1 00:00:01,502 --> 00:00:03,753 Previously on "90 Day: The Last Resort." 2 00:00:03,754 --> 00:00:05,380 Alright, so now you've gotta go over the ledge 3 00:00:05,506 --> 00:00:06,381 further to the right. 4 00:00:06,507 --> 00:00:08,175 You got it, you got it, you got it. 5 00:00:08,300 --> 00:00:11,594 - You're doing it, yeah! - Yeah! 6 00:00:11,595 --> 00:00:13,555 I mean, not only did we kill this challenge, but, like, 7 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:15,598 I think we made a really good team. 8 00:00:15,599 --> 00:00:19,268 - Yay! - Amazing! 9 00:00:19,269 --> 00:00:20,686 - Good job! - Did you have fun? 10 00:00:20,687 --> 00:00:22,022 Good job. 11 00:00:23,941 --> 00:00:28,236 I find out that you've been lying to me about loans. 12 00:00:28,237 --> 00:00:32,449 Being married, you're supposed to talk to me about it first. 13 00:00:45,879 --> 00:00:47,548 That makes no sense. 14 00:00:50,217 --> 00:00:52,761 Yeah, I'm, I'm, not ready to have another child right now. 15 00:00:55,973 --> 00:00:57,057 You wanna see? 16 00:00:58,225 --> 00:00:59,393 Oh! 17 00:00:59,518 --> 00:01:00,602 Not pregnant, OK. 18 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:06,065 Even though I really wanna have more kids, I don't wanna 19 00:01:06,066 --> 00:01:07,234 bring another kid in this world 20 00:01:07,359 --> 00:01:08,902 and have our marriage fall apart. 21 00:01:11,780 --> 00:01:13,823 - I planned an activity. - Yeah. 22 00:01:13,824 --> 00:01:17,244 I was not expecting this. 23 00:01:17,369 --> 00:01:20,664 Happy 12-year anniversary. What you got there for me? 24 00:01:22,249 --> 00:01:24,585 Oh my God, please, Russ, don't be a necklace. 25 00:01:24,710 --> 00:01:25,835 What's wrong with the necklace? 26 00:01:25,836 --> 00:01:27,754 Because you have given me necklace so often. 27 00:01:27,879 --> 00:01:30,506 Yeah, well, necklaces are my favorite gift to you. 28 00:01:30,507 --> 00:01:31,508 I can tell. 29 00:01:40,642 --> 00:01:42,936 There's been a fair amount of conflict going on. 30 00:01:43,061 --> 00:01:44,812 How are we all doing? 31 00:01:44,813 --> 00:01:48,107 Shekinah, telling my wife to go back to her country is 32 00:01:48,108 --> 00:01:49,525 not OK. 33 00:01:49,526 --> 00:01:52,361 So you guys have no room for understanding. 34 00:01:52,362 --> 00:01:54,864 Right. We're the problem, Shekinah. 35 00:01:54,865 --> 00:01:57,617 I'm seeing a pattern here, how everyone else is wrong 36 00:01:57,618 --> 00:02:00,329 and never you. - I could have chosen 37 00:02:00,454 --> 00:02:01,704 different words at the pub. 38 00:02:01,705 --> 00:02:05,000 But to me, actions cut deeper than words, and I don't hear 39 00:02:05,125 --> 00:02:08,587 Thaís apologizing. - Sarper, you should run. 40 00:02:47,918 --> 00:02:49,835 We have got to find a way to figure this out. 41 00:02:49,836 --> 00:02:51,380 I'm not saying that all of you need to be 42 00:02:51,505 --> 00:02:53,172 best friends, OK? 43 00:02:53,173 --> 00:02:55,550 But we've gotta find a way to move forward. 44 00:02:55,676 --> 00:02:59,220 It sucks 'cause I-- I could see myself getting along 45 00:02:59,221 --> 00:03:00,514 with Sarper. 46 00:03:07,813 --> 00:03:11,525 I mean, Shekinah, you're so wrong here, and the fact that 47 00:03:11,650 --> 00:03:14,569 you can't see it is scary. - Right, right. 48 00:03:14,695 --> 00:03:15,904 It's not scary just 'cause you say it is. 49 00:03:16,029 --> 00:03:17,572 - Everyone-- - Look... 50 00:03:17,698 --> 00:03:19,741 - It's scary to us. - And it's not wrong just 'cause you say it is. 51 00:03:19,866 --> 00:03:21,868 - It's scary to us and that's why we're staying away from you. - We're talking now. 52 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:24,286 You know what? 53 00:03:24,287 --> 00:03:26,081 Shekinah is a difficult person, yes. 54 00:03:26,206 --> 00:03:28,916 I am the first person to know it. 55 00:03:28,917 --> 00:03:33,547 But this is so harsh. Let's keep the peace. 56 00:03:33,672 --> 00:03:34,881 That's what I want. 57 00:03:40,387 --> 00:03:42,304 We are in the middle of this retreat. 58 00:03:42,305 --> 00:03:44,598 We've gotta find a way to move forward. 59 00:03:44,599 --> 00:03:45,600 I mean, 60 00:03:52,774 --> 00:03:55,234 Can we agree to be cordial and civil to each other 61 00:03:55,235 --> 00:03:56,819 at the very least? - Yes. 62 00:03:56,820 --> 00:03:58,405 - Yeah. - Yes. 63 00:03:58,530 --> 00:04:00,156 OK. 64 00:04:00,157 --> 00:04:02,450 In spite of everything, I'm still sitting here. 65 00:04:02,451 --> 00:04:05,078 I'm trying to process what just happened. 66 00:04:05,203 --> 00:04:07,788 And, you know, I can see that there's all these puppets, 67 00:04:07,789 --> 00:04:10,792 and it seems like a playful, fun activity. 68 00:04:10,917 --> 00:04:14,336 I'm gonna try my best to be open to this exercise for now. 69 00:04:14,337 --> 00:04:15,756 But these people need way more 70 00:04:15,881 --> 00:04:17,549 than puppets to fix all their issues. 71 00:04:19,342 --> 00:04:23,637 OK, so we are going to be doing some puppet therapy. 72 00:04:23,638 --> 00:04:26,600 So a little bit of a light reprieve from the conversation 73 00:04:26,725 --> 00:04:27,976 we've just had. 74 00:04:28,101 --> 00:04:33,272 I am going to pick one partner from each couple, 75 00:04:33,273 --> 00:04:35,357 and they are going to be the puppeteer, 76 00:04:35,358 --> 00:04:39,780 and come up with a story to show their partner. 77 00:04:39,905 --> 00:04:42,156 The play can depict the core issues 78 00:04:42,157 --> 00:04:44,284 that the puppeteer wants to express. 79 00:04:44,409 --> 00:04:47,788 This stage here is going to be your canvas. 