1 00:00:02,210 --> 00:00:04,796 90-day The Last Resort. 2 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:08,425 Time to get the party started. 3 00:00:08,425 --> 00:00:09,801 Hell, yeah. 4 00:00:15,682 --> 00:00:16,516 Julia. 5 00:00:18,101 --> 00:00:18,935 Too much. 6 00:00:20,770 --> 00:00:23,023 I just worry that Julia is more focused on 7 00:00:23,023 --> 00:00:26,526 having fun than what we actually came here for. 8 00:00:26,526 --> 00:00:27,569 Which is to work on our issues. 9 00:00:27,569 --> 00:00:29,904 I want to be married to somebody 10 00:00:29,904 --> 00:00:32,490 who's trying to be a mom. Not a [bleep] stripper. 11 00:00:32,490 --> 00:00:33,491 Bye. 12 00:00:42,042 --> 00:00:43,877 Oh, wow! 13 00:00:43,877 --> 00:00:45,545 It looks like Biniyam's here to dance and party, 14 00:00:45,545 --> 00:00:47,088 but I'm not here to dance the party. 15 00:00:47,088 --> 00:00:48,131 I'm here to work on the marriage. 16 00:00:50,550 --> 00:00:52,635 I really want to make this therapy work 17 00:00:52,635 --> 00:00:54,471 and I really want to make things work between us. 18 00:00:54,471 --> 00:00:56,556 So I'm gonna give you your password 19 00:00:56,556 --> 00:00:57,807 and you'll be happy. 20 00:01:00,352 --> 00:01:01,353 How's your night going? 21 00:01:02,354 --> 00:01:03,480 Good. How's yours? 22 00:01:21,122 --> 00:01:22,999 - Oh Oh, my God. 23 00:01:26,670 --> 00:01:29,130 You are not gonna play these games with me. 24 00:01:29,130 --> 00:01:33,510 I didn't start and it's not my [bleep] fault 25 00:01:33,510 --> 00:01:35,095 that you're with that dude 26 00:01:35,095 --> 00:01:37,055 that doesn't give a [bleep] about you. 27 00:01:37,055 --> 00:01:38,598 You are gonna apologize. 28 00:01:38,598 --> 00:01:41,226 You are going to apologize right now, Natalie 29 00:01:44,896 --> 00:01:46,398 I'm crazier. 30 00:02:35,405 --> 00:02:37,032 bitch! 31 00:02:46,332 --> 00:02:47,459 - What happened? I-- 32 00:02:49,294 --> 00:02:50,337 What did she want? 33 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:55,967 - How did you start it? 34 00:02:55,967 --> 00:02:57,510 - You started. - I started? 35 00:02:57,510 --> 00:02:58,845 You had girl code. 36 00:02:58,845 --> 00:03:02,015 You were like, "Girl, let me tell you, this is what I heard." 37 00:03:02,640 --> 00:03:03,516 That's girl code. 38 00:03:04,142 --> 00:03:05,435 She's too much. 39 00:03:06,353 --> 00:03:07,520 That was too much. 40 00:03:08,855 --> 00:03:10,815 And I'm very sorry she called you trash. 41 00:03:10,815 --> 00:03:13,151 I really appreciate you sticking up for me, 42 00:03:13,151 --> 00:03:15,403 - for-- like for real, like I really appreciate-- - I-- I-- I'm 43 00:03:15,403 --> 00:03:17,280 I'm always gonna be on the girl's side. 44 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:18,198 Yeah, me too. 45 00:03:18,198 --> 00:03:19,991 But this is unacceptable. 46 00:03:29,209 --> 00:03:33,213 With the invitation to Vegas with Sophie 47 00:03:33,213 --> 00:03:36,216 the story got blown way out of proportion. 48 00:03:36,216 --> 00:03:38,093 Sophie and I are just friends. 49 00:03:38,093 --> 00:03:39,552 And this is what happens. 50 00:03:39,552 --> 00:03:41,137 Natalie gets like this 51 00:03:41,137 --> 00:03:43,932 and that was the whole point of coming here 52 00:03:43,932 --> 00:03:46,893 was to see if this is the part that we could break. 53 00:03:46,893 --> 00:03:50,146 this habit, this cycle of this explosion, 54 00:03:50,146 --> 00:03:52,565 that is what needs to change. 55 00:03:52,565 --> 00:03:55,402 But I'm losing hope at this point. 56 00:04:49,581 --> 00:04:50,749 No. 57 00:05:53,353 --> 00:05:54,270 All right. 58 00:06:10,286 --> 00:06:12,122 Back to party. 59 00:06:16,042 --> 00:06:18,378 There wasn't a whole that I could co. 60 00:06:26,177 --> 00:06:29,931 Why am I gonna sacrifice who I am as a person 61 00:06:29,931 --> 00:06:31,433 to go down to some bitch's level 62 00:06:31,433 --> 00:06:35,645 that's 20 30 years older than me. 63 00:06:35,645 --> 00:06:37,605 - Fifty years older than me. 64 00:06:37,605 --> 00:06:40,108 Sixty like-- The bitch is 78 years old. 65 00:06:40,108 --> 00:06:41,109 I don't need to do that. 66 00:06:41,109 --> 00:06:42,694 That bitch is 80 years older than you. 67 00:06:42,694 --> 00:06:46,614 That bitch is 93 years old. I don't care. 68 00:06:46,614 --> 00:06:48,700 I think Natalie lashing out at me 69 00:06:48,700 --> 00:06:50,410 has brought us closer. 70 00:06:50,410 --> 00:06:52,620 Because even though Rob doesn't like to admit it, 71 00:06:52,620 --> 00:06:55,206 he loves the tea, he loves-- 72 00:06:55,206 --> 00:06:57,167 He loves drama when it's not with us. 73 00:06:57,167 --> 00:06:58,209 I guess I would agree. 74 00:06:58,209 --> 00:06:59,377 He loves the tea. 75 00:06:59,377 --> 00:07:00,253 - Ah! 76 00:07:03,506 --> 00:07:04,341 Yeah. 77 00:07:05,050 --> 00:07:06,593 Oh, my gosh. I left there. 78 00:07:07,385 --> 00:07:08,970 That kind of uh... 79 00:07:08,970 --> 00:07:10,430 - you know, stuff... - Incident? 80 00:07:10,430 --> 00:07:12,015 - ...that's not even acceptable. - Yeah. 81 00:07:12,015 --> 00:07:12,932 That is bad. That is bad. 82 00:07:15,518 --> 00:07:17,645 I really appreciate you having my back 83 00:07:17,645 --> 00:07:19,439 and going outside. 84 00:07:19,439 --> 00:07:21,733 When I felt-- She was out of control, 85 00:07:21,733 --> 00:07:23,443 and then I felt someone 86 00:07:24,569 --> 00:07:26,446 like touching my-- my shoulder, 87 00:07:26,446 --> 00:07:27,489 and it was you. 88 00:07:27,489 --> 00:07:29,115 - Yeah, I was trying to pull you away. - Yeah. 89 00:07:29,783 --> 00:07:31,076 Thank you, baby. 90 00:07:31,076 --> 00:07:32,118 I pulled you away. 91 00:07:32,786 --> 00:07:33,620 Thank you. 92 00:07:35,747 --> 00:07:38,750 - Cheers to Jasmine... - Cheers. 93 00:07:39,751 --> 00:07:40,752 ...the ferocious. 94 00:07:40,752 --> 00:07:43,129 The ferocious. 95 00:08:04,317 --> 00:08:06,611 I was so excited to see Jasmine. 96 00:08:06,611 --> 00:08:10,615 So, you know, excited and the protector 97 00:08:10,615 --> 00:08:13,076 and that, like, totally turned me on, 98 00:08:13,076 --> 00:08:15,328 and especially since... 99 00:08:15,328 --> 00:08:18,206 It wasn't me who she-- whose ass she was kicking. 100 00:08:18,206 --> 00:08:19,416 I'm okay with that. 101 00:08:20,083 --> 00:08:21,543 So behave and be careful 102 00:08:21,543 --> 00:08:23,336 with what you say or you're next. 103 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:25,130 I'm just saying. 