1 00:00:01,334 --> 00:00:02,210 - [whooping] - [Natalie in English] 2 00:00:02,210 --> 00:00:04,796 [narrator] 90-day The Last Resort. 3 00:00:05,296 --> 00:00:06,131 [in English] 4 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:08,425 Time to get the party started. 5 00:00:08,425 --> 00:00:09,801 Hell, yeah. 6 00:00:09,801 --> 00:00:11,177 [crowd cheering] 7 00:00:12,178 --> 00:00:13,430 [woman in English] 8 00:00:15,682 --> 00:00:16,516 [Brandon] Julia. 9 00:00:18,101 --> 00:00:18,935 Too much. 10 00:00:20,770 --> 00:00:23,023 I just worry that Julia is more focused on 11 00:00:23,023 --> 00:00:26,526 having fun than what we actually came here for. 12 00:00:26,526 --> 00:00:27,569 Which is to work on our issues. 13 00:00:27,569 --> 00:00:29,904 I want to be married to somebody 14 00:00:29,904 --> 00:00:32,490 who's trying to be a mom. Not a [bleep] stripper. 15 00:00:32,490 --> 00:00:33,491 Bye. 16 00:00:34,701 --> 00:00:35,785 [whooping] 17 00:00:38,204 --> 00:00:39,039 [Natalie speaking] 18 00:00:42,042 --> 00:00:43,877 [Natalie] Oh, wow! 19 00:00:43,877 --> 00:00:45,545 It looks like Biniyam's here to dance and party, 20 00:00:45,545 --> 00:00:47,088 but I'm not here to dance the party. 21 00:00:47,088 --> 00:00:48,131 I'm here to work on the marriage. 22 00:00:48,131 --> 00:00:49,174 [in English] 23 00:00:50,550 --> 00:00:52,635 I really want to make this therapy work 24 00:00:52,635 --> 00:00:54,471 and I really want to make things work between us. 25 00:00:54,471 --> 00:00:56,556 So I'm gonna give you your password 26 00:00:56,556 --> 00:00:57,807 and you'll be happy. 27 00:00:57,807 --> 00:00:58,850 [Biniyam speaking] 28 00:01:00,352 --> 00:01:01,353 How's your night going? 29 00:01:02,354 --> 00:01:03,480 [Josh] Good. How's yours? 30 00:01:04,564 --> 00:01:06,066 [in English] 31 00:01:07,567 --> 00:01:08,651 [in English] 32 00:01:10,528 --> 00:01:11,571 [Jasmine speaking] 33 00:01:13,698 --> 00:01:14,532 [in English] 34 00:01:19,412 --> 00:01:21,122 [indistinct chatter] 35 00:01:21,122 --> 00:01:22,999 - Oh - [woman] Oh, my God. 36 00:01:26,670 --> 00:01:29,130 You are not gonna play these games with me. 37 00:01:29,130 --> 00:01:33,510 I didn't start [bleep] and it's not my [bleep] fault 38 00:01:33,510 --> 00:01:35,095 that you're with that dude 39 00:01:35,095 --> 00:01:37,055 that doesn't give a [bleep] about you. 40 00:01:37,055 --> 00:01:38,598 You are gonna apologize. 41 00:01:38,598 --> 00:01:41,226 You are going to apologize right now, Natalie 42 00:01:41,226 --> 00:01:42,644 [Biniyam speaking indistinctly] 43 00:01:42,644 --> 00:01:44,270 [in English] 44 00:01:44,896 --> 00:01:46,398 I'm crazier. 45 00:02:27,147 --> 00:02:28,565 [engine sputtering] 46 00:02:35,405 --> 00:02:37,032 [bleep] bitch! 47 00:02:37,032 --> 00:02:38,116 [in English] 48 00:02:38,783 --> 00:02:39,701 [bleep] 49 00:02:39,701 --> 00:02:41,077 [Jasmine in English] 50 00:02:44,914 --> 00:02:46,332 [bleep] 51 00:02:46,332 --> 00:02:47,459 - What happened? - [Jasmine] I-- 52 00:02:47,959 --> 00:02:49,294 [in English] 53 00:02:49,294 --> 00:02:50,337 [Sophie] What did she [bleep] want? 54 00:02:50,837 --> 00:02:51,796 [in English] 55 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:55,967 - How did you start it? - [Jasmine speaking] 56 00:02:55,967 --> 00:02:57,510 - You started. - I started? 57 00:02:57,510 --> 00:02:58,845 [Stacey] You had girl code. 58 00:02:58,845 --> 00:03:02,015 You were like, "Girl, let me tell you, this is what I heard." 59 00:03:02,640 --> 00:03:03,516 That's girl code. 60 00:03:04,142 --> 00:03:05,435 She's too much. 61 00:03:06,353 --> 00:03:07,520 That was too much. 62 00:03:08,855 --> 00:03:10,815 And I'm very sorry she called you trash. 63 00:03:10,815 --> 00:03:13,151 I really appreciate you sticking up for me, 64 00:03:13,151 --> 00:03:15,403 - for-- like for real, like I really appreciate-- - I-- I-- I'm 65 00:03:15,403 --> 00:03:17,280 I'm always gonna be on the girl's side. 66 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:18,198 [Stacey] Yeah, me too. 67 00:03:18,198 --> 00:03:19,991 But this is unacceptable. 68 00:03:29,209 --> 00:03:33,213 [Josh] With the invitation to Vegas with Sophie 69 00:03:33,213 --> 00:03:36,216 the story got blown way out of proportion. 70 00:03:36,216 --> 00:03:38,093 Sophie and I are just friends. 71 00:03:38,093 --> 00:03:39,552 And this is what happens. 72 00:03:39,552 --> 00:03:41,137 Natalie gets like this 73 00:03:41,137 --> 00:03:43,932 and that was the whole point of coming here 74 00:03:43,932 --> 00:03:46,893 was to see if this is the part that we could break. 75 00:03:46,893 --> 00:03:50,146 this habit, this cycle of this explosion, 76 00:03:50,146 --> 00:03:52,565 that is what needs to change. 77 00:03:52,565 --> 00:03:55,402 But I'm losing hope at this point. 78 00:04:00,573 --> 00:04:01,408 [in English] 79 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:15,171 [in English] 80 00:04:15,171 --> 00:04:16,172 [Julia speaking] 81 00:04:16,172 --> 00:04:17,424 [in other language] 82 00:04:18,758 --> 00:04:19,592 [bleep] 83 00:04:20,719 --> 00:04:21,553 [bleep] 84 00:04:22,929 --> 00:04:23,763 [bleep] 85 00:04:25,265 --> 00:04:26,891 [bleep] 86 00:04:26,891 --> 00:04:28,018 [Julia speaking in other language] 87 00:04:36,109 --> 00:04:37,027 [bleep] 88 00:04:43,116 --> 00:04:44,409 [Julia in English] 89 00:04:49,581 --> 00:04:50,749 [Natalie] No. 90 00:04:56,629 --> 00:04:57,922 [Julia in Ukrainian] 91 00:05:00,091 --> 00:05:00,925 [Natalie in Ukrainian] 92 00:05:00,925 --> 00:05:01,968 - [Julia in Ukrainian] - [sniffing] 93 00:05:03,053 --> 00:05:03,887 [Natalie in Ukrainian] 94 00:05:05,472 --> 00:05:06,598 [bleep] 95 00:05:06,598 --> 00:05:07,640 [Julia speaking] 96 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:08,767 [Natalie speaking] 97 00:05:08,767 --> 00:05:09,976 [bleep] 98 00:05:09,976 --> 00:05:11,770 [sobbing] 99 00:05:28,661 --> 00:05:29,954 - [in Spanish] - [Julia in English] 100 00:05:30,830 --> 00:05:31,790 [in English] 101 00:05:53,353 --> 00:05:54,270 [Josh] All right. 102 00:06:07,867 --> 00:06:09,536 [Julia whooping] 103 00:06:10,286 --> 00:06:12,122 Back to party. 104 00:06:12,122 --> 00:06:13,123 [chuckles] 105 00:06:16,042 --> 00:06:18,378 - [Sophie in English] - [Rob] There wasn't a whole [bleep] that I could co. 106 00:06:26,177 --> 00:06:29,931 Why am I gonna sacrifice who I am as a person 107 00:06:29,931 --> 00:06:31,433 to go down to some bitch's level 108 00:06:31,433 --> 00:06:35,645 that's 20 [bleep] 30 years older than me. 109 00:06:35,645 --> 00:06:37,605 - Fifty years older than me. - [laughing] 110 00:06:37,605 --> 00:06:40,108 Sixty like-- The bitch is 78 years old. 111 00:06:40,108 --> 00:06:41,109 I don't need to do that. 112 00:06:41,109 --> 00:06:42,694 That bitch is 80 years older than you. 113 00:06:42,694 --> 00:06:46,614 That bitch is 93 years old. I don't care. 114 00:06:46,614 --> 00:06:48,700 I think Natalie lashing out at me 115 00:06:48,700 --> 00:06:50,410 has brought us closer. 116 00:06:50,410 --> 00:06:52,620 Because even though Rob doesn't like to admit it, 117 00:06:52,620 --> 00:06:55,206 he loves the tea, he loves-- [chuckles] 118 00:06:55,206 --> 00:06:57,167 He loves drama when it's not with us. 119 00:06:57,167 --> 00:06:58,209 I guess I would agree. 120 00:06:58,209 --> 00:06:59,377 He loves the tea. 121 00:06:59,377 --> 00:07:00,253 - Ah! - [chuckles] 122 00:07:01,421 --> 00:07:02,422 [Jasmine in English] 123 00:07:03,506 --> 00:07:04,341 [Gino] Yeah. 124 00:07:05,050 --> 00:07:06,593 Oh, my gosh. I left there. 