80 00:04:49,414 --> 00:04:52,458 It's clear to me that some of the partners are having 81 00:04:52,459 --> 00:04:55,878 problems expressing what's going on within them. 82 00:04:55,879 --> 00:04:58,881 So I think puppet therapy will be really helpful 83 00:04:58,882 --> 00:05:02,218 because it enables couples to use a bit of lightness 84 00:05:02,219 --> 00:05:05,680 and levity to take away some of that intensity. 85 00:05:05,806 --> 00:05:07,139 I'm really excited for them 86 00:05:07,140 --> 00:05:09,184 to try something completely new and out of the box. 87 00:05:10,227 --> 00:05:12,311 OK, so, Thaís. 88 00:05:12,312 --> 00:05:13,479 Oh, me? 89 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:15,689 You're going to be our first puppeteer. 90 00:05:15,690 --> 00:05:17,192 - I don't know any story. - You can. 91 00:05:17,317 --> 00:05:18,819 - I don't know what to do. - I believe you're 92 00:05:18,944 --> 00:05:20,612 gonna be phenomenal. - Just maybe you'll be inspired by the puppets. 93 00:05:25,242 --> 00:05:27,035 Aw. 94 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:28,954 Which puppets are you feeling inspired by? 95 00:05:32,165 --> 00:05:33,166 It's so funny. 96 00:05:42,592 --> 00:05:46,388 I talked to my brother, and there's still things that, 97 00:05:46,513 --> 00:05:48,014 like, I don't know what happened. 98 00:05:52,644 --> 00:05:53,520 - Hi. - OK, everyone. 99 00:05:53,645 --> 00:05:55,230 Can you put your hands together? 100 00:06:07,951 --> 00:06:10,035 Hey, hey, OK, everybody. 101 00:06:10,036 --> 00:06:11,413 Wait. 102 00:06:11,538 --> 00:06:13,080 - Yes, thank you. - Puppet. 103 00:06:13,081 --> 00:06:15,125 - Oh! - Oh, there you go. 104 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:18,920 Hey, Mrs. Patrick. 105 00:06:19,045 --> 00:06:20,046 Mr. Patrick? 106 00:06:21,923 --> 00:06:23,758 Hi, Mommy, Daddy. Hi. 107 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:30,432 Hey, you guys. You sparkles. 108 00:06:34,644 --> 00:06:36,812 I don't wanna talk to you today, because you were 109 00:06:36,813 --> 00:06:39,107 rude to me last night. You remember that? 110 00:06:40,358 --> 00:06:42,318 No, I don't. 111 00:06:42,319 --> 00:06:44,779 I don't see nothing wrong here, guys. 112 00:06:50,744 --> 00:06:53,413 Uh, I'm out, bye. 113 00:06:54,539 --> 00:06:58,585 I enjoy so much seeing my mom and my daddy together with me. 114 00:07:02,005 --> 00:07:06,134 - Yeah. - Woo, yeah, good job. 115 00:07:06,259 --> 00:07:07,260 Yay, well done. 116 00:07:07,385 --> 00:07:09,470 OK, just stay there for a moment. 117 00:07:09,471 --> 00:07:12,640 So Patrick, what is your immediate reaction? 118 00:07:12,641 --> 00:07:15,769 It looked like she wants us to all get along, but I've always 119 00:07:15,894 --> 00:07:18,313 kind of just felt like she has hated John. 120 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:21,857 Yeah. Piggy in the middle. 121 00:07:21,858 --> 00:07:23,151 She wanted to everyone be... 122 00:07:23,276 --> 00:07:24,319 Mm-hmm. 123 00:07:24,444 --> 00:07:26,821 Get along and be there for her. 124 00:07:26,947 --> 00:07:29,115 - Mm-hmm. - So I do everything for her. 125 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:31,952 If she needs that from me, I'll do for her. 126 00:07:32,077 --> 00:07:34,496 But with John, my brother-in-law, I feel like 127 00:07:34,621 --> 00:07:37,665 he comes to my home, he gets along with Patrick 128 00:07:37,666 --> 00:07:39,960 and Aleesi, but he ignore me. 129 00:07:40,085 --> 00:07:41,169 Right. 130 00:07:41,294 --> 00:07:43,171 I don't wanna feel like that in a family. 131 00:07:43,296 --> 00:07:45,631 What I'm seeing here is when you're zooming out and you're 132 00:07:45,632 --> 00:07:47,508 zooming into the future, that actually you both want 133 00:07:47,509 --> 00:07:48,801 the same things. 134 00:07:48,802 --> 00:07:51,220 You both want everyone to get along for your daughter, 135 00:07:51,221 --> 00:07:53,347 and, of course, for yourselves as well. 136 00:07:53,348 --> 00:07:55,391 Yeah, I mean, that's everything 137 00:07:55,392 --> 00:07:56,850 I wanted, too. 138 00:07:56,851 --> 00:08:00,980 So with that being said, I think what would be helpful 139 00:08:00,981 --> 00:08:04,359 is bringing John here for family therapy, and John is, 140 00:08:04,484 --> 00:08:05,902 in fact, going to be coming here. 141 00:08:08,321 --> 00:08:10,365 I think it's easy for me to realize, like, I'm always 142 00:08:10,490 --> 00:08:13,826 in the middle between John and Thaís, but Thaís helped me 143 00:08:13,827 --> 00:08:16,997 realize that our daughter's also in the middle now. 144 00:08:17,122 --> 00:08:18,331 This is the type of thing that, 145 00:08:18,456 --> 00:08:21,208 like, of why I wanted to come here. 146 00:08:21,209 --> 00:08:23,544 We just didn't have the capacity to have 147 00:08:23,545 --> 00:08:25,380 these type of conversations on our own. 148 00:08:25,505 --> 00:08:28,383 And I'm excited for family therapy. 149 00:08:28,508 --> 00:08:30,217 OK. Guillermo. 150 00:08:30,218 --> 00:08:31,970 - Oh. - You are up next. 151 00:08:34,014 --> 00:08:35,056 You got this. 152 00:08:35,181 --> 00:08:36,890 Guillermo's like, "You guys are not ready for this." 153 00:08:36,891 --> 00:08:38,018 I know. I don't know if I'm ready. 154 00:08:39,894 --> 00:08:41,895 - Hi. - Hi, are you ready? 155 00:08:41,896 --> 00:08:42,897 - Yeah. - OK. 156 00:08:45,191 --> 00:08:46,192 Ah, oh. 157 00:08:47,819 --> 00:08:51,030 - Oh, that's scary. - Hi, hi. 158 00:08:51,031 --> 00:08:56,369 I have a beautiful wife. She's an incredible singer. 159 00:08:56,494 --> 00:08:57,662 Let me show you. 160 00:09:04,502 --> 00:09:07,963 There was a time that actually, hmm, 161 00:09:07,964 --> 00:09:09,424 I made a little mistake. 