-It kind of all come down to this decision tonight.
-I did not realize that it was happening tonight.
Stay with Jess.
-We're gonna rock out with Darrien. -[ Gasps ]
-We would like to swap.
-[ Sniffles ]
-I want to be able to pursue
what I had with the guys from the start.
-I would want to give Becca another chance.
-I just felt like I'm here right now
just because Jonathan got picked.
That's a shitty way to feel.
-She is hurt,
and we are the ones that have hurt her.
We've had so many beautiful moments,
and we want to get to know you more.
-Before you have sex,
what is something that you would want
your partners to know about you?
-Making that step is, like, almost a commitment for me.
-Where do we stand?
-We still have a lot to learn about each other.
-In a few days,
this experience will come to an end.
-No!
-The real world is quickly approaching,
and those real-world concerns -- they're becoming real so fast.
-All of you are going to take a trip to old-town Panama.
-Hey. -Hi.
-Out of nowhere, who do we see?
Our friends.
-Whatever works for you.
You know, I'm not saying it would be what's for me.
They do have quite a bit of thought to put into it.
-I'm just curious to see how it all plays out.
Easy to say you want something
when it's right in front of your face.
-'Cause I've never had an actual girlfriend ever.
-Have you? -Yeah.
-Have you had a boyfriend, too?
-Yeah. -[ Laughs ] Okay.
Bringing a third person in
may put a strain on their relationship.
-So, how are the boys back at home?
-Feel like they're, like, a little wild.
-A lot of the people that we have made out with
while we've been out have been like our friends.
We don't care. We don't get jealous.
Like, when we go out -- -But I get jealous.
There are concerns. There are what-ifs.
**
-* You're all I need *
* You're all I wanted *
* Just you and me *
* That's paradise *
-Good morning! -[ Laughs ]
I had a dream that me and Jess were making out.
-Oh, nice. [ Both laughing ]
**
-Buenos dias, novios.
-* Yeah! * [ Laughter ]
-In this moment, I don't know for sure
if I am leaning more towards
an open relationship or a closed relationship,
but oh, my God, we are feeling the love this morning.
-* Ohh * -* Just you and me *
* Yeah, that's paradise *
-You okay?
[ Laughing ] I'm sorry, babe!
-Oh! I feel so refreshed.
Waking up this morning after the night
with Jess, my dad, and Lauren's mother,
it's becoming more of a reality than --
-More real. -We're almost, you know,
gonna be taking this experience to the real world.
-Yeah. I feel like just emotions
are just, like, all over the place.
-I think this hat goes.
[ Both laughing ]
-I'm going downstairs.
-I'm coming.
-Me three.
**
-Morning! -Morning, squad.
-We got so much to chat about.
-I know.
-Buenos dias. -Buenos dias.
-So, it was so cool to have, like, his dad and my mom,
like, seeing kind of what we've been doing.
-Lauren and I were, like, more tense
during that time than Jess.
I was like, "Phew! What the fuck is going on here?"
-[ Laughs ]
-Throughout the day, I feel like our relationship
was developing a lot.
So to cap it off
with seeing friends and family was so special.
-It was the most affirming thing,
my best friend to see Becca and be like,
"She passes the vibe. Check."
-What's going on?
All of a sudden, you guys go
from not talking to passing the vibe check?
-Whether or not that relationship is real
I'll let you decide.
-Oh, my God! -Oh, my God!
[ Applause ]
-Oh, wow. -Hello.
-And applause.
-Right? -[ Laughs ]
-Well, good morning, everybody. How you doing?
-Good morning. -Feeling great.
-As you know, the time here at the resort is coming to an end.
And this has been a really eye-opening experience, right?
-Yeah.
-But we really do appreciate the hard work,
the tough questions you've asked yourself,
and the answers you've mined through this experience.
Anything y'all want to share?
-We had a breakthrough yesterday.
-Yeah. -Okay.
[ Laughter ]
-Um, I guess I'm, like, coming out as officially bisexual.
[ Cheers and applause ]
-Come on, girl!
[ Cheers and applause ]
-Aww!
-I just want to say thank you for sharing that.
-Yes. Absolutely.
-This has got to be an incredible experience,
to have such a soft place for that landing.
How does that feel? -It feels great,
like, having the support of all my friends.
I'm gonna cry. -Aww!
-It's alright.
You take your time. Take your time.
-I feel like we're, like, programmed to be a certain way.
And like, even though I've always identified as straight,
I would always, like, talk to girls,
like, on the side, but it was always secret.
**
Coming here really opened up my eyes
to, like, being more accepting of myself and who I am.
-Not caring what nobody thinks. -Yeah.
-All the support -- it's really been awesome.
-Mm-hmm. -[ Laughs ]
-We love you. -Yeah.
-Love you, Bri. -We love you, baby.
[ Applause ] -Love you guys.
[ Cheers and applause ]
-Yes!
-I'm very proud of Brittne.
That was super dope.
It feels amazing to see your partner learn
and accept a new part of them.
-This experience has honestly been like a blessing.
I'm more accepting of who I am,
and I'm less worried about what others think.
-We are so proud of you all.
