1 00:00:01,043 --> 00:00:04,256 [♪ "Paint The Town Red" by Doja Cat playing] 2 00:00:05,006 --> 00:00:07,050 ♪ Walk on by ♪ 3 00:00:08,009 --> 00:00:11,012 You guys, I am standing outside a TV studio 4 00:00:11,096 --> 00:00:13,807 because I'm about to do something that I have never done before. 5 00:00:13,890 --> 00:00:18,520 I am going to be on the legendary Kris & Chris show! 6 00:00:18,603 --> 00:00:21,231 And it's all because you guys responded to the TED Talk 7 00:00:21,314 --> 00:00:22,774 and you made it go viral. 8 00:00:22,857 --> 00:00:24,442 So, tune in! 9 00:00:24,526 --> 00:00:27,320 And if you can't, just wish me luck, or a broken leg, 10 00:00:27,404 --> 00:00:30,615 or whatever it is you say to somebody who's gonna be on TV for the first time! 11 00:00:30,699 --> 00:00:32,199 ♪ Trick, I said what I said ♪ 12 00:00:32,284 --> 00:00:34,619 ♪ I'd rather be famous instead ♪ 13 00:00:34,703 --> 00:00:36,997 ♪ I let all that get to my head ♪ 14 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:39,416 ♪ I don't care, I paint the town red ♪ 15 00:00:39,499 --> 00:00:41,835 ♪ Trick, I said what I said ♪ 16 00:00:41,918 --> 00:00:44,212 ♪ I'd rather be famous instead ♪ 17 00:00:44,296 --> 00:00:46,298 ♪ I let all that get to my head ♪ 18 00:00:46,381 --> 00:00:49,009 ♪ I don't care, I paint the town red ♪ 19 00:00:49,092 --> 00:00:52,304 [producer] And we're back in five, four, three... 20 00:00:52,387 --> 00:00:54,014 -[studio bell rings] -two. 21 00:00:54,681 --> 00:00:57,225 Welcome back to Twin Cities This Morning! 22 00:00:57,309 --> 00:00:59,519 Well, the holidays are just around the corner 23 00:00:59,603 --> 00:01:00,687 and that means family. 24 00:01:00,770 --> 00:01:02,647 The big question this time of year is: 25 00:01:02,731 --> 00:01:06,776 how do you survive your own DNA without box wine? [laughs] 26 00:01:06,860 --> 00:01:09,362 Joinin' us now are two therapists: 27 00:01:09,446 --> 00:01:14,451 Paige Alexander, who recently went viral with her TED Talk about her dad's arrest. 28 00:01:14,534 --> 00:01:16,286 [Paige Alexander] Thank you so much for having me. 29 00:01:16,369 --> 00:01:19,748 And Murphy Collins, best-selling author of the book 30 00:01:19,831 --> 00:01:21,833 Full Frontal Family Therapy. 31 00:01:21,917 --> 00:01:23,293 -Paige. -[Paige] Yes? 32 00:01:23,376 --> 00:01:26,213 I-Is there a hack to dealing with difficult family members? 33 00:01:26,296 --> 00:01:29,216 There is. In therapy, we have something called "detachment," 34 00:01:29,299 --> 00:01:31,301 and that is when you get off the rollercoaster 35 00:01:31,384 --> 00:01:33,386 of riding up and down over 36 00:01:33,470 --> 00:01:35,680 what somebody else is doing, or not doing, 37 00:01:35,764 --> 00:01:37,098 or did, or didn't do. 38 00:01:37,182 --> 00:01:38,391 Because the truth is 39 00:01:38,475 --> 00:01:40,894 that I, I know I can't control my family members, 40 00:01:40,977 --> 00:01:43,897 and so, I cannot let their chaos affect my life. 41 00:01:43,980 --> 00:01:45,357 I don't buy it. 42 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:47,859 Look, you seem like a nice lady and all, but detachment? 43 00:01:47,943 --> 00:01:49,277 -Really? I mean, come on. -[Paige] Yeah. 44 00:01:49,361 --> 00:01:51,446 That sounds like somethin' from the marriage and family therapy 45 00:01:51,529 --> 00:01:53,281 -industrial complex. -Excuse me? 46 00:01:53,365 --> 00:01:55,367 Y-You know, if you're detached, that means that you want 47 00:01:55,450 --> 00:01:57,619 the other person to change, that you can stay the same. 48 00:01:57,702 --> 00:01:59,287 See, I believe that you should change, 49 00:01:59,371 --> 00:02:00,705 that you should do the work on yourself. 50 00:02:00,789 --> 00:02:04,334 Well, I believe that we can free ourselves 51 00:02:04,417 --> 00:02:06,711 by giving people space to make their own choices, 52 00:02:06,795 --> 00:02:08,505 and not controlling the outcomes. 53 00:02:08,588 --> 00:02:11,299 And that's what I'm doing in my family. 54 00:02:11,383 --> 00:02:13,176 -And how do you do that? -But-- Well-- But hold on a second. 55 00:02:13,260 --> 00:02:15,804 If-- But if you're willing to be different, right, 56 00:02:15,887 --> 00:02:17,889 then you don't have to be distant. 57 00:02:17,973 --> 00:02:19,766 So, uh, Paige, um, how's your dad doin'? 58 00:02:19,849 --> 00:02:21,851 Um, my dad is great. 59 00:02:21,935 --> 00:02:24,563 You know, he did get arrested, but the charges were dropped, 60 00:02:24,646 --> 00:02:26,314 and so, he's-he's fine. 61 00:02:26,398 --> 00:02:27,983 -Hm. Fine, huh? -Yeah. 62 00:02:28,066 --> 00:02:29,693 -What's your dad's name? -[Chris and Kris] Edwin. 63 00:02:29,776 --> 00:02:30,902 -Yeah. -Edwin. 64 00:02:30,986 --> 00:02:32,529 -[Kris laughs] -How-How do you think 65 00:02:32,612 --> 00:02:34,864 detachment feels to dear Edwin? 66 00:02:35,615 --> 00:02:37,826 Dear Edwin feels... 67 00:02:37,909 --> 00:02:40,370 -pretty messed up about that, Murph. -[Murphy Collins] [on TV] What I do, 68 00:02:40,453 --> 00:02:42,163 -and it's a simple thing that a lot... -[phone ringing] 69 00:02:42,247 --> 00:02:44,040 ...of people do, but take a deep breath in, everybody. 70 00:02:44,124 --> 00:02:46,668 And then, really feel them right now. 71 00:02:46,751 --> 00:02:48,128 Feel their anger. 