that was good. 547 00:22:29,683 --> 00:22:33,853 Why, when I get in touch with emotion, 548 00:22:33,895 --> 00:22:38,315 am I hitting the ball so much more cleanly 549 00:22:38,358 --> 00:22:40,028 and with so much more focus? 550 00:22:40,068 --> 00:22:42,488 - That may be part of the problem, 551 00:22:42,529 --> 00:22:44,699 is you're trying to understand. 552 00:22:44,739 --> 00:22:47,989 Happiness is an experience, not a concept 553 00:22:48,034 --> 00:22:51,004 that you keep searching for. 554 00:22:52,747 --> 00:22:54,207 - Before this journey, 555 00:22:54,249 --> 00:22:56,329 I'd hear these fortune cookie sayings like, 556 00:22:56,376 --> 00:22:59,296 you don't chase happiness, you experience it, 557 00:22:59,337 --> 00:23:03,297 and they'd make sense to me intuitively. 558 00:23:03,341 --> 00:23:05,051 But like any proverb, 559 00:23:05,093 --> 00:23:08,433 they're more easily recited than achieved. 560 00:23:08,471 --> 00:23:10,891 Yet in this moment, speaking with Zach 561 00:23:10,932 --> 00:23:13,482 about my father's death, I get it. 562 00:23:13,518 --> 00:23:16,518 These aren't some bullshit words of wisdom. 563 00:23:16,563 --> 00:23:18,573 They're universal truths. 564 00:23:18,606 --> 00:23:21,066 And maybe, just maybe, 565 00:23:21,109 --> 00:23:24,779 this journey has changed me after all. 566 00:23:27,574 --> 00:23:28,914 Experience that! 567 00:23:28,950 --> 00:23:30,950 - [laughs] - Mother[bleep]. 568 00:23:34,789 --> 00:23:36,619 - Hi. 569 00:23:36,666 --> 00:23:37,996 - Steve Carell. 570 00:23:38,043 --> 00:23:40,383 - Thank you. - Yeah, Steve Carell. 571 00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:46,300 [rousing big band music] 572 00:23:46,343 --> 00:23:47,973 It's among the most common reasons 573 00:23:48,011 --> 00:23:50,431 that folks flock to Los Angeles, 574 00:23:50,472 --> 00:23:52,852 to become famous. 575 00:23:52,891 --> 00:23:57,401 And for some, fame is more valuable than money itself. 576 00:24:02,567 --> 00:24:04,027 - Um... 577 00:24:04,069 --> 00:24:06,699 - 10 million followers, just because I feel like 578 00:24:06,738 --> 00:24:08,238 I can do a lot with that. 579 00:24:08,281 --> 00:24:09,701 - I know you can make way more money 580 00:24:09,741 --> 00:24:11,371 with all those followers. 581 00:24:11,409 --> 00:24:14,199 But I'm, like--I'm too lazy, and I'm not good at it. 582 00:24:14,245 --> 00:24:16,575 - [exhales sharply] That's really tough. 583 00:24:16,623 --> 00:24:17,753 - Oh, a million dollars. 584 00:24:17,791 --> 00:24:19,381 - I would take a million dollars. 585 00:24:19,417 --> 00:24:20,957 - How do-- what am I famous for? 586 00:24:21,002 --> 00:24:23,462 What are the 10 million followers following me for? 587 00:24:23,505 --> 00:24:25,045 Because if they're just following me for me, 588 00:24:25,090 --> 00:24:26,380 that's weird-- I don't really want that. 589 00:24:26,424 --> 00:24:28,264 - $1 million for sure. 590 00:24:28,301 --> 00:24:30,931 I'm pretty content with my little bubble of friends, 591 00:24:30,970 --> 00:24:32,180 and a million dollars would be pretty cool. 592 00:24:32,222 --> 00:24:33,352 I'd take a million dollars. 593 00:24:33,390 --> 00:24:35,060 - But if they're following me because they, 594 00:24:35,100 --> 00:24:36,810 like, like to watch me fingerboard, 595 00:24:36,851 --> 00:24:38,311 or they like to, you know, they-- 596 00:24:38,353 --> 00:24:40,693 I make it comedically somehow 597 00:24:40,730 --> 00:24:42,230 or something, then yeah, sure. 598 00:24:42,273 --> 00:24:45,153 I'll take the followers for sure. 599 00:24:45,193 --> 00:24:47,823 - California is the social media capital of the world, 600 00:24:47,862 --> 00:24:52,202 with an estimated 200,000 influencers living here-- 601 00:24:52,242 --> 00:24:54,742 most of them in Los Angeles. 602 00:24:54,786 --> 00:24:56,576 Oh, ho. 603 00:24:56,621 --> 00:24:58,671 - Hello. - No way. 604 00:24:58,707 --> 00:25:01,537 You guys, thanks for having me over and schooling me 605 00:25:01,584 --> 00:25:03,094 in the ways of social media. 606 00:25:03,128 --> 00:25:04,588 I'm really lame at it. 607 00:25:04,629 --> 00:25:07,129 - OK, well, we're gonna see what we can work with, so... 608 00:25:07,173 --> 00:25:09,013 - Can we compare nails just real quick, 609 00:25:09,050 --> 00:25:10,430 before we get started? 610 00:25:10,468 --> 00:25:11,758 Just-- 611 00:25:11,803 --> 00:25:14,183 My notoriety as Dwight Schrute granted me 612 00:25:14,222 --> 00:25:18,142 joys and frustrations I never could have anticipated. 613 00:25:18,184 --> 00:25:21,274 But I'm curious to understand the allure of fame 614 00:25:21,312 --> 00:25:24,982 in today's Los Angeles, where TikTok and Instagram 615 00:25:25,025 --> 00:25:27,025 can change a person's life overnight, 616 00:25:27,068 --> 00:25:29,278 for better or for worse. 617 00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:33,620 So I'm here with Rave, Kiera, and Aaron, 618 00:25:33,658 --> 00:25:36,998 members of a TikTok collective called Vault House. 619 00:25:37,037 --> 00:25:40,707 They spend their days dreaming up the next viral sensation, 620 00:25:40,749 --> 00:25:43,499 and they've invited me over to raise the average age 621 00:25:43,543 --> 00:25:47,513 in their house by like four decades. 622 00:25:47,547 --> 00:25:50,127 OK, so we've got a dry erase board here. 623 00:25:50,175 --> 00:25:51,465 Let's get started. - OK. 624 00:25:51,509 --> 00:25:54,099 - Let's talk character arcs, OK? 625 00:25:54,137 --> 00:25:57,927 - OK. - We want to break story. 