Like, we knew that this wasn't gonna be easy.
-It's been really beautiful to see you figure out
if throuple life is for you.
And it's all coming to an end tomorrow.
-As you know, our sessions have all been about taking you
through the stages of a relationship, right?
All of these were designed to help give you the tools
that you'll need to succeed as a three.
But there's one more --
-Mm-hmm. -Commitment.
-Uh-oh.
I'm nervous about the idea of commitment,
because I don't like the idea of feeling trapped.
and in a lot of my monogamous relationships,
that is something that I've felt.
-Tomorrow, you're gonna be faced
with a final decision to make --
whether you're willing to commit to your three-lationship
or go your separate ways.
-Oh, shit.
-Oh, boy.
Damn.
-But tonight, singles, you will be leaving the resort.
-What? -No.
-Oh, my goodness.
-And the next time you see your couple will be tomorrow,
where you will all be faced with making that final decision.
Take this time to reflect
and ask yourself those tough questions.
Have you made a real connection here at the resort?
Are you ready to take the next steps
of throuple life in the real world?
Or will you maybe return home as the singles you showed up as?
-Good luck. -Good luck.
-It is heartbreaking for me to know
that we've spent the last night with Jonathan in this resort.
People will be always trying to take our man.
I really don't understand it. -Right.
Scott, Maximo, Ashley. -My God.
-No! I'm sad that we can't spend
at least one more night together in this resort.
-Yeah, at least our last night. -We're really in the flow.
-What the fuck? -I am not happy about this.
-No.
**
-Hey, y'all.
-Mm. -Hi.
-[ Smooches ] -Mm-hmm.
-Mm. -Oh, great.
-How are we feeling today,
knowing we have to, like, separate?
I don't want to be surprised what's going on.
-I know. It's a hard curveball. -[ Laughs ]
-I'm still in the same mind-set.
Like, I think the conversation
that we had last night was really good,
and I think the fact that we were all on the same page
and we all want to continue things
and just take it at our own pace.
-A day at a time. -Yeah.
-We've had so many ups and downs in this resort.
But with challenges comes a lot of growth.
I did not know I could feel this calmness
in this throuple. -Yeah.
-With us, we do have a commitment to each other first.
-Yeah. Put in effort.
-Yeah. -Look at you.
-I'm reassured. -That's hot.
[ Both laughing ]
**
-We're so excited to continue our relationship with you.
Like, we're so, so committed
and want to just keep it going and build it up even more,
but still, with the respect of, like, knowing that we all want
to take it slow and not rush anything for you
or do anything that might make you withdraw.
I think we're all on the same page about that, yeah?
-100%.
-They're telling me that they're on the same page,
taking things at a slower pace, but there's a hint of a doubt.
You know, in my mind, in my past experience with non-monogamy,
physical desires did create a lot of issues.
So that's something that, you know, I've thought about.
-We're not forcing anything.
We have this amazing friendship established,
and it just can allow us to grow together that much more.
-I'm gonna fucking cry again.
-It's okay. Cry.
-Like, we all kind of came in here
with the same mind-set of just, like,
not really knowing what you were looking for.
That's how, like, the truly, like, magical things happen.
-Yeah. -Like -- [ Laughs ]
-Yeah. No. I feel that, I feel that.
-We're in it together now, and I'm really excited
to see what that can lead to, you know?
-[ Laughs ] -And I'm ready for it.
I'm ready for it with you two.
-Yeah. It's gonna be so fun.
-Those lips.
-I hate that you're leaving.
It's an important decision that I feel like we need,
like, you know, a long time to talk about.
-What are you thinking, Rehman?
**
-I think I'm just more sad that, like,
we're not gonna be able to hang out every day and stuff.
And, like, sometimes I look at you,
and I'm like, "How did I get so blessed
to have someone like you in my life?"
And now I have two people like that.
-It's okay.
I've really gotten so attached to this individual,
and I know that, you know, I'll be seeing him soon, hopefully.
But it still is always hard for me to say goodbye.
-[ Smooches ] Trust me, I'm scared, too.
There's so many what-ifs, especially in the real world.
I am just happy that you have Ashmal there when I'm not.
So -- -Yeah.
**
-Yeah. I'm just feeling sad.
-I know. It's starting to sink in.
You know, our last night together was last night.
-Right.
-We have to actually try this in the real world.
-Yeah.
-But just know that, like,
if you start showing up in a serious way
and we start taking you serious,
then we expect you to be serious.
You know what I'm saying? -Right, right.
-That's, like, a huge commitment, you know?
-It is. -Mm-hmm.
**
-So what are you afraid of?
-Mm...
-What has your little heart racing?
-So, definitely, like, a toxic trait
that I've realized is that...
I kind of get bored easily.
**
And so I'm afraid of commitment.
-Oh, my God.
-I mean, I wish that she would have said that earlier on.
I'm not here for the drama. I'm here to find love.
And if commitment is a big deal, then --
-You probably shouldn't have came here.
-Yeah. -Yeah.
**
-Last dinner at the resort. -I'm so sad!
This is beautiful.
-Do we feel like the other throuples
are actually genuine throuples?
-Wow. -Shit.