72 00:02:48,211 --> 00:02:50,338 [Edwin Alexander] [on voicemail] You've reached Edwin Alexander. 73 00:02:50,422 --> 00:02:52,591 Leave me a message. Have a blessed day. 74 00:02:52,674 --> 00:02:53,675 [Murphy] Feel their hurt. 75 00:02:53,758 --> 00:02:57,137 I do think that sometimes when it comes to generational trauma, 76 00:02:57,220 --> 00:02:58,430 you need more than just basic 77 00:02:58,513 --> 00:03:00,348 -meditation techniques. -Oh, I agree with you. I agree with you. 78 00:03:00,432 --> 00:03:01,975 -You need more than that. -Yeah, yeah. 79 00:03:02,058 --> 00:03:04,269 It-- You need advanced meditation techniques. 80 00:03:04,352 --> 00:03:05,687 That's what I do. 81 00:03:05,770 --> 00:03:07,606 [Little Paige] [echoing] Don't let this fool rattle you! 82 00:03:07,689 --> 00:03:09,107 He don't know you! 83 00:03:09,190 --> 00:03:10,650 I mean, not to trauma rank, 84 00:03:10,734 --> 00:03:14,321 but does he have 9 out of 10 adverse childhood experiences? 85 00:03:14,404 --> 00:03:15,614 No! 86 00:03:15,697 --> 00:03:18,158 [singsong] Then we can't hear him. 87 00:03:18,533 --> 00:03:21,453 Now, wait a minute. I saw your TED Talk. 88 00:03:21,536 --> 00:03:22,829 -You did one, right? I did three. -Yeah, I did-- 89 00:03:22,913 --> 00:03:24,706 Wasn't it about like, what, being yourself 90 00:03:24,789 --> 00:03:26,416 -or something, right? -Yeah. Who you want to be. 91 00:03:26,499 --> 00:03:28,126 Who you want to be. That's it! Yeah. 92 00:03:28,209 --> 00:03:29,669 Is this who you wanna be? 93 00:03:29,753 --> 00:03:31,171 You wanna be detached from your family? 94 00:03:31,254 --> 00:03:33,215 -Is that what-- -That's not what I meant. 95 00:03:33,298 --> 00:03:35,467 -[Murphy] Well, what does it mean? -[Paige] [chuckles] Um, I-- 96 00:03:35,550 --> 00:03:36,635 This is not about my family. 97 00:03:36,718 --> 00:03:39,346 This is about our-- the families out there-- 98 00:03:39,429 --> 00:03:41,765 -Well, then-- -You know, 'cause we're fine. I'm fine. 99 00:03:42,182 --> 00:03:45,018 [Kris Walker] When we come back, we'll answer the question, 100 00:03:45,101 --> 00:03:47,103 are skinny jeans really over? 101 00:03:47,187 --> 00:03:49,689 -Coming up after the break. -[studio bell rings] 102 00:03:49,773 --> 00:03:52,400 ♪♪ 103 00:03:52,484 --> 00:03:53,902 -[Little Paige] Girl. -[yelps] Oh! 104 00:03:53,985 --> 00:03:55,695 That was brutal. 105 00:03:55,779 --> 00:03:58,740 Why are you here? [stammers] I talked to you about this. 106 00:03:58,823 --> 00:04:00,158 I don't, I don't need you here. 107 00:04:00,242 --> 00:04:02,744 You're-- You need to go and play and do little kid things. 108 00:04:02,827 --> 00:04:05,121 I am an adult. I got this. 109 00:04:05,205 --> 00:04:07,123 -Do you though? -Yes! 110 00:04:07,207 --> 00:04:09,501 I mean, I saw you up there, sweating under those lights, 111 00:04:09,584 --> 00:04:11,795 and I was like, "This woman needs help." 112 00:04:11,878 --> 00:04:13,964 But I don't. Okay? I'm-I'm good. 113 00:04:14,047 --> 00:04:15,632 I'm doing things differently. 114 00:04:15,715 --> 00:04:18,176 I'm not gonna let my dad, or anybody else, 115 00:04:18,260 --> 00:04:20,762 come into my life and turn it upside down. 116 00:04:20,845 --> 00:04:22,430 -That sounds good. -Yes. 117 00:04:22,514 --> 00:04:23,848 Too bad it's not gonna happen. 118 00:04:23,932 --> 00:04:25,016 What? 119 00:04:25,100 --> 00:04:28,103 [♪ "Sick of It" by Jean Dawson playing] 120 00:04:28,186 --> 00:04:30,397 ♪♪ 121 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:33,483 [song continues on radio] 122 00:04:37,487 --> 00:04:39,155 [biker] Hey! Watch where you're going! 123 00:04:39,239 --> 00:04:40,657 -Oh, shit! -[biker] What the hell are you doing 124 00:04:40,740 --> 00:04:41,866 going in my lane? 125 00:04:41,950 --> 00:04:43,451 [car crashing] 126 00:04:44,327 --> 00:04:45,579 Serves you right! 127 00:04:46,955 --> 00:04:49,165 That's what happens when you're not paying attention! 128 00:04:49,249 --> 00:04:51,251 ["Sick of It" continues] 129 00:04:54,004 --> 00:04:55,922 ♪♪ 130 00:04:56,006 --> 00:04:57,173 [Paige] [in phone video] We're fine. I'm fine. 131 00:04:57,257 --> 00:04:58,967 -[Murphy] [in video] You're fine? -[Paige] I'm fine. 132 00:04:59,050 --> 00:05:02,637 They made her look terrible, but she also looks great. 133 00:05:02,721 --> 00:05:04,097 As she does. 134 00:05:04,180 --> 00:05:07,017 When they weren't making her look so sweaty. 135 00:05:07,434 --> 00:05:10,687 [chuckles] Yeah. Hey, go ahead. 136 00:05:11,021 --> 00:05:13,481 Thanks, baby. [sighs] 137 00:05:13,565 --> 00:05:15,817 [Edwin] I was tryna stay away to make things easier for her. 138 00:05:15,901 --> 00:05:17,527 Seemed like it just made things worse. 139 00:05:17,611 --> 00:05:20,614 Oh, don't blame yourself, Edwin. 140 00:05:20,697 --> 00:05:23,658 -Let Paige do it for you. -[chuckles] Yeah, how 'bout that. 141 00:05:24,492 --> 00:05:28,330 The thing is, you know, I, I miss my grandson. 142 00:05:28,955 --> 00:05:30,957 You know I taught him how to nod, right? 143 00:05:31,541 --> 00:05:35,587 Homeslice was goin' through life noddin' down on everybody. [laughs] 144 00:05:35,670 --> 00:05:38,423 You know, you could see him, Edwin, if you weren't so afraid of Paige. 