626 00:25:57,974 --> 00:26:01,854 We want to take a series arc, you know. 627 00:26:01,895 --> 00:26:05,815 Where are we from where we begin to where we end up, OK? 628 00:26:05,857 --> 00:26:08,027 So is this what you guys do with-- 629 00:26:08,068 --> 00:26:10,238 - Pretty much, just, like, on our phones, but yeah. 630 00:26:10,278 --> 00:26:11,818 - I mean, this one's a little more professional than normal. 631 00:26:11,863 --> 00:26:12,823 But yeah. - Yeah. 632 00:26:12,864 --> 00:26:13,994 - OK, all right. 633 00:26:14,032 --> 00:26:15,492 What are you doing on your phone 634 00:26:15,533 --> 00:26:17,953 when you're researching for your writer's room? 635 00:26:17,994 --> 00:26:19,954 - Definitely looking for trending videos. 636 00:26:19,996 --> 00:26:21,366 - Or sometimes, it's just a trending audio. 637 00:26:21,414 --> 00:26:23,174 Like, just a sound, or some music, 638 00:26:23,208 --> 00:26:25,038 or something like that that works, 639 00:26:25,085 --> 00:26:26,455 and then you just do your own kind of thing to it. 640 00:26:26,503 --> 00:26:28,173 - So what do you want to do today? 641 00:26:28,213 --> 00:26:29,843 Let's brainstorm. Let's figure it out. 642 00:26:29,881 --> 00:26:31,301 What's trending? - Show him. 643 00:26:31,341 --> 00:26:32,681 - Who's the meanest? - This is also us. 644 00:26:32,717 --> 00:26:33,837 - Friend group. - Yeah. 645 00:26:33,885 --> 00:26:35,005 You're gonna be in our friend group. 646 00:26:35,053 --> 00:26:36,183 - Most likely to get into a fight? 647 00:26:36,221 --> 00:26:38,471 - That audio exists out there somewhere. 648 00:26:38,515 --> 00:26:40,805 - Yes. - We're just going to-- 649 00:26:40,850 --> 00:26:42,060 - Redo it. 650 00:26:42,102 --> 00:26:44,692 - But why does something go viral? 651 00:26:44,729 --> 00:26:46,559 What makes it trend? 652 00:26:46,606 --> 00:26:49,856 - Some people go viral for being just blatantly hot. 653 00:26:49,901 --> 00:26:52,401 Like, and some people go viral for an actual talent, 654 00:26:52,445 --> 00:26:53,355 like singing, or-- 655 00:26:53,405 --> 00:26:54,855 anything could really pop off. 656 00:26:54,906 --> 00:26:56,526 That's what's so great about TikTok is that you can have 657 00:26:56,574 --> 00:26:59,044 any form of creativity, and we all have a chance 658 00:26:59,077 --> 00:27:00,867 of, like, making it happen. 659 00:27:00,912 --> 00:27:02,212 - That's great. 660 00:27:02,247 --> 00:27:03,997 So we've got a bunch of things right now. 661 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:06,710 And one other one I need your help with... 662 00:27:06,751 --> 00:27:07,791 - OK. 663 00:27:07,836 --> 00:27:09,166 - Is figuring out how to make 664 00:27:09,212 --> 00:27:12,802 the bassoon go viral on TikTok. 665 00:27:12,841 --> 00:27:14,301 - We'll try. both: We'll try. 666 00:27:14,342 --> 00:27:15,722 - Let's do it. - Oh, yeah, OK. 667 00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:17,680 - Come on, team. - Yes, sir. 668 00:27:17,721 --> 00:27:19,471 - Come on. - [laughs] 669 00:27:19,514 --> 00:27:21,434 - Let's Tok it up. - [laughs] 670 00:27:21,474 --> 00:27:22,734 - Whoo! 671 00:27:22,767 --> 00:27:24,057 Yeah, good. All right. 672 00:27:24,102 --> 00:27:26,102 - Who's the meanest? 673 00:27:27,313 --> 00:27:29,983 Most likely to do weird things in public? 674 00:27:30,025 --> 00:27:31,475 Most likely to break someone's heart? 675 00:27:31,526 --> 00:27:33,356 - This reminds me of my early days in improv. 676 00:27:33,403 --> 00:27:34,453 [laughter] 677 00:27:34,487 --> 00:27:36,237 I mean, if this technology existed 678 00:27:36,281 --> 00:27:37,741 when I was trying to make it, 679 00:27:37,782 --> 00:27:40,042 I would have been doing the exact same thing, 680 00:27:40,076 --> 00:27:42,656 performing skits, goofy dances. 681 00:27:42,704 --> 00:27:44,834 - Most likely to become a porn star? 682 00:27:44,873 --> 00:27:46,083 - Yeah-- 683 00:27:46,124 --> 00:27:48,084 - Whatever it took to get noticed. 684 00:27:48,126 --> 00:27:50,496 - Perfect. [laughter] 685 00:27:50,545 --> 00:27:53,085 - You all are really brilliant technicians. 686 00:27:53,131 --> 00:27:55,801 Like, I think people maybe have the idea 687 00:27:55,842 --> 00:27:58,262 that it doesn't take any kind of skill or talent, 688 00:27:58,303 --> 00:28:00,853 but there's some-- and you're improvising, right? 689 00:28:00,889 --> 00:28:02,099 - Yeah. 690 00:28:02,140 --> 00:28:03,810 - You're being creative. - Yeah. 691 00:28:03,850 --> 00:28:05,600 - Yeah. - Is this the dream? 692 00:28:05,643 --> 00:28:07,103 Do you feel like you're living the dream? 693 00:28:07,145 --> 00:28:08,475 Because that's what a lot of people think. 694 00:28:08,521 --> 00:28:12,361 Like, oh, going to LA to pursue fame and fortune. 695 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:14,280 - Mm-hmm. - Are you happy here? 696 00:28:14,319 --> 00:28:15,649 - Yes. - Yeah. 697 00:28:15,695 --> 00:28:17,105 - I'm happy. - Very. 698 00:28:17,155 --> 00:28:20,115 - I love your spirit and inventiveness. 699 00:28:20,158 --> 00:28:22,538 But we do have this uptick 700 00:28:22,577 --> 00:28:25,537 in mental health crisis with young people. 701 00:28:25,580 --> 00:28:26,620 - Mm-hmm. 702 00:28:26,664 --> 00:28:28,214 - What's your take on that connection 703 00:28:28,249 --> 00:28:31,249 with social media and young people's mental health, 704 00:28:31,294 --> 00:28:33,964 body image, body dysmorphia, 705 00:28:34,005 --> 00:28:36,335 the pressures of beauty culture 706 00:28:36,383 --> 00:28:38,593 that the three of you are presenting? 