[Patrick] Previously on "90 Day: The Last Resort."
Wait, what is this?
[Shekinah] We're, like, in a fairy tale.
We'll see.
[eerie, classical music plays]
- [Paola] Oh! - [Thaís] Oh, hello.
- Hello, hello! - Oh, my God.
Our marriage is like-- like a roller coaster.
- A lot of ups and downs. - For sure.
I know you're gonna come here and get drunk.
- Baby, I'm here to enjoy. - OK, then go enjoy.
[Jenny speaking]
I was scrolling the other day, and I got a suggestion
to follow you, meaning, you removed me as a follower.
Who cares?
I'm not here to deal with these crazy people.
This whole decision you're making right now?
To have this be your answer is wild.
[Persia] Welcome, everyone.
You are here because your marriages are
in a place of crisis and dysfunction.
With this Brazil trip, there was, like, this
like, random charge on the credit card
for like, almost $2,000.
Wow.
Our family's not a priority.
He doesn't trust me.
I said, "No, I'm going.
You're not taking my son away from me."
[Persia] So, how?
Are you here to try and fix this?
I feel like I'm very confused about my feelings,
what I feel about him.
[tense music plays]
We have a power struggle.
But you have to earn respect.
[Sarper speaking]
For sure.
The way that you want to control her?
It pisses me off. I'm just being honest.
You're triggered?
Shut up.
- [Shekinah] Girl... - Hold, hold.
Don't talk to my husband like that, first of all.
Shut up.
[tense music ends]
[eerie, classical music plays]
♪
We're all here to give feedback on each other's relationships.
There's no need to-- he's not telling you to shut up.
[Sarper speaking]
Jeez, Louise.
Shut up.
Don't say, "Shut up." Shut up.
[Sarper speaking]
[Rebecca] You're supposed to be a partnership
against the world, first.
- What do you mean? - Not against each other.
Yeah, I agree with that.
Yeah.
[Persia] OK, so what I'm hearing is
that you're not working as a partnership.
So what we really can work on is primarily your communication
so that you feel supported and you feel respected.
[Sarper] Yeah.
[Zied speaking]
I think Sarper is just a chauvinist.
Respect is earned,
and I don't want you getting any ideas from Sarper, at all.
All right. Thank you guys for that.
Up next, Jenny and Sumit. Talk to me,
how are you guys feeling jumping into all of this?
Don't know where to start.
Like, right now, we're living with his parents,
so that's causing problems.
But, I mean, we have other issues, too.
Like, last night, we went out, and Sumit likes to drink,
but I don't want him drinking.
And he doesn't listen,
and I feel like he's disrespecting me.
So, that's problem number two.
Problem number three, I'd say,
he hides things,
like when you went and invested $50,000 without telling me.
Oh, damn.
No, you did not.
[tense music plays]
We're married, I'm in this too.
It is both our money.
You have to be honest.
It's a very interesting difference there between,
you know, having an issue with communication
and choosing when and when not to communicate.
Sumit, why are you so afraid to tell Jenny the truth?
That is not true.
I pretended like it, but not in real.
Oh, my God.
I think that Sumit has pushed her
to the breaking point,
and she's ready to start swinging.
[Shekinah] Yeah.
The finger's gonna turn into a...
Don't mess with Jenny.
[Paola speaking]
Yeah, note to self. Not gonna do that.
Note.
So we have some issues around trust and communication
and potentially, anger management as well.
There's gonna be some work here to try and meet in the middle.
- Are you both willing to compromise? - I agree.
- Yeah. - [Sumit] I always compromise.
Because I--
Clearly, there is still a lot of love between the two of you.
[Sumit speaking]
[Dr. Tara] Interesting.
Yeah, in the moment, it just happens.
You want it, it happens.
So when it happens, is it good for you, Jenny?
- [Jenny] Yeah. - Is the sex good?
Of course. He's young.
[everybody laugh]
Girl, young don't mean good.
Honestly, listening to Jenny and Sumit's sex life is
not really my thing.
Like, I wish I had some earmuffs.
- Well, I can help you. - Oh, thank you.
Is this better? Ah, perfect.
- Yeah. - You know, fun fact.
My dad had me at 64.
So, it's in my blood.
OK, well, yeah, there's makeup sex,
there's morning sex, there's vacation sex.
Ah...
Like we had last night?
[Rebecca laughs]
You know what? There is something in common.
- Passion, right? - Yeah.
Like, passion, intimacy,
and fighting it and argument.
They're both heat.
- [Sumit] Oh... - So that's why.
[Dr. Tara] Not always healthy.
So we'll address that later.
- Oh, OK. - Right, I agree.
[Sumit] Yeah.
And he wants it more than I do.
I'm older than him.
It's not always that way, and you know it.
Not always, not always. Women love sex too.
- [Kara] Woo! - We just love good sex.
- Amen. - Yeah.
OK, so next we're gonna be moving on to Rebecca and Zied.
So tell us what's been going on with you guys?
Well, so far, we've been together for what,
almost seven years?
So, for like the first three years,
it was amazing.
We were literally like best friends,
but about three years ago,
he just started going to the gym all the time.
He started dressing different.
It's just slowly eroded to where now
we never wake up at the same time.
We never go to bed at the same time.
Half the time, he doesn't even sleep in the same bed.
And if I ask, "What are you doing? What's going on?"
You're like, "I'm going out with my friends."
And nothing else is any of my freaking business.
Yeah, 100%.
I hate to have to worry about
where you are and what you're doing.
No, don't make it sound like I'm obsessive.
- No. - I literally...
- No, no, no. - No, hang on.
I used to be a private investigator.
You checked off the top three boxes.
You started going to the gym.
You changed the way you were dressing.
You stopped letting me get anywhere near your phone.
Sometimes I feel the same way
as Zied, tracked, you know?
I just always put Airtags on my keys,
and you took the keys.
You AirTagged yourself.
He knew that she was a private investigator
when you first met her, right?
So he kind of signed up for this.
[Rebecca] Ladies, let's see what y'all think about this.
We get into a fight.
He throws a mortal fit, packs a bag, and disappears.
He had done this several times before, and every single time,
he is gone for the entire day.
I fell asleep and woke up at midnight,
two o'clock in the morning, something like that,
and he's 400 miles away in a hotel in Virginia.
[Patrick] Holy crap.
So what were you doing there?
Uh-oh.
[Guillermo] The actual problem...
Have you had sexual relations
with other people during your separation?
[Zied speaking]
Why are you in this relationship, then?
I mean, I see you unhappy.
Let Zied and Sarper, his little boyfriend,
go stand outside.
I'm really kind of sick and tired of both of them
right now.
Zied, don't forget what we talked.
Sometimes the trash takes itself out.
[tense, classical music plays]
So what were you doing there?
Uh-oh.
I'm not focused where I'm going, you know?
He says he slept in his car.