145 00:05:38,506 --> 00:05:40,717 -I ain't afraid of Paige. -Mm-hm. 146 00:05:41,676 --> 00:05:43,428 I wanna be able to offer my grandson 147 00:05:43,511 --> 00:05:47,599 more than him seeing me get shoved down into a squad car. 148 00:05:48,683 --> 00:05:51,311 I need space, Nadine, just to... 149 00:05:51,978 --> 00:05:54,314 [sighs] get my shit together. 150 00:05:54,397 --> 00:05:58,318 No one should have to get their shit together to be in a family. 151 00:05:58,401 --> 00:06:01,988 -[breathes deeply] Oh. -[phone ringing] 152 00:06:08,036 --> 00:06:10,497 [Murphy] [in phone video] If you're willing to be different, right, 153 00:06:10,580 --> 00:06:12,874 -then you don't have to keep-- -[Paige] Why is he attacking me? 154 00:06:12,958 --> 00:06:16,419 Why? I went on that show to try to help people. 155 00:06:16,503 --> 00:06:19,673 Honestly, half of Minneapolis probably is feeling better 156 00:06:19,756 --> 00:06:21,091 about their family this morning. 157 00:06:21,174 --> 00:06:24,761 Also, I did not tell my dad to move out. He insisted on leaving. 158 00:06:24,844 --> 00:06:27,264 -Mm. -I mean, who writes a book called 159 00:06:27,347 --> 00:06:29,641 Full Frontal Family Therapy? 160 00:06:30,100 --> 00:06:33,520 I mean, except for the family part, sounds kinda hot. 161 00:06:33,603 --> 00:06:35,564 -You're missing the point. -Okay. 162 00:06:35,647 --> 00:06:38,400 -[sighs] -The point is-- Nah. 163 00:06:38,483 --> 00:06:41,987 I have known Paige Alexander for a very long time, 164 00:06:42,070 --> 00:06:43,363 like cassette tapes long, 165 00:06:43,446 --> 00:06:47,242 and she likes to think she's always right. 166 00:06:47,325 --> 00:06:50,537 And this morning, she's wondering if that's true. 167 00:06:50,829 --> 00:06:53,582 -Whose side are you on? -Oh, I-I'm on the side of people... 168 00:06:53,665 --> 00:06:54,791 -[phone dings] -...who grew up playing 169 00:06:54,874 --> 00:06:56,251 Supreme Court Justice with you, 170 00:06:56,334 --> 00:06:59,045 -like that's even a game. -[Paige chuckles] 171 00:06:59,129 --> 00:07:00,922 Oh, no! No! 172 00:07:01,006 --> 00:07:04,509 My four o'clock just canceled. This is the second one today. 173 00:07:04,593 --> 00:07:05,802 What am I gonna do to fix this? 174 00:07:05,886 --> 00:07:08,138 -I think I should do some kinda post. -No, no, no, no, no. Ah-ah-ah. 175 00:07:08,221 --> 00:07:10,390 You've done enough mass communicating for one day. 176 00:07:10,473 --> 00:07:12,309 But I'm losing clients. I need to defend myself. 177 00:07:12,392 --> 00:07:14,269 I have to stand up for myself. 178 00:07:14,352 --> 00:07:16,187 Mm, some people need to sit down for themselves. 179 00:07:16,271 --> 00:07:18,356 -You're one of those. -I am? 180 00:07:19,232 --> 00:07:21,860 -Uh, Paige? -Yes? 181 00:07:21,943 --> 00:07:23,820 Know what I really wanna know? 182 00:07:23,904 --> 00:07:24,905 What? 183 00:07:25,739 --> 00:07:28,366 Where in the actual fuck is your dad? 184 00:07:28,658 --> 00:07:31,870 [♪ soft acoustic music playing] 185 00:07:35,957 --> 00:07:38,960 -[Nadine Gregory] Oh, shit. -[Edwin] Stop, stop. 186 00:07:42,714 --> 00:07:44,925 Finn. Finn. 187 00:07:45,008 --> 00:07:48,762 -I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. -Hey. Hey, hey. Now-- You okay? 188 00:07:48,845 --> 00:07:51,014 -I'm so sorry about the car, Grandpa. -Don't worry 'bout the car. 189 00:07:51,097 --> 00:07:52,891 I don't care about the car. Come here. 190 00:07:54,476 --> 00:07:56,478 There was a, there was a biker, and he yelled at me, 191 00:07:56,561 --> 00:08:00,148 and I swerved, and then I-- you know, now I crashed your car, so. 192 00:08:00,232 --> 00:08:04,069 A car ain't nothin' but a thing, man. Car can be fixed. 193 00:08:05,070 --> 00:08:06,071 Hey. 194 00:08:09,950 --> 00:08:12,369 -Thank you for coming. -What you mean? 195 00:08:12,452 --> 00:08:13,870 Well, I wasn't sure if you would. 196 00:08:15,872 --> 00:08:18,792 I'm sorry I haven't been taking your calls, you hear? 197 00:08:18,875 --> 00:08:21,920 Finn, I need to get my life straight. 198 00:08:22,003 --> 00:08:24,005 You know, I was comin' to see you. 199 00:08:24,422 --> 00:08:26,049 How'd you know where I was? 200 00:08:28,385 --> 00:08:30,595 -You know I like tracking people. -[laughs] 201 00:08:31,888 --> 00:08:34,224 Well, I don't see any blood. 202 00:08:34,307 --> 00:08:35,725 -Go on. -[Nadine] Come here. 203 00:08:39,854 --> 00:08:42,274 The car on the other hand, looks like it already bled out. 204 00:08:42,357 --> 00:08:44,985 Would you stop? Let's go get him checked. 205 00:08:45,068 --> 00:08:46,528 Come on. 206 00:08:46,611 --> 00:08:49,823 -[♪ light R&B music playing] -[Edwin sighs] 207 00:08:52,576 --> 00:08:54,578 ♪♪ 208 00:09:05,505 --> 00:09:07,507 -[Paige] Oh, my God, honey! -He's fine, Paige. 209 00:09:07,591 --> 00:09:09,175 -[Paige] Are you okay? -[Finn Alexander] I'm fine. 210 00:09:09,259 --> 00:09:11,386 Are you fine? Really? Where were you going? 211 00:09:11,469 --> 00:09:12,929 Why did you call him instead of me? 212 00:09:13,013 --> 00:09:14,681 -I was just trying to avoid all this. -Avoid what? 213 00:09:14,764 --> 00:09:16,474 [softly] You know, it's just, you know, makin' a big deal. 214 00:09:16,558 --> 00:09:18,310 I'm not making a big deal. What are you-- No, okay. 215 00:09:18,393 --> 00:09:19,519 This is your fault. 