104 00:08:25,130 --> 00:08:27,799 The day didn't start out that great, 105 00:08:27,799 --> 00:08:30,510 but we're making a comeback at the end tonight, 106 00:08:30,510 --> 00:08:32,137 and kissing her. 107 00:08:32,137 --> 00:08:33,847 And it makes me feel positive, 108 00:08:33,847 --> 00:08:36,182 you know, going into the rest of the therapy. 109 00:08:36,182 --> 00:08:39,144 I don't know, maybe next time, 110 00:08:39,144 --> 00:08:41,646 It's more than a good night kiss. 111 00:08:41,646 --> 00:08:42,772 Who knows? 112 00:08:47,944 --> 00:08:49,696 Yeah. Don't worry. Everybody is good. 113 00:09:14,888 --> 00:09:16,306 Mmm... 114 00:09:17,057 --> 00:09:18,058 Ooh! 115 00:09:19,225 --> 00:09:20,226 I love when you rub it in. 116 00:09:22,020 --> 00:09:22,854 Oh, yeah. 117 00:09:24,731 --> 00:09:27,400 Get that lymphatic drainage out. 118 00:09:28,651 --> 00:09:31,613 Yeah, I get that cellulite, baby 119 00:09:31,613 --> 00:09:33,198 - Ooh. 120 00:09:33,740 --> 00:09:34,908 It's good for everything. 121 00:09:34,908 --> 00:09:37,577 Cellulite, lymphatic drainage... 122 00:09:38,411 --> 00:09:39,496 Toning. 123 00:09:49,589 --> 00:09:51,049 It's like such a beautiful day out. 124 00:09:51,049 --> 00:09:52,384 Look at that blue sky. 125 00:09:52,384 --> 00:09:54,344 Trying to remember 126 00:09:54,344 --> 00:09:56,096 what happened last night. 127 00:10:06,106 --> 00:10:07,107 So we slept together. 128 00:10:08,608 --> 00:10:09,901 Even though it was accidental. 129 00:10:10,777 --> 00:10:12,612 - Technically. "Technically." 130 00:10:14,114 --> 00:10:16,449 It was great waking up in the same bed 131 00:10:16,449 --> 00:10:18,493 as Jasmine for once. 132 00:10:18,493 --> 00:10:22,539 I was so tired and drained by Natalie's drama 133 00:10:23,123 --> 00:10:25,250 that we just fell asleep. 134 00:10:25,250 --> 00:10:29,796 Nothing naughty happened I wish. 135 00:10:29,796 --> 00:10:32,716 But you know, it's progress. 136 00:10:35,927 --> 00:10:40,390 You see, Baby, is it really that bad to wake up to me 137 00:10:40,390 --> 00:10:41,975 in the morning in the same bed? 138 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:49,733 Last night there was no fighting. 139 00:10:49,733 --> 00:10:50,734 Can you believe it? 140 00:10:50,734 --> 00:10:52,610 For the very first time in so long, 141 00:10:52,610 --> 00:10:55,405 I felt like I do have a husband 142 00:10:55,405 --> 00:10:57,198 that you were my husband. 143 00:10:57,198 --> 00:10:58,908 You kissing me? 144 00:10:58,908 --> 00:11:00,410 You defending me? 145 00:11:00,410 --> 00:11:02,787 That's exactly what I meant from you. 146 00:11:02,787 --> 00:11:05,582 I could feel like you loved me last night. 147 00:11:06,291 --> 00:11:07,917 And I missed that. 148 00:11:09,002 --> 00:11:10,754 And I don't wanna-- 149 00:11:10,754 --> 00:11:13,214 - make you feel bad right now. I understand that and I appreciate that. 150 00:11:13,214 --> 00:11:15,425 I just-- I just wish we would be able 151 00:11:15,425 --> 00:11:17,427 to get along better every day. 152 00:11:18,094 --> 00:11:19,804 I do love you like-- 153 00:11:19,804 --> 00:11:22,557 I know that sometimes you feel like I don't love you, 154 00:11:22,557 --> 00:11:25,101 but I know in my heart 155 00:11:25,101 --> 00:11:28,021 that I have never loved anyone the way I love you. 156 00:11:28,855 --> 00:11:29,981 Anyone, Gino. 157 00:11:32,525 --> 00:11:33,360 Aw. 158 00:11:34,194 --> 00:11:36,821 That's so beautiful. Aw, one kiss. 159 00:11:40,367 --> 00:11:41,284 That's nice. 160 00:11:59,010 --> 00:12:00,387 Brandon, good morning. 161 00:12:02,347 --> 00:12:03,682 Good morning. 162 00:12:09,646 --> 00:12:13,233 How do you feel? Why did you sleep on that couch? 163 00:12:13,233 --> 00:12:15,568 Because I didn't want to sleep next to you. 164 00:12:19,572 --> 00:12:23,827 Last night, Julia let loose a little too much 165 00:12:23,827 --> 00:12:25,745 and she embarrassed me. 166 00:12:25,745 --> 00:12:28,873 She needs to understand that I have my limits 167 00:12:28,873 --> 00:12:30,542 of how much 'm gonna take. 168 00:12:30,542 --> 00:12:32,502 And if she's gonna keep acting this way, 169 00:12:32,502 --> 00:12:33,753 I'm just not gonna take it anymore. 170 00:12:37,257 --> 00:12:38,842 I have a question for you. 171 00:12:38,842 --> 00:12:41,720 What was with the way you're dressed yesterday? 172 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:44,597 I want to have intimate time with you. 173 00:12:44,597 --> 00:12:46,391 And maybe you could wear lingerie, 174 00:12:46,391 --> 00:12:47,559 but you won't even do that. 175 00:12:47,559 --> 00:12:50,770 But you're gonna go out dressed like that for everyone? 176 00:12:57,777 --> 00:12:59,612 You don't want to even be sexy for me. 177 00:12:59,612 --> 00:13:01,865 I'm the one you're supposed to be sexy for. 178 00:13:04,284 --> 00:13:07,620 At the end of the day, we're here to work on us as a couple. 179 00:13:09,039 --> 00:13:12,125 And you look like you're here to have single fun. 180 00:13:15,128 --> 00:13:18,757 No. We come to bar to have fun in a group. 181 00:13:26,556 --> 00:13:28,641 You were practically exposed out there. 182 00:13:28,641 --> 00:13:30,435 You should support me. 183 00:13:30,435 --> 00:13:32,145 - You should support-- - You were dressed like a whore. 184 00:13:35,899 --> 00:13:38,026 You are my husband. You should be my side. 185 00:13:38,026 --> 00:13:39,778 And you call me a whore. 186 00:13:43,823 --> 00:13:45,742 You were dancing on the bar. 187 00:14:05,428 --> 00:14:06,346 Okay. 188 00:14:22,529 --> 00:14:24,698 Well, I have never hit on her, 189 00:14:24,698 --> 00:14:26,324 and I approached her as a friend. 190 00:14:26,324 --> 00:14:28,326 - And it was incredibly-- 191 00:14:31,371 --> 00:14:32,872 Listen, I gotta go. 192 00:14:32,872 --> 00:14:34,374 I hope that you apologize to everybody. 193 00:14:58,898 --> 00:15:01,901 I have not heard from Natalie today. 194 00:15:01,901 --> 00:15:04,654 Um, kind of giving her some space. 195 00:15:05,447 --> 00:15:06,990 Last night was a little... 196 00:15:08,491 --> 00:15:10,618 over the top. I would say. 197 00:15:11,828 --> 00:15:14,831 Last night I went back to the hotel. 198 00:15:14,831 --> 00:15:16,458 I definitely had to have my own room 199 00:15:16,458 --> 00:15:18,877 because right now there's no way 200 00:15:18,877 --> 00:15:20,462 I'm staying in the room with Natalie. 