Previously on "90 Day: The Last Resort."
Come on, get on the bed.
Wait, stay right there. Got it.
I pay for him to go to get massages, which I don't
remember the last time I paid you for one, I used to think--
Why do you have to bring up that you pay for it?
- Because I do. - I don't have the support.
I just have lash, lash, lash,
and it just tears me down.
What I've heard repeatedly tonight is how important it is
for the women to feel seen by their partner.
And make sure you have a big wallet.
It's the guys that don't have money
that are always talking this way.
Hey, hey, listen, that's-- that's what I've been hearing.
If Guillermo was rich...
My butt [bleep] wouldn't be on the Internet.
There are other things that you could have done
to get money, but you went in an easy way.
What is an easy-- what is easy about--
Listen, listen, I'm done with that.
Welcome to our first sex therapy session.
Who was your first celebrity crush that you masturbated to?
I think Sumit's a little freak.
- My freak radar goes off. - Yeah...
I sent you guys a little sexual profile quiz.
Well, definitely a little different.
Are you curious if he's a sex addict?
- Yeah. - Oh, my God.
Do you have excessive masturbation desire
where you have to, like, stop in the middle of the day,
go to the bathroom and masturbate?
Uh, I mean...
Patrick, here's the question to ask yourself.
Do you have excessive masturbation desire
where you have to, like, stop in the middle of the day,
go to the bathroom and masturbate?
Not now, but I have.
And then lastly, do you consistently
and insistently initiate sex and will not take "No"
for an answer?
Yeah.
But I take "No" for-- I do take "No" for an answer.
OK, so with those answers...
Patrick, you have a high, very high sex drive...
but no, you don't have sex addiction.
She is explaining her experience,
and that is the truth and reality for her is
sometimes it feels too much.
There has to be some compromise, Patrick.
Right, right.
You have to keep an open mind and remember that you have
the same goal.
It's good to know that I'm not a sex addict.
Hearing from somebody that,
you know, actually studied about it,
it-- it's good to know that you were not,
'cause I really thought you were.
'What's the problem with wanting to have sex every day?
- I have to understand. - I know I'm not gonna get it.
Like, trust me.
I'm just gonna keep taking my swings, though.
I've been a salesman my entire life.
Like, rejection's part of the game.
- Alright, Jenny and Sumit. - Oh, no.
Oh, no, Jenny's like, "Oh, no."
Your sexual profile.
What do we have here? "Dynamic and consistent."
- So Sumit, you like changes? - Yeah, I like changes.
It's a safe place.
What kind of changes do you like?
Wait, wait a minute.
You get an erection when you see Jenny?
- Yeah. - Oh, I love that.
I hope that I have that much, like, sex drive in my 60s.
Definitely means you'll...
Oh, my God. Good luck with that.
You guys have sex in the kitchen?
- Not anymore. - Like...
Mom is there.
- That makes it harder. - Yeah.
It might just take, like, a lot of creativity.
It does, actually.
Wait, you-- you, like, shut her mouth?
Yeah, yeah.
- Jenny, are you a loud moaner? - Yeah.
I mean, I can be.
You're like a tigress but in hiding at the moment.
Yeah, at the moment. I miss it.
I could never have sex if your family was
in the same house.
I mean, no one gonna be happy with this situation.
When I moved to the United States,
we lived with Russ' parents,
but they put us in separate rooms,
and I was trying to sneak and get into his room
because, let's be honest, we already ate the cake.
I can understand how incredibly hard it would be,
but I hope I'm like Jenny, getting smashed
when I'm 65 or whatever. - I agree.
Clock it.
That's a place that both of you are very nostalgic about.
You just need the patience and the effort.
- Gotta stay positive, right? - Right.
OK, so you guys, Kara and Guillermo,
you have "Kinky and traditional."
So in my opinion, I'm definitely not traditional.
OK, so as kinky lovers,
what did you guys used to do in bed?
