1 00:00:01,043 --> 00:00:04,464 [♪ "Work To Do" by The Isley Brothers playing] 2 00:00:10,470 --> 00:00:12,847 Oh, yeah. Chicken is done. 3 00:00:12,847 --> 00:00:14,349 Alright, what's goin' on with the waffle count? 4 00:00:14,349 --> 00:00:16,268 Mm, uh, nearly 40. 5 00:00:16,268 --> 00:00:17,811 - Oh, nice, nice. - We're movin'. 6 00:00:17,811 --> 00:00:20,397 Oh, that looks so good, Edwin. 7 00:00:20,397 --> 00:00:21,690 - Nadine... - Hm? 8 00:00:21,690 --> 00:00:23,984 - ...does it look professional? - Yes. 9 00:00:23,984 --> 00:00:25,694 I really need this to work, mama. 10 00:00:25,694 --> 00:00:27,112 Mm, mm! 11 00:00:27,112 --> 00:00:31,241 - Yeah? - Dad! What smells so amazing? 12 00:00:31,241 --> 00:00:33,326 - Oh! Oh, hey, Paige. - Hi. 13 00:00:33,326 --> 00:00:35,662 [Nadine Gregory] Your dad made these shrimp and grits balls. 14 00:00:35,662 --> 00:00:36,746 They're divine. 15 00:00:36,746 --> 00:00:38,206 I know you prefer bland Swedish food, 16 00:00:38,206 --> 00:00:39,874 - but come try. - [Edwin Alexander] Okay, okay. 17 00:00:39,874 --> 00:00:41,167 Good morning. Good morning, baby girl. 18 00:00:41,167 --> 00:00:43,420 You got the "morning" part right. What's the occasion? 19 00:00:43,420 --> 00:00:45,297 Why are you in my favorite apron 20 00:00:45,297 --> 00:00:48,091 and you guys using every single bowl in my house? 21 00:00:48,091 --> 00:00:51,595 I'm catering your sister's open house. Did you forget that? 22 00:00:51,595 --> 00:00:53,847 - No, no, no. I remember. - Few more gigs like that, 23 00:00:53,847 --> 00:00:55,849 I'll have a down payment on the food truck. 24 00:00:55,849 --> 00:00:57,893 Yeah, and then you're just gonna need a license to drive it 25 00:00:57,893 --> 00:01:00,186 and a business permit, an employer ID number, 26 00:01:00,186 --> 00:01:01,855 - and a food-- - And a food service license. I know. 27 00:01:01,855 --> 00:01:04,441 - [Nadine sighs] - The shit ain't set up for me to succeed. 28 00:01:04,441 --> 00:01:07,569 I understand, but I got my birth certificate. 29 00:01:07,569 --> 00:01:10,614 - One step at a time, okay? - Yeah, you are correct. 30 00:01:11,114 --> 00:01:12,741 - You hungry? - Yes. [laughs] 31 00:01:12,741 --> 00:01:16,161 Hey, Nadine put together these little waffle bites 32 00:01:16,161 --> 00:01:18,330 in case she's feelin' more sweet than savory. 33 00:01:18,330 --> 00:01:20,165 I'd say Paige feels more salty. 34 00:01:21,625 --> 00:01:23,168 I'll just have a coffee. 35 00:01:23,168 --> 00:01:24,502 Okay. 36 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:26,671 - [mouths] Stop. - [mouths] What? 37 00:01:26,671 --> 00:01:28,423 - Dad? - Yeah, baby. 38 00:01:29,007 --> 00:01:30,550 I thought we said no overnights. 39 00:01:30,550 --> 00:01:33,929 She just got here, and she saved the day, Paige. 40 00:01:33,929 --> 00:01:35,055 How? [chuckles] 41 00:01:35,055 --> 00:01:37,974 Did you know you're missing lemon pepper and garlic salt? 42 00:01:37,974 --> 00:01:39,976 Oh, well, yeah, that makes her a hero. 43 00:01:39,976 --> 00:01:42,812 Can you maybe warn me when you're gonna have company 44 00:01:42,812 --> 00:01:44,898 so that I don't come down in my private clothes? 45 00:01:44,898 --> 00:01:46,900 You wore those pants to Target last week, girl. 46 00:01:46,900 --> 00:01:48,693 [Nadine] I raised you better than that. 47 00:01:48,693 --> 00:01:52,072 Oh, let's please not unpack how you "raised" me. 48 00:01:52,072 --> 00:01:55,533 - A-Also, these are Ivy Park. - Paired with Birkenstocks. 49 00:01:55,533 --> 00:01:57,661 I'm gonna go fold some laundry 'cause there's something about 50 00:01:57,661 --> 00:01:59,579 being around the two of you that makes me wanna put some 51 00:01:59,579 --> 00:02:01,122 sharp creases in my jeans. 52 00:02:02,082 --> 00:02:05,293 [♪ upbeat, rhythmic music playing] 53 00:02:09,422 --> 00:02:12,259 [Edwin] Hey! Comin' to it right now. Comin' to it! 54 00:02:12,259 --> 00:02:15,762 - What is this? - It's not what you think. 55 00:02:15,762 --> 00:02:18,598 Okay, it's an album recorded by my kid's father, 56 00:02:18,598 --> 00:02:21,309 and it's in my dad's room, so what should I think? 57 00:02:21,309 --> 00:02:22,602 Paige, rock-and-roll went south 58 00:02:22,602 --> 00:02:24,437 after Chuck Berry and Little Richard and them, 59 00:02:24,437 --> 00:02:26,273 so there must be another reason 60 00:02:26,273 --> 00:02:28,525 - why it's in my room-- - What the fu-- 61 00:02:28,525 --> 00:02:30,026 - Grandpa. - Finn. 62 00:02:30,026 --> 00:02:31,736 - You said you wouldn't tell. - Y-Your mama came-- 63 00:02:31,736 --> 00:02:32,862 Wouldn't tell what? 64 00:02:32,862 --> 00:02:34,864 - [sighs] It doesn't matter. - Jesus Christ. 