[upbeat music plays]
[Salamina] This social experiment, The Ultimatum South Africa,
will put six couples to the ultimate test.
[Howza] One person in each couple wants to get married,
while the other doesn't.
I'm literally telling him, "Marry me now." I don't have time.
I just want loyalty, honesty and consistency.
For me to stop being insecure, he needs to change.
I'm feeling all types of emotions because I don't know what to expect.
[Howza] They'll end their original relationships,
then choose a partner from this experiment to live with in a trial marriage.
Am I your dream?
Our energies are here.
[Nolla] The purpose of this experiment is to know our true characters.
Is it going to better your relationship, or is it going to break it?
I'm very nervous, but I'm ready for this journey.
[shouting excitedly]
Oh my God. [chuckles]
-[pops] -[squeals, giggles]
[screams] Whoo-hoo!
[Genesis] She's ticking all the boxes.
-Ah! -[giggles]
[Salamina] And may end up in love with more than one person.
It's the physical attraction. It's just a lot to deal with.
I'm falling for her.
Me, I had a wonderful chat with all these beautiful ladies here, except for my ex.
[exhales]
[Ruth] I feel sad.
-I feel bad. I feel ambushed. -[ominous music plays]
I miss him so much. [sobs]
[Howza] Then they'll go back to their original partner
for another trial marriage.
But, baby. I don't know--
Can we refrain from calling each other "baby"?
No, maybe I shouldn't have.
Then you can leave.
I feel, for the first time, in so long, I can imagine my life without him.
Aiden, did you bang my girl, bro?
-[Isaac] Whoa! Hey! Hey! -[all exclaiming]
What the fuck is happening right now?
You guys had sex not once, not twice…
Oh, flip.
["Try and Stop Me" by tides. playing]
I don't know if it's love or lust at this point.
I don't care what you say!
-Leave! Leave! Leave! -Ooh. Okay, I'm gonna leave before--
[Howza] Will this experiment unite them forever or tear them apart?
I've literally hit rock bottom. Hurts a lot.
Touch me one more time!
[Nolla] Let's do it!
♪ You can try and stop me… ♪
If he decides that he's going to leave here
with someone else,
a big part of me will be broken.
[Howza] When The Ultimatum comes to term,
they'll either choose to marry the person they arrived here with,
move on alone, or with someone new.
-She's mean! She is so mean! -I hear you.
[in Afrikaans] Get lost!
[Isaac in English] Fuck!
[Ruth in Zulu] No.
Tonight is a mess! A disaster.
[in English] Damn.
[sniffling, sobbing]
[dramatic music building]
[Khanya] I'm walking into a room, not knowing what to expect.
I haven't met any of the people in there.
[Lindile] Am I even supposed to be here? What if I'm making the biggest mistake?
-Hi, everyone. -Hi.
[gentle music plays]
I see a potential competition, but I say, bring it on.
[music becomes upbeat]
-What were your names again? -Aiden and Courtney.
-I love the way you guys are dressed. -Thanks.
At this point I have literally just seen really good-looking people.
And I'm just like, this is crazy.
I'm Thabi.
-What's your name? -Sizakele.
-Sizakele? Oh, okay. -Yeah.
And the gentleman on your right--
-It's my man. I'm kidding. -[all laughing]
[hopeful synth music plays]
-Hello, everybody. -[all] Hello.
[Salamina] You all look incredible.
My name is Tshepo Howza Mosese.
And I'm Salamina Mosese.
Welcome to The Ultimatum.
-[all cheering] -[music intensifies]
[Howza] Let's break the ice, why don't we?
So, Howza and I have been married for 15 years,
but very few people know that our relationship actually started
with Howza issuing me with somewhat of an ultimatum.
-Whoa. -Naturally, I had to sit with myself,
and really decide whether the fear of being hurt again
was really worth me losing him.
Some of you sitting here are at a similar crossroads.
You're all here because you need some clarity in your relationships
in order to move forward.
You'll get a glimpse of what married life could be with your partner,
and with someone new.
By the end of this process, you'll hopefully be able to answer
the biggest question in your relationship.
Are you meant to be together or not?
[ominous sting]
Okay, so let's get some introductions going.
-[gentle piano music plays] -Ah, the tertiary lovebirds.
[laughs]
[Howza] Thabi and Genesis.
Thabi, why did you think that issuing the ultimatum
would help your relationship move forward?
We've been together for a really long time,
so I think he's seen all that he needs to see
to know that he knows that he knows that he must marry me.
[pleasant music plays]
We were in varsity together,
and Genesis used to stare at me every time I walked to class.
So one day, I just asked him. I'm like, "Dude, what is it?"
He was like, "No, you're very beautiful." He asked for my number.