125 00:07:07,385 --> 00:07:08,970 [Gino] That kind of uh... 126 00:07:08,970 --> 00:07:10,430 - you know, stuff... - Incident? 127 00:07:10,430 --> 00:07:12,015 - ...that's not even acceptable. - Yeah. 128 00:07:12,015 --> 00:07:12,932 That is bad. That is bad. 129 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:15,518 [in English] 130 00:07:15,518 --> 00:07:17,645 I really appreciate you having my back 131 00:07:17,645 --> 00:07:19,439 and going outside. 132 00:07:19,439 --> 00:07:21,733 When I felt-- She was out of control, 133 00:07:21,733 --> 00:07:23,443 and then I felt someone 134 00:07:24,569 --> 00:07:26,446 like touching my-- my shoulder, 135 00:07:26,446 --> 00:07:27,489 and it was you. 136 00:07:27,489 --> 00:07:29,115 - Yeah, I was trying to pull you away. - Yeah. 137 00:07:29,783 --> 00:07:31,076 Thank you, baby. 138 00:07:31,076 --> 00:07:32,118 I pulled you away. 139 00:07:32,786 --> 00:07:33,620 Thank you. 140 00:07:35,747 --> 00:07:38,750 - Cheers to Jasmine... - Cheers. 141 00:07:39,751 --> 00:07:40,752 ...the ferocious. 142 00:07:40,752 --> 00:07:43,129 [laughing] The ferocious. 143 00:08:04,317 --> 00:08:06,611 [Gino] I was so excited to see Jasmine. 144 00:08:06,611 --> 00:08:10,615 So, you know, excited and the protector 145 00:08:10,615 --> 00:08:13,076 and that, like, totally turned me on, 146 00:08:13,076 --> 00:08:15,328 and especially since... 147 00:08:15,328 --> 00:08:18,206 It wasn't me who she-- whose ass she was kicking. 148 00:08:18,206 --> 00:08:19,416 I'm okay with that. 149 00:08:20,083 --> 00:08:21,543 So behave and be careful 150 00:08:21,543 --> 00:08:23,336 with what you say or you're next. 151 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:25,130 I'm just saying. 152 00:08:25,130 --> 00:08:27,799 [Gino] The day didn't start out that great, 153 00:08:27,799 --> 00:08:30,510 but we're making a comeback at the end tonight, 154 00:08:30,510 --> 00:08:32,137 and kissing her. 155 00:08:32,137 --> 00:08:33,847 And it makes me feel positive, 156 00:08:33,847 --> 00:08:36,182 you know, going into the rest of the therapy. 157 00:08:36,182 --> 00:08:39,144 I don't know, maybe next time, 158 00:08:39,144 --> 00:08:41,646 It's more than a good night kiss. 159 00:08:41,646 --> 00:08:42,772 Who knows? 160 00:08:46,651 --> 00:08:47,944 [Gino speaking] 161 00:08:47,944 --> 00:08:49,696 - [Florian] Yeah. Don't worry. Everybody is good. - [in English] 162 00:09:14,888 --> 00:09:16,306 [Stacey] Mmm... 163 00:09:17,057 --> 00:09:18,058 Ooh! 164 00:09:19,225 --> 00:09:20,226 I love when you rub it in. 165 00:09:22,020 --> 00:09:22,854 Oh, yeah. 166 00:09:24,731 --> 00:09:27,400 Get that lymphatic drainage out. [sighs] 167 00:09:28,651 --> 00:09:31,613 Yeah, I get that cellulite, baby 168 00:09:31,613 --> 00:09:33,198 - Ooh. - [Florian in English] 169 00:09:33,740 --> 00:09:34,908 It's good for everything. 170 00:09:34,908 --> 00:09:37,577 Cellulite, lymphatic drainage... 171 00:09:38,411 --> 00:09:39,496 Toning. 172 00:09:39,496 --> 00:09:40,747 [chuckles] 173 00:09:49,589 --> 00:09:51,049 [Gino] It's like such a beautiful day out. 174 00:09:51,049 --> 00:09:52,384 Look at that blue sky. 175 00:09:52,384 --> 00:09:54,344 Trying to remember 176 00:09:54,344 --> 00:09:56,096 what happened last night. 177 00:09:56,096 --> 00:09:57,347 [in English] 178 00:10:06,106 --> 00:10:07,107 So we slept together. 179 00:10:08,608 --> 00:10:09,901 Even though it was accidental. 180 00:10:10,777 --> 00:10:12,612 - Technically. - [Jasmine] "Technically." 181 00:10:14,114 --> 00:10:16,449 [Gino] It was great waking up in the same bed 182 00:10:16,449 --> 00:10:18,493 as Jasmine for once. 183 00:10:18,493 --> 00:10:22,539 I was so tired and drained by Natalie's drama 184 00:10:23,123 --> 00:10:25,250 that we just fell asleep. 185 00:10:25,250 --> 00:10:29,796 Nothing naughty happened I wish. 186 00:10:29,796 --> 00:10:32,716 But you know, it's progress. 187 00:10:35,927 --> 00:10:40,390 You see, Baby, is it really that bad to wake up to me 188 00:10:40,390 --> 00:10:41,975 in the morning in the same bed? 189 00:10:43,727 --> 00:10:44,811 [sighs] 190 00:10:46,813 --> 00:10:48,440 [in English] 191 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:49,733 Last night there was no fighting. 192 00:10:49,733 --> 00:10:50,734 Can you believe it? 193 00:10:50,734 --> 00:10:52,610 For the very first time in so long, 194 00:10:52,610 --> 00:10:55,405 I felt like I do have a husband 195 00:10:55,405 --> 00:10:57,198 that you were my husband. 196 00:10:57,198 --> 00:10:58,908 You kissing me? 197 00:10:58,908 --> 00:11:00,410 You defending me? 198 00:11:00,410 --> 00:11:02,787 That's exactly what I meant from you. 199 00:11:02,787 --> 00:11:05,582 I could feel like you loved me last night. 200 00:11:06,291 --> 00:11:07,917 And I missed that. 201 00:11:09,002 --> 00:11:10,754 [tearfully] And I don't wanna-- 202 00:11:10,754 --> 00:11:13,214 - make you feel bad right now. - [Gino] I understand that and I appreciate that. 203 00:11:13,214 --> 00:11:15,425 I just-- I just wish we would be able 204 00:11:15,425 --> 00:11:17,427 to get along better every day. 205 00:11:18,094 --> 00:11:19,804 I do love you like-- 206 00:11:19,804 --> 00:11:22,557 I know that sometimes you feel like I don't love you, 207 00:11:22,557 --> 00:11:25,101 [sniffles] but I know in my heart 208 00:11:25,101 --> 00:11:28,021 that I have never loved anyone the way I love you. 209 00:11:28,855 --> 00:11:29,981 Anyone, Gino. 210 00:11:32,525 --> 00:11:33,360 Aw. 211 00:11:34,194 --> 00:11:36,821 That's so beautiful. Aw, one kiss. 212 00:11:38,698 --> 00:11:39,783 [kissing] 213 00:11:40,367 --> 00:11:41,284 That's nice. 214 00:11:59,010 --> 00:12:00,387 Brandon, good morning. 215 00:12:02,347 --> 00:12:03,682 Good morning. 216 00:12:09,646 --> 00:12:13,233 How do you feel? Why did you sleep on that couch? 217 00:12:13,233 --> 00:12:15,568 [grunts softly] Because I didn't want to sleep next to you. 218 00:12:19,572 --> 00:12:23,827 Last night, Julia let loose a little too much 219 00:12:23,827 --> 00:12:25,745 and she embarrassed me. 220 00:12:25,745 --> 00:12:28,873 She needs to understand that I have my limits 221 00:12:28,873 --> 00:12:30,542 of how much 'm gonna take. 222 00:12:30,542 --> 00:12:32,502 And if she's gonna keep acting this way, 223 00:12:32,502 --> 00:12:33,753 I'm just not gonna take it anymore. 224 00:12:37,257 --> 00:12:38,842 I have a question for you. 225 00:12:38,842 --> 00:12:41,720 What was with the way you're dressed yesterday? 226 00:12:41,720 --> 00:12:44,597 I want to have intimate time with you. 227 00:12:44,597 --> 00:12:46,391 And maybe you could wear lingerie, 228 00:12:46,391 --> 00:12:47,559 but you won't even do that. 229 00:12:47,559 --> 00:12:50,770 But you're gonna go out dressed like that for everyone? 230 00:12:52,689 --> 00:12:53,773 [Julia in English] 231 00:12:57,777 --> 00:12:59,612 [Brandon] You don't want to even be sexy for me. 232 00:12:59,612 --> 00:13:01,865 I'm the one you're supposed to be sexy for. 233 00:13:04,284 --> 00:13:07,620 At the end of the day, we're here to work on us as a couple. 234 00:13:09,039 --> 00:13:12,125 And you look like you're here to have single fun. 235 00:13:15,128 --> 00:13:18,757 No. We come to bar to have fun in a group. 236 00:13:20,300 --> 00:13:23,094 [in English] 237 00:13:26,556 --> 00:13:28,641 You were practically exposed out there. 