65 00:02:34,864 --> 00:02:38,201 - It doesn't matter. - Aw, Dad, Dad, Dad. 66 00:02:38,201 --> 00:02:39,286 We talked about this. 67 00:02:39,286 --> 00:02:42,205 You and I are supposed to tell each other the whole truth. 68 00:02:42,205 --> 00:02:45,041 The boy is allowed to be curious about his own father, Paige. 69 00:02:45,041 --> 00:02:47,502 No. No, no, no. This is a terrible idea. 70 00:02:47,502 --> 00:02:50,213 You are opening up a whole can of worms. 71 00:02:50,213 --> 00:02:51,798 Can been open, Paige. 72 00:02:51,798 --> 00:02:54,718 - [Paige sighs] - Been open since the day the boy was born. 73 00:02:54,718 --> 00:02:56,636 Paige, I gotta get ready. I got food in the car. 74 00:02:56,636 --> 00:02:59,306 It would really mean a lot to me if you would just stop by 75 00:02:59,306 --> 00:03:00,932 the open house later to support me. 76 00:03:00,932 --> 00:03:05,103 Y-Yeah. That-- Yes, that's fine. Sure. I already told Esti that I would be there. 77 00:03:05,103 --> 00:03:07,772 - Oh, okay. Yeah, Esti. Okay. - I just-- I need you to promise me 78 00:03:07,772 --> 00:03:09,107 that you are not going to quit your day job 79 00:03:09,107 --> 00:03:14,487 over whatever this food thing may or may not pan out to be, okay? 80 00:03:14,487 --> 00:03:17,866 I will be keeping that bird very firmly in my hand, Paige. 81 00:03:18,241 --> 00:03:19,868 - Okay. - Anyway, I'm glad you're comin'. 82 00:03:19,868 --> 00:03:22,245 I know how much you like to snoop around other folks' floor plans. 83 00:03:22,746 --> 00:03:24,247 What does that mean, Dad? 84 00:03:24,247 --> 00:03:25,373 It means you're a sn-- [laughs] 85 00:03:25,373 --> 00:03:27,417 - You're a snoop, girl. - I'm not a snoop. It was right there. 86 00:03:27,417 --> 00:03:28,501 Okay, yeah. Whose room is this? 87 00:03:28,501 --> 00:03:30,253 - [Paige Alexander] Who pays the mortgage? - Oh! 88 00:03:30,253 --> 00:03:32,964 - [video recorder beeps] - I wanna talk about triggers. 89 00:03:32,964 --> 00:03:35,217 So, maybe there's no such thing as a trigger warning 90 00:03:35,217 --> 00:03:36,968 because, apparently, a trigger can show up 91 00:03:36,968 --> 00:03:39,721 in your kitchen uninvited and unannounced, 92 00:03:39,721 --> 00:03:42,265 and that is not the right attitude. 93 00:03:42,265 --> 00:03:43,558 - [video recorder beeps] - [sputters] 94 00:03:43,558 --> 00:03:45,727 - Ah! - [video recorder beeps] 95 00:03:46,478 --> 00:03:47,479 [whispers] Triggers. 96 00:03:47,479 --> 00:03:50,565 [normal] Triggers are almost never about what's happening right now. 97 00:03:50,565 --> 00:03:52,692 They are connected to something old, 98 00:03:52,692 --> 00:03:54,819 something that is carried in the mind 99 00:03:54,819 --> 00:03:57,781 but really held in the body, 100 00:03:57,781 --> 00:03:59,824 and that is why they can be so overwhelming, 101 00:03:59,824 --> 00:04:04,537 like a riptide is sucking you under and-- [yells] 102 00:04:06,206 --> 00:04:07,415 [sighs] 103 00:04:08,333 --> 00:04:11,586 - [video recorder beeps] - Triggers are like metal detectors, 104 00:04:11,586 --> 00:04:15,590 and when they go off, it means that you have found a spot 105 00:04:15,590 --> 00:04:20,762 where something deeply personal is buried way down. 106 00:04:20,762 --> 00:04:23,223 And so, the question you need to ask yourself is: 107 00:04:23,223 --> 00:04:25,767 am I willing to start digging? 108 00:04:25,767 --> 00:04:28,270 - [video recorder beeps] - No, I am not. 109 00:04:28,270 --> 00:04:31,648 [groans] I'm so triggered. 110 00:04:33,692 --> 00:04:35,443 - [Finn Alexander] Mom? - Hey. 111 00:04:35,443 --> 00:04:39,155 Um... about my dad... I've been thinking-- 112 00:04:39,155 --> 00:04:40,448 And you have questions, right? 113 00:04:40,448 --> 00:04:42,492 Of course, you do, because these are critical years 114 00:04:42,492 --> 00:04:44,202 of individuating, 115 00:04:44,202 --> 00:04:47,747 and so it's totally natural for you to wanna know more about your dad. 116 00:04:47,747 --> 00:04:49,040 It's primal, really. 117 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:51,501 So, I mean, whatever you wanna ask me, you should ask me, 118 00:04:51,501 --> 00:04:55,422 - like on Reddit but in real life. - Mom. Can we talk a little slower? 119 00:04:55,797 --> 00:04:59,634 [chuckles] Uh, yes, we can. 120 00:04:59,634 --> 00:05:01,136 I'm sorry, sweetie. 