1 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:07,840 [upbeat music plays] 2 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:17,920 [Salamina] This social experiment, The Ultimatum South Africa, 3 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:20,960 will put six couples to the ultimate test. 4 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:26,480 [Howza] One person in each couple wants to get married, 5 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:27,920 while the other doesn't. 6 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:30,520 I'm literally telling him, "Marry me now." I don't have time. 7 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:34,000 I just want loyalty, honesty and consistency. 8 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:38,720 For me to stop being insecure, he needs to change. 9 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:43,360 I'm feeling all types of emotions because I don't know what to expect. 10 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:46,160 [Howza] They'll end their original relationships, 11 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:50,680 then choose a partner from this experiment to live with in a trial marriage. 12 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:51,720 Am I your dream? 13 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:53,040 Our energies are here. 14 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:57,040 [Nolla] The purpose of this experiment is to know our true characters. 15 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:01,080 Is it going to better your relationship, or is it going to break it? 16 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:05,040 I'm very nervous, but I'm ready for this journey. 17 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:06,880 [shouting excitedly] 18 00:01:06,960 --> 00:01:08,640 Oh my God. [chuckles] 19 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:10,000 -[pops] -[squeals, giggles] 20 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:11,480 [screams] Whoo-hoo! 21 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:14,080 [Genesis] She's ticking all the boxes. 22 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:15,440 -Ah! -[giggles] 23 00:01:15,520 --> 00:01:18,720 [Salamina] And may end up in love with more than one person. 24 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:22,640 It's the physical attraction. It's just a lot to deal with. 25 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:24,560 I'm falling for her. 26 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:28,800 Me, I had a wonderful chat with all these beautiful ladies here, except for my ex. 27 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:30,120 [exhales] 28 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:31,240 [Ruth] I feel sad. 29 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,800 -I feel bad. I feel ambushed. -[ominous music plays] 30 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,720 I miss him so much. [sobs] 31 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:40,160 [Howza] Then they'll go back to their original partner 32 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:41,800 for another trial marriage. 33 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:43,680 But, baby. I don't know-- 34 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:45,960 Can we refrain from calling each other "baby"? 35 00:01:48,320 --> 00:01:49,880 No, maybe I shouldn't have. 36 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:51,240 Then you can leave. 37 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:56,920 I feel, for the first time, in so long, I can imagine my life without him. 38 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:58,520 Aiden, did you bang my girl, bro? 39 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:00,720 -[Isaac] Whoa! Hey! Hey! -[all exclaiming] 40 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:03,120 What the fuck is happening right now? 41 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:05,120 You guys had sex not once, not twice… 42 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:06,280 Oh, flip. 43 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:07,920 ["Try and Stop Me" by tides. playing] 44 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:10,760 I don't know if it's love or lust at this point. 45 00:02:10,840 --> 00:02:12,640 I don't care what you say! 46 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:17,520 -Leave! Leave! Leave! -Ooh. Okay, I'm gonna leave before-- 47 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:25,120 [Howza] Will this experiment unite them forever or tear them apart? 48 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:29,800 I've literally hit rock bottom. Hurts a lot. 49 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:32,080 Touch me one more time! 50 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:34,480 [Nolla] Let's do it! 51 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:38,040 ♪ You can try and stop me… ♪ 52 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:40,320 If he decides that he's going to leave here 53 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:41,240 with someone else, 54 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,240 a big part of me will be broken. 55 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:45,760 [Howza] When The Ultimatum comes to term, 56 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:49,040 they'll either choose to marry the person they arrived here with, 57 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:52,000 move on alone, or with someone new. 58 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:55,360 -She's mean! She is so mean! -I hear you. 59 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:57,320 [in Afrikaans] Get lost! 60 00:02:58,440 --> 00:02:59,640 [Isaac in English] Fuck! 61 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:01,560 [Ruth in Zulu] No. 62 00:03:01,640 --> 00:03:04,480 Tonight is a mess! A disaster. 63 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:06,480 [in English] Damn. 64 00:03:06,560 --> 00:03:08,040 [sniffling, sobbing] 65 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,120 [dramatic music building] 66 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,440 [Khanya] I'm walking into a room, not knowing what to expect. 67 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:28,800 I haven't met any of the people in there. 68 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:32,800 [Lindile] Am I even supposed to be here? What if I'm making the biggest mistake? 69 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:34,120 -Hi, everyone. -Hi. 70 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:38,960 [gentle music plays] 71 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:43,440 I see a potential competition, but I say, bring it on. 72 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:45,200 [music becomes upbeat] 73 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:47,640 -What were your names again? -Aiden and Courtney. 74 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:50,000 -I love the way you guys are dressed. -Thanks. 75 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:54,360 At this point I have literally just seen really good-looking people. 76 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:56,600 And I'm just like, this is crazy. 77 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:58,120 I'm Thabi. 78 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:00,240 -What's your name? -Sizakele. 79 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:01,840 -Sizakele? Oh, okay. -Yeah. 80 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,040 And the gentleman on your right-- 81 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:06,240 -It's my man. I'm kidding. -[all laughing] 82 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,160 [hopeful synth music plays] 83 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:11,960 -Hello, everybody. -[all] Hello. 84 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:14,520 [Salamina] You all look incredible. 85 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,200 My name is Tshepo Howza Mosese. 86 00:04:17,280 --> 00:04:19,280 And I'm Salamina Mosese. 87 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:21,320 Welcome to The Ultimatum. 88 00:04:21,400 --> 00:04:24,120 -[all cheering] -[music intensifies] 89 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:26,360 [Howza] Let's break the ice, why don't we? 90 00:04:26,440 --> 00:04:29,760 So, Howza and I have been married for 15 years, 91 00:04:29,840 --> 00:04:34,720 but very few people know that our relationship actually started 92 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:38,720 with Howza issuing me with somewhat of an ultimatum. 93 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,640 -Whoa. -Naturally, I had to sit with myself, 94 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:46,600 and really decide whether the fear of being hurt again 95 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:49,040 was really worth me losing him. 96 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:53,840 Some of you sitting here are at a similar crossroads. 97 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:59,200 You're all here because you need some clarity in your relationships 98 00:04:59,280 --> 00:05:01,040 in order to move forward. 99 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:05,320 You'll get a glimpse of what married life could be with your partner, 100 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:06,840 and with someone new. 101 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:10,880 By the end of this process, you'll hopefully be able to answer 102 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:13,560 the biggest question in your relationship. 103 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:17,280 Are you meant to be together or not? 104 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:18,320 [ominous sting] 105 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:21,480 Okay, so let's get some introductions going. 106 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:24,520 -[gentle piano music plays] -Ah, the tertiary lovebirds. 107 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:25,440 [laughs] 108 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:27,480 [Howza] Thabi and Genesis. 109 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:31,360 Thabi, why did you think that issuing the ultimatum 110 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:33,720 would help your relationship move forward? 111 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:35,680 We've been together for a really long time, 112 00:05:35,760 --> 00:05:39,360 so I think he's seen all that he needs to see 113 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:43,640 to know that he knows that he knows that he must marry me. 114 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:45,840 [pleasant music plays] 115 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:47,360 We were in varsity together, 116 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:51,560 and Genesis used to stare at me every time I walked to class. 117 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:54,680 So one day, I just asked him. I'm like, "Dude, what is it?" 118 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:58,240 He was like, "No, you're very beautiful." He asked for my number. 