1 00:00:01,935 --> 00:00:04,271 - ♪♪ MTV ♪♪ 2 00:00:07,408 --> 00:00:08,975 - Did I see that right? 3 00:00:10,377 --> 00:00:11,978 Ah! 4 00:00:12,045 --> 00:00:13,446 Are you gonna be OK? 5 00:00:13,513 --> 00:00:17,551 - I am very nervous about your diabetes. 6 00:00:17,618 --> 00:00:19,320 - Look, it's twins! It's twins. 7 00:00:19,386 --> 00:00:21,621 [all screaming] 8 00:00:21,688 --> 00:00:22,756 - Well, if they they don't say delivered, 9 00:00:22,823 --> 00:00:25,359 that means I'm blocked. - What? 10 00:00:25,426 --> 00:00:28,461 - If it's coming out of Brandon and Teresa, fear and stuff, 11 00:00:28,528 --> 00:00:30,731 whether it be insecurity, or she's getting older, 12 00:00:30,798 --> 00:00:32,399 and they're not wanting contact. 13 00:00:32,466 --> 00:00:34,167 - Or their opinion is different than yours, 14 00:00:34,234 --> 00:00:36,670 and they've asked for space, and they've asked for things 15 00:00:36,736 --> 00:00:38,772 to chill, and it hasn't happened, 16 00:00:38,839 --> 00:00:42,275 then is it the only alternative that they can see? 17 00:00:42,342 --> 00:00:44,345 - I would talk to Dr. Drew just to pick his brain about, 18 00:00:44,411 --> 00:00:46,013 like, how do you communicate with somebody 19 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:47,915 when they block you and completely cut you off? 20 00:00:47,982 --> 00:00:50,217 - I'm just wondering if you would like me 21 00:00:50,283 --> 00:00:52,252 to reach out to Brandon and Teresa. 22 00:00:52,319 --> 00:00:53,587 - I'm fine with it. 23 00:00:53,653 --> 00:00:55,122 - We're fine with anyone reaching out to them. 24 00:00:55,189 --> 00:00:58,559 - I'll be interested to see if Dr. Drew gets anywhere. 25 00:00:58,626 --> 00:01:00,794 Dr. Drew actually-- he just texted me. 26 00:01:00,861 --> 00:01:02,930 "Hey, Cate, do you and Tyler have time to talk?" 27 00:01:02,997 --> 00:01:04,698 [bright music] 28 00:01:04,765 --> 00:01:07,134 - Look at that little car. It's purple. 29 00:01:07,201 --> 00:01:09,536 - I just want a pink one. - "I just want a pink one." 30 00:01:09,603 --> 00:01:11,738 You passed the driver's license knowledge test! 31 00:01:11,805 --> 00:01:15,041 - OK, stop. - High five. 32 00:01:15,108 --> 00:01:16,343 Where'd you get that ring? 33 00:01:16,410 --> 00:01:17,712 - My little boyfriend got it. 34 00:01:17,778 --> 00:01:19,480 - Aleeah, your boyfriend is here. 35 00:01:19,547 --> 00:01:21,081 - Hi. You look very beautiful. 36 00:01:21,148 --> 00:01:22,550 - Thank you. 37 00:01:22,616 --> 00:01:24,418 - Is it weird that I'm the one he fears over the dad? 38 00:01:24,485 --> 00:01:25,986 Is that weird? 39 00:01:26,052 --> 00:01:27,354 - So the boyfriend can't come to your house and hang out? 40 00:01:27,421 --> 00:01:28,823 - Not yet. 41 00:01:28,889 --> 00:01:31,892 - Oh, Leah, it's triggering something in you, girl. 42 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:33,426 - It [bleep] sucks. 43 00:01:33,493 --> 00:01:35,662 My daughter is turning 16, and she don't want to see me. 44 00:01:35,729 --> 00:01:38,098 I see how my relationship with my mom 45 00:01:38,165 --> 00:01:39,700 was completely tumultuous, 46 00:01:39,766 --> 00:01:41,569 and, today, I'm with my mom. 47 00:01:41,635 --> 00:01:42,669 I love my mom so much. 48 00:01:42,736 --> 00:01:44,838 - We call it generational trauma. 49 00:01:44,905 --> 00:01:47,074 - Leah, she's not gonna understand, 50 00:01:47,141 --> 00:01:49,810 but I'm not ever gonna stop being here for her. 51 00:01:49,877 --> 00:01:53,013 - I just think I have a lot of issues 'cause of Amber. 52 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:54,348 - Do you want to talk to somebody 53 00:01:54,415 --> 00:01:56,683 and get into going to therapy? - Yeah. 54 00:01:56,750 --> 00:01:58,318 I'm not really sure when I realized 55 00:01:58,385 --> 00:01:59,853 when Amber, like, wasn't there. 56 00:01:59,919 --> 00:02:02,122 I don't want her around, but I do have 57 00:02:02,188 --> 00:02:04,024 abandonment issues from it. 58 00:02:04,091 --> 00:02:06,760 - This dude carries guns! Please come help my daughter. 59 00:02:06,826 --> 00:02:08,628 - Bar is currently in jail. 60 00:02:08,695 --> 00:02:11,098 I ended up being late to court for my divorce case. 61 00:02:11,165 --> 00:02:16,403 I have to refile the case for a date to open up. 62 00:02:16,469 --> 00:02:18,539 [phone ringing] - Hello? 63 00:02:18,605 --> 00:02:20,006 - Hi. This is the DA office. 64 00:02:20,073 --> 00:02:21,508 I'm calling to speak with Ashley Jones. 65 00:02:21,575 --> 00:02:23,043 - Speaking. 66 00:02:23,110 --> 00:02:25,345 - I have an update about Bariki Smith's case status. 67 00:02:25,412 --> 00:02:27,781 - So Bar took a plea deal? 68 00:02:27,848 --> 00:02:31,919 Headed to meet with this domestic violence advocate. 69 00:02:31,986 --> 00:02:35,121 - You deserve to live in a safe, 70 00:02:35,188 --> 00:02:36,824 violence-free environment. 71 00:02:36,890 --> 00:02:38,725 - Does he understand that things have changed? 72 00:02:38,792 --> 00:02:41,262 Like, sir, this is no longer romantic. 73 00:02:41,328 --> 00:02:43,096 It is platonic. 74 00:02:43,163 --> 00:02:44,398 - And stay tuned... 75 00:02:44,465 --> 00:02:45,432 - Oh, my God. 76 00:02:45,499 --> 00:02:46,933 - Because someone... 77 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:49,836 - The hell? - Whoa, this is crazy. 78 00:02:49,903 --> 00:02:52,539 - Is getting ready to start a new chapter. 79 00:02:52,606 --> 00:02:54,175 - My boobs hurt. Oh, no, am I pregnant? 80 00:02:54,241 --> 00:02:56,443 - I'm scared about two with you being an identical twin. 81 00:02:56,510 --> 00:02:58,111 ♪♪ ♪♪ 82 00:02:58,178 --> 00:03:01,248 [upbeat rock music] 83 00:03:01,315 --> 00:03:08,255 ♪♪ ♪♪ 84 00:03:11,625 --> 00:03:12,960 - ♪♪ All along I ♪♪ 85 00:03:13,027 --> 00:03:15,462 ♪♪ All along I've been ♪♪ 86 00:03:15,529 --> 00:03:18,032 ♪♪ Sitting on a gold mine ♪♪ 87 00:03:18,098 --> 00:03:20,500 - The babies have hiccups every morning, 88 00:03:20,567 --> 00:03:21,835 kicks every evening. 89 00:03:21,902 --> 00:03:23,336 - Did you feel a kick yet? 90 00:03:23,403 --> 00:03:24,871 - He hasn't felt a kick. 91 00:03:24,938 --> 00:03:25,972 They're sitting like this. 92 00:03:26,039 --> 00:03:28,509 - Khes, I felt the babies kick. 93 00:03:28,576 --> 00:03:30,944 - Jaxie, what do you want? - A sister. 94 00:03:31,011 --> 00:03:33,780 - So one kicks right here in my ribs, 95 00:03:33,847 --> 00:03:36,650 and then one kicks down here. 96 00:03:38,385 --> 00:03:41,088 - Yeah, I'm thick, and that's how my man likes me. 97 00:03:41,154 --> 00:03:42,055 - Oh, you know, honey. 98 00:03:42,122 --> 00:03:43,590 - That's why he put two in me. 99 00:03:45,058 --> 00:03:47,594 - [laughs] 100 00:03:48,896 --> 00:03:50,597 - ♪♪ I'm sitting on a gold mine ♪♪ 101 00:03:50,664 --> 00:03:53,333 - You know we only have three months left, right? 102 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:55,402 - I know. - It went by so fast. 103 00:03:55,469 --> 00:03:57,605 I have an ultrasound coming up, 104 00:03:57,671 --> 00:04:01,541 and they will be able to tell the genders. 105 00:04:01,608 --> 00:04:04,544 So do we want them to tell us 106 00:04:04,611 --> 00:04:07,815 or plan a big gender reveal party? 107 00:04:07,881 --> 00:04:10,350 What do you want? And we'll make it happen. 108 00:04:10,417 --> 00:04:11,618 - I want a party. 109 00:04:11,685 --> 00:04:13,053 - So do you want me to tell her, 110 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:15,355 hey, can you put this in an envelope for us? 111 00:04:15,422 --> 00:04:16,723 - Yes. - OK. 112 00:04:16,790 --> 00:04:18,558 I guess let's text all of our friends. 113 00:04:18,625 --> 00:04:19,827 We'll tell Megan because you know 114 00:04:19,893 --> 00:04:21,261 she's gonna be on top of it. 115 00:04:21,328 --> 00:04:24,264 - Have you ever seen, like, a gender reveal 116 00:04:24,331 --> 00:04:26,000 with a soccer ball before? - When you kick it-- 117 00:04:26,066 --> 00:04:28,703 - You close it. Powder goes up in the air. 118 00:04:28,769 --> 00:04:30,905 - I have two balls to throw to you. 119 00:04:30,971 --> 00:04:32,172 - Yes? 120 00:04:32,239 --> 00:04:34,040 - And hopefully there's no balls in me. 121 00:04:34,107 --> 00:04:36,710 - [laughs] 122 00:04:36,777 --> 00:04:38,612 - What do you want to see, blue? 123 00:04:38,679 --> 00:04:40,147 - Oh, 100%. 124 00:04:40,214 --> 00:04:41,748 - After helping me raise Gannon, 125 00:04:41,815 --> 00:04:44,117 you want a boy? - I do. 126 00:04:44,184 --> 00:04:45,685 - Wow, OK. 127 00:04:45,752 --> 00:04:48,388 - I mean, I would take a blue and a pink. 128 00:04:48,455 --> 00:04:50,824 - Oh, gender reveal. 129 00:04:50,890 --> 00:04:53,827 - ♪♪ 'Cause all these feelings ♪♪ 130 00:04:53,894 --> 00:04:55,996 ♪♪ Are taking over me ♪♪ 131 00:04:56,063 --> 00:04:58,265 ♪♪ ♪♪ 132 00:04:58,332 --> 00:05:01,268 - ♪♪ I do my own thing ♪♪ 133 00:05:01,335 --> 00:05:03,336 ♪♪ ♪♪ 134 00:05:03,403 --> 00:05:04,404 ♪♪ I do my own thing ♪♪ 135 00:05:04,471 --> 00:05:06,173 - What you doing? 