121 00:05:04,055 --> 00:05:05,599 What's he really like? 122 00:05:05,599 --> 00:05:09,311 I mean, I kinda don't know what he's like, but I also do. 123 00:05:09,311 --> 00:05:10,395 Wow. 124 00:05:11,354 --> 00:05:14,566 Uh, well, your dad, 125 00:05:14,566 --> 00:05:19,321 he is charming and charismatic 126 00:05:19,321 --> 00:05:24,367 and also, like, fun and carefree. [laughs] 127 00:05:24,367 --> 00:05:28,246 - So you're saying I took after you? - Tragically, yes. [laughs] 128 00:05:28,246 --> 00:05:29,664 But, honey, there's still hope for you 129 00:05:29,664 --> 00:05:32,208 because you might get some of your granddad's swag passed onto you 130 00:05:32,208 --> 00:05:34,753 'cause it's somewhere in my genetics. [laughs] 131 00:05:35,587 --> 00:05:37,339 Is there a reason he doesn't come see me? 132 00:05:37,339 --> 00:05:42,135 You know, his band tours, like, 300 days a year. 133 00:05:42,135 --> 00:05:44,304 Yeah, and he doesn't visit the other 65. 134 00:05:44,304 --> 00:05:48,058 - I mean. - Yeah, I c-- I can't explain that, Finn. 135 00:05:48,058 --> 00:05:51,895 - 'Kay, maybe I'll just ask him. - Oh, wow. Okay, that's interesting. 136 00:05:51,895 --> 00:05:55,649 Um, so, it is one approach, and we can talk about it, 137 00:05:55,649 --> 00:05:58,944 but let's just talk about it maybe when I'm not on my way out the door, okay? 138 00:05:58,944 --> 00:06:02,072 - Okay. - Okay! Okay, okay! 139 00:06:02,447 --> 00:06:05,075 - [door closes] - [♪ soft, rhythmic music playing] 140 00:06:05,075 --> 00:06:07,202 ♪ 141 00:06:08,161 --> 00:06:10,914 Welcome. There is a sign-in sheet on the table right there. 142 00:06:10,914 --> 00:06:13,750 - [softly] Thank you. - Oh, and I have a neo-soul small bite 143 00:06:13,750 --> 00:06:15,043 for your enjoyment, take that. 144 00:06:15,043 --> 00:06:16,336 - Thank you. - There you go. 145 00:06:16,336 --> 00:06:18,171 It's like the Erykah Badu of light bites. 146 00:06:19,673 --> 00:06:23,426 So, what are we thinking? Is the bedroom suite not dreamy? 147 00:06:23,426 --> 00:06:25,470 It's the heated floors in the bathroom for me. 148 00:06:25,470 --> 00:06:30,183 There's nothin' like stepping down onto warm tile in the middle of winter. 149 00:06:30,183 --> 00:06:31,851 I was just talking about that. 150 00:06:31,851 --> 00:06:34,062 Now if I'm you all, I'm moving very quickly. 151 00:06:34,062 --> 00:06:36,815 This place is goin' in multiples, you best believe. 152 00:06:36,815 --> 00:06:39,192 - I'm calling our agent. - Okay. 153 00:06:39,192 --> 00:06:41,236 Oh, please, uh, take a sammie before you go. 154 00:06:41,236 --> 00:06:43,822 - Thank you. - And for all your catering needs, 155 00:06:43,822 --> 00:06:45,323 please take a card. 156 00:06:45,323 --> 00:06:49,244 It has my, uh, QR code, which my grandson made for me. 157 00:06:49,244 --> 00:06:50,537 - Oh, sweet. Thank you. - Thank you. 158 00:06:50,537 --> 00:06:51,997 - You guys enjoy. - Thank you so much. 159 00:06:51,997 --> 00:06:53,498 - Bye. - Bye-bye now. 160 00:06:53,498 --> 00:06:54,833 That was good. 161 00:06:54,833 --> 00:06:57,043 - Dude, promise me I'll never have to do... - Huh? What? 162 00:06:57,043 --> 00:07:00,839 ...another open house without you and your awesome waffle sammies. 163 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:02,340 Okay, gimme somethin'. Come on. 164 00:07:02,340 --> 00:07:03,925 Uhh! 165 00:07:03,925 --> 00:07:06,636 You said you're gonna take better care of me. 166 00:07:06,636 --> 00:07:10,223 - Mm-hm. - So, you know Nadine's a walking, 167 00:07:10,223 --> 00:07:14,019 talking trigger machine, but what are you gonna do? 168 00:07:14,019 --> 00:07:16,187 - I don't need trouble. - I don't know. Ignore her? 169 00:07:16,187 --> 00:07:17,480 [gasps] Wait, does that work? 170 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:20,567 - No. Fight her. - Uh, try again. 171 00:07:20,567 --> 00:07:23,194 Listen to everything you say that we need the most? 172 00:07:23,194 --> 00:07:24,946 - Bingo! - Oh! 173 00:07:25,405 --> 00:07:27,407 Oh, God. Incoming. 174 00:07:27,949 --> 00:07:29,701 Paige, hi! 175 00:07:29,701 --> 00:07:31,786 - Hi! Wow! - [Ava] Hi! 176 00:07:31,786 --> 00:07:35,540 Oh, you're checking out my dad's new business venture. 177 00:07:35,540 --> 00:07:38,001 Yeah. You know, I like to show up for my clients. 178 00:07:38,001 --> 00:07:39,419 Right. Or check up on them? 179 00:07:39,419 --> 00:07:42,297 Just a little. I love how he's literally cooking up bigger plans. 180 00:07:42,297 --> 00:07:44,382 Ah, I see what you did there. 181 00:07:44,382 --> 00:07:46,635 Your dad's showin' out. The man's food slaps. 182 00:07:46,635 --> 00:07:48,720 - Mm-hm. - Yep. Except now, thanks to him, 183 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,472 I gotta talk Ava outta this house. 