162 00:09:14,637 --> 00:09:18,265 But my problem is like, right after the show, 163 00:09:18,266 --> 00:09:24,271 I'd be afraid that she will do more stuff than just sing. 164 00:09:24,272 --> 00:09:25,273 So I didn't go. 165 00:09:27,400 --> 00:09:29,401 Aw. 166 00:09:29,402 --> 00:09:30,403 And she got sad. 167 00:09:31,446 --> 00:09:32,447 Aw. 168 00:09:33,698 --> 00:09:35,617 Uh-oh. 169 00:09:35,742 --> 00:09:38,578 For a lot of people, alcohol is not a problem. 170 00:09:39,954 --> 00:09:43,082 But it was a problem for me because I've had 171 00:09:43,083 --> 00:09:46,628 a beautiful brother that sadly passed away because of it. 172 00:09:48,213 --> 00:09:49,255 It's hard to understand. 173 00:09:53,134 --> 00:09:54,510 But that's what it is. 174 00:09:54,511 --> 00:09:56,262 It doesn't have to do anything with her. 175 00:09:57,555 --> 00:09:59,348 And I'm sorry. 176 00:09:59,349 --> 00:10:00,350 Anyway. 177 00:10:02,352 --> 00:10:03,353 Aww. 178 00:10:07,774 --> 00:10:09,775 - Yay, that was good! - Yay! 179 00:10:09,776 --> 00:10:11,193 Very good. 180 00:10:11,194 --> 00:10:12,112 - Good job. - That was amazing. 181 00:10:12,237 --> 00:10:13,321 Good job, good job, good job. 182 00:10:13,446 --> 00:10:16,031 So Kara, how did that feel watching that play? 183 00:10:16,032 --> 00:10:20,202 Are you aware of the connection between what happened with 184 00:10:20,203 --> 00:10:23,038 Guillermo's brother and alcohol? 185 00:10:23,039 --> 00:10:25,375 Yeah, and I can't not take accountability. 186 00:10:28,503 --> 00:10:30,838 But, like, it was just another way he was showing me that 187 00:10:30,839 --> 00:10:33,133 he doesn't support my goals. - Mm-hmm. 188 00:10:33,258 --> 00:10:34,592 You know? 189 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:40,473 Like, seeing you after the show and be, like, 190 00:10:40,598 --> 00:10:43,392 flirty with other guys and accepting drinks 191 00:10:43,393 --> 00:10:44,853 from other people. 192 00:10:44,978 --> 00:10:46,479 I don't see myself being flirty. 193 00:10:46,604 --> 00:10:48,522 It's just how I am. 194 00:10:48,523 --> 00:10:49,524 You know? 195 00:10:49,649 --> 00:10:51,359 So like, I wish you had trust in me 196 00:10:52,485 --> 00:10:54,362 to know I wouldn't do that. 197 00:10:58,158 --> 00:11:00,660 I actually would like you to just go up and stand 198 00:11:00,785 --> 00:11:02,244 next to him. - Oh, God, yeah, really? 199 00:11:04,581 --> 00:11:07,249 I just want you to look at each other and that degree 200 00:11:07,250 --> 00:11:12,172 of vulnerability that you shared in that puppet production. 201 00:11:12,297 --> 00:11:13,506 I just wanna see if you can 202 00:11:14,841 --> 00:11:16,843 give that to Kara, just directly to her. 203 00:11:17,969 --> 00:11:18,970 I apologize 204 00:11:20,722 --> 00:11:23,016 for maybe not showing up 205 00:11:24,851 --> 00:11:28,521 in times that you really wanted me to be there. 206 00:11:28,646 --> 00:11:34,943 I wanted you to be super famous and sing every beautiful word. 207 00:11:34,944 --> 00:11:37,030 But at the same time, I wanted you to come back home... 208 00:11:38,323 --> 00:11:39,574 to me. 209 00:11:39,699 --> 00:11:42,827 I hear you. And I'm sorry that if 210 00:11:44,370 --> 00:11:47,582 me being out made you feel unsafe. 211 00:11:47,707 --> 00:11:50,250 'Cause I didn't want it to be that way, you know? 212 00:11:50,251 --> 00:11:51,252 And I'm sorry. 213 00:11:53,254 --> 00:11:54,380 You maybe give each other a hug? 214 00:11:58,343 --> 00:12:00,135 Good job, guys. 215 00:12:00,136 --> 00:12:01,262 The power of the puppets. 216 00:12:03,264 --> 00:12:06,558 I want us to take another baby step in the direction of 217 00:12:06,559 --> 00:12:09,311 potential reconciliation. 218 00:12:09,312 --> 00:12:12,773 And I would like you both to go on a date as though you are 219 00:12:12,774 --> 00:12:15,484 two strangers meeting for the first time. 220 00:12:15,485 --> 00:12:18,655 So not talking about the past. Do you think you can do that? 221 00:12:19,781 --> 00:12:20,740 Yeah. 222 00:12:20,865 --> 00:12:22,241 OK, well done. 223 00:12:22,242 --> 00:12:23,701 - Good job. - Good job. 224 00:12:25,703 --> 00:12:29,290 OK, so our next performer is... 225 00:12:31,209 --> 00:12:32,210 Shekinah. 226 00:12:37,298 --> 00:12:38,549 Do you wanna come over here with me? 227 00:12:39,759 --> 00:12:42,135 This doesn't feel like a safe space for me 228 00:12:42,136 --> 00:12:44,264 to express myself at all. 229 00:12:49,727 --> 00:12:52,480 I feel like doing this exercise takes a certain level 230 00:12:52,605 --> 00:12:56,316 of vulnerability, and I was just attacked by a whole group 231 00:12:56,317 --> 00:12:59,027 of people, very hostile, angry people. 232 00:12:59,028 --> 00:13:00,780 This is not a safe space. 233 00:13:00,905 --> 00:13:02,864 Like, if we were doing trust falls, they would just 234 00:13:02,865 --> 00:13:03,866 let me fall on my ass. 235 00:13:05,618 --> 00:13:09,789 OK, guys, so is there a way that we can make this feel like 236 00:13:09,914 --> 00:13:11,499 a supportive space for her? - Yep. 237 00:13:11,624 --> 00:13:12,666 - To do this? - 100%. 238 00:13:12,667 --> 00:13:14,126 - Yeah. - OK. 239 00:13:14,127 --> 00:13:15,628 Yeah, we all said we were gonna be cordial. 240 00:13:15,753 --> 00:13:17,129 - OK. - Can I say something? 241 00:13:17,130 --> 00:13:18,131 - Yeah. - I don't think so. 242 00:13:27,598 --> 00:13:31,102 So what would a normal day look like if it were better for you? 243 00:13:36,232 --> 00:13:39,192 I didn't spend years building my career just to trade 244 00:13:39,193 --> 00:13:41,404 my manager's badge for an apron. 