707 00:28:38,635 --> 00:28:40,795 - Um, I think there are a lot of cons, 708 00:28:40,845 --> 00:28:42,755 but I think there's still a lot of pros to social media. 709 00:28:42,806 --> 00:28:44,466 Like, a lot of connections that can be made 710 00:28:44,516 --> 00:28:46,476 that you would never be able to make otherwise 711 00:28:46,518 --> 00:28:48,478 from people all around the world. 712 00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:50,770 - I think our generation is getting a lot more help, 713 00:28:50,814 --> 00:28:52,654 and a lot of people are in therapy now, 714 00:28:52,691 --> 00:28:54,321 and like, seeing therapists and getting diagnosed. 715 00:28:54,359 --> 00:28:56,649 And a lot of the last generation wasn't doing that. 716 00:28:56,695 --> 00:29:00,445 - But what if, you know, there's someone who physically 717 00:29:00,490 --> 00:29:03,200 doesn't feel that good about themselves in Iowa, 718 00:29:03,243 --> 00:29:05,043 and they're looking at your videos and being like, 719 00:29:05,078 --> 00:29:06,658 I'll never be as pretty as-- 720 00:29:06,705 --> 00:29:10,165 as pretty girl Rave, and they feel bad? 721 00:29:10,208 --> 00:29:12,288 What do you think is happening there? 722 00:29:12,335 --> 00:29:15,415 - Society is really rough on girls, I think, in general. 723 00:29:15,463 --> 00:29:17,633 Without even social media, I think TV before then 724 00:29:17,674 --> 00:29:20,394 was really big, magazines were really big. 725 00:29:20,427 --> 00:29:22,217 - But now it's like-- - More accessible. 726 00:29:22,262 --> 00:29:23,512 - It's sped up, it's more accessible. 727 00:29:23,555 --> 00:29:25,845 It's right on your phone. It's constant. 728 00:29:25,890 --> 00:29:29,230 It's refreshed every time you put your thumb on the screen. 729 00:29:29,269 --> 00:29:30,939 - So I've struggled with dysthymia 730 00:29:30,979 --> 00:29:32,809 since I was seven, which if you don't know what that is, 731 00:29:32,856 --> 00:29:34,016 it's like chronic depression. 732 00:29:34,065 --> 00:29:35,395 - OK. 733 00:29:35,442 --> 00:29:36,992 - So for me, the reason I started social media 734 00:29:37,027 --> 00:29:38,737 was to make other people laugh. 735 00:29:38,778 --> 00:29:40,568 Doing all these comedy skits and, like, 736 00:29:40,613 --> 00:29:42,373 making other people happy was, like, my escape of like, 737 00:29:42,407 --> 00:29:44,157 you know, being in my own head. 738 00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:45,660 - Yeah. 739 00:29:45,702 --> 00:29:47,502 - Can you talk about your struggles with depression 740 00:29:47,537 --> 00:29:48,997 with your followers, or have you? 741 00:29:49,039 --> 00:29:50,209 - I have. 742 00:29:50,248 --> 00:29:51,118 I'm in therapy, and they know that. 743 00:29:51,166 --> 00:29:52,326 - OK. 744 00:29:52,375 --> 00:29:53,745 - I feel like I'm very open with that 745 00:29:53,793 --> 00:29:55,673 because I think it's very important for my supporters, 746 00:29:55,712 --> 00:29:57,052 just being like, if you are struggling, like, 747 00:29:57,088 --> 00:29:58,718 it's OK to get help if they need it. 748 00:29:58,757 --> 00:30:00,337 Or I tell them all the time, "If you need somebody 749 00:30:00,383 --> 00:30:01,553 to talk to, just DM me." 750 00:30:01,593 --> 00:30:03,143 Like, I'm always on my phone. 751 00:30:03,178 --> 00:30:04,428 Hey, guys. 752 00:30:04,471 --> 00:30:05,891 I just finished my therapy for the day. 753 00:30:05,930 --> 00:30:07,720 You guys already know how much I love my therapist. 754 00:30:07,766 --> 00:30:10,266 Today we talked about my dysthymia and my PTSD, 755 00:30:10,310 --> 00:30:11,770 and a lot of my triggers and symptoms 756 00:30:11,811 --> 00:30:14,061 have been getting reduced and a lot better. 757 00:30:14,105 --> 00:30:15,815 And I'm like, OK, look at me go! 758 00:30:15,857 --> 00:30:18,897 - So you see this in some ways as a service 759 00:30:18,943 --> 00:30:21,113 to your followers? 760 00:30:21,154 --> 00:30:22,664 - Yeah. 761 00:30:22,697 --> 00:30:25,737 - In one study, fame was the most common life goal 762 00:30:25,784 --> 00:30:28,664 chosen by 10 to 12-year-olds in America. 763 00:30:28,703 --> 00:30:30,583 But as research tells us, fame, 764 00:30:30,622 --> 00:30:33,252 or any form of seeking prestige, 765 00:30:33,291 --> 00:30:35,541 is no path to happiness. 766 00:30:35,585 --> 00:30:37,125 It's the difference between what 767 00:30:37,170 --> 00:30:39,510 psychologists call intrinsic 768 00:30:39,547 --> 00:30:41,587 and extrinsic rewards. 769 00:30:41,633 --> 00:30:43,933 Intrinsic rewards are the good vibes 770 00:30:43,968 --> 00:30:46,928 we feel from doing things we genuinely enjoy. 771 00:30:46,971 --> 00:30:51,431 Extrinsic rewards come from things outside of ourselves. 772 00:30:51,476 --> 00:30:55,266 They're trophies or likes on social media posts. 773 00:30:55,313 --> 00:30:57,403 They make you feel good momentarily, 774 00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:00,940 but long-term, they don't amount to anything. 775 00:31:00,985 --> 00:31:04,355 Aaron, Rave, and Kiera are happy in Los Angeles 776 00:31:04,406 --> 00:31:07,576 because they actually love what they do. 777 00:31:07,617 --> 00:31:10,617 Their work scratches a creative itch for them... 778 00:31:10,662 --> 00:31:12,912 [laughter] 779 00:31:12,956 --> 00:31:15,456 Just as re-enacting SNL sketches did 780 00:31:15,500 --> 00:31:17,960 for me when I was their age. 781 00:31:18,003 --> 00:31:20,803 - I'm just so lucky to be able to be surrounded by people 782 00:31:20,839 --> 00:31:24,799 that, like, love me, are also in the same field as me, 783 00:31:24,843 --> 00:31:26,513 which is also very rare. 784 00:31:26,553 --> 00:31:28,683 I feel like if someone's in the corporate world, 785 00:31:28,722 --> 00:31:30,352 you don't really make friends there, you know? 786 00:31:30,390 --> 00:31:31,980 Everyone's, like, in a little cubicle. 