119 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:00,120 -And the rest is history. -[Genesis] History. 120 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:04,760 She's bubbly. 121 00:06:04,840 --> 00:06:06,440 She's attentive. 122 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:07,560 She's beautiful. 123 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:11,520 [Thabi] Best thing that I like is the fact that he's very patient. 124 00:06:12,320 --> 00:06:15,120 I know he tells me it's because of finances. 125 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:19,640 He's able to invest a lot of money in buying the things that he wants, 126 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,120 but he can't save up money to marry me. 127 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:23,400 He's scared. 128 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:24,600 That's what I think. 129 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:27,640 I thought bringing him to The Ultimatum 130 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:31,280 would sort of push him to the right direction, you know? 131 00:06:31,360 --> 00:06:33,080 -I am ready… -[Salamina] Mm. 132 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:36,240 …so I really do hope that he does see it. 133 00:06:36,840 --> 00:06:39,480 The point of this experience is to find out 134 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:43,080 whether absence makes the heart grow fonder or colder. 135 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:45,640 Because you guys are strangers now, 136 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:49,440 but your future spouse could be among these couples. 137 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:53,760 [Howza] I'm looking at Nkateko over there. You look a little nervous, my guy. 138 00:06:53,840 --> 00:06:56,280 [in Zulu] Where are the cows, my man? 139 00:06:56,360 --> 00:06:58,200 [all chuckling] 140 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:00,800 [in English] I'm nervous about what might happen. 141 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:02,400 She knows I want to be with her. 142 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:04,000 I feel we just need to get to a place 143 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:07,840 where the feeling is mutual in every aspect 144 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:11,040 that matters in terms of our relationship. 145 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:13,760 I love everything about her. 146 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:16,840 I love her mind, her heart, her body, I mean… 147 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:18,200 [both chuckle] 148 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:21,240 So, when we started dating, 149 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:25,480 I wasn't really gravitating towards you, but we were, like, connecting. 150 00:07:25,560 --> 00:07:27,520 Because you weren't, like, initially my type. 151 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:28,640 [chuckles] 152 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:30,440 -But I became your type. -Yes. 153 00:07:30,520 --> 00:07:31,960 [gentle music playing] 154 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:36,240 I decided to give Nkateko the ultimatum 155 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:38,560 because if you want to take me off the market, 156 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:40,400 you need to do it officially. 157 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:43,680 I'm not at a place where I feel comfortable enough 158 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:45,120 to take her off the market. 159 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:52,240 Khanya, when you decided to give this ultimatum, 160 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:54,000 did you feel like there were issues 161 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:56,880 that the two of you needed to work on as a couple? 162 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:59,960 Definitely. There's always room for improvement. 163 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:04,960 One of the issues are trust issues, and trusting that maybe you are enough. 164 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:06,680 I know I am, 165 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:09,520 but in terms of the other person thinking the same thing. 166 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:13,000 But I feel like the basics are intact, and I feel like we're a solid couple. 167 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:16,040 I just need him to believe that he is actually good enough 168 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,440 and capable of, you know, being my husband. 169 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:23,720 And with a decision this big, your answers won't come easily. 170 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:29,560 The Ultimatum is the best way for you to get the answers that you need. 171 00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:31,320 By the end of the week, 172 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:35,160 each of you will have to choose a new partner to live with, 173 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:39,840 in what we call a trial marriage, for the next three weeks. 174 00:08:39,920 --> 00:08:44,200 After which you will go through the exact same experience 175 00:08:44,280 --> 00:08:46,640 with the person you arrived here with. 176 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:51,120 At the end of this experience, the ultimatum will need to be answered. 177 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:54,320 Tonight will be your final evening together as couples. 178 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:59,960 Everyone will officially put their relationships on pause. 179 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:03,160 I am very nervous, but I am ready for this journey. 180 00:09:05,040 --> 00:09:08,000 I want to leave you with an old African proverb. 181 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:09,880 -[in Sotho] Watch how I charm them. -Hey! 182 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:11,320 [all laughing] 183 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:14,760 [in English] Love… like rain, 184 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:18,080 does not choose the grass on which it falls. 185 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:19,040 [Salamina] Hmm! 186 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:21,600 -[in Sotho] Look at you! -Don't rush me. 187 00:09:21,680 --> 00:09:22,760 -Wow! -[all laughing] 188 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,760 [in English] I'd take my time, baby, but I think we can toast to that. 189 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:26,800 Cheers, guys. 190 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:28,400 [all] Cheers! 191 00:09:28,480 --> 00:09:30,000 [uplifting music playing] 192 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:31,960 -Nice. -[Thabi] Yeah. 193 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:34,000 So I'm really excited to talk to every single woman 194 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:36,640 just to reinforce my belief that we need to be a couple 195 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:38,480 that knows how to communicate better. 196 00:09:38,560 --> 00:09:40,800 That is what I really want at the end. 197 00:09:43,160 --> 00:09:44,800 ["Through My Hands" by Ethan Dufault plays] 198 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:47,080 ♪ I just can't get over you ♪ 199 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:51,880 ♪ How do I keep you from Slipping through my hands? ♪ 200 00:09:51,960 --> 00:09:55,880 ♪ I don't think you want it As bad as you know I do ♪ 201 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:57,280 This is so nice. 202 00:09:57,360 --> 00:10:00,360 ♪ How do I keep you from Slipping through my hands? ♪ 203 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:01,320 [song ends] 204 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:02,920 How are you feeling? 205 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:03,920 Mm, I'm not ready. 206 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:06,280 -I was ready… -Uh-huh. 207 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:09,200 …and then I saw those ladies, man. 208 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:11,360 If you don't want me to be with somebody else, 209 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:12,880 let's walk out of here then. 210 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:15,520 -[both laugh] -Okay, let's go. Let's go now. 211 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:16,600 [upbeat music plays] 212 00:10:16,680 --> 00:10:19,080 I've been dating Isaac for two years now. 213 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:23,040 What's working in this relationship is the fact that I love him. 214 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:24,840 I love the fact that what I have with you 215 00:10:24,920 --> 00:10:27,720 feels quite different from what I've had previously. 216 00:10:27,800 --> 00:10:31,200 And I love you for your gentleness mostly. 217 00:10:31,280 --> 00:10:33,000 For your softness. 218 00:10:33,560 --> 00:10:38,600 When we're together, we can talk, and that really attracts me more to her. 219 00:10:38,680 --> 00:10:41,200 And just the person you are. 220 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:42,160 [gentle music plays] 221 00:10:42,240 --> 00:10:46,120 I am actually giving Isaac the ultimatum, because I can't come where you stay, 222 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:49,000 I don't know who you stay with, I can't meet your family members, 223 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:51,880 and I can't call you, I must only text. So it's a problem. 224 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:53,040 [music fades] 225 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:56,960 If the questions that I have are not answered by you, 226 00:10:57,040 --> 00:10:59,120 I think I'm ready to start afresh. 227 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:03,000 I feel it's unfair to put me in that spot because what if I don't? 228 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:05,760 But then do you think it's fair for you to put me in a position 229 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:09,680 where I'm not sure about us, where I feel like I'm being hidden? 230 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:12,200 In a position where sometimes I feel like I should ask myself 231 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:14,960 whether you're married or not, whether you stay with someone else. 232 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:18,000 [Isaac] In my culture, we can't bring a woman home 233 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:19,440 without her being our wife. 234 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:22,400 And the most part of our relationship has been long-distance, 235 00:11:23,200 --> 00:11:24,400 but if I have to break it down, 236 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:26,480 the amount of time that we actually spent together, 237 00:11:26,560 --> 00:11:28,560 I can put it back to eight months. 