245 00:13:45,408 --> 00:13:48,744 Pao, I wanna say something. Russ is a real man. 246 00:13:48,745 --> 00:13:51,204 If I was in his shoes and, like, you treated me 247 00:13:51,205 --> 00:13:53,666 the way you treat Russ, like, I would have been gone 248 00:13:53,791 --> 00:13:55,710 a long time ago. - Well, OK... 249 00:14:11,351 --> 00:14:14,644 So is there a way that we can make this feel like 250 00:14:14,645 --> 00:14:16,773 a supportive space for her? Yeah? 251 00:14:16,898 --> 00:14:19,400 - I don't think so. - OK. 252 00:14:19,525 --> 00:14:20,568 Go on. 253 00:14:20,693 --> 00:14:24,738 Well, if you ask for respect, you should give respect. 254 00:14:24,739 --> 00:14:28,158 And when I was back there you were like kind of like 255 00:14:28,159 --> 00:14:30,119 putting your eyes closed and like sleeping 256 00:14:30,244 --> 00:14:32,162 on your-- on Sarper. 257 00:14:32,163 --> 00:14:33,956 I have no capacity-- 258 00:14:34,082 --> 00:14:38,127 I have no capacity to absorb anyone else's issues, 259 00:14:38,252 --> 00:14:40,296 to process anything going on right now. 260 00:14:40,421 --> 00:14:43,633 I'm not in a good headspace, and I'm sorry that you feel 261 00:14:43,758 --> 00:14:46,135 disrespected that I was disassociating, 262 00:14:46,260 --> 00:14:50,139 but I need to do that right now to survive this experience. 263 00:14:50,264 --> 00:14:51,599 It has nothing to do with you. 264 00:14:53,684 --> 00:14:56,853 I'm just so sick of Shekinah's BS. 265 00:14:56,854 --> 00:14:58,605 She just wants to be the victim. 266 00:15:09,742 --> 00:15:15,456 OK so Sarper, how would you feel about taking Shekinah's place? 267 00:15:15,581 --> 00:15:17,374 Yeah? 268 00:15:17,375 --> 00:15:18,626 OK. 269 00:15:21,379 --> 00:15:22,755 I don't feel like you have to. 270 00:15:24,465 --> 00:15:26,175 Oh, my God, Sarper's version is gonna be hilarious. 271 00:16:00,126 --> 00:16:04,046 My baby, when I show any possessiveness to her, 272 00:16:04,172 --> 00:16:05,298 she gets offended. 273 00:16:30,364 --> 00:16:31,907 No, not acceptable. 274 00:17:11,656 --> 00:17:13,449 Thank you, guys, listening to me. 275 00:17:13,574 --> 00:17:16,536 - Good job. - Aww, whoo, that was good. 276 00:17:17,537 --> 00:17:20,580 Puppet Sarper did use quite a strong word. 277 00:17:20,581 --> 00:17:24,918 - He called his wife "Bitch" in the performance. - Yeah. 278 00:17:24,919 --> 00:17:28,004 So I'm interested to hear from you, Shekinah. 279 00:17:28,005 --> 00:17:30,299 Is that energy something that you've experienced 280 00:17:30,424 --> 00:17:33,261 in your marriage? - I think he's just being funny. 281 00:17:34,262 --> 00:17:36,471 When it's surrounded in Turkish swear words, 282 00:17:36,472 --> 00:17:40,475 then I know it's not good. Like, it's startling. 283 00:17:40,476 --> 00:17:41,769 Like, can you do it right now? 284 00:17:42,770 --> 00:17:45,773 - Babe, who are you looking at? - Yeah, . 285 00:17:48,276 --> 00:17:51,654 - Yeah, it's-- and this-- and it's... - Like, you see, I mean. 286 00:17:52,738 --> 00:17:56,617 - Do you see how it's like, "tss, tss", like sharp and-- - It's like a consonant, yeah. 287 00:17:56,742 --> 00:18:00,162 And it startles me and it like makes my heart jump. 288 00:18:00,288 --> 00:18:02,373 - I feel like he's losing control. - Mm-hmm. 289 00:18:04,667 --> 00:18:06,210 And I want him to be in control. 290 00:18:07,795 --> 00:18:11,881 Can you just try cursing a little bit softer in Turkish? 291 00:18:11,882 --> 00:18:13,342 Yes. 292 00:18:13,467 --> 00:18:15,803 I don't think I've ever heard you swear softly in Turkish. 293 00:18:16,846 --> 00:18:18,472 Let me hear it. 294 00:18:20,683 --> 00:18:22,809 - Oh, that actually sounds cute. - Really? 295 00:18:22,810 --> 00:18:25,146 Yeah, it sounds like a kind of romantic. 296 00:18:26,897 --> 00:18:29,065 I know you're not saying nice things. 297 00:18:29,066 --> 00:18:30,735 - Am I? - I know you're not. 298 00:18:34,363 --> 00:18:38,033 Disrespect, this is a core theme that plays out 299 00:18:38,034 --> 00:18:40,036 in your relationship again and again. 300 00:18:40,161 --> 00:18:41,370 Mm-hmm. 301 00:18:41,495 --> 00:18:46,208 I'm interested to understand how you guys have felt in terms 302 00:18:46,334 --> 00:18:49,252 of respect with your partners since the royal banquet. 303 00:18:49,253 --> 00:18:50,338 Patrick and Thaís, 304 00:18:51,505 --> 00:18:53,215 how about you? 305 00:18:53,341 --> 00:18:56,344 The disrespect in our relationship is more about 306 00:18:56,469 --> 00:18:59,387 when I'm talking outside our relationship. 307 00:18:59,388 --> 00:19:02,850 I say too much and then she views it as disrespect. 308 00:19:03,934 --> 00:19:08,104 Thaís, you feel that Patrick over shares. 309 00:19:08,105 --> 00:19:11,066 Yes, I feel like Patrick over shares, especially 310 00:19:11,067 --> 00:19:12,525 with his brother. 311 00:19:12,526 --> 00:19:16,863 He's not like someone that Patrick would ask for advice 312 00:19:16,864 --> 00:19:18,865 and he would give like a good advice. 313 00:19:18,866 --> 00:19:20,910 Hey, can you shut the [bleep] up? 314 00:19:21,035 --> 00:19:23,579 - Other people are talking. - I'm not talking to you 315 00:19:23,704 --> 00:19:25,581 or other people. - Yeah, it's so [bleep] rude though. 316 00:19:25,706 --> 00:19:27,248 - You're being rude. - No, you're being [bleep] rude. 317 00:19:27,249 --> 00:19:28,708 I'm not even talking to you. 318 00:19:28,709 --> 00:19:31,087 - Bro. - You're talking when someone else is sharing. 319 00:19:31,212 --> 00:19:33,963 'Cause my husband is having to stand listening to all 320 00:19:33,964 --> 00:19:35,048 of this for hours. - He's just standing. 321 00:19:35,049 --> 00:19:37,759 This was about us and now it's about them. 322 00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:40,221 If it's somebody else's turn, can he come sit here, please? 