787 00:31:32,017 --> 00:31:33,267 You just make lifelong friends. 788 00:31:33,309 --> 00:31:35,399 - So you found some deep friendships, 789 00:31:35,437 --> 00:31:37,307 not superficial, fly-by-night friendships. 790 00:31:37,355 --> 00:31:38,765 - Mm-hmm. - Yeah. 791 00:31:38,815 --> 00:31:41,895 - They incorporate fun into everything they do, 792 00:31:41,943 --> 00:31:45,453 something I think the people of Thailand would smile upon. 793 00:31:45,488 --> 00:31:47,988 They've even managed to do the impossible: 794 00:31:48,033 --> 00:31:51,833 Make a double-reed woodwind instrument look badass. 795 00:31:51,870 --> 00:31:54,830 Bassoon in the house! 796 00:31:54,873 --> 00:31:58,883 [dramatic bassoon music] 797 00:31:58,918 --> 00:32:01,918 Well, you know, sort of. 798 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:04,840 [bassoon squeaks] 799 00:32:04,883 --> 00:32:07,393 [laughter] 800 00:32:11,556 --> 00:32:13,216 - Can I talk to you for a second? 801 00:32:13,266 --> 00:32:14,596 Hi, I'm Rainn. 802 00:32:14,642 --> 00:32:16,102 - Hi, I know. - Yeah. 803 00:32:16,144 --> 00:32:18,444 Where are you from? - I'm from Manitoba, Canada. 804 00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:22,730 - We're wandering the world looking for bliss. 805 00:32:22,776 --> 00:32:25,316 How is that working for you in Manitoba? 806 00:32:25,362 --> 00:32:27,032 - It's great. - Yeah? 807 00:32:27,072 --> 00:32:28,492 - Absolutely. - OK. 808 00:32:28,531 --> 00:32:30,491 What about in Los Angeles? Have you found much here? 809 00:32:30,533 --> 00:32:31,913 [car engine revs] 810 00:32:31,951 --> 00:32:34,371 - It's a nice place, but I--it's not bliss. 811 00:32:34,412 --> 00:32:36,292 - No? - No. 812 00:32:36,331 --> 00:32:38,291 - But there's palm trees, and beaches, 813 00:32:38,333 --> 00:32:40,673 and minor television celebrities. 814 00:32:40,710 --> 00:32:42,340 - You're not a minor television celebrity. 815 00:32:42,379 --> 00:32:43,709 - Oh, get on with you. 816 00:32:43,755 --> 00:32:45,795 [laughter] 817 00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,130 And now for every self-absorbed actor's 818 00:32:48,176 --> 00:32:49,506 favorite part... 819 00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:53,430 - The part about themselves. 820 00:32:53,473 --> 00:32:55,393 - Well, I know he's on "The Office." 821 00:32:55,433 --> 00:32:58,313 I'm pretty sure that he's got to be Norwegian. 822 00:32:58,353 --> 00:32:59,603 - I know. I was telling her. 823 00:32:59,646 --> 00:33:00,686 I was like, you don't know who Rainn Wilson is? 824 00:33:00,730 --> 00:33:01,860 That's Dwight. [laughs] 825 00:33:01,898 --> 00:33:03,108 - Whoops. 826 00:33:03,149 --> 00:33:05,819 - My friend Ivar is Norwegian, and they have 827 00:33:05,860 --> 00:33:09,240 the exact same round head and bulbous features. 828 00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:12,490 - I have his book signed by him, "The Bassoon King." 829 00:33:12,534 --> 00:33:14,044 I like to watch his YouTube channel. 830 00:33:14,077 --> 00:33:16,197 - I won $500 for doing a monologue 831 00:33:16,246 --> 00:33:17,656 from Dwight from "The Office." 832 00:33:17,706 --> 00:33:19,996 So Dwight is, like, my favorite character. 833 00:33:20,041 --> 00:33:23,091 - I have seen "The Office," but only a few episodes. 834 00:33:23,128 --> 00:33:25,088 - I've never really seen it all the way through. 835 00:33:25,130 --> 00:33:26,880 - Yeah, I mean, it was funny when I saw it. 836 00:33:26,923 --> 00:33:28,883 But you know, I didn't follow up. 837 00:33:30,010 --> 00:33:31,510 - You work in Hollywood long enough 838 00:33:31,553 --> 00:33:34,143 and you come to accept that everyone's got an opinion. 839 00:33:36,016 --> 00:33:38,976 - For me, I think, actually, it would be Dwight, yeah. 840 00:33:39,019 --> 00:33:41,939 - And most of the time, they're right. 841 00:33:41,980 --> 00:33:47,650 * * 842 00:33:48,862 --> 00:33:51,702 After meeting Aaron, Rave, and Kiera, 843 00:33:51,740 --> 00:33:54,740 here I am thinking really, really deep thoughts 844 00:33:54,784 --> 00:33:56,874 while staring at the Pacific Ocean, 845 00:33:56,911 --> 00:33:59,541 and realizing how important priorities are 846 00:33:59,581 --> 00:34:01,581 to surviving here. 847 00:34:01,624 --> 00:34:03,674 With so many tempting distractions, 848 00:34:03,710 --> 00:34:05,960 LA is like a choose-your-own-adventure 849 00:34:06,004 --> 00:34:07,804 novel where most of the outcomes 850 00:34:07,839 --> 00:34:11,469 are leaving town and moving back in with your parents. 851 00:34:11,509 --> 00:34:14,719 I'm reminded of a friend who, thanks to understanding 852 00:34:14,763 --> 00:34:16,603 what she values most in this world, 853 00:34:16,639 --> 00:34:18,889 found true bliss living here. 854 00:34:18,933 --> 00:34:20,893 There's no doorbell. There's no doorbell. 855 00:34:20,935 --> 00:34:23,225 But it wasn't the path she ever imagined. 856 00:34:23,271 --> 00:34:25,111 Ah! - Hello! 857 00:34:25,148 --> 00:34:26,358 - No way! Hi. 858 00:34:26,399 --> 00:34:27,569 - Hi. 859 00:34:27,609 --> 00:34:28,859 - I brought some... 860 00:34:28,902 --> 00:34:30,112 - Yay, thank you so much. - Delicious baked goods. 861 00:34:30,153 --> 00:34:31,493 - I have some coffee and tea for us. 862 00:34:31,529 --> 00:34:33,909 - Oh, great. 