136 00:05:06,239 --> 00:05:09,076 - Picking out my classes for the next school year. 137 00:05:09,143 --> 00:05:10,744 - Do you have any plans this weekend? 138 00:05:10,811 --> 00:05:12,479 - No, it's kind of a boring weekend. 139 00:05:12,546 --> 00:05:16,450 I was wondering if maybe Sam could come over for dinner? 140 00:05:16,517 --> 00:05:18,852 - Well, I'm glad that, you know, 141 00:05:18,918 --> 00:05:22,088 you're enjoying your time with your boyfriend, 142 00:05:22,155 --> 00:05:24,457 but the rule is that, until you're 16, 143 00:05:24,524 --> 00:05:26,927 I would prefer dates not to come over to the house. 144 00:05:26,993 --> 00:05:28,629 - He's just coming over for dinner. 145 00:05:28,695 --> 00:05:29,863 It's not like he's gonna be in my room. 146 00:05:29,930 --> 00:05:31,332 And, like, what's the difference 147 00:05:31,398 --> 00:05:33,500 between him coming over and any friend coming over? 148 00:05:33,567 --> 00:05:34,935 - I think it's just a boundary 149 00:05:35,001 --> 00:05:36,636 that I have in place to protect you. 150 00:05:36,703 --> 00:05:38,105 And I know... - But, like, why? 151 00:05:38,171 --> 00:05:40,073 - That it's difficult for a teenage brain to understand. 152 00:05:40,140 --> 00:05:41,542 - A teen-- 153 00:05:41,608 --> 00:05:42,709 - Because I think that you-- 154 00:05:42,776 --> 00:05:44,045 no, I do trust you. 155 00:05:44,111 --> 00:05:46,747 But I think, one, I've done stuff 156 00:05:46,814 --> 00:05:48,549 right underneath my parents' nose, 157 00:05:48,616 --> 00:05:50,651 literally, and they had no idea. 158 00:05:50,718 --> 00:05:51,718 - But I'm not you. 159 00:05:51,785 --> 00:05:53,120 - I'm not saying that you're me, 160 00:05:53,187 --> 00:05:55,189 but I'm saying that it is very typical for that 161 00:05:55,255 --> 00:05:57,090 to happen with teenagers. 162 00:05:57,157 --> 00:05:59,459 - Sam's allowed to come over to my dad's house. 163 00:05:59,526 --> 00:06:02,696 [soft dramatic music] 164 00:06:02,763 --> 00:06:05,565 - The boyfriend thing, like, I never in a million years 165 00:06:05,632 --> 00:06:07,767 thought I'd be OK with a boyfriend, and then-- 166 00:06:07,834 --> 00:06:09,637 - Oh, I about have a panic attack every time 167 00:06:09,704 --> 00:06:10,871 you tell me something. - Right. 168 00:06:10,938 --> 00:06:12,706 So my approach with Aleeah's boyfriend, 169 00:06:12,773 --> 00:06:15,675 like, is open communication about it. 170 00:06:15,742 --> 00:06:18,779 - I don't feel comfortable with you chilling at the house 171 00:06:18,845 --> 00:06:21,715 with your boyfriend until you're at least 16. 172 00:06:21,782 --> 00:06:24,117 ♪♪ ♪♪ 173 00:06:24,184 --> 00:06:28,188 - You know, being strict is not a flex. 174 00:06:28,255 --> 00:06:30,257 ♪♪ ♪♪ 175 00:06:30,324 --> 00:06:31,892 - ♪♪ This is where our dreams begin ♪♪ 176 00:06:31,958 --> 00:06:35,296 ♪♪ Oh ♪♪ 177 00:06:35,362 --> 00:06:38,498 - So I'm gonna see how this new medicine works, 178 00:06:38,565 --> 00:06:41,735 make sure it's good, because I don't want to get my hopes up, 179 00:06:41,801 --> 00:06:44,671 but it's worked better than, so far, 180 00:06:44,738 --> 00:06:46,439 anything else for anxiety. 181 00:06:49,443 --> 00:06:53,414 - I'm at the point where, like, I like my time alone. 182 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:57,918 I don't really need a relationship right now. 183 00:06:57,985 --> 00:06:59,987 - Yeah, it just sounds like right now you just really 184 00:07:00,053 --> 00:07:02,289 need to work on yourself. - Yeah. 185 00:07:02,355 --> 00:07:03,824 - And that's really all you can do. 186 00:07:03,891 --> 00:07:05,058 - Yeah. 187 00:07:11,365 --> 00:07:13,200 - She can come over. 188 00:07:13,266 --> 00:07:14,868 - She's driving now. - Exactly. 189 00:07:14,935 --> 00:07:16,870 That's what I meant. - Gosh. 190 00:07:16,937 --> 00:07:19,406 - She can come over. - Making me old. 191 00:07:19,473 --> 00:07:21,108 [upbeat music] 192 00:07:21,175 --> 00:07:23,043 - ♪♪ This is where our dreams begin ♪♪ 193 00:07:23,109 --> 00:07:25,980 ♪♪ Ooh, ooh ♪♪ 194 00:07:26,047 --> 00:07:29,249 ♪♪ Ooh, ooh ♪♪ 195 00:07:29,316 --> 00:07:32,152 ♪♪ ♪♪ 196 00:07:32,219 --> 00:07:37,625 - We make brownies, but they're never as good as yours. 197 00:07:37,691 --> 00:07:38,926 - Bee-ah. 198 00:07:38,993 --> 00:07:40,694 - We don't have enough vegetable oil. 199 00:07:40,761 --> 00:07:42,495 - Olive oil. 200 00:07:42,562 --> 00:07:44,498 - Sometimes I want to do something by myself 201 00:07:44,564 --> 00:07:46,500 and make my own mistakes. 202 00:07:46,567 --> 00:07:48,736 - All right, so we're gonna get these in the oven, 203 00:07:48,802 --> 00:07:51,104 then what do you want to do? 204 00:07:51,171 --> 00:07:55,609 - Um, so I have a text ready that I want to send to Amber 205 00:07:55,675 --> 00:07:58,179 and get it over with. 206 00:07:58,245 --> 00:07:59,279 Obviously, the past few years, 207 00:07:59,346 --> 00:08:00,814 I've been feeling a certain way. 208 00:08:00,881 --> 00:08:03,150 But, like, Amber, when I do see her, like, 209 00:08:03,216 --> 00:08:04,885 she acts like everything's perfectly fine, 210 00:08:04,952 --> 00:08:06,687 and it's like, I haven't seen you in months. 211 00:08:06,754 --> 00:08:07,754 Where are you talking like this? 212 00:08:07,821 --> 00:08:09,056 - Yeah. 213 00:08:09,122 --> 00:08:11,692 Have you ever just told her how you felt? 214 00:08:11,759 --> 00:08:13,594 - No, not really. I'm scared to. 215 00:08:13,660 --> 00:08:14,961 - OK. 216 00:08:15,028 --> 00:08:16,096 - She, like, tells people that, like, 217 00:08:16,162 --> 00:08:17,464 we have a good relationship, 218 00:08:17,531 --> 00:08:19,667 and I think she thinks that it's my dad's fault. 219 00:08:19,734 --> 00:08:21,168 So I kind of want to clear that up 220 00:08:21,235 --> 00:08:22,769 because it's not fair for me to blame my dad 221 00:08:22,836 --> 00:08:24,404 for something that I want. 222 00:08:24,471 --> 00:08:27,574 But the last straw was when she was doing 223 00:08:27,641 --> 00:08:29,910 her lives online, 224 00:08:29,977 --> 00:08:31,478 to say what she said. 225 00:08:31,545 --> 00:08:33,880 She was even talking about me some. 226 00:08:33,947 --> 00:08:35,582 - Who's traumatized? 227 00:08:35,649 --> 00:08:37,084 She's traumatized about what? 228 00:08:37,150 --> 00:08:38,318 She's not traumatized because of me. 229 00:08:38,385 --> 00:08:39,820 I didn't do anything to her like that. 230 00:08:39,887 --> 00:08:41,822 The yelling, yeah, that happened 231 00:08:41,889 --> 00:08:43,490 three years, less than three years. 232 00:08:43,557 --> 00:08:45,125 It's not trauma. 233 00:08:45,192 --> 00:08:47,995 - I personally can't handle it. 234 00:08:48,061 --> 00:08:51,097 Mommy, I want you to come up there with me. 235 00:08:51,164 --> 00:08:54,001 [soft dramatic music] 236 00:08:54,068 --> 00:08:55,869 ♪♪ ♪♪ 237 00:08:55,936 --> 00:08:58,339 I know I want to do it. 238 00:08:58,405 --> 00:09:00,207 - Are you sure? - Yeah, well-- 239 00:09:00,274 --> 00:09:02,476 - I can't have my hand in this, like, other than 240 00:09:02,542 --> 00:09:03,877 being supportive for you. 241 00:09:03,944 --> 00:09:05,312 It has to come from you and something you want. 242 00:09:05,379 --> 00:09:07,280 So I'm gonna make sure, you know, 'cause it's hard 243 00:09:07,347 --> 00:09:09,917 to go back from this. - It'll be fine. 244 00:09:09,983 --> 00:09:11,385 - You just need to make sure it's something you want to do, 245 00:09:11,452 --> 00:09:12,986 and it sounds like it is. - It is. 246 00:09:13,053 --> 00:09:15,856 - OK. - Ta-da. 247 00:09:15,923 --> 00:09:17,424 [soft acoustic music] 248 00:09:17,491 --> 00:09:18,592 Come on. 249 00:09:18,659 --> 00:09:21,695 ♪♪ ♪♪ 250 00:09:21,762 --> 00:09:23,831 - It's--and I love you, and I encourage you. 251 00:09:23,898 --> 00:09:25,465 I love you. 252 00:09:25,532 --> 00:09:27,100 You stay strong and do whatever you got to do. 253 00:09:27,167 --> 00:09:28,402 ♪♪ ♪♪ 254 00:09:28,469 --> 00:09:31,772 - ♪♪ Wherever the wind blows ♪♪ 255 00:09:31,838 --> 00:09:38,279 ♪♪ Wherever the wind blows ♪♪ 256 00:09:38,345 --> 00:09:40,347 - I've been wanting to, like, move forward 257 00:09:40,414 --> 00:09:42,549 and not have abandonment issues. 258 00:09:44,084 --> 00:09:46,219 - So what does the text say? 259 00:09:48,289 --> 00:09:49,656 - "This isn't meant to hurt you, 260 00:09:49,723 --> 00:09:51,758 "but I want to let you know that, all these years, 261 00:09:51,825 --> 00:09:54,194 "it's been my decision to not have a relationship with you, 262 00:09:54,261 --> 00:09:56,496 "and nobody has influenced my decision. 