201 00:15:21,171 --> 00:15:22,922 I have to leave for a few days 202 00:15:22,922 --> 00:15:25,133 and you know, I need to reset. 203 00:15:25,133 --> 00:15:27,177 I need to think about 204 00:15:27,177 --> 00:15:29,888 if this is-- If this is right for me. 205 00:15:29,888 --> 00:15:33,725 I've never crossed any lines with Sophie whatsoever. 206 00:15:33,725 --> 00:15:35,894 Um, I've not, like, hit on her. 207 00:15:35,894 --> 00:15:37,103 I've not done anything. 208 00:15:37,103 --> 00:15:38,229 You know, I want-- 209 00:15:38,229 --> 00:15:40,398 I want things to get better for Natalie, like I do. 210 00:15:40,398 --> 00:15:41,483 I want her to be happy. 211 00:15:41,483 --> 00:15:42,692 And I care for her. 212 00:15:43,777 --> 00:15:45,695 But she needs to learn how to be normal. 213 00:15:46,279 --> 00:15:48,907 Like... serious. 214 00:15:48,907 --> 00:15:50,784 She needs to learn how to be normal 215 00:15:50,784 --> 00:15:53,536 and how to interact with normal people. 216 00:15:54,162 --> 00:15:55,955 I mean... 217 00:16:01,670 --> 00:16:02,879 I'm here to ultimately 218 00:16:02,879 --> 00:16:04,589 figure things out with Natalie, 219 00:16:04,589 --> 00:16:09,886 but that blow up was probably in the top 10, for sure. 220 00:16:09,886 --> 00:16:11,554 Maybe even top three. 221 00:16:11,554 --> 00:16:12,847 Like it was up there. 222 00:16:14,057 --> 00:16:17,394 And I'd like to, like, squash this and just like, 223 00:16:17,394 --> 00:16:18,853 leave her be okay. 224 00:16:19,729 --> 00:16:21,064 I mean, that's my hope. 225 00:16:21,064 --> 00:16:23,066 Um, we'll see what I get. 226 00:16:27,987 --> 00:16:28,905 Who is it? 227 00:16:29,906 --> 00:16:30,865 It's me. 228 00:16:37,247 --> 00:16:38,331 Oh, hi. 229 00:16:38,331 --> 00:16:39,249 Hello 230 00:16:39,749 --> 00:16:40,667 How are you? 231 00:16:41,251 --> 00:16:43,003 - Good. - Good. 232 00:16:45,338 --> 00:16:47,340 - That's good. - You want to go outside? 233 00:16:47,340 --> 00:16:48,258 Sure. 234 00:16:58,685 --> 00:16:59,769 Pretty wild night. 235 00:17:00,270 --> 00:17:01,229 Don't you think? 236 00:17:12,073 --> 00:17:13,199 Did you forget? 237 00:17:14,701 --> 00:17:16,828 Then what do you need-- Then why are you asking me the question for? 238 00:17:22,459 --> 00:17:23,877 Mmm-hmm. 239 00:17:23,877 --> 00:17:29,215 I see a situation that was blown out of proportion. 240 00:17:29,215 --> 00:17:31,217 I think it could have been handled much differently. 241 00:17:40,310 --> 00:17:44,189 Okay, well, I can tell you that I've never hit on her. 242 00:17:44,189 --> 00:17:46,483 And I approached her as a friend. 243 00:17:46,483 --> 00:17:48,318 - You don't any-- any-- 244 00:17:48,318 --> 00:17:50,737 And you don't even know what happened. 245 00:17:50,737 --> 00:17:52,989 - And it was incredibly-- 246 00:17:56,743 --> 00:17:57,577 Okay? 247 00:18:04,584 --> 00:18:07,379 I'm a little afraid that I might catch crazy 248 00:18:07,379 --> 00:18:08,755 - if we keep go on this. Mmm-hmm. 249 00:18:10,465 --> 00:18:11,925 So listen, I gotta go. 250 00:18:13,468 --> 00:18:14,302 Good luck with everybody. 251 00:18:14,302 --> 00:18:16,346 I hope that you apologize to everybody 252 00:18:16,346 --> 00:18:17,847 because they deserve it. 253 00:18:46,876 --> 00:18:48,128 What is this? 254 00:18:48,128 --> 00:18:50,338 Uh-oh. 255 00:18:50,338 --> 00:18:52,799 Fruit tray over here. 256 00:18:53,717 --> 00:18:55,218 I guess we pick a seat. 257 00:18:55,969 --> 00:18:57,846 - Oh, look at you guys - Hey. 258 00:18:57,846 --> 00:18:59,222 Hello. 259 00:19:00,724 --> 00:19:02,851 Stacey, I love your cowgirl outfit. 260 00:19:02,851 --> 00:19:04,978 - Yes. Yes. I need a cowboy hat. 261 00:19:35,383 --> 00:19:36,885 Did you see the-- the signs? 262 00:19:36,885 --> 00:19:38,094 No. Maybe. Yes. 263 00:19:39,179 --> 00:19:40,680 Well, hello, everyone. 264 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:41,848 Hi. Hello. 265 00:19:41,848 --> 00:19:43,683 How are you today? 266 00:19:43,683 --> 00:19:45,185 - Good. - All right. 267 00:19:45,185 --> 00:19:47,771 Ooh, sex therapy. 268 00:19:47,771 --> 00:19:49,939 I know. 269 00:19:49,939 --> 00:19:51,566 We're gonna have some fun today. 270 00:19:51,566 --> 00:19:52,817 Sexy time. 271 00:19:52,817 --> 00:19:53,943 Sexy time. - Um... 272 00:19:54,569 --> 00:19:55,570 So welcome. 273 00:19:55,570 --> 00:19:56,988 I'm super excited to be here with you 274 00:19:56,988 --> 00:19:59,741 for your first sex therapy session. 275 00:19:59,741 --> 00:20:02,494 Unfortunately, Natalie and Josh couldn't be here today. 276 00:20:02,494 --> 00:20:05,330 Um, but we are going to have a really good time. 277 00:20:05,330 --> 00:20:08,375 Creating conversation and exploring pleasure with each other. 278 00:20:08,875 --> 00:20:10,877 - Oh. Yes. 279 00:20:10,877 --> 00:20:12,837 When I hear that it's sex therapy, 280 00:20:12,837 --> 00:20:14,589 I'll get a little excited. 281 00:20:14,589 --> 00:20:16,299 I mean, how could I not? 282 00:20:16,299 --> 00:20:19,427 Hopefully we can fix our sex life. 283 00:20:19,427 --> 00:20:22,055 For me, my first thoughts honestly is like 284 00:20:22,055 --> 00:20:24,224 it's gonna be around the other couples. 285 00:20:24,224 --> 00:20:26,976 So it's like, I'm interested to see what it is. 286 00:20:26,976 --> 00:20:28,978 But I'm like, oh God, whatever we have to do, 287 00:20:28,978 --> 00:20:30,939 I have to do it around everyone else. 288 00:20:31,981 --> 00:20:34,025 So first, before we even begin, 289 00:20:34,025 --> 00:20:35,777 I want to ask you guys a question. 290 00:20:35,777 --> 00:20:38,947 How comfortable do you feel talking about sex? 291 00:20:38,947 --> 00:20:40,073 A scale of 1 to 10. 292 00:20:40,073 --> 00:20:41,074 You can blurt it out. 293 00:20:41,074 --> 00:20:42,450 - Ten. Ten. 294 00:20:42,450 --> 00:20:43,660 Like with who? 295 00:20:43,660 --> 00:20:44,911 With your partner. 296 00:20:44,911 --> 00:20:46,454 - Oh. - Oh, with the partner? 297 00:20:46,454 --> 00:20:47,789 Zero. - Zero. 298 00:20:47,789 --> 00:20:49,624 Zero? Interesting. 299 00:20:49,624 --> 00:20:51,710 So we don't feel comfortable talking about sex with our partners. 300 00:20:51,710 --> 00:20:52,752 Is that what I'm hearing? 301 00:20:54,254 --> 00:20:55,630 You guys don't talk about sex? 302 00:20:55,630 --> 00:20:56,631 No. No? 303 00:20:57,173 --> 00:20:58,008 What about you guys? 304 00:20:58,008 --> 00:21:00,051 - No. 305 00:21:00,051 --> 00:21:01,553 No, you're not-- You don't-- 306 00:21:01,553 --> 00:21:02,512 You don't talk about sex. 307 00:21:02,512 --> 00:21:04,139 You're not comfortable with it. 308 00:21:04,139 --> 00:21:07,475 I think it's more easy for me than-- than him, I would say. 309 00:21:07,475 --> 00:21:10,520 You're each married to someone from a different culture. Right? 