-And the rest is history. -[Genesis] History.
She's bubbly.
She's attentive.
She's beautiful.
[Thabi] Best thing that I like is the fact that he's very patient.
I know he tells me it's because of finances.
He's able to invest a lot of money in buying the things that he wants,
but he can't save up money to marry me.
He's scared.
That's what I think.
I thought bringing him to The Ultimatum
would sort of push him to the right direction, you know?
-I am ready… -[Salamina] Mm.
…so I really do hope that he does see it.
The point of this experience is to find out
whether absence makes the heart grow fonder or colder.
Because you guys are strangers now,
but your future spouse could be among these couples.
[Howza] I'm looking at Nkateko over there. You look a little nervous, my guy.
[in Zulu] Where are the cows, my man?
[all chuckling]
[in English] I'm nervous about what might happen.
She knows I want to be with her.
I feel we just need to get to a place
where the feeling is mutual in every aspect
that matters in terms of our relationship.
I love everything about her.
I love her mind, her heart, her body, I mean…
[both chuckle]
So, when we started dating,
I wasn't really gravitating towards you, but we were, like, connecting.
Because you weren't, like, initially my type.
[chuckles]
-But I became your type. -Yes.
[gentle music playing]
I decided to give Nkateko the ultimatum
because if you want to take me off the market,
you need to do it officially.
I'm not at a place where I feel comfortable enough
to take her off the market.
Khanya, when you decided to give this ultimatum,
did you feel like there were issues
that the two of you needed to work on as a couple?
Definitely. There's always room for improvement.
One of the issues are trust issues, and trusting that maybe you are enough.
I know I am,
but in terms of the other person thinking the same thing.
But I feel like the basics are intact, and I feel like we're a solid couple.
I just need him to believe that he is actually good enough
and capable of, you know, being my husband.
And with a decision this big, your answers won't come easily.
The Ultimatum is the best way for you to get the answers that you need.
By the end of the week,
each of you will have to choose a new partner to live with,
in what we call a trial marriage, for the next three weeks.
After which you will go through the exact same experience
with the person you arrived here with.
At the end of this experience, the ultimatum will need to be answered.
Tonight will be your final evening together as couples.
Everyone will officially put their relationships on pause.
I am very nervous, but I am ready for this journey.
I want to leave you with an old African proverb.
-[in Sotho] Watch how I charm them. -Hey!
[all laughing]
[in English] Love… like rain,
does not choose the grass on which it falls.
[Salamina] Hmm!
-[in Sotho] Look at you! -Don't rush me.
-Wow! -[all laughing]
[in English] I'd take my time, baby, but I think we can toast to that.
Cheers, guys.
[all] Cheers!
[uplifting music playing]
-Nice. -[Thabi] Yeah.
So I'm really excited to talk to every single woman
just to reinforce my belief that we need to be a couple
that knows how to communicate better.
That is what I really want at the end.
["Through My Hands" by Ethan Dufault plays]
♪ I just can't get over you ♪
♪ How do I keep you from Slipping through my hands? ♪
♪ I don't think you want it As bad as you know I do ♪
This is so nice.
♪ How do I keep you from Slipping through my hands? ♪
[song ends]
How are you feeling?
Mm, I'm not ready.
-I was ready… -Uh-huh.
…and then I saw those ladies, man.
If you don't want me to be with somebody else,
let's walk out of here then.
-[both laugh] -Okay, let's go. Let's go now.
[upbeat music plays]
I've been dating Isaac for two years now.
What's working in this relationship is the fact that I love him.
I love the fact that what I have with you
feels quite different from what I've had previously.
And I love you for your gentleness mostly.
For your softness.
When we're together, we can talk, and that really attracts me more to her.
And just the person you are.
[gentle music plays]
I am actually giving Isaac the ultimatum, because I can't come where you stay,
I don't know who you stay with, I can't meet your family members,
and I can't call you, I must only text. So it's a problem.
[music fades]
If the questions that I have are not answered by you,
I think I'm ready to start afresh.
I feel it's unfair to put me in that spot because what if I don't?
But then do you think it's fair for you to put me in a position
where I'm not sure about us, where I feel like I'm being hidden?
In a position where sometimes I feel like I should ask myself
whether you're married or not, whether you stay with someone else.
[Isaac] In my culture, we can't bring a woman home
without her being our wife.
And the most part of our relationship has been long-distance,
but if I have to break it down,
the amount of time that we actually spent together,
I can put it back to eight months.
That's still a short period of time to get to know somebody that well,
and you have that feeling to get married to them.
I want clarity.
If there's something shady with you, I'm ready for us to break up.
Have you ever had those moments where you doubt me?