216 00:09:19,603 --> 00:09:22,272 This is you. Okay? You taught him to drive. 217 00:09:22,355 --> 00:09:24,232 You left the car, you left the keys. 218 00:09:24,316 --> 00:09:26,151 -You're blamin' me for this? -[Paige] Yes! 219 00:09:26,234 --> 00:09:28,945 -Yeah. Alright. -Oh, Nadine is here. 220 00:09:29,029 --> 00:09:30,572 And you thought this couldn't get any worse. 221 00:09:30,655 --> 00:09:33,283 No, I knew it could get worse because the last time I saw you, 222 00:09:33,366 --> 00:09:35,827 you had just taken my child to Hennepin County jail. 223 00:09:35,911 --> 00:09:38,246 Luckily, I saw this great segment this morning 224 00:09:38,330 --> 00:09:41,041 -on Kris & Chris about family. -Oh, wow. 225 00:09:41,124 --> 00:09:42,584 -I learned so much. -Nadine, Nadine. 226 00:09:42,667 --> 00:09:43,710 Y'all stop. 227 00:09:43,793 --> 00:09:46,880 Nadine gave us a ride here, Paige. 228 00:09:46,963 --> 00:09:48,048 She was just helpin', Mom. 229 00:09:48,131 --> 00:09:49,966 -Okay. -[Nadine] See? 230 00:09:50,050 --> 00:09:51,843 Every once in a while, I do something good. 231 00:09:51,927 --> 00:09:53,553 No. Is this your one good thing this year? 232 00:09:53,637 --> 00:09:57,349 No, no, no! Uh-uh! I'm different. 233 00:09:57,432 --> 00:10:00,435 I'm off the rollercoaster. I'm gonna try this again. 234 00:10:01,645 --> 00:10:03,980 Nadine, thank you. 235 00:10:04,064 --> 00:10:07,275 Really, thank you so much. 236 00:10:07,359 --> 00:10:10,779 Really appreciate it. Means a lot. Thanks, Dad. 237 00:10:10,862 --> 00:10:14,407 You're, uh-- No problem. 238 00:10:14,491 --> 00:10:16,117 He was just trying to connect with me, Paige. 239 00:10:16,201 --> 00:10:18,286 -That's all it was. -I'm good. We're good. 240 00:10:18,370 --> 00:10:20,497 We're in control of our emotions. 241 00:10:20,580 --> 00:10:22,457 She needs to get laid. 242 00:10:22,540 --> 00:10:25,001 -You ain't in control of nothin'. -Mm. 243 00:10:26,002 --> 00:10:28,838 -[knocks on door] -[Paige] Finn, please, open up. 244 00:10:28,922 --> 00:10:30,131 Finn. 245 00:10:30,757 --> 00:10:31,967 -Hey. -What? 246 00:10:32,050 --> 00:10:34,386 -I've been knocking. -I know. 247 00:10:35,387 --> 00:10:38,223 Well, I just wanted to make sure that you don't have a concussion. 248 00:10:38,306 --> 00:10:39,849 -I don't. -Well, are you sure? 249 00:10:39,933 --> 00:10:41,309 Because the internet isn't. 250 00:10:41,393 --> 00:10:42,727 And it turns out that ignoring your mom 251 00:10:42,811 --> 00:10:44,229 is, like, one of the most common symptoms. 252 00:10:44,312 --> 00:10:46,773 So, I'm just gonna look in your eyes really quick. 253 00:10:46,856 --> 00:10:48,483 Mom, I don't wanna talk to you. 254 00:10:48,567 --> 00:10:52,821 But, Finn... you crashed a car. 255 00:10:52,904 --> 00:10:55,156 We can't just not talk about that. 256 00:10:57,200 --> 00:10:58,827 What is going on with you? 257 00:10:59,536 --> 00:11:02,038 He wouldn't pick up the phone, and I thought he was mad at me. 258 00:11:02,789 --> 00:11:04,207 Why would he be mad at you? 259 00:11:04,291 --> 00:11:06,418 It's my fault he got arrested. Stop! 260 00:11:06,793 --> 00:11:07,794 Finn. 261 00:11:08,795 --> 00:11:11,882 Your grandpa didn't have to drive that night, 'kay? 262 00:11:11,965 --> 00:11:14,467 He could've called me, he could've called a cab. 263 00:11:14,551 --> 00:11:16,761 I mean, apparently Nadine does rideshare now. 264 00:11:16,845 --> 00:11:18,597 He makes his own decisions. 265 00:11:18,680 --> 00:11:20,932 -And now he's never coming back, so. -No, no. 266 00:11:21,016 --> 00:11:24,352 I think he's just figuring things out, and he needs a minute. 267 00:11:24,644 --> 00:11:28,857 And by a minute, I mean many, many 60-second increments. 268 00:11:28,940 --> 00:11:32,444 Not literal. But listen, you can call him again 269 00:11:32,527 --> 00:11:34,321 and maybe you guys can have lunch and stuff. 270 00:11:34,404 --> 00:11:36,281 I don't wanna just have lunch. 271 00:11:37,782 --> 00:11:41,411 He should be living here... you know, with us. 272 00:11:44,289 --> 00:11:46,499 It felt better when he was here. 273 00:11:49,419 --> 00:11:50,420 Yeah. 274 00:11:51,713 --> 00:11:55,926 So, I've been your grandpa's daughter for a little bit of time. 275 00:11:56,009 --> 00:11:57,260 -Yeah. -Yeah, and I think one 276 00:11:57,344 --> 00:11:59,763 of the things that I'm learning, 277 00:11:59,846 --> 00:12:05,060 is that letting go, sometimes, is the only option. 278 00:12:05,143 --> 00:12:08,647 -[Finn sighs] -So, I'm saying this with so much love, 279 00:12:08,730 --> 00:12:10,649 but knowing my dad, 280 00:12:10,732 --> 00:12:13,360 I feel like you need to learn to let go a little too. 281 00:12:14,027 --> 00:12:15,362 Yeah, that's not me. 282 00:12:15,445 --> 00:12:18,782 Okay, but you know, maybe you could talk to somebody about that. 283 00:12:18,865 --> 00:12:20,367 -[Finn sighs] -And-- Like, somebody other than me. 284 00:12:20,450 --> 00:12:22,953 'Cause I'm a little bit worried about your processing. 