238 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:33,440 That's still a short period of time to get to know somebody that well, 239 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:36,720 and you have that feeling to get married to them. 240 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:37,640 I want clarity. 241 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:42,120 If there's something shady with you, I'm ready for us to break up. 242 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:44,480 Have you ever had those moments where you doubt me? 243 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,160 -All the time. [chuckles] -[in Sotho] Oh, wow. 244 00:11:47,680 --> 00:11:50,040 [in English] You know, one thing that you don't do? 245 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:53,320 Be like, "Hey, baby. How's your day going? How's work today?" 246 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:54,680 [suspenseful music plays] 247 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:55,840 You don't do that. 248 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:57,880 Now, going through this process, 249 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:00,760 I'll have somebody that I can spend time with. 250 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:04,040 If they ask me these questions, where do you think that will put me? 251 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:05,880 [music fades] 252 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:07,600 Okay, you're making me feel bad. 253 00:12:08,360 --> 00:12:10,560 Okay, I know it's bad that I… 254 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,920 I want something that I don't give, 255 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:17,600 but I just wish that you at least communicated it. 256 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:21,760 Um, I'm sorry that you feel like I don't care. 257 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:24,280 The way that he's lashing out, 258 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:28,800 it gets me worried I might lose him in this process. 259 00:12:28,880 --> 00:12:30,600 [Isaac] Let's not think of it now. 260 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:35,280 Let's enjoy our last night together. As I said, I love you. To moving forward… 261 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:37,680 So, you don't want to toast? 262 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:40,160 To moving forward, okay? 263 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:42,360 Cool. 264 00:12:43,280 --> 00:12:44,280 [Ruth] I feel sad. 265 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:46,080 I feel bad. 266 00:12:46,600 --> 00:12:47,560 I feel ambushed. 267 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:52,320 I feel a lot of things, honestly. It's… 268 00:12:53,480 --> 00:12:54,320 Yeah. 269 00:12:55,840 --> 00:12:57,360 [upbeat music plays] 270 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:02,160 [Lebo] And how are you feeling? 271 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:04,760 Mixed feelings about this whole thing. 272 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:05,760 Who did you like? 273 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:06,960 [music stops] 274 00:13:07,040 --> 00:13:08,640 [both laugh] 275 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:11,320 Isn't it too early for that? 276 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:12,720 -No, I'm just asking. -But… 277 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:14,720 What scares you the most? 278 00:13:15,920 --> 00:13:19,560 Um, the thought that you might end up with someone else. 279 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:23,760 -Just the thought. -I'm a one-woman man. 280 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:25,600 [mellow, upbeat music plays] 281 00:13:25,680 --> 00:13:26,720 I'm your man. 282 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:32,280 What I love about him 283 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:35,840 is he's very supportive when it comes to anything that I do. 284 00:13:36,400 --> 00:13:38,880 I love actually everything about him. 285 00:13:39,480 --> 00:13:42,040 I love that she's very smart. 286 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:43,960 She has a good heart, man. 287 00:13:45,680 --> 00:13:49,280 My biggest issue is his communication is poor, 288 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:52,160 and also him being a flirt. 289 00:13:52,240 --> 00:13:57,000 He describes it as being friendly. He can't call each random girl "babe". 290 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:04,040 So, what I would really love is for her to stop all her insecurities. 291 00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:08,920 I believe most of them, they stem from her previous relationship. 292 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:11,920 For me to stop being insecure, he needs to change. 293 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:14,440 [music fades] 294 00:14:15,560 --> 00:14:20,080 It's not like I'm planning on leaving here with anyone else. 295 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,560 [in Sotho] I love you. Please hug me. 296 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:26,560 [in English] I don't know if him spending time with another woman is the answer, 297 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:31,480 but I hope when he comes back, uh, he comes back a-- a better communicator. 298 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:33,320 [Nolla] Just promise me. 299 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:35,200 [gentle music playing] 300 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:38,120 I realize why it's important for me to change. 301 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:42,040 I realize I cannot let you go. 302 00:14:45,280 --> 00:14:46,200 [music fades] 303 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:47,840 But you were looking fly today. 304 00:14:48,520 --> 00:14:49,960 -No lie. -[chuckles] 305 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:52,800 Thank you, baby. You look very clean yourself, hey? 306 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:54,560 I look like Michael Jackson. 307 00:14:54,640 --> 00:14:56,520 -Thriller! -Michael… [chuckles] 308 00:14:56,600 --> 00:14:58,520 -Don't do that to me. -[both laughing] 309 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:00,520 [whimsical music playing] 310 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:03,680 -So, who caught your eye? -Guess. 311 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:04,760 Okay, it's Khanyi. 312 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:07,320 -Why are you putting me on the spot? -Ah! I knew it! 313 00:15:07,400 --> 00:15:09,160 [Thabi laughing] 314 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:11,240 -Well, that's a good thing. -So who caught your eye? 315 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:14,000 It's like we're doing a-- 316 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:15,160 -An exchange. -Yes. 317 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:17,440 -So Nkateko caught your eye? -Yes. 318 00:15:18,480 --> 00:15:20,840 -I'm feeling more nervous… -[gentle music plays] 319 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:25,480 …and I'm asking myself how will I be able to adjust 320 00:15:26,120 --> 00:15:27,920 with her not being around. 321 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:31,080 -To a bond that is unbreakable. -Wow, that's a big one. 322 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:33,240 I'm definitely coming out of this with you. 323 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:35,800 Our last night together, 324 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,960 we're going to spend it the best way we know how, 325 00:15:39,040 --> 00:15:43,440 which is to be together, we'll talk, cuddle. 326 00:15:43,520 --> 00:15:47,640 I need to, like, wash my face and put on pajamas and stuff. 327 00:15:47,720 --> 00:15:48,680 I mean-- 328 00:15:48,760 --> 00:15:51,040 -Pajamas on the last night? -What do you mean? 329 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:54,960 I thought you were going to rock up with, you know, a lingerie type of thing. 330 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:55,920 [Thabi] I was. 331 00:15:56,000 --> 00:15:57,520 [Genesis] Mwah. 332 00:15:57,600 --> 00:15:59,600 [mellow, romantic music plays] 333 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:06,480 -♪ There's something about you ♪ -[both giggling] 334 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:08,000 [song ends] 335 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:11,040 ["Show You Love" by Jalen Owusu, Niall Lavelle and Tobias Silvester plays] 336 00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:14,520 ♪ You said that You'll be there to hold me ♪ 337 00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:17,000 We won't see or speak to each other for a month. 338 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:18,400 Does it make you sad? 339 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:20,480 Anxious. 340 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:22,600 -[upbeat music plays] -[cow moos] 341 00:16:24,600 --> 00:16:28,040 -We met in Mossel Bay, swam at the beach… -[clears throat] 342 00:16:28,120 --> 00:16:29,600 …held hands. 343 00:16:29,680 --> 00:16:30,800 -[chuckles] -Mm-mm. 344 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:32,400 -We didn't-- -We didn't-- We held arms. 345 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:34,880 Oh, yeah. You grappled me. 346 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:36,800 -No, I did not. -[chuckles] 347 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:40,280 It was definitely the fact that she loved to have so much fun 348 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:42,080 that I fell in love with initially. 349 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:44,000 [upbeat music plays] 350 00:16:44,080 --> 00:16:45,960 The moment I fell in love with Aiden, 351 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:51,240 I felt like there was no one in this world that I could be my complete self with. 352 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:53,080 The Ultimatum makes me feel 353 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:55,960 a bit stressed out. 354 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:59,280 I don't think I could handle her walking away from me. 355 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,440 I'm giving Aiden the ultimatum, 356 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:06,800 because he is the person that I do want to get married to. 357 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:10,120 [Aiden] There's a lot around marriage that scares me. 358 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:13,440 There are so many people that have been together for decades, 359 00:17:13,520 --> 00:17:16,040 and still end up getting divorced. 360 00:17:16,120 --> 00:17:19,040 It's just so much more of a painful procedure 361 00:17:19,120 --> 00:17:21,080 than if it's just a break-up. 362 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:24,920 I think seeing you with other people is definitely going to hurt. 363 00:17:26,360 --> 00:17:30,120 But at the same time, I'm also going to be going through the same experience. 