310 00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:14,357 And culturally, those differences can sometimes cause 311 00:21:14,357 --> 00:21:17,736 us to not really be able to communicate with each other. 312 00:21:17,736 --> 00:21:19,404 I'm hoping that we can help everybody 313 00:21:19,404 --> 00:21:21,406 open the lines of communication. 314 00:21:21,406 --> 00:21:23,700 So what we're going to do is less talking 315 00:21:23,700 --> 00:21:25,744 and more exploring. Okay? 316 00:21:25,744 --> 00:21:27,495 - So-- 317 00:21:27,495 --> 00:21:31,291 Yeah! It's 'caused we want to find that physical connection. 318 00:21:39,883 --> 00:21:41,718 You seemed being very open 319 00:21:41,718 --> 00:21:42,927 to dancing on bars, 320 00:21:42,927 --> 00:21:46,056 but not being a part of this sex therapy. 321 00:21:50,852 --> 00:21:52,771 The way you dance it seems sexual. 322 00:21:58,735 --> 00:22:02,530 So in this exercise, you'll decide who's being the explorer, 323 00:22:02,530 --> 00:22:05,658 and then the other person is going to be the explored. 324 00:22:05,658 --> 00:22:09,371 The explorer is going to take the larger paintbrush 325 00:22:09,371 --> 00:22:13,041 and you're going to lightly 326 00:22:13,041 --> 00:22:15,960 search for places that feel good, right? 327 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:18,296 It can be your neck, the small of your back. 328 00:22:18,296 --> 00:22:19,631 How about your feet? 329 00:22:19,631 --> 00:22:21,925 Your feet, the soles of your feet. 330 00:22:21,925 --> 00:22:24,260 Especially right. 331 00:22:24,260 --> 00:22:26,388 When that partner gets to a point that feels good, 332 00:22:26,388 --> 00:22:27,722 you're going to say green light. 333 00:22:27,722 --> 00:22:30,266 And they're gonna mark that zone with an X 334 00:22:30,266 --> 00:22:31,601 and that's with the syrup. 335 00:22:32,394 --> 00:22:34,854 Almost all of the couples here 336 00:22:34,854 --> 00:22:38,191 have not had sex or been intimate in months. 337 00:22:38,191 --> 00:22:42,821 So the point of this exercise is to reignite the spark 338 00:22:42,821 --> 00:22:44,989 that that set them off in the first place. 339 00:22:44,989 --> 00:22:48,326 So I'm hoping that by encouraging them 340 00:22:48,326 --> 00:22:49,619 to be physically intimate. 341 00:22:49,619 --> 00:22:52,455 They'll start to kind of open those doors for themselves. 342 00:22:55,041 --> 00:22:56,459 No, I'm good. I'm good. 343 00:22:56,459 --> 00:22:59,087 - Leave the shoe. No. No 344 00:22:59,087 --> 00:23:00,130 Can you take my boots off? 345 00:23:04,134 --> 00:23:05,301 You could stand up. 346 00:23:05,885 --> 00:23:07,220 Oh, God. 347 00:23:07,220 --> 00:23:10,432 Oh, my gosh, this is really it's gonna be messy. 348 00:23:14,060 --> 00:23:14,894 Watch your feet. 349 00:23:25,155 --> 00:23:26,072 I feel weird. 350 00:23:27,490 --> 00:23:29,409 Okay, from the back it's not working. 351 00:23:31,494 --> 00:23:32,829 - You're so [bleep] sweaty. - What's up? 352 00:23:32,829 --> 00:23:34,497 - What's wrong with you. - I got sweaty feet 353 00:23:34,497 --> 00:23:35,749 - Cowboy... 354 00:23:36,416 --> 00:23:37,250 - Okay. 355 00:23:37,792 --> 00:23:39,419 Hmm, hmm. 356 00:23:39,419 --> 00:23:40,670 Hmm. 357 00:23:40,670 --> 00:23:43,048 Right there Is the green. Yeah, right there. 358 00:23:43,048 --> 00:23:44,132 You okay? 359 00:23:46,009 --> 00:23:48,345 - So, lift that up. Yeah. 360 00:23:50,597 --> 00:23:51,431 Nipple? 361 00:23:52,098 --> 00:23:53,308 No, not really. 362 00:23:53,308 --> 00:23:54,184 Yeah. 363 00:23:54,768 --> 00:23:55,602 Yeah. 364 00:23:55,602 --> 00:23:57,062 I don't feel anything. 365 00:23:57,062 --> 00:23:58,897 I know you're going to feel tickled right here. 366 00:23:58,897 --> 00:24:00,482 I know you. 367 00:24:00,482 --> 00:24:02,025 Probably all the liposuction. 368 00:24:04,652 --> 00:24:05,487 No. 369 00:24:09,115 --> 00:24:09,949 Red light? Okay. 370 00:24:12,410 --> 00:24:13,370 Okay. 371 00:24:14,662 --> 00:24:16,289 This is your green light. Right here. 372 00:24:17,332 --> 00:24:18,583 This is green light. 373 00:24:18,583 --> 00:24:20,710 - No, red light. This is-- I never forget. 374 00:24:20,710 --> 00:24:21,711 It's green light. You're-- your-- 375 00:24:23,797 --> 00:24:25,548 Why don't you be honest? 376 00:24:25,548 --> 00:24:27,175 You love the ears. I'll, I'll mark it. 377 00:24:28,551 --> 00:24:30,178 - I'm not. I'm telling you-- Maybe I-- I don't like it 378 00:24:30,178 --> 00:24:32,472 - Oh, you've changed in the last four months. Yeah. 379 00:24:47,237 --> 00:24:48,154 Red light. 380 00:24:48,154 --> 00:24:49,739 I've had sex with you so many times. 381 00:24:49,739 --> 00:24:52,075 This is not a red light. 382 00:24:52,075 --> 00:24:54,369 Ooh, that's kind of nice. Uh, huh? 383 00:24:54,369 --> 00:24:56,913 I feel good, like, getting turned on. 384 00:24:59,207 --> 00:25:01,084 This tickle session. 385 00:25:01,084 --> 00:25:02,460 I'm liking it. I'm loving it. 386 00:25:02,460 --> 00:25:05,422 I feel like it's, you know, it's sexual, 387 00:25:05,422 --> 00:25:07,090 and I feel like it's something 388 00:25:07,090 --> 00:25:08,591 you know, we should do more of. 389 00:25:11,678 --> 00:25:14,597 But to me, Stacy is happy. 390 00:25:14,597 --> 00:25:16,683 So everything is good, you know, 391 00:25:20,770 --> 00:25:22,355 I mean, if you wanna put some sunscreen 392 00:25:22,355 --> 00:25:24,566 - while you're there, Shut up. 393 00:25:28,945 --> 00:25:29,779 This ain't working. 394 00:25:30,947 --> 00:25:32,365 Jasmine. How about this? 395 00:25:32,365 --> 00:25:34,242 I hear a lot of red lights over here, right. 396 00:25:34,242 --> 00:25:36,786 How about you give him a directive? 397 00:25:36,786 --> 00:25:38,705 Where do you think there might be a green light for you? 398 00:25:38,705 --> 00:25:40,915 - Oh, here. Oh. 399 00:25:40,915 --> 00:25:41,958 All right. 400 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:44,878 Maybe my neck. 401 00:25:47,964 --> 00:25:50,008 Green light, green light. 402 00:25:50,008 --> 00:25:51,634 Green here? - Mmm-hmm. 403 00:25:51,634 --> 00:25:52,802 There? - Mmm-hmm. 404 00:25:59,809 --> 00:26:04,522 Sex is the biggest obstacle in our marriage. 