323 00:19:40,346 --> 00:19:42,431 - That's all I'm saying. - Can you go home? 324 00:19:42,556 --> 00:19:44,974 OK, let's come back to the two of you. 325 00:19:44,975 --> 00:19:46,227 I just want it to be over though. 326 00:19:46,352 --> 00:19:47,937 I don't even want to talk about us anymore. 327 00:19:48,062 --> 00:19:51,815 - Like, this space is so toxic for me. - Patrick, Shekinah. 328 00:19:51,816 --> 00:19:53,149 This is not even about us. 329 00:19:53,150 --> 00:19:54,568 - This girl just won't pipe down. - This is group therapy. 330 00:19:54,694 --> 00:19:56,612 You've just never been a part of it to understand 331 00:19:56,737 --> 00:19:59,072 how it works. - Like, I wanna leave the resort. 332 00:19:59,073 --> 00:20:01,117 - I wanna be done with all of this. - OK, OK, look, look. 333 00:20:01,242 --> 00:20:03,159 - I'm so done. - Sarper, go, go and sit down. 334 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:04,203 - Go and sit down. - Enough. 335 00:20:07,581 --> 00:20:08,582 Oh, my God. 336 00:20:10,501 --> 00:20:11,668 OK. 337 00:20:11,669 --> 00:20:14,087 Let's take five minutes and reset, OK? 338 00:20:14,088 --> 00:20:15,423 - Thank you. - Thank you. 339 00:20:17,007 --> 00:20:18,008 I'm so cold. 340 00:20:32,398 --> 00:20:36,986 I came here because my marriage is struggling and I wanted help. 341 00:20:37,111 --> 00:20:39,654 I never expected that my biggest challenge here would be 342 00:20:39,655 --> 00:20:41,157 my relationship with the other couples. 343 00:20:49,457 --> 00:20:50,666 OK. 344 00:20:50,791 --> 00:20:52,667 This might be the last straw for me, 345 00:20:52,668 --> 00:20:54,670 I'm seriously considering going home. 346 00:21:11,645 --> 00:21:16,066 So Sarper and Shekinah have decided to leave group therapy 347 00:21:16,192 --> 00:21:17,193 for this session. 348 00:21:18,611 --> 00:21:19,862 As always. 349 00:21:19,987 --> 00:21:21,696 So we're gonna let them take some space, 350 00:21:21,697 --> 00:21:24,199 but I want us to keep going, because there has been 351 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,618 some really good progress made so far. 352 00:21:26,619 --> 00:21:30,872 So we have one final performance. 353 00:21:30,873 --> 00:21:33,709 - Da-da-dum. - Where is Zied? 354 00:21:33,834 --> 00:21:35,794 Zied, it is your starring moment. 355 00:21:35,795 --> 00:21:38,714 - It is your time to shine. - I genuinely want to see this. 356 00:21:38,839 --> 00:21:40,382 - This should be good. - You can do it. 357 00:21:40,508 --> 00:21:41,634 - Go, Zied! - It's gonna be so good. 358 00:21:43,719 --> 00:21:45,595 - I never do this before, so... - It's alright. 359 00:21:45,596 --> 00:21:46,972 - I'm sure you'll be great. - Yeah. 360 00:22:07,910 --> 00:22:10,411 - Hi, guys. - Hi, Zied. 361 00:22:10,412 --> 00:22:15,417 Today, I'm gonna tell you about one single day, 362 00:22:15,543 --> 00:22:20,089 how I'm living my last five [bleep] years. 363 00:22:20,214 --> 00:22:21,215 I just wake up 364 00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:23,801 by myself. 365 00:22:25,302 --> 00:22:27,763 I go work, and I go back home. 366 00:22:33,060 --> 00:22:34,645 but no, 367 00:22:34,770 --> 00:22:39,191 because she be in her office all the single mother[bleep] day. 368 00:22:45,281 --> 00:22:46,364 Oh, wow. 369 00:22:46,365 --> 00:22:48,242 Hey, babe. How are you, babe? 370 00:22:50,744 --> 00:22:51,745 Are you still at work? 371 00:22:54,039 --> 00:22:55,040 I go away. 372 00:22:57,293 --> 00:22:58,294 She goes sleep. 373 00:22:59,920 --> 00:23:00,921 And I stay alone. 374 00:23:02,506 --> 00:23:05,301 This is my day every single day. 375 00:23:06,468 --> 00:23:09,804 I have the love of my life. 376 00:23:09,805 --> 00:23:12,933 But we're not close enough. 377 00:23:16,145 --> 00:23:17,479 Hopefully you enjoy my story. 378 00:23:19,356 --> 00:23:23,735 Zied's puppet show is funny, but also deeply sad. 379 00:23:23,736 --> 00:23:25,320 It's hard. 380 00:23:25,321 --> 00:23:27,822 There's a lot of Americans that they don't understand, 381 00:23:27,823 --> 00:23:29,657 even some of the Americans here. 382 00:23:29,658 --> 00:23:32,995 Not only do we have our own marriage problems... 383 00:23:41,503 --> 00:23:42,503 - Good job, babe. - Yay! 384 00:23:42,504 --> 00:23:43,881 - Well done. - Good job. 385 00:23:44,006 --> 00:23:46,342 Excellent, I think you have a new career in puppetry. 386 00:23:46,467 --> 00:23:47,885 - I know. - Yeah. 387 00:23:48,010 --> 00:23:50,053 Can I ask, Rebecca, can I ask you just to go and stand 388 00:23:50,054 --> 00:23:54,016 next to Zied up there? I just want you to be together. 389 00:23:54,141 --> 00:23:55,350 - OK. - Have a moment together. 390 00:23:55,351 --> 00:23:56,601 Yep. 391 00:23:56,602 --> 00:24:00,438 Rebecca, I'd love you to share with Zied just how it felt 392 00:24:00,439 --> 00:24:02,358 watching that puppet show. 393 00:24:03,651 --> 00:24:04,693 It was hard. 394 00:24:05,736 --> 00:24:11,367 It was really hard to understand how lonely you are. 395 00:24:11,492 --> 00:24:14,911 I feel so accomplished at my job, and I love it so much, 396 00:24:14,912 --> 00:24:18,247 and the pay is great, but it's coming at a cost 397 00:24:18,248 --> 00:24:20,209 of our relationship. 398 00:24:22,544 --> 00:24:25,589 Are you both willing to work on this? 399 00:24:25,714 --> 00:24:27,298 - Very much. - Yeah. 400 00:24:27,299 --> 00:24:29,133 But something needs to change. 401 00:24:29,134 --> 00:24:30,302 Yes, exactly. 402 00:24:31,512 --> 00:24:33,222 So I have some homework for you. 403 00:24:33,347 --> 00:24:37,393 I want you to write a list about the things that you like 404 00:24:37,518 --> 00:24:38,686 about each other. 