-What the fuck?
Are you just looking for a reaction?
So let me give you one.
-* We're breaking down *
* Breaking down *
-There's been a lot of times where I've questioned
if my desire to be poly is to avoid commitment.
-Avoidance.
-Ooh! -That's come up.
That's scary. -Yeah.
**
-Okay.
Alright. So, before you,
I couldn't make it past three months with anyone
because I felt pressure. I got to, like,
you know, make this work or it's just a lot.
And then I would leave.
But here we are four years later,
and I'm like, "Wow. Like, okay."
-Honestly, commitment is all about
just showing up for that person
and being who you said that you were gonna be.
That's all. -Mm-hmm. Yeah.
-Don't be afraid to, like, try it and give it a try,
because you might be surprised that it's not so bad, you know?
-Mm-hmm. Yeah.
-We've been through a lot. But this is like, no joke.
Wow.
Shit's getting real. -Yeah.
-[ Sighs ]
**
-Singles, we got to go.
[ Indistinct conversations ]
-What am I doing?
So what am I doing? -Do it again, do it again.
-No crying. -Yeah.
Yeah. -It's hard saying goodbye.
-But at the same time,
this separation presents an opportunity
to find reassurance in the throuple
that we are building up together.
-I don't want to go.
-Aww.
**
-The guys are gonna miss you.
-Why do you have to leave -- -Oh, my gosh.
Now you got to leave. What the fuck?!
-Alright. Hurry up and leave so you can come back soon.
Go, go!
-Bye! -Bye!
**
-It's nerve-wracking knowing that Jonathan's
not spending the night with us,
because, I mean, that's a whole lot of hours
for him to get in his head.
-I am trying to be as optimistic as possible.
But at the end of the day, you still never know.
-* When I'm without you *
**
-Last dinner at the resort. -It's crazy.
-Oh! We're here already?
-I'm so sad!
-Absolutely.
-It's like celebration to us.
But, also, we have this chance
to lean on each other for support
when it comes now to what's happening tomorrow.
Phew! -Yeah.
-We got to be nourished for that one.
**
-Wow.
-I'm definitely excited to see what everybody learned from this
and how everybody is starting to feel
as this experiment comes to a close
and we have to enter into the real world.
-Toast to all you amazing people.
I'm glad that we had this journey together,
and I wish you all nothing but happiness from here on out.
So cheers. -Cheers.
-Salud. -Love you guys.
-Cheers. -Cheers.
-Where do you even start? -Wow!
-Let's get to the meat and potatoes.
So, what do y'all feel like were the biggest lessons
that you learned here in this experiment?
-Get into it, babe.
-Yeah. -Right?
-I constantly rely on
always getting, like, advice from someone
and, like, needing that to make a decision.
Being here, it really taught me to really open up
and trust myself a little bit more.
Be honest with myself. -Yeah.
-I think the biggest thing that I learned
is understanding Ashmal's emotions
and being there for him, because a lot of the times
when we would have these arguments,
like, I was more worried about how I was feeling
but I never took a step out and said, wait a second,
how is he feeling right now? -Yeah.
-He does have emotions,
and sometimes he expresses them in a different way.
And I think because he sometimes masks them with jokes
and all of that, like, I was like, oh, he's good.
And I have to really put myself in your shoes a lot more.
-I'm proud of you. -So proud of you.
-Thank you. I'm coming out of this
experiment such a better person
and such a better partner overall for Ashmal.
-I love you. -I love you, too.
-The most impactful thing for me was Dylan and Lauren,
because you guys are married.
Like, if I seen you do something that to me made sense,
I'll try it out. So I start holding her hands
to fucking talk to her, to make her feel comfortable.
-Yeah. -Oh, my God, that's so cute.
-I love that, bro.
-It's just been a blast.
Definitely a once in a lifetime experience.
-You have so many different dynamics to learn from.
-I mean, that's the best way to learn, right?
From your peers. -Yeah.
-So I think it's been no secret in the house
that Ashmal and I
have had quite the physical connection with Jonathan.
So I'm curious to know, like, are you guys excited
about kind of growing
that physical connection with your thirds as well?
-It's a fair question to ask everyone here
on our last night, but I think it was a bit pointed.
-It's just messy.
Yeah, I mean, I feel like between Ash and I
and Becca, there's no secret that we want
to rip each other's clothes off for sure.
-Yeah. -But we're also really
respectful and really cultivating
the emotional intimacy.
And honestly, the longer we wait, the more excited I get
and the better it's going to feel.
-Yeah, absolutely.
-I don't think Maximo and Ash are being very genuine
when they talk about Becca and the relationship
that the three of them have.
Personally, I see right through everything that they say.
-I think things are going well with Jess,
but she shared that whenever she, like,
does something a little bit more physical,
she takes it at a very slow pace.
It's good that we're kind of keeping that slow pace,
but we're excited to see what that could lead to.
-Yeah. -Oh.
-How do we feel about tomorrow?
Do you all think that your additional partner
wants to stay or stop?
-I would like to say I am
confident going into tomorrow, but guess what?
At that stair swap, I was also confident and he left,
so that's very much still a possibility.