I like to be dommed.
Did you boss her around?
Yeah, he really, like, maybe it's the more
animalistic side, he just like, with a real confidence,
whip me around, turn me over, spank me,
whatever it is, you know?
Do you like ever think or have thoughts or fantasize about
the sex that you guys used to have?
Oh, yeah.
- Wow. - Kara.
Sex so good, he dreams about it.
Uh-oh.
Feels like a lot of pressure.
I mean, the man likes what he likes.
I don't know.
I mean, it's-- I feel really flattered.
The sex has always been a bright spot for us,
and so instead of having, like, every conversation lead
to an argument, we could focus on, like, the positive things
that we do have. It can be like a small bridge.
Small bridge.
For you guys who are passionate, fiery lovers,
I really want to help you get back to that space so that
you can reconnect your energy but also reconnect outside
of the realm of sexuality. - Yeah.
Awesome. Thank you so much for sharing.
Love this positive group energy.
OK, now, Shekinah and Sarper, what is it like in bed?
It's really hot.
But I'm the-- probably the most
traditional person ever.
We only do in one position. Nothing else.
- Which is? - Missionary.
Because I cannot otherwise finish.
- Oh, wow. - Like, not from [bleep],
nothing else. - Nothing.
But I think that Sarper did this to himself because he's
been very sexually active for most of his life. - Yeah.
Yeah.
Wait, how many people have you had sex with?
- As I counted. - 2,500?
No judgment, no judgment.
- You... - Are you judging?
My bull[bleep] detector is going off with this guy.
If you had done that, why would you brag about it?
That is horrid.
What is that, two a day?
Um...
Ehm...
Like, how has his [bleep] not fallen off yet?
So you said you can only [bleep] in one position.
- One. - Can you guys show us?
- Right here? - Do you want us to lay on the floor?
- Yeah. - Ooh, yes.
- Yeah, yeah. - Yes.
OK, OK.
- Oh. - This is me.
Alright, how-- how do you--
This is me.
- There we go. - This is real life now.
I literally have to be kissing right there.
Oh...
I wish.
Good job.
- Ooh-la-la. - Ooh-la-la.
That was so good.
So, with, like, the 2,500 people that you had
sex with, you had missionary sex with all of them?
Most of them. 99% of them.
I think you have sexual precision trauma.
- Yeah. - I think your brain is so drilled into, like,
"This is the only way,"
so that you only have one pleasure pathway.
How long does it take for you to [bleep]?
- 15 minutes, 20 minutes? - 15 minutes?
- Yeah. - 15 or?
I'm-- I-- I-- I...
You need to open more pathways in your brain,
but it takes patience.
You have to keep going, trying different things
in order to open other pathways.
OK. Hi, Pao, hi, Russ.
Russ, I actually, yeah, I wrote down in my note,
you said that you find kinky sex arousing...
but then you said that you're also proudly vanilla.
I like kinky sex, but I'm proudly vanilla.
'Cause that-- that's where I get the satisfaction.
My missionary is, I know what I'm doing, for me, I guess.
She doesn't care for it.
Well, not that she doesn't care for it, but...
I'm just too quick.
Uh, premature ejaculation?
I satisfy myself first.
Ooh, ooh.
So you brought it with you to the castle?
Oh, hell yeah.
OK.
If you're not satisfying your woman, like...
that's gonna be an issue.
Russ is kinda...
throwing himself under the bus.
What a tragedy.
Oh, Lord.
You know, like, there's a million ways
to skin a cat, you gotta talk to your partner, though.
But the guy just can't be, like, busting out,
and then the woman with zero. That's crazy.
That's absurd. That's just [bleep] rude.
If you don't mind me asking, why was it that
you'd rather do that than give him feedback?
Well, he makes me feel that he doesn't enjoy
[bleep] down there.
- Mm. - So it's just like,
ugh, I don't wanna even talk about it with him.
I've watched videos about how to do it.