405 00:26:04,522 --> 00:26:07,525 I can't even remember when was the last time that I had sex. 406 00:26:07,525 --> 00:26:09,694 I think I'm virgin again. No joke. 407 00:26:09,694 --> 00:26:12,197 That thing is close. 408 00:26:12,197 --> 00:26:13,823 But we have a good night 409 00:26:13,823 --> 00:26:15,658 and we slept in the same bed. 410 00:26:15,658 --> 00:26:18,661 And during this exercise he's listening to me, 411 00:26:18,661 --> 00:26:20,747 and that is kind of turning me on. 412 00:26:20,747 --> 00:26:23,416 I'm starting to like this class. 413 00:26:26,503 --> 00:26:28,713 - Toe? - There's a little bit of something happening 414 00:26:28,713 --> 00:26:29,798 - down there. - Big toe? 415 00:26:29,798 --> 00:26:31,299 There's a little something happening down there. 416 00:26:38,139 --> 00:26:40,850 All right. Now we have the explorers. 417 00:26:40,850 --> 00:26:41,768 They've marked their spot. 418 00:26:41,768 --> 00:26:44,187 Now it's time to remove the syrup. 419 00:26:45,021 --> 00:26:46,231 With what? 420 00:26:46,231 --> 00:26:47,524 - With your mouth. 421 00:26:49,442 --> 00:26:50,694 I knew it. 422 00:26:54,447 --> 00:26:55,657 Oh, my gosh. - Eat it! 423 00:26:56,199 --> 00:26:57,033 Eat it! 424 00:26:57,784 --> 00:26:58,660 Come. 425 00:26:59,369 --> 00:27:00,829 - Come. Oh, my... 426 00:27:00,829 --> 00:27:01,705 All right. 427 00:27:04,874 --> 00:27:06,543 There-- Look at this, man. 428 00:27:08,712 --> 00:27:10,213 Oh, my God, that's a lot of syrup. 429 00:27:16,469 --> 00:27:17,679 Do it more, baby. 430 00:27:19,222 --> 00:27:20,724 Oh, my God. 431 00:27:20,724 --> 00:27:22,142 Oh, my... 432 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:29,315 Gino and Jasmine, they're having a blast. 433 00:27:36,156 --> 00:27:38,283 Their relationship might be fine after this. 434 00:27:39,325 --> 00:27:40,410 Suck it like... 435 00:27:41,578 --> 00:27:42,996 Yes, like that. 436 00:27:42,996 --> 00:27:44,831 It's good. 437 00:27:45,707 --> 00:27:47,876 - I like this exercise. 438 00:27:51,338 --> 00:27:53,882 You licked it, just like suck it off. 439 00:27:56,051 --> 00:27:58,219 Julia, these kiwis aren't gonna eat themselves. 440 00:27:59,179 --> 00:28:00,680 Where you-- Oh! 441 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,896 I got it. Don't worry. I got it. 442 00:28:08,605 --> 00:28:09,439 That's it. 443 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:11,274 That's it. 444 00:28:14,110 --> 00:28:16,279 Biniyam doesn't want to, like, admit to like, 445 00:28:16,279 --> 00:28:18,239 enjoying the exercise like 446 00:28:18,239 --> 00:28:22,369 grow up like this is supposed to be a fun exercise. 447 00:28:22,369 --> 00:28:25,246 When things were good, like we could have sex and we could still laugh. 448 00:28:25,246 --> 00:28:27,749 He would do, like, naked dancing in the shower 449 00:28:27,749 --> 00:28:30,210 or, like, do a striptease with me and like... 450 00:28:30,210 --> 00:28:32,754 I mean, you know, we did have that closeness for a while. 451 00:28:32,754 --> 00:28:34,381 I do miss that. 452 00:28:34,381 --> 00:28:36,299 I'm not sucking that off. Delete that. 453 00:28:36,966 --> 00:28:38,468 Get that off. 454 00:28:38,468 --> 00:28:40,637 That's gone. I'm not sucking that. 455 00:28:42,389 --> 00:28:43,431 Just gonna erase it. 456 00:28:45,308 --> 00:28:47,018 I really don't wanna suck the nipple. 457 00:28:47,018 --> 00:28:48,144 Stop being so weird about it. 458 00:28:48,144 --> 00:28:49,771 And I put so much on there. 459 00:28:49,771 --> 00:28:51,147 Stop being weird about it. 460 00:28:52,232 --> 00:28:53,441 I don't wanna do it. 461 00:28:53,441 --> 00:28:55,276 - Jesus Christ. I will. Lift it up. 462 00:28:55,276 --> 00:28:57,445 No, it makes me feel very unwanted and very unsexy. 463 00:28:59,823 --> 00:29:01,074 It's not you. 464 00:29:01,074 --> 00:29:02,951 You're making it feel like it's me. 465 00:29:02,951 --> 00:29:05,537 It's that it can't be sexy if this is a nipple. 466 00:29:05,537 --> 00:29:07,330 Yeah, which is sexy. 467 00:29:07,330 --> 00:29:09,749 No, it's not. It's a man's nipple. 468 00:29:09,749 --> 00:29:10,959 It's my nipple. 469 00:29:12,752 --> 00:29:15,714 Sophie's acting like my body repulses her right now. 470 00:29:15,714 --> 00:29:17,590 And as her husband, that's pretty [bleep] up. 471 00:29:17,590 --> 00:29:19,843 Here I am, willing to try anything, 472 00:29:19,843 --> 00:29:23,513 and she just... She stops herself, so she stops us. 473 00:29:24,472 --> 00:29:26,141 I feel rejected, I feel not wanted, 474 00:29:26,141 --> 00:29:27,600 I feel... 475 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:31,354 I feel like, "Why am I here with somebody who doesn't want me?" 476 00:29:32,188 --> 00:29:33,982 It's not like I'm a disgusting person. 477 00:29:38,361 --> 00:29:40,864 Something from your past is affecting you. 478 00:29:40,864 --> 00:29:42,198 What's the first thing that comes up 479 00:29:42,198 --> 00:29:44,534 when you think about trauma? 480 00:29:50,790 --> 00:29:52,000 And this is what I'm talking about. 481 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:53,084 There's direct links. 482 00:29:53,084 --> 00:29:55,503 You got so upset with Sophie 483 00:29:55,503 --> 00:29:57,881 instead of dealing with your relationship with Josh. 484 00:30:21,654 --> 00:30:24,491 - Hi. How are you? Hello! 485 00:30:24,491 --> 00:30:25,575 How are you doing? 486 00:30:25,575 --> 00:30:26,868 I'm good. How are you? 487 00:30:26,868 --> 00:30:28,703 Good. I'm glad we had a chance to meet up. 488 00:30:28,703 --> 00:30:30,497 - Yes. - Here's some water. I know it's hot out here. 489 00:30:30,497 --> 00:30:33,667 Thank you, yeah, for giving me therapy time. 490 00:30:33,667 --> 00:30:35,001 - Of course. - Thank you. 491 00:30:35,001 --> 00:30:36,294 - Let's walk. - Okay. 492 00:30:36,294 --> 00:30:38,129 Let's maybe find a place to sit and relax. 493 00:31:03,613 --> 00:31:06,074 So, Natalie, you reached out to me today. 494 00:31:06,074 --> 00:31:07,158 What prompted that? 495 00:31:07,701 --> 00:31:11,538 Um, I had... 496 00:31:13,206 --> 00:31:16,209 kind of emotional breakdown yesterday. 497 00:31:17,544 --> 00:31:20,296 - We had a party. - Okay. 498 00:31:31,474 --> 00:31:32,726 What was that like? Hearing that? 499 00:31:39,399 --> 00:31:40,400 Don't apologize. 500 00:31:42,569 --> 00:31:45,155 That's a lot to take in. That's a lot to hear. 501 00:31:48,033 --> 00:31:51,411 How did things wind up going between you and Josh this morning? 