[Thaís speaking]
Oh, I'm glad you understand that,
because that's how I feel
when I can't get a hold of you forever.
Maybe next time I'll hire Rebecca to find you.
No, I know you can't drive 400 miles, so...
[both laugh]
You don't do that [bleep].
The problem is you can't run forever.
- [Rebecca] Yes, you can-- - Like, it's gonna come back.
You can cool off, and then come back.
[Zied] Yes, I'll--
[Zied] Yeah.
[Rebecca] That is such-- you know what?
- No, it's-- - If you're dating somebody,
do that.
- No, it's not-- no. - Once you get married,
you don't do that [bleep].
You're a grown-ass man,
and you took your grown-ass out to be angry with me.
- Come on, you see-- - [Shekinah] I would just like to say something really quick.
I think you talk disrespectful, period.
[Rebecca] OK.
And I think if you soften your tone a little bit,
you'll be heard a lot more,
and you'll be received differently.
I don't need to soften my tone to be heard.
[Shekinah] OK.
OK, then you're gonna keep getting the same result.
You should talk.
You have been popping off this whole time in a rude way.
I'm sorry you had--
[Shekinah] I don't think anyone likes it.
OK, so it seems like this has been an ongoing problem.
Ew!
He said, next time you're gonna drive to Canada.
What's wrong with Canada?
[Kara] No, is that's even farther away.
[Rebecca] No, but it's even farther away because I'm so awful.
- I didn't say you are awful. - [Rebecca] I know that.
I really feel bad for Rebecca because
I feel like Sarper, Shekinah and Zied is trying
to gang up against her.
- Like, that's unfair. - I don't know.
Rebecca doesn't seem like the easiest person
to get along with.
I kind of speak like Rebecca sometimes, so.
You don't say.
Yeah, I'm feeling for Zied at this point.
[Persia] OK, so, Rebecca and Zied.
Clearly, there are some trust issues.
- Are you both willing to work on this? - [both] Yes.
You're here for a reason, you're willing to work on it,
you both still love each other?
- [Zied] Yeah. - Very much.
And you're willing to do whatever it takes
to work through this issue?
- Yeah. - And you believe it's possible?
Yes.
Yeah.
OK, moving on to the next couple.
Kara and Guillermo, why don't you share a little bit
about what's been going on in your relationship recently?
Well, we've been apart for...
over a year.
What was it that caused you to separate a year ago?
I was feeling really like everything was like on me,
the logistics in the household, like, to cook meals,
to take care of our, at that time, really small baby,
also while working several jobs.
Like, I felt like I was drowning,
and he was just, like, not helping, you know?
- And then it got-- - Right, listen.
This had some bull[bleep].
The actual problem-- she likes to go out.
She likes to drink.
Or, like going out with friends,
like doing like a girl's night, then going...
[Dr. Tyrone] Please. Clarify that, please.
Yeah, can you just explain what exactly you're talking about?
[Kara] I can tell you what he's talking about,
if you want. - Go on.
So I slept with a guy in 2011.
We both agreed, "Hey, whoops, misstep.
Let's rein that back. We're better friends."
It was weird. So we moved on.
From then on, we've only ever been friends.
But at the same time, she was in that man's house
when we were married.
So can I just clarify,
you were at this man's house until 4:00 AM?
Yeah. But not just the two of us.
It was a party.
Wait, no.
- I was with-- - But was he always invited to be there?
Yes. Did he ever wanna go? No.
[Guillermo speaking]
- That didn't happen. - Don't-- come on.
[tense music plays]
[eerie, classical music plays]
So Kara, can you tell us what happened that night?
I have nothing to hide from him.
I went to have drinks with my friends,
and we all had drinks, and then we came home.
So, I don't know where this story comes from,
where I was making out with a man.
Because that guy that's recounted it to him
wasn't there.
So I don't know who he got his information from.
That guy that he was spoke to wasn't there?
[Kara] No, he wasn't there.
Why the [bleep] would I jeopardize
our entire marriage?
[Kara] Why would I do that?
Yeah, I was gonna say.
[Kara] No, but why would I do that,
when you know all the [bleep] that I did every [bleep] day
to keep our lives together? - I have no idea.
- Why would I actively go out and [bleep] it up? - Then I don't know.
- I don't know! - Why would I do that?
I have no idea! I have the same question.
No, because I'm asking you to just use your logic.
Like I show up every single day in so many [bleep] ways.
Why, why then would I go and throw it all away
to make out with a guy at a bar?
Because drinking removes logic.
That's why.
Like, when you're drunk, you're not logical anymore.
I've never cheated on Guillermo,
but he has it in his mind that I have,
even though I've explained
the facts to him many, many times.
And I think he's leaning on this cheating angle
because I feel like maybe he's, like, trying
to make me look bad,
but he doesn't wanna have to take accountability.
Like, it's not fair.
OK, so these are some of the reasons why you separated,
but let's talk about what were some of the barriers
to you reconciling?
You know, it reminds me of a time that
she actually came to me.
She was like, "Hey, I wanna fix it."
And that gave me so much hope.
And I said, "In order to fix these problems,
"you need to stop drinking how you do it.
"Number two, you need to stop going out how you do it.
And listen, I promise you, I will do whatever you want."
And she said, "Yes, let's do it."
But then, she never did that.
[Kara] He just, like, doesn't take accountability
and then wants to accuse me of being flagrant
or being out or whatever.
And, like, he's over here sending bitches Venmo
on Valentine's Day, saying,
"Can't wait to see you, smiley face, here's $150."
Ooh.
Could you say when I sent those messages?
- When I sent that? - Yeah, Valentine's Day.
Were you together?
This is when we were separated.
But when we separated,
there were not clear parameters.
She's also been doing things.
[Persia] OK, let's just make this really clear.
Have you both had sexual relations
with other people, during your separation?
I have.
- [gasps] - Oh...
- Mm-hmm. - You have?
Mm-hmm. Yes.
[Thaís] This is crazy to me.
- Yeah, I mean-- - That's sad.
I mean, how do they come back from that?
Like, some of these problems, they're massive.
They need more than a therapist.
They need a magician.
[Persia] So the question is,
do you wanna work through this?
Do you still love each other?
Even though both of you have been with other people,
during your separation.
I love him. I love you.
- It's not a question. - Are you in love with him?
Hmm.
That's a hard one. I don't know.
Is that something you want to explore while you're here?
Yeah.
I need to know that we did everything that we could.
[Persia] Guillermo?
- Yes, ma'am? - Do you still love Kara?
Uh...
She's the mother of my kid.
I will never...
stop feeling love for her.
- She-- - Are you in love with her?
I have no idea.
Are you willing to explore that while you're here?
Yes, yes.
OK.
So, Kara and Guillermo, there is a lot of tension,
there's a lot of conflict.