I have done that, and I tried to do it
and follow through with it.
And then you're like, "No, no, just come on up."
Because you're doing it wrong.
And I feel like it just--
Yeah, but she won't give me any feedback.
It's just, "You're wrong.
Come on up."
Patrick and Thaís, I want you to align your sexual energy
through a tantric sex. - Oh, wow.
It's a little awkward demonstrating
in front of everyone.
- I want your [bleep]. - I want your [bleep].
Makes me feel that he doesn't enjoy [bleep] down there.
But she won't give me any feedback.
It's just, "You're wrong.
Come on up."
It can feel disheartening when a partner is like, "Yeah,
just, like, just get off. You're not helping me [bleep]."
At the same time, her feeling like you don't really have
her sexual well-being at heart,
that can also feel really disheartening as well.
At the end of the day, what's missing is
the communication part.
Romantic, passionate communication.
I feel like Pao's more interested in putting me down
and calling me a bad husband than actually listening to what
the sex therapist has to say.
She needs to be verbalizing these things.
I mean, I'm definitely open to adding...
a sex toy or two...
but there is a line. No butt stuff for me.
Now, we have Zied and Rebecca.
You're both dynamic, so you guys like
different things and changes and sex in different places?
- Yeah. - Yeah?
We can. I mean, we do.
What else do you guys do?
He does this Arabic or French thing,
usually Arabic thing.
- Oh. - The sexiest freaking thing
I've ever heard in my life.
Oh, wow, can we-- can we hear one sentence?
Um...
Yeah, it does it.
It almost sounds like a spell.
Yeah, it's like, "Sex with me."
Well, I guess perks of having
a non-native English speaker partner, right?
I don't think it works the same way
with English with him, so.
Do you find English dirty talk sexy?
- We love the dirty talk. - You do?
- Men's love. - Yeah, yeah.
- Dirty talk. - It's a fantasy for many men, you know?
Do you ever initiate dirty talk?
- I don't have to. - But he said it's-- sounds hot.
I think I'm shy to do it.
I'm gonna give you some homework to help you.
Great.
So a challenge for you is actually gonna be
a sensory deprivation activity.
- Ooh. - So you're gonna blindfold him.
And now he, you know, is in a position that
he can't really see, to help you not feel embarrassed and shy,
and then, Zied, why don't you pick sentences
that you feel like really hot, dirty talking,
and Rebecca's gonna say them to you.
Alright.
- Sounds good? - We can do that.
I feel like he's not saying much, but his facial expression
is very excited. - Yes, he's good.
He's like, inside, he's like this.
OK, well, up next, Patrick and Thaís.
Ooh.
There's nothing wrong with having high sex drive.
And one way to align your sexual energy is through
a tantric sex practice called the Yab-Yum.
It has something to do with the mouth.
Because yum-yum? Right?
Would you guys mind coming up here and do
a quick demonstration?
- Yeah. - Sure.
Patrick, you're gonna sit down cross-legged.
And Thaís, you're gonna sit on him with your legs
wrapped around him. - Pew, pew.
You're gonna look at each other and join foreheads.
I want you to say to each other some sexual affirmations.
Oh, wow.
I'm pumped about this tantric stuff,
but at the same time,
too, like, it's a little awkward
demonstrating in front of everyone.
Like, you know, I don't wanna get, like,
a half-chub and, like, get up and have to go back to my seat.
- Mm? - Yeah.
The first one is, "I love your sexual energy."
- One, two, three. - I love your sexual energy.
And the last one, Thaís, you're gonna say this
about his [bleep].
And Patrick, you're gonna say this about her [bleep].
Oh.
You're gonna say, "I want your..."
- I want your [bleep]. - I want your [bleep].
- Ooh. - Ooh.
Can we give them a round of applause?
Oh, good job, guys. Take your seats.
So that's your homework.
That's the best homework I've ever had.
Then Jenny and Sumit, your homework, it's called
Animal Kingdom.