364 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:31,360 [Aiden] Mm. 365 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:34,000 Hopefully, we'll both get something valuable out of it. 366 00:17:34,080 --> 00:17:36,320 Mm. I hope so. 367 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:39,600 -You're going to walk out of here, then… -That's it. 368 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:41,080 [Aiden chuckles dryly] 369 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:42,000 That's it. 370 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:44,320 [gentle music playing] 371 00:17:44,400 --> 00:17:45,880 [Aiden] She's putting the hammer down, 372 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:50,000 so I suppose I just-- I gotta push myself to make a decision. 373 00:17:50,080 --> 00:17:53,080 Well, you either want to see me walking down the aisle or walking away. 374 00:17:54,320 --> 00:17:55,240 I love you. 375 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:57,560 I hope you never forget that. 376 00:17:58,200 --> 00:17:59,080 I won't. 377 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:04,200 [music fades] 378 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:06,000 [Genesis] Last night was amazing. 379 00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:08,720 At least we were able to go out with a bang. 380 00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:12,600 I cannot look back. It is tense. 381 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:15,040 Emotions are high. 382 00:18:15,120 --> 00:18:16,680 [Genesis] So, you're actually leaving? 383 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:19,000 Yeah, but you know the reason why we're here, 384 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:22,280 and finances are just also just a thing, benchmark that you are-- 385 00:18:22,360 --> 00:18:25,000 Like, we can't shy away from the fact that we're Africans, 386 00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:27,920 and there are certain traditions and certain manners 387 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:31,680 you're supposed to follow in order for you to be able to get a wife. 388 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:33,200 It's not like you can't afford that. 389 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:35,560 Because you are putting pressure on yourself, 390 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:37,960 and you think you need to have a certain amount. 391 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:39,800 That's why it's delaying. 392 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:44,560 I'm questioning whether this is the right decision to make. 393 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:47,600 -So, these are the goodbyes? -Yeah, bro. 394 00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:49,280 [melancholy music playing] 395 00:18:49,360 --> 00:18:51,640 I'm thinking, maybe I shouldn't have done this. 396 00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:55,960 Maybe I was wrong. Maybe I should've, you know, done things different. 397 00:18:56,960 --> 00:18:57,880 Bye, baby. 398 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:01,600 It's not goodbye, actually. It's, "See you later." 399 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:03,520 [sentimental piano music plays] 400 00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:10,720 I'm going to be on your case about feelings. 401 00:19:10,800 --> 00:19:13,680 I'm feeling, I don't know, a lot of things. 402 00:19:13,760 --> 00:19:15,880 -Yeah? -Yeah, a little sad, though. 403 00:19:15,960 --> 00:19:17,040 Why are you sad? 404 00:19:18,680 --> 00:19:21,240 -[chuckles] -You know why. Baby, you're leaving. 405 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:23,760 I'm leaving. Not for good, hopefully. 406 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:25,840 [dramatic, sentimental music playing] 407 00:19:27,280 --> 00:19:28,760 We used to be neighbors. 408 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:30,960 I introduced myself to her. 409 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:32,200 [Siza] We got very close. 410 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:35,200 And he asked me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes. 411 00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:37,920 I love that he loves me. He's very vocal about it. 412 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:42,000 He's also put a lot of actions to show me that he loves me, 413 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:44,880 and that makes me love him even more. 414 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:46,120 I love you. 415 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:47,120 -Aw. -[giggles] 416 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:53,120 When we were friends, I used to be able to confide in him 417 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:55,320 with-- about everything and anything. 418 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:58,280 Yeah, I lost my friend. 419 00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:02,240 [music fades] 420 00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:05,680 We've been in a relationship for five to six months now. 421 00:20:05,760 --> 00:20:08,280 When he mentioned that he wanted to get married, 422 00:20:08,360 --> 00:20:09,560 we were three months in. 423 00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:13,640 [Lindile] I'm giving Sizakele the ultimatum because 424 00:20:13,720 --> 00:20:16,520 I feel like I'm in the age where I only need people 425 00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:19,080 who I want to grow with in my life right now. 426 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:22,840 I hope this ultimatum is going to give me the answer I want. 427 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:28,040 It's just, I'm feeling my heart is really heavy. 428 00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,640 I-- I didn't think I'd feel like this. 429 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:34,640 ["Keeping Score" by St. Evan plays] 430 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:38,560 [Nkateko] I'm just going to need you to tell me what I want to hear, 431 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:39,960 because that's what I need. 432 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:42,760 -What do you mean? -That you love me and trust me. 433 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:44,240 I do love you, 434 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,840 but I told you about the trust already. Like, we need to work on it. 435 00:20:47,920 --> 00:20:49,720 Yeah, but I'm going to leave now. 436 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:54,040 So, I don't know if you want me to leave, knowing that this is our departing. 437 00:20:54,120 --> 00:20:58,240 I think I just want confirmation that, regardless of what will happen, 438 00:20:58,320 --> 00:20:59,600 I love you. 439 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:01,360 ♪ I see it as a warning ♪ 440 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:04,240 ♪ I feel it in the morning ♪ 441 00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:07,360 I feel like the clock is ticking, 442 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,800 and that's what's actually making me more and more afraid. 443 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:15,040 My mind's gonna keep wondering what's happening when I'm not around. 444 00:21:15,720 --> 00:21:17,560 I know she's probably thinking the same thing. 445 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:23,520 ♪ I'm tired of figuring out ♪ 446 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,400 ♪ I know how it feels Walking out the door ♪ 447 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,200 ♪ Baby, it's fine ♪ 448 00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:31,600 [Thabi] My life is mostly him, you know. 449 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:35,000 If he decides that he's going to leave here 450 00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:36,000 with someone else, 451 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:41,040 I think a-- a big part of me will be broken. 452 00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:44,880 ["It's Just Beginning" by The Breakwaves plays] 453 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:48,280 ♪ The sun is rising Rising up ♪ 454 00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:51,800 ♪ It's just beginning ♪ 455 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:55,520 ♪ A brand-new day ♪ 456 00:21:55,600 --> 00:21:57,480 [Howza] The couples have all split up, 457 00:21:57,560 --> 00:22:00,800 now becoming eligible singles for the rest of the week. 458 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:05,200 [Salamina] They are making their way here now to meet up again 459 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:06,680 and start the process. 460 00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:11,560 [Aiden] I'm feeling excited for the day. It feels good to be a single man. Freedom. 461 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:16,040 [intriguing music plays] 462 00:22:16,120 --> 00:22:19,240 [Siza] I see Lindile walking my direction. 463 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:24,520 He sits next to me, and I can just feel my heart pounding. 464 00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:31,280 [Khanya] I'm finally getting to know the other guys. 465 00:22:31,360 --> 00:22:35,080 I'm hoping that we give each other enough space to reflect, 466 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:36,640 to learn from the other people, 467 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:39,040 and also learn from those people's problems as well. 468 00:22:39,120 --> 00:22:42,560 I'm just feeling confident in going through this. 469 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:44,040 [exciting music playing] 470 00:22:44,120 --> 00:22:47,800 [Ruth] Isaac sits next to me. He's not even greeting me. 471 00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:48,880 I'm like, "Dude." 472 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,760 [Thabi] At this point, it became real. 473 00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:55,640 Hello, everyone. 474 00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:57,920 You are all looking lovely, 475 00:22:58,000 --> 00:23:01,800 and you look like you're ready to get things started. 476 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:03,120 [Isaac] Mm. 477 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,080 -[gentle music playing] -Thabi, take me through your emotions. 478 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:07,720 Was it a tough goodbye? 479 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:11,880 I felt a great sense of regret at some point. 480 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:18,640 And it was just very emotionally draining having to think that he's actually my ex. 481 00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:20,480 It wasn't easy. 482 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,200 Before making the big commitment of marriage, 483 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:27,560 take the time to ask burning questions. 484 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,320 And stay open to the possibility 485 00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:33,960 that you may just end up in love with more than one person. 