502 00:31:52,245 --> 00:31:53,079 Well... 503 00:31:55,999 --> 00:32:00,754 because I said to him not nice things and he left. 504 00:32:02,714 --> 00:32:03,840 Okay. 505 00:32:07,844 --> 00:32:11,014 So it was, like, painful. 506 00:32:11,014 --> 00:32:13,892 I'm hearing things didn't go so well this morning with Josh, 507 00:32:13,892 --> 00:32:16,144 but you're here for therapy. 508 00:32:16,144 --> 00:32:17,812 What do you want with Josh? 509 00:32:17,812 --> 00:32:19,439 What do you want to get out of this with him? 510 00:32:34,621 --> 00:32:35,705 Also... 511 00:32:51,888 --> 00:32:53,223 So a few things are going through my brain. 512 00:32:53,223 --> 00:32:55,809 I hear you, and I've been experiencing you 513 00:32:55,809 --> 00:32:57,602 and you say, "You know, I wanna be accepted." 514 00:32:57,602 --> 00:33:02,357 And I can't help but to think, "What is really at the core here?" 515 00:33:02,357 --> 00:33:04,484 There's something more happening. 516 00:33:04,484 --> 00:33:07,278 Clearly you have all of these stressors. 517 00:33:07,278 --> 00:33:08,738 You have your relationship. 518 00:33:09,823 --> 00:33:11,491 There's something deeper. 519 00:33:17,789 --> 00:33:24,170 And I would almost think that something from your past is affecting you, 520 00:33:24,170 --> 00:33:27,382 that is causing your actions, your behaviors, 521 00:33:27,382 --> 00:33:33,471 for you to respond in a certain way with Josh, with other people around you. 522 00:33:35,265 --> 00:33:36,433 What's the first thing that comes up 523 00:33:36,433 --> 00:33:40,687 when you think about trauma, past childhood? 524 00:33:40,687 --> 00:33:41,646 Well... 525 00:33:55,952 --> 00:33:57,954 - Bullying. Yeah. 526 00:34:27,150 --> 00:34:28,610 And this is what I'm talking about. 527 00:34:28,610 --> 00:34:29,778 There's direct links. 528 00:34:29,778 --> 00:34:31,821 This brings us back to last night, actually. 529 00:34:31,821 --> 00:34:33,698 Or last night actually brings us back 530 00:34:33,698 --> 00:34:35,658 to all this past stuff that you've been through. 531 00:34:36,826 --> 00:34:38,828 You got so upset with Sophie 532 00:34:38,828 --> 00:34:41,164 instead of dealing with your relationship with Josh. 533 00:35:03,269 --> 00:35:05,647 I really don't wanna suck the nipple. 534 00:35:05,647 --> 00:35:10,360 Sophie is refusing to trust the process 535 00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:12,445 and just go for it. 536 00:35:12,445 --> 00:35:14,572 I cannot help but feel a little rejected. 537 00:35:18,743 --> 00:35:20,954 No, it's not you. It's not you, I promise. 538 00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:39,973 It's sweet, right? 539 00:35:41,474 --> 00:35:42,559 Shut up! 540 00:35:45,562 --> 00:35:46,855 I can't even... 541 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:48,606 This side-- 542 00:35:48,606 --> 00:35:49,566 Hold on, I don't want it to get on my shirt. 543 00:35:57,157 --> 00:35:59,492 No, it's not you. It's not you, I promise. 544 00:36:06,708 --> 00:36:08,543 Okay, I'ma do it, but I'm gonna cover myself. 545 00:36:11,546 --> 00:36:14,174 Okay. Okay, we're having fun over here. 546 00:36:14,174 --> 00:36:15,175 I have to lick his nipple! 547 00:36:15,175 --> 00:36:17,552 Okay. Okay, how does that feel, Rob? 548 00:36:18,261 --> 00:36:20,722 It feels great, but she won't... 549 00:36:20,722 --> 00:36:22,766 I'm having to do so much convincing. 550 00:36:24,267 --> 00:36:29,606 Sophie is refusing to trust the process 551 00:36:29,606 --> 00:36:31,524 and just go for it. 552 00:36:31,524 --> 00:36:34,027 I know that she's a little bit shy, 553 00:36:34,027 --> 00:36:36,196 but I cannot help but feel a little rejected. 554 00:36:36,196 --> 00:36:37,280 I licked the nipple. 555 00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:38,740 Hey, but there's a difference between 556 00:36:38,740 --> 00:36:41,785 "I really have to do it? Okay, I'll [bleep] do it." 557 00:36:41,785 --> 00:36:45,121 And, like actually making me feel, like, it's like you're into it. 558 00:36:46,456 --> 00:36:48,792 There's a huge difference. It's not the same. 559 00:37:00,095 --> 00:37:03,390 So, Natalie, I'm picking up these beliefs 560 00:37:03,390 --> 00:37:04,599 that have been stored. 561 00:37:04,599 --> 00:37:06,768 And the beliefs that are in your brain 562 00:37:06,768 --> 00:37:09,896 sound something like, "I'm not good enough. 563 00:37:11,106 --> 00:37:13,108 I'm less than. I'm weak." 564 00:37:18,822 --> 00:37:20,240 "I don't deserve to be loved." 565 00:37:29,165 --> 00:37:31,251 That's the work that needs to be done. 566 00:37:31,251 --> 00:37:34,671 The belief that I would like to see for you 567 00:37:34,671 --> 00:37:37,590 would be related to "I am good enough. 568 00:37:38,508 --> 00:37:39,509 I am loved." 569 00:37:41,928 --> 00:37:43,638 And then, in turn, 570 00:37:43,638 --> 00:37:46,349 when we're in these romantic relationships or friendships, 571 00:37:46,349 --> 00:37:47,976 that will translate. 572 00:37:47,976 --> 00:37:49,936 I think the very first step... 573 00:37:49,936 --> 00:37:54,733 I would love for you to be able to share a little bit with Josh, 574 00:37:54,733 --> 00:37:58,695 of what you've been through, what you've maybe shared in our session. 575 00:37:58,695 --> 00:37:59,863 The vulnerability piece. 576 00:38:01,031 --> 00:38:03,033 I think it's important that you trust Josh. 577 00:38:05,201 --> 00:38:08,038 I feel like Natalie needs to do some significant work 578 00:38:08,038 --> 00:38:13,376 on past childhood traumas and how that affects her behaviors today 579 00:38:13,376 --> 00:38:15,920 in order for her to have a healthy relationship with Josh. 580 00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:17,881 I feel like there needs to be more communication, 581 00:38:17,881 --> 00:38:20,175 a stronger connection between the two of them, 582 00:38:20,175 --> 00:38:24,346 and hopes that that will facilitate more commitment. 583 00:38:24,346 --> 00:38:28,558 She wants to be loved, she wants to be cared for, she wants the support. 584 00:38:28,558 --> 00:38:30,143 And that is not unreasonable at all. 585 00:38:30,143 --> 00:38:32,270 She deserves all of those things. 