238 00:13:28,641 --> 00:13:30,435 You should support me. 239 00:13:30,435 --> 00:13:32,145 - You should support-- - You were dressed like a whore. 240 00:13:35,899 --> 00:13:38,026 You are my husband. You should be my side. 241 00:13:38,026 --> 00:13:39,778 And you call me a whore. 242 00:13:40,779 --> 00:13:41,821 [in English] 243 00:13:43,823 --> 00:13:45,742 You were dancing on the bar. 244 00:13:45,742 --> 00:13:46,826 [Julia speaking] 245 00:14:05,428 --> 00:14:06,346 Okay. 246 00:14:17,315 --> 00:14:18,483 [Natalie in English] 247 00:14:22,529 --> 00:14:24,698 Well, I have never hit on her, 248 00:14:24,698 --> 00:14:26,324 and I approached her as a friend. 249 00:14:26,324 --> 00:14:28,326 - And it was incredibly-- - [in English] 250 00:14:31,371 --> 00:14:32,872 Listen, I gotta go. 251 00:14:32,872 --> 00:14:34,374 I hope that you apologize to everybody. 252 00:14:56,896 --> 00:14:58,898 [in English] 253 00:14:58,898 --> 00:15:01,901 I have not heard from Natalie today. 254 00:15:01,901 --> 00:15:04,654 Um, kind of giving her some space. 255 00:15:05,447 --> 00:15:06,990 Last night was a little... 256 00:15:08,491 --> 00:15:10,618 [smacks lips] over the top. I would say. 257 00:15:11,828 --> 00:15:14,831 Last night I went back to the hotel. 258 00:15:14,831 --> 00:15:16,458 I definitely had to have my own room 259 00:15:16,458 --> 00:15:18,877 because right now there's no way 260 00:15:18,877 --> 00:15:20,462 I'm staying in the room with Natalie. 261 00:15:21,171 --> 00:15:22,922 I have to leave for a few days 262 00:15:22,922 --> 00:15:25,133 and you know, I need to reset. 263 00:15:25,133 --> 00:15:27,177 I need to think about 264 00:15:27,177 --> 00:15:29,888 if this is-- If this is right for me. 265 00:15:29,888 --> 00:15:33,725 I've never crossed any lines with Sophie whatsoever. 266 00:15:33,725 --> 00:15:35,894 Um, I've not, like, hit on her. 267 00:15:35,894 --> 00:15:37,103 I've not done anything. 268 00:15:37,103 --> 00:15:38,229 You know, I want-- 269 00:15:38,229 --> 00:15:40,398 I want things to get better for Natalie, like I do. 270 00:15:40,398 --> 00:15:41,483 I want her to be happy. 271 00:15:41,483 --> 00:15:42,692 And I care for her. 272 00:15:43,777 --> 00:15:45,695 But she needs to learn how to be normal. 273 00:15:46,279 --> 00:15:48,907 Like... serious. 274 00:15:48,907 --> 00:15:50,784 She needs to learn how to be normal 275 00:15:50,784 --> 00:15:53,536 and how to interact with normal people. 276 00:15:54,162 --> 00:15:55,955 [exhales] I mean... 277 00:16:01,670 --> 00:16:02,879 I'm here to ultimately 278 00:16:02,879 --> 00:16:04,589 figure things out with Natalie, 279 00:16:04,589 --> 00:16:09,886 but that blow up was probably in the top 10, for sure. 280 00:16:09,886 --> 00:16:11,554 Maybe even top three. 281 00:16:11,554 --> 00:16:12,847 Like it was up there. 282 00:16:14,057 --> 00:16:17,394 And I'd like to, like, squash this and just like, 283 00:16:17,394 --> 00:16:18,853 leave her be okay. 284 00:16:19,729 --> 00:16:21,064 I mean, that's my hope. 285 00:16:21,064 --> 00:16:23,066 Um, we'll see what I get. 286 00:16:27,987 --> 00:16:28,905 Who is it? 287 00:16:29,906 --> 00:16:30,865 [Josh] It's me. 288 00:16:37,247 --> 00:16:38,331 Oh, hi. 289 00:16:38,331 --> 00:16:39,249 Hello 290 00:16:39,749 --> 00:16:40,667 How are you? 291 00:16:41,251 --> 00:16:43,003 - Good. - Good. 292 00:16:45,338 --> 00:16:47,340 - That's good. - You want to go outside? 293 00:16:47,340 --> 00:16:48,258 Sure. 294 00:16:53,388 --> 00:16:54,264 [sighs] 295 00:16:58,685 --> 00:16:59,769 Pretty wild night. 296 00:17:00,270 --> 00:17:01,229 Don't you think? 297 00:17:06,276 --> 00:17:07,360 [in English] 298 00:17:08,778 --> 00:17:09,904 [sighs in exasperation] 299 00:17:12,073 --> 00:17:13,199 [Josh] Did you forget? 300 00:17:13,199 --> 00:17:14,701 [in English] 301 00:17:14,701 --> 00:17:16,828 Then what do you need-- Then why are you asking me the question for? 302 00:17:16,828 --> 00:17:18,371 [in English] 303 00:17:22,459 --> 00:17:23,877 [Josh] Mmm-hmm. 304 00:17:23,877 --> 00:17:29,215 I see a situation that was blown out of proportion. 305 00:17:29,215 --> 00:17:31,217 I think it could have been handled much differently. 306 00:17:31,217 --> 00:17:32,135 [in English] 307 00:17:40,310 --> 00:17:44,189 Okay, well, I can tell you that I've never hit on her. 308 00:17:44,189 --> 00:17:46,483 And I approached her as a friend. 309 00:17:46,483 --> 00:17:48,318 - You don't any-- any-- - [in English] 310 00:17:48,318 --> 00:17:50,737 And you don't even know what happened. 311 00:17:50,737 --> 00:17:52,989 - And it was incredibly-- - [in English] 312 00:17:56,743 --> 00:17:57,577 Okay? 313 00:17:57,577 --> 00:17:58,620 [in English] 314 00:18:03,416 --> 00:18:04,584 [chuckles] 315 00:18:04,584 --> 00:18:07,379 I'm a little afraid that I might catch crazy 316 00:18:07,379 --> 00:18:08,755 - if we keep go on this. - [Natalie] Mmm-hmm. 317 00:18:10,465 --> 00:18:11,925 So listen, I gotta go. 318 00:18:13,468 --> 00:18:14,302 Good luck with everybody. 319 00:18:14,302 --> 00:18:16,346 I hope that you apologize to everybody 320 00:18:16,346 --> 00:18:17,847 because they deserve it. 321 00:18:46,876 --> 00:18:48,128 [Stacey] What is this? 322 00:18:48,128 --> 00:18:50,338 Uh-oh. 323 00:18:50,338 --> 00:18:52,799 Fruit tray over here. 324 00:18:53,717 --> 00:18:55,218 I guess we pick a seat. 325 00:18:55,969 --> 00:18:57,846 - Oh, look at you guys - Hey. 326 00:18:57,846 --> 00:18:59,222 [Stacey] Hello. 327 00:19:00,724 --> 00:19:02,851 [Gino] Stacey, I love your cowgirl outfit. 328 00:19:02,851 --> 00:19:04,978 - Yes. Yes. - [Gino] I need a cowboy hat. 329 00:19:12,068 --> 00:19:13,194 [Biniyam in English] 330 00:19:35,383 --> 00:19:36,885 Did you see the-- the signs? 331 00:19:36,885 --> 00:19:38,094 No. Maybe. Yes. 332 00:19:39,179 --> 00:19:40,680 Well, hello, everyone. 333 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:41,848 - [women] Hi. - [man] Hello. 334 00:19:41,848 --> 00:19:43,683 How are you today? 335 00:19:43,683 --> 00:19:45,185 - Good. - All right. 336 00:19:45,185 --> 00:19:47,771 Ooh, sex therapy. [laughing] 337 00:19:47,771 --> 00:19:49,939 [Jasmine] I know. 338 00:19:49,939 --> 00:19:51,566 [Reba] We're gonna have some fun today. 339 00:19:51,566 --> 00:19:52,817 [Rob] Sexy time. 340 00:19:52,817 --> 00:19:53,943 - [Jasmine chuckles] Sexy time. - Um... 341 00:19:54,569 --> 00:19:55,570 So welcome. 342 00:19:55,570 --> 00:19:56,988 I'm super excited to be here with you 343 00:19:56,988 --> 00:19:59,741 for your first sex therapy session. 344 00:19:59,741 --> 00:20:02,494 Unfortunately, Natalie and Josh couldn't be here today. 345 00:20:02,494 --> 00:20:05,330 Um, but we are going to have a really good time. 346 00:20:05,330 --> 00:20:08,375 Creating conversation and exploring pleasure with each other. 347 00:20:08,875 --> 00:20:10,877 - Oh. - [Reba] Yes. 348 00:20:10,877 --> 00:20:12,837 When I hear that it's sex therapy, 349 00:20:12,837 --> 00:20:14,589 I'll get a little excited. 350 00:20:14,589 --> 00:20:16,299 I mean, how could I not? 351 00:20:16,299 --> 00:20:19,427 [chuckles] Hopefully we can fix our sex life. 352 00:20:19,427 --> 00:20:22,055 For me, my first thoughts honestly is like 353 00:20:22,055 --> 00:20:24,224 it's gonna be around the other couples. 