-All the time. [chuckles] -[in Sotho] Oh, wow.
[in English] You know, one thing that you don't do?
Be like, "Hey, baby. How's your day going? How's work today?"
[suspenseful music plays]
You don't do that.
Now, going through this process,
I'll have somebody that I can spend time with.
If they ask me these questions, where do you think that will put me?
[music fades]
Okay, you're making me feel bad.
Okay, I know it's bad that I…
I want something that I don't give,
but I just wish that you at least communicated it.
Um, I'm sorry that you feel like I don't care.
The way that he's lashing out,
it gets me worried I might lose him in this process.
[Isaac] Let's not think of it now.
Let's enjoy our last night together. As I said, I love you. To moving forward…
So, you don't want to toast?
To moving forward, okay?
Cool.
[Ruth] I feel sad.
I feel bad.
I feel ambushed.
I feel a lot of things, honestly. It's…
Yeah.
[upbeat music plays]
[Lebo] And how are you feeling?
Mixed feelings about this whole thing.
Who did you like?
[music stops]
[both laugh]
Isn't it too early for that?
-No, I'm just asking. -But…
What scares you the most?
Um, the thought that you might end up with someone else.
-Just the thought. -I'm a one-woman man.
[mellow, upbeat music plays]
I'm your man.
What I love about him
is he's very supportive when it comes to anything that I do.
I love actually everything about him.
I love that she's very smart.
She has a good heart, man.
My biggest issue is his communication is poor,
and also him being a flirt.
He describes it as being friendly. He can't call each random girl "babe".
So, what I would really love is for her to stop all her insecurities.
I believe most of them, they stem from her previous relationship.
For me to stop being insecure, he needs to change.
[music fades]
It's not like I'm planning on leaving here with anyone else.
[in Sotho] I love you. Please hug me.
[in English] I don't know if him spending time with another woman is the answer,
but I hope when he comes back, uh, he comes back a-- a better communicator.
[Nolla] Just promise me.
[gentle music playing]
I realize why it's important for me to change.
I realize I cannot let you go.
[music fades]
But you were looking fly today.
-No lie. -[chuckles]
Thank you, baby. You look very clean yourself, hey?
I look like Michael Jackson.
-Thriller! -Michael… [chuckles]
-Don't do that to me. -[both laughing]
[whimsical music playing]
-So, who caught your eye? -Guess.
Okay, it's Khanyi.
-Why are you putting me on the spot? -Ah! I knew it!
[Thabi laughing]
-Well, that's a good thing. -So who caught your eye?
It's like we're doing a--
-An exchange. -Yes.
-So Nkateko caught your eye? -Yes.
-I'm feeling more nervous… -[gentle music plays]
…and I'm asking myself how will I be able to adjust
with her not being around.
-To a bond that is unbreakable. -Wow, that's a big one.
I'm definitely coming out of this with you.
Our last night together,
we're going to spend it the best way we know how,
which is to be together, we'll talk, cuddle.
I need to, like, wash my face and put on pajamas and stuff.
I mean--
-Pajamas on the last night? -What do you mean?
I thought you were going to rock up with, you know, a lingerie type of thing.
[Thabi] I was.
[Genesis] Mwah.
[mellow, romantic music plays]
-♪ There's something about you ♪ -[both giggling]
[song ends]
["Show You Love" by Jalen Owusu, Niall Lavelle and Tobias Silvester plays]
♪ You said that You'll be there to hold me ♪
We won't see or speak to each other for a month.
Does it make you sad?
Anxious.
-[upbeat music plays] -[cow moos]
-We met in Mossel Bay, swam at the beach… -[clears throat]
…held hands.
-[chuckles] -Mm-mm.
-We didn't-- -We didn't-- We held arms.
Oh, yeah. You grappled me.
-No, I did not. -[chuckles]
It was definitely the fact that she loved to have so much fun
that I fell in love with initially.
[upbeat music plays]
The moment I fell in love with Aiden,
I felt like there was no one in this world that I could be my complete self with.
The Ultimatum makes me feel
a bit stressed out.
I don't think I could handle her walking away from me.
I'm giving Aiden the ultimatum,
because he is the person that I do want to get married to.
[Aiden] There's a lot around marriage that scares me.
There are so many people that have been together for decades,
and still end up getting divorced.
It's just so much more of a painful procedure
than if it's just a break-up.
I think seeing you with other people is definitely going to hurt.
But at the same time, I'm also going to be going through the same experience.
[Aiden] Mm.
Hopefully, we'll both get something valuable out of it.
Mm. I hope so.
-You're going to walk out of here, then… -That's it.
[Aiden chuckles dryly]
That's it.