263 00:09:56,563 --> 00:09:58,699 "I feel like recent online activities 264 00:09:58,765 --> 00:10:00,500 "have put me in a place where I need to communicate 265 00:10:00,567 --> 00:10:03,104 this to put a boundary between us for myself." 266 00:10:03,170 --> 00:10:06,273 I just wanted to keep it short and not, like, go off 267 00:10:06,340 --> 00:10:08,409 or anything because I feel like that's just kind of immature. 268 00:10:08,475 --> 00:10:11,879 - I'm sure she's probably gonna feel a certain 269 00:10:11,945 --> 00:10:16,450 kind of way being rejected. 270 00:10:16,516 --> 00:10:18,952 Maybe this will give you the closure that you need 271 00:10:19,019 --> 00:10:21,488 and be able to end that chapter, 272 00:10:21,555 --> 00:10:24,224 and the next one can be the Leah chapter. 273 00:10:26,126 --> 00:10:27,861 - Oh, I'm scared. 274 00:10:27,928 --> 00:10:30,797 [soft dramatic music] 275 00:10:30,864 --> 00:10:34,602 ♪♪ ♪♪ 276 00:10:34,669 --> 00:10:36,036 [phone whooshes] 277 00:10:36,103 --> 00:10:38,038 [exhales deeply] 278 00:10:38,105 --> 00:10:41,641 ♪♪ ♪♪ 279 00:10:46,180 --> 00:10:47,881 - ♪♪ Are you ready? Let's go ♪♪ 280 00:10:47,948 --> 00:10:51,518 [upbeat music] 281 00:10:51,585 --> 00:10:53,453 ♪♪ Are you ready? Let's go ♪♪ 282 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:55,922 ♪♪ ♪♪ 283 00:10:55,989 --> 00:10:58,059 ♪♪ Let's roll, let's roll ♪♪ 284 00:10:58,125 --> 00:11:00,661 [line trilling] 285 00:11:00,728 --> 00:11:03,263 - Hello. - What's popping? 286 00:11:03,330 --> 00:11:05,399 - Girl, I've been dealing with the communication 287 00:11:05,465 --> 00:11:06,900 between Bar and Holly. 288 00:11:06,967 --> 00:11:09,970 He's been out for about, what, I want to say two weeks. 289 00:11:10,036 --> 00:11:11,671 And every single time I would answer my phone, 290 00:11:11,738 --> 00:11:13,773 it was like, "You're keeping me from my daughter." 291 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,143 Like, he told Holly, I want you to know, 292 00:11:16,210 --> 00:11:18,112 if you don't talk to me, it's not because of me. 293 00:11:18,178 --> 00:11:20,146 Your mom doesn't let me talk to you. 294 00:11:20,213 --> 00:11:22,282 So of course I had to end that phone call 295 00:11:22,349 --> 00:11:23,751 because that's not an appropriate conversation 296 00:11:23,817 --> 00:11:25,252 to be having with her. 297 00:11:25,319 --> 00:11:26,820 - Yeah, that's her dad, 298 00:11:26,887 --> 00:11:28,789 but he's already done [bleep] off the Richter. 299 00:11:28,856 --> 00:11:30,591 I can't vouch for him like that anymore. 300 00:11:30,658 --> 00:11:32,492 - Anyways, yeah, so I got a call from 301 00:11:32,559 --> 00:11:35,696 the domestic violence advocate, and she basically wants 302 00:11:35,762 --> 00:11:37,698 to meet with me 'cause, you know, 303 00:11:37,765 --> 00:11:39,867 I was able to get the divorce back on calendar. 304 00:11:39,933 --> 00:11:41,802 - How soon is that? - Tomorrow. 305 00:11:41,869 --> 00:11:43,270 - ♪♪ Echoes of past ♪♪ 306 00:11:43,336 --> 00:11:45,639 ♪♪ Time to repeat ♪♪ 307 00:11:45,705 --> 00:11:46,840 ♪♪ Future at last ♪♪ 308 00:11:46,906 --> 00:11:49,810 ♪♪ Under our feet ♪♪ 309 00:11:49,876 --> 00:11:51,178 ♪♪ We made a pact ♪♪ 310 00:11:51,245 --> 00:11:52,179 ♪♪ We'd always believed ♪♪ 311 00:11:52,245 --> 00:11:53,280 - Hi, Ashley. - Hi. 312 00:11:53,347 --> 00:11:54,548 - How are you? - I'm good. 313 00:11:54,614 --> 00:11:55,815 How are you? - Good to see you. 314 00:11:55,882 --> 00:11:56,750 Thank you for being here. - Good to see you. 315 00:11:56,817 --> 00:11:59,085 Thank you for having me. 316 00:11:59,152 --> 00:12:01,021 - How's Holly doing? - We're going on vacation. 317 00:12:01,088 --> 00:12:02,223 She's excited. 318 00:12:02,289 --> 00:12:03,657 She's got a lot to look forward to. 319 00:12:03,723 --> 00:12:05,091 - Where are you guys going? 320 00:12:05,158 --> 00:12:06,494 - We're going on a cruise... - Oh, nice. 321 00:12:06,560 --> 00:12:07,695 - To a bunch of places. Yeah. 322 00:12:07,762 --> 00:12:08,962 - Oh, good. 323 00:12:09,029 --> 00:12:11,131 So I know that Bariki has been released. 324 00:12:11,198 --> 00:12:14,869 As far as the divorce with child custody court case, 325 00:12:14,935 --> 00:12:17,571 do you know if Bariki is going to come? 326 00:12:17,637 --> 00:12:19,139 - I don't know. 327 00:12:19,206 --> 00:12:21,642 - Well, are you interested in court accompaniment? 328 00:12:21,708 --> 00:12:23,176 - Yes. - OK, perfect. 329 00:12:23,243 --> 00:12:24,544 - Yes, please. 330 00:12:24,611 --> 00:12:29,549 - So tomorrow at 8:30, again, I will be there. 331 00:12:29,616 --> 00:12:33,420 This is a very, very critical stage 332 00:12:33,487 --> 00:12:35,522 in your family court process, 333 00:12:35,589 --> 00:12:37,824 and we want to make sure that we show up, we're on time, 334 00:12:37,891 --> 00:12:40,261 and we have all of our documents. 335 00:12:40,327 --> 00:12:41,595 - We're ready. Yeah. 336 00:12:41,662 --> 00:12:44,531 - And then what type of custody were you 337 00:12:44,598 --> 00:12:46,833 asking for in the divorce application? 338 00:12:46,900 --> 00:12:48,635 - Full custody, like sole custody, 339 00:12:48,702 --> 00:12:50,404 because sometimes we don't see eye to eye. 340 00:12:50,471 --> 00:12:51,571 He's in and out of jail. 341 00:12:51,638 --> 00:12:53,140 You know, the paperwork is protection. 342 00:12:53,207 --> 00:12:54,507 - Absolutely. 343 00:12:54,574 --> 00:12:56,877 Those are all valid things to say to the judge, 344 00:12:56,944 --> 00:12:58,579 and I'm gonna be there with you. 345 00:12:58,645 --> 00:13:00,514 I cannot address the court. 346 00:13:00,580 --> 00:13:02,516 I cannot talk to the judge about it, 347 00:13:02,583 --> 00:13:04,051 but I can stand right next to you, 348 00:13:04,117 --> 00:13:05,952 provide you that emotional support. 349 00:13:06,019 --> 00:13:07,187 OK? - Mm-hmm, OK. 350 00:13:07,254 --> 00:13:08,889 - Yeah. 351 00:13:08,956 --> 00:13:10,491 - Big day. - Are you nervous? 352 00:13:10,558 --> 00:13:11,859 - Of course. 353 00:13:11,925 --> 00:13:13,594 We both might not get what we want. 354 00:13:13,660 --> 00:13:14,762 I might not get what I want. 355 00:13:14,828 --> 00:13:16,396 He might not get what-- you know? 356 00:13:16,463 --> 00:13:20,000 So it's just up to the judge. 357 00:13:20,066 --> 00:13:23,471 - ♪♪ We can pick up where we left off ♪♪ 358 00:13:23,537 --> 00:13:28,576 ♪♪ There's a place by me where we can talk ♪♪ 359 00:13:28,642 --> 00:13:31,444 ♪♪ Can I get one more shot? ♪♪ 360 00:13:31,511 --> 00:13:33,947 - Nova, do you know how old Carly is gonna be this year? 361 00:13:34,014 --> 00:13:35,682 - Uh, 16? - You're right. 362 00:13:35,749 --> 00:13:37,551 - Really? - Mm-hmm. 363 00:13:37,618 --> 00:13:39,820 Right here, May 18. 364 00:13:39,887 --> 00:13:41,222 - She was supposed to be on 22nd. 365 00:13:41,288 --> 00:13:42,223 - Yeah. - Really? 366 00:13:42,289 --> 00:13:43,357 - Mm-hmm. 367 00:13:43,424 --> 00:13:45,092 Then we changed it, got induced. 368 00:13:45,159 --> 00:13:46,259 - On the 18th. 369 00:13:46,326 --> 00:13:48,695 - Why did you have to get induced? 370 00:13:48,762 --> 00:13:50,630 - Um, 'cause my doctor thought it would be smart 371 00:13:50,697 --> 00:13:52,032 to do that so that way Brandon and Teresa 372 00:13:52,099 --> 00:13:54,134 could be here for her to be born, 373 00:13:54,201 --> 00:13:57,738 and we were all, like, ready for her to be here. 374 00:13:57,804 --> 00:14:00,741 It does not feel like it's been 16 years since 375 00:14:00,808 --> 00:14:03,210 Ty and I were giving Carly to Brandon and Teresa. 376 00:14:03,276 --> 00:14:04,778 - If I were you, I would have said, 377 00:14:04,845 --> 00:14:06,113 if you really want this baby, 378 00:14:06,179 --> 00:14:08,281 you're gonna wait until it comes out of me. 379 00:14:08,348 --> 00:14:10,784 - Yeah, well, I mean, that's fair. 380 00:14:10,851 --> 00:14:12,486 - [laughs] 381 00:14:12,553 --> 00:14:16,223 - ♪♪ Baby, when you look back, do you smile? ♪♪ 382 00:14:16,290 --> 00:14:18,459 - I would do anything to be able to talk to Carly, 383 00:14:18,525 --> 00:14:22,195 so me going into this video session with Dr. Drew, 384 00:14:22,262 --> 00:14:24,798 I hope that communication can be restored, 385 00:14:24,865 --> 00:14:26,633 and I can tell her, "Hey, love you. 386 00:14:26,700 --> 00:14:28,002 Thinking about you." So I don't know. 387 00:14:28,068 --> 00:14:30,104 We'll see. - Oh. 388 00:14:30,171 --> 00:14:31,405 - Hey, Dr. Drew. 389 00:14:31,472 --> 00:14:32,873 - Hello, Dr. Drew. 390 00:14:32,940 --> 00:14:34,508 - You guys just make me smile. 391 00:14:34,575 --> 00:14:36,210 - Oh, yeah? [laughs] 392 00:14:36,276 --> 00:14:38,312 - You know, this whole experience 393 00:14:38,379 --> 00:14:42,849 is rather emotional for me, as I'm sure it is for you. 394 00:14:42,916 --> 00:14:44,684 Since our last conversation, right, 395 00:14:44,751 --> 00:14:46,653 I did talk to Brandon and Teresa. 