354 00:20:24,224 --> 00:20:26,976 So it's like, I'm interested to see what it is. 355 00:20:26,976 --> 00:20:28,978 But I'm like, oh God, whatever we have to do, 356 00:20:28,978 --> 00:20:30,939 I have to do it around everyone else. 357 00:20:31,981 --> 00:20:34,025 [Reba] So first, before we even begin, 358 00:20:34,025 --> 00:20:35,777 I want to ask you guys a question. 359 00:20:35,777 --> 00:20:38,947 How comfortable do you feel talking about sex? 360 00:20:38,947 --> 00:20:40,073 A scale of 1 to 10. 361 00:20:40,073 --> 00:20:41,074 You can blurt it out. 362 00:20:41,074 --> 00:20:42,450 - Ten. - [Reba] Ten. 363 00:20:42,450 --> 00:20:43,660 Like with who? 364 00:20:43,660 --> 00:20:44,911 [Reba] With your partner. 365 00:20:44,911 --> 00:20:46,454 - Oh. - Oh, with the partner? 366 00:20:46,454 --> 00:20:47,789 - [Ariela] Zero. - Zero. 367 00:20:47,789 --> 00:20:49,624 - [chuckles] - [Reba] Zero? Interesting. 368 00:20:49,624 --> 00:20:51,710 So we don't feel comfortable talking about sex with our partners. 369 00:20:51,710 --> 00:20:52,752 Is that what I'm hearing? 370 00:20:52,752 --> 00:20:54,254 [in English] 371 00:20:54,254 --> 00:20:55,630 [Reba] You guys don't talk about sex? 372 00:20:55,630 --> 00:20:56,631 - [Biniyam] No. - [Reba] No? 373 00:20:57,173 --> 00:20:58,008 What about you guys? 374 00:20:58,008 --> 00:21:00,051 - [in English] - No. 375 00:21:00,051 --> 00:21:01,553 No, you're not-- You don't-- 376 00:21:01,553 --> 00:21:02,512 You don't talk about sex. 377 00:21:02,512 --> 00:21:04,139 You're not comfortable with it. 378 00:21:04,139 --> 00:21:07,475 I think it's more easy for me than-- than him, I would say. 379 00:21:07,475 --> 00:21:10,520 You're each married to someone from a different culture. Right? 380 00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:14,357 And culturally, those differences can sometimes cause 381 00:21:14,357 --> 00:21:17,736 us to not really be able to communicate with each other. 382 00:21:17,736 --> 00:21:19,404 I'm hoping that we can help everybody 383 00:21:19,404 --> 00:21:21,406 open the lines of communication. 384 00:21:21,406 --> 00:21:23,700 So what we're going to do is less talking 385 00:21:23,700 --> 00:21:25,744 and more exploring. Okay? 386 00:21:25,744 --> 00:21:27,495 - So-- [chuckles] - [squealing] 387 00:21:27,495 --> 00:21:31,291 [Reba] Yeah! It's 'caused we want to find that physical connection. 388 00:21:32,709 --> 00:21:33,877 [Julia in English] 389 00:21:39,883 --> 00:21:41,718 You seemed being very open 390 00:21:41,718 --> 00:21:42,927 to dancing on bars, 391 00:21:42,927 --> 00:21:46,056 but not being a part of this sex therapy. 392 00:21:46,681 --> 00:21:47,807 [in English] 393 00:21:50,852 --> 00:21:52,771 The way you dance it seems sexual. 394 00:21:52,771 --> 00:21:53,980 [in English] 395 00:21:58,735 --> 00:22:02,530 So in this exercise, you'll decide who's being the explorer, 396 00:22:02,530 --> 00:22:05,658 and then the other person is going to be the explored. 397 00:22:05,658 --> 00:22:09,371 The explorer is going to take the larger paintbrush 398 00:22:09,371 --> 00:22:13,041 and you're going to lightly 399 00:22:13,041 --> 00:22:15,960 search for places that feel good, right? 400 00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:18,296 It can be your neck, the small of your back. 401 00:22:18,296 --> 00:22:19,631 How about your feet? 402 00:22:19,631 --> 00:22:21,925 Your feet, the soles of your feet. 403 00:22:21,925 --> 00:22:24,260 - [chuckles softly] - [Reba] Especially right. 404 00:22:24,260 --> 00:22:26,388 When that partner gets to a point that feels good, 405 00:22:26,388 --> 00:22:27,722 you're going to say green light. 406 00:22:27,722 --> 00:22:30,266 And they're gonna mark that zone with an X 407 00:22:30,266 --> 00:22:31,601 and that's with the syrup. 408 00:22:32,394 --> 00:22:34,854 Almost all of the couples here 409 00:22:34,854 --> 00:22:38,191 have not had sex or been intimate in months. 410 00:22:38,191 --> 00:22:42,821 So the point of this exercise is to reignite the spark 411 00:22:42,821 --> 00:22:44,989 that that set them off in the first place. 412 00:22:44,989 --> 00:22:48,326 So I'm hoping that by encouraging them 413 00:22:48,326 --> 00:22:49,619 to be physically intimate. 414 00:22:49,619 --> 00:22:52,455 They'll start to kind of open those doors for themselves. 415 00:22:52,956 --> 00:22:54,040 [Gino in English] 416 00:22:55,041 --> 00:22:56,459 [Jasmine] No, I'm good. I'm good. 417 00:22:56,459 --> 00:22:59,087 - Leave the shoe. No. No - [Gino in English] 418 00:22:59,087 --> 00:23:00,130 [Stacey] Can you take my boots off? 419 00:23:03,049 --> 00:23:04,134 [woman laughs] 420 00:23:04,134 --> 00:23:05,301 You could stand up. 421 00:23:05,885 --> 00:23:07,220 [grunts] Oh, God. 422 00:23:07,220 --> 00:23:10,432 [Gino] Oh, my gosh, this is really it's gonna be messy. 423 00:23:14,060 --> 00:23:14,894 Watch your feet. 424 00:23:18,314 --> 00:23:19,149 [Jasmine chuckles] 425 00:23:22,819 --> 00:23:23,987 [in English] 426 00:23:25,155 --> 00:23:26,072 [Jasmine] I feel weird. 427 00:23:27,490 --> 00:23:29,409 Okay, from the back it's not working. 428 00:23:31,494 --> 00:23:32,829 - You're so [bleep] sweaty. - What's up? 429 00:23:32,829 --> 00:23:34,497 - What's wrong with you. - I got sweaty feet 430 00:23:34,497 --> 00:23:35,749 - Cowboy... - [bleep] 431 00:23:36,416 --> 00:23:37,250 - [both grunt] - Okay. 432 00:23:37,792 --> 00:23:39,419 Hmm, hmm. 433 00:23:39,419 --> 00:23:40,670 Hmm. 434 00:23:40,670 --> 00:23:43,048 Right there Is the green. Yeah, right there. 435 00:23:43,048 --> 00:23:44,132 [Sophie] You okay? 436 00:23:46,009 --> 00:23:48,345 - So, lift that up. - [Rob] Yeah. 437 00:23:48,345 --> 00:23:49,512 [Rob grunts] 438 00:23:50,597 --> 00:23:51,431 [Sophie] Nipple? 439 00:23:52,098 --> 00:23:53,308 No, not really. 440 00:23:53,308 --> 00:23:54,184 Yeah. 441 00:23:54,768 --> 00:23:55,602 Yeah. 442 00:23:55,602 --> 00:23:57,062 I don't feel anything. 443 00:23:57,062 --> 00:23:58,897 I know you're going to feel tickled right here. 444 00:23:58,897 --> 00:24:00,482 I know you. 445 00:24:00,482 --> 00:24:02,025 [Stacey] Probably all the liposuction. 446 00:24:04,652 --> 00:24:05,487 [Biniyam] No. 447 00:24:07,614 --> 00:24:08,490 [in English] 448 00:24:09,115 --> 00:24:09,949 [Ariela] Red light? Okay. 449 00:24:11,201 --> 00:24:12,410 [Biniyam in English] 450 00:24:12,410 --> 00:24:13,370 [Ariela] Okay. 451 00:24:14,662 --> 00:24:16,289 This is your green light. Right here. 452 00:24:16,289 --> 00:24:17,332 [Biniyam in English] 453 00:24:17,332 --> 00:24:18,583 This is green light. 454 00:24:18,583 --> 00:24:20,710 - No, red light. - [Ariela] This is-- I never forget. 455 00:24:20,710 --> 00:24:21,711 It's green light. You're-- your-- 456 00:24:23,797 --> 00:24:25,548 Why don't you be honest? 457 00:24:25,548 --> 00:24:27,175 You love the ears. I'll, I'll mark it. 458 00:24:27,175 --> 00:24:28,551 [Biniyam in English] 459 00:24:28,551 --> 00:24:30,178 - I'm not. I'm telling you-- - [Biniyam] Maybe I-- I don't like it 460 00:24:30,178 --> 00:24:32,472 - Oh, you've changed in the last four months. - [Biniyam] Yeah. 461 00:24:34,224 --> 00:24:35,225 [Biniyam in English] 462 00:24:47,237 --> 00:24:48,154 Red light. 463 00:24:48,154 --> 00:24:49,739 I've had sex with you so many times. 464 00:24:49,739 --> 00:24:52,075 This is not a red light. [chuckles] 465 00:24:52,075 --> 00:24:54,369 - [Stacey] Ooh, that's kind of nice. - [Florian] Uh, huh? 466 00:24:54,369 --> 00:24:56,913 I feel good, like, getting turned on. 467 00:24:57,497 --> 00:24:59,207 [both chuckle] 468 00:24:59,207 --> 00:25:01,084 This tickle session. 