285 00:12:23,036 --> 00:12:24,037 Can we be done now? 286 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:25,121 -Really? -Yeah. 287 00:12:25,205 --> 00:12:27,832 I-- Okay. [sighs] 288 00:12:31,169 --> 00:12:33,672 -[sighs] -[♪ soft R&B music plays] 289 00:12:35,799 --> 00:12:39,553 [♪ "Dominate" by Derek Minor playing] 290 00:12:39,636 --> 00:12:41,513 ♪ Dominate, dominate ♪ 291 00:12:41,596 --> 00:12:44,182 Do you mind if I ask you a question? 292 00:12:44,266 --> 00:12:47,102 You ain't gotta ask before you ask somethin'. Just ask. 293 00:12:47,185 --> 00:12:53,191 Sorry, I just-- I-I've never been able to talk to my dad about all of this. 294 00:12:53,275 --> 00:12:57,654 -About all what? -The drugs and the criminal activity. 295 00:12:57,737 --> 00:12:59,948 -I don't do drugs. -Oh, no, no. 296 00:13:00,031 --> 00:13:03,952 I didn't mean to imply that you do. I just, um-- You sell them, right? 297 00:13:04,035 --> 00:13:05,370 -You the Feds? -No. 298 00:13:05,453 --> 00:13:06,955 [chuckles] I'm just playin' with you. 299 00:13:07,038 --> 00:13:08,373 Oh. [uncomfortable laugh] 300 00:13:08,456 --> 00:13:10,959 Look, I'm not out on the corner slangin' packets, if that's what you mean. 301 00:13:11,042 --> 00:13:17,549 Oh, no, obviously. But, um, uh, you know, what, what exactly do you do? 302 00:13:17,632 --> 00:13:18,717 And I'm not gonna tell anybody. 303 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:22,429 I just-- I-I don't really know this side of my dad. 304 00:13:22,512 --> 00:13:25,724 Look, I supply to people who supply to people 305 00:13:26,099 --> 00:13:28,476 who supply to people who stand on the corner. 306 00:13:28,560 --> 00:13:30,687 Oh, so you're like a regional vice president of sales? 307 00:13:30,770 --> 00:13:34,024 Yeah. I like to consider myself a businessman first. [laughs] 308 00:13:34,107 --> 00:13:35,942 -You funny. -Am I? [laughs] 309 00:13:36,026 --> 00:13:37,569 But I just have one more question. 310 00:13:37,652 --> 00:13:41,531 Do you, um, do you ever think about doing something different? 311 00:13:41,615 --> 00:13:43,241 Uh, you know, less risky. 312 00:13:43,325 --> 00:13:45,410 Yeah. Yeah, yeah, all the time. 313 00:13:45,493 --> 00:13:47,704 But the drugs bring money, money brings power, 314 00:13:47,787 --> 00:13:50,415 -power brings women and-- -And you wanna be loved. 315 00:13:51,249 --> 00:13:54,461 -Bet. -Yeah. Well, that's what we all want. 316 00:13:54,544 --> 00:13:56,213 -[Paige laughs] -I mean, I also wanna diversify 317 00:13:56,296 --> 00:13:57,756 my stock portfolio. 318 00:13:58,423 --> 00:14:02,844 [inhales] Okay. Do you know when, uh, my dad will be back? 319 00:14:02,928 --> 00:14:05,847 -What? Here? -Yes. He's staying with you guys, right? 320 00:14:05,931 --> 00:14:08,058 Nah. Your dad ain't tryin' to fucks with all this. 321 00:14:09,267 --> 00:14:11,478 Wait, that's what you thought? [chuckles] 322 00:14:11,561 --> 00:14:13,396 You really don't know him, do you? 323 00:14:15,065 --> 00:14:16,816 [Mal Kennedy] What about your old associates? 324 00:14:16,900 --> 00:14:17,901 What about 'em? 325 00:14:17,984 --> 00:14:20,904 I mean, I imagine it might be tempting to reach out, 326 00:14:20,987 --> 00:14:22,906 with nowhere else to go. 327 00:14:22,989 --> 00:14:24,199 Not at all, man. 328 00:14:25,325 --> 00:14:26,409 I didn't serve all that time 329 00:14:26,493 --> 00:14:30,121 just to get out and do the same shit all over again. 330 00:14:30,205 --> 00:14:31,706 [Mal chuckles] 331 00:14:31,790 --> 00:14:33,291 Gettin' arrested that last time 332 00:14:33,375 --> 00:14:37,128 brought that home to me on a whole, a whole new level, man. 333 00:14:37,212 --> 00:14:38,964 Of course, it did. 334 00:14:39,047 --> 00:14:40,757 So, where you been stayin'? 335 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:42,509 Uh, thank you. 336 00:14:42,592 --> 00:14:44,928 Uh, the Viking on Lake Street. 337 00:14:45,011 --> 00:14:48,098 Oh, wow. I thought they closed that place years ago. 338 00:14:48,181 --> 00:14:50,642 Yeah... Probably should've. 339 00:14:52,143 --> 00:14:55,480 I get a discount for rentin' by the day... 340 00:14:55,564 --> 00:14:56,773 not just the hour. 341 00:14:56,856 --> 00:14:58,483 [laughs] 342 00:15:01,319 --> 00:15:04,531 So... you're not gonna ask me about Paige? 343 00:15:04,614 --> 00:15:06,950 Matter of fact, no. I'm not. 344 00:15:07,033 --> 00:15:08,368 You don't care how she's doin'? 345 00:15:08,451 --> 00:15:12,539 I care, but I'm tryna do somethin' I didn't do before. 346 00:15:12,622 --> 00:15:15,458 Have boundaries. I can't get personal. 347 00:15:15,542 --> 00:15:16,543 Yeah, I got you. 348 00:15:16,626 --> 00:15:19,045 So, your plan is? 349 00:15:20,046 --> 00:15:24,676 Like I said, get a job. Get the roux for my gumbo just right. 350 00:15:24,759 --> 00:15:29,264 And figure out what in the hell GPT-Chat is. 351 00:15:29,347 --> 00:15:31,933 -Yeah? -Life outside is hard, baby. 352 00:15:32,017 --> 00:15:33,560 I ain't gon' lie. 353 00:15:33,977 --> 00:15:37,814 So, you just decided to make it more challenging by leaving again 354 00:15:37,898 --> 00:15:39,566 and goin' it alone? 355 00:15:39,649 --> 00:15:41,109 I can't go back to Paige. 356 00:15:41,860 --> 00:15:43,278 I'm a burden there, man. 357 00:15:43,361 --> 00:15:47,032 Okay, I... I can't really talk to you about Paige 358 00:15:47,574 --> 00:15:49,576 but I can talk to you about you, 359 00:15:49,659 --> 00:15:52,329 and how the other side of being a burden is being a support. 