[gentle music playing]
[Aiden] She's putting the hammer down,
so I suppose I just-- I gotta push myself to make a decision.
Well, you either want to see me walking down the aisle or walking away.
I love you.
I hope you never forget that.
I won't.
[music fades]
[Genesis] Last night was amazing.
At least we were able to go out with a bang.
I cannot look back. It is tense.
Emotions are high.
[Genesis] So, you're actually leaving?
Yeah, but you know the reason why we're here,
and finances are just also just a thing, benchmark that you are--
Like, we can't shy away from the fact that we're Africans,
and there are certain traditions and certain manners
you're supposed to follow in order for you to be able to get a wife.
It's not like you can't afford that.
Because you are putting pressure on yourself,
and you think you need to have a certain amount.
That's why it's delaying.
I'm questioning whether this is the right decision to make.
-So, these are the goodbyes? -Yeah, bro.
[melancholy music playing]
I'm thinking, maybe I shouldn't have done this.
Maybe I was wrong. Maybe I should've, you know, done things different.
Bye, baby.
It's not goodbye, actually. It's, "See you later."
[sentimental piano music plays]
I'm going to be on your case about feelings.
I'm feeling, I don't know, a lot of things.
-Yeah? -Yeah, a little sad, though.
Why are you sad?
-[chuckles] -You know why. Baby, you're leaving.
I'm leaving. Not for good, hopefully.
[dramatic, sentimental music playing]
We used to be neighbors.
I introduced myself to her.
[Siza] We got very close.
And he asked me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes.
I love that he loves me. He's very vocal about it.
He's also put a lot of actions to show me that he loves me,
and that makes me love him even more.
I love you.
-Aw. -[giggles]
When we were friends, I used to be able to confide in him
with-- about everything and anything.
Yeah, I lost my friend.
[music fades]
We've been in a relationship for five to six months now.
When he mentioned that he wanted to get married,
we were three months in.
[Lindile] I'm giving Sizakele the ultimatum because
I feel like I'm in the age where I only need people
who I want to grow with in my life right now.
I hope this ultimatum is going to give me the answer I want.
It's just, I'm feeling my heart is really heavy.
I-- I didn't think I'd feel like this.
["Keeping Score" by St. Evan plays]
[Nkateko] I'm just going to need you to tell me what I want to hear,
because that's what I need.
-What do you mean? -That you love me and trust me.
I do love you,
but I told you about the trust already. Like, we need to work on it.
Yeah, but I'm going to leave now.
So, I don't know if you want me to leave, knowing that this is our departing.
I think I just want confirmation that, regardless of what will happen,
I love you.
♪ I see it as a warning ♪
♪ I feel it in the morning ♪
I feel like the clock is ticking,
and that's what's actually making me more and more afraid.
My mind's gonna keep wondering what's happening when I'm not around.
I know she's probably thinking the same thing.
♪ I'm tired of figuring out ♪
♪ I know how it feels Walking out the door ♪
♪ Baby, it's fine ♪
[Thabi] My life is mostly him, you know.
If he decides that he's going to leave here
with someone else,
I think a-- a big part of me will be broken.
["It's Just Beginning" by The Breakwaves plays]
♪ The sun is rising Rising up ♪
♪ It's just beginning ♪
♪ A brand-new day ♪
[Howza] The couples have all split up,
now becoming eligible singles for the rest of the week.
[Salamina] They are making their way here now to meet up again
and start the process.
[Aiden] I'm feeling excited for the day. It feels good to be a single man. Freedom.
[intriguing music plays]
[Siza] I see Lindile walking my direction.
He sits next to me, and I can just feel my heart pounding.
[Khanya] I'm finally getting to know the other guys.
I'm hoping that we give each other enough space to reflect,
to learn from the other people,
and also learn from those people's problems as well.
I'm just feeling confident in going through this.
[exciting music playing]
[Ruth] Isaac sits next to me. He's not even greeting me.
I'm like, "Dude."
[Thabi] At this point, it became real.
Hello, everyone.
You are all looking lovely,
and you look like you're ready to get things started.
[Isaac] Mm.
-[gentle music playing] -Thabi, take me through your emotions.
Was it a tough goodbye?
I felt a great sense of regret at some point.
And it was just very emotionally draining having to think that he's actually my ex.
It wasn't easy.
Before making the big commitment of marriage,
take the time to ask burning questions.
And stay open to the possibility
that you may just end up in love with more than one person.
Just remember, when the ultimatum comes to term,
you will have to choose to marry the person you arrived here with,
or move on alone,
or with someone new.
[music fades]
Let's start with the first step, and for you, that's speed dating.
Excited and nervous, and just kind of facing the unknown.
Howza and I will see you at the end of the week.