863 00:34:33,948 --> 00:34:35,948 I met Ari Meyers over 20 years ago, 864 00:34:35,992 --> 00:34:38,452 when she attended a comedy show I was a part of 865 00:34:38,495 --> 00:34:40,455 called "The New Bozena." 866 00:34:40,497 --> 00:34:43,747 And she made an immediate impression. 867 00:34:43,792 --> 00:34:45,252 The reason I wanted to talk to you is, 868 00:34:45,293 --> 00:34:48,883 your story has really been powerful to me over the years. 869 00:34:48,922 --> 00:34:51,882 I remember you being in this kind of-- 870 00:34:51,925 --> 00:34:54,335 not midlife crisis, but early-life crisis. 871 00:34:54,386 --> 00:34:58,886 It was kind of like, what am I doing with myself? 872 00:34:58,932 --> 00:35:00,642 What am I doing with my life? 873 00:35:00,684 --> 00:35:02,444 What is going to ultimately bring me 874 00:35:02,477 --> 00:35:05,227 the most joy, fulfillment? 875 00:35:05,271 --> 00:35:06,691 Delicious. 876 00:35:06,731 --> 00:35:09,441 Unlike my own long and winding road to stardom, 877 00:35:09,484 --> 00:35:12,364 Ari rose to fame quickly as a talented child actor. 878 00:35:12,404 --> 00:35:14,324 - I started when I was five. 879 00:35:14,364 --> 00:35:16,034 - Oh, wow. - Modeling. 880 00:35:16,074 --> 00:35:18,544 A modeling agency came to my preschool. 881 00:35:18,576 --> 00:35:19,946 - That sounds creepy. 882 00:35:19,994 --> 00:35:21,454 - No, it was for-- - Uh, hey, I'm a, uh-- 883 00:35:21,496 --> 00:35:22,866 I'm a modeling agent. 884 00:35:22,914 --> 00:35:24,124 Let me check out these toddlers. 885 00:35:24,165 --> 00:35:25,785 - It wasn't creepy. 886 00:35:25,834 --> 00:35:27,754 - In her teens, Ari was in a hit sitcom 887 00:35:27,794 --> 00:35:29,214 called "Kate & Allie." 888 00:35:29,254 --> 00:35:30,634 - Chip, I can't do this. 889 00:35:30,672 --> 00:35:31,922 - But you need an image. 890 00:35:31,965 --> 00:35:33,675 - Yes, but not this image. 891 00:35:33,717 --> 00:35:36,177 - And by her early 20s, she was booking gigs 892 00:35:36,219 --> 00:35:38,139 on TV shows and movies. 893 00:35:38,179 --> 00:35:39,759 - I thought it was a very funny script, 894 00:35:39,806 --> 00:35:41,426 so I had a great time. 895 00:35:41,474 --> 00:35:43,184 - She was living the dream. 896 00:35:43,226 --> 00:35:45,806 Well, at least my dream. 897 00:35:45,854 --> 00:35:47,484 Do you miss show business at all? 898 00:35:47,522 --> 00:35:50,322 - No. [laughter] 899 00:35:50,358 --> 00:35:51,398 No. - No? 900 00:35:51,443 --> 00:35:53,033 - I just was, like, not happy. 901 00:35:53,069 --> 00:35:56,779 A lot of it had to do with focus on appearance. 902 00:35:56,823 --> 00:35:58,743 I think for women, it's probably 903 00:35:58,783 --> 00:36:00,123 a very different thing. 904 00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,620 And I had some experiences that were challenging, 905 00:36:02,662 --> 00:36:05,042 even when I was a teenager, with that focus. 906 00:36:05,081 --> 00:36:07,921 You know, being--she's too heavy, she's too skinny, 907 00:36:07,959 --> 00:36:11,129 she's too--you know, I think that kind of just got 908 00:36:11,171 --> 00:36:13,841 into my head, that it became more about that. 909 00:36:13,882 --> 00:36:15,802 And it was never comfortable for me. 910 00:36:15,842 --> 00:36:18,392 - Mm. - Never comfortable. 911 00:36:18,428 --> 00:36:20,758 - Being an actor in LA is one 912 00:36:20,805 --> 00:36:24,175 of the most narcissistic professions there is. 913 00:36:24,225 --> 00:36:27,975 It's all about who likes me, how do I look, 914 00:36:28,021 --> 00:36:30,021 do you want me, will you hire me? 915 00:36:30,065 --> 00:36:31,855 It's all just me, me, me, me, me. 916 00:36:31,900 --> 00:36:35,110 But you shifted from a career that was all about me 917 00:36:35,153 --> 00:36:38,033 to a career that was all about you, 918 00:36:38,073 --> 00:36:40,663 that's all about taking care of people, 919 00:36:40,700 --> 00:36:44,500 that's all about serving other people. 920 00:36:44,537 --> 00:36:46,327 What does that feel like? 921 00:36:46,373 --> 00:36:48,503 - Amazing. Such a relief. 922 00:36:48,541 --> 00:36:51,501 I was just like... [sighs] 923 00:36:51,544 --> 00:36:53,214 It's amazing. 924 00:36:53,254 --> 00:36:55,554 - Ari is now a labor and delivery nurse 925 00:36:55,590 --> 00:36:57,180 and postpartum doula, 926 00:36:57,217 --> 00:36:59,637 helping families through this terrifying 927 00:36:59,678 --> 00:37:01,888 and euphoric stage of their lives. 928 00:37:01,930 --> 00:37:04,220 Having been there when my wife endured 929 00:37:04,265 --> 00:37:07,765 a pretty harrowing birth of our own son, Walter, 930 00:37:07,811 --> 00:37:10,401 I'm in awe of the work Ari does. 931 00:37:10,438 --> 00:37:12,858 - I'm the one there to sort of take care of the baby, 932 00:37:12,899 --> 00:37:14,979 monitor the baby, take vital signs. 933 00:37:15,026 --> 00:37:16,646 And it's incredible. - Mm-hmm. 934 00:37:16,695 --> 00:37:18,235 - It's incredible. 935 00:37:18,279 --> 00:37:21,069 And you get to see parents see their baby for the first time, 936 00:37:21,116 --> 00:37:23,406 and facilitate that, and be present for that. 937 00:37:23,451 --> 00:37:26,331 - I remember you talking about this, changing bedpans... 938 00:37:26,371 --> 00:37:27,871 - Yes. - And catheters. 939 00:37:27,914 --> 00:37:30,834 You are not the person I would have ever expected to, 940 00:37:30,875 --> 00:37:32,745 like, roll up your sleeves and jump into that. 941 00:37:32,794 --> 00:37:35,674 - I discovered that nursing is so much more. 942 00:37:35,714 --> 00:37:37,924 Like, it's physiology. It's science. 