-I honestly don't know how tomorrow's going to go.
-Today, Darrien did let us know that like
she does have fear of commitment.
Sometimes, you know, you could be in a good situation,
but that fear just eats you up and you're like,
fuck that, I'm going this way. -Yeah.
-For you to bring it up,
that means that it's on the forefront of your mind.
So now we're just sitting here and we're just, like...
Biting our nails. -Right?
-You guys know Lauren and I are married.
Like, we have this solid foundation and --
-That can be hard for some.
-It could be hard for somebody else
to come into this kind of dynamic.
That's something that I'm thinking in the back of my mind,
like, you know, those --
-Doubts that she could have -Yeah.
So I'm kind of --
-We'll see. -We will see, yeah.
-I feel like we have built a beautiful foundation too
in a beautiful world stay, yeah.
-Do we feel like the other throuples in the resort, like,
are actually genuine throuples?
-Wow.
-Shit. -Do we feel like those have
been real connections that have been made?
Or do we feel like maybe the throuple
isn't necessarily as strong as it claims to be?
-Full transparency, like at that most recent ceremony,
like when we were talking about our dates,
Becca confide in us about how she did feel.
So like third place,
and like it's kind of like the last option.
And like, I just genuinely want to know,
like what made that so different all of a sudden,
like 12 hour span, you know? -Oof.
-It was a little confusing, you know?
-What the fuck? I just think it's so funny
the person asking the question is the one
in the most ingenuine throuple in this resort.
Are you just looking for a reaction?
So let me give you one.
-Do we feel like the other throuples in the resort,
like, are actually genuine throuples?
Or do we feel like maybe the throuple isn't necessarily
as strong as it claims to be?
**
-At the end of the day, it came down to communication.
After that stair swap where we ended up choosing Becca,
we had a conversation with Becca and laid it all out there.
Becca got to confront me
with some things that she felt about me,
and I got to confront her with some things I felt about her.
-I hate drama. -I mean,
everything was just all positive.
So there had to be one little chit show
added into the mix, right?
-Getting to explore things with Jonathan
was just something that we wanted to try out,
but if anything, it could confirm even more
that what we had with Becca was so special.
Vulnerability through conversation
can really shift your perspective
on how you see someone.
And that was the big shift that we saw in Becca,
and we're really proud of that shift.
-[ Laughing ] Like, what?
I don't know, like, that one, big ol' question mark.
-I can respect how you might feel like,
oh, that feels inconsistent.
But for us, it just made it that much more real.
-Yeah.
Now, if we're going to go into throuples
that we believe in or not...
**
-This shit is crazy.
-Actually, I don't think I want to --
I don't think I want to answer this one.
It's just -- it's just not necessary for me
to put that energy out there.
Just honestly, I wish you all the best.
How I see your throuple doesn't matter.
Your experience with Jonathan is your experience with Jonathan.
Who am I to come in and impose myself
and say, well, Jonathan said this about y'all.
That's messy.
And to be honest, that's not my place.
-Period.
-That was horrible.
**
-Alright, well to that,
here's the all the love to each and every one of you.
Let's bring on tomorrow. -Tomorrow, tomorrow.
-Cheers. -Cheers.
-Yay!
**
-I cannot believe it's our last night in here.
-Oh, my God.
-Becca's not here to bloat bump you.
-Whoa!
-I'm actually pretty worried.
What if she says no?
It would kind of suck. -Yeah.
-I'm ready to go to bed.
I asked what I needed to ask, and I'm just ready
to move on to the ceremony tomorrow
and hopefully seeing Jonathan say the words I'd like to stay.
-Yeah.
**
-* This could be the start of something else *
-The last day.
Today's the big decision. -Mm-hmm.
I'm gonna cry all day today.
-I love you. -I love you.
And hopefully after today,
we'll have even more love to share.
-Oh, I know. -I'm not going to lie.
I woke up so many times in the middle of the night
like -- like excited nervous. -Yeah.
-Let's get ready for the day.
This big ol' day.
Whatever happens, happens.
-I'm waking up this morning really reflecting on the shit
that Ashmal said last night at the table.
-Becca confided in us about how she did feel.
So third place and kind of like the last option.
-I'm questioning what Becca I got.
All I've been hearing is positivity
and how you're going to make this work.
But what has she been saying to other people about us?
**
-I swear to God I hope he doesn't
pull a classic Jonathan. -Yeah.
-What do you think she's going to say? Jess?
Stay or stop? -Stay. [ Laughs ]
[ Laughing ] I'm nervous.
-Better not get up there and embarrass us.
-She gonna be like I think everything is great,
but I'm afraid of commitment. -Right, then run off.
We'll see if our time was actually great.
-Let's go get our man.
-Nervous. -Oh, my God.
-Let's do it.
**
-Things have been going really great for all three of us.
-But Jess was by herself all last night,
so I'm just hoping she didn't get in her head
about this whole situation.
-She has had that extra time to reflect so it could make
her sway in other direction, but I hope not.
-We're going to find out.
-Here we are. You nervous?
-Yeah, we're so nervous. -You're so nervous?
-Yeah, I could just squeeze your hand right now
really hard.