But I also feel hopeful because the very fact that
they have been willing and brave enough to come here
and to show up and expose themselves,
it shows that they care enough to give it a go.
We have a long journey ahead of us.
We have a lot of work to do.
But if you keep showing up like you did today,
then I think that there's a lot of hope for us all.
So, thank you, and have a good night.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
Thanks, guys.
- [Dr. Tyrone] We have a lot. - That was quite a session.
- [Dr. Tyrone] Yeah. - A lot of work to do.
[Thaís speaking]
♪
[Sumit speaking]
[Jenny & Sumit speaking]
[Jenny] No.
[Sumit speaking]
[Jenny] I don't know. Maybe it's not.
[chanting music plays]
[Patrick speaking]
[Patrick] That's bull[bleep]...
Yeah, because when I tell you, like, it's not--
I tell you, like...
Are you gonna do it again?
Huh? No.
[Patrick speaking]
[Thaís] I'm not.
[Kara] Well, that was interesting.
[Guillermo] Mm-hmm.
How do you really feel?
[Guillermo speaking]
When?
Why is this relevant?
No, no, no-- it was on a trip, but not to Europe.
- [Guillermo] Oh. - It was in the United States.
I don't-- I don't know. What?
- With who? - No, I'm not.
No.
I just don't know that I understand
why those details are really important.
I feel like if we want to actually have--
fix something,
we need to be clear with each other.
Yeah.
Mnh-mnh.
So only one time?
- Twice. - Oh, yeah?
Do you wanna tell me about this girl?
How many times did you have sex?
Two times.
Actually, same way.
So can you just tell me when did you have sex?
I went to New York. In the fall.
I don't know, I feel like I-- I had sex
for the very first time after you, way longer.
We both did the same thing.
Mine was just slightly sooner than yours.
Slightly? No.
It was like five months of difference.
I feel like you just constantly wanna villainize me
and make me like the bad person.
You agree that, like, it took two of us
to get to where we currently are?
Sure. Yes.
Definitely I did something that upset you.
And definitely I did something to make you take
different decisions that you had probably before.
- Yeah. - OK.
And that may be the rest, we should like talk about
with a professional, like with a therapist.
Uh-huh. I agree.
Cool.
♪
[Sarper & Shekinah speaking]
[Rebecca shouting] Do you think that what you--
the-- the real problem is
that out of all of the [bleep] that I put up with,
your main argument is that I'm on my phone too much?
Do you know how bad I wanted to just stand up and scream?
[Zied] Why you scream?
[Rebecca] Because-- because...
Zied, because I'm not gonna--
Do not come here and act like my problem is
what is keeping us from being intimate
or close or having a connection.
The problem is you have not deserved to be trusted.
I have no idea who you're talking to,
what you're doing.
You have made it clear that I'm not allowed
to touch your phone anymore.
You can, I never stop you.
- Any time. - [yelling] No!
You specifically told me no.
In fact, I have asked you for your phone
for like a setting or something.
You literally will move it to that section,
hand it to me,
and then, immediately take it back.
Like, oh, oh.
So why would I not be worried that you might be cheating on me
if that is the constant attitude that I get from you?
The one time I wanted to go prove to myself
that you were doing nothing wrong,
you're in a freaking parking lot with a blonde!
And then the whole time since then,
you have been doing nothing but gaslighting me
and telling me that every single thing that concerns me
is really my fault.
[Zied speaking]
We have to be together.
I mean, we are in the middle of a freaking castle
in United Kingdom.
- [laughing] - Oh, my God.
I kind of get, like, 60% of his jokes.
They don't all land.
[chanting music plays]
- [Sarper] Hello. - [bartender] Hi, hello. How are you?
- Good. - What can I get for you?
- Yeah, we do. - Thank you so much.
No worries.
[Sarper speaking]
[bartender] No.
[laughs] All right.
OK.
[Sumit speaking]
[Patrick] This way? Where's the bar?
- This way? - [Sumit] Yeah.
[indistinct conversation]
- Hey, guys. - What's going on?
- [Thaís] Hi. - Good.
- Welcome. - You're already here.
Well, yeah.
[Sumit speaking]
In the room, sleeping.
- Yeah. - What?
[Thaís speaking]
[Jenny] Yeah, it was exhausting.
[Patrick] Yeah.
[bartender] Yeah, absolutely.
Do you want it on the rocks as well?
- [Sumit] Hey. - What's up, guys?
How are you?
[Sumit & Zied speaking]
I forgot how exhausting therapy is.
Like, I did it for a while myself,
and my whole day would be wrecked.
- Yeah, exactly. - Because I'd just be like,
talking about feelings. - It is exhausting.
[Sarper] Boys, will you join me?
There's a bonfire outside, huh?
[Rebecca speaking]
[Patrick] I'll join you. Bonfire time?
[Sarper] Zied, if you can.
[Zied speaking]
[Sarper] You are welcome.
[Rebecca] Oh, so you're going out with him?
Whatever.
I cannot believe my husband right now.
We just had a therapy session,
where we talked about him running away.
And the second that things get tense with us,
he runs away,
and starts drinking with the other couples,
and doesn't tell me.
I don't care anymore.
Let Zied and Sarper, his little boyfriend,
go stand outside.
I'm really kind of sick and tired
of both of them right now.
Sometimes the trash takes itself out.
[Sarper] Today, I felt something.
I mean, we need a union, like man union, you know?
Oh, my God.
[Patrick] She was rough on you.
The way Sarper talks about Shekinah, like,
I don't know why they're together.
Eh, maybe he's joking. I don't know.
I kind of get, like, 60% of his jokes.
I think a lot of his language barrier or something,
they don't all land.
But one thing's for sure,
I wouldn't wanna be married to Shekinah.
- Hello. - Hi, guys.
- Oh, pink, pinky. - Pink, pink, pink.
- [Thaís] We love that. - [Rebecca speaking]
[Jenny] Love the coat.
Thank you.
I think I want to sit in here just, like, I can see you guys.
[Rebecca] Sit where I can see your face.
Cheers.
- Cheers, y'all. - Cheers.
- Put a little bit of like... - To independent women.
- Oh, hell, yeah! - Right.
[Jenny] Yeah.
- Hi. - [all] Hi!
Oh, my ladies. Thank you, Jesus.
Look at you just wafting in. So beautiful.
[Kara] Yeah, thank you.
I'm glad you guys feel that way, because I feel like a mess.
[Rebecca] No, you look gorgeous.
Can I can I ask you, I was gonna say,
because obviously I know a little bit about
you all's relationship, um,
but not like what I really wanna know, which is, like,
can you elaborate more on the position that
you refer to as the dead cow?
I've never heard of that position.
- I wanna know how to execute. - [Paola] I don't know.
Just imagine a dead cow just laying down on the bed,
like that. - [Kara] OK, but--
And the guy, like a taurus, like...