486 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:38,160 Just remember, when the ultimatum comes to term, 487 00:23:38,240 --> 00:23:42,320 you will have to choose to marry the person you arrived here with, 488 00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:44,280 or move on alone, 489 00:23:44,920 --> 00:23:46,840 or with someone new. 490 00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:48,080 [music fades] 491 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:53,200 Let's start with the first step, and for you, that's speed dating. 492 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:58,800 Excited and nervous, and just kind of facing the unknown. 493 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:01,960 Howza and I will see you at the end of the week. 494 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:05,840 [Ruth] Knowing that he's about to date five other girls, 495 00:24:06,360 --> 00:24:08,280 it gets me worried. 496 00:24:08,360 --> 00:24:10,320 [gentle music playing] 497 00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:14,720 I'm feeling all types of emotions because I don't know what to expect. 498 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:16,240 [exciting hip hop music plays] 499 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,240 Oh my God. Yeah. 500 00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:24,760 -Hi. -Hi. How are you? 501 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:25,760 -I'm good. You? -Good. 502 00:24:26,400 --> 00:24:27,240 Hi. How are you? 503 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:28,840 -Well, and you? -Good, good. 504 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,120 -So, what I'm looking for is… -Hey. 505 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,960 …good conversations. Let's get to know each other. 506 00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:35,080 Nkateko. 507 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:36,640 -Mathabo. -Mathabo? 508 00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:38,840 -Yes. Short for Thabi. -Nice to meet you. 509 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:41,320 He's looking stunning. [chuckles] 510 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,800 Yeah, okay. And tell me about yourself. Where you're from and… 511 00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:48,000 So, I'm from Limpopo. Dad, Tsonga. Mom, Venda. 512 00:24:48,080 --> 00:24:50,040 I can speak a bit of Tsonga. 513 00:24:50,120 --> 00:24:52,480 Why, are you into Tsonga men? That's why. 514 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:54,320 -[giggling] No! -Come on. 515 00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:57,400 Well, my current person is Tswana, so… 516 00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:03,320 Anyway. So, tell me, what is your take of marriage and family? 517 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:05,560 There's no point in time where you know you'll be ready, 518 00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:09,400 but you need to get yourself to that place where you feel like you're ready. 519 00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,680 I feel like Thabi is inquisitive. 520 00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,880 And I think that's also very beautiful. She's easy to get along with. 521 00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,360 It was really nice speaking to you, Nkateko. 522 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:18,400 It was nice meeting you. 523 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:21,280 It was definitely a good connection at first sight. 524 00:25:21,360 --> 00:25:22,800 -Bye! -Bye-bye. 525 00:25:25,040 --> 00:25:28,160 -I'm guessing you gave the ultimatum? -Yes. [chuckles] 526 00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:29,520 Why did you give the ultimatum? 527 00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,760 I've been in other relationships and I wasted three years of my time-- 528 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,120 Same here. Same here. 529 00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:38,560 So, I wouldn't want to go through that route again, so that's… 530 00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:42,320 Lebo knows exactly what she wants, and that's what I want also. 531 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:43,360 What do you do? 532 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,600 -I'm an entrepreneur. -Oh, nice. 533 00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:47,880 -What do you do for a living? -I'm an entrepreneur. 534 00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,200 -So, what do you do? -I'm an entrepreneur. 535 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,960 An entrepreneur? Okay. So you're a workaholic? 536 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:54,480 No, I'm not. 537 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:59,680 I've never been on a speed date before, so I feel like it's a bit exhausting. 538 00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:01,720 -It is. -So just bear with me. 539 00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:03,080 That's okay. 540 00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:05,440 I feel like I'm just irritating her. 541 00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,800 Entrepreneur is important because you never know what the person is doing. 542 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,360 Until you ask and they'll let you know, but you haven't asked. 543 00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:13,480 What do you do? 544 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:16,160 I'm an interior decorator, and I do other things as well. 545 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:17,640 What are your red flags? 546 00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,320 Lies, and more lies. 547 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:22,120 -I can't stand lies and liars. -Is it? 548 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:26,800 -Yeah. Do you like being challenged? -Yeah, because I'm a winner. 549 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:27,840 [Khanya chuckles] 550 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:31,920 So, the guys that I met are like six and sevens out of ten 551 00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:33,440 in terms of conversation. 552 00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:35,800 -How old are you? -I'm 33. 553 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:37,040 Thirt-- Oh, wow. 554 00:26:37,120 --> 00:26:39,480 -How old are you? -I'm 33. 555 00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:41,920 -Really? -Mm-hmm. Okay, in December I'll be 34. 556 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:43,360 When in December? 557 00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:44,880 The 5th of December. 558 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:47,600 Oh, I'm on the 10th of December, the same year as you. 559 00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:49,200 -So we're five days apart. -Ooh, wow. 560 00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:51,120 -That's crazy! -Oh, that's crazy, hey? 561 00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:52,800 The stars are aligning. 562 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,080 [Khanya] I am a bit of a hard nut to crack. 563 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:58,560 As you get beyond that shell, I'm like the mushiest, sweetest person. 564 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:00,120 [slow, romantic music plays] 565 00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:03,920 Ooh, if it isn't Ms. Lovely Ruth. How are you, sweetheart? 566 00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:05,080 I'm good. 567 00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:07,120 You know when you feel this person likes me 568 00:27:07,200 --> 00:27:09,720 from the moment they sit down, and you feel the same way. 569 00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:11,840 If we were to go, where would you take me? 570 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,840 I can see you're an outdoor kind of… 571 00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:16,800 -Yeah. -…loving person. See? 572 00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:18,600 -I'm good, right? -Okay, yeah, you're good. 573 00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:20,200 Huh. 574 00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:22,120 In a woman, this is what I want. 575 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:25,280 You don't have to love me. I have to love you. 576 00:27:25,360 --> 00:27:28,120 If you can just give me respect and honesty, 577 00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:30,400 I'll make you the queen of my heart. 578 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:31,720 Then I respect you, man. 579 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,280 -I want to be the queen! -Thank you. 580 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:37,480 It gives me those falling in love vibes. 581 00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,520 [laughs] 582 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:41,280 -Hey, how you doing? -Good, and you? 583 00:27:41,360 --> 00:27:43,400 I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. I'm good. 584 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:45,200 By the way, I also wear glasses, hey. 585 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:47,000 -Oh, really? -I should've brought them. 586 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:48,680 -Like matching glasses. -Yes. 587 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:49,840 [both chuckle] 588 00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:54,360 I already had a slight attraction to him on the first evening. 589 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:58,320 How do you know that you've found the one, because clearly you're here now? 590 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,000 Because I need to find out if he actually is my true love. 591 00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:03,720 Are there other fish in the sea? You know what I mean? 592 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,480 Yeah, maybe there are. Maybe there are. 593 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:08,720 From my perspective, I feel you have to tick a lot of boxes. 594 00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,360 -What are those boxes for you? -Right, uh… 595 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:12,560 [both laugh] 596 00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,720 The most important thing I like doing when I'm around people is laughing. 597 00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:17,320 If you're not making me laugh-- 598 00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:18,880 -There's something wrong. -Right? 599 00:28:18,960 --> 00:28:20,720 So what Courtney and I have in common 600 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:24,440 is we're both deep thinkers and we love deep conversations. 601 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,280 Commitment. Consistent commitment. 