396 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:49,089 I can tell you what was expressed to me about Carly 397 00:14:49,156 --> 00:14:51,258 was that Brandon was like, 398 00:14:51,325 --> 00:14:53,927 "This kid is thriving and doing-- 399 00:14:53,994 --> 00:14:55,796 "she has friends, and she's athletic, 400 00:14:55,863 --> 00:14:57,197 "and she's musical, 401 00:14:57,264 --> 00:14:58,298 and she's doing all these wonderful things." 402 00:14:58,365 --> 00:14:59,699 Yeah, and so-- 403 00:14:59,766 --> 00:15:01,802 - I mean, just a part of me-- my mind, 404 00:15:01,869 --> 00:15:03,737 when you said those things, it goes, 405 00:15:03,803 --> 00:15:09,009 "Wow, well, thanks for keeping that beautiful girl for me." 406 00:15:09,076 --> 00:15:11,144 - I don't think that's the intent. 407 00:15:11,211 --> 00:15:12,746 I don't think that's going to be-- 408 00:15:12,812 --> 00:15:14,348 - That's how it feels. 409 00:15:14,414 --> 00:15:15,916 - I understand that's how it feels. 410 00:15:15,983 --> 00:15:18,819 I understand. 411 00:15:18,885 --> 00:15:19,886 I know you. 412 00:15:19,953 --> 00:15:21,922 I know how tough this is. 413 00:15:21,988 --> 00:15:23,857 I-I get it. 414 00:15:25,826 --> 00:15:27,595 - We can't ever say we're not grateful for them, 415 00:15:27,661 --> 00:15:29,062 you know, raising her. - Right. 416 00:15:29,129 --> 00:15:31,131 You can have both feelings. - Oh, yeah. 417 00:15:31,198 --> 00:15:32,766 And I think both things can be true at the same time. 418 00:15:32,833 --> 00:15:35,002 I can be very grateful... - Yes, 100%. 419 00:15:35,068 --> 00:15:37,070 - And also wish that you would have been more upfront 420 00:15:37,137 --> 00:15:39,807 and honest about what you wanted out of this adoption 421 00:15:39,873 --> 00:15:41,174 before you took the baby. 422 00:15:41,241 --> 00:15:44,845 - In terms of being "unblocked" and a visit, 423 00:15:44,911 --> 00:15:47,981 I-I don't see that not happening, frankly. 424 00:15:48,048 --> 00:15:51,618 It's just got to go through the baby steps, 425 00:15:51,685 --> 00:15:54,988 but you are encouraged to send gifts on Christmas 426 00:15:55,055 --> 00:15:56,557 and birthdays and when gifts are 427 00:15:56,624 --> 00:15:58,592 completely appropriate, right? 428 00:15:58,659 --> 00:15:59,993 - We have not been told that. 429 00:16:00,060 --> 00:16:01,395 - We've not-- yeah, we don't know what-- 430 00:16:01,462 --> 00:16:02,596 - OK, so I'm here to... - The last thing... 431 00:16:02,662 --> 00:16:03,897 - Tell you that. 432 00:16:03,963 --> 00:16:05,566 - Yeah, the last thing that I heard was do not. 433 00:16:05,633 --> 00:16:06,967 - If that is new information, I want you to have that... 434 00:16:07,034 --> 00:16:08,368 - OK, great. - For sure. 435 00:16:08,435 --> 00:16:10,103 - And I'm really appreciative of the information. 436 00:16:10,170 --> 00:16:12,006 I think what it comes down to is that I'm hearing 437 00:16:12,072 --> 00:16:14,508 the information from you and not the two people 438 00:16:14,575 --> 00:16:16,276 we made an agreement with, which is weird to me. 439 00:16:16,343 --> 00:16:18,546 - I know, listen, this is not going to be perfect. 440 00:16:18,612 --> 00:16:22,016 What Teresa kept saying is that she absolutely wants 441 00:16:22,082 --> 00:16:23,851 what you want and wants to maintain a relationship, 442 00:16:23,917 --> 00:16:26,453 but she feels like she needs kind of a reset for everybody 443 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:28,322 to kind of calm down and let all 444 00:16:28,389 --> 00:16:30,324 the negativity kind of settle. 445 00:16:30,391 --> 00:16:33,026 As part of this reset, they shared something 446 00:16:33,093 --> 00:16:34,595 very important with me, 447 00:16:34,661 --> 00:16:38,065 something rather moving and remarkable from your daughter. 448 00:16:38,132 --> 00:16:40,834 - Mm-hmm. - She sings in church. 449 00:16:40,901 --> 00:16:43,070 She's quite an accomplished singer. 450 00:16:43,136 --> 00:16:47,174 And they recorded a song of hers. 451 00:16:47,241 --> 00:16:49,543 I would love to listen with you 452 00:16:49,610 --> 00:16:52,313 because it is so moving. 453 00:16:52,379 --> 00:16:55,916 It does kind of feel like Carly's sending a message of, 454 00:16:55,983 --> 00:16:57,817 "I'm good." 455 00:16:57,884 --> 00:16:59,753 Do you guys want to hear it? 456 00:16:59,820 --> 00:17:02,622 [soft dramatic music] 457 00:17:02,689 --> 00:17:05,458 ♪♪ ♪♪ 458 00:17:10,030 --> 00:17:11,765 - ♪♪ Oh, it's gonna be a good day ♪♪ 459 00:17:11,832 --> 00:17:15,136 ♪♪ No limits when I'm getting in my zone ♪♪ 460 00:17:15,202 --> 00:17:17,738 ♪♪ I'm gonna go wherever it takes me ♪♪ 461 00:17:17,805 --> 00:17:19,840 - Are you excited? - Yeah. 462 00:17:19,907 --> 00:17:22,075 I mean, we don't get to find anything out exciting today. 463 00:17:22,142 --> 00:17:24,612 - I'm just excited that I get to see the baby. 464 00:17:24,678 --> 00:17:26,780 - Megan's coming over tonight to plan for the party. 465 00:17:26,846 --> 00:17:28,215 So we're gonna give her the envelope 466 00:17:28,282 --> 00:17:30,417 that says what they are. 467 00:17:30,484 --> 00:17:32,319 - Boy, boy, yeah. 468 00:17:32,386 --> 00:17:34,455 - I feel good about having two girls! 469 00:17:34,521 --> 00:17:35,723 Ooh, ooh! 470 00:17:35,789 --> 00:17:37,658 I'm speaking a girl into existence. 471 00:17:37,725 --> 00:17:39,693 - ♪♪ No limits, oh ♪♪ 472 00:17:39,759 --> 00:17:40,761 ♪♪ I know it is ♪♪ 473 00:17:40,828 --> 00:17:42,796 - I cannot believe we're here. 474 00:17:42,862 --> 00:17:45,265 - ♪♪ On my mind, no limits ♪♪ 475 00:17:45,332 --> 00:17:47,968 - All right, so we don't want to know the genders yet. 476 00:17:48,035 --> 00:17:50,537 We're having a big gender reveal party tomorrow. 477 00:17:50,604 --> 00:17:53,073 How does that work? Can you put it in an envelope? 478 00:17:53,139 --> 00:17:54,174 - Yes, I will. - OK. 479 00:17:54,241 --> 00:17:55,442 - Yay. - OK? 480 00:17:55,508 --> 00:17:56,877 - Yay. - Put "boys." 481 00:17:56,944 --> 00:17:59,480 - Let's listen to this baby's heart. 482 00:17:59,547 --> 00:18:02,616 [heartbeat thumping] 483 00:18:02,683 --> 00:18:04,818 And let's go to check Baby B. 484 00:18:04,885 --> 00:18:07,187 [heartbeat thumping] 485 00:18:07,254 --> 00:18:10,524 146, normal. 486 00:18:10,590 --> 00:18:14,261 So now it's time to check baby's gender, 487 00:18:14,328 --> 00:18:18,732 and this is the time to move this screen away from you guys. 488 00:18:18,799 --> 00:18:21,335 I think we got the gender, guys. 489 00:18:21,401 --> 00:18:24,671 - [humming excitedly] 490 00:18:24,738 --> 00:18:27,274 - And I will put it in a envelope. 491 00:18:27,341 --> 00:18:28,576 - Oh, my gosh. 492 00:18:28,642 --> 00:18:30,344 We have to sleep tonight. 493 00:18:30,410 --> 00:18:31,511 - I won't be able to. 494 00:18:31,578 --> 00:18:32,913 [laughter] 495 00:18:32,980 --> 00:18:35,883 - ♪♪ Who will tell the story ♪♪ 496 00:18:35,950 --> 00:18:39,486 ♪♪ That's folding out before me? ♪♪ 497 00:18:39,553 --> 00:18:42,322 - Ooh, party people. 498 00:18:42,389 --> 00:18:43,523 - Hello. 499 00:18:43,590 --> 00:18:45,292 - That's cute. 500 00:18:45,359 --> 00:18:47,995 OK, Megan. Guess what I have? 501 00:18:48,061 --> 00:18:50,230 The envelope! - Did you peek? 502 00:18:50,297 --> 00:18:51,732 - I didn't peek. 503 00:18:51,798 --> 00:18:53,968 You can see that it's sealed. - Khesanio? 504 00:18:54,035 --> 00:18:54,935 - Khesanio! 505 00:18:55,002 --> 00:18:57,771 [laughter] 506 00:18:57,838 --> 00:19:01,675 - ♪♪ I tell my friends that I'm happy ♪♪ 507 00:19:01,742 --> 00:19:05,211 ♪♪ And then I think until I'm sick ♪♪ 508 00:19:05,278 --> 00:19:08,548 ♪♪ It feels like I'm in a bad dream ♪♪ 509 00:19:08,615 --> 00:19:11,552 [knocking on door] - Come in. 510 00:19:11,618 --> 00:19:13,120 - Hi. 511 00:19:13,186 --> 00:19:14,421 - Welcome to my chaos. 512 00:19:14,488 --> 00:19:16,456 - Hi, Ezra. 513 00:19:16,523 --> 00:19:17,925 What are you eating, Ruffles? 514 00:19:17,991 --> 00:19:19,759 - So what are you out doing? 515 00:19:19,826 --> 00:19:21,728 - Well, I'm about to head and pick up Ali, 516 00:19:21,795 --> 00:19:23,497 take her to therapy. 517 00:19:23,564 --> 00:19:24,698 After her therapy appointment, 518 00:19:24,765 --> 00:19:26,267 we're gonna go look at different cars 519 00:19:26,333 --> 00:19:28,635 to see what modifications can be done to a vehicle for her 520 00:19:28,702 --> 00:19:30,971 to have her wheelchair. 521 00:19:41,348 --> 00:19:43,317 - I think Corey's gonna meet us out there, 522 00:19:43,384 --> 00:19:45,452 and I also want to talk to him about Aleeah. 523 00:19:45,518 --> 00:19:46,920 - Why? 524 00:19:46,987 --> 00:19:48,555 - Aleeah asked me if she could have 525 00:19:48,622 --> 00:19:50,891 her little boyfriend over for dinner. 