360 00:15:52,412 --> 00:15:55,373 The only reason for me to go back there 361 00:15:55,457 --> 00:15:57,334 is because my grandson needs me. 362 00:15:57,542 --> 00:16:01,546 But I gotta figure out how I can show up for Finn in a way that's better than... 363 00:16:02,172 --> 00:16:05,926 how I showed up for the woman you tryin' so hard not to talk about. 364 00:16:07,344 --> 00:16:08,845 -Okay. -Okay. 365 00:16:08,929 --> 00:16:10,472 -Touché. -[Edwin chuckles] 366 00:16:11,514 --> 00:16:12,724 Yeah. 367 00:16:12,807 --> 00:16:15,810 [♪ soft R&B music playing] 368 00:16:26,821 --> 00:16:28,823 [phone dings] 369 00:16:37,499 --> 00:16:39,918 Thanks for meetin' me, babygirl. 370 00:16:41,294 --> 00:16:44,130 I'm not mad at you. 371 00:16:44,464 --> 00:16:45,799 I almost wish you were. 372 00:16:47,467 --> 00:16:48,677 I'm sittin' and I'm lookin' at you, 373 00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:51,805 and it feels to me like you almost don't care. 374 00:16:51,888 --> 00:16:54,558 Like you, like you can't give a fuck. 375 00:16:54,641 --> 00:16:58,812 Okay, I see how it could look like that. 376 00:16:58,895 --> 00:17:04,401 But I-I care. I ju-- I think I'm just being more realistic than I used to be. 377 00:17:04,484 --> 00:17:07,279 -I mean, it is what it is. -Now see, that right there, 378 00:17:07,362 --> 00:17:10,282 that feels like you're just givin' up, Paige. 379 00:17:10,365 --> 00:17:11,866 Just, pfft. 380 00:17:12,617 --> 00:17:16,037 Look, something is going on with Finn. 381 00:17:17,747 --> 00:17:20,750 -Okay. -And I think that there is one thing 382 00:17:20,834 --> 00:17:22,168 we could do about it, 383 00:17:22,252 --> 00:17:24,546 but I know you don't believe in it, 384 00:17:24,629 --> 00:17:26,590 and honestly, I think you're gonna say no, 385 00:17:26,673 --> 00:17:30,176 which I totally understand, actually, given the whole 386 00:17:30,260 --> 00:17:32,470 marriage and family therapy industrial complex-- 387 00:17:32,554 --> 00:17:33,972 I'll do it. 388 00:17:34,806 --> 00:17:37,642 [sighs] I'm talking about family therapy. 389 00:17:37,726 --> 00:17:41,354 You heard me, Paige. I said I will go. 390 00:17:41,771 --> 00:17:43,273 Really? 391 00:17:44,065 --> 00:17:45,066 Yeah. 392 00:17:45,483 --> 00:17:46,985 You'll talk to someone? 393 00:17:47,068 --> 00:17:48,486 On one condition. 394 00:17:49,404 --> 00:17:51,406 I get to pick the someone. 395 00:17:51,948 --> 00:17:54,743 [♪ groovy keyboard music plays] 396 00:17:54,826 --> 00:17:58,121 I normally start with, "What brought you in today," 397 00:17:58,204 --> 00:18:00,457 but, uh, I already know. 398 00:18:00,540 --> 00:18:02,292 That I crashed a car? 399 00:18:02,375 --> 00:18:04,294 No, I saw you on TV. 400 00:18:04,377 --> 00:18:06,004 You seem like a straight shooter. 401 00:18:06,087 --> 00:18:07,756 -And that's what we need. -[clicks tongue] 402 00:18:07,839 --> 00:18:10,133 -Uh-- -Well, that "we" does not include me. 403 00:18:10,217 --> 00:18:12,636 And he is not a doctor. 404 00:18:12,719 --> 00:18:15,847 The term I prefer is, uh, "family radical healing coach." 405 00:18:15,931 --> 00:18:19,267 -See? -And I have a PhD from Harvard. 406 00:18:19,351 --> 00:18:21,603 Now, I could practice therapy in the corporate world, 407 00:18:21,686 --> 00:18:23,980 but... I choose to heal people. 408 00:18:24,314 --> 00:18:25,732 You think you can heal us? 409 00:18:25,815 --> 00:18:26,900 [Murphy] If that's what you want. 410 00:18:26,983 --> 00:18:28,193 -Is that what you want? -Yes, it is. 411 00:18:28,276 --> 00:18:29,694 [Murphy] Because you have to really want it. 412 00:18:29,778 --> 00:18:31,112 Lotta people can't. Lotta people don't dare. 413 00:18:31,196 --> 00:18:33,573 Uh, I read your book. You don't follow any of the rules 414 00:18:33,657 --> 00:18:35,867 -of real therapy. -What's "real therapy"? 415 00:18:35,951 --> 00:18:37,827 [Murphy] Listen, I'm gonna give it to you straight here. 416 00:18:37,911 --> 00:18:39,371 You guys could spend thousands, 417 00:18:39,454 --> 00:18:41,498 and years dickin' around tryin' to figure out your own shit, 418 00:18:41,581 --> 00:18:43,833 or I can just tell you what you're doing wrong. 419 00:18:43,917 --> 00:18:45,919 Your choice. And, uh, I don't take insurance. 420 00:18:46,002 --> 00:18:48,505 Because they won't cover you because you say "dicking around." 421 00:18:48,588 --> 00:18:51,466 Hm, and yet, you are here in my office, sitting on my couch. 422 00:18:51,550 --> 00:18:53,385 -[scoffs] -Why don't you just see what I can do, 423 00:18:53,468 --> 00:18:54,469 Paige? Huh? 424 00:18:54,553 --> 00:18:56,429 You know what they say: "Don't try harder, try different." 425 00:18:56,513 --> 00:18:58,265 -Who says that? -I do. 426 00:18:58,348 --> 00:19:01,309 -Well, that's terrible grammar. -Well, your family's on fire. 427 00:19:01,393 --> 00:19:03,645 -[laughs] Dumpster. -Hey, um, can I just say, 428 00:19:03,728 --> 00:19:06,189 I just want everybody to be happy. 429 00:19:06,273 --> 00:19:07,274 Yes, Edwin. 430 00:19:07,357 --> 00:19:10,610 Yes. Very admirable, Edwin. Very admirable. 