943 00:37:37,966 --> 00:37:40,086 But you are also that emotional support. 944 00:37:40,135 --> 00:37:42,215 - Mm-hmm. 945 00:37:42,262 --> 00:37:45,222 [soft music] 946 00:37:45,265 --> 00:37:47,845 * * 947 00:37:47,892 --> 00:37:50,272 Ari also does home visits after families 948 00:37:50,311 --> 00:37:51,811 have left the hospital. 949 00:37:51,855 --> 00:37:53,435 Are there ugly babies, though? - There aren't. 950 00:37:53,481 --> 00:37:54,861 - Like, really, seriously? - There aren't. 951 00:37:54,899 --> 00:37:56,439 Hi. - Hello. 952 00:37:56,484 --> 00:37:57,654 - Hi! - Hi, how are you? 953 00:37:57,694 --> 00:37:59,454 - This is Jiri. This is my friend Rainn. 954 00:37:59,487 --> 00:38:02,027 Thank you so much for letting him shadow me today. 955 00:38:02,073 --> 00:38:05,583 - Ari is checking in on mom Alex and dad Jiri, 956 00:38:05,618 --> 00:38:08,578 who she helped after the birth of their son, Luka. 957 00:38:08,621 --> 00:38:11,041 Come here, Luka. Come here, Luka. 958 00:38:11,082 --> 00:38:14,042 - But he came out healthy, happy, and he's been-- 959 00:38:14,085 --> 00:38:16,705 - Healthy and happy, and look at that smile. 960 00:38:16,755 --> 00:38:18,255 Oh! 961 00:38:18,298 --> 00:38:19,508 You're gonna be a big star, Luka. 962 00:38:19,549 --> 00:38:22,009 A big star. 963 00:38:22,052 --> 00:38:24,142 And what kind of help did Ari give you guys? 964 00:38:24,179 --> 00:38:25,429 - Everything. 965 00:38:25,472 --> 00:38:27,682 Just basically normalizing feelings that I had. 966 00:38:27,724 --> 00:38:29,604 I was able to talk through, you know, 967 00:38:29,642 --> 00:38:32,692 things that were upsetting me, things that I had doubts about. 968 00:38:32,729 --> 00:38:34,939 And you know, it was all OK. 969 00:38:34,981 --> 00:38:36,981 And it was all OK to talk about. 970 00:38:37,025 --> 00:38:38,985 - I don't know about you, but me, at least, 971 00:38:39,027 --> 00:38:42,157 I always felt this, like, calm when she was here. 972 00:38:42,197 --> 00:38:45,327 Like, there's someone here who wants to help us 973 00:38:45,367 --> 00:38:46,987 and who knows what they're doing. 974 00:38:47,035 --> 00:38:48,495 - OK, what do you need? What's going on? 975 00:38:48,536 --> 00:38:50,036 - What do you think he needs? You think he needs food? 976 00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:52,040 - I think he needs some food. - All right, come here. 977 00:38:52,082 --> 00:38:55,042 Oh, my goodness. Oh, my goodness. 978 00:38:55,085 --> 00:38:56,585 Go crazy. 979 00:38:56,628 --> 00:38:59,168 - [chuckles] 980 00:38:59,214 --> 00:39:01,424 - Have you found bliss in this work? 981 00:39:03,218 --> 00:39:04,508 - I think I have. 982 00:39:04,552 --> 00:39:06,722 If you can find something that you love to do 983 00:39:06,763 --> 00:39:09,723 that is also of service and actually helping someone... 984 00:39:09,766 --> 00:39:12,636 - Who gives a shit about auditions and red carpets? 985 00:39:12,686 --> 00:39:16,226 Los Angeles makes it too easy to fixate on the wrong things, 986 00:39:16,272 --> 00:39:18,862 something that I'm frequently guilty of. 987 00:39:18,900 --> 00:39:20,740 [gasps] Good job. 988 00:39:20,777 --> 00:39:22,987 How about a roll over? Come on. 989 00:39:23,029 --> 00:39:25,119 Part of my transformation these past months 990 00:39:25,156 --> 00:39:27,196 has been learning to cut through the noise 991 00:39:27,242 --> 00:39:29,702 and focus on what actually matters. 992 00:39:29,744 --> 00:39:31,374 It's a cliché, sure. 993 00:39:31,413 --> 00:39:34,463 But my God, is it an important one. 994 00:39:34,499 --> 00:39:38,039 Well, you know that Walter's birth was 995 00:39:38,086 --> 00:39:41,046 incredibly traumatic, and he almost died, 996 00:39:41,089 --> 00:39:43,549 and Holiday almost died. 997 00:39:43,591 --> 00:39:48,391 But that moment was one of the most powerful moments 998 00:39:48,430 --> 00:39:50,310 of my life, and I think of anyone's life, 999 00:39:50,348 --> 00:39:53,348 but especially almost losing the baby. 1000 00:39:53,393 --> 00:39:56,353 And then he was brought out to me and put in my arms 1001 00:39:56,396 --> 00:39:59,436 as I sat in this hallway with blood on the floor. 1002 00:39:59,482 --> 00:40:00,902 - Yeah. 1003 00:40:00,942 --> 00:40:04,742 - And I looked into his eyes, and... 1004 00:40:04,779 --> 00:40:07,949 it was really 1005 00:40:07,991 --> 00:40:09,661 unbelievable. 1006 00:40:09,701 --> 00:40:12,751 And it was a series of emotions that I didn't know I had. 1007 00:40:12,787 --> 00:40:15,287 It was kind of a pride and elation, 1008 00:40:15,331 --> 00:40:18,341 and a wonder at the miracle of life itself. 1009 00:40:18,376 --> 00:40:21,876 And it's utterly-- it's transformative. 1010 00:40:21,921 --> 00:40:23,261 - Yeah. 1011 00:40:23,298 --> 00:40:24,718 - And you get to be a part of that every week. 1012 00:40:24,758 --> 00:40:27,968 - Yeah, in its purest form. It's sacred, you know. 1013 00:40:28,011 --> 00:40:31,771 You're with people in the most vulnerable parts 1014 00:40:31,806 --> 00:40:33,516 of their life. 1015 00:40:37,937 --> 00:40:40,977 And they're allowing you to be there. 1016 00:40:41,024 --> 00:40:44,034 - Ari had a vision of what life in Los Angeles would be, 1017 00:40:44,069 --> 00:40:45,899 but found emptiness. 1018 00:40:45,945 --> 00:40:48,365 So she adapted, 1019 00:40:48,406 --> 00:40:51,276 an ability which I learned makes people in Iceland 1020 00:40:51,326 --> 00:40:53,286 some of the happiest in the world. 