-Lauren and Dylan reassured me
that they were okay with moving at my pace physically.
-But I do question
if they really do respect where I'm at with this.
Welcome to the stay or stop ceremony.
How's it feel to see each other after a while?
-Good. That night was a long night.
-It was a long day. -We missed you a little bit.
-Yeah.
-This has been one crazy ride.
Lauren and Dylan, you're here because you've been
asking yourselves the question.
Are we better as a throuple?
Is monogamy holding us back in some way?
And so the question now is,
is Jess that third love you've been looking for?
Are you ready to commit to her?
Is she ready to commit to you both?
Or have you discovered that polyamory
is also not the lifestyle meant for you?
Lauren and Dylan, I want to know what has this experience
been like for you and sharing it with Jess.
-First off, Lauren and I came into this experience
wanting to explore new territories.
-Yeah. -And we didn't really think
that we wanted to pursue somebody
that had so many like minded interests and passions
as Lauren and I.
-Definitely feel like we were wrong
because we haven't felt the need to kind of change our dynamic
or change who we are just to fit your lifestyle,
and it's just been such a breath of fresh air.
-It just felt right
and we felt a really instant connection.
-We've done some amazing things together,
like winning the challenge and having a night
in the Eden Suite. -That was amazing.
-Yeah.
-And the building attempt together,
like, that was Lauren's first tent to build.
So it couldn't have done that without you, for real.
Good job, ladies. Good job.
-Everything's been going so well
and we've been really enjoying our time with you.
-Without a doubt.
-I love the journey that we've had so far.
I care a lot about you guys, and I just thank you
for bringing me in and showing me what,
you know, stability is like and making me feel comfortable.
-Thanks for sharing. -Thank you.
-That was beautifully said, yeah.
-With those beautiful memories also do come though
some tough experiences.
-Yeah. -What are some of the concerns
that you have considering committing to a throuple?
-We haven't hit many roadblocks at all,
but I think the true thing
that has been on the back of our minds
is just what's going to happen after,
since we haven't really hit those roadblocks yet.
-Jess, how about you?
-My main concern is the pace
of which I want to move physically.
-Before you have sex,
what is something that you would want your partners
to know about you?
-Making that step is like --
that's like almost a commitment for me.
-Yeah.
-It's not as something that's important to me.
If it's something where a more physical thing
is what you're looking for,
then that's another conversation we need to have.
-My heart is beating so fast.
I've seen her slowly start to open up and she's always said
that that's a really big sign
that she feels more and more comfortable.
So if she has been doing that
but then says she does not want to commit today,
oh, that would be a mess. -Yeah.
-So thank you for sharing all that you have shared here today.
And so now you can take a step to the end of our platform
and get ready to make a big decision.
Lauren and Dylan,
Jess, if you want to commit to this throuple,
I invite you to meet in the middle now.
**
We -- could we -- -Take a quick little chat?
Just a quick little chat Before we do that?
-Yeah. -Yes.
-Yeah. -What was that?
-Yeah -We'd like a quick little chat
before... -You want to have a chat now?
Yeah. Okay. -Is that cool?
-Sure, I suppose.
**
What is happening right now?
-Yeah.
**
-* It's just you and I *
-Right here? Right here? -This is perfect.
This is perfect. -Yeah.
**
-So I just, like,
I just wanted to reiterate again,
like, the whole physical pace thing.
Like, I just want to make sure
you guys are comfortable with that.
You guys have been together for seven years.
You have all this established. It comes naturally.
Like, and so that's, I guess, one of my fears in like the --
And I know we don't have expectations,
but just not having that expectation that I have
to be on the same page as you like tomorrow.
-Yeah. -My past experience
with non-monogamy did end badly.
And so if I feel like pressured in any way,
then that's something that I can't --
I can't put myself through again.
I understand I'm coming from a place of like
I've been through this and I'm scared of,
you know... -It happening again.
-Exactly. -I love that you shared
that with us, and we hear you.
-We're going to respect your boundaries.
-We're respecting that 100 percent.
-We really have been letting you open up at your own pace,
and we'll continue to do that.
You know, like, we want to share the love that we have,
but there's no rush.
We really do see something serious with Jess.
That's why we're really taking our pace with it.
We wouldn't want to start
our polyamorous lifestyle without her.
-Let's go back. -Ready?
-Alright, you ready? -Yep.
-Alright.
**
-Everybody alright?
-Yes. We're good.
-Okay.
If you want to commit to this throuple,
please meet in the middle now.
**
* You are the one thing *
* You make me feel the light *
-It was kind of scary to have that conversation,
but they really are okay with the pace
that I'm comfortable with moving at.
-It made that stay so much more meaningful.
-Bear hug. Bear hug. [ Laughter ]
-Congratulations, you three.
-Yeah. -Thank you.
-Wow. -Alright, let's go.
Alright, you're in the middle. Let's go.
-Alright. -Thank you so much.
Let's go, ladies. -Thank you.
-I have my first girlfriend.
-Oh, my... -Oh, shit.
-That just made my heart...
-That made my heart just... -...beat.
-Oh, my God.