431 00:19:11,319 --> 00:19:14,531 Especially comin' from the guy who's holding the gas can on all this. 432 00:19:15,740 --> 00:19:17,867 And sometimes the matches. 433 00:19:18,076 --> 00:19:21,830 -Can we get started now? -Well, we've already started, jefe. 434 00:19:21,913 --> 00:19:24,541 [tongue clicks] [whispers] And you're doin' great. 435 00:19:26,376 --> 00:19:29,379 And I was not about to keep making the same mistake 436 00:19:29,462 --> 00:19:32,132 over and over and over again in front of my family. 437 00:19:32,215 --> 00:19:34,759 Well, why not? The rest of us have to. 438 00:19:34,843 --> 00:19:36,261 I'll tell you why. 439 00:19:36,344 --> 00:19:38,430 -[whispers] Your ego. -Oof. 440 00:19:39,014 --> 00:19:40,765 Do you even know what it means to be a man? 441 00:19:40,849 --> 00:19:42,434 You're askin' me what it means to be a man? 442 00:19:42,517 --> 00:19:44,269 Yeah, yeah. It means stepping the fuck up. 443 00:19:44,352 --> 00:19:45,437 -Ooh, amen. -Hold up, hold up. 444 00:19:45,520 --> 00:19:47,731 I was trying to just get my own shit toget-- 445 00:19:47,814 --> 00:19:49,024 -Your own shit, huh? -My own shit. 446 00:19:49,107 --> 00:19:51,192 Your own shit. What about, uh, Paige and, and Finn? 447 00:19:51,276 --> 00:19:52,569 What about their shit? 448 00:19:52,652 --> 00:19:54,279 Men can be effective in families 449 00:19:54,362 --> 00:19:56,448 and figure out their own shit without leaving. 450 00:19:56,531 --> 00:19:57,574 Hallelujah. 451 00:19:57,657 --> 00:20:00,368 'Kay, well, my mom gets mad at Grandpa for everything. 452 00:20:00,452 --> 00:20:01,703 -No. -[Edwin] Sure does. 453 00:20:01,786 --> 00:20:03,705 -Everythang! [laughs] -No, no. 454 00:20:03,788 --> 00:20:07,292 I, I am trying to protect you 455 00:20:07,375 --> 00:20:10,128 from how unreliable he is. 456 00:20:10,212 --> 00:20:11,213 [quietly] That is bullshit. 457 00:20:11,296 --> 00:20:13,173 -[Paige] Hey! -[Edwin] He said bullshit, and he's right. 458 00:20:13,256 --> 00:20:15,884 Okay. Now, I'm willing to bet that your son was struggling 459 00:20:15,967 --> 00:20:18,220 -before your dad showed up. -That's true. 460 00:20:18,303 --> 00:20:21,014 -Facts. Facts. -[Murphy] Paige, how do you account 461 00:20:21,097 --> 00:20:23,391 for your son's pain before Edwin? 462 00:20:23,475 --> 00:20:25,727 -Yeah, I wanna hear this. -Are you trying to turn this on me now? 463 00:20:25,810 --> 00:20:27,854 No, I'm not trying. I'm just turning this. 464 00:20:27,938 --> 00:20:29,731 On you, yes, actually. 465 00:20:29,814 --> 00:20:31,316 It's time for you to start looking at you. 466 00:20:31,399 --> 00:20:32,609 [Edwin] Mm-hm. 467 00:20:33,443 --> 00:20:34,444 Try it. 468 00:20:35,445 --> 00:20:37,447 Come on. Dig in a little bit. 469 00:20:37,530 --> 00:20:39,157 -[Paige chuckles] -You're a shrink. 470 00:20:39,241 --> 00:20:40,784 -You can do it, right? -Yes, yes. 471 00:20:40,867 --> 00:20:42,702 -He wasn't there for me. -He wasn't-- Whoa, whoa, whoa, 472 00:20:42,786 --> 00:20:44,412 that's not right. You. I'm talkin' 'bout you. 473 00:20:44,496 --> 00:20:47,916 Oh, he wasn't there for me. 474 00:20:47,999 --> 00:20:50,252 -He was never there for me. -[Murphy] Mm-hm. 475 00:20:50,335 --> 00:20:53,672 And now he's delivering the exact same experience to my son. 476 00:20:53,755 --> 00:20:56,091 Good, good. Good, good. Tell me something. 477 00:20:56,174 --> 00:20:58,843 What would happen if you looked your dad straight in the eye 478 00:20:58,927 --> 00:21:00,428 and told him all that? 479 00:21:00,512 --> 00:21:02,889 [Paige laughs] 480 00:21:02,973 --> 00:21:04,891 [Paige clears throat] 481 00:21:04,975 --> 00:21:06,476 [sighs] 482 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,311 You weren't there for me. 483 00:21:14,609 --> 00:21:16,611 [emotional] You were never there for me. 484 00:21:16,695 --> 00:21:22,450 And now I am watching you deliver the exact same experience to my son. 485 00:21:24,286 --> 00:21:25,954 [Murphy] Hello? 486 00:21:26,496 --> 00:21:29,457 Where's the detachment now? Right? Is it hiding? 487 00:21:29,541 --> 00:21:32,544 Is it, i-is it behind the pillow or under the couch? 488 00:21:32,627 --> 00:21:34,462 No, it's not. You know why? Because it was fake. 489 00:21:34,546 --> 00:21:36,923 -You can't speak to me that way. -[Murphy] Well, I just did. 490 00:21:37,007 --> 00:21:39,759 You, you weren't detaching. You were amputating. 491 00:21:39,843 --> 00:21:41,469 You were cutting yourself off from your father. 492 00:21:41,553 --> 00:21:44,431 And you know who else you were cutting yourself off from? You. 493 00:21:44,514 --> 00:21:45,599 -Oh, wow. -Amen. 494 00:21:45,682 --> 00:21:47,726 It's time to do a little work on yourself, Ms. Paige. 495 00:21:47,809 --> 00:21:49,603 [Edwin] That's right. That's right. 496 00:21:50,645 --> 00:21:52,022 -[Murphy] Come on. -Whoa. Where you goin'? 497 00:21:52,105 --> 00:21:53,231 Oh, you're leaving now? 498 00:21:53,315 --> 00:21:55,233 Hold up. This was your idea, babygirl. 499 00:21:55,317 --> 00:21:57,193 You late for, uh, a-an Instagram Live or something? 500 00:21:57,277 --> 00:22:01,114 I am not going to sit down on myself. And I'm not gonna sit down for myself. 501 00:22:01,197 --> 00:22:02,908 I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna sit, I'm not sitting! 