526 00:19:50,958 --> 00:19:52,660 I think that before the age of 16, 527 00:19:52,726 --> 00:19:54,061 that's a little much. 528 00:19:54,128 --> 00:19:55,930 I feel like adolescents need some kind 529 00:19:55,996 --> 00:19:57,665 of structure and discipline. 530 00:19:57,731 --> 00:19:59,099 You're not always gonna get what you want. 531 00:19:59,166 --> 00:20:02,102 I get to be your friend, and I to be your parent, too, 532 00:20:02,169 --> 00:20:04,405 and there has to be a balance in it. 533 00:20:04,471 --> 00:20:06,974 - Or that parent can be a little too much sometimes. 534 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:08,308 - I don't think that I'm a little too much. 535 00:20:08,375 --> 00:20:10,176 - Yeah, you're hard on my girl a little bit. 536 00:20:10,243 --> 00:20:12,879 - I feel like it's my duty, as their mother, 537 00:20:12,946 --> 00:20:14,881 to protect them, whatever it might be-- 538 00:20:14,948 --> 00:20:16,950 unplanned pregnancy, STDs, 539 00:20:17,017 --> 00:20:19,453 or getting into a toxic relationship. 540 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:20,787 - But protecting them-- 541 00:20:20,854 --> 00:20:22,389 OK, dinner with the boyfriend at your house. 542 00:20:22,456 --> 00:20:24,724 What are you protecting her from? 543 00:20:24,791 --> 00:20:26,059 - What is the point in the dinner? 544 00:20:26,126 --> 00:20:27,828 - To spend time-- - This is what I don't-- 545 00:20:27,894 --> 00:20:29,729 OK, you're not shacking up in a bedroom... 546 00:20:29,796 --> 00:20:31,332 - No, absolutely not. I agree with that. 547 00:20:31,398 --> 00:20:32,766 - With your boyfriend. 548 00:20:32,833 --> 00:20:34,534 - OK, so Corey allows the boyfriend to come over. 549 00:20:34,601 --> 00:20:36,070 - I don't agree with it. - Right. 550 00:20:36,136 --> 00:20:37,571 - I think that we should be on the same page, 551 00:20:37,638 --> 00:20:39,172 but this is something that we're not. 552 00:20:39,239 --> 00:20:41,041 You're not cuddling with blankets over top of you 553 00:20:41,108 --> 00:20:42,509 on the sofa. 554 00:20:42,576 --> 00:20:45,011 It's not something that I want to allow 555 00:20:45,078 --> 00:20:46,680 to be so accessible in my home. 556 00:20:46,746 --> 00:20:49,383 - So does Corey let them do that? 557 00:20:49,450 --> 00:20:52,119 - I'm saying that we have a different parenting style. 558 00:20:52,186 --> 00:20:53,821 - It's accessible there. 559 00:20:53,888 --> 00:20:55,422 - I'm saying we have a different parenting style. 560 00:20:55,489 --> 00:20:58,158 - If all she asks for is to have dinner with her boyfriend, 561 00:20:58,225 --> 00:21:00,227 they don't see it as, oh, my God, 562 00:21:00,294 --> 00:21:01,628 I'm gonna marry you-- - No, we are not playing house. 563 00:21:01,695 --> 00:21:02,696 - And cook you dinner, and then-- 564 00:21:02,763 --> 00:21:04,031 - They do see it that way. 565 00:21:04,097 --> 00:21:06,233 When you start getting close to the family, 566 00:21:06,299 --> 00:21:08,869 and you bring that dynamic, now you have the whole family 567 00:21:08,936 --> 00:21:10,804 involved in this relationship. 568 00:21:10,871 --> 00:21:12,539 I also think that they deserve to see 569 00:21:12,606 --> 00:21:13,907 that a relationship doesn't have 570 00:21:13,974 --> 00:21:17,177 to get that serious so young. 571 00:21:17,243 --> 00:21:19,880 You know, when I was 13, I was already having sex. 572 00:21:21,081 --> 00:21:22,882 Not only was I 13, I was having sex 573 00:21:22,949 --> 00:21:24,017 with my mom's best friend's son 574 00:21:24,084 --> 00:21:26,119 because guys were allowed around. 575 00:21:26,186 --> 00:21:29,423 Giving them the tools that maybe I didn't have is vital. 576 00:21:29,490 --> 00:21:34,261 - They was never put in the situations that you were. 577 00:21:34,327 --> 00:21:37,264 They've never had to experience the things that you did. 578 00:21:37,330 --> 00:21:39,666 You understand? So they've already-- 579 00:21:39,733 --> 00:21:42,836 they've already broke those cycles 580 00:21:42,902 --> 00:21:45,472 by you breaking the cycles. 581 00:21:46,406 --> 00:21:50,511 But at some point, you've got to let loose a little bit. 582 00:21:50,577 --> 00:21:53,747 - Teens in general don't want to listen to their parents, 583 00:21:53,813 --> 00:21:55,649 and they want to do what they want to do. 584 00:21:55,716 --> 00:21:57,751 And Corey's not as strict as me, 585 00:21:57,818 --> 00:21:59,753 but that's kind of co-parenting. 586 00:21:59,820 --> 00:22:02,890 So I want to talk to him. 587 00:22:02,957 --> 00:22:04,491 - Coming up... 588 00:22:04,558 --> 00:22:06,726 - Oh, my God. 589 00:22:13,534 --> 00:22:16,169 - ♪♪ Go on telling everybody that we'll be all right ♪♪ 590 00:22:16,236 --> 00:22:18,439 ♪♪ We'll be all right ♪♪ 591 00:22:18,505 --> 00:22:20,674 ♪♪ We'll be all right ♪♪ 592 00:22:20,741 --> 00:22:24,945 ♪♪ Go on telling everybody that we'll be all right ♪♪ 593 00:22:25,012 --> 00:22:26,446 ♪♪ We'll be all right ♪♪ 594 00:22:26,513 --> 00:22:28,548 [phone rings] - Hola. Cómo estás? 595 00:22:28,615 --> 00:22:31,218 - I am on my way to court. 596 00:22:33,420 --> 00:22:35,622 - I mean, like, I'm nervous, but I feel good. 597 00:22:35,689 --> 00:22:38,024 I'm ready for-- I'm ready. 598 00:22:38,091 --> 00:22:40,094 - Honestly, I would just mention that, 599 00:22:40,161 --> 00:22:41,695 like, he just got out of jail. 600 00:22:41,761 --> 00:22:43,464 Like, he can't even be responsible with just 601 00:22:43,530 --> 00:22:44,798 calling his daughter. You know what I mean? 602 00:22:44,865 --> 00:22:46,100 - Yeah. 603 00:22:46,166 --> 00:22:48,001 - So at this point, what is the-- 604 00:22:48,068 --> 00:22:51,939 why would he need any type of decision-making rights? 605 00:22:52,006 --> 00:22:55,142 - Also, I don't trust that you wouldn't be hella drunk 606 00:22:55,209 --> 00:22:57,444 and just have her in whatever environment. 607 00:22:57,511 --> 00:22:58,979 - Yeah, or get upset. 608 00:22:59,046 --> 00:23:01,748 In every situation he's been in that has been tough, 609 00:23:01,815 --> 00:23:04,551 he showed himself to not be able to handle it. 610 00:23:04,618 --> 00:23:06,654 He's not fit to be a parent right now. 611 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:09,890 - Yeah, I just want to make sure the words that I'm using 612 00:23:09,957 --> 00:23:13,427 are just based in fact and concern 613 00:23:13,494 --> 00:23:15,029 for the child versus coming off, 614 00:23:15,095 --> 00:23:17,497 like, bitter or trying to throw up every negative thing 615 00:23:17,564 --> 00:23:18,932 about him, you know? 616 00:23:18,999 --> 00:23:20,667 - Well, use words like decisions. 617 00:23:20,734 --> 00:23:22,836 You say, "I don't think he's fit to make any decisions 618 00:23:22,903 --> 00:23:24,471 for the child right now." - Yeah. 619 00:23:24,538 --> 00:23:26,406 - You got it. - Yeah. 620 00:23:26,473 --> 00:23:28,542 I'm hoping so. 621 00:23:28,609 --> 00:23:30,444 And, girl, I'm on time, on time. 622 00:23:30,511 --> 00:23:32,479 I'm an hour early. 623 00:23:32,546 --> 00:23:35,015 I'm not playing with them. 624 00:23:35,082 --> 00:23:36,350 Well, I'll talk to you later. 625 00:23:36,417 --> 00:23:38,385 I'll call you after and let you know what's tea. 626 00:23:38,451 --> 00:23:40,754 - All right, bye. - All right, bye. 627 00:23:43,456 --> 00:23:44,725 - Hi, Ashley. - Hi. 628 00:23:44,792 --> 00:23:45,993 - How are you? How are you doing? 629 00:23:46,059 --> 00:23:47,094 - Good. How are you? 630 00:23:47,161 --> 00:23:48,428 - Good. How are you feeling? 631 00:23:48,495 --> 00:23:49,730 - Thank you for meeting me. - Oh, of course. 632 00:23:49,797 --> 00:23:51,031 Thank you. - I'm ready. 633 00:23:51,098 --> 00:23:52,666 - I'm so glad that we are here. 634 00:23:52,732 --> 00:23:54,534 Let's get this going. - Yeah. 635 00:23:54,601 --> 00:23:56,169 - If you do see Bariki anywhere, 636 00:23:56,236 --> 00:23:58,572 just let me know, like, what he's wearing, 637 00:23:58,639 --> 00:24:02,576 and don't point at him and don't interact with him. 638 00:24:02,642 --> 00:24:04,178 Don't engage with him. 639 00:24:04,244 --> 00:24:06,046 Even if he comes up, I will definitely notify the marshal. 640 00:24:06,112 --> 00:24:07,781 - OK. 641 00:24:07,847 --> 00:24:10,517 - So this way, you don't have to worry about interacting. 642 00:24:10,584 --> 00:24:13,653 And then we'll just go inside the courtroom, OK? 643 00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:16,089 [soft dramatic music] 644 00:24:16,156 --> 00:24:17,958 - I'm not gonna lie. 645 00:24:18,024 --> 00:24:21,928 Like, it's a lot of emotion, you know, fighting for my kid. 646 00:24:21,995 --> 00:24:24,532 It's very scary because, 647 00:24:24,598 --> 00:24:26,767 even though I feel like I've done everything right, 648 00:24:26,834 --> 00:24:29,603 when it's not in your hands, you just don't know. 649 00:24:29,669 --> 00:24:33,140 And the only thing I have in this world is my kid, 650 00:24:33,207 --> 00:24:35,809 so this really was the biggest fight of my life. 651 00:24:35,876 --> 00:24:40,514 ♪♪ ♪♪ 652 00:24:40,580 --> 00:24:43,483 [dramatic music] 653 00:24:43,550 --> 00:24:45,519 ♪♪ ♪♪ 654 00:24:45,586 --> 00:24:47,354 - Oh, I'm scared. 