[Ruth] Knowing that he's about to date five other girls,
it gets me worried.
[gentle music playing]
I'm feeling all types of emotions because I don't know what to expect.
[exciting hip hop music plays]
Oh my God. Yeah.
-Hi. -Hi. How are you?
-I'm good. You? -Good.
Hi. How are you?
-Well, and you? -Good, good.
-So, what I'm looking for is… -Hey.
…good conversations. Let's get to know each other.
Nkateko.
-Mathabo. -Mathabo?
-Yes. Short for Thabi. -Nice to meet you.
He's looking stunning. [chuckles]
Yeah, okay. And tell me about yourself. Where you're from and…
So, I'm from Limpopo. Dad, Tsonga. Mom, Venda.
I can speak a bit of Tsonga.
Why, are you into Tsonga men? That's why.
-[giggling] No! -Come on.
Well, my current person is Tswana, so…
Anyway. So, tell me, what is your take of marriage and family?
There's no point in time where you know you'll be ready,
but you need to get yourself to that place where you feel like you're ready.
I feel like Thabi is inquisitive.
And I think that's also very beautiful. She's easy to get along with.
It was really nice speaking to you, Nkateko.
It was nice meeting you.
It was definitely a good connection at first sight.
-Bye! -Bye-bye.
-I'm guessing you gave the ultimatum? -Yes. [chuckles]
Why did you give the ultimatum?
I've been in other relationships and I wasted three years of my time--
Same here. Same here.
So, I wouldn't want to go through that route again, so that's…
Lebo knows exactly what she wants, and that's what I want also.
What do you do?
-I'm an entrepreneur. -Oh, nice.
-What do you do for a living? -I'm an entrepreneur.
-So, what do you do? -I'm an entrepreneur.
An entrepreneur? Okay. So you're a workaholic?
No, I'm not.
I've never been on a speed date before, so I feel like it's a bit exhausting.
-It is. -So just bear with me.
That's okay.
I feel like I'm just irritating her.
Entrepreneur is important because you never know what the person is doing.
Until you ask and they'll let you know, but you haven't asked.
What do you do?
I'm an interior decorator, and I do other things as well.
What are your red flags?
Lies, and more lies.
-I can't stand lies and liars. -Is it?
-Yeah. Do you like being challenged? -Yeah, because I'm a winner.
[Khanya chuckles]
So, the guys that I met are like six and sevens out of ten
in terms of conversation.
-How old are you? -I'm 33.
Thirt-- Oh, wow.
-How old are you? -I'm 33.
-Really? -Mm-hmm. Okay, in December I'll be 34.
When in December?
The 5th of December.
Oh, I'm on the 10th of December, the same year as you.
-So we're five days apart. -Ooh, wow.
-That's crazy! -Oh, that's crazy, hey?
The stars are aligning.
[Khanya] I am a bit of a hard nut to crack.
As you get beyond that shell, I'm like the mushiest, sweetest person.
[slow, romantic music plays]
Ooh, if it isn't Ms. Lovely Ruth. How are you, sweetheart?
I'm good.
You know when you feel this person likes me
from the moment they sit down, and you feel the same way.
If we were to go, where would you take me?
I can see you're an outdoor kind of…
-Yeah. -…loving person. See?
-I'm good, right? -Okay, yeah, you're good.
Huh.
In a woman, this is what I want.
You don't have to love me. I have to love you.
If you can just give me respect and honesty,
I'll make you the queen of my heart.
Then I respect you, man.
-I want to be the queen! -Thank you.
It gives me those falling in love vibes.
[laughs]
-Hey, how you doing? -Good, and you?
I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good.
By the way, I also wear glasses, hey.
-Oh, really? -I should've brought them.
-Like matching glasses. -Yes.
[both chuckle]
I already had a slight attraction to him on the first evening.
How do you know that you've found the one, because clearly you're here now?
Because I need to find out if he actually is my true love.
Are there other fish in the sea? You know what I mean?
Yeah, maybe there are. Maybe there are.
From my perspective, I feel you have to tick a lot of boxes.
-What are those boxes for you? -Right, uh…
[both laugh]
The most important thing I like doing when I'm around people is laughing.
If you're not making me laugh--
-There's something wrong. -Right?
So what Courtney and I have in common
is we're both deep thinkers and we love deep conversations.
Commitment. Consistent commitment.
-So, you're looking for stability. -I'm looking for the whole thing.
Everything?
-[both laugh] -The whole thing. The whole box.
I also love stability.
That's just something that I have to have in my life,
otherwise I go crazy.
-[both laugh] -I don't even have to try hard around him.
-Like, he's just really easy to be around. -[mellow music plays]
-Genesis, right? -Yup.