469 00:25:01,084 --> 00:25:02,460 I'm liking it. I'm loving it. 470 00:25:02,460 --> 00:25:05,422 I feel like it's, you know, it's sexual, 471 00:25:05,422 --> 00:25:07,090 and I feel like it's something 472 00:25:07,090 --> 00:25:08,591 you know, we should do more of. 473 00:25:09,217 --> 00:25:10,385 [in English] 474 00:25:11,678 --> 00:25:14,597 But to me, Stacy is happy. 475 00:25:14,597 --> 00:25:16,683 So everything is good, you know, 476 00:25:17,267 --> 00:25:18,393 [Julia in English] 477 00:25:20,770 --> 00:25:22,355 I mean, if you wanna put some sunscreen 478 00:25:22,355 --> 00:25:24,566 - while you're there, - [Julia] Shut up. 479 00:25:24,566 --> 00:25:25,775 [in English] 480 00:25:28,945 --> 00:25:29,779 [Gino] This ain't working. 481 00:25:30,947 --> 00:25:32,365 [Reba] Jasmine. How about this? 482 00:25:32,365 --> 00:25:34,242 I hear a lot of red lights over here, right. 483 00:25:34,242 --> 00:25:36,786 How about you give him a directive? 484 00:25:36,786 --> 00:25:38,705 Where do you think there might be a green light for you? 485 00:25:38,705 --> 00:25:40,915 - Oh, here. - [Gino] Oh. 486 00:25:40,915 --> 00:25:41,958 [whispers] All right. 487 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:44,878 Maybe my neck. 488 00:25:46,463 --> 00:25:47,964 [chuckles] 489 00:25:47,964 --> 00:25:50,008 Green light, green light. 490 00:25:50,008 --> 00:25:51,634 - [Gino] Green here? - Mmm-hmm. 491 00:25:51,634 --> 00:25:52,802 - [Gino] There? - Mmm-hmm. 492 00:25:59,809 --> 00:26:04,522 [Jasmine] Sex is the biggest obstacle in our marriage. 493 00:26:04,522 --> 00:26:07,525 I can't even remember when was the last time that I had sex. 494 00:26:07,525 --> 00:26:09,694 I think I'm virgin again. No joke. 495 00:26:09,694 --> 00:26:12,197 That thing is close. 496 00:26:12,197 --> 00:26:13,823 But we have a good night 497 00:26:13,823 --> 00:26:15,658 and we slept in the same bed. 498 00:26:15,658 --> 00:26:18,661 And during this exercise he's listening to me, 499 00:26:18,661 --> 00:26:20,747 and that is kind of turning me on. 500 00:26:20,747 --> 00:26:23,416 I'm starting to like this class. 501 00:26:23,416 --> 00:26:24,668 [screams, chuckles] 502 00:26:26,503 --> 00:26:28,713 - Toe? - There's a little bit of something happening 503 00:26:28,713 --> 00:26:29,798 - down there. - Big toe? 504 00:26:29,798 --> 00:26:31,299 There's a little something happening down there. 505 00:26:35,136 --> 00:26:36,179 [Sophie speaking] 506 00:26:38,139 --> 00:26:40,850 [Reba] All right. Now we have the explorers. 507 00:26:40,850 --> 00:26:41,768 They've marked their spot. 508 00:26:41,768 --> 00:26:44,187 Now it's time to remove the syrup. 509 00:26:45,021 --> 00:26:46,231 [Rob] With what? 510 00:26:46,231 --> 00:26:47,524 - With your mouth. - [Jasmine gasps] 511 00:26:47,524 --> 00:26:48,608 [chuckles nervously] 512 00:26:49,442 --> 00:26:50,694 I knew it. 513 00:26:52,529 --> 00:26:54,447 [laughing] 514 00:26:54,447 --> 00:26:55,657 - [Gino] Oh, my gosh. - Eat it! 515 00:26:56,199 --> 00:26:57,033 Eat it! 516 00:26:57,784 --> 00:26:58,660 Come. 517 00:26:59,369 --> 00:27:00,829 - Come. - [Gino] Oh, my... 518 00:27:00,829 --> 00:27:01,705 All right. 519 00:27:03,373 --> 00:27:04,874 [both laugh] 520 00:27:04,874 --> 00:27:06,543 There-- Look at this, man. 521 00:27:08,712 --> 00:27:10,213 Oh, my God, that's a lot of syrup. 522 00:27:14,384 --> 00:27:15,260 [screams] 523 00:27:15,260 --> 00:27:16,469 [all laughing] 524 00:27:16,469 --> 00:27:17,679 [Jasmine] Do it more, baby. 525 00:27:19,222 --> 00:27:20,724 - [laughing] - [Sophie] Oh, my God. 526 00:27:20,724 --> 00:27:22,142 Oh, my... [laughs] 527 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:29,315 Gino and Jasmine, they're having a blast. 528 00:27:29,315 --> 00:27:30,567 [Julia in English] 529 00:27:36,156 --> 00:27:38,283 Their relationship might be fine after this. 530 00:27:38,283 --> 00:27:39,325 [in English] 531 00:27:39,325 --> 00:27:40,410 Suck it like... [slurping] 532 00:27:41,578 --> 00:27:42,996 Yes, like that. 533 00:27:42,996 --> 00:27:44,831 [laughs] It's good. 534 00:27:45,707 --> 00:27:47,876 - I like this exercise. - [Gino laughs] 535 00:27:49,544 --> 00:27:50,378 [chuckles] 536 00:27:51,338 --> 00:27:53,882 You licked it, just like suck it off. 537 00:27:54,424 --> 00:27:56,051 [chuckles] 538 00:27:56,051 --> 00:27:58,219 Julia, these kiwis aren't gonna eat themselves. 539 00:27:59,179 --> 00:28:00,680 Where you-- Oh! 540 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,896 I got it. Don't worry. I got it. 541 00:28:08,605 --> 00:28:09,439 [Biniyam] That's it. 542 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:11,274 That's it. 543 00:28:11,274 --> 00:28:12,192 [in English] 544 00:28:14,110 --> 00:28:16,279 [Ariela] Biniyam doesn't want to, like, admit to like, 545 00:28:16,279 --> 00:28:18,239 enjoying the exercise like 546 00:28:18,239 --> 00:28:22,369 grow up like this is supposed to be a fun exercise. 547 00:28:22,369 --> 00:28:25,246 When things were good, like we could have sex and we could still laugh. 548 00:28:25,246 --> 00:28:27,749 He would do, like, naked dancing in the shower 549 00:28:27,749 --> 00:28:30,210 or, like, do a striptease with me and like... 550 00:28:30,210 --> 00:28:32,754 I mean, you know, we did have that closeness for a while. 551 00:28:32,754 --> 00:28:34,381 I do miss that. 552 00:28:34,381 --> 00:28:36,299 I'm not sucking that off. Delete that. 553 00:28:36,966 --> 00:28:38,468 Get that off. 554 00:28:38,468 --> 00:28:40,637 That's gone. I'm not sucking that. 555 00:28:42,389 --> 00:28:43,431 Just gonna erase it. 556 00:28:45,308 --> 00:28:47,018 I really don't wanna suck the nipple. 557 00:28:47,018 --> 00:28:48,144 Stop being so weird about it. 558 00:28:48,144 --> 00:28:49,771 [Sophie] And I put so much on there. 559 00:28:49,771 --> 00:28:51,147 [Rob] Stop being weird about it. 560 00:28:52,232 --> 00:28:53,441 I don't wanna do it. 561 00:28:53,441 --> 00:28:55,276 - Jesus Christ. - [Sophie] I will. Lift it up. 562 00:28:55,276 --> 00:28:57,445 No, it makes me feel very unwanted and very unsexy. 563 00:28:59,823 --> 00:29:01,074 [Sophie] It's not you. 564 00:29:01,074 --> 00:29:02,951 You're making it feel like it's me. 565 00:29:02,951 --> 00:29:05,537 It's that it can't be sexy if this is a nipple. 566 00:29:05,537 --> 00:29:07,330 Yeah, which is sexy. 567 00:29:07,330 --> 00:29:09,749 No, it's not. It's a man's nipple. 568 00:29:09,749 --> 00:29:10,959 It's my nipple. 569 00:29:12,752 --> 00:29:15,714 Sophie's acting like my body repulses her right now. 570 00:29:15,714 --> 00:29:17,590 And as her husband, that's pretty [bleep] up. 571 00:29:17,590 --> 00:29:19,843 Here I am, willing to try anything, 572 00:29:19,843 --> 00:29:23,513 and she just... She stops herself, so she stops us. 573 00:29:24,472 --> 00:29:26,141 I feel rejected, I feel not wanted, 574 00:29:26,141 --> 00:29:27,600 I feel... 575 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:31,354 I feel like, "Why am I here with somebody who doesn't want me?" 576 00:29:32,188 --> 00:29:33,982 It's not like I'm a disgusting person. 577 00:29:38,361 --> 00:29:40,864 [James] Something from your past is affecting you. 578 00:29:40,864 --> 00:29:42,198 What's the first thing that comes up 579 00:29:42,198 --> 00:29:44,534 when you think about trauma? 580 00:29:50,790 --> 00:29:52,000 And this is what I'm talking about. 