-I mean, you have your first girlfriend too, right?
-I'm your first girlfriend?
Oh, my God. -And I have my first two
girlfriends and wife.
I know, but it just seemed right.
[ Laughter ]
**
-* As we step into the great unknown *
-I feel really connected to Becca emotionally.
-But hearing, like, bits about what others may say
makes me wonder when she's not with us
things might be different.
-We're giving her the benefit of the doubt
and really leaning in.
I do really hope that we have not been fooled.
-I'm feeling pretty nervous.
-Yeah, well, I got you. There she is.
**
-Where I'm at right now with Max and Ash
is a really good place,
but it's definitely been a roller coaster of emotions.
I've gone over everything in my head
and it's just all mush in my brain right now,
and the reality is truly setting in that
I have to make a decision now.
Oh, wow. -How are you feeling?
-I feel, uh, giddy again.
[ Laughter ]
-Queer panic!
[ Laughter ]
-Maximo and Ashley, this is an opportunity
to be really honest.
-The moment we were thrown into the resort,
there is no doubt that the first person
that Ash and I saw was you.
-Hello. -Hi.
-It's nice to meet you. -I'm Becca.
-So of course, we had to have our first date with you.
-And on that first date,
we got to finally get to know Becca.
Sometimes your girl want to suck a dick. Sometimes --
-Honestly, as long as we can watch.
That's so cute. [ Laughter ]
What blew us away even more so
was also our first throuple kiss.
-Oof. -Mm-hmm.
-That first kiss seemed so perfect.
**
-When you two walked in, I think I broke my neck
looking at you guys, and I was really nervous.
And when I saw you guys for our first date,
it was so easy and, like, so comfortable.
It was nice to just fully just dive on in
and be able to trust you guys.
And that's something that I've never thought
that I would be able to do that, especially on a first date.
I'm shocked that you guys did not run.
[ Laughter ]
-You both talked about some really beautiful moments,
but I know it also has not been a cakewalk for the three of you.
-On our fourth date, where we had some unfinished business,
that one was definitely the hardest.
-We couldn't understand that even after
exploring a bit of Jonathan in our throuple
that we couldn't also still explore things with you.
-I felt a little caught off guard
because I thought that we had a really, like,
genuine like relationship
where we could all tell each other what was going on.
-We didn't want to halt the energy with you
by letting you know,
oh, we want to explore this other person
if we didn't even know we wanted to.
-You did know you felt that way
because you were laying it on thick with him.
-Truthfully, after that date, we left
and still wanted to continue to explore things with Jonathan.
After the last stay or swap ceremony,
Jonathan decided to swap.
You then were the next choice for us.
And what hurt was going to bed,
being completely transparent with you,
and then the next day waking up
and never having that effort on your end.
You didn't seem invested in this throuple.
-Becca, I know this is not easy to hear...
-Mm-hmm.
-...but this is an opportunity to be honest
and to share what your own concerns are.
-With all the good comes all the bad.
And in the moments that were bad,
I felt like the deepest, like, the deepest things
that I'm afraid of, which is being rejected,
being second best, being lied to.
I'm feel like I'm just kind of stuck into it
because I'm an option.
You know, the last day was amazing,
but there's also all of those lingering things.
So it's -- it's a lot to -- to process.
**
-Thank you, guys, for sharing that.
I know it's not easy.
So it really has come down to this very moment.
So if you take a step to the end of the platform
and get ready to make one final decision.
**
Maximo, Ashley, Becca,
if you want to commit to this throuple,
please meet in the middle now.
**
-If you want to commit to this throuple,
meet in the middle now.
**
-We actually do have feelings at stake here.
Can we truly trust you, or have you been wearing a mask?
**
I am not surprised, and it's kind of sad to say.
-I guess we just really weren't ready
to make that commitment,
although you reassured us that you would.
-Alright, well, nobody is stepping forward.
-We've been leaning in so far this entire time
that we were about to fall on our face.
-Maximo and Ash,
I'm going to ask that you speak first
about your reason not to meet in the middle.
-We've gone through our ups, we've gone through our downs,
but things weren't just adding up.
-We just can't put our trust into somebody who truly made us
feel like you were going to step forward today.
-Oh, wow. Today? -Yeah.
-You felt that today? -Yeah.
We were almost fooled, Scott.
-[ Scoffs] Really?
I almost had you fooled. Mnh-mnh.
I think we can finally drop the act.
Like, you didn't step forward either.
I'm sick of this. I'm over it.
-I could easily say the same about you guys.
We did have a lot of conversations where I thought
we were both going to run to the middle,
and being left alone with my feelings about
how I do feel like I've been manipulated and betrayed.
It just didn't make much sense for me to fully lean into that
after one day of it being good.
I feel free.
I've grown a lot since I've been in here.
Non-monogamy is something
that has always been an option in my life,
and after this experience, I definitely think
that's something that's very important to me.
I know I'm walking out of here single,
but I feel better than I've ever felt.
-Would you say though even though that Becca
didn't work out necessarily as a match for you,
that you're still interested in a lifestyle of polyamory?
-Interested? -You know the answer to this.
I mean -- -All over it.