-So how are you? -I'm good.
-What are you looking for? -Personality.
If I'm able to have a deep conversation with someone.
What do you dislike?
-Confidence is definitely number one. -Dislike?
[music stops]
-Oh, sorry! -[chuckles]
You don't like confidence, so what kind of guy--
-I definitely like confidence. -[both laughing]
-What's the craziest thing you've done? -Walk on top of a bus in motion.
One of those double-decker buses where you stand--
No, not the one that doesn't have a roof.
I find myself laughing and smiling in his company.
-Bungee jumping, is it your kind of thing? -I prefer skydiving.
When you bungee jump until the rope pulls you back--
But that rope's going to snap. I've seen way too many horror stories.
All of these feelings make me immediately attracted to him.
I don't know if it's love or lust at this point,
but I am feeling great.
Where are you, like, mentally, emotionally, kids, career?
-[whimsical music plays] -I don't know if I want kids, like, ever.
Okay, let me drink to that.
As for marriage, I think I would want to get married,
but like when I'm, like, 40-something, 50.
-Oh! -Yeah.
-Reason being-- [laughs] -I'll drink to that again.
Sizakele shocked me.
Everything you're saying, believe me, I would expect a dude to say.
I was like, "I'm speaking to a guy. This is my homie, the next guy."
-Hi. -How you doing?
-Good. How're you? -I'm good. I'm good.
-So Nkateko comes. -[romantic music plays]
He's wearing this red shirt.
Red looks good on you.
-Oh, it does, right? Thanks. -Yeah.
Yeah, makes me lose concentration a bit.
How are you doing, like, since everything has started?
Oh.
That's sweet. [chuckles]
[sputtering]
[laughs, gasps]
-I hope I've been a blessing to you. -[squeals, giggles]
-You just put me on the spot there. -Right?
[both laugh]
I feel like Sizakele is a vibe. She's very fun to be with.
-Where do you originally come from? -Uh, Limpopo.
Can you teach me Tsonga?
-I want to learn how to-- [giggles] -I do not mind.
-[in Tsonga] I am happy. -I am happy?
Yeah, I am happy.
[both laugh]
[in English] Okay, I'll get there.
The attraction is really there.
-I don't want to leave. I'm just playing. -[giggles]
[Nkateko] I am Mr. Charming.
I was born that way. [chuckles]
-[both laugh] -[Courtney] I've already met great guys.
I'm already feeling so overwhelmed.
Lovely meeting you, though.
That was fun. I'm finally getting to meet the other guys.
I'm just looking forward to that. I just want to see who ends up with who.
["Good Vibrations" by Robert Lamond and BodaciousThang plays]
[Courtney] We arrive at the roller-rink.
I'm excited because I like Genesis, and Nolla, and Lindile.
Okay, these guys are cool. I'll get along with them.
And I am stressing because I've never roller-skated before.
I'm looking forward to having a conversation with Ruth.
At the end of the speed dating, she seemed like a lovely character.
[all chuckling]
This guy is tempting me. Shame.
-[upbeat music plays] -♪ We're gonna celebrate ♪
-Come, Courtney. -I don't trust you. You're going to fall.
[Nolla] Oh!
[Nolla chuckling]
Genesis is looking really confident…
[Genesis] Leave the rail!
…and I'm still holding on to the rails.
Let's go. Let's fly into the future.
-Nolla, you're going to make me fall. -[in Tswana] You won't. I'll balance you.
[in English] I don't want you near me. Please go.
I don't want to be rushed because I know I'm going to fumble.
The experience is nice, but I fell.
[whimsical music plays]
Twice.
I'm going to fall!
[laughing]
But Lindile has been helping. Wow.
[Lindile] Are you all right?
[Courtney and Genesis groan]
You seem very confident. That's cool.
You said you like confidence.
-I do. -Mm-hmm.
-So, it was admirable. -Admirable.
-["To Love You" by Prong Praison plays] -[giggles]
The roller-skating date helped me to realize
that I can enjoy, you know, spending time with other people
without thinking about Thabi.
I can see Genesis as being a potential.
♪ Next to you Just let the time pass by ♪
How are you feeling?
[exhales deeply]
-Ready. -Are you ready?
-Yeah. -Okay, that's nice.
What do you do for a living?
I'm an aspiring actor.
-I'm also a sports model. -Oh!
-Are you serious? -Yes.
I'm an actress.
-You are lying. Okay. -Give me a monologue then.
-[both laugh] -You're putting me on the spot here.
-What do you want me to play for you? -A man that's just lost his daughter.
[tragic string music plays]
[music distorts, stops]
[laughs]
-Okay, that's enough. -[both laugh]
From that point, I knew exactly Ruth might be a perfect match for me.