581 00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:53,084 There's direct links. 582 00:29:53,084 --> 00:29:55,503 You got so upset with Sophie 583 00:29:55,503 --> 00:29:57,881 instead of dealing with your relationship with Josh. 584 00:30:02,344 --> 00:30:03,178 [sobbing] 585 00:30:21,654 --> 00:30:24,491 - Hi. How are you? - [Natalie] Hello! 586 00:30:24,491 --> 00:30:25,575 How are you doing? 587 00:30:25,575 --> 00:30:26,868 [Natalie] I'm good. How are you? 588 00:30:26,868 --> 00:30:28,703 Good. I'm glad we had a chance to meet up. 589 00:30:28,703 --> 00:30:30,497 - Yes. - Here's some water. I know it's hot out here. 590 00:30:30,497 --> 00:30:33,667 Thank you, yeah, for giving me therapy time. 591 00:30:33,667 --> 00:30:35,001 - Of course. - Thank you. 592 00:30:35,001 --> 00:30:36,294 - Let's walk. - Okay. 593 00:30:36,294 --> 00:30:38,129 Let's maybe find a place to sit and relax. 594 00:31:03,613 --> 00:31:06,074 [James] So, Natalie, you reached out to me today. 595 00:31:06,074 --> 00:31:07,158 What prompted that? 596 00:31:07,701 --> 00:31:11,538 Um, I had... 597 00:31:13,206 --> 00:31:16,209 kind of emotional breakdown yesterday. 598 00:31:17,544 --> 00:31:20,296 - We had a party. - Okay. 599 00:31:31,474 --> 00:31:32,726 What was that like? Hearing that? 600 00:31:39,399 --> 00:31:40,400 [James] Don't apologize. 601 00:31:42,569 --> 00:31:45,155 That's a lot to take in. That's a lot to hear. 602 00:31:48,033 --> 00:31:51,411 How did things wind up going between you and Josh this morning? 603 00:31:52,245 --> 00:31:53,079 [Natalie] Well... 604 00:31:55,999 --> 00:32:00,754 because I said to him not nice things and he left. 605 00:32:02,714 --> 00:32:03,840 [James] Okay. 606 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:05,342 [Natalie speaking] 607 00:32:07,844 --> 00:32:11,014 So it was, like, painful. 608 00:32:11,014 --> 00:32:13,892 I'm hearing things didn't go so well this morning with Josh, 609 00:32:13,892 --> 00:32:16,144 but you're here for therapy. 610 00:32:16,144 --> 00:32:17,812 What do you want with Josh? 611 00:32:17,812 --> 00:32:19,439 What do you want to get out of this with him? 612 00:32:34,621 --> 00:32:35,705 Also... 613 00:32:51,888 --> 00:32:53,223 So a few things are going through my brain. 614 00:32:53,223 --> 00:32:55,809 I hear you, and I've been experiencing you 615 00:32:55,809 --> 00:32:57,602 and you say, "You know, I wanna be accepted." 616 00:32:57,602 --> 00:33:02,357 And I can't help but to think, "What is really at the core here?" 617 00:33:02,357 --> 00:33:04,484 There's something more happening. 618 00:33:04,484 --> 00:33:07,278 Clearly you have all of these stressors. 619 00:33:07,278 --> 00:33:08,738 You have your relationship. 620 00:33:09,823 --> 00:33:11,491 There's something deeper. 621 00:33:17,789 --> 00:33:24,170 And I would almost think that something from your past is affecting you, 622 00:33:24,170 --> 00:33:27,382 that is causing your actions, your behaviors, 623 00:33:27,382 --> 00:33:33,471 for you to respond in a certain way with Josh, with other people around you. 624 00:33:35,265 --> 00:33:36,433 What's the first thing that comes up 625 00:33:36,433 --> 00:33:40,687 when you think about trauma, past childhood? 626 00:33:40,687 --> 00:33:41,646 Well... 627 00:33:55,952 --> 00:33:57,954 - Bullying. - [Natalie] Yeah. 628 00:34:27,150 --> 00:34:28,610 And this is what I'm talking about. 629 00:34:28,610 --> 00:34:29,778 There's direct links. 630 00:34:29,778 --> 00:34:31,821 This brings us back to last night, actually. 631 00:34:31,821 --> 00:34:33,698 Or last night actually brings us back 632 00:34:33,698 --> 00:34:35,658 to all this past stuff that you've been through. 633 00:34:36,826 --> 00:34:38,828 You got so upset with Sophie 634 00:34:38,828 --> 00:34:41,164 instead of dealing with your relationship with Josh. 635 00:34:50,090 --> 00:34:51,549 [crying] 636 00:34:55,595 --> 00:34:56,596 [sobbing] 637 00:35:03,269 --> 00:35:05,647 I really don't wanna suck the nipple. 638 00:35:05,647 --> 00:35:10,360 Sophie is refusing to trust the process 639 00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:12,445 and just go for it. 640 00:35:12,445 --> 00:35:14,572 I cannot help but feel a little rejected. 641 00:35:18,743 --> 00:35:20,954 [Sophie] No, it's not you. It's not you, I promise. 642 00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:39,973 [Stacey] It's sweet, right? 643 00:35:41,474 --> 00:35:42,559 - [Julia] Shut up! - [Brandon laughing] 644 00:35:43,727 --> 00:35:44,728 [Brandon giggling] 645 00:35:45,562 --> 00:35:46,855 I can't even... 646 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:48,606 This side-- 647 00:35:48,606 --> 00:35:49,566 [Gino] Hold on, I don't want it to get on my shirt. 648 00:35:57,157 --> 00:35:59,492 [Sophie] No, it's not you. It's not you, I promise. 649 00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:04,914 [Gino exclaims] 650 00:36:06,708 --> 00:36:08,543 [Sophie] Okay, I'ma do it, but I'm gonna cover myself. 651 00:36:11,546 --> 00:36:14,174 [Reba] Okay. Okay, we're having fun over here. 652 00:36:14,174 --> 00:36:15,175 [Sophie] I have to lick his nipple! 653 00:36:15,175 --> 00:36:17,552 Okay. Okay, how does that feel, Rob? 654 00:36:18,261 --> 00:36:20,722 It feels great, but she won't... 655 00:36:20,722 --> 00:36:22,766 I'm having to do so much convincing. 656 00:36:24,267 --> 00:36:29,606 Sophie is refusing to trust the process 657 00:36:29,606 --> 00:36:31,524 and just go for it. 658 00:36:31,524 --> 00:36:34,027 I know that she's a little bit shy, 659 00:36:34,027 --> 00:36:36,196 but I cannot help but feel a little rejected. 660 00:36:36,196 --> 00:36:37,280 [Sophie] I licked the nipple. 661 00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:38,740 [Rob] Hey, but there's a difference between 662 00:36:38,740 --> 00:36:41,785 [mimicking Sophie] "I really have to do it? Okay, I'll [bleep] do it." 663 00:36:41,785 --> 00:36:45,121 And, like actually making me feel, like, it's like you're into it. 664 00:36:46,456 --> 00:36:48,792 There's a huge difference. [chuckles] It's not the same. 665 00:37:00,095 --> 00:37:03,390 So, Natalie, I'm picking up these beliefs 666 00:37:03,390 --> 00:37:04,599 that have been stored. 667 00:37:04,599 --> 00:37:06,768 And the beliefs that are in your brain 668 00:37:06,768 --> 00:37:09,896 sound something like, "I'm not good enough. 669 00:37:11,106 --> 00:37:13,108 I'm less than. I'm weak." 670 00:37:18,822 --> 00:37:20,240 "I don't deserve to be loved." 671 00:37:29,165 --> 00:37:31,251 That's the work that needs to be done. 672 00:37:31,251 --> 00:37:34,671 The belief that I would like to see for you 673 00:37:34,671 --> 00:37:37,590 would be related to "I am good enough. 674 00:37:38,508 --> 00:37:39,509 I am loved." 675 00:37:41,928 --> 00:37:43,638 And then, in turn, 676 00:37:43,638 --> 00:37:46,349 when we're in these romantic relationships or friendships, 677 00:37:46,349 --> 00:37:47,976 that will translate. 678 00:37:47,976 --> 00:37:49,936 I think the very first step... 679 00:37:49,936 --> 00:37:54,733 I would love for you to be able to share a little bit with Josh, 680 00:37:54,733 --> 00:37:58,695 of what you've been through, what you've maybe shared in our session. 681 00:37:58,695 --> 00:37:59,863 The vulnerability piece. 