602 00:28:27,360 --> 00:28:30,600 -So, you're looking for stability. -I'm looking for the whole thing. 603 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:31,560 Everything? 604 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:33,680 -[both laugh] -The whole thing. The whole box. 605 00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:35,200 I also love stability. 606 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:38,120 That's just something that I have to have in my life, 607 00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:39,600 otherwise I go crazy. 608 00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:42,800 -[both laugh] -I don't even have to try hard around him. 609 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,560 -Like, he's just really easy to be around. -[mellow music plays] 610 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,040 -Genesis, right? -Yup. 611 00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:49,480 -So how are you? -I'm good. 612 00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:51,360 -What are you looking for? -Personality. 613 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,880 If I'm able to have a deep conversation with someone. 614 00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,880 What do you dislike? 615 00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:59,320 -Confidence is definitely number one. -Dislike? 616 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:00,240 [music stops] 617 00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:01,640 -Oh, sorry! -[chuckles] 618 00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,440 You don't like confidence, so what kind of guy-- 619 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:06,880 -I definitely like confidence. -[both laughing] 620 00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:10,400 -What's the craziest thing you've done? -Walk on top of a bus in motion. 621 00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:12,920 One of those double-decker buses where you stand-- 622 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,800 No, not the one that doesn't have a roof. 623 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:19,240 I find myself laughing and smiling in his company. 624 00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:22,280 -Bungee jumping, is it your kind of thing? -I prefer skydiving. 625 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:24,720 When you bungee jump until the rope pulls you back-- 626 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:28,320 But that rope's going to snap. I've seen way too many horror stories. 627 00:29:28,400 --> 00:29:31,120 All of these feelings make me immediately attracted to him. 628 00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,120 I don't know if it's love or lust at this point, 629 00:29:34,200 --> 00:29:37,080 but I am feeling great. 630 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:41,200 Where are you, like, mentally, emotionally, kids, career? 631 00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:44,640 -[whimsical music plays] -I don't know if I want kids, like, ever. 632 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:45,840 Okay, let me drink to that. 633 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:49,000 As for marriage, I think I would want to get married, 634 00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:52,280 but like when I'm, like, 40-something, 50. 635 00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:54,080 -Oh! -Yeah. 636 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:56,400 -Reason being-- [laughs] -I'll drink to that again. 637 00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:58,240 Sizakele shocked me. 638 00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:01,360 Everything you're saying, believe me, I would expect a dude to say. 639 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:05,080 I was like, "I'm speaking to a guy. This is my homie, the next guy." 640 00:30:05,160 --> 00:30:06,760 -Hi. -How you doing? 641 00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:08,720 -Good. How're you? -I'm good. I'm good. 642 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,920 -So Nkateko comes. -[romantic music plays] 643 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:12,400 He's wearing this red shirt. 644 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:13,760 Red looks good on you. 645 00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:15,280 -Oh, it does, right? Thanks. -Yeah. 646 00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:19,120 Yeah, makes me lose concentration a bit. 647 00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:22,280 How are you doing, like, since everything has started? 648 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:23,280 Oh. 649 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:24,680 That's sweet. [chuckles] 650 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:26,640 [sputtering] 651 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:28,200 [laughs, gasps] 652 00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:30,760 -I hope I've been a blessing to you. -[squeals, giggles] 653 00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:33,320 -You just put me on the spot there. -Right? 654 00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:34,400 [both laugh] 655 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:37,600 I feel like Sizakele is a vibe. She's very fun to be with. 656 00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:40,120 -Where do you originally come from? -Uh, Limpopo. 657 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:41,760 Can you teach me Tsonga? 658 00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:43,840 -I want to learn how to-- [giggles] -I do not mind. 659 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:45,360 -[in Tsonga] I am happy. -I am happy? 660 00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:46,680 Yeah, I am happy. 661 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:47,720 [both laugh] 662 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:49,440 [in English] Okay, I'll get there. 663 00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:51,320 The attraction is really there. 664 00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:54,200 -I don't want to leave. I'm just playing. -[giggles] 665 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:55,840 [Nkateko] I am Mr. Charming. 666 00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:57,440 I was born that way. [chuckles] 667 00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:00,040 -[both laugh] -[Courtney] I've already met great guys. 668 00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:01,960 I'm already feeling so overwhelmed. 669 00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:03,280 Lovely meeting you, though. 670 00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:06,480 That was fun. I'm finally getting to meet the other guys. 671 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:10,560 I'm just looking forward to that. I just want to see who ends up with who. 672 00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,560 ["Good Vibrations" by Robert Lamond and BodaciousThang plays] 673 00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:23,280 [Courtney] We arrive at the roller-rink. 674 00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:26,720 I'm excited because I like Genesis, and Nolla, and Lindile. 675 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:29,320 Okay, these guys are cool. I'll get along with them. 676 00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:34,120 And I am stressing because I've never roller-skated before. 677 00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:40,040 I'm looking forward to having a conversation with Ruth. 678 00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:44,240 At the end of the speed dating, she seemed like a lovely character. 679 00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:45,840 [all chuckling] 680 00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:47,400 This guy is tempting me. Shame. 681 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,920 -[upbeat music plays] -♪ We're gonna celebrate ♪ 682 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,880 -Come, Courtney. -I don't trust you. You're going to fall. 683 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:53,920 [Nolla] Oh! 684 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:55,040 [Nolla chuckling] 685 00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,240 Genesis is looking really confident… 686 00:31:58,840 --> 00:31:59,920 [Genesis] Leave the rail! 687 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,800 …and I'm still holding on to the rails. 688 00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:05,560 Let's go. Let's fly into the future. 689 00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:09,000 -Nolla, you're going to make me fall. -[in Tswana] You won't. I'll balance you. 690 00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:10,960 [in English] I don't want you near me. Please go. 691 00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:14,280 I don't want to be rushed because I know I'm going to fumble. 692 00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:16,920 The experience is nice, but I fell. 693 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:18,640 [whimsical music plays] 694 00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:21,960 Twice. 695 00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:23,320 I'm going to fall! 696 00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:24,720 [laughing] 697 00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:26,800 But Lindile has been helping. Wow. 698 00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,600 [Lindile] Are you all right? 699 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,120 [Courtney and Genesis groan] 700 00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:33,480 You seem very confident. That's cool. 701 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:35,240 You said you like confidence. 702 00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:36,680 -I do. -Mm-hmm. 703 00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:38,920 -So, it was admirable. -Admirable. 704 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:40,960 -["To Love You" by Prong Praison plays] -[giggles] 705 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:44,080 The roller-skating date helped me to realize 706 00:32:44,160 --> 00:32:47,720 that I can enjoy, you know, spending time with other people 707 00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,200 without thinking about Thabi. 708 00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:53,600 I can see Genesis as being a potential. 709 00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:57,680 ♪ Next to you Just let the time pass by ♪ 710 00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:03,640 How are you feeling? 711 00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:05,440 [exhales deeply] 712 00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:06,960 -Ready. -Are you ready? 713 00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:08,320 -Yeah. -Okay, that's nice. 714 00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:09,520 What do you do for a living? 715 00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:10,920 I'm an aspiring actor. 716 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:12,760 -I'm also a sports model. -Oh! 717 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:14,000 -Are you serious? -Yes. 718 00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:15,160 I'm an actress. 