1021 00:40:53,328 --> 00:40:56,118 It's a beautiful thing to realize that just because you 1022 00:40:56,164 --> 00:40:57,924 find yourself on one path-- 1023 00:40:57,957 --> 00:41:00,457 professional, emotional, spiritual-- 1024 00:41:00,502 --> 00:41:03,132 doesn't mean you're destined to stay on it. 1025 00:41:03,171 --> 00:41:06,301 Perhaps happiness in LA means being able 1026 00:41:06,341 --> 00:41:09,391 to redefine yourself on your own terms, 1027 00:41:09,427 --> 00:41:14,307 whether that's from actress to nurse or, in my case, 1028 00:41:14,349 --> 00:41:19,019 from unhappy to figuring it out. 1029 00:41:25,443 --> 00:41:27,613 - For the most part, on good days. 1030 00:41:27,654 --> 00:41:29,454 I don't know if happiness is a place 1031 00:41:29,489 --> 00:41:31,619 I'm resting 100% of the time, 1032 00:41:31,658 --> 00:41:34,738 but it is a place that I get to visit a lot. 1033 00:41:34,786 --> 00:41:37,576 - Family and friends are what make me happy. 1034 00:41:37,622 --> 00:41:39,792 You can have all of the money in the world. 1035 00:41:39,833 --> 00:41:41,083 You can have the best job. 1036 00:41:41,126 --> 00:41:43,166 But if you don't have those people near you 1037 00:41:43,211 --> 00:41:45,051 who support you and believe in you, 1038 00:41:45,088 --> 00:41:46,338 it's not worth it. 1039 00:41:46,381 --> 00:41:49,591 - Life's [bleep] hard, and, 1040 00:41:49,634 --> 00:41:52,894 you know, it's difficult to admit that. 1041 00:41:52,929 --> 00:41:55,889 We just have to keep trying, and don't get stuck. 1042 00:41:55,932 --> 00:41:58,392 - Finding things that you love and people that you love, 1043 00:41:58,435 --> 00:42:00,975 and surrounding yourself with that, 1044 00:42:01,021 --> 00:42:02,111 I think that's the best you can do, 1045 00:42:02,147 --> 00:42:03,477 no matter where you live. 1046 00:42:03,523 --> 00:42:05,863 - I think I'm still working on finding my happiness. 1047 00:42:05,900 --> 00:42:07,240 But I do understand 1048 00:42:07,277 --> 00:42:08,607 it's a journey, and I know I'll get there. 1049 00:42:08,653 --> 00:42:10,743 - I don't know, just an appreciation for life 1050 00:42:10,780 --> 00:42:15,290 and this world because everything's crazy. 1051 00:42:15,326 --> 00:42:16,366 [laughs] 1052 00:42:16,411 --> 00:42:18,621 - We just got married. - We're married. 1053 00:42:18,663 --> 00:42:20,753 - [laughs] 1054 00:42:20,790 --> 00:42:22,420 - And I'm eating pastrami. 1055 00:42:22,459 --> 00:42:24,339 - Relationships with people that I love 1056 00:42:24,377 --> 00:42:26,497 brings me the most joy in life, for sure. 1057 00:42:26,546 --> 00:42:28,166 - I love him. 1058 00:42:28,214 --> 00:42:30,684 - [laughs] - And I love him. 1059 00:42:30,717 --> 00:42:32,087 [laughs] 1060 00:42:32,135 --> 00:42:35,255 - Happiness has more to do with, like, 1061 00:42:35,305 --> 00:42:36,715 how you feel about yourself. 1062 00:42:36,765 --> 00:42:38,345 It's more of, like, a long-term thing. 1063 00:42:38,391 --> 00:42:41,141 - The happiest I've ever felt is right now. 1064 00:42:41,186 --> 00:42:44,186 [upbeat music] 1065 00:42:45,357 --> 00:42:47,317 - Was that awkward? 1066 00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:49,990 - Was it good? - Aww! 1067 00:42:50,028 --> 00:42:53,028 [laughter] 1068 00:42:53,073 --> 00:42:56,163 - In my life, there's one person who constantly keeps me 1069 00:42:56,201 --> 00:42:57,661 from going off the rails-- 1070 00:42:57,702 --> 00:42:59,702 someone who it's been especially difficult 1071 00:42:59,746 --> 00:43:03,076 being away from while running around planet Earth. 1072 00:43:03,124 --> 00:43:05,844 I first met her in an acting class in the mid '80s. 1073 00:43:05,877 --> 00:43:08,507 And while the whole notion of love at first sight 1074 00:43:08,546 --> 00:43:12,676 seems kind of crazy, that's exactly what happened. 1075 00:43:12,717 --> 00:43:16,507 This is my wife, author Holiday Reinhorn. 1076 00:43:16,554 --> 00:43:19,274 I have really learned from you over the years. 1077 00:43:19,307 --> 00:43:21,847 You know, we both struggle with anxiety, 1078 00:43:21,893 --> 00:43:24,483 but I'm consistently the one 1079 00:43:24,521 --> 00:43:26,861 that's kind of more emotionally reactive. 1080 00:43:26,898 --> 00:43:28,398 I'm more anxious. 1081 00:43:28,441 --> 00:43:30,191 I'm kind of--I'm the one who's a little more stuck 1082 00:43:30,235 --> 00:43:31,565 in my head, from here on up. 1083 00:43:31,611 --> 00:43:32,491 - Mm. 1084 00:43:32,529 --> 00:43:35,529 - And I really admire, like, 1085 00:43:35,573 --> 00:43:39,083 your dailiness and your weekly practice. 1086 00:43:39,119 --> 00:43:40,199 Basically what I'm saying is, 1087 00:43:40,245 --> 00:43:41,575 I shouldn't have traveled the world. 1088 00:43:41,621 --> 00:43:43,671 I should have just talked to you. 1089 00:43:43,707 --> 00:43:46,627 How do you think bliss and happiness work? 1090 00:43:46,668 --> 00:43:49,378 Where do they come from? How do you find yours? 1091 00:43:49,421 --> 00:43:52,471 - I used to have these elaborate, like, to-do lists, 1092 00:43:52,507 --> 00:43:55,677 and when Walter was like five or six, 1093 00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:57,099 he was like, "What's on that list?" 1094 00:43:57,137 --> 00:43:58,387 You know, and I was like, you do yours. 1095 00:43:58,430 --> 00:44:01,350 And his was like, go see if I can see a coyote, 1096 00:44:01,391 --> 00:44:02,851 play in the creek, 1097 00:44:02,892 --> 00:44:05,602 count how many birds are in the trees, you know. 1098 00:44:05,645 --> 00:44:07,015 And he did it. 1099 00:44:07,063 --> 00:44:08,613 And he like, checked off his list. 1100 00:44:08,648 --> 00:44:10,478 And I was like, "What was your favorite thing?" 