-["We Stay Up All Night" plays] -♪ We stay up all night ♪
-♪ And talk until the sun rises ♪ -[indistinct conversation and laughter]
-How's your experience-- -I'm getting excited.
-[Lindile] Good. -I'm getting excited, yeah.
Do you have your mind… to someone?
Maybe there's someone that you feel, "I'm interested in getting to know them."
I don't know everyone yet.
On my side, yes. The energy is there.
-There's sync, it's there. -[all laughing]
[Nolla laughing] So…
I only got to, like, at least connect with two, to be honest.
Yeah, the rest must rest.
It looked like Nolla had his eye on Ruth.
Ruth, she and I, we clicked. The chemistry is there.
Madame.
[mellow hip hop music playing]
-[Ruth] The exes must remain. -[all laugh]
[Nolla] No exes.
[Lindile] And it kind of interrupted my intentions.
I would've preferred spending more time with Ruth.
I'm left with Sizakele, which is something I'm not looking forward to.
There's guys who are in a relationship for seven years,
and it doesn't seem like they actually know their partners.
But, baby, I don't know--
Can we refrain from calling each other "baby"?
-Okay. -[whispers] If you don't mind.
-Okay, I'll try. It's not easy. -[both chuckle]
You're dating for fun. What's the motive--
I'm dating you because I love you.
Refrain from that, please.
-Refrain from? -Hold your feelings.
I'm talking about my feelings?
No, no, no. I was saying telling me how you feel about me.
It's like he doesn't want to know.
He says he knows how I feel about him,
so we shouldn't talk about how I feel about him.
-But listen-- -No, it's okay.
I'll just focus on other people and forget about you.
That's why you brought me here, right?
[tense music plays]
It's like you're fight--
Must I pretend I don't see you? Like you're somebody else?
I want to listen to you. I want you to explain what you're feeling.
It's one of the reasons why--
-You know what my problem is? -Mm?
You want me to tell you how I'm feeling,
and then when I'm telling you, it just can't be about you.
-So, why are we fighting? -Who says we're fighting?
[chuckles dryly]
Wow.
Okay, no. I am not doing this, but it's fine.
Actually, I'm done with this conversation.
["Doing the Most" by Robert Lamond plays]
♪ I don't wanna be here Wasting my time ♪
-Yes, madame. -[pleasant music plays]
-Yes. -Enjoying yourself so far?
[in Zulu] Yes, and you?
[in English] Yeah, I'm enjoying your company.
Is it? Is that why you called me to come here?
I had to, man.
Ruth… Wow.
One gets free around her.
The conversation just naturally flows.
So, I think our energy are on the same level.
Our energies are here.
Bumper-to-bumper. [laughs]
You are every man's dream.
Am I your dream?
How would you feel being Ms. Ruth Maseko?
-Missus! -Missus. Sorry, sorry, sorry.
[Ruth] Nolla holds my hand,
and I'm like…
[in Zulu] Oh, my goodness.
[in English] Ruth Maseko. Yeah, sounds about right.
This is a good lady, man.
-[Ruth] Future. -[Nolla] To the future.
He says all the things that I want to hear.
I want to see what's about to happen. I want to see where we're heading.
If something is ending, it must end. If it carries on, it must carry on, man.
-["Feeling You" by Mi Casa plays] -♪ I'm feeling you ♪
♪ I'm feeling you I'm feeling you, my baby ♪
It's mingling week, so I'm looking forward to
seeing what we're going to do and meeting the ladies.
Welcome, guys.
Can I have you guys line up over here for me, please.
-We're going to do salsa dancing today. -[Nkateko] Okay.
[teacher] Yeah!
I can't dance.
Leaders, start with our left foot.
We're going to step on the spot. We're going to go one, two, three.
I feel a bit stiff.
We've gotta work it.
-[salsa music playing] -Oh, look at you!
Hey! [chuckles]
All right, are we ready to try with a partner?
Step, step, together. Now go out to the side. Close your feet.
Nkateko is a cool guy.
He made it easy for me to just move around.
So the guys are going to dip us.
So let's swap partners.
-Right, are we ready? -[Ruth] Yes.
And we're going to go-- But he's the boss.
Yes!
Nkateko, yeah, it was really nice dancing with him.
He's a vibe.
The only thing I kept wondering was would Khanya be okay with me
being in the presence of other women?
Me and Thabi would actually hold hands and start dancing.
Which also contributed to a lot of chemistry.
[teacher] Look up. Don't look at the floor all the time.
Look into your partner's eyes.
Basic. Ready for the twirl.
Seeing another man dance with her, it's very nerve-wrecking.