Wait, but I imagine a dead cow would be on their side.
- Yeah, but it's not-- - [all laugh]
- I'm trying to be-- - Wait, he's over there?
That's actually a good position.
I know, that's why I'm like, wait, what?
So it's like when the guy chose do all the job,
but it's like, I just feel like--
We have an English version called a starfish.
- [Paola] The starfish? - Yeah, yeah.
Yeah, you just all the--
all the limbs out.
A lot of these women feel adventurous in bed,
but they're all still young.
To me, there's nothing wrong with the dead cow because
that seems kind of nice. I don't have to do any work.
- Like, I'm a sexual person. - [Kara] Me too.
- And I'm very sensual too. - Me too.
But if I don't have that, like, reciprocate, like,
you know, I feel like, why am I even trying to be all of this,
when I'm gonna get the same way? - [Thaís] He doesn't do anything to you.
- Yeah. - So it's like, it's no motivation.
I wonder what the guys are talking about.
They're bitching about us.
- "This [bleep]." - Better not.
- [laughing] - [conversation overlaps]
[Thaís] We don't even need them, do we?
Need is a strong word.
- Need is a strong word. - Need is a strong word.
- [Zied] Ew, what's up? - [Guillermo] Hello.
[Sarper] Just like this. Hola, brother.
- How you doing? - [Patrick] What's going on?
- Join the party. - Oh, man, yeah, thank you.
This is a union, guys.
[Sarper] Yes, we have to be together.
I mean, we are in the middle of a freaking castle
in United Kingdom.
Freedom!
"Braveheart," I mean, I just will paint my face to the blue,
and we will run.
I mean, we're just all begging for mercy.
Yeah.
I'm happy that we're all connecting and having fun,
but I kind of wish Shekinah was here.
[Paola] Oh, my God. Shekinah.
[Kara] Oh, my God, where is Shekinah?
Where is she? I asked, I think that she's sleepy.
[Jenny] I felt so bad for her today. She just looks so upset.
I can't imagine what it's like to be married to Sarper.
[Jenny] Yeah.
[Thaís speaking]
you can literally tell, like, he is...
he controls everything.
He wants to.
You know?
Like, Sarper is who he is.
- Yeah. - Right?
I'm just like...
Well, did you not see this coming?
She said, "He's mean to me."
I think that's something that she really wants to address
very strongly. - Yeah.
He just rubs me the wrong way.
We are so easy to be happy, bro.
I know, but the thing is, they want us to be complex.
We can't. I can't.
- [Patrick] I know. [Sarper speaking]
I just had this conversation while we ride.
- You and Rebecca? - Yeah, bro.
Brother, I just want to say something to you about,
I mean, I am so sorry for today.
I mean, I couldn't stop myself.
I'm so sorry for that. I just want to say that.
I appreciate you, bro. I appreciate that.
And I'm sorry for what she told you.
Like, "Shut up," I don't like it,
to be honest with you.
[Patrick] Oh, damn.
Why are you in this relationship, then?
I mean, I see you unhappy.
I'm not happy in my relationship,
but I love her.
I hope you decide the best thing for yourself.
Exactly. Yeah, but we'll see, bro.
- We'll see what's going on. - Make it or break it, bro.
[laughing]
[Patrick] Oh, my goodness.
[conversation overlaps]
[Paola] Oh, hello. I'm sorry to ruin the fun.
[Kara] Hello, hello.
[Thaís] What are you guys doing?
Hi. How's it going?
[Kara] How are you doing, guys?
- [Kara] Oh, yeah? - [Thaís speaking]
Sounds so serious.
- No, we're talking about work. - [Thaís] So serious.
- I know, God. - [Paola] Talking about sports.
- It wasn't convincing, Zied. - Nope.
[Guillermo speaking]
Guys, I wanna excuse myself.
Zied, don't forget what we talked.
- See you, buddy. - Bye.
[Kara] Besties. You guys are like besties.
Nothing.
- That's OK. - [Kara] Glad you and Sarper really have, like, bonded.
- Yeah. - [Zied speaking]
And it doesn't matter how he talks to people.
Like your wife.
Oh, he apologized to you?
That says a lot. He was talking to me.
- Oh, shh. - [group] Oh.
- [Thaís] Really? - [Rebecca] On that note.
- [Kara] Oh, my god, Queen. - [Sumit] On that note.
[tense music plays]
Going to bed, y'all.
[Thaís speaking]
[Kara] But not right now?
[Rebecca speaking]
I want you to both give each other a compliment.
I believe, Kara, that you are very beautiful in the inside.
Do you feel proud when you look at her and think,
that's the mother of my child?
[tense music intensifies]
[eerie, classical music plays]
- [group] Bye. - Good night.
[chanting music plays]
[Paola & Russ speaking]
[Kara speaking]
[Guillermo] All right.
It makes me sad that he feels like he can't, like,
share a bed with me.
I mean, I feel like we were making a lot of progress.
We did a whole day of therapy, and we were able to talk about
some hard stuff, and he slept in the bed yesterday.
And so him moving to the couch kind of does feel
like a step back in a way,
but I mean, I guess the fact that he's willing to even sleep
in the same room with me,
even though it's on the couch, is better than nothing.
I just wish that he would be like a little more relaxed
and not so rigid.
[chanting music continues]
[Zied speaking]
I mean, like...
You literally did that to me at the party earlier.
And did you text me? Did you call me?
Did you come back up and go,
"Hey, there's a party going on downstairs,
do you want to come with me?" - No-- no.
So maybe don't walk out here
and ask me why I left you there.
You went down by yourself.
You can come back up by yourself.
[tense music plays]
Right. You're right.
[Rebecca] This is what happens when you buddy up with somebody
that your wife obviously has an issue with.
Why you make it issues? You don't have any issues.
Because of the way he talked to me earlier.
Now I'm supposed to just shut up and not say anything else
to him because he apologized to you?
That's bull[bleep].
What you want me to do, Rebecca?
Someone, he say something to my wife, he come to me,
apologize, I say, "No, don't apologize to me."
"Wait when she come here and apol-- "
- What you talking about? - Or, or maybe,
"OK, hey, I appreciate that, thank you."
[Zied] OK, that's what I said.
- That's it. - Not done talking.
- No, that's what I said. - Not done talking.
You're not hearing me and you're not letting me talk.
- Yeah, I'm-- yeah. - Which is completely normal.
It's just me, I'm talking.
[bleep], bro.
[sighs]
- Should we wait for Jenny? - [Shekinah] Yeah.
[Paola] OK.
We just find out that we have a fancy banquet tonight.
So we have to dress to impress,
which is obviously my specialty.
[Paola] Oh, it's so nice outside!
[Shekinah] This place is so magical, isn't it?
[Paola] Yeah.
- [both] Jenny! - Hi, girl.
[Shekinah] Hi.
- You look adorable. - You do.
I love your outfit.