502 00:22:02,991 --> 00:22:05,452 I'm standing up for myself, and I'm leaving. 503 00:22:05,535 --> 00:22:08,663 And I will not be coming back here again. Thank you very much, Doctor. 504 00:22:08,747 --> 00:22:12,626 [♪ groovy keyboard music playing] 505 00:22:13,084 --> 00:22:16,588 -That was a great session. -[gong rings] 506 00:22:16,671 --> 00:22:20,550 [♪ smooth R&B music playing] 507 00:22:21,468 --> 00:22:23,887 -[knocking] -Finn?! 508 00:22:24,387 --> 00:22:28,141 Finn, Finn. Hi. Hi. 509 00:22:28,225 --> 00:22:29,935 -Knock, knock. -[knocks] 510 00:22:30,185 --> 00:22:31,645 Here's what's gonna happen right now. 511 00:22:31,937 --> 00:22:34,564 -Okay. [chuckles] -You're gonna say we need to talk. 512 00:22:34,648 --> 00:22:36,733 I'm gonna pretend like I don't hear you. 513 00:22:36,816 --> 00:22:38,401 Then you're gonna ask if everything's okay, 514 00:22:38,485 --> 00:22:40,528 and I'm gonna say that I'm fine. 515 00:22:40,612 --> 00:22:42,364 And then you're gonna get that one look on your face, 516 00:22:42,447 --> 00:22:43,949 the one where you're all worried about me, 517 00:22:44,032 --> 00:22:46,826 and then I'm gonna feel even more anxious than I already do, 518 00:22:46,910 --> 00:22:48,662 and then, you're finally gonna leave, 519 00:22:48,745 --> 00:22:50,747 and everything will be fine... 520 00:22:50,830 --> 00:22:52,457 until we repeat the whole thing tomorrow. 521 00:22:53,166 --> 00:22:55,377 There. Saved us so much time. 522 00:22:55,460 --> 00:22:57,045 No, no. Hey, hey, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. 523 00:22:57,128 --> 00:22:59,005 -Hey, Finn. Finn. Look, I'm sorry. -[Finn sighs] 524 00:22:59,089 --> 00:23:00,298 I'm sorry. 525 00:23:01,383 --> 00:23:03,802 I'm sorry that I walked out today. 526 00:23:03,885 --> 00:23:08,807 Honey, I have been watching my dad do what he does, to me... 527 00:23:08,890 --> 00:23:10,308 my whole lifetime. 528 00:23:10,892 --> 00:23:12,310 He went to therapy like you wanted. 529 00:23:12,394 --> 00:23:16,398 Yes, and he took responsibility for nothing. 530 00:23:16,481 --> 00:23:19,109 [chuckles] This is his fault, Finn. 531 00:23:19,192 --> 00:23:22,696 And he just, you know, he just can't admit it. 532 00:23:22,779 --> 00:23:24,990 Okay, okay, okay. [grunts] 533 00:23:26,658 --> 00:23:28,285 So, let me get this straight. 534 00:23:28,368 --> 00:23:32,956 You're saying that all your problems are caused by Grandpa. 535 00:23:33,039 --> 00:23:35,083 -Pretty much. -Okay, then... 536 00:23:35,750 --> 00:23:38,378 I guess that means all my problems are caused by you. 537 00:23:42,924 --> 00:23:44,551 Oh, my God. 538 00:23:45,677 --> 00:23:48,597 [♪ soft keyboard music playing] 539 00:24:00,150 --> 00:24:01,359 Hey! 540 00:24:04,070 --> 00:24:05,488 Can we talk? 541 00:24:08,158 --> 00:24:09,576 Go 'head. 542 00:24:11,953 --> 00:24:14,372 I think you need to come back. 543 00:24:14,456 --> 00:24:15,916 Murphy was right. 544 00:24:15,999 --> 00:24:18,877 I was pretending to be detached, 545 00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:20,712 and you are isolating 546 00:24:20,795 --> 00:24:22,547 because you don't like when your ego looks bad. 547 00:24:22,631 --> 00:24:25,050 -So, I think that we-- -Hey, baby. Stop, stop. 548 00:24:26,676 --> 00:24:30,680 I can't keep feeling like this... Paige. 549 00:24:32,807 --> 00:24:34,142 That's all I know. 550 00:24:35,268 --> 00:24:37,479 I-I can't, I can't do it, baby. 551 00:24:38,521 --> 00:24:40,190 Well, I don't-- Hey. 552 00:24:40,273 --> 00:24:41,691 I don't wanna feel this way either, 553 00:24:41,775 --> 00:24:43,485 but that means that we both have some work to do. 554 00:24:43,568 --> 00:24:45,737 We need to change together. 555 00:24:45,820 --> 00:24:47,948 Hey! [stammers] Can you please stop walking?! 556 00:24:48,448 --> 00:24:50,075 [Paige groans] 557 00:24:52,869 --> 00:24:54,788 We have to break the cycle. 558 00:24:54,871 --> 00:24:57,791 -What do you think I'm tryna do, Paige? -No, I know, I know. 559 00:24:57,874 --> 00:24:59,876 But everything that we've done so far to break the cycle, 560 00:24:59,960 --> 00:25:03,880 it just keeps the cycle going, and I need for it to end with us. 561 00:25:05,632 --> 00:25:06,716 I-- 562 00:25:06,967 --> 00:25:09,803 Okay, Dad, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. 563 00:25:09,886 --> 00:25:11,846 I'm sorry that I made you feel like I don't care 564 00:25:11,930 --> 00:25:13,807 because I really do care. 565 00:25:13,890 --> 00:25:17,519 [emotional] I know that I can be really hard on you sometimes. 566 00:25:17,602 --> 00:25:19,896 I'm-I'm sorry. I will, I will work on that. 567 00:25:19,980 --> 00:25:21,189 That is me. That's my shit. 568 00:25:21,273 --> 00:25:23,024 I'll do whatever I have to do to make that better. 569 00:25:23,108 --> 00:25:26,152 I'll even go to Murphy if you want me to. 570 00:25:26,236 --> 00:25:27,654 I just-- 571 00:25:28,905 --> 00:25:33,118 Please, just come home. 572 00:25:36,663 --> 00:25:39,874 [♪ soft R&B music playing] 573 00:25:46,631 --> 00:25:48,633 ♪♪ 574 00:26:25,670 --> 00:26:28,673 [music fades out] 575 00:26:28,757 --> 00:26:30,759 [speaker] Woo-hoo! 576 00:26:31,676 --> 00:26:33,679 [spray paint can hissing]