You're gonna do a hot, passionate make out with a lot
of grabbing and a lot of heat. - Yeah.
I want loud moaning.
- Oh. - Oh, my God.
- Who's our neighbor? - I-- I am, I am, Jenny.
Shekinah, I'm gonna ask you to pick three different positions
that's not missionary.
And then you're gonna do them until you [bleep].
I'm motivated.
I'm gonna [bleep] her.
Russ and Pao...
what you're gonna do is the erogenous zones exploration.
Come up with eight different parts of your bodies
and you're gonna have your partner stimulate them.
And the partner will need to ask, "Is this a [bleep] yes?
Is it a maybe? Or is it a hell no?"
- Sounds good? - OK, yeah, OK.
- Alright, yeah. - It's-- yeah?
I wanna help Russ. He seems like a lost puppy.
He has good intentions.
He just hasn't been receiving proper training.
So what this is telling me is Russ is not a great lover,
but Pao is not a good communicator.
They need to be having better sex.
Quality over quantity.
Alright. Last but not least...
there is a bit of a sexual disconnection here.
And it's also been a while.
So I will ask you to try something new.
Sexual meditation.
Can you do that?
Yeah.
Guillermo?
Can you meditate together, just holding each other's hands?
Sure.
Thank you.
Alright, well, now I gotta let you guys go to do your homework.
- Alright, why not? - Let's go.
And I-- I will wanna hear about everything, OK?
- Thank you. - Thank you, guys.
- Thank you so much. - Bye.
Yeah, I mean, this is gonna be more fun.
I'm gonna show you what kind of animal I can be.
Come here, sexy beast.
OK.
Mm-hmm.
Oh, my God.
- You want that? - Mm-hmm.
- Hm. - Oh!
- OK. - OK, ready for the breaths?
Oh!
Mm.
Ah, ah!
I love that.
Oh.
Oh, oh, wow.
I will squeeze you.
Say it now.
- You like it? - Yeah.
OK.
- OK. - Come here.
Come here. Come here.
- Look at you. - Beautiful.
Put your feet down here. Lay down.
- With this on? - Put this on.
- You're so calm and focused. - Mm-hmm.
I'd love to.
OK.
- Hello. - Hey, how you doing?
Hi.
I'm good.
What do you think about sex therapy?
I mean, we got the homework from the sex therapist.
Let's do it.
Alright.
This is a guided meditation for couples with Dr. Tara.
Gently close your eyes.
The breath is a big part of your sexual vitality.
Let's synchronize the breaths.
Can you feel your partner in this moment of stillness?
You may open your eyes.
Continue to breathe. Look into each other's eyes.
And say, "I'm thankful for you."
I'm thankful for you.
Cool.
Why are you crying?
I just, you know, I think you just said,
"I'm thankful for you," because she told you
to say, "I'm thankful for you." You know?
Mm.
Well, when I said it, I meant it.
I feel like part of the meditation is to think
about the good moments. - Yeah.
And be thankful for those good moments.
Were you being honest when you said that you were thankful
for me? - Yeah, of course.
Thank you.
Well, maybe I should...
go now.
This exercise is a bittersweet,
because at this point she have done so many things
that I disagreed so much with.
It's hard to be grateful in my perspective in this point.
But... at the end you get there. And at least we have the chance
to have some empathy...
for each other.
Well, thank you very much for your time.
Again, I appreciate you.
And I hope you have a beautiful night.
Thank you.
Alright, good night.
Good night.
It's just hard.
You're trying to scare me?
No, but I don't think I can use my tongue with this.
Oh, my God.
This outfit is really something special.
- Yeah. - And I'm colorful from now on.
- You know what's funny, though? - What?
It was a different position, but you still had your things.
You still had, like, you still had this hand here.
- And I still had my mouth here. - OK.
- We cannot change everything at once. - But I was just on--
- When you are... - Baby steps.