1101 00:44:10,525 --> 00:44:12,185 And he's like, "I don't have favorite things. 1102 00:44:12,235 --> 00:44:14,445 Everything is my favorite." 1103 00:44:14,487 --> 00:44:17,367 And I was like, hmm, you know, I love that idea, 1104 00:44:17,407 --> 00:44:22,867 that the worst possible thing can have happiness in it. 1105 00:44:22,912 --> 00:44:25,752 You've traveled all over the place doing jobs, 1106 00:44:25,790 --> 00:44:28,840 and this time we were in, like, a 15-hour time difference. 1107 00:44:28,877 --> 00:44:31,087 So you were waking up, and I was going to bed, 1108 00:44:31,129 --> 00:44:33,299 vice versa, which is the worst time. 1109 00:44:33,340 --> 00:44:35,760 But it was the best time ever for us. 1110 00:44:35,800 --> 00:44:40,560 Like, it was a little bit like the bliss transferred over. 1111 00:44:40,597 --> 00:44:42,427 - It does shift your perspective 1112 00:44:42,474 --> 00:44:45,234 when you spend every day talking to people 1113 00:44:45,268 --> 00:44:47,308 about finding joy and bliss. 1114 00:44:47,354 --> 00:44:50,024 - Yeah, you can't really be with a monk all day 1115 00:44:50,065 --> 00:44:52,315 and then come home and have a big fight with your wife. 1116 00:44:52,359 --> 00:44:53,649 It would feel weird. 1117 00:44:53,693 --> 00:44:55,283 [chuckles] 1118 00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:57,360 - Part of what I've learned on my travels 1119 00:44:57,405 --> 00:45:02,325 is expressing gratitude, and I'm so grateful to you. 1120 00:45:03,370 --> 00:45:05,290 - Thank you. - I love you so much. 1121 00:45:05,330 --> 00:45:06,790 - Oh, my God. 1122 00:45:06,831 --> 00:45:08,211 [laughs] 1123 00:45:08,249 --> 00:45:11,459 [upbeat music] 1124 00:45:11,503 --> 00:45:13,963 - And so now, after traveling the world, 1125 00:45:14,005 --> 00:45:16,505 swimming in the frozen waters of the North Atlantic, 1126 00:45:16,549 --> 00:45:19,139 and getting my ass kicked by a teenager, 1127 00:45:19,177 --> 00:45:23,637 the million-dollar question is, am I happier? 1128 00:45:23,682 --> 00:45:25,932 * * 1129 00:45:25,975 --> 00:45:28,185 If I'm being honest with myself, 1130 00:45:28,228 --> 00:45:31,478 the answer isn't black and white. 1131 00:45:31,523 --> 00:45:33,193 I certainly understand much more 1132 00:45:33,233 --> 00:45:35,493 about the nature of happiness, 1133 00:45:35,527 --> 00:45:38,317 but only a fool would make sweeping generalizations 1134 00:45:38,363 --> 00:45:40,573 about something so important. 1135 00:45:42,033 --> 00:45:43,833 So here I go. 1136 00:45:45,912 --> 00:45:48,252 Friends are essential. 1137 00:45:49,082 --> 00:45:51,632 So is family. 1138 00:45:51,668 --> 00:45:53,378 Opa! 1139 00:45:54,587 --> 00:45:57,377 Expressing yourself means everything. 1140 00:45:58,675 --> 00:46:02,255 A noise in your head means nothing. 1141 00:46:04,014 --> 00:46:05,394 We can learn to adapt... 1142 00:46:05,432 --> 00:46:08,732 Oh, oh, ahh! 1143 00:46:08,768 --> 00:46:10,728 And to change our perspective. 1144 00:46:10,770 --> 00:46:13,400 Two Elton Johns. You know Elton John? 1145 00:46:13,440 --> 00:46:15,530 Beaches may be optional... 1146 00:46:15,567 --> 00:46:18,317 This is absolutely nuts. 1147 00:46:18,361 --> 00:46:21,531 But trust in those around us is not. 1148 00:46:21,573 --> 00:46:23,873 All right. Let's call it a day. 1149 00:46:23,908 --> 00:46:26,288 Embrace nature in all its glory... 1150 00:46:26,327 --> 00:46:29,707 Aghh! 1151 00:46:29,748 --> 00:46:30,828 [laughs] 1152 00:46:30,874 --> 00:46:32,384 And have as much fun for the sake 1153 00:46:32,417 --> 00:46:34,537 of freaking fun while you still can. 1154 00:46:34,586 --> 00:46:37,706 [cheers and applause] 1155 00:46:38,757 --> 00:46:40,177 Walter's gonna play a little bit. 1156 00:46:40,216 --> 00:46:41,626 - OK. 1157 00:46:41,676 --> 00:46:44,006 - Most importantly, I've learned there are 1158 00:46:44,054 --> 00:46:46,644 infinite paths to happiness. 1159 00:46:46,681 --> 00:46:49,731 It's the Tolstoy quote turned on its head: 1160 00:46:49,768 --> 00:46:52,728 Miserable places are all alike, 1161 00:46:52,771 --> 00:46:55,901 and happy ones are happy in their own ways. 1162 00:46:55,940 --> 00:46:57,690 Not bad. 1163 00:46:58,610 --> 00:47:01,280 And so my journey doesn't end here. 1164 00:47:01,321 --> 00:47:04,411 The geography of bliss is a constantly moving target 1165 00:47:04,449 --> 00:47:07,289 and a lifelong endeavor. 1166 00:47:08,620 --> 00:47:11,160 Which begs the question, 1167 00:47:11,206 --> 00:47:13,706 where's next on this joy ride? 1168 00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:17,250 - All right, awesome. 1169 00:47:17,295 --> 00:47:19,755 Rainn, I feel good about this. - OK. 1170 00:47:19,798 --> 00:47:21,678 - Unless there's another piece you--I think it's great. 1171 00:47:21,716 --> 00:47:24,256 I think we're good. - OK. 1172 00:47:24,302 --> 00:47:25,722 - Sound speeding? 1173 00:47:25,762 --> 00:47:27,062 - You don't have anything bigger 1174 00:47:27,097 --> 00:47:28,467 and more ridiculous-looking than this? 1175 00:47:28,515 --> 00:47:29,715 [bird squawks] 1176 00:47:29,766 --> 00:47:31,016 - Again-- [horn honks] 1177 00:47:31,059 --> 00:47:32,939 - High fives, high fives. 1178 00:47:32,977 --> 00:47:34,227 Anybody want a high five? 1179 00:47:34,270 --> 00:47:36,270 - High five. 1180 00:47:36,314 --> 00:47:39,074 High fives. Come on, Oleg. 1181 00:47:39,109 --> 00:47:40,109 Pew! 1182 00:47:40,151 --> 00:47:41,651 - Yeah.