- I love yours too. - Little two-piece.
Matches? I think that our colors are matching.
And you're beautiful as usual.
I haven't gone out often with Russ, so I just kind of
like, want to give a great impression tonight.
Jenny and I invited Shekinah because she didn't come out
last night and she already got into multiple fights
with womens in here.
I just really want to find out if she's having a really
hard time in here or...
she's being a brat.
[Shekinah] Riding backwards is such a trip.
- [laughs] - Right?
Well, this is gonna be fun today.
Are you excited for tonight... what did you say?
- I can't say that word. - Banquet.
[Paola] Banquet.
- Buffet? - [laughing]
I was like, "Wait, that's a..."
Have you been to a banquet before, Jenny?
[Jenny] Oh, in India.
- Jackpot. - Gosh, this is interesting.
[Thaís speaking]
[Patrick] All right, well, we each get a ball.
And then, basically, we got to try to get it through that.
[Thaís] But that ball is bigger than that thing.
- No, it's not. - Isn't it?
[Thaís] Oh, OK. OK.
[Thaís speaking]
It's kind of like the English version of mini golf.
- Oh. - Yeah.
You got a mallet, you get the ball,
but the ball doesn't go in the hole.
So, to be honest with you, it's not that fun.
- Huh? - 'Cause there's no holes.
I like your [bleep].
[chuckles] Stop.
Aye...
- [mocks] - Damn it.
[Thaís laughs] You're horrible.
- OK, now my turn. - Now swing that booty.
- Oh! - Whoa!
[sighs] Yeah.
Ah!
[laughs] You missed it? How did you miss it?
[Patrick] I think you're about to tie it up.
[Thaís] Ah! [laughs]
You barely got...
[Patrick] This is a lot more confusing than mini golf.
[Patrick grunts]
- Oh, no! - [Thaís laughs]
[bleep].
You're horrible. [chuckles]
I won!
I mean, how could you have won?
We don't even know if we're playing it right.
No, I did win.
I was actually ahead, and I was just being nice.
Oh, always an excuse.
[Patrick] Isn't this fun?
Like, having one-on-one time.
I love this. I love having time with you
we just, like, being distant
and we don't have that much time together.
We got married, have a child-- had the child.
You have really taken this, you know,
prioritize yourself thing really far.
And I don't think you realize
how much it's affected me. - What do you want?
You want me not to do anything?
No, I just want you to realize like there's a balance to it.
[Thaís] Yes. OK.
I know.
You used to be the one
that don't like to talk about things, right?
Yeah, but that's, I mean, we're here to talk.
Like, I don't wanna ignore everything
and then, go back home and everything's the same.
Yeah, me neither.
- [Paola] Ooh, look at that. - [Shekinah] Thank you.
[Paola] This is getting much better.
- This looks amazing. - Thank you so much.
[Shekinah] I get massages, like, every single week at home.
- [Paola] Oh, really? - Full-body, two-hour massages.
- [Shekinah] Yes. - I need to feel the friction.
[Jenny] Oh, I don't like that.
- Oh, I love it. - You don't like it, Jenny?
It hurts.
When was the last time you had your makeup done
or you got glammed up, Jenny?
[Jenny] I can't even remember.
I'm just staying in my room. His parents are there.
I'm hiding out.
[Paola] That's a lot, because it happened to me with Russ
at the beginning, when I moved to US.
I went to live with his parents at the beginning and I'm like,
"You got to get me out of here."
[Shekinah] Yeah.
So, I missed out on last night because I was so tired.
- I just-- - [Jenny] Yeah.
I didn't know you guys were separated.
I thought it was everyone together.
You don't know what happened with the guys,
'cause you weren't even with them?
- [Jenny] Right. - No, but my husband kind of,
like, filled me in a little bit. - [Shekinah] What did he say?
- [Jenny laughs] - [Shekinah] That makes me worried.
Oh, my God, get over yourselves.
They're giant babies.
Did you guys get to talk after the therapy?
We haven't said a word to each other.
That's crazy.
I do really like that Sarper is a little more of
a strong type than Sumit and Russ, for example.
Like, I just feel like they come across
as very weak men.
And, like, I would've already left Russ
if I was in Paola's situation.
She has so much to offer,
and I feel like he's just, like, weight,
pulling her down and keeping her
from reaching her true potential.
Yeah, I feel like I do want Russ to have a little bit, like,
alpha male on him. - Yeah.
But not in a controlled way because I'm an alpha female.
But I do want him just to be a little bit more strong
in a way, like I can actually be more feminine
because I feel like I'm more like a man sometimes.
And I just don't like that.
[Shekinah] Because you're just being put in that position.
I want some changes
because I'm tired of that. - [Shekinah] Yeah.
I'm doing this just to give it one more try,
but I feel like I feel like I--
I don't know. I feel like I'm just--
I'm done trying.
[Shekinah] Oh, no!
[Paola speaking]
Welcome to your royal banquet.
[Patrick] All right.
- [Thaís] Love that! - [Zied] Thank you.
[Persia] A crucial element to these high-society events
is etiquette.
Want watch where we're putting that fork, Sumit?
[Sumit] Sorry?
There are a few people who are eating with their bare hands.
Some are even eating with their mouths open.
I can see that there is a lot of work to do.
[eerie, classical music plays]
He told to my son, like,
"Oh, Mommy's breaking up the family."
- Like, he tell-- yeah. - [Shekinah] Oh, no.
He'll suffer from the dysfunction
that you guys had.
You will think Russ is the sweetest guy,
but you will never think that he actually, like,
"Oh, it's not gonna be easy."
- [Shekinah] I'm sure. - Like, yeah.
- And, like, he does that. - It's the quiet, sweet ones
that are the most scary when they don't get what they want.
- [Paola speaking] - Yeah.
[Shekinah] I went through a really scary experience
when I was leaving my daughter's dad.
He also said something similar,
that he was gonna-- it was gonna be hell for me.
And he tried to take full custody of my daughter,
and I didn't have money to get my own attorney.
I was representing myself.
I don't know anything about the legal system.
And when I got to court, he was like, "Just kidding."
- I'm not gonna try to take... - Oh, really?
...our daughter from you.
He was just trying to scare me.
I've been divorced for, like, 20-something years now.
- Was it an easy breakup? - Yeah.
He wanted-- he left.
My daughters were still young, so I took them to court,
made sure I-- made sure he paid child support,
spousal support,
and I got everything I asked for.
[Shekinah] Good for you.
See, I never did any of that. I didn't know...
how to do anything.
[Paola speaking]
- [Shekinah] It's gorgeous. - Wow, yeah.
[Paola] Look at those eyes how are popping.
[Shekinah] Do you think Sumit is gonna love it?
- Yeah, of course. - Will he notice?
- Does he notice things like this? - Yeah.
Yeah, he'll notice, especially the eyelashes.