[ Laughter ]
-Now, New York City better watch out.
[ Laughter ]
-Yes, they better. Yes, they better.
-Thank you, Scott. -You're the bomb.
-* I'm ready to dive in *
-Disappointment definitely comes after the sigh of relief.
Because at least I would have known
that she was really trying
and she was having some truth behind her words.
-Now we can truly search for someone that aligns with us.
**
Call us. [ Both laugh ]
**
-I really don't know what to expect.
Big worry is to be super into Darrien
and then in the end she breaks my heart.
That would all kind of just leads down to this moment.
-It can go either way.
How you feeling? -Nervous?
You just can never be too sure, you know?
**
-Commitment has always been a difficult thing for me.
Yes, we've gone through so many things
and there's part of me that's like,
okay, yeah, I'm ready to be their girlfriend.
But I'm also nervous because I feel like
a lot more responsibility comes with that.
-What a wild ride it has been to watch
the three of you navigate this experience.
It seems that Darrien has helped to awaken
something not only within you as an individual,
but even something within your dynamic as a couple.
-Yeah. -Yeah, big time.
-So I want to know,
what has this experience been like for you
and sharing it with Darrien?
-When we first saw you across the bridge,
we saw like your deep eye contact,
like, you would stare like through us.
-Yeah. -You had, like, this huge,
massive smile, like, that we love.
And you give like the tightest hugs.
Like, your hugs are so tight,
like, I feel like my ribs almost cracked,
but in a good way. -Yeah.
I think really it hit us that the vibe and energy
was there at that date on the beach.
We were just laughing, clicking, and the energy was flowing
and it seemed like you were one of us.
-How do you feel about seeing Darrien give me physical touch?
-Uh, love it.
-You do? Okay. -Yeah.
-Well, it took a game for us to finally, like, you know,
have that first kiss, but, you know, it was great.
-Yes, sir!
[ Cheers and applause ]
-Darrien, I'm curious for you.
What has it been like? Your positive experience?
Your positive memories?
-It's been a beautiful experience.
Some of the highlights for me have just been the growth
that you all have had as individuals,
but also as a couple.
At first when I said that I wanted more physical touch,
I feel like there was like a little bit of like stiffness
or awkwardness. -[ Laughs ]
-Like, I want to touch you more.
-Yeah. -But I feel like
there's a nervousness.
I don't know -- I don't know
where it's coming from. I don't --
[ Laughter ]
-Like, I'm not going to lie.
Sean isn't the most, like, affectionate person ever,
so I'm not really used to it again.
-That makes sense. -Yeah, I'm working on that.
-So, like, now we've gotten to a point
where it feels really comfortable and easy
to share physical touch.
**
-Of course, you've had these beautiful moments in the resort,
but I'm sure that there are also still some significant concerns
you have about taking this resort experience
and applying that in the real world.
-When you first told us about the whole
you wanting to kiss Ash and Maximo.
-The other day, when I was with Maximo and Ash,
they asked me who I was interested in kissing
and I said, Ash.
-First thing I know that we felt was like, damn,
you're more concerned about kissing somebody else
and we haven't even kissed yet.
-Yeah, I felt like insecure, like I wasn't good enough,
like I wasn't pretty enough or, you know?
-Yeah. -Things like that.
-It would have seemed weird
if they didn't feel some type of way about that.
But the whole point of being poly is every single person
has like a different type of energy
that we get to experience.
My red flag for you all was
when I just tried to be transparent with you
all about my feelings for Maximo and Ash.
It wasn't well received,
and it made me feel like you didn't really accept me,
and you wanted to kind of keep me in the idea
that you had originally had.
-I mean, you told us that you wanted to be exclusive,
and then now you're telling me you want to kiss somebody
and it's all physical. Like, which one is it?
-I guess my biggest concern would be that you all
don't see me for who I am or don't fully accept me
for who I am within my transparency.
**
-I'm going to ask you now to take a step
to the end of the platform
where you're about to make a pretty big decision.
**
Sean and Brittne...
Darrien, if you are willing to commit
to each other as a throuple,
I'd invite you to meet in the middle.
**
-* You can try to stop me *
**
-I've shared with you all my fear of commitment
and stepping forward into this throuple
does have a level of commitment.
-I just want to clear one thing up.
We do see you, and we're all going into it with love
and just understanding and openness
and hopefully enough space that you feel like you fit
and you can also grow and spread your wings as well.
-Um, thank you for sharing those words.
**
-Okay, Darrien.
Well...
[ Cheering ]
[ Laughter ]
**
Well, congratulations, you three.
-So I feel great.
I got two beautiful ladies over here,
and they're probably going to drive me crazy, but that's okay.
-In the best way.
-See ya, Scott. -Indeed.
-Did y'all really think for a second
though that I wasn't going to step forward?
-Of course. -If you had embarrassed us,
I was going to delete my social media accounts and go ghost.
[ Laughter ]
-We're both really excited to see Jonathan.
Even though we did have some tough times,
we had some really great times with him
and that's what we want to continue with him going forward.
-I don't know, his head could be anywhere.
I just hope he steps forward.
-How do you feel?