184 00:07:50,472 --> 00:07:54,059 Mm, it's literally perfect. Ooh, I'm moist. [laughs] 185 00:07:54,059 --> 00:07:55,560 Slow down, babe. 186 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:57,854 I think you've had one too many bourbon-glazed shrimp. 187 00:07:57,854 --> 00:08:00,482 - Okay? Let's get you home. - Bye, Paige. 188 00:08:00,482 --> 00:08:02,400 - [Mal Kennedy] See you, Paige. - See you, Ava. Bye, Mal. 189 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:04,319 - Bye, guys. [groans] - [metal detector beeping] 190 00:08:04,319 --> 00:08:08,823 Beep, beep, beep, beep. 191 00:08:09,282 --> 00:08:13,286 - [gasps] Beeeeep! - [metal detector beeping] 192 00:08:16,122 --> 00:08:18,583 ♪ 193 00:08:18,583 --> 00:08:22,295 I don't understand why Paige keeps doubting this part of who I am. 194 00:08:22,295 --> 00:08:25,507 Yeah, Paige is just an "I'll believe it when I see it" type. 195 00:08:25,507 --> 00:08:28,510 Oh yeah. Give her time. It's only been three or four decades. 196 00:08:28,510 --> 00:08:29,928 Let her cook. 197 00:08:30,929 --> 00:08:34,140 Ooh, that looks good. And I will take one of-- 198 00:08:34,140 --> 00:08:36,643 - No, you will not. - Hey, hey, hey! Leave some for the guests! 199 00:08:36,643 --> 00:08:38,395 - Come on! - [Edwin] You know what? 200 00:08:38,395 --> 00:08:39,604 You guys ate all the food. 201 00:08:39,604 --> 00:08:41,439 - [Esti Nelson] Uh-uh. - [Edwin] Forget it! Forget it! 202 00:08:41,439 --> 00:08:43,650 - I'll be standing by. - [Edwin] Forget it. Nuh-uh. 203 00:08:43,650 --> 00:08:45,944 Paige! Oh, my God! So glad you made it! 204 00:08:45,944 --> 00:08:47,862 - Baby girl. - Uh, your dad's grits balls 205 00:08:47,862 --> 00:08:50,031 have sold this house five times already. 206 00:08:50,031 --> 00:08:52,909 - Grits balls? - Oh, they're very persuasive. 207 00:08:52,909 --> 00:08:55,078 - Well, you like the balls. - [Esti] Seriously though, 208 00:08:55,078 --> 00:08:57,080 your dad is the best hype man of all time. 209 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:58,373 Okay, okay. Come on now, come on now. 210 00:08:58,373 --> 00:09:01,585 Okay, well, Lil Jon is the best hype man of actual all time, 211 00:09:01,585 --> 00:09:02,878 but I don't know Lil Jon. 212 00:09:02,878 --> 00:09:04,337 I couldn't afford him even if I did. 213 00:09:04,337 --> 00:09:06,548 You might not be able to afford me after a while. 214 00:09:06,548 --> 00:09:09,217 - Ah! - [all laughing] 215 00:09:09,217 --> 00:09:13,138 [fake laughing] Esti, can I talk to you for a minute? 216 00:09:13,138 --> 00:09:15,140 Okay, and then, I come around the corner, 217 00:09:15,140 --> 00:09:18,351 and there she is in my favorite vintage apron. 218 00:09:18,351 --> 00:09:19,728 - The one you got at Ragstock? - Yes! 219 00:09:19,728 --> 00:09:21,980 And now she's trying to be all buddy-buddy with my sister? 220 00:09:21,980 --> 00:09:23,356 - Me? - Yes, you. 221 00:09:23,356 --> 00:09:25,692 I can't even get my feet underneath me 'cause everywhere I turn, 222 00:09:25,692 --> 00:09:27,527 there's Nadine and her stupid fucking long legs. 223 00:09:27,527 --> 00:09:29,404 She does have outstanding legs. 224 00:09:29,404 --> 00:09:31,281 - Stop liking her! - Ow! O-Okay, okay! 225 00:09:31,281 --> 00:09:32,949 - [whispers] What do you want me to do? - I don't know. 226 00:09:32,949 --> 00:09:34,743 Be mean to her, at least when I'm around. 227 00:09:34,743 --> 00:09:37,120 I'm kidding. You know I'm totally kidding, right? 228 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:38,955 Who are you kidding? You are totally not kidding. 229 00:09:38,955 --> 00:09:43,335 [groans] I also saw Mal and his gorgeous girlfriend. 230 00:09:43,335 --> 00:09:45,545 I should sue her for breaking my face, right? 231 00:09:45,545 --> 00:09:48,632 - Isn't she a lawyer? - Oh, yeah. So that plan's a bust. 232 00:09:48,632 --> 00:09:53,011 Oh, also, Finn, all of a sudden, has all these questions about his dad. 233 00:09:53,011 --> 00:09:55,931 I'm triggered as fuck. Somehow, he got his hands on the album. 234 00:09:55,931 --> 00:09:57,891 Oh, that, that was me. 235 00:09:57,891 --> 00:09:59,851 - How could you? - No, oh, yeah, yeah, I probably should've 236 00:09:59,851 --> 00:10:01,770 - told you. I-- - Yes! How could you? 237 00:10:01,770 --> 00:10:03,230 You know how I feel about Johnny. 238 00:10:03,230 --> 00:10:07,442 I guess. It-- But it-it-- Vaguely, okay? It's not like we ever talk about it. 239 00:10:07,442 --> 00:10:09,194 Yes, because there's nothing to talk about. 