- OK, you're welcome. - Yeah, nice job.
- [Rebecca] Hello. - [Dr. Tyrone] Hey there.
- How are you guys? - Good.
- How are you? - Good.
Good to see you. Feel free to take a seat.
[Zied] Thank you.
How's the start to your day so far? Not too bad?
- Yeah. - Yeah?
- Better than yesterday. - Yeah?
[Rebecca] Things are still frosty between Zied and I
after our fight last night.
But we do have our one-on-one therapy today.
And I'm just really hoping this session
can give us both some insights.
So how did you feel about the group session yesterday?
Um...
That setting is good for that.
You know, you get to kind of know that you're not alone.
For me, yesterday was draining and I was uncomfortable
with the fact that he got so buddy-buddy with Sarper
after Sarper became very disrespectful to me.
As soon as we got back upstairs to our room,
it turned into a huge argument.
Then I felt like there was zero support from him.
[Dr. Tyrone] Mm-hmm.
[Rebecca] I said it twice.
- OK, I'm gonna pause. - Shouldn't it be more important
that he was disrespectful to me, than whether or not
I told him something?
Why couldn't you just be on my side?
[Zied] In this moment, yesterday.
When he start talking,
I'm not think he talk about-- to her specifically, but
I thought he be in men's side,
and she not like it.
She told him, "Shut up."
- When he talk about... - [Rebecca] No.
...men's side, about, like, me and him.
- We men and like-- - [Rebecca] No.
- [Dr. Tyrone] Mm-hmm. - Can I finish talk?
[tense music plays]
Don't stop me. Let me finish say what--
[Rebecca] Don't be rude.
You see, like, to con-- you wanna control me.
No, you're just repeating the same thing
over and over again.
The point is
I thought it was disrespectful.
And you hurt my feelings worse than he did.
When we got back to the room, you hurt my feelings.
Even if I'm wrong about those feelings,
you still hurt my feelings. - [Zied] OK, OK.
And you're still arguing that you didn't say
or do anything wrong.
I honestly can't even look at him.
- Why? - There's so much distance.
I feel stupid dressed up.
I feel like I don't belong here.
Aw.
♪ Ooh-ooh ♪
[tense, classical music plays]
♪ Ooh-ooh ♪
You hurt my feelings.
Even if I'm wrong about those feelings,
you still hurt my feelings,
and you're still arguing that you didn't say
or do anything wrong.
So I'm going to pause you right there,
because you feel like he doesn't understand your experience
and he doesn't understand that you were disrespected,
but we may need to help him get there and understand exactly
what your perspective is.
We have to slow down in these conversations or arguments
and break it up piece by piece.
Yes, sir.
[Dr. Tyrone] There's an emotional disconnect
because I think the language barrier is huge.
And it's not only a language barrier,
it's a cultural barrier, as well,
where it puts Zied in a place
where he constantly is trying to explain himself
and it puts Rebecca in a position where
she doesn't feel like he ever understands anything
that she's saying.
And that's gonna be a major challenge,
as they continue to move through this.
So Rebecca was asking
for an apology or acknowledgment
that her feelings were hurt.
I got you and I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings.
Alright?
How do you feel about the apology
that he's giving you?
- Thus far? - I-- I appreciate it.
But you see how quickly an argument just
almost happened just because of the misunderstanding.
You guys are from two completely different
ends of the world, right?
- Yeah. - Exactly.
And certain things that you may not see a problem with
or you think are just how it should be,
might be difficult for her to understand.
So both of you guys get very frustrated
and you guys have your own internal response
that is happening.
For you, you wanna fix it right away
and you start talking to him about it,
and if he doesn't give you that validation,
it does spark something in you where it just--
it puts you on that-- in a defensive space
and doesn't feel good.
And Rebecca, when you approach a situation aggressively
or angrily, he's going to shut down.
I could certainly learn to be less aggressive with my tone.
[Zied speaking]
[Dr. Tyrone] Stop? OK, OK.
[Rebecca] I've tried to be patient with the fact
that he's not great with English,
but I'm sure that I've screwed that up at times.
So I think that if you guys can maybe pause an argument
before it stops, it's OK for you to go to another room.
You can sit outside on the front porch.
You can get your emotions more clear, so it's easier
for you to express,
and it's gonna be easier for her to listen
and allow you that space because she understands
what you're trying to do in that moment.
[Rebecca] Dr. Grandison's right.
My initial instinct whenever Zied and I are fighting
is to push for a response, right away.
But Zied responds to things way more differently than I do.
And honestly, I tend to feel like I'm...
I feel like I'm right more often than I probably really am right.
And so I need to be a little bit more patient,
instead of assuming that he doesn't care.
I'll set up a-- what do they call it,
one of those actions on my phone
that automatically sets a 15 minute timer.
- Timer? Oh. - [Zied] You see?
[Dr. Tyrone] Rebecca and Zied's relationship,
they're gonna need a lot of work.
Both of them definitely have some fiery personalities,
but the love, the care is still present,
and hopefully they can give each other a chance
to actually explain and express what they need to.
I like the conversation with you, by the way.
[Dr. Tyrone] Oh, yeah? Good.
We're a work in progress, and this is step one.
This is definitely step one.
I'm back!
Wow, baby. You're looking pretty.
It's OK.
It's just different from how I do my makeup.
True. Good point.
Yeah, but really, I'm telling you,
you're looking very pretty.
Thank you!
- [Sumit laughs] - Oh, you don't recognize me.
[eerie, classical music plays]
[Guillermo] Kara, we're gonna be late.
[Kara] I'm almost-- I'm done.
- Huh? - I'm done.
Ooh!
[Guillermo] Oh, let me see.
- Yeah. - Girl...
- Uh-uh-ooh. - [Guillermo] No way.
- It's giving... - What's it giving?
- It's giving... wine. - Tudor.
It's giving wine.
Burgundy.
It's giving red wine.
Grape juice.
It's giving castle?
It's giving castle-ish.
Like I feel like I could blend into the floor.
[Guillermo] Huh?
[Paola speaking]
Actually, it's really cold here, but I don't even know
why am I sweating so much?
I'm very anxious for tonight.
Personally, I'm hoping for some good food.
[Paola] But for me,
I'm not like the person who can experience new stuff.
With food, mnh-mnh, no.
So I won't be eating,
unless they have rice and beans and pineapple pizza.
I'm pretty sure the British would take offense to that.
I haven't seen you wearing a turtleneck in a while.
[Paola speaking]
[Russ] You look great, too.
- Thank you. - Shiny.
[Paola] OK, let's go. Let's do this.
[eerie, classical music plays]
- Oh, it's here. - All right.
Time to have some fun.
Oh, wow. Look at this.
- [Thaís] Hello, wow! - [Patrick] Champagne.
[Thaís] Wow.
So we're gonna be queens tonight?