...quit smoking, you cannot quit at one day.
- Baby steps. - Yeah, baby steps.
Yeah, OK.
- I love that call girl style. - Call girl?
That's called cowgirl, what we had-- we did.
- Cowgirl style. - Oh, cowgirl?
- What are you-- understand? - I thought you said call girl.
- Cowgirl. - Cowgirl.
It's a difficult word.
Yeah, we did cowgirl. We did a bunch of stuff.
- Hi! - Hola.
I'm in the UK.
Guillermo and I are in a little bit of like an awkward space
because of the banquet and the sex therapy.
But I think after the sex homework last night,
we've made a little progress.
Although it ended in tears, he was willing to participate.
And I think that's a big step for us.
Papá, listen, we called you to show you the castle.
Do you wanna see the castle?
Uh-huh.
- OK, look, it's a castle. - Look, look, look.
It's a real castle, papá.
Look, Papi...
Yeah, yeah.
Hi, baby.
Are you strong?
You're so strong. Wow, papá.
You're super strong, I know.
Yeah, are we gonna do it again?
Yeah.
Oh, yeah?
Let's go.
One, two, three, four, yes, five, six, seven, eight, nine.
OK.
Whoo!
Give it to me, baby.
OK.
- Run really fast. - Yes.
[bleep].
No, I was like, that's not right.
Yeah, let's go.
- Yeah. - Oh, yeah.
Run!
Sounds like he's gonna poop.
Why?
- Oh, my God. - Damn, she was going for it.
Get it.
- Wow. - No way.
- Wow. - What about you?
Not gonna lie, I didn't do my homework,
but he did half of that.
We had to write down eight erogenous zones.
So did you get an orgasm?
I didn't, I didn't.
We go-- I will try again today.
- Great. - OK.
- Oh, I'm starving. - Me too.
- Do you wanna sit here? - Yeah.
- Morning. - Morning.
- Oh, good morning. - Hi, how are you?
Good morning.
Hello. How are you, Jenny?
I think an English breakfast, you know, not really a big fan
of the blood sausage and the beans, like, every day?
I mean, if beans is really gassy.
Imagine the queen waving at people every day.
Yeah, just farting.
So how was your guys' night?
- It's good. - Yeah?
- We do our... we do our... - You did the homework?
- Homework, did you do, guys? - We did.
- How was last night? - Oh, it was great.
- It was great? - We did it twice.
We-- we did it once, went to sleep,
woke up in the night, and did it again.
That's amazing.
- Hi. - Hi.
- Good morning. - Do you wanna come sit with us?
- Morning. - Thank you.
- Of course. - How are you?
- Gorgeous. - You look amazing.
- Thank you. - You look gorgeous.
- Always. - So do you guys.
Let's find out how Shekinah's homework went.
- Oh, my God. - Did this work?
It did. It actually worked.
- For real? - Shut up.
- Yeah? - It actually worked.
- It's a little different, it's progress. - It's a change, yeah.
At least he knows now that he can do something different,
even if it's only a little different. - Yeah.
And hopefully that will relate to other things, like he can
change the way that he deals with conflict and his anger
and the way he talks to me maybe, and to show respect.
Now...
So...
- Hold it. - From this, "I love you,
I hate you.
"I love you.
I hate you. - I hate.
Yes.
- You stupid? - Yes.
- Are we ready for dancing a little? - Woo, yes!
- We all love dance, right? - Yes, yeah.
I wish Zied was here, you know?
But...
Yeah.
- You know? - No, but no, she's...
- She's fine now, she's our friend. - No, she's actually very fine.
- I-- we had-- yeah. - Yeah, we had a good time.
Oh, she's so scary.
She have to be because, you know,
don't drive 400 miles away.
She's the textbook definition of Karen.
You know what?
I hold grudges.
And I'm still pissed about the therapy session,
how she reacted.
To me, and if she crosses the line again...
Take your mats, put it there. Yep.