405 00:24:45,693 --> 00:24:46,734 Does that make sense to you? 406 00:24:46,735 --> 00:24:47,778 Mm-hmm. 407 00:24:47,903 --> 00:24:49,112 - OK. - Yeah? 408 00:24:49,113 --> 00:24:50,947 You guys can come and sit down now. 409 00:24:50,948 --> 00:24:52,407 - Thank you, doctor. - Yay, good job, guys. 410 00:24:52,408 --> 00:24:53,616 - Yeah. - Well done. 411 00:24:53,617 --> 00:24:55,411 Thank you, thank you, thank you. 412 00:24:55,536 --> 00:24:58,955 I'm honestly shocked that it took playing with puppets 413 00:24:58,956 --> 00:25:01,750 for me to see things from your point of view. 414 00:25:05,087 --> 00:25:06,463 No puppets in the bedroom. 415 00:25:06,588 --> 00:25:08,966 You and the puppets can have a romantic night alone. 416 00:25:12,845 --> 00:25:13,762 You do that. 417 00:25:13,887 --> 00:25:15,139 I don't need to hear about it later. 418 00:25:15,264 --> 00:25:16,305 What happens with the puppets, 419 00:25:16,306 --> 00:25:17,433 stays with the puppets, I guess. 420 00:25:19,393 --> 00:25:21,645 Great job today. You're free to go. 421 00:25:21,770 --> 00:25:23,272 Alright, thank you. Thank you so much. 422 00:25:23,397 --> 00:25:24,605 Thank you. 423 00:25:24,606 --> 00:25:26,108 - That was fun. - That was so cute. 424 00:25:37,411 --> 00:25:38,579 - It's so pretty. - Mm-hmm. 425 00:25:39,788 --> 00:25:41,040 - You wanna sit here? - Mm-hmm. 426 00:25:44,710 --> 00:25:46,462 OK. 427 00:25:46,587 --> 00:25:47,713 Ready to do some homework? 428 00:25:49,006 --> 00:25:50,340 Hmm. 429 00:25:50,466 --> 00:25:52,926 You're gonna write a list of things you like about me. 430 00:26:04,938 --> 00:26:06,065 OK, you want me to go first? 431 00:26:07,274 --> 00:26:09,067 - Go ahead. - OK. 432 00:26:09,068 --> 00:26:11,153 I like that you are always up for an adventure. 433 00:26:12,821 --> 00:26:16,992 I like that you care so much for your family and my family. 434 00:26:17,117 --> 00:26:20,078 - Mhm. - I like that you are funny. 435 00:26:20,079 --> 00:26:22,289 And I like that you are so sexy and romantic. 436 00:26:45,729 --> 00:26:48,898 So what would a normal day, what would that look like 437 00:26:48,899 --> 00:26:51,859 if it were better for you? 438 00:26:51,860 --> 00:26:53,362 So like... 439 00:27:08,877 --> 00:27:10,045 [bleep]. 440 00:27:13,423 --> 00:27:14,508 I already cook for you. 441 00:27:29,690 --> 00:27:31,066 I do not want to go back to 1980. 442 00:27:34,278 --> 00:27:37,905 Zied saying that he wants, you know, a wife from the '80s. 443 00:27:37,906 --> 00:27:40,241 He wasn't even born in the '80s. 444 00:27:40,242 --> 00:27:41,660 How does he know what a wife was like? 445 00:27:42,953 --> 00:27:45,746 And I didn't spend years building my career just 446 00:27:45,747 --> 00:27:48,333 to trade my manager's badge for an apron. 447 00:27:50,169 --> 00:27:52,629 You don't want me to quit my job because you enjoy the money. 448 00:27:53,797 --> 00:27:56,633 But you wanna make me feel like [bleep] for working so much. 449 00:27:56,758 --> 00:27:58,801 - No. - What the [bleep] am I supposed to do? 450 00:27:58,802 --> 00:28:00,179 I don't see that. 451 00:28:10,522 --> 00:28:12,607 You want someone to wait on you hand and foot. 452 00:28:12,608 --> 00:28:14,775 'Cause that's your culture. 453 00:28:14,776 --> 00:28:16,944 Because you are putting me up against a standard that 454 00:28:16,945 --> 00:28:19,489 is [bleep] impossible. - I don't say that. 455 00:28:19,615 --> 00:28:23,451 You want a wife that makes the money 456 00:28:23,452 --> 00:28:27,706 and also takes care of you. You cannot have both. 457 00:28:34,963 --> 00:28:36,381 Then just go ahead and leave. 458 00:28:37,507 --> 00:28:38,967 Why waste any more time? 459 00:28:41,011 --> 00:28:42,012 To be honest, 460 00:28:43,388 --> 00:28:45,890 I'm feeling worse about our relationship right now 461 00:28:45,891 --> 00:28:47,142 than I ever have. 462 00:29:15,379 --> 00:29:16,546 Come in. 463 00:29:18,215 --> 00:29:20,591 - Hi, guys. - Oh, my God. 464 00:29:20,592 --> 00:29:22,928 - How are you doing? - Thanks for coming by. 465 00:29:23,053 --> 00:29:24,887 No problem. 466 00:29:24,888 --> 00:29:27,556 I felt that I needed to go to Sarper and Shekinah's room 467 00:29:27,557 --> 00:29:31,103 because that was a really uncomfortable situation 468 00:29:31,228 --> 00:29:34,313 in puppet therapy earlier, which is not a good thing. 469 00:29:34,314 --> 00:29:37,276 They are here to work on their issues as a couple, 470 00:29:37,401 --> 00:29:41,320 and it concerns me that what's happening with the group 471 00:29:41,321 --> 00:29:44,156 right now is just a big distraction. 472 00:29:44,157 --> 00:29:46,659 Pff, so how are you guys feeling after that? 473 00:29:46,660 --> 00:29:48,495 I feel like it couldn't have gone worse. 474 00:29:55,419 --> 00:29:56,585 Yeah. 475 00:29:56,586 --> 00:29:59,131 I'm the least racist person on the planet. 476 00:29:59,256 --> 00:30:01,424 People are very sensitive about those words. 477 00:30:01,425 --> 00:30:02,633 They are loaded. 478 00:30:02,634 --> 00:30:04,302 Whether you mean it or not, it's how they're 479 00:30:04,303 --> 00:30:05,511 gonna interpret it. - OK. 480 00:30:05,512 --> 00:30:06,762 - Yeah, - And I understand why they did it. 481 00:30:06,763 --> 00:30:07,847 I'm not saying it's right. 482 00:30:07,848 --> 00:30:10,600 - I just understand their side of it. - Mm-hmm. 483 00:30:10,726 --> 00:30:12,978 And so I'm wondering, would you be 484 00:30:14,021 --> 00:30:15,230 willing to, 485 00:30:16,273 --> 00:30:19,608 you know, say something to Thaís along the lines of, 486 00:30:19,609 --> 00:30:22,945 - "You know, listen, it was a poor choice of words." - Mm-hmm. 487 00:30:22,946 --> 00:30:24,656 "I regret, I shouldn't have said those in the moment. 