719 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:18,280 -You are lying. Okay. -Give me a monologue then. 720 00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:21,040 -[both laugh] -You're putting me on the spot here. 721 00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:24,760 -What do you want me to play for you? -A man that's just lost his daughter. 722 00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:29,040 [tragic string music plays] 723 00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:34,920 [music distorts, stops] 724 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:36,240 [laughs] 725 00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:37,960 -Okay, that's enough. -[both laugh] 726 00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:42,320 From that point, I knew exactly Ruth might be a perfect match for me. 727 00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,800 -["We Stay Up All Night" plays] -♪ We stay up all night ♪ 728 00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:50,560 -♪ And talk until the sun rises ♪ -[indistinct conversation and laughter] 729 00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,280 -How's your experience-- -I'm getting excited. 730 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,160 -[Lindile] Good. -I'm getting excited, yeah. 731 00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:59,400 Do you have your mind… to someone? 732 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:03,200 Maybe there's someone that you feel, "I'm interested in getting to know them." 733 00:34:03,280 --> 00:34:05,920 I don't know everyone yet. 734 00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:08,520 On my side, yes. The energy is there. 735 00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:11,120 -There's sync, it's there. -[all laughing] 736 00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:13,280 [Nolla laughing] So… 737 00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:17,120 I only got to, like, at least connect with two, to be honest. 738 00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:19,400 Yeah, the rest must rest. 739 00:34:20,240 --> 00:34:23,400 It looked like Nolla had his eye on Ruth. 740 00:34:24,200 --> 00:34:27,880 Ruth, she and I, we clicked. The chemistry is there. 741 00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:28,960 Madame. 742 00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,120 [mellow hip hop music playing] 743 00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:33,120 -[Ruth] The exes must remain. -[all laugh] 744 00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:34,400 [Nolla] No exes. 745 00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,480 [Lindile] And it kind of interrupted my intentions. 746 00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:40,280 I would've preferred spending more time with Ruth. 747 00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,960 I'm left with Sizakele, which is something I'm not looking forward to. 748 00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:47,840 There's guys who are in a relationship for seven years, 749 00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:50,600 and it doesn't seem like they actually know their partners. 750 00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:52,560 But, baby, I don't know-- 751 00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:54,960 Can we refrain from calling each other "baby"? 752 00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:56,880 -Okay. -[whispers] If you don't mind. 753 00:34:56,960 --> 00:34:58,920 -Okay, I'll try. It's not easy. -[both chuckle] 754 00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:00,880 You're dating for fun. What's the motive-- 755 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:04,320 I'm dating you because I love you. 756 00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:06,080 Refrain from that, please. 757 00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:08,040 -Refrain from? -Hold your feelings. 758 00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:09,520 I'm talking about my feelings? 759 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:12,480 No, no, no. I was saying telling me how you feel about me. 760 00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:14,120 It's like he doesn't want to know. 761 00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,520 He says he knows how I feel about him, 762 00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,760 so we shouldn't talk about how I feel about him. 763 00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:20,600 -But listen-- -No, it's okay. 764 00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:24,400 I'll just focus on other people and forget about you. 765 00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:26,680 That's why you brought me here, right? 766 00:35:26,760 --> 00:35:28,000 [tense music plays] 767 00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:29,280 It's like you're fight-- 768 00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:32,040 Must I pretend I don't see you? Like you're somebody else? 769 00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:37,200 I want to listen to you. I want you to explain what you're feeling. 770 00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:38,640 It's one of the reasons why-- 771 00:35:38,720 --> 00:35:40,240 -You know what my problem is? -Mm? 772 00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:42,160 You want me to tell you how I'm feeling, 773 00:35:42,240 --> 00:35:45,400 and then when I'm telling you, it just can't be about you. 774 00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:48,160 -So, why are we fighting? -Who says we're fighting? 775 00:35:48,240 --> 00:35:49,600 [chuckles dryly] 776 00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:50,680 Wow. 777 00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:54,960 Okay, no. I am not doing this, but it's fine. 778 00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:58,360 Actually, I'm done with this conversation. 779 00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:00,520 ["Doing the Most" by Robert Lamond plays] 780 00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:05,640 ♪ I don't wanna be here Wasting my time ♪ 781 00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:12,160 -Yes, madame. -[pleasant music plays] 782 00:36:12,240 --> 00:36:14,560 -Yes. -Enjoying yourself so far? 783 00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:15,680 [in Zulu] Yes, and you? 784 00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:17,680 [in English] Yeah, I'm enjoying your company. 785 00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:21,640 Is it? Is that why you called me to come here? 786 00:36:21,720 --> 00:36:22,800 I had to, man. 787 00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:25,760 Ruth… Wow. 788 00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:28,960 One gets free around her. 789 00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:31,600 The conversation just naturally flows. 790 00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:35,360 So, I think our energy are on the same level. 791 00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:36,760 Our energies are here. 792 00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:38,920 Bumper-to-bumper. [laughs] 793 00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:40,240 You are every man's dream. 794 00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:42,120 Am I your dream? 795 00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:47,400 How would you feel being Ms. Ruth Maseko? 796 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,400 -Missus! -Missus. Sorry, sorry, sorry. 797 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:51,920 [Ruth] Nolla holds my hand, 798 00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:53,680 and I'm like… 799 00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:54,840 [in Zulu] Oh, my goodness. 800 00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,560 [in English] Ruth Maseko. Yeah, sounds about right. 801 00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:00,520 This is a good lady, man. 802 00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,040 -[Ruth] Future. -[Nolla] To the future. 803 00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:05,480 He says all the things that I want to hear. 804 00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:09,240 I want to see what's about to happen. I want to see where we're heading. 805 00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:12,880 If something is ending, it must end. If it carries on, it must carry on, man. 806 00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:19,960 -["Feeling You" by Mi Casa plays] -♪ I'm feeling you ♪ 807 00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:23,720 ♪ I'm feeling you I'm feeling you, my baby ♪ 808 00:37:28,240 --> 00:37:31,360 It's mingling week, so I'm looking forward to 809 00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:34,440 seeing what we're going to do and meeting the ladies. 810 00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:39,880 Welcome, guys. 811 00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:42,400 Can I have you guys line up over here for me, please. 812 00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:44,920 -We're going to do salsa dancing today. -[Nkateko] Okay. 813 00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:46,000 [teacher] Yeah! 814 00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:47,120 I can't dance. 815 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:48,720 Leaders, start with our left foot. 816 00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:52,800 We're going to step on the spot. We're going to go one, two, three. 817 00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:53,920 I feel a bit stiff. 818 00:37:54,000 --> 00:37:55,000 We've gotta work it. 819 00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,320 -[salsa music playing] -Oh, look at you! 820 00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:59,200 Hey! [chuckles] 821 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:02,000 All right, are we ready to try with a partner? 822 00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:06,040 Step, step, together. Now go out to the side. Close your feet. 823 00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,520 Nkateko is a cool guy. 824 00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:11,160 He made it easy for me to just move around. 825 00:38:11,240 --> 00:38:12,880 So the guys are going to dip us. 826 00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:14,200 So let's swap partners. 827 00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:16,080 -Right, are we ready? -[Ruth] Yes. 828 00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,920 And we're going to go-- But he's the boss. 829 00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:19,920 Yes! 830 00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:23,640 Nkateko, yeah, it was really nice dancing with him. 831 00:38:23,720 --> 00:38:25,000 He's a vibe. 832 00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:27,840 The only thing I kept wondering was would Khanya be okay with me 833 00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:30,240 being in the presence of other women? 834 00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:33,600 Me and Thabi would actually hold hands and start dancing. 