682 00:38:01,031 --> 00:38:03,033 I think it's important that you trust Josh. 683 00:38:05,201 --> 00:38:08,038 I feel like Natalie needs to do some significant work 684 00:38:08,038 --> 00:38:13,376 on past childhood traumas and how that affects her behaviors today 685 00:38:13,376 --> 00:38:15,920 in order for her to have a healthy relationship with Josh. 686 00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:17,881 I feel like there needs to be more communication, 687 00:38:17,881 --> 00:38:20,175 a stronger connection between the two of them, 688 00:38:20,175 --> 00:38:24,346 and hopes that that will facilitate more commitment. 689 00:38:24,346 --> 00:38:28,558 She wants to be loved, she wants to be cared for, she wants the support. 690 00:38:28,558 --> 00:38:30,143 And that is not unreasonable at all. 691 00:38:30,143 --> 00:38:32,270 She deserves all of those things. 692 00:38:32,270 --> 00:38:34,356 Again, that's the importance of having therapy, 693 00:38:34,356 --> 00:38:36,107 group therapy, and even individual therapy 694 00:38:36,107 --> 00:38:39,527 to deal with some of these emotions that are built up. 695 00:38:39,527 --> 00:38:44,199 I'm also thinking it's important if we address the group 696 00:38:44,199 --> 00:38:47,535 for you to say your piece, possibly have an apology in that, 697 00:38:48,578 --> 00:38:50,747 and give a little bit of information 698 00:38:50,747 --> 00:38:53,333 as to how and why you respond in that way. 699 00:39:01,758 --> 00:39:03,510 There's more work to be done, 700 00:39:03,510 --> 00:39:05,261 but this was a great first step. 701 00:39:05,762 --> 00:39:06,763 Thank you. 702 00:39:08,598 --> 00:39:09,849 You should be proud of yourself. 703 00:39:10,934 --> 00:39:12,268 - Thank you. - [James] Yeah. 704 00:39:55,729 --> 00:40:02,527 I have start thinking about having a person that will satisfy me, 705 00:40:02,527 --> 00:40:03,903 but it's not like a threesome. 706 00:40:05,947 --> 00:40:06,990 [Florian speaking] 707 00:40:34,934 --> 00:40:36,227 [Reba] All right, guys. 708 00:40:36,227 --> 00:40:40,273 I've got a next step for you all. 709 00:40:40,273 --> 00:40:42,734 One thing that we've talked about today 710 00:40:42,734 --> 00:40:44,361 is it's really hard for some of us 711 00:40:44,361 --> 00:40:46,321 to talk about sex, right? 712 00:40:46,321 --> 00:40:48,365 So for our next activity, we're gonna play a game 713 00:40:48,365 --> 00:40:53,244 called Yes, no, maybe. Okay? 714 00:40:53,244 --> 00:40:57,165 I'm gonna pass around some blank sheets of paper and pens, 715 00:40:57,165 --> 00:41:00,502 and I want you to think of one thing 716 00:41:00,502 --> 00:41:04,297 you'd like to try in the bedroom, okay? 717 00:41:04,297 --> 00:41:06,299 We're gonna put it in the bucket 718 00:41:06,299 --> 00:41:08,885 and then I'm gonna read off the things that you've shared. 719 00:41:08,885 --> 00:41:12,639 So if you're a yes to the activity that you hear me say, 720 00:41:12,639 --> 00:41:14,641 you're gonna walk over to the "Yes" sign. 721 00:41:14,641 --> 00:41:18,144 If you're a no, you're going to walk over to the "No" sign. 722 00:41:18,144 --> 00:41:21,356 If you're a maybe, you're going to walk over to the "Maybe" sign. 723 00:41:21,356 --> 00:41:23,233 - Okay? Does that make sense? - Yep. 724 00:41:23,233 --> 00:41:25,568 - How dirty can these ideas be? - Oh... 725 00:41:26,653 --> 00:41:28,488 [Reba] As dirty as you want, Gino. 726 00:41:28,488 --> 00:41:31,408 Get as imaginative as you like, sir. 727 00:41:31,408 --> 00:41:32,325 [people laughing] 728 00:41:39,916 --> 00:41:41,167 [Brandon] Gino and Jasmine. 729 00:41:43,670 --> 00:41:47,882 Gino and Jasmine definitely seem like the most sexually aggressive couple, 730 00:41:47,882 --> 00:41:51,344 so it is surprising, the fact that they're even not having sex. 731 00:42:00,311 --> 00:42:02,480 [Reba] Like, is there something you want to try? 732 00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:07,152 Like cuddling or, I don't know, like kissing more. 733 00:42:07,152 --> 00:42:11,156 This is an exercise in, like, really thinking about what you desire. 734 00:42:15,201 --> 00:42:16,286 [Reba] Sure. Yeah. 735 00:42:17,537 --> 00:42:18,788 [Reba laughs] 736 00:42:18,788 --> 00:42:20,707 [Jasmine speaking] 737 00:42:21,875 --> 00:42:24,002 [Reba] The point of this Yes, no, maybe exercise 738 00:42:24,002 --> 00:42:26,880 is partners will learn a lot about each other that they didn't know, 739 00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:30,050 where their desires and their pleasure lies, 740 00:42:30,050 --> 00:42:31,718 where there are yeses and maybes 741 00:42:31,718 --> 00:42:36,014 so we can help to inject some fun, new things to their intimacy. 742 00:42:36,723 --> 00:42:38,808 But some of them may learn 743 00:42:38,808 --> 00:42:41,019 that they don't know their partner the way they thought they did. 744 00:42:42,395 --> 00:42:43,688 All right. First one. 745 00:42:44,564 --> 00:42:46,191 "Make a sexy video" 746 00:42:46,191 --> 00:42:50,528 So walk to the sign that represents how you feel 747 00:42:50,528 --> 00:42:53,573 about your willingness to do or try this thing. 748 00:42:54,199 --> 00:42:55,408 Oh. 749 00:43:00,872 --> 00:43:01,873 Oh, yes, the three of us. 750 00:43:03,667 --> 00:43:06,336 Yes, Stacey! Whoo! 751 00:43:06,336 --> 00:43:09,381 So you'd like to try making a sexy video. Feels good? 752 00:43:09,381 --> 00:43:10,382 [Jasmine] I have done it. 753 00:43:10,382 --> 00:43:12,550 - You've done it? Okay. - [Jasmine] Yeah. 754 00:43:12,550 --> 00:43:14,344 With Gino? Or by yourself, like... 755 00:43:14,344 --> 00:43:15,720 Uh... 756 00:43:17,180 --> 00:43:21,309 Oh, it was... Okay. TMI. 757 00:43:21,309 --> 00:43:25,021 So it looks like we have a "Yes" and a "Maybe" together. Okay. 758 00:43:25,021 --> 00:43:26,272 I have some hope. 759 00:43:26,272 --> 00:43:28,108 - [Reba] Okay. - I have some hope, yeah. 760 00:43:29,275 --> 00:43:32,320 I'm mostly in "Maybe" section because, you know, 761 00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,239 I'm just a little worried about the security of it. 762 00:43:35,699 --> 00:43:37,951 Have I done it before? Yeah. 763 00:43:37,951 --> 00:43:39,953 Some freaky [bleep] floating around about Gino. 764 00:43:40,620 --> 00:43:41,788 Not with me. 765 00:43:44,416 --> 00:43:50,964 Yes, I have done, like, sex videos in the past for academic purposes. 766 00:43:52,090 --> 00:43:53,758 Like, so you can get better. 767 00:43:53,758 --> 00:43:57,387 I've done it in the past, yes, I have, with ex-girlfriends. 768 00:44:09,399 --> 00:44:11,609 - Yeah, I don't recall that. - [Jasmine laughs] 769 00:44:12,485 --> 00:44:13,695 So... 770 00:44:13,695 --> 00:44:17,323 Okay, has anyone else done this before on the "Yes" side? 771 00:44:17,323 --> 00:44:19,284 I've done it, just not with my wife. 772 00:44:19,284 --> 00:44:22,037 - Oh, well, it looks like this is a good time to try. - [Jasmine] Tonight. 773 00:44:22,037 --> 00:44:24,456 - Look at that. - Look at that. Who would have thought? 774 00:44:24,456 --> 00:44:26,666 [Reba] Okay. All right, the next one is... 775 00:44:28,418 --> 00:44:30,795 [exhales] a third person. 776 00:44:34,841 --> 00:44:36,676 [people laughing] 777 00:44:37,177 --> 00:44:38,261 Welcome to club. 778 00:44:39,679 --> 00:44:42,057 Okay, so we're gonna go to the "Maybes". 779 00:44:42,057 --> 00:44:44,100 Look at the couple under the "Maybe". 780 00:44:44,684 --> 00:44:46,311 I'm shocked. 781 00:44:46,311 --> 00:44:47,479 - I couldn't believe it. - [Reba] Really? 