Yes, coach.
Guillermo, do you know how, like, divorce works here?
You could easily collect 50% of that money.
You are literally the worst.
Patrick is just a [bleep] starter.
He loves to bring up stuff for no reason.
I hate everything you say whenever you start talking.
I feel the same way about you.
You just talk about [bleep] that's not important,
like social media.
Do not be friends with this man.
Guillermo, you weren't here earlier.
We were all talking about our homework assignments.
Did you guys do your homework?
Oh. Oh.
Alright.
Yes, well, I did my assignment.
- Good. - Yeah.
- Proud of you, buddy. - Did you feel anything?
Like, did it feel like a connection or?
- Yeah, yeah. - Yeah, there was a kind of a connection,
but maybe not, like...
the best connection, I guess.
Do you want the connection?
I don't know.
That's-- that's honestly why I'm being here,
because I need to find out. I don't know what it is.
I don't like how Guillermo has behaved since getting here.
I really don't like how he shamed Kara
for what she's been doing.
And he did it in a very public way.
And I know we're here to talk about our issues,
but I think he went too far.
I just don't think he's a good guy.
Kara can do better.
There's a part of me that is like, "Yes," but there is that
other part of me that is like, "Hey, I need to be respected
in some way." Like, I don't feel respected.
Do you feel like you respect her?
'Cause I feel like you have to give respect to get it,
and I don't think some of the things you said
were very respectful.
The respect that I give her is the respect, like, enough.
- I never raise the voice to her. - Mm-hmm.
I never say mean things to her at all.
But it's just that I'm not fake.
It was pretty clear there was
a boundary that was, like, crossed.
And it has to do with like other men looking at his wife.
That-- that's tough to come by. I think for anyone.
Yeah, it...
So in order to be in a relationship with you,
OK, she has to quit the online content.
- OK. - Which she would then not be able to take care
of your son when it comes to money.
- Not necessarily. - Because she can't afford it
without the online content.
But like, it-- it-- to me it's so bizarre that the only way
she can have money is selling adult content.
It's like the only way that that could work.
But you-- but that's not what I'm asking you.
- But that's not what I'm asking you, Guillermo. - Real quick.
Guillermo, do you know how like divorce works here?
And does Kara understand that that money is half yours?
And so if you guys do get divorced,
you could easily collect 50% of it.
- You are literally the worst to have in his ear. - That's the--
That's just how the laws work.
No, it's not gonna happen unless he goes after that.
He needs to give an ultimatum, not give a threat to take 50%
if he divorces her.
It's like as soon as a man can get a W,
let's just-- let's just throw him under the bus.
Do not be friends with this man.
He's giving you the worst advice.
- He has the worst perspective. - No, but, then, then--
- It is-- - You're so off base with your viewpoints.
Well, I mean, I feel the same way about you.
You just talk about [bleep] that's not important like social media.
Patrick and Thaís are definitely a couple that
I wish weren't here, Patrick is just a [bleep] starter.
He loves to bring up stuff for no reason.
He likes to say his simple-minded opinions like
we all need them.
And I just find that really disrespectful.
I'm not one to just back down when somebody is being so rude.
I'm not gonna take it.
I hate everything you say, whenever you start talking.
Oh, my God.
Next time on "90 Day: The Last Resort."
He was joking about me?
Why is he--
Sarper can talk [bleep] all he wants behind my back,
but it'll be interesting to see what he says to my face.
Hey!
Ooh.
- Come on. - Just a little, yes.
Yeah, yeah!
- Bye. - Please shut your mouth and let me fight.
Shut your mouth?
You suck.
Get the [bleep] out of here.
No, no, no, we're not having people come out
and try to find out what happened.
- We're literally-- - Who are you-- who are you to tell what is OK?
- Guillermo, what's up? - I [bleep] up.
What up?
- [bleep], I'm gonna-- - What up?
- And the only way-- - What up?
- No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. - [bleep].