488 00:30:24,781 --> 00:30:26,490 "I didn't mean them in the way they came out, 489 00:30:26,491 --> 00:30:30,536 but I can understand why they were triggering" or whatever. - Mm-hmm. 490 00:30:30,537 --> 00:30:35,167 So that you were doing your best to diffuse and acknowledge 491 00:30:35,292 --> 00:30:38,669 your part in that. Would you be open to that? 492 00:30:38,670 --> 00:30:39,671 I mean... 493 00:30:41,298 --> 00:30:43,007 You would be able-- you'd all be able to carry on. 494 00:30:43,008 --> 00:30:45,260 I feel like everyone else would as well. 495 00:30:46,595 --> 00:30:48,220 I just don't feel comfortable sitting 496 00:30:48,221 --> 00:30:50,515 across the table from her. - I think you have to be, 497 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:52,684 because, I mean, we are adults, you know? 498 00:30:52,809 --> 00:30:53,894 But at least you can 499 00:30:55,312 --> 00:30:56,438 explain yourself more. 500 00:31:00,025 --> 00:31:01,360 I don't know. It's just weird. 501 00:31:04,863 --> 00:31:05,864 OK. 502 00:31:47,030 --> 00:31:49,615 Hey, hey! Yo, wait for me. 503 00:31:49,616 --> 00:31:52,411 - Oh, OK. - Hi. 504 00:31:52,536 --> 00:31:54,412 - Coach. - Hello. 505 00:31:54,413 --> 00:31:57,749 - Oh, this is so nice. - Oh, this is so cute. 506 00:31:57,874 --> 00:31:59,291 Oh, there's a little duck here. 507 00:31:59,292 --> 00:32:00,544 It's so cute. 508 00:32:04,381 --> 00:32:07,258 - Oh. - Ooh, wow. 509 00:32:07,259 --> 00:32:08,635 Wait, this feels so good. 510 00:32:13,557 --> 00:32:16,601 Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh. 511 00:32:20,147 --> 00:32:22,232 - Oh! - There he is. 512 00:32:22,357 --> 00:32:23,942 - You guys ready to party? - Oh, my, hell yeah. 513 00:32:24,067 --> 00:32:25,444 Yes! 514 00:32:25,569 --> 00:32:27,571 Alright, I'll pour some glasses. 515 00:32:27,696 --> 00:32:28,737 - I know, because I was like... - Oh. 516 00:32:28,738 --> 00:32:29,865 Uh. 517 00:32:32,242 --> 00:32:34,077 He got you, he got you, yeah. 518 00:32:37,414 --> 00:32:41,626 - What cross, cross crop dust means? - Crop dusting? 519 00:32:41,751 --> 00:32:44,753 It's like the other day when you called me into the room 520 00:32:44,754 --> 00:32:49,258 for a charger, and I walked in there and almost threw up. 521 00:32:49,259 --> 00:32:50,676 No, no, no. 522 00:32:50,677 --> 00:32:52,971 - That's what that's like. - Stop. 523 00:32:53,096 --> 00:32:54,097 Don't say that. 524 00:32:55,140 --> 00:32:56,975 - Oh! - Hello. 525 00:32:57,100 --> 00:32:58,643 Hello! 526 00:32:58,768 --> 00:33:00,479 - Look who it is. - Hi, mamacita! 527 00:33:00,604 --> 00:33:03,522 What's up? 528 00:33:03,523 --> 00:33:04,941 ¿Cómo van? 529 00:33:07,444 --> 00:33:09,528 - Happy anniversary. - Congratulations, you guys. 530 00:33:09,529 --> 00:33:11,656 - Thank you. - Thank you. 531 00:33:11,781 --> 00:33:13,992 I'm pissed that Pao left at the end of archery 532 00:33:14,117 --> 00:33:15,827 'cause I had a full day for us. 533 00:33:15,952 --> 00:33:19,164 Archery, a nice dinner, and in the night with a nice 534 00:33:19,289 --> 00:33:21,583 a nice romantic bathtub, a little massage. 535 00:33:29,508 --> 00:33:32,802 - Imagine-- oh! - Hey, hey! 536 00:33:32,928 --> 00:33:34,678 Alright. 537 00:33:40,936 --> 00:33:42,646 12 years is a lot of hard work, 538 00:33:43,772 --> 00:33:45,023 and there's a lot of ups and downs. 539 00:33:46,566 --> 00:33:47,567 How was your day today? 540 00:33:48,693 --> 00:33:50,820 It started out great, we went... 541 00:33:50,946 --> 00:33:52,822 We had-- I planned this whole thing for archery... 542 00:33:54,658 --> 00:33:57,201 but apparently she doesn't like my gift. 543 00:33:57,202 --> 00:33:58,662 And what did you get? 544 00:33:59,913 --> 00:34:01,831 It's a swan necklace. 545 00:34:01,957 --> 00:34:03,916 The first place we went to is the Swan. 546 00:34:03,917 --> 00:34:07,169 - And then here, the royal family actually owns all the swans. - What? 547 00:34:07,170 --> 00:34:10,548 - So it was, like, really significant to... - Here. 548 00:34:10,549 --> 00:34:12,551 To here. 549 00:34:20,850 --> 00:34:22,852 And I told him that I was not happy with the freaking 550 00:34:22,978 --> 00:34:24,020 necklaces anymore. 551 00:34:26,690 --> 00:34:27,857 I hear you, I hear you. 552 00:34:30,151 --> 00:34:31,194 Right. 553 00:34:32,362 --> 00:34:33,363 Swan or not, 554 00:34:34,489 --> 00:34:37,074 she literally said, "Please don't get me another necklace." 555 00:34:37,075 --> 00:34:39,911 I feel like Russ is really in a class of his own. 556 00:34:40,036 --> 00:34:42,079 You know, if she had a peanut allergy that 557 00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:44,708 he would give her a bag of chocolate covered peanuts or something. 558 00:34:44,833 --> 00:34:46,918 Like, I don't know. 559 00:34:47,043 --> 00:34:48,878 Something, he's missing something up here. 560 00:34:50,463 --> 00:34:53,966 Pao, I feel like you're really hard 561 00:34:53,967 --> 00:34:55,594 on Russ. 562 00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:57,886 I'm tired of being criticized, tired of feeling 563 00:34:57,887 --> 00:34:59,889 like a failure. And I'm not a failure. 564 00:35:00,015 --> 00:35:01,891 Well, don't put words in my mouth. 565 00:35:02,017 --> 00:35:04,311 I'm not saying you said it, but that's how I feel. 566 00:35:09,941 --> 00:35:12,444 Pao, I wanna say something. Russ is a real man. 567 00:35:13,570 --> 00:35:16,238 And you're trying to push this guy away, 568 00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:17,615 and he won't do it. 569 00:35:17,616 --> 00:35:20,035 That is a strength that most men don't have. 570 00:35:21,244 --> 00:35:22,245 If I was in his shoes, like, 571 00:35:22,370 --> 00:35:24,414 I would have been gone a long time ago. 572 00:35:34,424 --> 00:35:37,760 You are pushing him away with all your might, 573 00:35:37,761 --> 00:35:38,969 with everything you have. 574 00:35:38,970 --> 00:35:41,723 You are trying to make this guy miserable. 