782 00:44:47,479 --> 00:44:49,022 - You're just copying me. - I'm not copying you. 783 00:44:50,357 --> 00:44:53,276 I couldn't believe that she would be here. 784 00:44:53,276 --> 00:44:54,778 - Okay, we have the threesome. - [Rob] Her jealousy makes it so... 785 00:44:54,778 --> 00:44:57,072 [Jasmine] There we have the threesome in the "Maybe". 786 00:44:57,072 --> 00:44:58,490 [Julia speaking] 787 00:45:04,704 --> 00:45:07,582 Brandon, how do you feel about Julia being under the "Maybe" sign? 788 00:45:07,582 --> 00:45:08,833 She doesn't even want to have sex with me. 789 00:45:08,833 --> 00:45:10,210 She wants to have sex with someone else? 790 00:45:10,210 --> 00:45:11,670 [Reba] All right. With a third person. 791 00:45:11,670 --> 00:45:14,047 - I don't understand that. - [Reba] Got it. 792 00:45:14,881 --> 00:45:15,965 Seriously? 793 00:45:15,965 --> 00:45:18,009 I was like, don't you dare walk over to "Maybe". 794 00:45:18,009 --> 00:45:19,386 Are you kidding me? 795 00:45:21,721 --> 00:45:23,098 So I trying to be honest, so... 796 00:45:23,098 --> 00:45:24,933 I mean... And I'm here. 797 00:45:24,933 --> 00:45:26,309 [Brandon] Maybe I should go over to "Yes" 798 00:45:26,309 --> 00:45:29,688 because I mean, I feel like what more guys want to have, 799 00:45:29,688 --> 00:45:32,315 you know, a threesome with with multiple girls, whatever, 800 00:45:32,315 --> 00:45:35,694 but I wouldn't say that because I don't want to hurt my partner. 801 00:45:35,694 --> 00:45:37,153 [Jasmine] Okay, Brandon, come to the "Yes". 802 00:45:37,153 --> 00:45:38,238 Maybe I should. 803 00:45:38,238 --> 00:45:41,241 - [Gino and Jasmine cheering] - We got another one. 804 00:45:41,241 --> 00:45:42,283 Whoo! 805 00:45:42,283 --> 00:45:43,660 It's a male fantasy, 806 00:45:43,660 --> 00:45:45,954 and I don't wanna admit it because I don't wanna hurt my partner, 807 00:45:45,954 --> 00:45:49,040 because if it was reversed, it would hurt me. 808 00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:52,168 So it hurts me for her to go over there, and that's not fair. 809 00:45:54,754 --> 00:45:58,049 [Brandon] Well, I can't believe Julia accepted a threesome card. 810 00:45:58,049 --> 00:45:59,259 I'm like, "If you and I can't even have sex, 811 00:45:59,259 --> 00:46:02,554 why would another person ever be involved? That is insane." 812 00:46:02,554 --> 00:46:03,930 You moved to "Yes". 813 00:46:04,597 --> 00:46:06,808 Oh, yeah, to spite you. 814 00:46:06,808 --> 00:46:10,228 I would like to start being intimate, you and I, you know? 815 00:46:10,228 --> 00:46:11,938 That's all I really want. 816 00:46:19,946 --> 00:46:24,701 Okay, so we have a couple under the "Yes" section. 817 00:46:25,452 --> 00:46:26,786 This is a big deal. 818 00:46:27,704 --> 00:46:29,080 Either one of you, have you ever tried, 819 00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:30,957 in this relationship or any other relationship, 820 00:46:30,957 --> 00:46:33,084 bringing a third person into your relationship? 821 00:46:34,294 --> 00:46:35,462 - No - [Reba] No. 822 00:46:36,296 --> 00:46:37,505 - Have you ever tried it? - No. 823 00:46:37,505 --> 00:46:39,132 [Reba] No. What makes you interested? 824 00:46:40,467 --> 00:46:42,177 It's kind of like one of my fantasies. 825 00:46:42,177 --> 00:46:43,636 - [Reba] Oh, really? - Yeah. 826 00:46:47,474 --> 00:46:48,600 [Stacey] Let him speak. 827 00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,102 That is a good question, that's a huge question. 828 00:46:51,102 --> 00:46:54,981 Girl all the way, 'cause for me, I'm thinking "girl," so... 829 00:46:54,981 --> 00:46:56,358 - [Reba] Okay. - Yeah... You know. 830 00:46:56,358 --> 00:46:59,527 Okay. All right, what about you, Jasmine? 831 00:46:59,527 --> 00:47:02,864 Now, I realize that even though we are both a yes, 832 00:47:02,864 --> 00:47:04,824 our perspective or understanding 833 00:47:04,824 --> 00:47:06,618 of a third person is different. 834 00:47:06,618 --> 00:47:08,411 [Reba] Tell me more. 835 00:47:08,411 --> 00:47:10,413 When you said yes to a third person, what were you thinking? 836 00:47:12,248 --> 00:47:16,961 I was thinking, since our main issue is sex 837 00:47:16,961 --> 00:47:21,007 and we've been going around for nine months, 838 00:47:21,007 --> 00:47:26,346 I have start thinking about having a person 839 00:47:26,346 --> 00:47:28,807 that will satisfy that need for me, 840 00:47:28,807 --> 00:47:33,311 but it's not like a threesome, it's... 841 00:47:34,813 --> 00:47:37,816 Sounds like what you're describing is like an open relationship. 842 00:47:41,611 --> 00:47:45,782 Where you guys kind of make an agreement and have an understanding 843 00:47:45,782 --> 00:47:48,451 that you see other people for certain needs. 844 00:47:51,705 --> 00:47:53,039 - Yes. - Yes? 845 00:47:58,003 --> 00:47:59,045 [Florian speaking] 846 00:48:14,686 --> 00:48:17,689 [Jasmine] When I think about third person, that's the way I look at it. 847 00:48:17,689 --> 00:48:18,857 [Reba] Got it. 848 00:48:21,735 --> 00:48:25,488 We were having so much fun here in the sex therapy today. 849 00:48:25,488 --> 00:48:28,116 You know, feeling some intimacy, feeling good. 850 00:48:28,116 --> 00:48:30,326 We haven't done this in so long. 851 00:48:31,244 --> 00:48:32,871 And you know... 852 00:48:32,871 --> 00:48:35,999 You're talking about an open marriage with somebody else. 853 00:48:35,999 --> 00:48:37,917 What the [bleep] is up with that? 854 00:48:37,917 --> 00:48:41,254 Maybe we're in a lot more trouble than I thought we were. 855 00:48:50,430 --> 00:48:51,806 [Biniyam] Let's go! 856 00:48:51,806 --> 00:48:54,434 [Brandon] Next time on 90 Day: The Last Resort... 857 00:48:54,434 --> 00:48:57,395 [Biniyam] Go jump! Yay! 858 00:48:57,395 --> 00:48:59,856 [Ariela] It's fun being out in the desert. 859 00:48:59,856 --> 00:49:03,693 If our relationship could be like this all the time, we'd be golden. 860 00:49:03,693 --> 00:49:05,695 [Biniyam] Yeah! Whoo! 861 00:49:08,531 --> 00:49:10,825 So I guess at this point, it's like, what do you guys think? 862 00:49:10,825 --> 00:49:13,203 You even gonna get to the recommitment ceremony? 863 00:49:13,203 --> 00:49:15,080 At this point, I don't know. 864 00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:16,373 There's no way I can predict that. 865 00:49:17,123 --> 00:49:18,750 [Florian speaking] 866 00:49:21,461 --> 00:49:24,798 I don't know how much a husband is supposed to give 867 00:49:24,798 --> 00:49:27,300 before it's justified to walk away. 868 00:49:30,136 --> 00:49:31,805 [Jasmine speaking] 869 00:49:33,264 --> 00:49:34,641 I'm done with her. 870 00:49:44,484 --> 00:49:45,485 Let's go. 871 00:49:48,321 --> 00:49:49,322 Here goes nothing. 872 00:49:54,911 --> 00:49:58,415 - [Brandon] Let's go! - Whoo! 873 00:49:58,415 --> 00:50:00,041 Never seen Gino like this. 874 00:50:00,041 --> 00:50:02,919 Florian, stop being a bad influence 875 00:50:02,919 --> 00:50:03,837 for my husband. 876 00:50:07,132 --> 00:50:08,091 Whoo! 877 00:50:08,091 --> 00:50:09,134 Y'all were having-- 878 00:50:09,134 --> 00:50:11,136 - No, no, no. No. - No, no, no. 879 00:50:13,179 --> 00:50:15,473 [Jasmine speaking] 880 00:50:15,473 --> 00:50:16,474 [Florian] Jasmine, what the [bleep] is this? 881 00:50:16,474 --> 00:50:18,018 Let have [bleep] fun, okay? 882 00:50:18,018 --> 00:50:19,686 - [Stacey] That's not normal [yells imperceptibly] - No, no, no. 883 00:50:19,686 --> 00:50:21,187 - Whoa, whoa. No! - [Jasmine] No, no more drinks.