655 00:24:47,421 --> 00:24:48,356 ♪♪ ♪♪ 656 00:24:48,422 --> 00:24:50,024 [phone whooshes] 657 00:24:50,091 --> 00:24:52,159 [exhales deeply] 658 00:24:52,226 --> 00:24:56,396 I would say I have a hard time, like, forgiving 659 00:24:56,463 --> 00:24:57,932 and forgetting and stuff like that. 660 00:24:57,998 --> 00:24:59,566 The best way for me to forgive her 661 00:24:59,633 --> 00:25:01,935 would be me moving on, 662 00:25:02,002 --> 00:25:03,737 but I'm really glad that I actually 663 00:25:03,804 --> 00:25:07,942 made my own move to actually push forward with myself 664 00:25:08,009 --> 00:25:09,610 and what I want. 665 00:25:09,677 --> 00:25:14,481 So I just hope that she is finding a way to accept it. 666 00:25:14,548 --> 00:25:17,317 [phone dings] 667 00:25:17,384 --> 00:25:21,455 ♪♪ ♪♪ 668 00:25:21,521 --> 00:25:24,024 - Why is Leah messaging me? 669 00:25:24,091 --> 00:25:30,564 ♪♪ ♪♪ 670 00:25:30,631 --> 00:25:33,067 - What did she say? 671 00:25:33,133 --> 00:25:35,903 - That nobody's influenced her decision. 672 00:25:35,970 --> 00:25:40,407 All these years, it's been her decision to not be around me. 673 00:25:40,474 --> 00:25:42,709 ♪♪ ♪♪ 674 00:25:42,776 --> 00:25:46,046 And then you have this other piece of [bleep] nasty man, 675 00:25:46,112 --> 00:25:48,115 and this is the [bleep] that I get from my daughter 676 00:25:48,182 --> 00:25:51,051 that I love so much, and I can't even give her it? 677 00:25:51,117 --> 00:25:53,620 I can't take her out on little dates 678 00:25:53,687 --> 00:25:55,121 like I did with my son. 679 00:25:55,188 --> 00:25:57,123 I couldn't take her out to go shopping. 680 00:25:57,190 --> 00:25:59,726 I couldn't take her out to [bleep] eat alone. 681 00:25:59,793 --> 00:26:04,231 Gary said I always had to go over there, you nasty prick. 682 00:26:04,298 --> 00:26:07,234 And, Leah, stop. 683 00:26:07,301 --> 00:26:08,802 You're 16. 684 00:26:08,868 --> 00:26:11,104 Stop. 685 00:26:11,171 --> 00:26:13,140 People see the disrespect, by the way, 686 00:26:13,207 --> 00:26:15,809 and they tell me how much you disrespect me too. 687 00:26:15,875 --> 00:26:17,177 Stop. 688 00:26:18,412 --> 00:26:19,813 You're rude. 689 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:22,650 There's no reason to be rude. 690 00:26:22,716 --> 00:26:24,718 You do not know what you are saying right now. 691 00:26:24,784 --> 00:26:26,520 You're young. Be young. 692 00:26:26,587 --> 00:26:29,289 Be 16. Be 16. 693 00:26:29,356 --> 00:26:32,092 And do not be in the middle of me and your father. 694 00:26:32,159 --> 00:26:34,494 [tense music] 695 00:26:40,034 --> 00:26:41,635 - ♪♪ You're my surefire ♪♪ 696 00:26:41,702 --> 00:26:44,671 ♪♪ When the world's coming down like a landslide ♪♪ 697 00:26:44,738 --> 00:26:48,175 ♪♪ And you're looking at me with those eyes ♪♪ 698 00:26:48,242 --> 00:26:51,645 - So we are going to the place that we 699 00:26:51,712 --> 00:26:54,315 can see different adaptations done in vehicles, 700 00:26:54,381 --> 00:26:56,950 and you can check them out, 701 00:26:57,017 --> 00:26:58,718 and your dad's gonna meet us there. 702 00:26:58,785 --> 00:27:00,821 Just get an idea of what you like and don't like. 703 00:27:00,887 --> 00:27:02,022 - OK. 704 00:27:02,089 --> 00:27:03,056 - You know what I just realized? 705 00:27:03,123 --> 00:27:04,625 - What? 706 00:27:04,691 --> 00:27:06,493 - We're gonna be broke after we have to afford their cars. 707 00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:07,661 Why do we have to pay for their cars? 708 00:27:07,728 --> 00:27:08,996 Why can't they work? 709 00:27:09,062 --> 00:27:10,397 It's your car, so you to pay for it. 710 00:27:10,464 --> 00:27:12,032 - All right, Addie, whenever you're 15, 711 00:27:12,099 --> 00:27:13,601 you better save up for that car. 712 00:27:13,667 --> 00:27:16,637 - I'm looking for a horse before I even get a car. 713 00:27:16,704 --> 00:27:19,573 - ♪♪ 'Cause you're my surefire ♪♪ 714 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,876 ♪♪ When the world's coming down like a landslide ♪♪ 715 00:27:22,943 --> 00:27:23,978 ♪♪ And you're looking ♪♪ 716 00:27:24,044 --> 00:27:25,645 - What's going on? - Not much. 717 00:27:25,712 --> 00:27:27,447 You ready to look at vehicles? - I guess. 718 00:27:27,514 --> 00:27:29,183 Are you excited? - Uh-huh. 719 00:27:29,249 --> 00:27:30,117 - Aleeah at practice? 720 00:27:30,184 --> 00:27:31,851 - Yeah. 721 00:27:31,918 --> 00:27:34,321 - ♪♪ 'Cause I got you ♪♪ 722 00:27:34,387 --> 00:27:36,757 ♪♪ Oh, I got you ♪♪ 723 00:27:36,824 --> 00:27:38,859 - So, hypothetically, she would drive up in here 724 00:27:38,926 --> 00:27:41,828 and lock into that mechanism, rotate it around a little bit. 725 00:27:41,895 --> 00:27:44,465 ♪♪ ♪♪ 726 00:27:44,532 --> 00:27:46,733 - That was pretty easy. - Yeah. 727 00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:50,104 - Her eyes are not in a bad line of sight right there. 728 00:27:50,171 --> 00:27:52,172 She's pretty much even in the glass. 729 00:27:52,239 --> 00:27:53,407 - How's it feel? Do you like it? 730 00:27:53,474 --> 00:27:54,741 - Yeah. 731 00:27:54,808 --> 00:27:56,610 - Got a couple hand controls laid out inside 732 00:27:56,677 --> 00:27:59,079 if you want to get a brief overview of that, 733 00:27:59,146 --> 00:28:01,649 of what you might be using. - Uh-huh. 734 00:28:01,715 --> 00:28:03,249 - I can't believe they're getting older, 735 00:28:03,316 --> 00:28:04,718 and we're getting vehicles now. 736 00:28:04,785 --> 00:28:07,788 - Yeah, it's-- it's really weird. 737 00:28:07,855 --> 00:28:09,390 - This stays fixed, 738 00:28:09,456 --> 00:28:12,626 but when you press down, it accelerates. 739 00:28:12,693 --> 00:28:14,361 - Speaking of them getting older, 740 00:28:14,427 --> 00:28:16,029 Aleeah asked if her boyfriend could come over, 741 00:28:16,096 --> 00:28:18,432 and I said no--for dinner. - OK. 742 00:28:18,499 --> 00:28:19,800 - She's very much like, "Oh, well, I can at my dad's." 743 00:28:19,866 --> 00:28:21,469 You know? 744 00:28:21,535 --> 00:28:22,969 - My approach with it is a total different approach. 745 00:28:23,036 --> 00:28:26,306 You know, we pick him up Sunday morning before church. 746 00:28:26,373 --> 00:28:28,309 He goes to church with us. We come home. 747 00:28:28,375 --> 00:28:29,976 We have dinner. 748 00:28:30,043 --> 00:28:33,213 I'll let them have their time with the door open. 749 00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:36,183 [soft dramatic music] 750 00:28:36,250 --> 00:28:37,484 ♪♪ ♪♪ 751 00:28:37,551 --> 00:28:38,719 - I think the kid's a good kid. 752 00:28:38,786 --> 00:28:39,920 I'm not saying anything bad about him. 753 00:28:39,986 --> 00:28:41,454 - No. 754 00:28:41,521 --> 00:28:43,190 - But being so close to your family and then like, well, 755 00:28:43,256 --> 00:28:44,858 he's close to my dad, or he's close to my mom, 756 00:28:44,924 --> 00:28:46,159 or he's close-- - Right. 757 00:28:46,226 --> 00:28:47,694 - So I think that, for me, personally, 758 00:28:47,761 --> 00:28:50,897 needs to come at an older age. - Right. 759 00:28:50,964 --> 00:28:52,232 - That concerns me. - Right. 760 00:28:52,299 --> 00:28:53,467 - I might seem strict, but it's just boundaries. 761 00:28:53,534 --> 00:28:54,969 Like, if I set rules in the house, 762 00:28:55,035 --> 00:28:56,570 I want it to follow through. 763 00:28:56,636 --> 00:28:57,738 It's not just about not getting pregnant. 764 00:28:57,805 --> 00:28:59,139 - Right, yeah. 765 00:28:59,206 --> 00:29:00,807 - It is about providing structure and stability 766 00:29:00,874 --> 00:29:02,342 and knowing discipline, so that way it's safe. 767 00:29:02,409 --> 00:29:03,777 - Yeah, 100%. 768 00:29:03,844 --> 00:29:05,545 - So it's not just my past, I'm saying. 769 00:29:05,612 --> 00:29:07,914 - I never wanted to present to either one of them 770 00:29:07,981 --> 00:29:09,917 that I'm super strict to where they feel 771 00:29:09,983 --> 00:29:13,019 the need to work around me. 772 00:29:13,086 --> 00:29:16,022 And I've told them from early on in middle school, 773 00:29:16,089 --> 00:29:19,260 if you mess up, I want you to feel comfortable. 774 00:29:19,326 --> 00:29:20,761 Say, I can go to Dad. 775 00:29:20,827 --> 00:29:22,095 He's not gonna freak out. 776 00:29:22,162 --> 00:29:23,830 Like, I want that kind of relationship for them. 777 00:29:23,897 --> 00:29:25,599 And I feel like we're doing pretty good with that. 778 00:29:25,665 --> 00:29:27,234 And I totally get it, 100%. 779 00:29:27,301 --> 00:29:28,402 - So we just have different rules, 780 00:29:28,469 --> 00:29:29,836 and that's yeah, co-parenting. 