586 00:38:32,270 --> 00:38:34,356 Again, that's the importance of having therapy, 587 00:38:34,356 --> 00:38:36,107 group therapy, and even individual therapy 588 00:38:36,107 --> 00:38:39,527 to deal with some of these emotions that are built up. 589 00:38:39,527 --> 00:38:44,199 I'm also thinking it's important if we address the group 590 00:38:44,199 --> 00:38:47,535 for you to say your piece, possibly have an apology in that, 591 00:38:48,578 --> 00:38:50,747 and give a little bit of information 592 00:38:50,747 --> 00:38:53,333 as to how and why you respond in that way. 593 00:39:01,758 --> 00:39:03,510 There's more work to be done, 594 00:39:03,510 --> 00:39:05,261 but this was a great first step. 595 00:39:05,762 --> 00:39:06,763 Thank you. 596 00:39:08,598 --> 00:39:09,849 You should be proud of yourself. 597 00:39:10,934 --> 00:39:12,268 - Thank you. Yeah. 598 00:39:55,729 --> 00:40:02,527 I have start thinking about having a person that will satisfy me, 599 00:40:02,527 --> 00:40:03,903 but it's not like a threesome. 600 00:40:34,934 --> 00:40:36,227 All right, guys. 601 00:40:36,227 --> 00:40:40,273 I've got a next step for you all. 602 00:40:40,273 --> 00:40:42,734 One thing that we've talked about today 603 00:40:42,734 --> 00:40:44,361 is it's really hard for some of us 604 00:40:44,361 --> 00:40:46,321 to talk about sex, right? 605 00:40:46,321 --> 00:40:48,365 So for our next activity, we're gonna play a game 606 00:40:48,365 --> 00:40:53,244 called Yes, no, maybe. Okay? 607 00:40:53,244 --> 00:40:57,165 I'm gonna pass around some blank sheets of paper and pens, 608 00:40:57,165 --> 00:41:00,502 and I want you to think of one thing 609 00:41:00,502 --> 00:41:04,297 you'd like to try in the bedroom, okay? 610 00:41:04,297 --> 00:41:06,299 We're gonna put it in the bucket 611 00:41:06,299 --> 00:41:08,885 and then I'm gonna read off the things that you've shared. 612 00:41:08,885 --> 00:41:12,639 So if you're a yes to the activity that you hear me say, 613 00:41:12,639 --> 00:41:14,641 you're gonna walk over to the "Yes" sign. 614 00:41:14,641 --> 00:41:18,144 If you're a no, you're going to walk over to the "No" sign. 615 00:41:18,144 --> 00:41:21,356 If you're a maybe, you're going to walk over to the "Maybe" sign. 616 00:41:21,356 --> 00:41:23,233 - Okay? Does that make sense? - Yep. 617 00:41:23,233 --> 00:41:25,568 - How dirty can these ideas be? - Oh... 618 00:41:26,653 --> 00:41:28,488 As dirty as you want, Gino. 619 00:41:28,488 --> 00:41:31,408 Get as imaginative as you like, sir. 620 00:41:39,916 --> 00:41:41,167 Gino and Jasmine. 621 00:41:43,670 --> 00:41:47,882 Gino and Jasmine definitely seem like the most sexually aggressive couple, 622 00:41:47,882 --> 00:41:51,344 so it is surprising, the fact that they're even not having sex. 623 00:42:00,311 --> 00:42:02,480 Like, is there something you want to try? 624 00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:07,152 Like cuddling or, I don't know, like kissing more. 625 00:42:07,152 --> 00:42:11,156 This is an exercise in, like, really thinking about what you desire. 626 00:42:15,201 --> 00:42:16,286 Sure. Yeah. 627 00:42:21,875 --> 00:42:24,002 The point of this Yes, no, maybe exercise 628 00:42:24,002 --> 00:42:26,880 is partners will learn a lot about each other that they didn't know, 629 00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:30,050 where their desires and their pleasure lies, 630 00:42:30,050 --> 00:42:31,718 where there are yeses and maybes 631 00:42:31,718 --> 00:42:36,014 so we can help to inject some fun, new things to their intimacy. 632 00:42:36,723 --> 00:42:38,808 But some of them may learn 633 00:42:38,808 --> 00:42:41,019 that they don't know their partner the way they thought they did. 634 00:42:42,395 --> 00:42:43,688 All right. First one. 635 00:42:44,564 --> 00:42:46,191 "Make a sexy video" 636 00:42:46,191 --> 00:42:50,528 So walk to the sign that represents how you feel 637 00:42:50,528 --> 00:42:53,573 about your willingness to do or try this thing. 638 00:42:54,199 --> 00:42:55,408 Oh. 639 00:43:00,872 --> 00:43:01,873 Oh, yes, the three of us. 640 00:43:03,667 --> 00:43:06,336 Yes, Stacey! Whoo! 641 00:43:06,336 --> 00:43:09,381 So you'd like to try making a sexy video. Feels good? 642 00:43:09,381 --> 00:43:10,382 I have done it. 643 00:43:10,382 --> 00:43:12,550 - You've done it? Okay. Yeah. 644 00:43:12,550 --> 00:43:14,344 With Gino? Or by yourself, like... 645 00:43:14,344 --> 00:43:15,720 Uh... 646 00:43:17,180 --> 00:43:21,309 Oh, it was... Okay. TMI. 647 00:43:21,309 --> 00:43:25,021 So it looks like we have a "Yes" and a "Maybe" together. Okay. 648 00:43:25,021 --> 00:43:26,272 I have some hope. 649 00:43:26,272 --> 00:43:28,108 Okay. - I have some hope, yeah. 650 00:43:29,275 --> 00:43:32,320 I'm mostly in "Maybe" section because, you know, 651 00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,239 I'm just a little worried about the security of it. 652 00:43:35,699 --> 00:43:37,951 Have I done it before? Yeah. 653 00:43:37,951 --> 00:43:39,953 Some freaky floating around about Gino. 654 00:43:40,620 --> 00:43:41,788 Not with me. 655 00:43:44,416 --> 00:43:50,964 Yes, I have done, like, sex videos in the past for academic purposes. 656 00:43:52,090 --> 00:43:53,758 Like, so you can get better. 657 00:43:53,758 --> 00:43:57,387 I've done it in the past, yes, I have, with ex-girlfriends. 658 00:44:09,399 --> 00:44:11,609 - Yeah, I don't recall that. 659 00:44:12,485 --> 00:44:13,695 So... 660 00:44:13,695 --> 00:44:17,323 Okay, has anyone else done this before on the "Yes" side? 661 00:44:17,323 --> 00:44:19,284 I've done it, just not with my wife. 662 00:44:19,284 --> 00:44:22,037 - Oh, well, it looks like this is a good time to try. Tonight. 663 00:44:22,037 --> 00:44:24,456 - Look at that. - Look at that. Who would have thought? 664 00:44:24,456 --> 00:44:26,666 Okay. All right, the next one is... 665 00:44:28,418 --> 00:44:30,795 a third person. 666 00:44:37,177 --> 00:44:38,261 Welcome to club. 667 00:44:39,679 --> 00:44:42,057 Okay, so we're gonna go to the "Maybes". 668 00:44:42,057 --> 00:44:44,100 Look at the couple under the "Maybe". 669 00:44:44,684 --> 00:44:46,311 I'm shocked. 670 00:44:46,311 --> 00:44:47,479 - I couldn't believe it. Really? 671 00:44:47,479 --> 00:44:49,022 - You're just copying me. - I'm not copying you. 672 00:44:50,357 --> 00:44:53,276 I couldn't believe that she would be here. 673 00:44:53,276 --> 00:44:54,778 - Okay, we have the threesome. Her jealousy makes it so... 674 00:44:54,778 --> 00:44:57,072 There we have the threesome in the "Maybe". 