240 00:10:09,194 --> 00:10:12,489 - He's totally not present. - Which is why I got the record, okay? 241 00:10:12,489 --> 00:10:15,116 If I had a dad I never see who dedicated something to me, 242 00:10:15,116 --> 00:10:16,952 I'd be all over that, like a little piece of me. 243 00:10:16,952 --> 00:10:20,664 But this isn't you! This is Finn, my kid, who is anxious! 244 00:10:20,664 --> 00:10:23,583 Okay, this is, uh, too much Selling Sunset drama for me, 245 00:10:23,583 --> 00:10:25,669 and unlike those girls, I actually have to sell this house. 246 00:10:25,669 --> 00:10:26,753 [Paige] Okay. 247 00:10:27,128 --> 00:10:29,214 - [metal detector beeping] - [Little Paige] Beep, beep, beep-- 248 00:10:29,214 --> 00:10:31,758 No, no, no, no. Okay, okay, can you-- Y-- J-- Turn that off. 249 00:10:31,758 --> 00:10:36,471 Trick, you need to phone a friend, a friend named Murphy. 250 00:10:36,471 --> 00:10:38,223 - [Paige] No. - Mm. 251 00:10:38,223 --> 00:10:40,183 Oh, really? 252 00:10:40,892 --> 00:10:42,102 Go on. 253 00:10:46,565 --> 00:10:48,191 [kids shouting] 254 00:10:49,276 --> 00:10:50,902 - Nadine... - Hm? 255 00:10:50,902 --> 00:10:54,864 ...I would like to invite you to family therapy with us. 256 00:10:54,864 --> 00:10:56,992 [coughs] I'm-I'm sorry, what? 257 00:10:56,992 --> 00:10:58,577 Yeah, I'm sure my dad has told you 258 00:10:58,577 --> 00:11:00,954 that we're seeing someone and we're learning a lot. 259 00:11:00,954 --> 00:11:03,123 - Whether we want to or not. - This week, our therapist 260 00:11:03,123 --> 00:11:05,083 recommended that we include you, 261 00:11:05,083 --> 00:11:08,295 so for whatever reason, I'm going along with it. 262 00:11:08,295 --> 00:11:11,298 But it's family therapy, so. 263 00:11:11,298 --> 00:11:14,509 - I-I-- - Okay. She's inviting you, take the win. 264 00:11:14,509 --> 00:11:18,471 'Cause I am ready to start digging, even if it's my own grave. 265 00:11:18,889 --> 00:11:21,099 - Oh! - [nastily] Excuse me. 266 00:11:21,099 --> 00:11:22,183 Wh-- 267 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:25,186 No... No. 268 00:11:30,650 --> 00:11:32,652 [phone chimes] 269 00:11:36,615 --> 00:11:37,949 - So, Mom? - Mm-hm. 270 00:11:37,949 --> 00:11:39,784 - I've been texting my dad... - What? 271 00:11:39,784 --> 00:11:44,122 ...and, um... he's not going on the road until January. 272 00:11:44,122 --> 00:11:46,041 - I wanna go see him. - [sighs] 273 00:11:46,041 --> 00:11:47,959 He said I can visit him, like, next week-- 274 00:11:47,959 --> 00:11:50,837 Visit? Bu-- No. Uh, Finn, your dad should not be making promises 275 00:11:50,837 --> 00:11:52,464 about trips without talking to me. 276 00:11:52,464 --> 00:11:54,674 But you don't have to do anything. 277 00:11:54,674 --> 00:11:55,926 I'm old enough to go by myself. 278 00:11:55,926 --> 00:11:58,929 Honey, you haven't even gotten behind the wheel of a car since the accident. 279 00:11:58,929 --> 00:12:00,764 Now you wanna get on a plane by yourself? 280 00:12:00,764 --> 00:12:01,848 Mom, this is different. 281 00:12:01,848 --> 00:12:05,268 Finn, I... I'm sorry, it's a no. 282 00:12:06,561 --> 00:12:09,105 I smell tension. Anyone else smell tension? 283 00:12:09,105 --> 00:12:11,274 [sniffs] Tension. 284 00:12:12,108 --> 00:12:13,360 Hello! 285 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:15,362 Enchanté. 286 00:12:15,362 --> 00:12:17,656 You must be Nadine, the, uh, non-legal stepmother 287 00:12:17,656 --> 00:12:19,366 who triggers the fuck outta Paige, huh? 288 00:12:19,366 --> 00:12:21,159 Hm, is that what she told you? 289 00:12:21,159 --> 00:12:22,994 - Eh. - Interesting. 290 00:12:22,994 --> 00:12:25,038 [Murphy Collins] Right this way, please. 291 00:12:25,038 --> 00:12:26,831 You ready for this? 292 00:12:26,831 --> 00:12:29,125 - Question is, are you? - [chuckles] 293 00:12:31,503 --> 00:12:33,338 [sighs] 294 00:12:33,338 --> 00:12:35,257 [Murphy] Paige, you okay? 295 00:12:36,883 --> 00:12:39,302 Um, my heart is beating really fast, 296 00:12:39,302 --> 00:12:42,347 and, um, I just-- I-I-I d-- I don't feel safe. 297 00:12:42,347 --> 00:12:46,851 Okay, well, at the risk of sounding shrinky... 298 00:12:48,228 --> 00:12:50,981 Nadine, why, why do you think Paige feels unsafe? 299 00:12:50,981 --> 00:12:52,065 I don't know. [laughs] 300 00:12:52,065 --> 00:12:54,693 You'd think she owns stock in childhood trauma. 301 00:12:54,693 --> 00:12:57,153 Oh, well, thanks to you, I do own some shares. 