-[ Exhales sharply ]
-All comes down to this.
-I feel like, honestly, my heart
is coming out of my chest.
-During this time apart, I was processing
where my head is at, where my heart is at.
Now is the time to let it all out
and tell the boys exactly how I'm feeling.
-How does it feel to see each other
for the first time in a while?
-It's been too long. -Yeah.
-It feels really good. I won't cry, I promise.
-It has not been an easy ride for you here at the resort,
but here we are.
I'd like for you to tell Jonathan
the good things you've experienced so far.
-From the minute that you walked in
and I looked across the bridge
and kind of looked into your eyes, like, I knew
there was going to be something special with you,
and you did not disappoint in any way.
-I think the time when we fed each other ceviche,
we were just being so real with ourselves,
and I got to see us sharing a connection.
You falling for him, him falling for you.
And it was just the most beautiful thing to see.
-You really made me realize
that I could have very strong feelings
for somebody other than Ashmal.
But that doesn't take away from the relationship
that Ashmal and I have.
And I think that that is the beauty of polyamory.
-Well, Jonathan?
-I remember we had like our first, like,
disconnect, like a little argument.
I didn't know how to move forward.
And then, Rehman, you pulled me out of the pool.
That's when you started opening up to me
and brought your walls down.
-You are definitely the type of guy that I would date
outside of this house.
-I am very physically attracted to you.
That was like the first time that I was like, okay,
like, this is who Rehman is.
After that, you know,
things started getting so much better.
-We all know that it has not been
an easy experience, for the three of you, really.
Can you talk me through some of those moments
where you wondered is this the right choice?
-I think one of the biggest things I learned
in this experience with Jonathan
was every single day was something new,
and every single day we were experiencing another challenge.
-When it came to the sweat lodge,
you kind of talked about how you
had stronger emotional connection with Ashmal
compared to me.
-It's just sometimes a little harder to read you,
and like kind of -- I want to be able to, like,
balance you both out because I am
dating you both.
-And I think I kind of took that
as you're not really seeing me open up,
even though I felt like I was doing that.
Maybe you haven't given me as much of an opportunity
as you've given Ashmal.
At the stair swap ceremony where you decided to leave,
I was trying to figure out like how that made me feel,
and honestly, I think straight up it was just sadness.
[ Sobbing ]
When you step down for Maximo and Ash,
it literally felt like a dagger to my heart.
**
I let my guard down to somebody
that I haven't really ever done before,
and you kind of crushed that.
-There was a lot of hurt, there was a lot of resentment
and it was tough.
-And so, Jonathan,
here is an opportunity for you to voice your concerns
about why you think a throuple
with Ashman and Rehman may not work.
-So I think when it comes to having concerns,
it would probably have to be at the very beginning
when I felt like an outsider.
I understood that you guys needed some time
to kind of get on the same page,
but I think it would have been better
if you guys had communicated with me
like a little bit better.
If this is how they're going to be in their relationship,
I don't want to be like this in a throuple.
Before the stair swap where I decided to leave,
we woke up, things were great,
and then all of a sudden they weren't.
And again, I wasn't really told why.
Knowing that I did try
and then you were still kind of saying
that I wasn't putting any effort,
just made me feel some type of way.
-Thank you for sharing that.
Please walk to the end of the platform
to get ready to make your final decisions.
-I'm literally thinking about so many things right now.
I mean, I do think about why I, like,
left them in the first place.
And I just think overall my experience with them
has been pretty rocky.
-Ashmal, Rehman, Jonathan,
if you want to commit as a throuple,
please meet -- -Do you -- can I just say
something real quick?
Can I like -- can I stop and just talk to them for a second?
-You want to say something now?
-Yeah.
**
-I just want to say a few things before we decide
if we're going to commit or not.
Want to make sure that you guys know exactly how I feel.
I just wanted to say that I'm super grateful to be here
and just to have had this experience with you both.
**
But that being said...
Rehman and Ashmal,
I do want to ask you both if you guys want to be my boyfriends?
**
-[ Indistinct conversation ]
-You know what I'm gonna say. Know what I'm gonna say?
-No, I don't. -Buenos dias, Novios.
-We're boyfriends. -Yeah, and we're boyfriends
all thanks to Jonathan.
-I'm just super excited to just walk away
from this experience with them
and just going into the real world.
-I'm ready to do some hands on learning.
-Boy, we've been doing hands on learning this whole time.
Okay? -Congratulations.
-Thanks, Scott. -The work here is done.
-Indeed. -I'm so excited.
You went from 0 to 2.
-Heading out here today,
I feel prepared to take polyamory into the real world
and into our marriage.
-We got the best souvenir ever!
-This is more than a souvenir. -Yep, yep, yep, yep, yep.
-This is Jess.
**
-Being in this experience,
I have re-fallen back in love with her.
-Oh, babe. -And we have a girlfriend,
So this is -- it's great.
-Babe, meet us at -- -Oh, alright.
**
-This has been a wild ride,
and we're leaving here at the highest point
that we've ever been at. I'm so, so happy.
-Look at these boys. How can I not be happy?
**
-Congratulations.
[ Cheers and applause ]
-We did it.
**