575 00:35:46,519 --> 00:35:48,104 I'm very done with this. 576 00:35:49,689 --> 00:35:50,690 Have fun. 577 00:35:58,615 --> 00:36:00,659 I'm never gonna meet your expectations. 578 00:36:00,784 --> 00:36:02,285 You are not listening to me, Russ. 579 00:36:06,164 --> 00:36:07,998 This necklace is different. 580 00:36:07,999 --> 00:36:11,044 You will nitpick everything, and I'm tired of it. 581 00:36:39,364 --> 00:36:40,531 - Hey. - Hey. 582 00:36:46,579 --> 00:36:48,747 I just feel that I'm never gonna meet 583 00:36:48,748 --> 00:36:50,542 your expectations. 584 00:36:50,667 --> 00:36:52,419 You are not listening to me, Russ. 585 00:36:52,544 --> 00:36:54,461 You have these high expectations, 586 00:36:54,462 --> 00:36:57,090 and you literally find a reason for that expectation 587 00:36:57,215 --> 00:36:58,216 to never be met. 588 00:37:03,096 --> 00:37:04,471 Pao. 589 00:37:04,472 --> 00:37:06,933 - This necklace is different. - OK, yeah. 590 00:37:07,058 --> 00:37:09,602 What, but do you see why I don't see that it's different? 591 00:37:09,728 --> 00:37:11,979 You don't want to see, you're refusing to see 592 00:37:11,980 --> 00:37:14,273 what I'm putting behind the thought of the necklace. 593 00:37:14,274 --> 00:37:15,482 Oh, Russ. 594 00:37:15,483 --> 00:37:18,152 Because I chose to have something that would signify 595 00:37:18,153 --> 00:37:19,404 this therapy session. 596 00:37:19,529 --> 00:37:20,946 But I guess you don't know me at all, Russ, 597 00:37:20,947 --> 00:37:22,281 because that's not what I want. - Then what? 598 00:37:22,282 --> 00:37:23,742 Then you don't know me? 599 00:37:23,867 --> 00:37:25,909 - I'm trying to change. - What do I know that I don't-- how do... 600 00:37:25,910 --> 00:37:28,079 I'm trying to make the effort, trying to put meaning 601 00:37:28,204 --> 00:37:29,788 behind everything. 602 00:37:29,789 --> 00:37:32,833 You literally find every reason to be upset. 603 00:37:32,834 --> 00:37:34,794 - Russ, do you think it was-- - You will nitpick everything. 604 00:37:34,919 --> 00:37:36,254 You nitpick it all. 605 00:37:37,297 --> 00:37:38,298 And I'm tired of it. 606 00:37:48,641 --> 00:37:50,518 I really needed a good day with you, Russ. 607 00:38:20,131 --> 00:38:22,801 I love you. And I wanna make this work. 608 00:38:22,926 --> 00:38:24,343 I want this to work. 609 00:39:24,112 --> 00:39:27,072 Next time on "90 Day: The Last Resort." 610 00:39:27,073 --> 00:39:28,408 - Oh, hi. - Hi. 611 00:39:28,533 --> 00:39:29,909 - Guillermo. - Kara. 612 00:39:30,034 --> 00:39:31,577 - It's a pleasure. - Yeah, nice to meet you. 613 00:39:31,578 --> 00:39:32,870 So good to see you. 614 00:39:32,871 --> 00:39:35,372 Our homework is to go on a first date with each other 615 00:39:35,373 --> 00:39:37,250 and pretend like we've just met. 616 00:39:37,375 --> 00:39:40,128 - These flowers are for you, yeah. - Aw, thank you. 617 00:39:42,297 --> 00:39:45,216 Cheers to getting to know someone new. 618 00:39:48,177 --> 00:39:50,470 OK, what is cool about Guillermo? 619 00:39:50,471 --> 00:39:52,890 I used to have a motorcycle. 620 00:39:52,891 --> 00:39:55,101 That's one of the things that I'm gonna get as soon 621 00:39:55,226 --> 00:39:56,936 as I get back home. 622 00:39:57,061 --> 00:39:58,730 Guillermo, don't you think 623 00:39:58,855 --> 00:40:00,398 you should handle your [bleep] back home 624 00:40:00,523 --> 00:40:02,275 before you try to move on to something else? 625 00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:04,067 What the [bleep]? 626 00:40:04,068 --> 00:40:07,154 It's just really hard to cycle away from five years of issues 627 00:40:07,155 --> 00:40:09,073 when all of these red flags are just right in front of me. 628 00:40:19,292 --> 00:40:22,085 I don't feel heard. I don't feel protected. 629 00:40:22,086 --> 00:40:23,421 Shekinah. 630 00:40:30,219 --> 00:40:32,972 The other night, come to find out that 631 00:40:33,097 --> 00:40:35,475 marriage doesn't really mean anything to him. 632 00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:36,768 Is that what you told her? 633 00:40:36,893 --> 00:40:37,894 Yeah. 634 00:40:41,439 --> 00:40:42,481 Because you have to tell 635 00:40:42,482 --> 00:40:44,651 the truth to somebody else. 636 00:40:44,776 --> 00:40:46,693 Sumit, you're putting yourself in a position 637 00:40:46,694 --> 00:40:49,196 where you're suffering. 638 00:40:49,197 --> 00:40:50,448 - Your marriage is suffering. - Yeah. 639 00:40:53,618 --> 00:40:56,828 Zied, he was like, "Well, I just, I want you to cook 640 00:40:56,829 --> 00:40:57,789 "for me every once in a while 641 00:40:57,914 --> 00:40:59,290 without me having to ask for you." 642 00:41:04,295 --> 00:41:05,504 - Like, what you thinking? - Who are you with? 643 00:41:05,505 --> 00:41:06,630 Yes, exactly. 644 00:41:06,631 --> 00:41:07,840 And if I'm not a real wife for him, 645 00:41:07,966 --> 00:41:09,300 maybe he's out looking for the right one. 646 00:41:12,178 --> 00:41:14,514 - John, you made it. - I made it. 647 00:41:14,639 --> 00:41:16,473 Today's the day that John arrives to the castle for 648 00:41:16,474 --> 00:41:19,017 family therapy. And I'm terrified. 649 00:41:19,018 --> 00:41:21,020 I was talking to your father, and I thought 650 00:41:21,145 --> 00:41:23,523 when I interpreted it, he mentioned ex. 651 00:41:24,816 --> 00:41:26,066 Oh, my God. 652 00:41:26,067 --> 00:41:29,569 John is going to blow everything apart. 653 00:41:29,570 --> 00:41:30,697 Did you see your ex in Brazil?