302 00:12:57,153 --> 00:12:59,739 Do Finn and I really need to be here for this? 303 00:12:59,739 --> 00:13:01,908 'Cause I can take him down the street for a burger, 304 00:13:01,908 --> 00:13:03,118 - you know? - We can bring you back some food. 305 00:13:03,118 --> 00:13:06,621 - No eating in my office. - Paige, I want to help you 306 00:13:06,621 --> 00:13:08,206 work through your shit. 307 00:13:08,206 --> 00:13:09,291 - Oh, thank you. - Okay? 308 00:13:09,291 --> 00:13:13,211 But it takes a special kind of love to raise a child who's not your own. 309 00:13:13,211 --> 00:13:18,133 - A special [laughs] kind of love? - Good, Paige. Don't hold back now. 310 00:13:18,133 --> 00:13:20,719 Your body's telling you something. What are you feeling right now? 311 00:13:20,719 --> 00:13:22,554 Take a deep breath, identify the feeling... 312 00:13:22,554 --> 00:13:25,015 and then unleash, alright? 313 00:13:25,015 --> 00:13:28,643 We're gonna really have to wrestle through some emotions today. 314 00:13:29,519 --> 00:13:30,854 [Little Paige] Let's do it, Murph! 315 00:13:30,854 --> 00:13:33,023 [♪ "Apache" by Incredible Bongo Band playing] 316 00:13:33,023 --> 00:13:35,734 - [bell dings] - [audience cheers, applauds] 317 00:13:35,734 --> 00:13:38,194 [announcer voice] Live from my office in St. Louis Park, 318 00:13:38,194 --> 00:13:40,864 it's the Alexander Family Therapy Smackdown! 319 00:13:42,574 --> 00:13:44,951 Let's get ready to validaaate 320 00:13:44,951 --> 00:13:46,286 [normal] our feelings. 321 00:13:46,828 --> 00:13:48,747 [announcer voice] Round one! Ladies, take your corners. 322 00:13:48,747 --> 00:13:53,501 Nadine, the Bi-polar Babe versus Ragey Paigey. 323 00:13:53,501 --> 00:13:55,837 Okay, so first, start with the flying dropkick. 324 00:13:55,837 --> 00:13:57,339 - What? - And then go for her knees. 325 00:13:57,339 --> 00:13:58,632 - Okay. - 'Cause she's got great legs, 326 00:13:58,632 --> 00:13:59,716 - but bad knees. - I know. 327 00:13:59,716 --> 00:14:01,009 - Bad knees! Woo! - Woo! Let's go! 328 00:14:01,009 --> 00:14:04,095 - Okay! Yeah! Woo! - Yeah! 329 00:14:07,724 --> 00:14:09,976 [both grunting] 330 00:14:14,189 --> 00:14:16,524 A special kind of love?! 331 00:14:16,524 --> 00:14:19,152 You left me at a truck stop in Arizona! 332 00:14:19,152 --> 00:14:22,364 I thought you were sleeping in the back seat, 333 00:14:22,364 --> 00:14:24,407 and I came right back! 334 00:14:24,407 --> 00:14:27,035 - [Paige grunting] - Ooh! 335 00:14:28,286 --> 00:14:31,122 Two hours is not "right back"! 336 00:14:32,540 --> 00:14:33,917 In your face, Nadine! 337 00:14:33,917 --> 00:14:38,797 Because of you, I had to work shitty office jobs for 10 years! 338 00:14:38,797 --> 00:14:42,342 I'm sorry! You could've been turning tricks instead! 339 00:14:42,342 --> 00:14:43,635 [grunts] 340 00:14:43,635 --> 00:14:46,638 - You know what? - I'm so sorry, Nadine... 341 00:14:46,638 --> 00:14:49,474 - You gonna jump in or what? - Trust the process. This is good. 342 00:14:49,474 --> 00:14:51,643 - Tell me something that you did for me... - [Nadine] What? 343 00:14:51,643 --> 00:14:53,436 ...other than put a roof over my head. 344 00:14:53,436 --> 00:14:55,313 Oh, how 'bout put you through college? 345 00:14:55,313 --> 00:14:56,815 Oh, no, no. I had work-study. 346 00:14:56,815 --> 00:14:58,775 Oh, work-study. That didn't pay for shit. 347 00:14:58,775 --> 00:15:00,235 - [yells] - [body thuds] 348 00:15:00,235 --> 00:15:01,570 ♪ 349 00:15:01,570 --> 00:15:02,862 [yells] 350 00:15:02,862 --> 00:15:05,156 I took you to get your ears pierced. 351 00:15:05,156 --> 00:15:09,828 Yes, after you made me watch you get your belly button pierced! 352 00:15:09,828 --> 00:15:12,122 - [bell dings] - [grunting] 353 00:15:12,706 --> 00:15:14,958 I should've spanked you then! 354 00:15:14,958 --> 00:15:16,668 [grunting] 355 00:15:18,003 --> 00:15:21,214 You only ever do anything for me when there is something in it for you! 356 00:15:21,214 --> 00:15:25,635 What kinda kid wants a mom who just always puts herself first? 357 00:15:26,511 --> 00:15:28,346 That's a great question. 358 00:15:28,847 --> 00:15:29,848 - Bingo. - Oh. 359 00:15:29,848 --> 00:15:32,225 [audience cheers, applauds] 360 00:15:32,225 --> 00:15:34,811 ♪ 361 00:15:37,147 --> 00:15:38,565 [bell dings] 362 00:15:39,649 --> 00:15:42,402 - That's exactly what you do to me. - Come on. 363 00:15:43,069 --> 00:15:46,364 - I said I wanna see my dad. - Well, it's better this way! 364 00:15:46,364 --> 00:15:48,742 - Better for who? - For you! 365 00:15:50,285 --> 00:15:53,914 - Did you stop him from visiting? - No! No, of course not, 366 00:15:53,914 --> 00:15:57,167 but I, I couldn't force him to step up. 367 00:15:58,251 --> 00:16:00,670 So you let my dad drift away? 368 00:16:00,670 --> 00:16:02,088 [silence] 369 00:16:02,088 --> 00:16:03,590 Because what? 370 00:16:05,425 --> 00:16:07,427 Ya didn't wanna deal with him? 371 00:16:08,803 --> 00:16:10,722 Hit him with the chair! 