[Patrick] I'm excited, because there might be
pig with, like, an apple in the mouth
and just, like, turkey legs.
They might have a jester, too,
someone that just tells jokes.
- Oh, Sumit and Jenny. - Hi, guys!
- [Thaís] Hi! - [indistinct]
- Wow! - What's going on?
Oh, my God. You guys look so good.
Yeah.
[Thaís] Oh, I wanna try.
- Aw, that's so... - Oh, my God.
- Uh-oh. - Yeah, yeah, I get it.
- There you go. - You have to put it on right.
Hi!
[Jenny] Look at her sneaking in the door.
[Shekinah] Oh, you look like a queen!
- You look gorgeous. - Hi!
- Thank you, so do you. - Beautiful.
- [Sarper] Hello, guys. - Hi!
[Sarper] Nice.
- Looking good. - You look great.
- Looking good, let's-- - [Shekinah] Hi, guys.
- [Patrick] Hey, oh. - [Thaís] Hi!
Don't knock me over.
Ooh, wow! This is beautiful.
Oh, girl, my goodness.
[Kara] Sounds like a party!
- [everyone] Hi! - You guys look so pretty!
And you're all wearing crowns!
I know, right?
[Thaís] There is a tiara for you in there.
I feel like this one's supposed to be like that, no?
- Hi, everyone! - [group] Hello.
Welcome to your royal banquet.
- [Patrick] All right. - [Zied] Thank you.
A crucial element to these high society events
is etiquette.
Etiquette is particularly important in British culture,
but really, it's important in all relationships,
how we listen to each other,
how we communicate with each other.
It's a mark of respect.
And it is a sad truth, unfortunately,
that we are often rudest to the people that we love
and care about the most.
What I've noticed so far about the way these couples interact
is that there is a really notable lack of respect
for the most parts.
They talk over each other.
Some of the partners are, quite frankly,
yelling and screaming at their partner,
and they're doing this in front of other people.
So, what I'm really looking for this evening is
that the couples exhibit respect for each other.
They pay attention to etiquette,
not just for their partner, but for everyone in the group,
because the key to a happy and thriving relationship is
to understand how your partner desires to be treated.
So, the first instruction you were given was
to dress your best in proper formal attire.
So, Russ, how do you think Pao looks?
Stunning. She looks great.
- Thank you. - Shiny.
- She's beautiful. - [Persia] Thank you.
[Paola] Thank you.
And how do you think your man looks?
I chose his outfit.
[Persia] What are we thinking of the shoes, everyone?
- [Thaís] Oh, amazing. - [Shekinah] They're amazing.
But can you notice that Pao is looking at you very differently
from how she was looking at you yesterday?
Look how much she's smiling!
- Look how easy a fix that is. - Now, I'm blushing.
Yes, you're red.
How does that feel for you, Russ?
It's good, and it is good to see her looking at me
and admiring the way I'm looking.
You are handsome.
I'm not much of a turtleneck guy,
but I'm digging it.
There is something hot and sexy on a guy wearing a turtleneck,
and Russ is actually looking very hot.
And like, he's kind of turned me on.
- He looks so hot. - Grr.
OK, so what we can really establish from this is just
by putting in that little bit more effort into our appearance,
into dressing up, how much that makes your partner feel seen,
feel respected, feel that connection.
Most importantly, feel that desire for you.
- 100%. - OK, go on.
He has a very unique style and he's very
opinionated about it. - That's me?
- Yes. - Thank you.
But I'm grateful that he looks amazing tonight.
Sarper, how do you think Shekinah looks this evening?
[Persia] And how about Sarper?
He looks great.
Our first date.
How did it make you feel when you saw him this evening?
[Shekinah] I'm gonna cry.
It makes me feel sad.
I honestly can't even look at him.
- [Persia] Why? - Because yesterday was so hard
and he hasn't spoken to me since then and I just feel like
there's so much distance.
I feel stupid dressed up right now.
I feel like I don't belong here.
Ow...
[Patrick] Why is Shekinah crying?
- Already, it's way-- - Is this just for attention?
I just feel like everything Shekinah does is pretty cold
and calculated, so...
[tense music plays]
What you said in the other room,
that was harsh.
How'd you get there?
- Like what? - You said,
"I will never be naked in those pictures."
- [gasping] - [Patrick] Oh...
[tense, classical music plays]
[Shekinah] Yesterday was so hard.
I feel stupid dressed up right now.
I feel like I don't belong here.
Aw.
What do you feel would help close that distance between you?
I don't know, to be honest.
Whenever we have a big fight, Sarper gets defensive,
and I have to be the one to eventually coax him
out of the corner.
And I hate myself for doing it, but I do it anyways.
I feel like he should be the one coming to me
and apologizing,
but he actually refuses to talk to me.
I would like to know, what is the most meaningful
compliment that Sarper's ever given you, Shekinah?
He told me that he saw my inner child and he loved her.
And that meant a lot.
[Persia] And when was that?
It was when we first met.
Why don't you do it right now?
Why don't you turn to her, take each other's hands,
and tell her how you feel about her?
And how do you feel when you look at her now?
I love her.
- [Persia] Say it to her. - I do.
I love you.
I really want you to both work on just trying to stay with it,
and letting that connection develop between you.
Can you work on that this evening?
[Shekinah] Mm-hmm.
There was a real tension and energy between them.
I could feel she was still very much holding back.
I noticed her looking down at the floor a lot,
not wanting to catch Sarper's eyes,
let alone anyone else's eyes.
I think she's got a lot going on within her at the moment.
And I can see that there is
a lot of work to do with this couple.
Jenny, how do you think Sumit looks this evening?
I mean, he looks great.
I like to see him dress up.
And how do you think your wife looks today, Sumit?
[Sumit & Jenny laugh]
Well, aren't you lucky to have a wife who always looks good?
Yeah, I am. That's true.
[Kara] That's hard.
I mean, it's hard to hear, I think, as your wife.
But also, like, if that's his truth, like,
you know, I-- - Mnh-mnh.
Personally, if I was him, I would keep my mouth shut.
I mean, we are in therapy,
so you don't need to lie in this situation.
It's not like you are ugly.
Who is him to say it?
With his fake, giant glasses?
Kara and Guillermo,
what is the most meaningful compliment you've given
each other throughout the course of your relationship?
OK, and here's a thing that happens maybe more recently
is like he'll give me a compliment, like today.
He said, "Yeah, I think you're really smart,
But I don't think you use it."
OK, so you start well.
It's like he wants to be nice,
but it's like too hard for him to be nice.
So, then he has to end it with like a dig.
And I'm like, "Well, that didn't feel great."
So, what if you just right now gave her a compliment
without the dig?
The person that I fell in love with,
it have been the most beautiful person I ever met in my life,
and that is you.
And what was it that when you first met Guillermo
that made you fall for him?
I'm gonna cry.