781 00:29:29,903 --> 00:29:31,738 - Yeah, it's co-parenting, and that's just-- 782 00:29:31,805 --> 00:29:33,974 and I understand yours, and I for sure understand it. 783 00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:35,609 You know, we're not there to be their friends. 784 00:29:35,675 --> 00:29:36,877 You know what I'm saying? - Yeah. 785 00:29:36,944 --> 00:29:38,378 - And I've told her a lot. 786 00:29:38,445 --> 00:29:41,381 I said, "We both just want the absolute best for you." 787 00:29:41,448 --> 00:29:42,816 - And same thing with Ali. 788 00:29:42,883 --> 00:29:44,517 It's a little different, but we don't want her falling 789 00:29:44,584 --> 00:29:47,621 and getting hurt because we want to keep her safe 790 00:29:47,688 --> 00:29:49,055 and protect her. 791 00:29:49,122 --> 00:29:50,991 - Different approaches, but same goal, basically. 792 00:29:51,058 --> 00:29:52,425 - Yeah. 793 00:29:54,361 --> 00:29:57,264 [somber music] 794 00:29:57,331 --> 00:29:59,733 ♪♪ ♪♪ 795 00:29:59,799 --> 00:30:02,436 - Teresa and Brandon sent Carly's recording to me. 796 00:30:02,502 --> 00:30:07,440 I would love to listen with you because it is so moving. 797 00:30:07,507 --> 00:30:09,043 Do you guys want to hear it? 798 00:30:09,109 --> 00:30:12,379 - I have shared with Brandon and Teresa for multiple years 799 00:30:12,446 --> 00:30:14,448 and even at the last visit how I would love to have 800 00:30:14,514 --> 00:30:15,716 a video of her singing and not once... 801 00:30:15,782 --> 00:30:16,883 - Or violin. 802 00:30:16,950 --> 00:30:18,351 - Has Teresa ever given them to me, 803 00:30:18,418 --> 00:30:20,454 but now she'll give them to you on TV. 804 00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,389 I've asked for those things. 805 00:30:22,456 --> 00:30:23,890 - Well, this is just the beginning. 806 00:30:23,957 --> 00:30:25,926 It's not like I'm gonna be the conduit from now on. 807 00:30:25,993 --> 00:30:28,495 But I think Carly kind of not just wants 808 00:30:28,562 --> 00:30:29,864 to share with you, but with the world also. 809 00:30:29,930 --> 00:30:31,698 I think she is participating in this. 810 00:30:31,765 --> 00:30:32,966 She's proud of it. 811 00:30:33,033 --> 00:30:34,468 - I'm just speaking for my own mental health 812 00:30:34,534 --> 00:30:35,969 right now that it's very triggering for me 813 00:30:36,036 --> 00:30:38,105 to listen to those things. I'm not ready to listen to it. 814 00:30:38,171 --> 00:30:39,640 I want to be able to listen to it in private 815 00:30:39,707 --> 00:30:41,108 because it's emotional, you know? 816 00:30:41,174 --> 00:30:42,642 - 100%. - OK. 817 00:30:42,709 --> 00:30:44,744 - This is a tender topic for everybody. 818 00:30:44,811 --> 00:30:46,446 - We appreciate you, Dr. Drew. Thank you. 819 00:30:46,513 --> 00:30:47,447 - Yeah, thank you. - All right, guys. 820 00:30:47,514 --> 00:30:48,715 Good to talk to you. 821 00:30:54,054 --> 00:30:56,957 [tense music] 822 00:30:57,024 --> 00:31:00,560 ♪♪ ♪♪ 823 00:31:00,627 --> 00:31:03,997 - I think the whole thing regarding the song and stuff 824 00:31:04,064 --> 00:31:06,132 is just super confusing for me because 825 00:31:06,199 --> 00:31:11,004 we've had this whole issue from really early on 826 00:31:11,071 --> 00:31:14,908 about the public being involved in our adoption, 827 00:31:14,975 --> 00:31:17,812 and, at first, they could see her face, 828 00:31:17,878 --> 00:31:20,047 and then she turned four, and they said, "No more face, 829 00:31:20,113 --> 00:31:21,581 just the back of her head." 830 00:31:21,648 --> 00:31:23,484 It's gotten to a point where they didn't even like us 831 00:31:23,551 --> 00:31:25,386 talking about adoption at all. 832 00:31:25,452 --> 00:31:27,488 To go from that to now, all of a sudden, 833 00:31:27,555 --> 00:31:29,523 we want to share her voice publicly, 834 00:31:29,590 --> 00:31:31,492 share her song publicly... 835 00:31:31,558 --> 00:31:33,060 - You know, to make you look good, 836 00:31:33,126 --> 00:31:34,628 you're gonna say, "Here's a song that Carly 837 00:31:34,695 --> 00:31:35,896 wanted to give to you," 838 00:31:35,963 --> 00:31:37,531 but then in turn be like, "But you can 839 00:31:37,598 --> 00:31:38,865 only listen to it on camera." 840 00:31:38,932 --> 00:31:40,867 - The intention didn't feel good to me. 841 00:31:40,934 --> 00:31:43,303 - Well, and I feel like if Carly really wanted it 842 00:31:43,370 --> 00:31:46,640 to be a gift to us-- - Then give me the gift. 843 00:31:46,707 --> 00:31:49,576 I just feel like the intention feels-- 844 00:31:49,643 --> 00:31:52,346 it just feels manipulative. I'm sorry. 845 00:31:52,412 --> 00:31:53,547 The only thing I got from the conversation 846 00:31:53,613 --> 00:31:55,315 was Carly wants us to have this song. 847 00:31:55,382 --> 00:31:57,284 - Mm-hmm. Yeah. - So that's great. 848 00:31:57,350 --> 00:31:58,419 and I'm really grateful for that, 849 00:31:58,486 --> 00:32:00,954 and I'm so happy that she's wanting that. 850 00:32:01,021 --> 00:32:04,057 - One of [bleep] things about adoption is you make 851 00:32:04,124 --> 00:32:06,360 this decision for your child, all these things, 852 00:32:06,427 --> 00:32:09,196 and you're stuck with the feelings 853 00:32:09,263 --> 00:32:12,266 and the emotions for life, 854 00:32:12,333 --> 00:32:14,502 and that's hard. 855 00:32:14,568 --> 00:32:17,738 Like, it never goes away. 856 00:32:17,805 --> 00:32:20,975 - I regret placing my kid for adoption. 857 00:32:21,041 --> 00:32:24,044 We didn't know we were gonna get financially stable. 858 00:32:24,111 --> 00:32:25,512 We didn't know that we were gonna have resources to work 859 00:32:25,578 --> 00:32:27,814 on our mental health and get better before 860 00:32:27,881 --> 00:32:29,216 we brought more kids in the world. 861 00:32:29,283 --> 00:32:31,986 - Yeah, I mean, some days I have those thoughts too. 862 00:32:32,053 --> 00:32:33,720 - I'm sorry. 863 00:32:33,787 --> 00:32:34,922 - Why are you saying you're sorry? 864 00:32:34,988 --> 00:32:36,457 - I'm just sorry. I think--I'm just so-- 865 00:32:36,523 --> 00:32:39,426 I'm so sorry for you. 866 00:32:39,493 --> 00:32:43,130 - Honey, you don't have to be sorry for me. 867 00:32:43,196 --> 00:32:45,032 - Yeah, but babe, you were-- 868 00:32:45,099 --> 00:32:47,034 oh, my God. 869 00:32:47,101 --> 00:32:50,003 [somber music] 870 00:32:50,070 --> 00:32:53,240 ♪♪ ♪♪ 871 00:32:53,306 --> 00:32:55,041 I just think you deserved a lot better. 872 00:32:55,108 --> 00:32:57,778 I think you deserved a lot more grace and understanding. 873 00:32:57,845 --> 00:33:01,148 I think you were lied to. And I just feel like-- 874 00:33:01,214 --> 00:33:02,616 - We both were. 875 00:33:02,682 --> 00:33:03,918 - I know, but I should have been more, like, aware. 876 00:33:03,984 --> 00:33:05,719 I should have, like-- I don't know. 877 00:33:05,786 --> 00:33:07,388 I just should have tried a lot of different things. 878 00:33:07,454 --> 00:33:09,156 And I didn't, and I just feel like-- 879 00:33:09,222 --> 00:33:11,525 - Honey, we both didn't know anything at that point. 880 00:33:11,592 --> 00:33:14,761 - I know, but I'm just-- I'm so sorry. 881 00:33:14,828 --> 00:33:17,197 - You don't need to apologize. 882 00:33:17,264 --> 00:33:19,266 I had you. 883 00:33:19,333 --> 00:33:21,668 You've always loved me and made me feel important 884 00:33:21,735 --> 00:33:23,837 and seen and heard. 885 00:33:26,439 --> 00:33:27,641 - I just don't know why-- 886 00:33:27,708 --> 00:33:29,576 I don't understand. 887 00:33:29,643 --> 00:33:31,711 - I don't understand it either. 888 00:33:34,782 --> 00:33:37,451 - If I had to say anything to Carly, 889 00:33:37,517 --> 00:33:39,653 if she's on the other end of this lens, like, 890 00:33:39,719 --> 00:33:43,524 I'm so proud of you, and I'm sorry. 891 00:33:43,591 --> 00:33:47,194 I love you, and, 892 00:33:47,260 --> 00:33:48,962 yeah, I miss you. 893 00:33:49,029 --> 00:33:52,066 That's-- yeah. 894 00:33:52,132 --> 00:33:54,034 - We would love to hear Carly's song, 895 00:33:54,100 --> 00:33:56,036 and I hope that we get the chance one day because, 896 00:33:56,102 --> 00:33:59,339 I mean, it would mean the world to listen to that. 897 00:33:59,406 --> 00:34:01,074 ♪♪ ♪♪ 898 00:34:01,141 --> 00:34:02,342 Well, I love you. 899 00:34:02,409 --> 00:34:03,977 - I love you. - I love you too. 900 00:34:04,044 --> 00:34:06,780 - I love you more. [chuckles] 901 00:34:14,855 --> 00:34:17,758 [dramatic music] 902 00:34:17,825 --> 00:34:24,764 ♪♪ ♪♪ 903 00:34:30,104 --> 00:34:31,438 - So cheers. 904 00:34:31,505 --> 00:34:34,041 We're cheersing to court today. 905 00:34:34,107 --> 00:34:35,209 - OK. How did it go? 906 00:34:35,276 --> 00:34:37,845 - It went good-- sole custody. 907 00:34:37,911 --> 00:34:40,547 - Nice. - Yes. 908 00:34:40,614 --> 00:34:43,183 Thankfully, Bar was not at court today. 