675 00:45:04,704 --> 00:45:07,582 Brandon, how do you feel about Julia being under the "Maybe" sign? 676 00:45:07,582 --> 00:45:08,833 She doesn't even want to have sex with me. 677 00:45:08,833 --> 00:45:10,210 She wants to have sex with someone else? 678 00:45:10,210 --> 00:45:11,670 All right. With a third person. 679 00:45:11,670 --> 00:45:14,047 - I don't understand that. Got it. 680 00:45:14,881 --> 00:45:15,965 Seriously? 681 00:45:15,965 --> 00:45:18,009 I was like, don't you dare walk over to "Maybe". 682 00:45:18,009 --> 00:45:19,386 Are you kidding me? 683 00:45:21,721 --> 00:45:23,098 So I trying to be honest, so... 684 00:45:23,098 --> 00:45:24,933 I mean... And I'm here. 685 00:45:24,933 --> 00:45:26,309 Maybe I should go over to "Yes" 686 00:45:26,309 --> 00:45:29,688 because I mean, I feel like what more guys want to have, 687 00:45:29,688 --> 00:45:32,315 you know, a threesome with with multiple girls, whatever, 688 00:45:32,315 --> 00:45:35,694 but I wouldn't say that because I don't want to hurt my partner. 689 00:45:35,694 --> 00:45:37,153 Okay, Brandon, come to the "Yes". 690 00:45:37,153 --> 00:45:38,238 Maybe I should. 691 00:45:38,238 --> 00:45:41,241 - We got another one. 692 00:45:41,241 --> 00:45:42,283 Whoo! 693 00:45:42,283 --> 00:45:43,660 It's a male fantasy, 694 00:45:43,660 --> 00:45:45,954 and I don't wanna admit it because I don't wanna hurt my partner, 695 00:45:45,954 --> 00:45:49,040 because if it was reversed, it would hurt me. 696 00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:52,168 So it hurts me for her to go over there, and that's not fair. 697 00:45:54,754 --> 00:45:58,049 Well, I can't believe Julia accepted a threesome card. 698 00:45:58,049 --> 00:45:59,259 I'm like, "If you and I can't even have sex, 699 00:45:59,259 --> 00:46:02,554 why would another person ever be involved? That is insane." 700 00:46:02,554 --> 00:46:03,930 You moved to "Yes". 701 00:46:04,597 --> 00:46:06,808 Oh, yeah, to spite you. 702 00:46:06,808 --> 00:46:10,228 I would like to start being intimate, you and I, you know? 703 00:46:10,228 --> 00:46:11,938 That's all I really want. 704 00:46:19,946 --> 00:46:24,701 Okay, so we have a couple under the "Yes" section. 705 00:46:25,452 --> 00:46:26,786 This is a big deal. 706 00:46:27,704 --> 00:46:29,080 Either one of you, have you ever tried, 707 00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:30,957 in this relationship or any other relationship, 708 00:46:30,957 --> 00:46:33,084 bringing a third person into your relationship? 709 00:46:34,294 --> 00:46:35,462 - No No. 710 00:46:36,296 --> 00:46:37,505 - Have you ever tried it? - No. 711 00:46:37,505 --> 00:46:39,132 No. What makes you interested? 712 00:46:40,467 --> 00:46:42,177 It's kind of like one of my fantasies. 713 00:46:42,177 --> 00:46:43,636 Oh, really? - Yeah. 714 00:46:47,474 --> 00:46:48,600 Let him speak. 715 00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,102 That is a good question, that's a huge question. 716 00:46:51,102 --> 00:46:54,981 Girl all the way, 'cause for me, I'm thinking "girl," so... 717 00:46:54,981 --> 00:46:56,358 Okay. - Yeah... You know. 718 00:46:56,358 --> 00:46:59,527 Okay. All right, what about you, Jasmine? 719 00:46:59,527 --> 00:47:02,864 Now, I realize that even though we are both a yes, 720 00:47:02,864 --> 00:47:04,824 our perspective or understanding 721 00:47:04,824 --> 00:47:06,618 of a third person is different. 722 00:47:06,618 --> 00:47:08,411 Tell me more. 723 00:47:08,411 --> 00:47:10,413 When you said yes to a third person, what were you thinking? 724 00:47:12,248 --> 00:47:16,961 I was thinking, since our main issue is sex 725 00:47:16,961 --> 00:47:21,007 and we've been going around for nine months, 726 00:47:21,007 --> 00:47:26,346 I have start thinking about having a person 727 00:47:26,346 --> 00:47:28,807 that will satisfy that need for me, 728 00:47:28,807 --> 00:47:33,311 but it's not like a threesome, it's... 729 00:47:34,813 --> 00:47:37,816 Sounds like what you're describing is like an open relationship. 730 00:47:41,611 --> 00:47:45,782 Where you guys kind of make an agreement and have an understanding 731 00:47:45,782 --> 00:47:48,451 that you see other people for certain needs. 732 00:47:51,705 --> 00:47:53,039 - Yes. - Yes? 733 00:48:14,686 --> 00:48:17,689 When I think about third person, that's the way I look at it. 734 00:48:17,689 --> 00:48:18,857 Got it. 735 00:48:21,735 --> 00:48:25,488 We were having so much fun here in the sex therapy today. 736 00:48:25,488 --> 00:48:28,116 You know, feeling some intimacy, feeling good. 737 00:48:28,116 --> 00:48:30,326 We haven't done this in so long. 738 00:48:31,244 --> 00:48:32,871 And you know... 739 00:48:32,871 --> 00:48:35,999 You're talking about an open marriage with somebody else. 740 00:48:35,999 --> 00:48:37,917 What the is up with that? 741 00:48:37,917 --> 00:48:41,254 Maybe we're in a lot more trouble than I thought we were. 742 00:48:50,430 --> 00:48:51,806 Let's go! 743 00:48:51,806 --> 00:48:54,434 Next time on 90 Day: The Last Resort... 744 00:48:54,434 --> 00:48:57,395 Go jump! Yay! 745 00:48:57,395 --> 00:48:59,856 It's fun being out in the desert. 746 00:48:59,856 --> 00:49:03,693 If our relationship could be like this all the time, we'd be golden. 747 00:49:03,693 --> 00:49:05,695 Yeah! Whoo! 748 00:49:08,531 --> 00:49:10,825 So I guess at this point, it's like, what do you guys think? 749 00:49:10,825 --> 00:49:13,203 You even gonna get to the recommitment ceremony? 750 00:49:13,203 --> 00:49:15,080 At this point, I don't know. 751 00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:16,373 There's no way I can predict that. 752 00:49:21,461 --> 00:49:24,798 I don't know how much a husband is supposed to give 753 00:49:24,798 --> 00:49:27,300 before it's justified to walk away. 754 00:49:33,264 --> 00:49:34,641 I'm done with her. 755 00:49:44,484 --> 00:49:45,485 Let's go. 756 00:49:48,321 --> 00:49:49,322 Here goes nothing. 757 00:49:54,911 --> 00:49:58,415 Let's go! - Whoo! 758 00:49:58,415 --> 00:50:00,041 Never seen Gino like this. 759 00:50:00,041 --> 00:50:02,919 Florian, stop being a bad influence 760 00:50:02,919 --> 00:50:03,837 for my husband. 761 00:50:07,132 --> 00:50:08,091 Whoo! 762 00:50:08,091 --> 00:50:09,134 Y'all were having-- 763 00:50:09,134 --> 00:50:11,136 - No, no, no. No. - No, no, no. 764 00:50:15,473 --> 00:50:16,474 Jasmine, what the [bleep] is this? 765 00:50:16,474 --> 00:50:18,018 Let have [bleep] fun, okay? 766 00:50:18,018 --> 00:50:19,686 That's not normal - No, no, no. 767 00:50:19,686 --> 00:50:21,187 - Whoa, whoa. No! No, no more drinks.