I just felt like I had really found, like,
a good person.
So why don't you look at each other for a moment?
Take her hands.
And I want you to both give each other a compliment,
something sincere, something that you really do mean.
I believe, Kara, that you're a very authentic person
and actually, friendly and beautiful in the inside.
Do you feel proud when you look at her and think,
"That's the mother of my child?"
Does it make you feel proud?
No.
[intense music plays]
[tense, classical music plays]
♪ Eh-eh-eh-ye ♪
♪ Na-na-na Eh-eh-eh-ye ♪
♪ Uh-uh-uh-uh ♪
Do you feel proud when you look at her and think,
"That's the mother of my child?"
No.
♪ Ooh-ooh-ooh ♪
♪ Mmm-mmm Ooh-ooh ♪
[Persia] Why not?
I don't think that is something that
I would like to talk about right now.
OK, so this is something
we can dig into and explore, at dinner.
Because this whole evening really is about respect
and etiquette, and what these two things can do
for our relationships.
[Kara] It's just unbelievable to me.
It's one of the worst things,
I think, you can say to a mother.
And I don't know if he's doing it
because he really believes that,
or if he's trying to just hurt me because he's hurt.
I don't know, just--
I don't know what goes through his mind sometimes.
So, we're gonna move to the next section
of our evening together, which is the dinner.
- [Paola] Yay. - Yes!
- [Patrick] All right, let's eat. - [Zied] So...
- [Paola] Starving. - After you.
[eerie, classical music plays]
♪ La-la-la-la-la La-la-la-la-la-la ♪
- [Patrick] Oh, wow. - [Thaís] Oh, my God.
[Patrick] Look at this.
[Kara] Wow. Oh, my God, what?
- [Paola] Thank you. - [Guillermo] You're welcome.
Thank you.
[Sarper] I love that.
I feel like I've never seen that in, like,
well, the movies. - [Kara] Real life?
[Thaís] Oh, wow.
We don't eat with that much fork and spoons.
Personally, I don't like using forks.
I just like to eat everything with a spoon.
With my hands.
You're a caveman.
Then when you eat, too,
you're just slurping all the time.
I slurp?
Nargh.
So, as you're eating, I will keep an eye on you.
And if I notice any egregious mishaps,
I will, gently, let you know.
Bon appetit.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
[anticipating music plays]
[Thaís] Oh, vegetables.
[Sarper speaking]
[whistles]
I actually took etiquette classes when I was younger.
My mom sent me to, literally,
learn to walk with books on my head.
You can tell it was the '80s,
but we'll definitely have the best etiquette manners.
[Sarper] To therapy, guys.
Sarper, be very careful where you point that.
- [gasping] - Whoo-hoo!
[everyone] Oh...
[Patrick] Bro, that's not good etiquette.
[Kara] Bad etiquette.
I wanna watch where we're putting that fork, Sumit.
[Sumit] Sorry?
Just watch where we're putting that fork.
This one?
You raised it to her face.
- Nah, you're pointing at me. - Oh, I'm sorry.
Can anyone tell me the correct way to hold a wine glass?
Correct. Excellent wine etiquette.
Cheers.
[Persia] So in terms of the couple's manners,
we have a mixed bag.
There are a few people who are eating with their bare hands.
Some are even eating with their mouths open.
But at the same time, given what happened earlier
with Sarper and Shekinah
and Kara and Guillermo, it's clear to me
that the focus right now of this banquet has to become
less about the formal eating etiquette
and all about, can the couples exhibit respect for each other?
Can they demonstrate care and consideration
for their partners?
I just wanna remind everyone that the theme of this evening
is respect and etiquette,
not just dining etiquette rules,
also, the way that we interact with one another.
Is there anything that your partner does that feels,
maybe it's a very subtle thing,
that makes you feel very respected?
[Kara] Just feeling seen.
What makes you feel seen, Kara?
Just the work that I do, everything that I've done
as a mom.
- So it's acknowledging. - Yeah.
Um, like the stuff he just--
like what he just said in the room over there.
It's hard for me.
He can look me square in the eye,
as a mother,
and tell me that he's not proud
that I'm the mother of his child.
Yeah.
That was not nice, to be honest, to hear it.
I mean, what you said in the other room,
like... that was harsh.
How'd you get there?
There are some decisions that she take in life
that I definitely feel embarrassed of.
Was that when you guys were married and together?
Yeah.
Like what?
OK, let me elaborate my thing.
Um, you decided to start selling pictures
and videos online.
[tense music plays]
Yeah, I mean, I thought...
a platform where I can sell pictures of myself,
I can take pictures at home,
I can still take care of my son at home.
- No, no, no, no, no... - So I came to you and I said,
"Hey, this is something that I'm interested in doing"
...OK, listen. I want you to please listen,
and then after-- I'm gonna let you know,
and you can talk.
Is that OK? Cool.
OK, can we just remember
that we're here to try and practice being respectful
to our partners?
Just being aware of the language that we're using,
and most importantly, the tone
that we're communicating our words in.
[Guillermo speaking]
[Persia] What kind of pictures are we talking about?
Implied nudity.
- [gasps] - Oh...
Wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute.
Hold on.
I remember two years ago,
in the first conversation that she had with me,
she said very clear,
"Hey, I will be literally posting the same pictures
"that I post on my social media,
in bikini, you know, being sexy."
You said, "I will never be naked."
And I was like, "Hey, listen. I don't like this."
Yeah, I mean, he had his reservations,
but I think ultimately, we were like,
"OK, cool. Yeah, that's fine."
So that's what I did.
So what happened, from that place
of healthy communication to where you are now?
So, now I have this platform.
Yeah.
And I'm like, "I really wanna get back into music."
Music is something I've done my entire life.
How can I do that? It costs money.
I'm like, "OK, well, I have this income source.
Let me use that to pay for my music."
In the meantime, him and I are fighting a lot.
He tells me he doesn't like my music.
I feel completely unsupported.
And so, then we have a blow up, and then, he moves out.
Now I'm thinking, uh oh, single-momhood is expensive.
[Rebecca] Yep.
So guess what? My tits came out.
- [Thaís] Wow. - [Patrick] Goddamn.
[tense music plays]
[Patrick] Next time on "90 Day: The Last Resort."
I pay for him to go to get massages,
which I don't remember the last time I paid you for one,
and you said, "Thank you." - Why do you have to bring up
that you pay for it? - Because I do.
I don't have the support. I just have lash, lash, lash.
And it just tears me down.
Welcome to our first sex therapy session.
Who was your first celebrity crush
that you masturbated to?
This is when you were young?
I think Sumit's a little freak.
- My freak radar goes off around him. - Yeah.
[Thaís] But this guy--
Are you curious if he's a sex addict?
[tense music intensifies]
- That's my perspective. - It's not, what--
What is an easy-- what is easy about--
[tense music ends]