909 00:34:43,250 --> 00:34:44,484 - Thank God. Done and over with. 910 00:34:44,551 --> 00:34:45,886 - Yeah. 911 00:34:45,953 --> 00:34:49,189 It was so much more easy than I expected. 912 00:34:49,256 --> 00:34:51,392 I was shocked. I was sitting there like-- 913 00:34:51,458 --> 00:34:53,126 - Like, did this really just happen? 914 00:34:53,193 --> 00:34:54,928 - Yeah, I didn't know-- the judge was like-- 915 00:34:54,995 --> 00:34:56,497 - Yeah. 916 00:34:56,563 --> 00:34:58,131 - The only question that he asked me that was, 917 00:34:58,198 --> 00:35:01,302 like, I could openly respond to was, "What is your daughter-- 918 00:35:01,368 --> 00:35:02,536 "What's your daughter's age? 919 00:35:02,603 --> 00:35:04,171 What is your daughter's hobbies?" 920 00:35:04,238 --> 00:35:05,772 I said, "She likes gardening." 921 00:35:05,839 --> 00:35:07,741 And then he was like, "Well, I'm gonna give you 922 00:35:07,807 --> 00:35:10,243 "sole custody, and the next time I see you, 923 00:35:10,310 --> 00:35:12,012 I hope your daughter brings me a squash." 924 00:35:12,079 --> 00:35:13,613 [laughter] 925 00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,550 The judge didn't even give him mandated visitation. 926 00:35:16,616 --> 00:35:18,118 - Oh. 927 00:35:18,185 --> 00:35:20,621 - 'Cause he was like, I want Bar to have 928 00:35:20,688 --> 00:35:23,023 the responsibility of seeing the child. 929 00:35:23,090 --> 00:35:24,525 If Bar wants to see Holly in Vegas, 930 00:35:24,592 --> 00:35:26,726 he has to book a supervised visit at a center-- 931 00:35:26,793 --> 00:35:29,129 a safe--you know, it's like a place that that's what they do. 932 00:35:29,196 --> 00:35:32,465 - How responsible do you think Bar will be 933 00:35:32,532 --> 00:35:35,068 and able to, like, show you that he's responsible enough 934 00:35:35,135 --> 00:35:38,339 to handle what you're asking? 935 00:35:38,405 --> 00:35:41,308 - I don't know because I'm sitting here, and I'm like 936 00:35:41,374 --> 00:35:43,243 reflecting, and I'm like... 937 00:35:43,310 --> 00:35:48,848 has there ever really been a time where Bar was... 938 00:35:48,915 --> 00:35:50,817 Providing? 939 00:35:50,884 --> 00:35:52,452 The answer is no. 940 00:35:52,519 --> 00:35:55,222 I know I've always said, like, Bar is a good guy, 941 00:35:55,288 --> 00:35:57,224 but when I really think about it, 942 00:35:57,291 --> 00:36:00,227 if it hadn't been for the effort I put in, 943 00:36:00,294 --> 00:36:01,961 a lot of those times, he wouldn't have shown up. 944 00:36:02,028 --> 00:36:04,664 So I don't know how responsible he's gonna be. 945 00:36:04,731 --> 00:36:07,734 But I think now that I've stepped away, 946 00:36:07,801 --> 00:36:10,504 we'll really see what kind of father he's gonna be. 947 00:36:10,571 --> 00:36:12,906 - Yeah. Only time will tell. 948 00:36:12,973 --> 00:36:14,408 - Yeah. 949 00:36:14,475 --> 00:36:15,709 Just, like, to be totally severed-- 950 00:36:15,776 --> 00:36:17,444 like, everything I'm doing was always 951 00:36:17,511 --> 00:36:20,881 overshadowed by his drama. - Yeah. 952 00:36:20,947 --> 00:36:24,651 - It's just one of the chapters in my book, 953 00:36:24,718 --> 00:36:26,086 and I don't want it to define me, 954 00:36:26,153 --> 00:36:29,156 which is why I will not label this chapter victim. 955 00:36:29,222 --> 00:36:31,258 And I feel like it made me mean and angry, 956 00:36:31,324 --> 00:36:33,460 like, all the [bleep] time. 957 00:36:33,527 --> 00:36:36,296 Like, I feel so much better now. 958 00:36:36,363 --> 00:36:41,001 - ♪♪ With you has arrived ♪♪ 959 00:36:41,068 --> 00:36:44,972 - ♪♪ It's time to get up and move it ♪♪ 960 00:36:45,038 --> 00:36:48,609 ♪♪ I think you already know ♪♪ 961 00:36:48,676 --> 00:36:53,180 ♪♪ Act like there ain't nothing to it ♪♪ 962 00:36:53,247 --> 00:36:54,781 - Hi, guys. 963 00:36:55,949 --> 00:36:57,651 - I know. 964 00:36:57,717 --> 00:36:59,720 I would love to make it to 32 weeks. 965 00:36:59,787 --> 00:37:01,588 - ♪♪ From the morning till the night ♪♪ 966 00:37:01,655 --> 00:37:03,190 ♪♪ From the front to the back ♪♪ 967 00:37:03,256 --> 00:37:04,558 - What are you doing? - I'm winning. 968 00:37:04,624 --> 00:37:05,626 - No! 969 00:37:05,693 --> 00:37:07,193 -♪♪ Till you do it ♪♪ 970 00:37:07,260 --> 00:37:08,996 ♪♪ Get up and move it ♪♪ 971 00:37:09,063 --> 00:37:11,965 [upbeat music] 972 00:37:12,032 --> 00:37:13,367 ♪♪ ♪♪ 973 00:37:13,434 --> 00:37:15,970 - All right, is everyone ready for the gender reveal? 974 00:37:16,036 --> 00:37:17,137 - OK. 975 00:37:17,204 --> 00:37:19,172 - One--go. 976 00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:20,340 - ♪♪ Yeah ♪♪ 977 00:37:20,407 --> 00:37:23,510 [all cheering] 978 00:37:24,445 --> 00:37:25,779 - ♪♪ Oh, yeah ♪♪ 979 00:37:25,845 --> 00:37:27,347 ♪♪ Oh, yeah, oh, yeah ♪♪ 980 00:37:27,414 --> 00:37:29,950 ♪♪ Oh, yeah, oh, yeah ♪♪ 981 00:37:30,017 --> 00:37:32,919 [laughter, exclamations] 982 00:37:35,289 --> 00:37:37,591 [all cheering] 983 00:37:37,658 --> 00:37:40,494 [all chanting] Boy, boy, boy, boy, boy, boy, 984 00:37:40,561 --> 00:37:43,630 boy, boy, boy, boy, boy, boy! 985 00:37:46,033 --> 00:37:48,902 [all cheering] 986 00:37:52,940 --> 00:37:55,776 - Oh, my gosh! 987 00:37:55,843 --> 00:37:57,811 Oh, my gosh! 988 00:37:57,878 --> 00:37:59,647 Oh, my gosh! 989 00:37:59,714 --> 00:38:02,316 - Ha, two girls! 990 00:38:02,382 --> 00:38:03,684 - How excited are you? 991 00:38:03,751 --> 00:38:05,585 - I'm so excited. 992 00:38:05,652 --> 00:38:07,788 And you're the best girl dad. I know you wanted a boy. 993 00:38:07,854 --> 00:38:09,022 - You think so? 994 00:38:09,089 --> 00:38:10,024 - You were born to be a girl dad. 995 00:38:10,090 --> 00:38:11,358 - I'm just happy. 996 00:38:11,425 --> 00:38:13,927 - Girl power. 997 00:38:13,994 --> 00:38:15,963 - Every hour! 998 00:38:16,030 --> 00:38:18,765 [bright music] 999 00:38:18,832 --> 00:38:21,569 [all cheering] 1000 00:38:21,635 --> 00:38:24,071 - Yes, we have two girls! 1001 00:38:24,138 --> 00:38:26,440 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1002 00:38:26,507 --> 00:38:28,909 Yay, Jaxie has sisters! 1003 00:38:28,976 --> 00:38:30,477 [cheering] 1004 00:38:30,544 --> 00:38:35,515 - ♪♪ I want to hold you close ♪♪ 1005 00:38:35,582 --> 00:38:39,386 ♪♪ And never let you go ♪♪ 1006 00:38:39,453 --> 00:38:43,224 ♪♪ 'Cause I know forever ♪♪ 1007 00:38:43,290 --> 00:38:48,996 ♪♪ Was made for me and you ♪♪ 1008 00:38:49,062 --> 00:38:51,431 ♪♪ For me and you ♪♪ 1009 00:38:51,498 --> 00:38:58,472 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1010 00:38:58,538 --> 00:39:01,074 ♪♪ For me and you ♪♪ 1011 00:39:01,141 --> 00:39:08,014 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1012 00:39:08,081 --> 00:39:14,054 ♪♪ I want to feel like this forever ♪♪ 1013 00:39:14,121 --> 00:39:17,291 ♪♪ And catch my breath ♪♪ 1014 00:39:17,358 --> 00:39:19,560 ♪♪ Every time ♪♪ 1015 00:39:19,626 --> 00:39:22,496 ♪♪ You step ♪♪ 1016 00:39:22,562 --> 00:39:26,834 ♪♪ Into a room ♪♪ 1017 00:39:26,900 --> 00:39:31,538 ♪♪ I want to hold you close ♪♪ 1018 00:39:31,605 --> 00:39:36,176 ♪♪ And never let you go ♪♪ 1019 00:39:36,243 --> 00:39:39,847 ♪♪ 'Cause I know forever ♪♪ 1020 00:39:39,913 --> 00:39:45,553 ♪♪ Was made for me and you ♪♪ 1021 00:39:45,619 --> 00:39:50,524 ♪♪ For me and you ♪♪ 1022 00:39:50,590 --> 00:39:55,096 ♪♪ For me and you ♪♪ 1023 00:39:55,162 --> 00:39:59,032 - We are on bed rest, taking it easy for right now. 1024 00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:01,568 - Seems like it's-- 1025 00:40:01,635 --> 00:40:03,503 it's just around the corner, Mack. 1026 00:40:03,570 --> 00:40:06,306 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1027 00:40:06,373 --> 00:40:09,076 - ♪♪ For me and you ♪♪ 1028 00:40:09,143 --> 00:40:13,113 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1029 00:40:13,179 --> 00:40:15,349 - Zach and I are starting fertility treatment 1030 00:40:15,416 --> 00:40:17,785 literally in, like, four days. 1031 00:40:17,851 --> 00:40:20,153 Now, with that said-- I don't know. 1032 00:40:20,220 --> 00:40:21,555 I just feel weird today. 1033 00:40:21,622 --> 00:40:24,425 I'm taking a test. 1034 00:40:24,491 --> 00:40:26,159 So I put two in here. 1035 00:40:26,226 --> 00:40:30,330 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1036 00:40:39,039 --> 00:40:41,908 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1037 00:40:46,847 --> 00:40:49,583 I found out today, so I had to tell you. 1038 00:40:49,649 --> 00:40:52,118 - Are you gonna have a baby? 1039 00:40:52,185 --> 00:40:54,588 [laughter] 1040 00:40:54,654 --> 00:40:56,156 - You're a big sister again. 1041 00:40:56,223 --> 00:40:59,559 - Again, Ry! 1042 00:40:59,626 --> 00:41:01,295 - Is she crying? - Yes. 1043 00:41:01,361 --> 00:41:03,230 - Aw. 1044 00:41:03,297 --> 00:41:09,536 ♪♪ ♪♪ 1045 00:41:19,547 --> 00:41:22,482 [upbeat music] 1046 00:41:22,549 --> 00:41:29,489 ♪♪ ♪♪