372 00:16:11,348 --> 00:16:12,974 Are you crazy? 373 00:16:14,226 --> 00:16:19,564 Is that what you need to hear from me? That I, I fought for you to have a dad? 374 00:16:19,564 --> 00:16:21,942 Mom, I was too little to fight for myself. 375 00:16:21,942 --> 00:16:25,862 Finn, it is so hard to have a dad 376 00:16:25,862 --> 00:16:30,867 who, one minute, he's there and it is great, 377 00:16:30,867 --> 00:16:36,790 but then, he's gone, and it is terrible! 378 00:16:42,671 --> 00:16:45,006 [announcer voice] And now, the moment we've all been waiting for, 379 00:16:45,006 --> 00:16:50,262 the main event, Daddy Destruction versus Ragey Paigey! 380 00:16:50,262 --> 00:16:51,680 [bell dings] 381 00:16:52,222 --> 00:16:55,767 I tell you that woman triggers me. Everywhere you go, there she is! 382 00:16:55,767 --> 00:16:58,270 - Nadine has been there for me. - [Paige cackles] 383 00:16:58,270 --> 00:17:00,355 When you will not or you cannot support me! 384 00:17:00,355 --> 00:17:03,191 Dad, you live in my house! 385 00:17:03,191 --> 00:17:06,069 I literally support you! 386 00:17:06,069 --> 00:17:08,321 [both screaming] 387 00:17:08,321 --> 00:17:13,243 Only after you remind me about all the times I failed you. 388 00:17:13,243 --> 00:17:14,578 You think that helps me? 389 00:17:14,578 --> 00:17:18,623 I don't do that... all the time. 390 00:17:18,623 --> 00:17:20,667 [grunting] 391 00:17:20,667 --> 00:17:23,420 - Often enough, baby. - [both yelling] 392 00:17:27,382 --> 00:17:29,634 Oh, yeah, oh, yeah. 393 00:17:29,634 --> 00:17:32,220 Paige, you can't keep livin' in the past. 394 00:17:32,220 --> 00:17:36,516 All the time I done lost, I've got to live in the right now! 395 00:17:36,516 --> 00:17:38,143 - [Paige] Okay. - We all do! 396 00:17:38,143 --> 00:17:39,227 Okay! 397 00:17:39,227 --> 00:17:43,815 But does the "right now" have to include so much Nadine? 398 00:17:43,815 --> 00:17:45,108 [yells] 399 00:17:45,108 --> 00:17:48,653 Can I just cut in here for a second? Wow. 400 00:17:48,653 --> 00:17:51,239 I am proud of you, Edwin. You're really doin' the work. 401 00:17:51,239 --> 00:17:53,199 - [Edwin] Thank you, doc. - You're welcome. 402 00:17:53,199 --> 00:17:54,492 - Now, Paige? - Yes. 403 00:17:54,492 --> 00:17:57,370 Look, Nadine may be wildly dysfunctional. She may be mis-attuned. 404 00:17:57,370 --> 00:17:59,915 She may have had a bi-polar episode or two. 405 00:17:59,915 --> 00:18:01,833 - Or five. - Or five, 406 00:18:01,833 --> 00:18:04,544 but she's not causing the big reaction. 407 00:18:04,544 --> 00:18:09,466 Yes, there's big feelings around her, but, him, your dad, 408 00:18:09,466 --> 00:18:13,386 what makes you really mad about your dad, specifically? 409 00:18:18,183 --> 00:18:19,392 [Paige] Dad. 410 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:22,562 Gimme what you got, baby girl. 411 00:18:23,104 --> 00:18:24,731 [silence] 412 00:18:27,984 --> 00:18:34,407 I was so happy... when you got out that first time. 413 00:18:34,407 --> 00:18:35,909 Do you remember? 414 00:18:36,618 --> 00:18:41,456 You finally came home, and you took me out of foster care 415 00:18:41,456 --> 00:18:45,252 because I was gonna come live with you again... 416 00:18:45,252 --> 00:18:51,341 and we were gonna go shopping and... get a dog. 417 00:18:58,765 --> 00:19:02,394 But then... there was this woman, 418 00:19:02,394 --> 00:19:08,441 and it was all Nadine this and Nadine that, 419 00:19:08,441 --> 00:19:10,694 and then you just left me with her. 420 00:19:10,694 --> 00:19:13,863 You left me with her. 421 00:19:13,863 --> 00:19:18,243 So, when I see you two together, 422 00:19:18,243 --> 00:19:22,163 I am right back in that moment where everything was great, 423 00:19:22,163 --> 00:19:24,291 and then, suddenly, it all fell apart. 424 00:19:24,291 --> 00:19:29,170 I am in that place where I know that my daddy loves me... 425 00:19:29,170 --> 00:19:32,883 but he just keeps leaving me anyway. 426 00:19:32,883 --> 00:19:38,847 So I stay mad at Nadine because I can't get mad at you 427 00:19:38,847 --> 00:19:44,728 because I am so afraid that if I let you see how angry I am 428 00:19:44,728 --> 00:19:49,316 that you will just leave me again. 429 00:19:52,110 --> 00:19:55,530 There it is... There it is. 430 00:19:55,530 --> 00:19:58,283 - [audience shouting] - [Little Paige screaming] 431 00:19:58,283 --> 00:20:00,076 [Edwin yells] 432 00:20:02,120 --> 00:20:03,914 Yes! Woo-hoo! 433 00:20:03,914 --> 00:20:07,292 - [bell dings] - I won! I won! 434 00:20:08,168 --> 00:20:10,378 Did you though, really? 