835 00:38:34,240 --> 00:38:36,320 Which also contributed to a lot of chemistry. 836 00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,080 [teacher] Look up. Don't look at the floor all the time. 837 00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:43,280 Look into your partner's eyes. 838 00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:46,160 Basic. Ready for the twirl. 839 00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:49,720 Seeing another man dance with her, it's very nerve-wrecking. 840 00:38:49,800 --> 00:38:51,600 -[woman] Whee! -[laughing] 841 00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:53,680 [Khanya] Are you saying I'm stiff, man? 842 00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:55,760 Dancing with Isaac was so much fun. 843 00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:57,520 It was also that anticipation 844 00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:00,560 that we were both, like, wanting to meet one another. 845 00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:03,160 Now remember, each partner reacts differently. 846 00:39:03,240 --> 00:39:05,160 -So you first kind of wait. -[Khanya exclaims] 847 00:39:05,240 --> 00:39:07,160 -[both laughing] -[teacher] Are we good? 848 00:39:07,240 --> 00:39:09,600 My mind wasn't even thinking of Ruth. 849 00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:12,320 -Look at you. -[Khanya laughs] 850 00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:15,600 [chuckling] Okay. No. Then back here, yes. 851 00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:18,600 The dance with my ex, we actually still had that chemistry 852 00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:20,040 like we just met. 853 00:39:20,120 --> 00:39:22,040 I think that's making me miss her a lot. 854 00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:23,400 There we go. 855 00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:24,880 Yes! Yes! Yes! 856 00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:26,560 All right. Did you guys have fun? 857 00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:27,880 -[Thabi] Yes! -[Nkateko] We did. 858 00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:30,280 I had a lovely time. I hope you guys had lots of fun. 859 00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:31,200 [Thabi] We did. 860 00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:34,000 Please keep dancing, and I'll see you guys hopefully soon. 861 00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:35,120 Thank you. 862 00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:39,520 The salsa dancing was sexy. It was spicy. Yeah, it was interesting. 863 00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:41,960 -["Drink It Up" by Paul Smith plays] -♪ Just drink it up ♪ 864 00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:44,680 ♪ Pass me another cup ♪ 865 00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:48,240 How was it seeing, like, your partner speed dating? 866 00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:50,880 [chuckling] He gets along with girls a lot. 867 00:39:50,960 --> 00:39:53,280 -He's a natural flirt, so I'm used to it. -[chuckles] Ah. 868 00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:54,960 [tense music plays] 869 00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:58,040 Not again. Yeah, let me remind you that I don't trust you. 870 00:39:58,120 --> 00:40:00,640 You're a natural flirt. You communicate with your body. 871 00:40:00,720 --> 00:40:02,400 -[Khanya] Okay, it's a contest. -Imagine. 872 00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:03,840 Please, may I speak to you? 873 00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,360 How do you feel? Your girlfriend is walking away. 874 00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:08,320 I wish them all the best, actually. 875 00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:11,200 When you start thinking about what your partner is doing, 876 00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:13,440 how they will connect with the other person, 877 00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:17,960 it always stays at the back of your mind, like, "What's happening?" 878 00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,800 Uh, how do you feel about the-- the whole situation? 879 00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:25,080 I still don't know what to expect. And that's what I wanted to see. 880 00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:27,920 I wanted to see him interact with other women, you know, 881 00:40:28,000 --> 00:40:30,080 -when he thinks I'm not looking. -[laughs] 882 00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:31,560 -But you're looking. -Yeah. 883 00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:34,240 -I can see you're looking. -No, I'm not looking looking. 884 00:40:34,320 --> 00:40:35,440 -[chuckles] -Like, I will see. 885 00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,680 She's an attractive lady. She has good energy. 886 00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:42,400 While we're flirting, her eyes keep looking at her ex-boyfriend. 887 00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,440 -What makes you happy? -Lots of attention. 888 00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:47,040 -Okay. -And affection. 889 00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:50,480 I used to think it was money, and, like, what a guy does for me, 890 00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,400 and then I was like, "No, it's not that." 891 00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:57,440 Isaac is the guy that I enjoy speaking to the most. 892 00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:00,600 In a few days, I will be in my late 20s. 893 00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:03,360 -Yes. -Happy birthday in advance. 894 00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:06,160 But I get the feeling I'll be around on your birthday. 895 00:41:06,240 --> 00:41:07,160 [mock laughs] Maybe. 896 00:41:07,240 --> 00:41:08,760 -Maybe, maybe. -We don't know. 897 00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:12,200 He's right up there in terms of the rankings. 898 00:41:12,280 --> 00:41:13,920 -Pour in the jokes. -[Thabi] Hello. 899 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:15,600 -Hey, girl. -Hello. 900 00:41:15,680 --> 00:41:16,960 Are we interrupting you guys? 901 00:41:17,040 --> 00:41:18,560 -Not at all. -Not really, not really. 902 00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:19,720 [Thabi] Can we join you? 903 00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:20,920 Did you miss us? 904 00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:22,000 -Nope. -No. 905 00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:24,440 [laughing] 906 00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:27,720 [Nkateko] This is actually the first time I see Khanya with other men 907 00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:29,040 and actually getting along. 908 00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:32,560 I'm not going to lie to you. Uh, it's been so hard. 909 00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:35,000 -To self-love. -[Aiden] Yeah, self-love. 910 00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:37,360 -To self-love, yeah. -[Aiden] Cheers to that. 911 00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:38,840 [Isaac and Nkateko] Cheers. 912 00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:40,360 [Thabi laughs] 913 00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,000 -Where are you going? -I need to borrow her for a second. 914 00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:44,720 -Oh! -[dramatic note rising] 915 00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,080 -Are we talking to our exes now? -Only this time. 916 00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:49,120 -Oh, okay. -[gentle music plays] 917 00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:51,440 [Khanya] He pulled me away from a situation 918 00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:53,640 where he felt like there was a connection. 919 00:41:53,720 --> 00:41:55,520 He wants me all to himself. 920 00:41:56,600 --> 00:41:58,520 [Nkateko] I can't deny that I do care about you. 921 00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,960 It got me emotional seeing other men laugh with you. 922 00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:03,760 I feel a bit selfish, 923 00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,680 but I enjoy being the only man making you laugh. 924 00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:10,080 I will always love you, Khanya. 925 00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:13,000 You know, you always know how to say the right things. 926 00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:15,040 -[tense music plays] -You've got gift of gab. 927 00:42:15,120 --> 00:42:16,200 You know how to talk. 928 00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:19,320 Let's just go around, gift-of-gabbing everyone. 929 00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,560 And I'm like the idiot to fall for it. 930 00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:23,840 You're the one that started talking marriage. 931 00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:25,440 You brought it up first. 932 00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:26,640 When, then? 933 00:42:26,720 --> 00:42:30,320 Just give us time to get back into that place. 934 00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,280 I don't have any qualms with that, but I'm not waiting another December. 935 00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:34,960 [chuckles dryly] 936 00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:38,560 We might not really understand how serious this is for the both of us. 937 00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:41,520 I really don't want to lose you, hey? 938 00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:42,800 And it's scaring me. 939 00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:46,120 Can you understand why we had to get to a place where-- 940 00:42:47,400 --> 00:42:50,720 If you're all about just talking, then let me know, then I just move on. 941 00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:54,760 And maybe be with someone who wants exactly what I want. 942 00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:56,040 Show me. 943 00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:58,200 -[chuckles] -It's time to show now. 944 00:42:59,240 --> 00:43:03,040 ["Dangerous Games" by David Thomas Connolly and Gaddiel Francis Nketia plays] 945 00:43:05,240 --> 00:43:10,360 ♪ We're playing dangerous games ♪ 946 00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,040 ♪ Dangerous games ♪ 947 00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:27,520 ♪ Dangerous games ♪ 948 00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:30,680 ♪ Deep down, they just think they are ♪ 949 00:43:31,920 --> 00:43:34,640 ♪ Another little wannabe gangster Trying to play hard ♪ 950 00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:37,280 ♪ Deep down, they just think they are ♪ 951 00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,160 ♪ Another little wannabe gangster Trying to play hard ♪ 952 00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:58,360 ♪ Deep down, deep down, deep down ♪