-[woman] Whee! -[laughing]
[Khanya] Are you saying I'm stiff, man?
Dancing with Isaac was so much fun.
It was also that anticipation
that we were both, like, wanting to meet one another.
Now remember, each partner reacts differently.
-So you first kind of wait. -[Khanya exclaims]
-[both laughing] -[teacher] Are we good?
My mind wasn't even thinking of Ruth.
-Look at you. -[Khanya laughs]
[chuckling] Okay. No. Then back here, yes.
The dance with my ex, we actually still had that chemistry
like we just met.
I think that's making me miss her a lot.
There we go.
Yes! Yes! Yes!
All right. Did you guys have fun?
-[Thabi] Yes! -[Nkateko] We did.
I had a lovely time. I hope you guys had lots of fun.
[Thabi] We did.
Please keep dancing, and I'll see you guys hopefully soon.
Thank you.
The salsa dancing was sexy. It was spicy. Yeah, it was interesting.
-["Drink It Up" by Paul Smith plays] -♪ Just drink it up ♪
♪ Pass me another cup ♪
How was it seeing, like, your partner speed dating?
[chuckling] He gets along with girls a lot.
-He's a natural flirt, so I'm used to it. -[chuckles] Ah.
[tense music plays]
Not again. Yeah, let me remind you that I don't trust you.
You're a natural flirt. You communicate with your body.
-[Khanya] Okay, it's a contest. -Imagine.
Please, may I speak to you?
How do you feel? Your girlfriend is walking away.
I wish them all the best, actually.
When you start thinking about what your partner is doing,
how they will connect with the other person,
it always stays at the back of your mind, like, "What's happening?"
Uh, how do you feel about the-- the whole situation?
I still don't know what to expect. And that's what I wanted to see.
I wanted to see him interact with other women, you know,
-when he thinks I'm not looking. -[laughs]
-But you're looking. -Yeah.
-I can see you're looking. -No, I'm not looking looking.
-[chuckles] -Like, I will see.
She's an attractive lady. She has good energy.
While we're flirting, her eyes keep looking at her ex-boyfriend.
-What makes you happy? -Lots of attention.
-Okay. -And affection.
I used to think it was money, and, like, what a guy does for me,
and then I was like, "No, it's not that."
Isaac is the guy that I enjoy speaking to the most.
In a few days, I will be in my late 20s.
-Yes. -Happy birthday in advance.
But I get the feeling I'll be around on your birthday.
[mock laughs] Maybe.
-Maybe, maybe. -We don't know.
He's right up there in terms of the rankings.
-Pour in the jokes. -[Thabi] Hello.
-Hey, girl. -Hello.
Are we interrupting you guys?
-Not at all. -Not really, not really.
[Thabi] Can we join you?
Did you miss us?
-Nope. -No.
[laughing]
[Nkateko] This is actually the first time I see Khanya with other men
and actually getting along.
I'm not going to lie to you. Uh, it's been so hard.
-To self-love. -[Aiden] Yeah, self-love.
-To self-love, yeah. -[Aiden] Cheers to that.
[Isaac and Nkateko] Cheers.
[Thabi laughs]
-Where are you going? -I need to borrow her for a second.
-Oh! -[dramatic note rising]
-Are we talking to our exes now? -Only this time.
-Oh, okay. -[gentle music plays]
[Khanya] He pulled me away from a situation
where he felt like there was a connection.
He wants me all to himself.
[Nkateko] I can't deny that I do care about you.
It got me emotional seeing other men laugh with you.
I feel a bit selfish,
but I enjoy being the only man making you laugh.
I will always love you, Khanya.
You know, you always know how to say the right things.
-[tense music plays] -You've got gift of gab.
You know how to talk.
Let's just go around, gift-of-gabbing everyone.
And I'm like the idiot to fall for it.
You're the one that started talking marriage.
You brought it up first.
When, then?
Just give us time to get back into that place.
I don't have any qualms with that, but I'm not waiting another December.
[chuckles dryly]
We might not really understand how serious this is for the both of us.
I really don't want to lose you, hey?
And it's scaring me.
Can you understand why we had to get to a place where--
If you're all about just talking, then let me know, then I just move on.
And maybe be with someone who wants exactly what I want.
Show me.
-[chuckles] -It's time to show now.
["Dangerous Games" by David Thomas Connolly and Gaddiel Francis Nketia plays]
♪ We're playing dangerous games ♪
♪ Dangerous games ♪
♪ Deep down, they just think they are ♪
♪ Another little wannabe gangster Trying to play hard ♪
♪ Deep down, they just think they are ♪
♪ Another little wannabe gangster Trying to play hard ♪
♪ Deep down, deep down, deep down ♪