435 00:20:10,378 --> 00:20:12,088 [silence] 436 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:18,553 That was awesome. [sighs] I'm so fucking good at this, aren't I? 437 00:20:20,013 --> 00:20:22,015 [gong rings] 438 00:20:23,099 --> 00:20:24,726 [Nadine] Are sessions always like that? 439 00:20:24,726 --> 00:20:28,104 Sometimes Murphy reads from his book, you know? 440 00:20:28,104 --> 00:20:31,441 But... yeah, yeah. 441 00:20:31,441 --> 00:20:34,527 I don't know how you do this every week. 442 00:20:35,153 --> 00:20:36,780 - Nadine... - Hm? 443 00:20:38,031 --> 00:20:40,659 ...I feel like we need to take a step back, girl. 444 00:20:44,079 --> 00:20:46,122 At least while I'm livin' with Paige. 445 00:20:46,122 --> 00:20:50,835 I don't think your grown daughter should dictate what goes on in your life. 446 00:20:50,835 --> 00:20:54,548 In a lotta ways, she ain't grown, Nadine. 447 00:20:54,548 --> 00:20:58,510 Paige is stuck at age eight when I left her with you. 448 00:20:58,510 --> 00:21:01,596 - Oh-- - Now you know her mama walked out 449 00:21:01,596 --> 00:21:03,014 before she could lace up her shoes. 450 00:21:03,014 --> 00:21:04,641 - I know. - Okay. 451 00:21:04,641 --> 00:21:07,936 We don't know that kinda pain, Nadine, 452 00:21:07,936 --> 00:21:12,607 and if ever I'm gonna, like, heal this family... 453 00:21:12,607 --> 00:21:14,317 I gotta be a father first. 454 00:21:14,734 --> 00:21:15,944 Father first? 455 00:21:16,528 --> 00:21:18,738 - Yeah. - It's kinda hot. 456 00:21:20,532 --> 00:21:23,743 - I'm trying to do the right thing, Nadine. - [softly] I know. 457 00:21:24,536 --> 00:21:26,538 And right now, this feels-- 458 00:21:29,374 --> 00:21:30,875 It's for the best. 459 00:21:34,838 --> 00:21:38,466 I gotta show up the way my family need for me to show up. 460 00:21:53,899 --> 00:21:57,527 Your dad loves card games, like you... 461 00:21:58,403 --> 00:22:02,324 and when you were four, he taught you to play Go Fish, 462 00:22:03,199 --> 00:22:05,285 and with your little, tiny hands, 463 00:22:05,285 --> 00:22:08,955 you could barely hold onto all the cards. [laughs] 464 00:22:08,955 --> 00:22:11,750 And then he would go off on the road, 465 00:22:11,750 --> 00:22:13,668 and you would come and say, 466 00:22:13,668 --> 00:22:18,048 "Mommy, please, I wanna go fishing. Let's go fishing, let's go fish." 467 00:22:18,673 --> 00:22:22,427 And you just always seemed so sad. 468 00:22:23,428 --> 00:22:27,474 I just-- I don't want that to keep happening. 469 00:22:28,225 --> 00:22:29,768 You know what Murphy would say? 470 00:22:29,768 --> 00:22:32,562 Oh, what would Murphy say? 471 00:22:35,190 --> 00:22:37,943 [imitating Murphy] Paige, darling Paige... 472 00:22:37,943 --> 00:22:42,364 I wonder, is sad how Finn has always felt... 473 00:22:42,364 --> 00:22:45,283 or is that how you have always felt? 474 00:22:45,283 --> 00:22:48,578 - Oh! - Asking for a friend. 475 00:22:48,578 --> 00:22:52,332 - Oh, [laughs] the shade! - [Finn laughs] 476 00:22:52,332 --> 00:22:55,418 Murphy, where are your weird, dangling suspenders? 477 00:22:55,418 --> 00:22:57,420 [laughs] I actually like the suspenders. 478 00:22:57,420 --> 00:22:59,714 - No. - Yeah, they're kinda cool. 479 00:23:03,927 --> 00:23:05,345 Finn... 480 00:23:06,888 --> 00:23:09,516 I cannot keep you from your dad. 481 00:23:11,685 --> 00:23:14,563 So, if you really... 482 00:23:16,147 --> 00:23:19,776 wanna see him, then I will take you. 483 00:23:19,776 --> 00:23:23,071 [♪ "Now That We Found Love" by The O'Jays playing] 484 00:23:24,281 --> 00:23:25,490 Really? 485 00:23:27,158 --> 00:23:28,368 Yes. 486 00:23:28,368 --> 00:23:31,288 ♪ Now that we found love ♪ 487 00:23:31,288 --> 00:23:35,709 ♪ What are we gonna do with it ♪ 488 00:23:35,709 --> 00:23:39,462 - ♪ Sweet love... ♪ - ♪ Now that we found love ♪ 489 00:23:39,462 --> 00:23:43,758 ♪ What are we gonna do with it ♪ 490 00:23:45,886 --> 00:23:48,763 ♪ Let's give it a chance ♪ 491 00:23:48,763 --> 00:23:53,268 ♪ Let it control our destiny ♪ 492 00:23:54,185 --> 00:24:00,692 ♪ We owe it to ourselves to live happy eternally ♪ 493 00:24:01,693 --> 00:24:05,822 ♪ Oh, love is what we've been lookin' for ♪ 494 00:24:05,822 --> 00:24:10,660 ♪ And love is what we've been searchin' for ♪ 495 00:24:10,660 --> 00:24:14,372 ♪ Now that I've got it right here in my hands ♪ 496 00:24:14,915 --> 00:24:19,085 ♪ Seems like I'm gonna spread it all over the land ♪ 497 00:24:19,085 --> 00:24:21,755 ♪ Now that we found love ♪ 498 00:24:21,755 --> 00:24:25,258 ♪ What are we gonna do with it... ♪ 499 00:24:25,258 --> 00:24:27,135 [speaker] Woo-hoo! 500 00:24:28,428 --> 00:24:30,180 [spray paint can hissing]